Etiquettes Of Social Interactions

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Be ma LM tena indica, Semyon Mooji, with dua humbler blasphemy. It's a pleasure to be here near Las punctata Except from all of us just Aquila hit everyone for coming. I know this is very cold for Dallas so from the law, may Allah make it easy. And may Allah make us among the grateful having this beautiful place they brought, brought us all together, make or made us wants to learn and hamdulillah what I want to share with you today is another chapter in the Quran. And I think every Muslim and I'm not exaggerating, every Muslim man or a woman, or a young or not very young needs to learn this chapter. It's called the chapter of etiquettes Surah Tula adab. This is exactly how they

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call it.

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Does anybody knows well, it's on the flyer, so you probably figured it out. It's sort of to hold your art it's the compartments, if I can ask those of you specially hoodie Dharavi, you can get your Quran whether it's on your phone or and for those of you who doesn't know how to be very well. It will help you also to follow it's a short Surah it's only a team

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verses but I need you to as we are having a lot of rhyming going through chapters in the Quran. Ramadan is only less than two months for us to get to.

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To look at the Quran in a systemic way. Meaning don't just read the Quran as I see most of the time and may Allah subhanaw taala protect me from it before anybody else is just you open the Quran you flip how much left from the surah how much left from the Jews, then you're not trading

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as one of the teachers used to say who are you rushing? Who are you competing with? So when you open and I'm going to apply it on Alhaji alright.

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Why number one questions for everybody? And then we this we Chawla who will teach us number one, why it is called and how gerat why it's called compartments. I know all of you are going to tell me because the Madurai is in there. But there is many other things in this surah.

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Meaning pay attention to the name of the chapter. The name of the chapter carries the message of the surah almost all the time. So that's number one. Number two, was this chapter or Surah revealed in Morocco or in Medina, who knows?

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And who Jura the compartments. Is it a monkey or a Madani? Surah I want to hear it's one raise your hand anybody?

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I don't want to hear whispers I want someone raise your hand. Be confident and say Bismillah Yes. Madani surah you should not hesitate.

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Again, this is my fourth time here, you're becoming like family. So I'm going to talk to you the way I talked to the icoi

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If you don't know and her gerat Is Madani? Surah You really need to start looking at your Quran. Because there is no doubt this is a Madani Surah

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meaning, the moment you read, you know this is in Medina.

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So again, Hamdulillah we didn't know and hamdulillah Allah made me ask the question, so we all learn. So that's number one. Second, that's why I said open your Quran, what is the surah before? What's the chapter before? And what is the chapter after?

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And what is the connection? By the way, the chapters in the Quran is not the way it was revealed. Meaning before Al Girard is actually sort of told fatter, and fatter was not revealed before moderate, and off is before after the whole gerat it was not revealed after necessarily. Are you all with me give you an example. All of you will learn if correct Bismillah B Kennedy Haluk. Does anyone in this room doesn't know it was the first thing was revealed. Torah soiree saw to Sarah. Anybody yes or no? I want to hear it. Alhamdulillah where it is a Quran in the Quran.

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Chapter if Quran Allah Allah, where is it? All the way at the end? Meaning the sequences how the chapters were put in the Quran is not the way it was revealed. Who made this sequence?

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What is wrong with you today? Is it too cold? What is it? Who made the sequence who put in fact number one? Al Baqarah is too early Emraan three?

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I can't hear you. I can't hear you.

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I will not say it now. Omar.

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Allah subhanho wa taala.

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It was revealed every verse in the Quran when it was revealed. So you know Gibreel told the Rasul Allah salatu salam put it here. Put a D

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I put it here, put it there, then there is as they say, it's still key for you, most of the scholars will tell you this is how it is nobody can change it, then there is a reason

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are you all with me so far? And really I want you when you go home from today to La Milan, it starts as simple as with just a hammer any part in the Quran that you're very familiar with, apply the following it will open your eyes to so many things you have not paid attention to.

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So, what is the every Surah there is a connection between the one before and the one after what is the connection between solar Tahoe Jura to the compartments with sorted for

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the victory or the conquer the one before and off the one after

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I leave it for you at the end remind me if I forget

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what is sort of Hydra talking about this is how you read the Quran. So you bring it to you. And then you look and then you read. And as you understand even if you don't know r&b You know the translation. You can group the verses. This is the subject this is a subject. This is a subject this is a subject. Are you all with me? Bismillah there's mainly four topics in the Surah it's all under etiquette,

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the etiquette of the Muslim community here here as we are today. How do I deal with 1234 Isn't sorted Futura?

