Haifaa Younis – My Faith (Iman) Why it Gets Low

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of faith and practicality in building relationships with God, as it is the heart of one's relationship with God. They stress the need for patient faith and staying focused on one's actions to avoid damaging others. The importance of learning and practicing to improve one's behavior and finding one's faith in oneself is also emphasized. The speakers stress the importance of finding one's true feelings and emotions and staying focused on one's actions to avoid distractions. They also mention a free web stream and a shadow to play solo music.
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Bismillah your Walkman you're walking.

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So it was not a while but I cannot talk Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah early he was a woman while law.

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Okay, personal louer hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah he was talking to a woman who Allah. Molina myinfo now on foreigner v marlim tener una cosa Mian Mooji Buddha llama now to become an mulayam fatwa calvia Sha one I've seen Latisha What do I use my Urban Allah to superluminova is heading tener una lead on karahan in the capital hub, will be shortly sadri. Wessely, Omri workload operator melissani of konkola I mean jack ma HERE FOR JOINING US smartlist pantalla accept from all of us. And sha Allah, the timing has changed in sha Allah, it is more convenient for everybody. But the main reason is because of the Mahabharata. We are in St. Louis

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that's what we are based out that's where I live actually. And moto is actually in between, it's about 710. So by the time we finish is about 730. So we thought let's make it eight tonight, and also mother's in Sharla, and all the woman Sharla everything is done in the house and you can have a one hour for yourself. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen. As always, if you have questions, please put it there, I'll do my best to be aemilia at the end, to take your questions, maybe the last 10 minutes. In case you wonder, Why did I choose this subject Subhan Allah Allah always in our life, La Ilaha Illa who send us messages.

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And very recently, I was reading a post on Instagram for a very beautiful young woman, honestly, a Muslim young woman in her 20s and she wrote beautifully, and she just said it so beautifully. And boldly.

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I feel my emotion is weak. That's exactly how she said it. I feel I am going down.

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And even she was saying to her followers is like, if you see changes on me, don't be surprised. But I know the reason because my Eman is weak. And it was a long, long

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post that I really enjoyed and I Allah is my witness. I really made your heart for this, this sister, young girl who knows that she has an issue Subhan Allah And I want you all to make a dua for her to Allah spawn Tada, keep her strong. And it's interesting that it is not only the young people, it's not the teenagers only or their college students or the young mothers. It's actually everybody.

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And let's first this is how I was thinking how do I take you on this journey? In a practical, easy, realistic way.

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I want for us to talk about what is a man what is faith? And how do I know my faith is weak? Maybe I'm claiming maybe people seeing things is not real. So how do I really personally honestly diagnosed myself with a loss pantalla and then why? why it gets weak. And the last thing we will need to cover is what do I do about it? So I thought all this covered in one hour or less than one hour it may not give it its due right? So what we'll do today inshallah we'll make this topic in two parts. Today will will cover part of it in short law not next week as we have a guest speaker Mashallah Tamara kalasa. Her team is a real is going to be joining us next week from Canada and the

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week after inshallah, I will come back to it again. So let me take you first what is faith? When I and you talk about faith, what are we talking about? This is the first thing let's take it simply and the first thing that comes to

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To our mind, most of us, is the famous Hadith as we call it, the famous saying of Swati Salatu was sinner. And that's what he that's saying is actually very famously called Hadith gibreel. It's the hadith of gibreel, the Angel gibreel. And actually, I remember he, more than five years ago, I did a whole lecture about that Hadith itself. It's actually on our website. You can see it there.

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And no, that's heavy. And just to remind your Coakley we're selling the Hallmark narrated that we were sitting with our Swati saya to a sinner. And here we go enter the man who is absolutely looked very clean and tidy, wearing all white does. He's a stranger. None of us knew him. But he doesn't look like he's a traveler. And then he sat in front of us while he Sora torsina put his knee two in front of the knee of Ross what he sought to answer. And then he asked him, and the three questions What is your Muhammad telling me what is Islam? Tell me what is he man? and told me what is it sir? What is Islam? What is this religion? What is your man? What is faith? And what is sound excellence?

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And I am going to share with you the answer of roswaal de Salatu was set up about a man faith and he said how Bernie Anil EMA told me what is faith and what is sought or said answered and thought when you believe Billa you believe in Allah mela equity in the angels Could you be in his books and prophets were also the

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the hereafter. Welcome very well.

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and you believe in destiny that what you like or that's good you think for you? And that's what it is you think isn't good. So that's the definition. That's like, you know, when you learn something like academic, this is Academy somebody asks you you're studying athletes, this is faith. But what is it in my daily life?

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What is really my daily life faith mean? And I as I was preparing, I came to a statement and I really loved it. And and the statement says like this, and I want you all to remember it. Faith is my relationship with Allah.

