Channel: Haifaa Younis
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when you are and this is the words of your creator in mind, it's not mine is not someone's opinion. When you are greeted, what is a one to one you are greeted with a greeting a set of icons a greeting and what a greeting. salam ala Jana
is the greeting of the people of Jana and there is two orders here.
One is an order the other one is a recommendation for how you will be asked any winner respond it's an order is not my choice.
I say Salaam Alaikum Peace be upon you don't say why they
why they consider salaam Rahmatullah he'll work out.
Don't forget this hour do her minimum is to respond. So there is I don't know maybe we are close to 100 in this room maybe I heard 10 voices don't do that. You will miss the focus. The best thing I heard today may Allah reward you out status. Sosa
which we miss all as woman is the focus.
The focus we are distracted was shattered. We go but right and left. Anyone say something we go stay focused.
And after I've listened to all the speakers, I said to myself what I'm going to say
subhanallah but I need to bring you to reality we lived in since the morning since 11 o'clock we've been living in the past. And I always seen Allah is my witness. I wish I was at that time.
I wonder how these people didn't believe.
Can you imagine
or a Swati saw to sit down in front of you. So you know, how do you say to Fatima, Sita Asha,
what struggles they had.
But we are
as Beloved. They are his companions. You know the Hadith as Harvey. You We are the people who are loved to him, provided we deserve that title. So let's come to reality. We live in 2021 almost at the end.
So how many of you are out of town other than me? And I know. Okay, so some of you are out of town majority or California. So
Sunday. We are in November 2820 21. I'm not living with Sita Fatima. I'm not living with Sita. Khadija I wish I am. No, I'm either a student, and I'm going tomorrow to the college and Allah knows what I'm going to see. without going to the details. Right? The total Amina can share with you what she sees every day at Stanford. Or if you are like me and Dr. Aranya. Tomorrow, we're going to work and we're going to reality.
Or if you're going to home, you're going to reality with your children and all the struggles of raising children in this day and age. Am I correct? So what do we do?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
He put me here. He did he chose and he is who?
Capital H he chose me or he chose for me to be in 2021 He could have easily made me with a Roswaal Yeah, salatu salam and breeze.
Even the difficulties are breeze because he's going through with it his Serato sir, but that's not his choice. And everything Allah choose. This is the first thing if you can write anything, as a woman should be every human being specifically woman. Anything Allah chose for me is the best. There's no other answer. I like it. I don't like it. It's hard. It's difficult. It's May Allah forgive me for this word that we all say it's unfair. Why me is hired.
Then next question is going to come? What does he expect from me as a woman? That's why the title
the Muslim woman
are you and I'm asking everybody, are you?
I need an answer.
I want an answer clear.
Are you the Muslim? Are you a Muslim woman? Absolutely.
Now the next question, are you with the Muslim woman?
He wants you to be
the like of Fatima of 20. May Allah be pleased with her of 2021
the likes of Sita Hodeidah of 2021,
the likes of Sita. Asya 2021.
And like the cedar Meriam of 2021, yes or no?
I didn't hear an answer.
Your hour all right? We are not.
Have you ever asked yourself? Why? What is the difference?
You need to ask yourself that's how we change. Unless we know reality, we will never change. I can claim whatever I want to claim. But he knows my reality and he knows your reality. Why I am not an owl, the speakers may Allah bless them all eloquently explained to you. They did not live easy life. They had all the challenges we have. What is the difference?
Can anyone see any word? What is the difference?
And what is Allah says in the Quran about this Carlu shahada, Tina,
who can finish it? Hi, I'm Maria.
armoire, Luna Luna
they say we are busy with our children and with our wealth homes carry year how much we have in the bank account. She has bigger home I need to do the same. She just bought this. The purse competition I call it so sad but it's reality.
First competition shoes competition, home competition, children competition. Were busy with this. They had all this
but they did not allow what to move them away from Allah. Marie focus exactly the word that she hustles and just said I keep reminding myself every morning number one who are you? And I'm going to give you one by one.
Number one, I and U N every creation of Allah from a Jinhwan ins
on this earth. We are here for one reason.
And what is that reason?
Why Omaha Dr. Jim now will insert Ilaria boom I did not create ins engine Allah said this and swore to daddy yet. But to worship you worship Me is a loose translation to very loose translation. Because when I tell you what is a bother what is worship? What are you going to tell me?
What are you going to tell me?
Fast praying, go to hide humbler I work a job what's wrong with me? That's not it. That's superficial.