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The first etiquette I need to learn is the etiquette with whom

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I want you to answer me with Allah. And that's the first thing in the Surah the first verse,

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first verse. Yeah, you heard the Amanullah to cut demo, Boehner yo de la, don't move forward, before Allah

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move forward. Can I move forward before Allah? Yes or no? Physically? I can't.

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Reality? Yes or no?

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Of course, when I'm asking you the question, the answer is, yes. Really? And how's that?

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You know, when you come? And Allah says, Do this, anything and you say why?

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I'm not convinced.

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And I tell you, Allah said, so you say I'm not convinced. A DMT baignade Ala, you moved in front of Allah. Are you arguing with Allah?

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You're arguing with the Creator.

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Now you're going to say, but I don't do it. And I say, don't answer. As you go through your day.

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Ask yourself this did I answer in a way different than what Allah says in the Quran than I am? Adam to Allah Allah.

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And so the first etiquette is with Allah do not and that Allah also for you, especially those who know Arabi. When you say no, in English or nay is very different from the law in the Quran. There's two kinds of law in the Quran. Don't one mean don't do it. Which means order, which means obligation to follow. And if you don't do it, you're disobeying Allah. The other one mean it's not gonna happen, or it didn't happen. This one is don't do.

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If I do it, I'm disobeying Allah

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amuru Phil Quran your federal job, the order when you study science of the Quran, they teach you this, the order in the Quran means an obligation unless there is associated with something telling you different number one, and I want honestly everybody and tomorrow inshallah with the woman we're going to go in a much more detail, especially the page three. But today I just want to give you I want you to feel more interested, really, this is the surah that I read, I've read Allah knows how many and I didn't pay attention, then then that is something I need to do differently. Number one, advocate with Allah what does it mean? Do not say or do something Allah said Don't say or don't do.

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Period

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comes to Rasul Allah Who salatu wa Sena same thing here in his sunnah. Do we do that?

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Do we look at something and says it just sunnah.

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Yes or no? Yes, we do. I hate to say this, but we do. If we don't say it. We feel it. Right? How many times not in this Masjid I'm sure but how many times you you? I don't look at anybody else. As I always remind myself assayed normally used to say everybody is better than me.

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How many times I finished my salah.

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The obligatory Salah and I rush. And I don't do the Turo cart after motorboat after I show well, it's sooner

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than I did not

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fulfill the right of Roswaal Esau to sir and he led to a demo don't also don't argue

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why do I have to do this? Why do I have to eat with my right hand for example? And then I'll tell you he said so he told the young boy coulby Amina

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eat with your writer and you say no, I can't.

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Then you have done it. Are you all with me? I'm just giving you a simple example. There's way bigger and more and more. So the first order in here is the etiquette with hola Santa Ana in one word, it the next for the next four is the detail of Rasul Allah usato surround the etiquettes. How many of you have been in Roblox?

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Alhamdulillah blasphemy. Right?

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If you have this, the second verse or the third verse, Don't raise your voice. That's what he's saying here. Allah subhanaw taala letter firewall swatter comfort consultant, maybe Don't raise your voice above the voice of rasa Raisa to center. There's two meanings literally, literally. Don't raise your voice. And this is why it was revealed. Because people came Bedouins came to Medina. They wanted him he was having resting in his room. And they said, Yeah, Muhammad, come out,

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literally.

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And that's what Allah revealed. Later, for our swatter, come Don't raise your voice. So I remember very well. The first time I was going to get older, I was with my teacher. And he gave us a lecture before we went and he said when you enter before you enter, Don't raise your voice.

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And he said Don't shout. Look down. Remember who you are going to go and visit the tickets with a rush Swati salatu salam

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and literally when you were at the third demeaning of raising your voice, please forgive me when you say this hadith.

