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Family – Part 5

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Hacene Chebbani

Channel: Hacene Chebbani

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Difficult Issues in the Quran

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi is right.

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In this halaqa. Today, Allah will focus on the story of he.

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And he's citing the use of his story with his son Joseph and his brothers. So we focus on the ordeal of jacobellis. The challenge or the hardship that he faced, by losing his son, Yusuf Ali slept for a long period of time. Some Roman said 18 years some some of them said 14 years, we don't have an exact number. But definitely It was a long period of time because when he loses him when he lost him,

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use of Allah Salam was a young child. And then when he met him again, in Egypt, he was an adult. He was the chief minister to the king. So he was someone who was was an adult, so it must be, it must have been a long period of time. And Yahuwah Sarah was married to four wives.

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Two of them were Leah, and the other one was that a heel in English is Rachel.

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They were his cousins, from his uncle, paternal maternal uncle who used to live in, in Iraq in the land of Heron and his uncle, his name was leaving. So he got married with two sisters at

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that time, it was permissible for them to look, you know, to get married with two sisters at the same time. But there are some scholars who insisted that Yahoo Valley center did not get married with the two sisters at the same time, but married with Rachel after Leah passed away a long time.

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So he got 12 children

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jacoba Sam was blessed with 12 children, six of them from the first cousin, his first cousin Leah, and then for from the other two ladies, and two were from Rachel or Rohit in Arabic. And the two are Yusuf Ali Silla, and his brother Binyamin. And in English, they call him Benjamin.

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What happened to Yusuf Ali Salim, you know, their story is found well documented in the Old Testament. But it's different. There are big differences between the story of iacobelli salaam in the Bible, and between his story in the Koran. So in Islam and Christianity, we recognize both, both faiths are followers of both religions recognize that iacobelli Center is the one who was named Israel, who was named Israel in the Quran. And Israel, in the Quran, and in the Bible. And the both Christians and Muslims believe that he had 12 children, and he is the father of the 12 tribes. So every child

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got married and he had, you know, a big Mashallah his his descendants were a big tribe. So that's why we have the 12 tribes of Israel have been to Israel, a beneficiary, they are called in operando. Israel.

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What happened to iacobelli Selim to us, actually, and his brothers is something that's very common. It's a problem. It's a common problem that could be found in many families. And it is called sibling rivalry, which is jealousy, competition, and could be sometimes fighting between brothers and sisters. And before talking about the story of yaku, let's forget the story of Apple for a moment. Now. Let's talk about this, this discuss this materially by itself, in this competition between brothers and sisters, and what we need to do about it as as Muslims. So this problem, you know, this matter of sibling rivalry, they said it could take place, which usually takes place, or it happens

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in the form of no competitive relationship,

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or animosity at other times between brothers and sisters. And most of the time, they said competition between young children is about or is the result of a desire for more of a greater attention from parents. And this is normal. All kids do it. You know, I mean, as parents if you play with the youngest brother who is three years or two years, so she's one year old ruler, the one who is close in age most likely will come to you will feel some jealousy and will try to get your attention. It's more

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Allah subhanaw taala created them this way or created us this way. Because we were children too. So we're talking here about sibling relationship. And it could be very complicated, because this is usually influenced by many factors, such as parental treatment. So as parents who have to pay attention to the way we teach our children could be influenced by birth order.

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You know, there is a big gap between children usually there will be no strong competition between them, but if they are close in age, so that the story could be different, and personality, the personality of the person, some of them are, some of the children are very nice, they're very

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kind, but some of them are have different temper and experiences outside the family when they mix with other children mix with other families know now, some researchers are claiming in child psychology, that the aggressive response to a new baby in the family is so typical, that it is safe to say that it is a common feature of family life, it is something that has to be accepted. And there are some parents who become very surprised when they get the second child. And then they feel that the first child is not accepting his brother, who is not accepting his sister, his sister, this is normal. This is found in every family and parents actually have to prepare themselves for this

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kind of behavior.