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tala Abdi, Brb, is your relationship with Allah. That's faith,

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faith, practical, faith in daily base. Faith in Ramadan, outside Ramadan, in hajj, outside hunch, when I am weak, when I'm strong, is basically my relationship with Allah is my faith. That's what number two, a principle also that all we all need to learn, because that's going to make us feel better.

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We all feel down when we feel our emotion is weak. Down.

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Guess what?

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statement that we all studied in when we studied it, their their creed, they said faith is you will believe in the heart

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and your tongue, say something say it. And your actions or your limbs acts. Now coming to the point and faith increase and decrease

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faith increase and decrease so it's normal. One day I feel I'm so close to Allah spawn that one day I feel I am going to get up at 3am and I'm going to do my pm.

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And another day I barely can do my five sign out on time.

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As you do I

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increase and decrease. They added to this a statement that will summarize everything we will learn. And I want you all to Yeah, memorize it. Keep saying it. So it comes to you when you feel up. And when you're feeling down. And the statement says like this, amen. Faith, increase by obedience and decrease by disobedience. A man who is either with pa or possibly Masseria, faith increase, gets stronger, closer to Allah by acts of obedience. And decrease distance from Allah further away from Allah. I don't feel connected. Why? by this obedience, so memorize this because everything we're going to be talking about is actually is the detail of this statement. So practical. When I feel I I

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had no problem getting up at 4am and doing my fam

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I had no problem putting my hijab I'm not struggling anymore what happened on the same person, it's the same surroundings, sit, think, reflect. And Allah will show you that you have been doing some good deeds consistently. Even if it's a small the result of it, we don't see it. We don't feel it, the result of it. I am closer to Allah, my Eman is up. And it translates into actions, actions becomes easier, and I don't struggle.

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The opposite is true.

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So let's put this number one, this principle number one, faith, increase and decrease. And let me share with you a couple of heartbeats about this.

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Where is faith? Before I get to the Hadees? Where is faith? Which part of my body the faith resides live?

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And I wish I can see you and we can talk and you can answer me we're

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in the heart. But it's not the pumping heart in the spiritual heart. Here. We all say it's here, something here.

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And Swati salatu salam said the following. And now connected with faith. He said,

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The heart in the Arabic language heart is Albert. And he said that is in the heart is called heart because the heart changes. And in the Arabic language, the root of it is changing. Something that changes. So the heart changes. And it changes quicker than a feather is attached to a root of a tree. That's the Hadeeth. And when word comes in, how does it change

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the feather right and left, up and down. The heart change the same way. Now what is in the heart is my email my feet. So it changes up and down.

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And in another Hadith, he says the following and this is actually in Muslim, all the hearts of the human being mine. Yours, everybody

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or between two fingers of Allah subhanho wa Taala and don't look at my fingers in yours. Alas fingers is not mine. And you may know us by Neiman asabi man, all the hearts of a human being. Or between the two fingers of a rock man the Most Merciful, he changed them the way he wants. You're a liberal, you can live a

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healthier show.

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That means it changes so that man faith lives in my heart, my heart changes all our hearts in the hands of a wasp pantalla it changes. So one day I am very close to Allah subhanaw taala a year one line from the Quran and I'm crying, I found obeying Allah is very easy and then stay on completely the opposite.

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Again, increase by obedience decrease by disobedience. Okay, so in short, this is very clear. And a lot even said this in the Quran actually, in the end of surah to the Confederates, Allah subhanaw taala said This will not only see that surah when chapter from the Quran is revealed that

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one of them asked the other eloquence either too heavy manner.

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The people who are listening to the Quran asked each other, which one of you this verse made their email, increase their email,

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and Allah respond.

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Medina amanu pasada to Iran, the believers, the man becomes stronger.

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So the principle I want everybody to know it's true. You're not imagining not people are saying things about you, or you think you are obsessed? It's true. It goes up and down. Now let's come to why.

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Why does it get weaker? And this is where I'm going to spend most of the time today. And short law as I said in the beginning, not next week, as next week. We have a guest speaker. She had me as well. The next week, the week after, we're going to be talking about treatment. Again, I'm a physician, I always tell my patients, I need to know what is the problem. Why, how we're going to take care of it. The problem today, our Eman our faith

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The core thing that we are going to go into Allah pantalla with it, the problem, it goes up and down. But it's becoming much more common that it goes down stays down. Minimum Alhamdulillah. I pray Alhamdulillah I fasted Ramadan minimum. And it's very common. So why and what we will do about it? Let's call before the reasons. How do you know you have it? How do you know your Eman is weak. And I'm going to give you some points, again, because this is how we learn. We trot we we learn things, and then we reflect on these things. And we look at our lives. And let's say and say you know what, no, I'm not too bad. You know what I thought I was better. So let's come to one by one. Number one.