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In Buhari, who said so what is Buhari

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you raised your voice over his voice. When someone tells you it's sunnah and you're not doing it. You know what you say? Your law please make me do it. That's it. That's it, don't reject. We're nobody is perfect here. May Allah make us better, but accept the fact that it's the Sunnah I'll do my best to do it. Allah will make it easy. So second etiquette is the etiquette with a Rasul Allah, His Salah to Sarah, now the most important thing, which is to third, almost more than two thirds of this chapter is the etiquette of the Muslim community.

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And Wallahi by Allah, if we follow this surah this, it's only 18 If we follow it by the letter, we will be what Allah said about us, the best nation

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the etiquettes between us, how many of you

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whether anywhere come to you and says did you hear?

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And you say what?

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Such and such such and such? Yes or no?

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Yes or no?

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Everybody? What is the immediate response?

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Really?

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Wow.

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I didn't know that.

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And what is Allah is saying that's the first etiquette between the Muslim in general. It Agia confessor convener, but in particular, you know,

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if someone and by the way, if someone tells you this, don't get upset, because this verse was revealed because of a Sahabi a companion,

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not you and me.

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When someone comes to you with a news for 2 billion, what is the value? Check it out. Make sure it's true. Number one, number two, make sure it is the way it is. Because sometimes we exaggerate, we change, we didn't hear very well. We thought it means this way to be you know, why Allah

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and to see will Coleman be Johanna, you will hurt somebody.

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And always want someone and this is for everybody. When someone comes to you with a news, take a pause for a second. Turn it around and think if this was you

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If someone came to you telling you something about to me, how will I feel?

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Today you check it out, especially these days with the, with the

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social media and WhatsApp and forward and we forward things we don't even know if it's true or not terrible, you know, and don't be part of this chain.

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The chain I call it the chain of false narration. I'm gonna say did you hear? Did you hear, don't be part of that. If it is true, still don't be part of that because it's not a good news. And if it is false, that's even worse. So the first ticket Allah put here, he says, when you hear something, check it out. Before you suppress it, you may hurt somebody. Second, a ticket in a community which is beautiful. And this is I think, verse number five. He said what Allah mu and I want you all to give me your heart before your brain. And if you have it in front of you read it, because it's about rasool Allah He salatu salam, Wa Allahu, and if he Camarasaurus Allah, no, that Roswell La La Salatu

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Salam is among you. Is he among us?

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Is he among us?

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Yes or no? Of course. How did we end up here? How did we just pray to Isha? How did we just pray total Cartman was almost everybody. He's with us physically. He's not with us. But he should be with us all the time. Of course when this was revealed he was with them if he would have followed our desires

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now you're doing a coffee Bob and I'm lying it to Him your life will be very difficult. What do we learn? The Sunnah came to make my life and yours easier and better.

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Now can we Allah moon if they only know what we don't?

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And then Allah reminds all of us have the favor. It applies here. I love it when I do it in a masjid because it's so much reminds me have Baba era como Eman? It's the grace of Allah that everybody is in this room now.

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Is not me or you or the masjid or this or that it's Allah made us love this Deen. There is how many Muslims in the Dallas Fort Worth area, let's say in Valley Ranch. I don't know. But for I'm sure it's way more than this. This is beautiful number but I'm sure there's way more why you are here.

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Don't tell me because I saw an I came and I made a plan. Then you missed it. He brought you

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for some reason. Allah brought you not because you're so special. Please forgive me. Or I am special. I will do biller have Baba Ed come that's what he's saying. He made you love this. Allah. It's a grace of Allah. He made me love to come to the masjid. He made me love to listen. Read the Quran, learn what Corolla electromech COFRA word for So Carl Asya and he made you Allah reject hate dislike cuff well for so called ASEAN disbelief. For soccer, morality and disobedience. You we are here obeying Allah. This is something pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala but because Allah made it happen and brought you advocates of the Muslim and I'm every verse quickly I'm going through is

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reminds you that this is all from Allah subhanaw taala the etiquette of the Muslim community, whatever name blessing Allah gives you don't say I did it. It's very opposite the time we're living in, especially for the youth. I did it. It's me. It is not you. So Allah made you. Allah made me I'm not speaking. Allah is making me speak. And if we know that, then we will give Allah the etiquette he deserve Subhana. Then he comes. And again, I'm doing it very quickly for the sake of the time. Then he comes into what happens if the two groups disagree? Why in thought if a tiny human anymore Nina,

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two groups of the believers here they fought each other fought each other not necessarily fighting fighting. We disagree. And is that common?

