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Iddah of a Divorcee briefed

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Haitham al-Haddad

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We do now director of diversity, the idea of diversity.

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Diversity is a general term, we said that the marriage can end by one of three ways.

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Or if you like always divorce

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first

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and we explained each of them before.

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Now, let us talk about the idea of divorce, he

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would not talk about the idea of

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color or first and talk about the idea of, because as I said, this is not about the dead. It is about what the idea

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and the idea is talking about. So, we need to understand the idea of the Apollo.

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Apollo, we said it is a period of time a woman should wait before she can marry or re marry.

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And she should observe certain rulings during the period.

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First of all,

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what are the the rulings that she should observe the divorce he should observe?

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Is she allowed to

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leave? First of all, she, as we said she's not allowed to remarry.

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This is the main point.

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Let me stress on this point and explain it again.

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Because, unfortunately, this point

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is not clear. Although those who understand Islam read about Islam, they should understand this point. Clearly. A woman during her age is not allowed to remarry. If she was a divorcee, and it happened that she got married, then her marriage is invalid.

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Yes,

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that woman,

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the divorcee, from the first divorce or the second divorce, she is alive during the period. What does that mean? It means that if she dies, her husband will inherit her. If her husband died, she will inherit him.

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This means that she cannot remarry any other person nor she can receive proposals.

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It is hard on big hard on for her to receive proposals during this period.

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If she is divorced from the if she is

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inherited the period from the first divorce, the second divorce and the third divorce but it is more how long in the first divorce and the second divorce because he during that time she is the wife of her husband.

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Is it clear

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that she is the wife of her husband?

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Okay.

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We received this common question

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that I was divorced from my husband. And after one month of brother proposed Mashallah his good Indian, etc, etc, as they always say.

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And after one year, he is the worst person in the world. No problem. And then I accepted the proposal. I got married to him.

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And we have so many cases she got married to him, she had two children and from him later on, she studied that during the IDA period, she cannot remarry.

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And then she comes and asks, What is the ruling regarding that?

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Okay, so during that period, she is not allowed to remarry at all. Okay. I remember the worst scenario that I heard of,

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in, in this particular issue, a brother and his excuse that he was reverted, although he been Muslim for some time, but only that was his excuse. He asked me the following question.

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He said that he divorced his wife because they agreed that they cannot continue it's not working.

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And then

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he said because I have a child from her. I was looking for a good husband for her. Because the husband will be will look after my child or she will be living with my child with him. So he was looking for a man to marry his ex wife.

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He found the good brother. Mashallah. Okay. Then he acted as the only of his ex wife.

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Not only that, not only that, but he agreed that the new

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husband or the new brother will marry her. And he got married to her after less than a month from the divorce.

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So I said to him, so she got married to him within a month. He said, Yeah.

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But he said that was not the problem. I said, What else? Is that any other bigger problem than this? He said, No, I'm talking to because my heart was broken. And I don't know what to do. I said what he said, because he was living in my house, the brother who proposed to her, came to my house and I was head when he so we have done then he came in my house.

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I said, interesting.

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We have Amitabh saying out of IC, h. h. Raja vantara. java. If you live until the month of Roger, you will see so many amazing things. I said, Okay. He said, after we conducted the marriage, this brother

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took her and set her that you are my wife. This is in my house. So he took permission from me to go to another room to sleep with his new wife.

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And he slept with my ex wife in my house.

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I said very interesting martial law.

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We love but we should cry for these incidents that we see in our community. All of this mighty respected brothers and sisters is because of what

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ignorance.

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We don't study our Deen. And then we put ourselves into so many problems.

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I told you, I don't know whether I told you previously about that sister who her husband took care of during that period, or she slept with the husband during that period. And she became pregnant and then she got married to another man because her husband, her father refused or did not allow her to go back to her husband whom she slept with him.

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So many problems are happening because we don't have enough information about the basics of our Deen. And that's why this gonna sit by who might be

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seeking knowledge might be obligatory if that knowledge is needed to correct your actions.

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So if you are about to divorce or you want to get married, then learn the basics before you put yourself into the problems. Okay. So during that the period, please brothers and sisters pass this information to you know,

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the woman she's not allowed to remarry. And it is not allowed to it is not allowed for her to to receive proposals. And brothers are not allowed to propose to a divorce See, until her death is over.

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Is it clear?

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This is another common problem. very frequent question. Chef, this sister was divorced. And I want to propose to her. Yeah. How can I go for the procedure? I said, She's divorced, how long she's been divorced. I don't know or Yeah, she was divorced last month, or

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as one brother has done.

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And this is a case I dealt with recently and his wife.

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Unfortunately, she was

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she was not Muslim. And she accepted this law.

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And her husband was giving her a hard time.

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She was not Christian.

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But she was from the People of the Book. Okay. She got married to a brother, who gave her a hard time as she said. Then another brother knew about her. And he felt sorry for her and he facilitated the divorce for her.

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And then when they went to an Imam, a brave Imam who dissolved her marriage,

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okay. The brother proposed to her immediately on the spot.

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This is a big Hello.

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If this wife

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okay if it is not the first provided that this vessel is valid, I don't believe that it was a valid first anyway. Okay. But if you propose to divorce woman inherited as if you are proposing to a married woman

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is it clear?

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Yes.

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Is it clear or not? As if you are proposing to any of your friends wives, can you do this?

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This is exactly the same.

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So, that's why we need to understand this ruling.

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It is a ruling that is misunderstood. I always speak about it. The divorce see is what

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is alive.

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And that's why as we said yesterday, last time that she does not have to consent for her husband to take her back. Her consent is not conditional for a valid to do. Her husband can say I have taken you back. He either informs her or informs her what he or do this in front of two should and that's it.

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Yes because she already his wife.

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Clear okay.

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By Allah Allah Allah says de la comunidad de means if you want to divorce them for ohana Lee, that means fear that in divorce them in the beginning of their idea. What does that mean?

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Okay, divorce is? In order to understand that this What does it mean? We need to understand how it works in terms of length

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there that we said that it is a period of time a woman a divorcee should wait. Now, in order to understand that in a very easy way

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a woman can be pregnant.

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Yeah, Milan, or Iran.

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Iran the word the Arabic word for non pregnant woman.

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Clear

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the non pregnant woman can be either too young or too old. In other words, she doesn't see a man says

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so the heart

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can be a woman who sees a man or a woman who does not see her menses

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clear okay.

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Again will not mention so many details but the basics now.

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A lot elevada says what to

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do when I

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have Lavina pregnant woman there is what?

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To give birth to the to give birth.

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Okay. With he gave birth after one hour of the divorce

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or after nine months.

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Is it clear?

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If he gave birth after one hour, the idea is over

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a person divorce his wife

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and then in an hour time she gave birth. The idea is worth

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over. Done. Finish.

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Yeah, they mentioned one of the stories. A woman was pretty