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singing, singing, committing sins becomes very easy.

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Committing sings becomes easy.

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It's not too easy, because it's available only.

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But I don't feel there's something in me, that is preventing me from doing it, let alone in joining it, let alone asking others to do it with me. So the first sign when I and you starts feeling, liking, committing, inviting others to do since then my faith is absolutely lower.

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So number one, and number one is singing becomes easy. Have no problem.

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So you gauge. And again, this changes one day, if I'm looking at something immediately I'm in the grocery shop. And then I see this magazine, and the cover is right there. And I look at it and immediately something in me, tells me turn your face, nobody is me. Then my demand is high. The other day, and the same person, same place. I look and I was like Oh, she looks nice. Oh, and then you keep looking again and again. He managed.

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So that you manage week is when I see myself, the sinning becomes easy.

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What I gather below me, Allah protect us all, I enjoy it. And the worst part is when you invite others to do which with you, let alone you talk about it.

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I like it. It's easy. I do it. I like it. And I ask others to do it with me and I talk about it. That's when sign my email is weak, to

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look inward. And I always remind myself before anyone talk about the heart,

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talk about the heart.

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Heart, what is going to do

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with the heart, Allah subhanho wa Taala in also in the Quran, described our heart that it can be hard and can be soft. And Allah described Subhan Allah in solitary bacala in the cow in the chapter called the second chapter, the longest chapter in the Quran. And he described the people, the children of Israel, to makossa globacom mnemba daedalic, your hearts became so hard to hear contadora It is like a rock, our shadow

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is even harder than a rock

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to the second sign, second sign, my heart, my email is weak. And I said instead of 10 out of 10 outs becoming four or three is when my heart is hardened. And how do I know my heart is hard?

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How do I know? My heart is hard.

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I don't cry. When I see when I listened to the Koran.

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When I see injustice around me, nothing changes in me.

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My focus is all about me. Me, My heart is hard. And I'll come to war which is a reflection of this, but look into your heart. And I remind everyone myself, number one, when was the last time you cried

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in the middle of the night alone, or in the day when you're alone, but in the night usually because it's much quieter. Because assume you're alone in the house and you stood up and you are praying whether it's an obligatory soda or it is x

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When was the last time as you were reading your heart you felt you're overwhelmed with feelings the less this feeling the harder the heart.

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Second sign my Eman is weaker so remember and this is a very good example remember in Ramadan all of us same people same life same things we have to do a million things we have to do our stand up a 10pm listening to the Quran and we start crying

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last night so for Milan we are exhausted but then when the mom start making do how we all start crying Our hearts are softer one of the sign of the heart is hard on We Don't cry for Allah

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we cry for dunya we cry for the slightly lost this we didn't get that but for a loss pantalla so number two

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My heart is my I'm sorry my Eman is weak when my heart is hard there number three now coming very practical.

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And please forgive me again if you have any questions I'll be more than happy to take it but I thought I will talk to you not only from my heart but reality number three, your emotion is weak. The opposite is true. Always anything I'm saying. If the opposite is what you are then the man is stronger. Look at how perfect you are

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in your actions of worship.

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Whether it is in your sauna, whether it is in reading the Quran, whether it is in doing something good for Allah, whether it is in controlling my anger, whether it is holding myself not saying something, how perfect I am in my acts of worship,

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how much focus I have in my solder

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how much I remember how often I don't remember if I did the three or four o card and Bahasa

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it's called the perfection of the bad when I am not focused, whether when I am praying when I'm reading the Quran, when I'm doing my job not in time of need, how focused I am that I am talking to Allah, my Creator. The less of this the weaker my emotion. The more of this I go to the salon I have no problem standing there. I'm not talking daily. I'm talking when in the day maybe one of these sauna. I'm going to say you know what, I am going to give a los pantalla a beautiful Santa want once a day or I am going to be reading

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on not my usual I have no idea what I'm reading I am going to be reading one page and I am going to give it to my heart. Please forgive me when we really want to

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cook something and we really want it to come out very well. How focused we are how meticulous we are in looking at the recipe measuring the cup the spoon, the temperature, the time you put the timer and there's nothing wrong with this. This is excellence in doing things and unless pantalla he likes excellence in everything but why we are cooking or when we are having guests coming in or all these we look and we put efforts but when it comes to that

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so the less accidents in my act of worship my IE my EMA is weaker.

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Add to this in the same category when I am lazy

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lazy shallot war and I'm not talking you're in the middle of seeing patient your middle of teaching your middle of doing something I'm saying there's nothing and Salah time comes in and truthfully Salah because it's a daily thing. It's five times a day, and I am lazy. They call a casserole fill a bad lazy in my act of worship. My email is no last pantalla described in the Quran. And he described the hypocrites as a character always what is the harm or you know so that you call moocow salah and when they get up for Salah they get up lazy sign of weak email.