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Way more common than we agree.

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What should we do? Past the whole Boehner Homer? We should not take sides right away. We should always listen to the other side. Even if it is your daughter, even if it's your husband, even if it is your wife, even if it's your children, fastly whole Boehner Homer,

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and then Allah says and if you need to judge, Judge with justice, which is the hardest thing if you're

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Son is fighting with the son of the neighbor. And this is for all the parents here.

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And the son your son comes and says, he hits me.

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Immediately what do you do?

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Immediately? What do you do as a parent?

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You believe your son?

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And you say, and what did you do? I did nothing. No, you should have hit him back.

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That's not the etiquette of the Muslim ummah.

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Number one, check it out. And number two, ask the whole Boehner Huma, you bring that neighbor, son, and you figure out what happened.

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This is if we again, I told you from the beginning, if we apply this, we will be the customer. But we normally react and overreact. And we follow our feelings. And this is my child, this is my brother is my neighbor. And we go by, and this is why he later on Allah puts an important rule who is best in this world. And I'm going to come to it after all this. Then Allah subhanaw taala comes to the most important three verses, to me the most three verses, and everybody in this room, specially the youth suffer

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from not applying this rule.

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What is the biggest problem in schools? If I ask the youth in front of me the boys, what is the number one problem for you as an individual as a young Muslim, mashallah, let's assume, even if you're an established school, but let's assume you're not in Islamic school, what is number one?

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I want to hear it. Somebody said it.

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I'm sorry. It's bullying. True or False? Bullying, the way you look your name. If you have an accent, even if you have none of this, they will find something to bully you. True or False?

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Making fun of you. Right? Oh, she's like that. He's like that he's this he stole his short she is true or false. That's exactly what Allah says. You're Latina, Armineh. And all the calling in this surah except one verse is all believers. And when Allah says all believers, literally give it to you're here, well, don't take it lightly. Because when you're a creator, and my says, Yeah, you're Halina Avenue, meaning what he's going to tell me and you is extremely important. And these are the orders it's orders is not a choice. Are you all with me? Yeah, you had Edina Avenue, or you believe all believers, number one, liars her own men calm. Don't you make fun of each other?

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And I want the youth to listen to me before the adult. And don't tell me I'm joking.

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Because Allah did not say unless you are joking. Categorically, lie Yes, Harpo Moonman, come, may Allah forgive us all. If I am from this country, and you are not, you're going to make fun of me or I will make fun of you, if I am in this color, or this part of the world or this spot or this state, or this college or the school, don't make fun of each other. You know why? Because Allah put the reason they may be better than you as your Qunu higher on minimum,

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they they could be better than you.

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And this is one of the few times in the Quran, where Allah separated the gender. What is well Anissa only Nyssa and specifically, and not a woman from a woman as a Hakuna Hiram in Hoonah. She may be better than you.

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She doesn't carry a purse, that is cost whatever. In the sight of Allah, she could be way better than me and you. He does not drive this car or that car, or he lives in this neighborhood or that neighborhood, the material scale. We we put people am I correct? They could be way better than me on the day of judgment.

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I could be waiting in line to answer Allah and they were hidden in. Number one, don't make fun of each other. When you don't do it. It's an act of worship. I want you all to remember, is like you prayed now, because you obeyed Allah. You can easily do it you can easily answer. You can easily make fun. You have an amazing joke, but you said

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it's not pleasing to Allah. I'm not going to do it. That's an act of worship. It's not because you're polite, or because your parents

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raised you are very well or it doesn't fit me. It's because Allah said don't do it. Number one, don't make fun of each other. lyase her home and Coleman as your Kuno Hiram minimum they may be

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or what Annie sell on Monday saying, as you couldn't hire Robin Hood now comes with three other orders will attend Meizu unphysical one at an ABA zoo will l Cobb be solicited for so Abaddon EMA, or Melania. Tube for Hola, como badimo? Do not look at this one. Sometimes we don't say anything.

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What we give the look?

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Are you with me? You all

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we give the look. And what does the look mean?