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And they just have to be alert to the matters of favoritism and they have to take appropriate steps to deal with the problem from from any early stage they don't allow it to become bigger analysis analyze a lot more It was silom

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said it all when he said it toppled law what do you do Bane Abner econ already lubaina illogical rationalize I sell them is inviting the parents who fear Allah. Because this is a mafia. When we distinguish between our children. We don't treat them with justice. So the law says Allah made very clear this is a very general principle that every father every mother has to keep in mind, a temple law What do you mean Oh daddy come fear Allah subhana wa tada and cheat your all your children with the justice. This is very painful. A very painful when parents treat in a favor some of the children over other children is not something easy. And we'll we'll talk about yaku le Salah, we will see if

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iacobelli Sarah was doing the right thing, or it was a mistake. I don't believe it was a mistake. But I'll explain to you why.

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No, but we'll talk about it insha Allah. So one of the common mistakes that are you know, taking place in family life is this constant. This is another problem. Or this is one of the forms of favoritism is constant comparison

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within family life comparison between children.

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And it might take different forms. And this comparison might fuel actually unhealthy, this unhealthy competition between between the children. So the topic of comparison between children is one of the favorite topics in many families. So many families, many parents, many

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adults from day one, they start they talk about who got the first tooth who spoke too early.

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May I know at an early age, who walked first the compare between children, this is normal. And this is okay because children will not pay attention to this their children is still children, you're not going to talk to your child to your son at the age of 20 or 30. Hey, my son, you remember, you walked before your your brother who is 19 or 20, we don't talk about that actually, this topic will have a different flavor.

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And it becomes worse. So what I'm talking about here who got the first tooth, or who walked first at an early age or who did this and this by the friendly face or these these things are not really important and when they are accepted. Family talk about the compare between children. And it is fine if it doesn't turn into or it doesn't continue actually to school, then college, then the workplace.

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It is fine and accepted it is it doesn't turn into who owns

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the bigger house, who makes more money, who drives the best car. And here it becomes very difficult. It becomes difficult it becomes painful. Sometimes as I told you before, this is something that they face in this community when someone decides to buy a house through the mortgage, and the other

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One refrains is that this is harder and it's especially if this brother has cousins and brothers who all of them all of them decided to buy a house

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and then we meet and talk to talk about their achievement. Oh, achieving the American Dream told you about the American Dream owning a house in North America and the other brother they said it's haha I'm I want gender. I want to please the last panel. This is Mukesh, I want to and if I own a house, I want to own it in hell anyway, that is not easy. So they've got brothers and complaining. I mean, what can I do?

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In this situation? I sit with my brothers and my cousin and do all the talking what is the solution? You want to talk about the subject and how much money they're making? And the houses the cars and everything? What is the solution yet what all these pain and the suffering will end if families and communities shift their focus

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to something else? focus on something else. But the math is awful out here who memorized more for our regular with his five daily prayers in the muscle? Who's following the Sunnah of Rasulullah assassin

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who went and made his Umrah and Hajj first. This is this is a hillaire competition. This is a beautiful competition Allah Allah says in the Torah will be very careful. hnf faasil chinafy soon in this let the competitors compete. So Allah subhanaw taala wanted us to compete wants us to compete in this area.

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Who comes to our brain? First of all, in the Mersey, who comes early to the Juma prayer who doesn't miss Mrs. Salawat in the massage,

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who gives most of the cotton zeca this was the last pantalla wants us to talk about.

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And then everyone will be fine. I mean, my brother is going to the message all the time I should compete with him without any grudges without any ill feelings, right.

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But if he start bragging, keeps on bragging and talking about his achievements and his house, and the money that he's making, whether you feel bad, you feel that he's like trying to put you down, you're not making enough money, you don't own your house. So this this comparison, one could be very painful.

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So anyway, as a conclusion, yet one Ghanian, most parents who have more than one child, most parents, than one child will experience this they will face this problem, the problem of sibling rivalry or competition between their children, they just have to be alert about favoritism favoring some children over other children's. As I said they should reminder they should remember the hadith of Rasulullah saw cell and a taco la de la Vina oladipo and he should be alerted about comparing between their children and also the need to treat their children with justice and inshallah Bismillah life will be good evening later.