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Look at this one. This one it's really I hope it was really interesting for me when I was when I read this. One of the signs that the man is weak is when we get upset easily

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when I am not patient

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when I am not under control. It's a sign of a weak EMA

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And I was like Chapin law. But then there is a hadith of roswaal a salt or sir, there's a saying, Torah, Swati salatu salam goes like this. It's a long Hadith, but the part that is related to our topic, and he man, he defined faith. He said a man or sobre Samaha, and I'll translate. He said faith. Faith is being patient endures. And some Aha, for giving forbearance and even a Sabra was Samaha endurance and benevolence, being patient. Being forbearing taking things easier, you don't get upset very quickly. You forgive your pardon your excuses to people, the less I am, suddenly I find myself, this is not me. Or Normally, I can control myself, that's a sign that a man is weak

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Subhanallah This is external. This is daily. And this is not necessarily only with Muslims. By the way, these of you so far, everything related to dunya. This is with everybody around us. So when I am less patient, aggravated easily, can't forgive, can't port them can't be the quote was sort of said your your chest is expanded, meaning you take things if I see myself I am changing my Eman is weak.

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I know that one.

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You read the Quran, and nothing happens to me. I read the Quran, nothing happens to me. Nothing as if I am reading a story. I don't. I don't when I read for example, in a law shahidullah ob, Allah has severe punishment. Nothing happens. When I read Allah is awful Rahim. Allah is all Forgiving and Merciful. Nothing happens. I'm reading, only reading. But nothing is here. Neither I stop. Neither I ponder, neither I reflect, nor I say our law. I hope this is not me. Or I say your law. I wish I am this or I hope I am that. So when Allah for example, praises someone in the Quran and you're reading and you and you say wow, I wish this is me. Or Allah subhanaw taala saying something negative about

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a character. You say you're a law. I hope it is not to me a law. Nothing. No interaction with the Quran. I don't feel it. It doesn't move me my Eman is weak. Opposite Is it true. So this is all to gauge your email. I am reading the Quran and within two or three or I'm listening to the Quran recited to beautifully and I feel I'm somewhere else that a man is up

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another one and this is actually a sign and the main reason, a sign and the reason I do not remember Allah

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Vicar of Allah is not there.

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I'm talking about a time of ease in my daily life. Nordica lafleur I'm heedless. heedless

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about remembering Allah And I want you all short llama Allah, open your heart as he opened my heart when I was preparing this. And I remember this verse in the end of Surah 12 out of the heights at the end of surah. Two out of it's like the third

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verse from the end.

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And our last panel with Allah said the following order to Rasul Allah salatu salam, not to you and me, originally came to us what he saw to us and he said to him, the follow would call Rebecca, she Neff seeker Padawan wa he fatten will do and then God will call he will do we will Assad wala Takuma Feeny remember your Lord with Cora bucket feen of seeker

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inside you, inside yourself

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with rubber caffeine FC Kappa bhawan with humbleness Well, he certain out of fear.

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But what do we want our salt in the morning? And in the evening? What? mineral oil awfully? What quarterback? Remember your Lord probar. One with humbleness. Well, he fitted out of fear, withdrawal, enjoy him in and out. And when you are saying it, say it quietly. Bill was in the mood in the morning and in the evening. And look what he's saying to us. What are your thoughts and well tekumel offering Don't be among those who are heedless.

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heedlessness is a stepping away

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off Allah subhanaw taala by not remembering him. If you recall, those of you who joined us later when I started saying

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Faith. In practicality in my daily life is defined as my relationship with a law, a lack of obey, they say, your relationship, my relationship, our relationship with Allah, when I have a relationship with someone,

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do I not remember them at all, then I don't have a relationship, then my faith is weak. The more I remember that person, she or he, that I have relationship with them to the sign of my weak Eman. Remember I sofala is not there is difficult. I don't think it's important. I remember him. May Allah forgive me when I need him

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when I need him.

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When I have an exam, when I have a test, when my son has an issue, or my daughter has an issue, when I am going for an interview, when I need something, when I'm going through difficulty when I'm sick. When somebody in my family is sick, we remember to her and we ask everybody to make dua for us. And that's nothing wrong. That's actually highly recommended. But what about when it's time of ease? When I am 100 in the hero brand me that day, everything went my way. Why not remembering Allah, who made it easy.

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So here you go. The sign sign off, or the gauge, I will say the gauge and it's the treatment also. And I will come to it as I said in two weeks, because I want to speak detail about the treatment. The gauge of your Eman less is when your remembrance of Allah is very weak. I don't need to put on I don't do my remembrance morning and evening my Salah two seconds, I don't even remember what I said because these are all remembrance of Allah, let alone I walk and I say Subhana Allah, let alone I walk and I say stuff that Allah no

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less remember and sofa lock sign off me being or my EMA or me having weak faith, one of the signs of weak faith also and this is very interesting.