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One look at the other, about a third person. You're actually making fun of them. But you're not saying the word. That's what Allah said. When I tell him his one Prosecco, we don't actually houmas a teeny Lomasa world to everyone who have Masen Thomaz meaning with the eye and Lomasa either by the word or by the body language. Don't do that. Don't come to the masjid let alone

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anywhere else. And you look at her and says, Oh, I'm not going to pray next to her. Oh, I'm not going to come close to him. Don't do that.

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And then what about the neighbors? Who will l Cobb? Don't say Don't you know who I am, I come from this family.

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Especially if you're from the same country, and you say Oh, I come from this spot to make sure you tell that person I am. And Allah specifically saying, Do not use your surname, or the family you come from? Basically, you're showing people you're better than them. This is all what Allah is saying. So if you apply it on our daily life these days, maybe there isn't many families because he had not like back home. But don't say my dad is Oh, do you know what's called my dad drive? Or do you know what they gave me a gift in whatever? This is all showing off and putting people down?

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And that's what Allah says don't do it. Don't

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and then comes to the next two more. Most important Yeah, your Lavina Armando. Steny Walker theobromine no one in abala Vani is believers again. Do not think ill of each other. Oh, I know why he said this. I know why he didn't say salaam to me. Oh, I know why she didn't invite me. How do you know

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ah, Tony Walker thier Amina one. Stay away from a lot of suspicion.

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Don't don't think it'll see how you all are thinking.

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If you are in my in my chair, and I'm looking at everybody's face, everyone is thinking

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and how many times you've read this chapter?

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Don't think ill of people.

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You don't know. You don't know why she didn't say salaam to you could be as simple as she didn't see.

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Could be he didn't invite you or he she didn't it could be she had very limited numbers. And she has a big fat. Whatever find an excuse.

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It detainee will stay away is the same word. Okay, let me ask her this question. If I tell you, what is the ruling of drinking alcohol in Islam, what are you going to tell me?

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I want to hear it. Right? What did Allah say in the Quran about the alcohol, each Tinubu. Same word. Stay away from it. And that's exactly the same word he's using, about thinking Ill of each other.

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And sometimes we not even only think ill of each other. But the people of knowledge, the older people, the Imams, the scholars, and

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don't do it. Just enable cathedra I'm not been in a bag of money if it's a sin. When you think ill of somebody when it comes to your mind, brush it, move it as a Roswaal insight or CERAM said either volunteer fella to hawk. If you are thinking Ill of somebody, don't spy. Don't take it to the next step. Next, don't. Are you ready? Can I ask you a question before I say it? How many of you check the phone of someone else in the house?

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Everybody is quiet.

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Don't ask us basically right? Well, that's what he said. Don't do it. What it just says so do not spy on each other.

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Even if it is your children.

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Yes. All the scholars agreed unless when you buy them and this is what I want to show the parents will feel better when you buy a phone to your children.

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And I know your concern, because you got worried

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When you're for the youth, when your dad or mom, check your phone, they're worried about you. Because there's a lot of things that may harm you. Then when you buy them the phone, you make this agreement with them that I will have the permission from you to check your phone, then you're not spying. That's it. But if you didn't do it, and now you're gonna go at it alone.

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Brothers, sisters, spouses, and now you're gonna go and guess the password, or keep trying till you get in. That's a spying. And this is literally haram because Allah says Allah, don't don't spy on each other, let alone your neighbors, let alone somebody else don't want to just say so. Are you all with me? Now? Now comes to the

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Can I ask you a question or leave it?

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I think I'll leave it. Because I don't want to know the answer.

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How many of us and I said us have back bite somebody else?

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Raise your hands, everybody. We all have done it. Right? And Allah says Wella don't Same, same da da da da, yuck, the baba, baba. Do not back by to each other, and are going to come because I want us a little bit spend time on this.

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And Allah didn't say the punishment, which is very interesting. He didn't say what is going to happen to me. But you know what he said, he gave a parable.

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The parable is, do you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother?

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Do you like to do that?

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Do you like to do that? No answer. The courage to move immediately. Allah answered. You hated it.

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And I, Swati sitosterol was coming back from a funeral.

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And to now again, companions were behind him talking something Ill about the person who they just buried at Roswell has sought to slam heard them. He didn't say anything. As they were walking. There was a dead animal on the right. Are you all with me? He said to them turn back to them and says, Go and eat from it. They said Yara so Allah. You know what? He said? You already did it.