And you're a bad act of worship. Everything this is all Mr. Scholars have defined it differently. The one I'm going to share with you is the definition of Imam Ibn to me it's very practical. Allah Vietnam you don't have to be scholar to be Abdullah Allah. In fact, most of the reliable the follow majority were not scholars can have a hard if you know, Biller, they don't want more.
And a burden act of worship. Everything. Everything Allah loves, loves. And like I'm sorry, he loves and he's pleased with your hip boy elbow, he loves and he's pleased with look at this internally
So I'm not with people something and when I am doing I'm something else, internally and externally, from words and action.
Words and action one more time, everything Allah loves and pleased.
internally, externally, saying an actions then you are the servant of Allah, then I am the Altima of 2021 and I am the Hodeida of 2021 May Allah be pleased with them. And to see to us here and to see the Maria if I follow this,
if I follow this from the moment I opened my eyes to the moment I close my eyes to the last breath he is going to give me if I live with these six
than that I am, who he wants me to be, where ever he will put me as a mother, or a mother less as a child, or a child us as a professional, or taking home or staying home as a student or not, it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter. This is who you are, or who he wants you to be.
Are you that's the question you have to ask yourself every moment since morning we are here where you are about mA.
sha Allah Yes Your be me. But have I shown him enough said and did an ark and prayed in every way he loves and please and pleased with
how many times let me ask you this question. When you want to do something, the question inside you what people will say about
well, this person will be happy. Well that person will not be true or false.
True or False? How many times you ask this question. Are you happy with me?
Are you happy with the way I am? With the way I dress with the way I speak with the way I respond? Do we ask ourselves this?
honestly do we?
You want to be the Abdullah? You want to be a Seder Fatima 2021 Work on your relationship with Allah spawn Tada. That's number one. And let me take you through what he said about the Muslim woman in the Quran.
Do you know that?
Do you know Allah described us in the Quran?
Not by name. But what does he wants from me? Yes or no?
Absolutely. Unfortunately, we read the Quran. Ramadan is coming.
And some of us have memorized some of us understand. Tweed is the practice
number one you look at yourself as a woman. You are two parts.
You are external. The way I look the way you look. And there is internal only he knows. Let's take the external first. I leave the best for the last.
What does he want me to look like? Not the way He created me. I have no choice in this. How does he want me to look like what did he told me?
Colin more minutes Natty. Yeah Hello, number 41 We have no follow John. What are you Dina Xena tahan Lama Baja Amina and then he goes on what are you Dina's unit net? Illa libo hola tiene our Abba. God resorted to know
the light and he sang force he said it to the man this is one of the times where Allah spawn Tada separated the order one for men, one for a woman and came to the woman say to the believing woman, you when we
do what? External?
I'm going to tell you what he wants from me. You say to yourself, check it, I do it. I don't. And if you don't do it, say why. Number one, lower your gaze.
How many of you will not worthy of their gaze when they are talking to the opposite gender? Muslim or non Muslim? Don't show me hands. It's not about you. It's in general.
Whether with Muslims or non Muslims, lower your gaze. Lower your gaze. That's who he wants me. That's what he wants me to do. That's what he's pleased with me. Then I am Abdolfattah. Then I am say to falter at work. And I am say to faultline college what do you think SUTA Fatima when she was talking to say that
what you say now Omar
will say no more hand should be joking.
And you know how we speak these days?
Lower your gaze that's the first thing he said. Number two please forgive me. I don't mean anybody here. What do you wear?
What do you wear?
What is this focus on beauty external? And no focus on beauty internal.
And he said it will your Libnah be homely Nanoedge you will be in the eye that's everybody wanted, translate and explain the way they want to tell me hey job, and I don't want to use the word hijab. I'm going to use proper Islamic attire is not an obligation. Let them say whatever they want to say. Let's meet on the Sirat and let's answer Allah.
Don't show your beauty period.
And always women when they asked me this I'm sure all of you have heard this question. Can I put what about the Muslim nail polish? You all hear this question. I don't go through that. I say one thing he said don't show your beauty. What does nail polish does? What is makeup does? And then you answer
your beauty ladies. And that's the hardest thing for the woman. One of the hardest things of the woman
when you want it in front of that mirror, remember you're a servant of Allah.
This remember this and say this to Him. Is this is how you want me to go out. Is this is pleasing you
is this is Does this makes you happy? If you hear the answer, yes, go out.