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Now let's go back to the story of iacobelli Selim. The problem started when use of the brothers felt that the Father Yahuwah Salah is giving more attention or giving love to their brother Yousef and his, his brother Benjamin orbignya mean Anima Salah. Binyamin is not a prophet but use of added Salaam was a prophet. Joseph was a prophet Allah is Allah. So Allah subhanaw taala told us they said, What Allah subhanaw taala related in so much in the future, it

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was a who have boo la abena Amina wanna know in

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a movie. So they said, they said Yousef and his brother more beloved to our father than we, while we are a clan, we are a group of people and we are powerful. We do the work for him. We do we take care of the the cattle and the sheep and we do the farming. We do all the farming activities. We're supporting the family and we are a group of people that he's favoring us have and his his brother Binyamin. So they accuse their father of showing more attention to the two brothers uses. Was it the mistake of your approval. This is something that they want you to understand today.

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And I believe that it was not a mistake of iacobelli Silla jacoba was more attention to the youngest of his children.

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So he was not favoring uses because he's using even though at a certain point he felt that use of might have a brilliant future and use a valet Sara could be the next profit in the film, because of the dream that use of alley Salem saw.

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But he didn't favor use it because he's using

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He's been near me know that he was favoring them, or giving them I would, I would say I would use this word, giving them more attention because they were the youngest in the family among his two. And this is something normal. Most of the parents feel that they are more attached to the youngest, a younger children, to their younger children, and they feel like the other children, older children are more independent, and they should be treated differently. If you comment, and try to you know, play with your child who is 12 and 13 the way you play with your child who is two and three, the other one will feel they feel like you are you're being annoying actually. Yeah, you're not Yeah,

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and are doing justice. I don't want this justice. I mean, come on dad. I'm 1213 right. So you don't treat them the same way. But you enjoy the little ones. You enjoy them it's normal to give them more attention to show them love and attention because they need it. They depend on you, but the other ones are independent.

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So I believe below this is what Yahoo was doing. He was not favoring some of his children over the others in the classical sources of knowledge classical some classical process of knowledge they don't have now the resources in mind.

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We find a beautiful piece of wisdom. They said a wise man was asked Hakeem to either hakima

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human so in Are you meant to have

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a lake men have boo Abner acre lake politics in the family. So he said this Hakeem he said a serie rohatgi Yakubu

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Merida hotter.

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hetero hetero almario, hetero, hetero, hetero. So this why why is man was once asked, you know who among your children are more beloved to you? So he said what was his answer? He didn't say Amador, Mohammed Ali, rob the Father. He said the youngest ones.

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The youngest until they grow up the sick until they get well. And the traveling ones until they come back. So I give more attention to these people. He's sick, I give him more attention because he's sick. He needs some help. He needs to he needs my or she needs my attention at that time. So it's not about me or Andy or Mohammed? No. So I believe that he

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was giving more attention to us and Sarah and his brother Binyamin because of their young age. This is something that we need to clarify tonight with the lighter there is another possibility that is found in the in the Old Testament. And it was adopted by many scholars of Tafseer. They said that their mother Rachel, use of sin and use of smother Rachel or hate in Arabic, passed away while delivering when she's giving when she was giving birth to the second child Binyamin.