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You already deduced

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anything. And don't tell me it's true. Because I know what's in your mind. Now. If it's true, it's backbiting. If it is not true, it's slander. You know what standard in Islamic law, slander, the punishment is public at dashes. And you never accept the them as witness. And they are regarded as facile. It's an Surah to know chapter the light.

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So when you say things about people, and what is backbiting?

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Do you want me to give you the definition?

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Yes or no? Bismillah this is what it is the Kroeker a haka be my Accra either Bulava mentioning your brother or sister

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with something he or she doesn't like, if they hear it.

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You mentioned something about a brother or a sister negatively in their absence, that they don't like if they hear it.

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That's backbiting.

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And Allah says, Don't do it. I want you all take a pause for a second and think of a community.

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And by the way, this is all over the world is not only in here, or they're a community. No one backbite anybody?

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No one, think ill of anybody.

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No one make fun of anyone, let alone let alone they bully them. No one. But if two are fighting he he or she comes in and solve the problem. What kind of community is this?

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That's how they lived the sahaba.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala after all these don't, don't don't, don't don't. He comes and says this is the only time he said Yeah, you are nervous people in general. Now he is going to put

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what is the best word he's going to put the standard of who's better than the other?

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Whether you're half of the Quran, whether you are a physician, whether you're a multimillionaire whether you come from this family, whether you're the most beautiful

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For it doesn't matter we created you from you all know this verse we created you prom man and a woman Haluk now coming the current monitor or Jana control by Wakaba. Look at everybody in this room, everyone is different. And we have made you nations and tribes. Why? To make fun of each other, to bully each other, know, to know each other? Do we do that? We come to the masjid how many times the person next to you don't know who is she or he? And then you say oh Salam Alaikum Aryan, you know, but if there's somebody I know. And then he puts this standard in Kurama command Allah He at car COMM The most honorable among you, in the sight of Allah, not in my sight or yours is the one

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who has Who is Allah conscious meaning summary. If I am the person who applied all the rules I shared with you quickly, I never put Allah before anything, I don't argue or Potter or Soiree. Salatu Salam behind my opinion. I don't think it'll of people. I don't believe anything. Right away. Everybody tells me I am always a key of goodness between people. I don't make fun of anyone. I do not even indirectly make fun of anyone. I don't spy I don't think ill and I don't backbite then I am the best person.

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That's why he said it's our meaning ALLAH conscious. What makes me hold my tongue. And I'm so upset with that person. And he or she is not there. What makes me ups hold my tongue, especially in a time where everyone backed by because I'm Allah conscious.

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And then Allah took comes the end is called Little arabo. Amen. And Allah gives you the definition of faith.

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Faith is when you believe in Allah and the Roswaal a saw to sit down and you don't doubt anything, or to MALAMI or taboo in me known worldly, this is the last verses in the Surah and you know how Allah subhanaw taala and do the surah and then I'm going to connect you with the beginning of the end. The end of the sort of any chapter in the Quran is actually a summary the final message take home as we say, Take home message you know what's the take home message and so written how to write

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anybody

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in Allaha animal a be similar to a lot of Allah knows all the unseen and the heavens and the earth, while la Habima Tama Luna Basia and Allah is Seeing everything you do everything you're doing. Are you all with me? Everything he was saying, Don't do don't do don't do don't do up to you. But Allah is Seeing it. And Allah knows it. And Allah also knows if you didn't do it, why did you not do it? The reason it is following Surah two.

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If you see the last verse of Surah 12th, Muhammad Rasul Allah, Muhammad Ali salatu. Salam is the messenger of Allah and Allah describes the companions. And then he says, the last part of this verse word Allahu livina, Amma nomming como hamilo Saudi hat, Mark Fearrington wijeratne Alima those who believe and do good deeds he will forgive and great reward and all the good deeds are described off

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you're not going to do any of this. Everybody is doing it this too difficult. I don't want to do it up to you off and what's off talks about death and dying.