If you start justifying it,
then you're not seed of automotive Stein, or seed Asia or cedar Asya or cedar Hadid that way you we look
I have no idea why pleasing people and pleasing ourselves is more important than Allah.
It's It's astonishing fact to me. Everybody else is doing it. That's how I hear it. Young and old.
Everyone is doing it and I say what about Allah?
No answer. The way you look.
The way you look. What do you hear? What do you listen to? What do you listen to?
These days with social media and tick tock and everything else? The poison around us?
When you turn it on, again, ask yourself this question. Is this is pleasing to Allah?
Is this is something he wants me to do? While I lead in it level? And I said his name? Each one of us internally knows the answer.
But you justify
you know, he's not happy with what you are hearing.
What you are listening to. Regardless,
What do you say?
Tongue mama, the Rockem tongue.
What did he say? That koletzko mukaiyama has this famous Hadith about speech?
So you'd know why. These Sahabi the companion who are Swati salatu salam said yeah, why didn't your ebook while they love you imagine Who's that? May Allah be pleased with imagine that for Roswall a slap to look at you or me and says yeah, I fight in your head bookie Allah I'll be dead right on your up, be me, but doesn't come from vain. Do you see my point? It doesn't come because I am who I am or you aren't who you are. Have to earn it
and say no one. And he said yada swallow? Are we going to be taken accountable about what we say?
And he asked a very simple
question that cannot come okay. I'm glad he answered me. Your mother mourn you, meaning you will be died and your mother will mourn you. What else will put people into narration on their faces or on their noses in the Hellfire but
the harvest of their tongue? What do we say a woman
and I specifically say here woman because we are more
in that aspect.
Her Masen mashallah, her massive mass and Misha in being me. We don't like her. We don't say anything. But our face say a lot. In masajid.
I'm not saying outside, in Masjid. She comes in and everybody looks at her.
And maybe this is the first time she ever comes to a masjid. And we start judging and looking at each other. And then start talking.
Watch your tongue ladies. Watch your tongue. So you'd never buckle holidays don't say never become
who I am and you he held his tongue and say no more saw him.
And he said what is this? He said harder ordered any mo added. This
took me through the path meaning the wrong path. GL it as one of the scholars said the thing that needs long jail is my tongue.
You are a Muslim woman and to Hebda amatola You are the servant of Allah. Nothing comes out of this. But what pleases Allah
Sometimes I say this to myself. I wish I could have selfie 24/7
Because there is selfie by the way
rocky buena Hadid they are taking selfies of everything we do and say and not do I not say. And just let me hear and listen to what I say.
to what I say. Yeah, hi Rafi, Catherine Mina. Diwan Allah said this assaulter Lisa, there's no good in what in most of what they say, listen to this. Most of what they say has no goodness. Now
Illa three. Amara, we saw that.
You say something to promote charity, any charity? Not necessarily money illumine our OB sada Kotin Omar roof, goodness, our sliding been a NAS or you bring people together fructify relationship, see what we say? Someone comes to you and said, she did this to me.
Most of us do what?
Most of us do what how many of us will respond and say, maybe she didn't mean it? Maybe you misunderstood it? Maybe it came the wrong way?
What do we say? Reading? And what did you answer? If I was you, I will not talk to her anymore.
Don't do that.
Your tongue, your tongue, your tongue, the way you look.
The way you look externally. And the way you look. Use your eyes, the way you use your ears and the way you use your tongue.
The way you conduct yourself, please forgive me. We live in a society I'm a working woman. And I know how difficult it is to practice what I am saying. But Allah Allah, Allahu the only one who can help you is him. And you can do it.
Absolutely, you can do it. If you focus on it, and you want to please Him, and you turn to him every morning. Make me do what pleases you. Make me say what pleases you? And don't let me go to myself not clear enough Scioto Fatah. Don't let me alone with me. With me.
How do we conduct ourselves with each other. And with the other gender, Masjid, outside masjid, higher, you know this word
bashfulness humbleness, the way you speak the way you walk.
Allah said it added in social costs. And it's about a woman for a touchdown home attempts yada, stay here.
And there is a reading they say Alice to hear him call it when she speaks. And this is in sort of puzzles. The stories went on last pantalla mentioned Satana Musa, just before he married one of the daughter of say initial hype, she came to him.