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One I want always to be known, show off looking for praises looking to be known, identified.

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Who they say it I want to be the best around when I am especially this is when I'm in a gathering I want to be noticed I want to be praised. Talked about positively these are signs of week.

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Amen. Weekly. Why is that? When I was reading this, I was like Subhan Allah. Why if I want to be acknowledged or I want to be praised, is a sign my Eman is weak.

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connected together. Faith is my relationship with Allah.

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Everything I have is from Allah.

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My fame, my success is from Allah. Should I be acknowledged, or he should be acknowledged and thanked? So when somebody praise me, I turned to Allah says 100 light is not to me, Allah made it easy. The more I focus on people, the more I want from people, my Eman my relationship with Allah is weak. The opposite is absolutely true.

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One of the signs and this is so interesting, because there's a hadith about it.

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The more greedy, I am greedy, the more miser I am. The more I love to have and hold. The more I find it very difficult to give my Eman is weak. And Allah Swati salatu salam said in a beautiful Hadith and I'm going to translate and May Allah make it easy for everybody. He said the following

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the damage

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that to hungry wolves will do when they are sent into a flock of shapes is way less than the damage. miser pneus and love of wealth will do to the faith of the Muslim.

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Let's say it one more time. The damage

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to hungry wolves. Imagine this. I want you to see the picture.

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To hungry wolves. When left were released to go between a flock of sheeps what damage they will do hungry wolves. And Allah Swati salatu salam said that damage these two wolves will do in between the flocks of the sheep is less than the damage, the love, the miserliness and the love of wealth will do to the faith.

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The more I love money, collect miser, I find it very difficult to give,

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the less the more damage happening to my email to my

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so that's a sign when I find it difficult to give another fundraising another giving, she's asking me again, how many times I'm gonna do for her, than I need to check my email, I don't blame her or him.

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But you because you're the same person. And in another time when that person he or she or this organization asked you for donation you will give with no problems. But sometimes I find it difficult sometimes at the time I have war, I find it difficult. My faith is weaker. So that's another sign and another sign and I'm going to go not i'm not going to cover all because I want to come to the reasons.

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One, one human being so happy with this life, human being, I'm sorry, when a human being,

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say, may Allah protects me number one, when a human being say what he or she does not do.

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You tell your son or your daughter, or your spouse or your parents, why don't you pray on time? And you don't do. I don't do it.

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When human being does does say things, but not doing it or doing let alone the opposite. That's a sign of Wikimania. As we say, walk the talk. walk the talk show me so when I see myself saying things in my daily life, Don't lie. And next thing I am lying. My email is absolutely weak. My email is absolutely week.

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One more and this is because I'm saying this specially the one is coming because this one is absolutely related to the treatment.

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And this is what it is.

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When I and you we belittle

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the a good deed, the minor ones, the small ones, we think it's trivial. What is the big deal? When I belittle a good deed, my Eman is weak.

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Meaning somebody will tell you

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as simple as this

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for example

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something but Okay, so you're walking home the lat long evening remember because this I want you to remember something related to howdy to a saying of Allah, Swati Sato sir, so you're walking, entering the masjid entering your place of work, not necessarily Muslim place in general, walking in the street, and you find something on the on the floor.

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Me, there's two possibilities. I didn't do it. It's not my fault, the cleaning person is gonna come and pick it up.

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My email is weak.

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Versus I'm gonna pick it up.

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If there's no place, it's not the trash, I just remove it. For example, it's just like a,

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something fell from a tree and you were wondering, maybe a child will will walk and maybe he will trip or get hurt. So you just put it on the side. inside you. You remember, this is a good deed. And this is one of the actions of a man.

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actions of email. You remove harm from the way

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remove harm from the way right or you will see it's not a big deal. What is it is just nobody is going to get out of everybody's walking. Nobody's feeling it. So you belittle What is it? Almost pantalla will will reward me for something like this. Yes. Because this Diem is beautiful. It's not about to only pray and do these things. It's about everything in my day.

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So when I belittle small, good deed and another Swati salatu salam says not to help balance sheet and mineral models. Don't belittle any good deed and he gave two examples of a small good deed even even if you are putting as

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fluid or water in the cup of your brother,

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you talk or you need your brother or your sister with a smiling face,

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good deed. He says don't belittle any good deed, even if you are pouring water in the cup of your brother or your sister, or you will meet great people, brother or sister with a smiling face. That's a good deed. And he says, Don't belittle this belittling good deeds is a sign of weak Eman.

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And oh, everything I want you to remember all this because these, when I pay attention to them, these are one of the ways turn the opposites. And this will make my man stronger.