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Daddy comma contaminate autofeed which are at circa two multi will help. The moment of death came in with the truth. This is what you are running away from. May Allah subhanahu Tala teach us your OB I mean myself, number one before anyone. Teach us what is beneficial and more importantly, help us to practice I don't think anything I said in the last almost 45 minutes that anyone in this room didn't know. We just need a reminder. And we need the strength to practice and we need to help each other. We need to learn when someone is backbiting say please, let's not do that. This is backbiting This is not pleasing to Allah, at least inside the masjid or inside our homes. Not like really Oh, and

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then you help. And may Allah subhanaw taala make it easy and may Allah subhanaw taala forgive all our shortcomings your OB me to Zakum Allah Subhana Allah Allah be handy. A shadow Allah. Stuff Furukawa to booty son Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad, while early he was happy to see him and cathedra to Zack malaco You were amazing. panela you really listened and none of the kids were a distraction. Subhanallah any questions?

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Anybody? Yes, please.

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Go ahead

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Synlait Come on Come Sudan. This is on the subject of backbiting. I knew it. Would it be considered Tamara is all about backbiting, don't worry, yes. Would it be considered backbiting if you're in a group and people are talking like extensively about somebody else's life not in a bad way, but just like talking about that's called vain talk. For example, She traveled or he traveled, they got a new job, as long as there is no negative. It's basically you're not backbiting but that's vain talk. After the honeymoon Minjun successful there believer peer Salatin him harsher on they are in hotshot doing so well Latino man in love with module. One of them definitions of love who is vain talk, just

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talk that's gonna get me nowhere. But it is negative talk is backbiting.

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Yes, please. Why do you consider

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if someone wronged me

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and you are hurt,

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and you want to vent, not not in public, but to like maybe your mother or maybe a sister just like to just to like backed by advice backed by silver, unless you didn't see the name.

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If you come to for advice, which is very common, you know what, somebody at work? did this to me? What do you think I should do? That's not backbiting you did not specify.

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But if you're going to comment says my husband did one and two and three and four and five. With all my apology, it's backbiting or you go and say my wife did 1234 It's backbiting there is no exception. Very few. Very few. And I'm not going to give you the exceptions because everybody is going to hold to the exceptions.

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Yes, any of the brothers? Yes, please. The younger man behind the

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Saramonic Lolly consider a bunch of people. How old are you first? 1414. Mashallah, and you stayed listening to this. You make me happy? must contact during warranty? Yes. Some people have said that you're allowed to backplate when the personal question is someone in power, is that correct? I'm sorry. I don't think I understood you. Some people have said that. If you're backbiting with someone in power, it doesn't count. Is that true? It does count.

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Even leaders, it's the same definition.

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The only time it is not backbiting. Now everybody is going to hold to this because that's if the person is doing something publicly.

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For example, there on the TV set something and that something is negative. And you said you know what? That's what they said on the TV because public eye muda herbal Masseria, there is this is not but most of the time is we go on and on and on, on and on his backbiting when you start adding your opinion, and

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the best way is as I always say it Zipit the best way to stay safe. And say no more said men Keturah Kilimo Catherine Keturah Cayambe Catarratto woman Catarratto Catarratto whomsoever speaks too much will make mistakes and who the person who makes a lot of mistakes will lose the respect.

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Anybody in the back? ladies? Ladies in the back?

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Yes, okay.

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I can

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let me phrase my question. Yes. So, you said that we cannot say anything about anyone at all, at all. But one needs therapy sometimes and your knee is not to hurt or say things but you just you know, you leave okay for therapy. Because if you didn't, you're gonna go to community. So you don't say anything unless it's therapy.

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Therapy on go crazy. Therapy, because one of one of that loud ones is when you go and complain about injustice that happened against you. It's one of the ones that's allowed, or in case of marriage, or in case of recommendation.

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For somebody, for example, you have a handyman coming to work in your home, and he worked in my home. So you pick up the phone and mewn says, How was the job? Well, he didn't do a good job. I have to tell you what, I have to say it in

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a nice way. I'll give you two examples. One recent and I was there. A woman came to the shear asking

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him about somebody he knows very well for marriage.

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So the sheikh wanted to tell her it's not a good idea.

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Right? What did he say? Now, the answer to yours and to you and he said he comes from a country that is well known that they have temper.

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What did he just told her?

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He has a temper, but he did it. indirectly.