Woman, you have an opinion? Say it. You're right. Don't be don't be shy. But be shy in the way you say it. She came to him this is a woman this is a daughter of a prophet. She came to him saying the Musa and she said, Come on in. My father
is inviting you to thank you for what you did for us. But how did she say it is to hear
less of this go back to your aura. She talked to him with humbleness with bashfulness lowering her gaze. She was not shouting. She was not walking in them as you do. Hi, how are you? How is everybody? And everyone has to hear what I am saying. That's not the Muslim woman.
The Muslim woman you know how I describe her? Very strong.
very pious is the combination of the four you heard this morning. From each one.
Lower your gaze the rest properly, walk and talk with higher don't worry about what other people I work in my work. You know what I say? LaMalfa Pomi phenom nyalam Your ALLAH forgive these people. They just don't know.
That's what the Roswaal he saw to Sam used to see when he walks between his people and they don't believe they just don't know. And part of it is my fault. Because I'm not showing it. I'm not practicing it. Don't be like everybody else be who you are.
In fact, who Allah wants you to be, who Allah wants you to be. And the last but not least, who are you internally?
Will you be described as a Seder Maria?
How was she described in the Quran? There's no other description. Subhan Allah
well let us know not Florida, or Canada national quality, the one who protected and guarded her private part. And she was of those of us on a team. A Carnot is the person who is in a complete submission to Allah. Complete, not wishy washy, complete, and always in a state of worship of Allah connection, and submission. That's to say de Maria.
That's who she was. Are you when you're driving your car? I'm not saying when you are in the masjid, or in Ramadan, I'm saying 24/7 You're driving your car going to work, dropping your children? Are you Anita?
Can you be?
Have you ever thought of this? Of course you can. The way you speak if you are alone, do you contemplate on specially living in this beautiful state? When you're driving, you contemplate on the things around you or look at the beauty of Allah, your carnita versus traffic? While I'm talking to my friend and Allah knows what I am saying, then you missed it.
Then you missed it, spiritually, spiritually, is what we need internally. This connection of Allah friend of mine just asked me the other day, and she said how can I always remember Allah? I said he's around you.
He's around you. 24/7 we are distracted is the look at this. Look at this. Look at this. What did Allah say about this in the Quran?
Anybody can answer?
What did he say about that?
Anyone say it
don't be don't be scared say it.
But what did he say specifically about the drinking water? I gave you a hint.
Or a Tamil ma Allah DITA shabu
and to answer to Mohammed and Muslim, mon zero. Do you see the water that you drink? How many bottles of water you see a day? How many times you drink water a day? Do you think of this verse? Saltwater? Most of you know it? Do you see the water that you drink? And to answer to move on and miss? Allah is asking a rhetorical question, no answer. Did you send it down?
That's what he said. I'm not no more as you know, or we hems of Hana. And then he gives you a statement that by itself is enough. Lona shall have we will we have made it with Jada bitter fellow law school. While you are not grateful?
If you live this way, in your life case, you wonder how do I get there?
How do I become that woman? We are all talking about since morning, in every part of your life, in every minute in your life, conducted with Allah.
In every minute in your life connected with Allah, you're eating, you're cooking, you're shopping, you're driving, you're tired, you're exhausted, you're stressed out. Everything is not going well in your day.
What do you need to do? Be that kanita be that Seder. Maria, go to your room alone, in your scheduled cry to him
and say I can't take it anymore. You're the one who's going to make it easy. Then you want to see the Maria in that moment.
And the last thing I'm going to end up with this because I want time for questions and answers. And unless pantalla said this as Shaha Sosin said this, that Allah subhana wa Tada when it comes to a bada, the real act of worship, he did not differentiate at all he actually specified separate. And I want you to memorize this is so long I memorize it, it's worth it. So so in the muslimeen called Muslim that Surah Al
Hamdulillah. You know what? I'm going to say one by one and a half translate. So you learned it? I don't know the number in the Muslim meanwhile, Muslimah worldly the Muslim men, the Muslim woman separate this was the answer to the question of a Seder or Salam. There's different opinions about it, but this is one of them.
Now, look at all these description. He put descriptions and see where do you score?
Indian Muslim, Ina, well Muslim at the Muslim woman, the Muslim man, the Muslim woman. Quick question, what is a Muslim?
The five pillars we all have, but really the Muslim you and on when we submit to Allah,
submit to Allah and everything you came late. You planned it very well.
You had the car and you looked at the GPS and everything was perfect. Guess what?
You came in took the wrong exit. Muslim you submitted the will of Allah. You don't say why I planned it you're not a Muslim.