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Because if they make it weaker than doing them, not doing them make it weaker, meaning doing them will make it stronger. And I will summarized at the end also for you to remember one of the main ones.

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And this is daily life. And look, what is this one? Too much focus

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on too much focus about me, myself, my food, my drink, my house, my car and indulging in them. indulging, I'm not saying

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the average I'm saying indulging too much focus about what I am going to cook today. What my family will eat. I'm not saying don't cook, I'm saying indulging too much. Then when I come to my Salah, remember what we said no focus. So too much focus and indulging in matter of this life. And forget because I am a human being it's only 24 hours how much energy I have. I mean, let's be all practical. So if I spent most of it in there, or too much focus about my work. I'm not saying don't work. I'm not saying don't do a good job. But I'm saying too much indulging and this is exactly what they say indulging. And there is a hadith of Allah Swati salatu salam that he said to why the Buddha

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but the famous Sahabi the companion and he said, don't. Then he said, don't live in too much comfort, too much comfort. And he says the true servants of Allah don't live in too much comfort. So he was giving him an advice, saving them. Well, he said don't live in too much comfort. Again, I'm talking about too much, too much. And let's look around us all of us too much. He said too much comfort

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that through servants of Allah do we live in too much comforts. So one of the reasons my Eman gets weaker. And one of the signs my emotion gets weaker when my focus is too much about my daily life. And you know how we know the focus is too much is when what do we talk about?

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And what do we talk about? What do we complain about? What makes us happy? Or what makes us sad? So let's summarize it. What are the signs? My email is week? Number one, look at the sins this obedience to Allah. What's your relationship with them? Easy. Not a big deal. I love them. I enjoy them. I talk about them. I invite people with me. That's a sign. Number two.

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What is the temperature of your heart softness.

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Everyday they check our temperature sometimes three, four times a day. If you're like me from one office to the other to the hospital is three to four times.

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What is the temperature of the softness of my heart? Hi, my heart is soft. Blow My heart is heart hard.

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The harder my heart. The lower is my email. How perfect and good and how much time you spend in the act of worship versus the opposite. How is your feed how much energy you have? And how much you are eager to obey your law and do the acts of worship?

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How do you feel when you read the Quran? What is your relationship with the remembrance of Allah

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I remember is called light luckily that they do not remember Allah but little then my email is weak.

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My focus on this life

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on this dunya how much all these the war signs mighty man is weak. Now let's come to the most important thing. Why?

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why this happened?

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why this happened? Why in Milan I'm a different person. Why when I go to Hajj on the same human being why when I go to Hajj and I come back the first week on completely different why the 30 days of Ramadan, my Eman is way up.

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I fast 16 hours I work take care of my family, I cook for them. I pray on time, I pray for extras. I read Quran I finish at least one customer Why? And then outside, everything changes. So let's look at the reasons what makes my email low. What decrease the temperature of my email number one.

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And it's actually it's more of more than one but I'm going to put it under one category, put it the following number one, your surroundings.

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Look at your surroundings, and I'm talking about surroundings, your home, your work, and when you are alone, because these days we are never alone. There's always surroundings. This phone, social media were alone, but we're not alone. Look at your surroundings. Number one.

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The main reason the main reason that the man gets weaker is one we stay away from the sources of a man the sources of faith

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meaning I can I keep I'm going to keep reminding you and may offer a Melbourne because it's very practical and everybody do it. Everyone held all of us from above those who can.

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What is it in Ramadan? I am very close to things that remind me of Allah and fasting and praying on time I go to the masjid, I read Quran, the further I am away from an environment that reminded me of Allah subhanho wa Taala the lower man a man

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give examples, sister Haifa, I will. So when I finished my work, everything in the house, and the eight or 9pm and I said, I'm going to sit on that couch. And I start holding the remote. And I'm going to turn on the TV.

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And there's two scenarios. How am I going to look at something not pleasing? There is no third scenario on TV these days channel law. I'm going to look at something not pleasing to Allah. Or I'm gonna look at something pleasing to Allah.

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Even when you're looking at the news, the details of the news it gradually takes you to disobedience of a law.

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So the more I spend time with a surrounding, whether I am alone with the gadgets with a social media whether I am with people or the more I spend time with those who do not remind me of a loss pantalla my Eman will go down. I can reassure you 100% on this.

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Look at yourself. Look at the surroundings. The less I am surrounded by what reminds me of a loss pile Tyler the less I am connected to Allah weaker is my EMA. That takes me to the second point because the three points are related its surroundings. Who are the people that you spend time with? And who are the people you look up to? I want to do like her. I want to be like him. Who are these people? Who are these people people will remind you of a lot. Most of the time the answer is no. It's not only the youth, it's us. I want to be like her who is her? I want to be like him who is him.