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Are you with me? A man divorced his wife. Right. And he they came to ask him why did you divorce? He said, I do not talk about something in the past. They came to him and said your your ex wife married somebody else. He said, I don't talk about the wife of other people

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how do you with me? Yet you all are silent? I love it. And hunger allowed and during this surah? Honestly, what like we can do with it just because it is. Everyone is doing it. What are we going to talk about? I didn't mean it is true and we justify it. But if we really start paying attention, that we are going to be asked about these words. As said Roswaal is sought to a certain set to say no more is the correct code. Okay, and why May your mother more knew what else will put people in the Hellfire but the harvest of their tongue?

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Subhan Allah, we have to stop praying.

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One more question.

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I don't know that somebody a young person at the end? I don't know. They are really have a question of they're just raising their hand. I on we're back there. Is there somebody from the Yeah, let's take from the men's side. Yes, please.

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Now there is brother this. Yeah. He was before and then we'll go to Don't worry.

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zohydro

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had two specific questions, one on slandering and the other and backbiting. Okay, there's a slandering if a person slanders you,

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and like, what do you recommend should be done? Especially if they have like mental illnesses like narcissism? Should we, you know, have suburbs or should we take justice for that? And of course, it comes and asks you about that situation? What should your response be? So someone standard you publicly? Yes, publicly? Yes. What do you do? Tumblr, we live in a country that there is laws. So first, before you go to that far, you go and reach to the people who knows that person. Right? That's why we that's why the Muslim community, you reach to the Imam, you reach to a friend, and you say, This is what I heard. Please just tell them stop it to Allah and myself. I'm not going to do

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anything. Just let's not go there. Let's not talk about this. No, it's continued. There is rules here in this country. You know that you don't want to go that far. But if it's continuing to specially if it is hurting you, whether or hurting you at work or hurting you and your reputation, yes, you have to take but don't go that far. But don't answer and start Oh, let them see themselves, then you are the same.

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You don't want to be the same as the other person. That's why Roswaal is sought to a Salam said I thought it will mark tool for now. He said the two people who are trying to kill each other. Both are in the Hellfire one kill the other. Both are in the Hellfire Sathyaraj so Allah one was killed. So the killer Okay, but why the the other person in the hellfire, he said, Because if he didn't kill him, he would have killed him. So I will not respond the same way. Because then I'm the same, but I'm going to try what I want. I want them to stop saying this. So you're going to reach to people to stop they didn't. Then you take the legal actions if it's really hurting you or just if Allah masala

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just forgiven pardon. It depends how much arm is there. Also, the second backbiting was that there's an opinion. I've heard that if it's someone who's not Muslim, you're allowed because it says it's the same.

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It's the same. I'm glad you asked this because I forgot to say this because he didn't say only the Muslims.

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It's the same. How do you feel if a non Muslim backbiting

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hurt?

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Same thing we need to really elevate any, the Muslim almost paler as I was reading one of the commentaries about this before I before just before I came in, he was describing if this ummah applied to the letter of the Surah it will be the ideal. The ideal society

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Subhan Allah Yes, the young man and the last one. Yes. Earlier in your talk, you said that. You were talking about the order of which sort of 100th was and you said Allah subhanaw taala told the prophet how the order

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was, but wasn't the Quran compiled after his death? No, I'm glad you asked this the Quran was compiled at the time of Allah Swati. So there's a difference between compiled and written and then made the Quran that we know right? This one is a time of Jose Narottama. That's why I called the most awful lot of money. This one, right, but at the time of Roswell resorts, it was compiled. It was this one, this one, this one this one. And then time of Satan Abu Bakr. He made it been 15 he made with two and it stayed with whom

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stayed with him.

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I didn't hear it. Somebody said it in the back.

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One of the wives of Roswell he saw it was Santa. She kept it with her. Who was it say to have saw the daughter of Satan Omar said now burqa came in when the Muslim ummah became big everywhere, they came to him and says people are reading differently now different languages like see how we are and we are worried is going to change. So he called Five of the Kuttabul why those who really rich they were writing as of rasool Allah Sato Sinha and he said sent to Hafsa and take permission from her to give it to me, so they can write exactly what's in this one. And I'll bring it back to her. So he did five of them and the five of them then we went to different parts of the world and that's how we

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ended up with this. Right to sacrum Allahu Allah may Allah reward you all spanic hola como behind the shadow Allah the Highland esta Furukawa to boudic SallAllahu ala Sayidina Muhammad while early he was Harvey, Tasneem and cathedra