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And this is as I said, found in the Old Testament, it was adopted by many scholars of DFC, Allahu taala. And there are some other scholars who did not accept this. They said we don't have proof from the Quran and the Sunnah, that she passed away before when she was giving birth to Binyamin. So now their mother if she passed away when she was giving birth to Vinnie, I mean that means their mother was not there. So they had only a father, and they were young. So this is another reason for him to give them more attention and more love because their mother was not present. There are as I said, other scholars who use the other proof what he added at the end of the surah the a 100 years old

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accusative that he raised his parents upon the throne. So there is some discussion about parents who are his parents here. Those who believe that she passed away when she was giving birth to Binyamin. He said no, actually, the one that was with the Apple Valley center was not his real mother. She was his aunt Leah. But again, there is a story in the Old Testament that Leah might have passed away a long time ago. So they said one of the other two wives, because one of the two, one of the two because they had four wives. She is the one who took care of Yusuf Ali Salaam and his brother Binyamin Allahu taala. And him and I feel inclined more and more inclined towards

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the other opinion that says that his mother, their mother did not pass away and she was alive. That time. The Quran does not tell us anything about her reaction to ultimate sadness after losing municipalities Senate has to be the answer. This question is nothing in the parameters for the future for both his mother and the whole story both his mother his father

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describing his anguish describing his suffering after he lost his, his, his his son youth. And the answer came from the earlier man. He said this is actually the Quran. The Quran does not give us details about evidence in the family if he's talking about the story. He doesn't give us every single thing, every single detail. The Quran tells us about the incident that are important to the believers, which contain some wisdom, some lessons, because this is a big story. I mean, 20 years he lost his child for 20 years. It's a long period of time. The Quran told us about some pieces of conversation between his children, and also his reaction and the way he was patient. And he's do as

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this is what is more important for Muslims to learn Willow Tyler, Adam. Anyway, in any case, shavon was able to arouse jealousy in the hearts of their brothers and the plotted against Utah Valley Center. This is what happened. And by the way, the rest as I said, the rest of the brothers, the 11 brothers who are not profits,

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because there are a number they said, What did the use of could not be, it's not something accepted, and they cannot be prophets or messages. But one last word Allah said I revealed to us in the Quran last month or mentioned in the Quran, Allah smart Allah, grandchildren, they mean that in their offspring or in their descendants, Allah, Allah selected, chosen some prophets and messengers. It doesn't mean those 11 brothers of use of Elisa will profit they will not prophets and messengers, the only prophet among the mafia coup is you use of La Silla, and then they his grandchildren. So their children, their descendants, some of them were prophets and messages, among them is Mashallah

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Salah was great, you know, a prophet Ali Salaam and some other Sulayman, and they're rude, and zekeriya, and you're here and some prophets and messengers. And

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so anyway, in this story, they said, they made a very strong, strong statement to Lucifer

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was a vehicle with a column in the home inside of him. So in this ayah, here, they said, kill us if that is one of them suggested that you should kill us if this is a very popular very, it's an evil thought, or cast him out to some other land and send them away.

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That the favor they said, so the favor of your father may be given to you alone. So the attention and the love of your father, you receive his attention and his his love use of is not there is not present. So you'll be you'll have a good relationship with your father. That was the thinking.

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And he said, After that you will be righteous people. So they were thinking about Toba and becoming good after we do these evil. So it shows that many believers they were thinking about,

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about you know Toba, that means they had some demon in their in their hearts. And then this is the struggle that we have the battlefield is between evil and between prayer between goodness is always there. This is the story of humanity and the battlefield of this.

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This struggle and this war between evil and clay, goodness in our hearts. So that way, we need to take care of our hearts. If our hearts are pure and good, then everything will be easy for them. But they said one of them one of the children. Some of them suggested that he was Yuda, he was the eldest the most intelligent, he suggested that they should throw Yusuf Ali Salaam in a world. And he might be picked up by a caravan passing caravan. And he will disappear from the sight of their father and the problem will be solved. So this man, he actually had some affection towards his affection towards his brother, don't kill him, just throw him in the world. And this is a very

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intelligent suggestion, because if they left him in the, in an open field, you know, their father was worried about, about the wolf coming and eating use of a cell and that means that was a concern for them. So the area, they had wolves there, they had some animals there in that area, and they were worried about the safety of the young ones in that area. So the left hand in the in an open field of nighttime, the wolf might have come in and and eaten him up, right. But this man, he said, No, throw him in the world. So the wolf cannot reach him will be alive and a caravan might come and take him to it. And he said, we will repent after that after this crime, it will become good people.