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And this is why one of the classes we are doing hamdulillah starting this Saturday is recorded polls around the roswaal A Serato Sarah, the woman surrounded the Rasul Allah salatu salam will need to know them. I need to say to myself, I want to be like them. One of them that each one of us will have one of these.

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icon woman that we feel we are connected to her. She is I am like her I have a lot of her character. You could be the Harbinger. You could be you could be you have a lot of characters of seda Isha you could we have a lot of characters say designer, who is the person or coder that you look up to, the more the person you look up to and you want to be like them

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People have this demeanor of life.

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The conditions this person that person, the famous celebrity, the famous this or even the most famous professional, but they are away from Allah my Eman will be weaker.

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stirred reason why it is weak.

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What is my relationship with knowledge with the island

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without knowledge my beautiful sisters and if brothers are listening to us without knowledge and I'm talking about any knowledge that will get me close to Allah subhanaw taala my relationship with Allah will go down the hill

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my Eman will go weak. Ask yourself when was the last time you read something or you listen to something or attended something not casual. Not I am driving and I'm not focused not I am cooking and not focused. Not the TV's on but I'm not focused. I'm talking about you gave it 10 minutes 1531 hour more Office of knowledge. And I said this word last week to the classes that we shot last starting very soon. I said this to the ladies and I really mean it. And I say this to myself all the time. You know what? You know what?

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Me and you deserve deserve

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time for me with Allah subhanho wa Taala we deserve it.

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My nerves deserve it. Like when I say I need time for myself, we all say you need to have time for yourself. You need to ask you to spend time with your children. You need to spend time with your spouse, and I will earn you need time for yourself to look at your relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada. And the only way the only way you have a relationship with Allah subhanaw taala is one you learn about him and his religion. And that's why you see we have been doing a lot of series about women in Islamic scholarship, knowledge, learn. And these days I say this to myself before anyone will law law, the law in law, we will have no excuse when want to stand in front of a loss pantalla

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what I'm going to tell him there is no classes. There is no YouTube videos. There is no books, I can download them. I cannot read it. I it's not in my language, everything is there. What I need, as I and I said this to myself, Subhan Allah, like how many hours you spent studying medicine? How many hours those of you who are listening to me, Listen became physicians, how many hours how many years were studied. What about our last pantalla and his knowledge? one of the cornerstones I personally find is when you are connected with the knowledge of Allah, get yourself into a program. And I'm not talking about gender Institute, only 100 Lateran brown plenty of Institute's are there. But you need

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to enroll and don't tell me you don't have time. Allah, Allah who, when you want something alone, make it easy, and he will put Baraka in your time. He will put blessings in your time.

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Get yourself one hour a week, your law one hour a week. Minimum where you're going to sit and learn about Allah. Learn about this Deen. Learn about how you move this heart. Learn how you are good, you will be ready to meet him Subhana

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falon and I said this to myself before anyone, you word it higher word that we deserve to go to Japan now Why not? Why we all want to have the best home and the best career and the best children the best car the best of everything. Alhamdulillah beautiful, but why not in general also, why not? I had the best house in Ghana and my neighbors are Swati santosa.

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But they're the work is different. I need to work here. And the work here is different. Allah Buddha enemies, as they say, is the most important thing to get your Eman stronger or the most important thing that will lower your email. When you look at your day you spend your day from morning to evening.

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Talking nothing is of significance, let alone It's haraam looking nothing of significance, wasting time just looking at WhatsApp or looking at the face, Facebook, Instagram, all these things by again nothing how long, let alone if it was harder, but it's just you know what?

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Reading of the Quran.

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Of course, my email will get weaker, talking, wasting time spending too much time in trivial things.

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Too much focus on things that I need but I give it too much of my time and energy. My email will be weaker.

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Fourth, surroundings if you are surrounded by this obedience of Allah.

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And I'm not talking about disobedience of Allah that I cannot change.

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I'm talking about to me the what the things I have control over. As simple as this something in the TV all my family is watching and they do my husband will get very upset if I leave. Can you lower your gaze? Yes, you can.

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Can't I say you know what, I really don't like this can we change? One day you will watch the other day I watched something did I even try? So when I am surrounded by this obedience is I will get weak, nobody is immune. No one is immune. Nobody should ever think that he or she will not change. It does. It does Allah pantalla said to Rasul Allah salatu salam, WA salatu salam and Alberto and the cleaner water bajawa honorable photo, do not follow those who are heedless and follow their own desires. Another reason for which I covered it but I'm gonna remind you again, too much time. True. You're too busy. I am too busy or too busy in our mundane daily things. Mainly from the 24 hours

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there is 16 hours is all about this life. My work on my house cleaning children cooking everything. What about my IRA? What about my other life whether it is mine or the others, but my mainly too much focus on this life will affect my email will affect for sure meitner to more things and I'm going to talk about these much more detail when I come to the

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treatment is one I think I am living here forever. They call me

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answers a tope.

