Haifaa Younis – The clock is ticking

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The age you know the clock is ticking

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which is a word I really don't like

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to use. This comes from medicine

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right simply because you know the fertility of

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the woman after certain age become

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less. My answer to my patients because I

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get this all the time how old do

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I say the Khadija when she starts getting

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pregnant?

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In her forties?

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Yeah. And how many children?

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6, 6 children.

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Exactly,

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SubhanAllah,

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right? 4 alive

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but total.

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So here you go.

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When Allah

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wants you to get pregnant

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what is He gonna say?

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Right? Say it again, Miriam, best example. Yeah.

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Yani, we have it. This is why I

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tell you Islam didn't leave anything, they didn't

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give us but we just

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don't pay attention sometimes.

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Seyda Maria, no baby, I mean, no husband,

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nothing, nothing. She became pregnant, right? Seyda Aisha,

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young, he loved her the most, not children.

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So what we say is

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for men, he absolutely advised

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young men

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get married early.

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If you cannot

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then fast. Why is that? Because look at

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around us the temptations

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right and to stay

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the way that pleases Allah is not easy

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so I need to help myself and I

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will say this also to the girls these

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days because a lot of temptations around us

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social media you know media everything else

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So to try to get married early, Alhamdulillah,

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but if you become 30 or 35,

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it's not the end of the world.

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Even if the society

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thinks it's the end of the world. In

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fact,

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now again medicine if you see it like

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in the office, the average age of getting

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pregnant is not 20 or 25.

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No, it is usually late 20s early 30s

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very common after 35. Yeah.

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So don't delay it.

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That's what I always tell people: don't delay

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it and don't rush

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it. Leave it, Allah will just make du'a

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and Allah will send you in the right

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time the right place. But we,

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again, the time and the day we're living,

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we want to take things under

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control.

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And who has the control?

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Alhamdulillah.