The real word of Muslim I'm speaking in a Muslim in one Muslim one and he separated here. One more money now one more minute the believing men and believing woman. You believe in the six pillars. But you believe that what before you will never miss you? And what Miss You will never before you. You're a believer. When you wish for your sisters. what you wish for yourself. You're a believer when your neighbor is safe because you are his or her neighbor.
Look at the real picture of a man don't I always say this to myself? Don't narrow this Deen don't make it to shy sway deeper. In then Muslim meanwhile Muslimah will more mini no will not me not now, while Ali Tino and Anita Seder Maria, the one who is spiritually connected to Allah submitting to ALLAH asking ALLAH three and four.
And then Muslim meanwhile Muslim as well more money No Well, not me not what carnitine our kanita saw the thinos soggy part. Those who are truthful, men and woman, truthful and two things look at your tongue again.
truthful in what you say. And truthful what you do. You say Allah I love you. We all say that. You know what he says to me? Show me.
Show me the love.
And the moment the choice comes in between what pleases Him and what I like or what pleases Him and watch people like what happens with choice we choose.
Of course the other one saw the thing. Those who are truthful and then are Sabatino Slavia, right, those who are patient and not patient only because you're going through a difficult marriage, or because you didn't get what you want. Sometimes we have everything, but we are bored. I need to be patient.
Sometimes I'm sick, I need to be patient. Sometimes I don't get what I want. I need to be patient, a Sabino or CIBJO cyber law. And then we'll Heishi ino Akasha why default divided in this in this verse? Every act of worship hatia is different comment hatia When you are in your sunnah, like that's a hobby. If there is a fire in the masjid he didn't move
with on last panel
and then he comes to the acts of worship or saw him you know slightly Matt. Those who are fasting, the fast not prominent Melbourne total mobile these days take opportunity, fast, short day. And then what have you been a full time job? And what have you learned? Those who protect the private part? Hire, what you dress, the way you speak the way you interact with the other gender. I'm not seeing complete separation. This is not reality. They did not say the height I thought to the Sahaba How do you conduct yourself? And then with the Karina Wahaca theory with that Kira. Those who remember Allah on lot, this is one of the few things in the Quran. Allah says Allah, where are you from this
description? That's the Muslim woman. That's what Allah wants from you and me, where are we? And why we are not. Don't let on why don't our Luna distract you. Don't let your children don't let your wealth don't let your beauty don't let people distract you. At one point, you will take nothing with you. I just witnessed last week as I was driving today, I remember the drive a very dear friend who passed away
and I shared this story with everybody because I literally asked Allah
whatever you have given him when I am dying, give me three hours. She is dying. We are all around
Nothing was in that home in the ICU in the hospital. But the Dhikr of Allah
nonstop. You know tell thing when you when you keep reminding the dying person of Baghdad Allah. This didn't stop. And in between there was a scene.
And then they said she's almost going to go and I was there in the room. Went to her ear or at all yeah, see. Are you ready to migrate he told John
and she passed
What did she had with Allah?
I know, I can't see but I know this woman very well.
This is what you need to be
the Muslim moment. And if you if you think this one wouldn't lift smartlife You're absolutely not right. All the challenges in the deen in the dunya in everything in marriage in children, you name it.
Before they intubated her I was there this is not somebody told me I was there. She looked at me and says, I didn't pray photo. I said do TM in the ER
to detail. She prayed fragile, they intubated her didn't wake up after
and we are fine. And we have no problem. And we just sleep
for Fajr and I want to be a cedar Lydia.
And I claim I'm seed of halting. I can claim whatever I claim, but the moment when it comes Allah will show me who I am and who are you? May Allah subhanho wa Taala and I am going to tell you what all my teachers used to pray for us. They always used to say pray for yourself. Cooney more Baraka in a McEntee May Allah make you bless it wherever you are. I love this two hearts actually the DUA say Danny's
Jihad me Mubarak and enter my account. You know what means wherever you are, whichever situation you are, there's higher is going to come from you. to yourself and to the people around you. Does akmola Hate me a lot more drama foundation. This is beautiful. May Allah accept from all of us. It's a beautiful day we spend it all remembering him Subhana remembering this blessed woman may Allah Subhana Allah give us a little bit of what he gave them your OB me to see looks at everybody. Everyone in a minute and he say all of you are Maria
europea we all have your Seder faltan your OB Amin ask him he is the generous he's of curry and he will never ever let us know Subhanak Allahumma will be handing a shadow Allah Hydra and stuff we look forward to boudic SallAllahu ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali He was holy Testament because you