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I think I'm not gonna die every day. Those of you who live with me in St. Louis and you are in the funeral group. Every day today just before the class every day there is an announcement of a death and we read it and as if I am not going to die.

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The more I think I'm living here forever My Eman gets weak. So the treatment is remembering death. Cool and last pantalla citizen shortall ambia vilda homea kulu ya atomic Ciao, leave them, let them eat. Power lead that home your metabolism eat and enjoy.

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What you hear me

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and they are distracted by thinking they will live here forever.

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To me, remember I remote I I will say this to myself before anyone before you go to bed.

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Think of yourself in the grave.

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I can't tell you how scary this feeling is.

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But it will increase my email. It will wake me up. It will remind me This is only part one. There is a part two there and I need to get ready for part two. Part one is the form is the form. Part two is where I am going to be getting. I am going to be harvesting the fruits of what I what I planted here. Don't think we are living here forever.

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I've seen that remote, every single soul with tasteless alasa three times in the cover every single soul will will feel it and the last one I am going to cover today. And then again shortly not next week. The week after we'll do part two. We'll go to practical things how to increase my EMA one of the reasons that will make my e one week and think of Ramadan as I am speaking too much eating too much sleeping

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too much talking too much intermingle with people. And too much

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Too much food. Too much sleep. Too much enjoyment too much talking too much intermingle with people and talking about too much, too much.

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Have nothing that's got hamdulillah now it's upon Allah

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We don't have that much. But still too much. If I can't go out, I'm talking on the phone, don't worry, because it makes the heart hard. And it makes me heedless. There's only 24 hours. And one of the things he says, and that what this is one, it's a saying says, Who ever eat too much will drink too much, or sleep too much? And he or she will lose too much Subhanallah I'm gonna stop here because I want to take maybe a question. And then we will stop also because the time cinema, we as women, when gets period will easily feed feel lonely man, very good question. How we overcome this? This is I get this question very commonly at the time of * that week, those five days 10

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days, we are not doing only few acts of worship, but we feel our managers low because I'm not doing all the others. The only thing I cannot do as a woman during Hardman situations are to

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in my daily life, if it is on my wall, or even outside Ramadan, I can't pray and I cannot fast

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in in my relationship with a less punk dad, but I can do a lot of liquor. I can listen to Oran, I can do a lot of stefarr asking Allah for forgiveness. I can do a lot of Salah, Swanee, salt, water, sand, sanitation, Torah, Swati santosa, plenty of remembrance of Allah. I can attend lectures, I can. If I am memorizing the Quran, scholars allowed you to continue memorize or review your Quran. I can read books that will strengthen my Eman. That's why I gave you 10 reasons for whether a man is weak is not only salah and fasting, and Allah knows. So whenever I am in that time of the month, then I will have more time to do the others. And the last but not the least. ask Allah subhanho wa

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Taala he will not turn my heart and to strengthen my email, your ally young callable, kulu sub bit Kuru Kuru benalmadena. Allah or the one who turns the hearts, keep our hearts steadfast young aliwal crew sambit lubaina Allah Deena and Allah subhanaw taala. I want to end up with this duar Please forgive me if I'm going a little bit more today. And this is a hadith of roswaal, a slave to a sinner. Allah Subhana Allah said the following, or son of Adam, I don't want you to lose hope.

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And all we go to down and he man goes down. But listen to what Allah is saying to you and me, our son of Adam, I forgive you, as long as you pray, asked me. As long as you're asking me, and you have hope in me, I will forgive you. Whatever comes from you. And I don't care. Oh, son of Adam, if your sins reached the highest point in the earth, in the heavens, and when you asked for forgiveness, I'll forgive you, somewhat son of Adam, if you came to me with a worse, the earth worth of sins, but you met me and you declare that I am the only Lord, I will bring up equal to forgiveness.

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We have a law the Lord Who is the old forgiving what he wants

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from me and you only, don't lose hope.

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Look at the surroundings. Look what's around us and Allah who never let us down. sha Allah I'll see you in two weeks. again next week we have chef Tamia Zubair who is going to be talking to us also about knowledge. And the week after, I will continue on this. Again, visit our website, there is a lot of material there is a free lectures, we have a web stream, which has a lot of lectures, we have many courses designed to everybody in every time they are recorded. He wants to be taught by Omen hamdulillah he'll Blimey. Give yourself you worth it. Give yourself the opportunity. ask Allah to help you to get close to him by learning about him and your Eman will get stronger in the spinal

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column. We'll be hanging a shadow

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stuck Furukawa to play solo NSA numb handed while early he was home with esteem and kathira Desert como la halen said mid Kumara De La Habra cat

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