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So they went to this their father, they begged him

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To allow users to come with them, and play with them and enjoy himself. And he promised that they will take care of him. Of course, he ended the Father, the Father, and

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He showed some

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visitation. And he was worried and he showed this concern and he was concerned about over the safety of his of his child. Feeling better, Wolf, this is what he said. Maybe he was worried about the behavior of his own children. But he said, this is what he said, Yeah, by giving the benefit of doubt to his own children, feeling that the wolf might come and attack his his own his own son, or his brothers or kills them or they're not paying attention. But at the end, jacoba, Sarah decided to allow us to go out with his brother the next day. So the next day they took us for them, they went to the world as planned. And some authors, they suggested that they pretended to be playing in the

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world. they pretended to be playing with him. So they put in place him in a bucket or something, pretending that they were playing with him and they sent him down to the world. And of course, it seems that this world was not full of water otherwise he would have suffocated in water.

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It was not full of water for a long time.

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And he removed his shirt before sending him down to the world removed his shirt. If he was young, he was innocently paying attention he didn't pay attention to the plot. So maybe he did. He removed his shirt he only willingly allowed to add and what happened is the killed a sheep and the fact his shirt with with blood

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so to produce some false to false evidence, and Allah subhanaw taala said in operando Allah komisi Biederman COVID was yeah Oh Allah Missy resort user. Was yo Allah komisi with me and Caleb and he brought his shirt stayed with false blood is worthless parenthetical. And so first of lights means is not the blood diffuser is the blood of the sheep. And iacobelli. Sarah was a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He was intelligent, Allah subhanaw taala doesn't choose any people who are

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all Prophets and Messengers were extremely intelligent, knowledgeable, wise, so he did not believe their tears. And he looked actually he held the shirt. And he remarked, and he said, what the merciful Wolf, what the mercy of a wolf, he, he ate up my my beloved son without tearing his shirt

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without tearing his shirt. So it's not a good evidence, and they will surprise but he kept swearing and telling their fathers and confirming to him that this is what happened. But of course, he did not believe them, but he could not get any more information from them about what happened to us.

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So jacobellis, Ella immediately realized that this, this is a masiva This is a calamity. This is a trial is being tested, and his trial that is befalling his family, and he

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is a decree for las panatela. And he realized, or he remember that the first a bad what is that a bad first a better than we should show. We should do exercise, and the time of calamities is to show sober and patience. So he said he made a beautiful statement. He said Carla Bell, so when I click on food sukham Ameren for sub Brune, Gianni Allahu Stan or Allah matassa for today, but your own selves have made up a story. So for me beautiful patience, we'll talk about the meaning of beautiful patience is most treating, and it is a law alone, whose help can be sought against that line which you assert.

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And it is Allah alone. If he's alone, he didn't think about them, maybe I'll go and talk to their mothers. They're convinced they put some pressure against them, and they will be able to get the truth.

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They will be added to he felt that this is a masiva. This is a try. I don't know what happened. As I said, a long period of time. Last credit, Allah is telling us about some incident. So yes, the behavior of jacobellis seller was a great profit, as a great believer in the last panel of data, who is placing his trust placing fully, fully placing his trust in the last panel. So this there is a great lesson here for all of us, and he's a man and his faith, and also his firm trust in the last panel attack, he immediately remembered that he should be patient, and he should place his trust in the last panel with Allah against the content of his own songs. And this is, as I said, a wonderful

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blessing. Now the timing of December is very important. The timing of his statement.

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And I want you to pay attention here, because we will discover the reality by looking at the timing of his statement.

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He said what they said

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He immediately made this statement about being patient and having beautiful patience

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this calamity.

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Now, what do we know about the timing timing is very important here.

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And it is part actually of some of his work.

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Eventually everyone will be patient.

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Well they can

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be

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submitted

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in number four in the submarine is a patient is only the first guy

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to greet

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when he received the news,

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go is cry and scream and, and panic, also patients. So that is the patient that we are talking about.

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made the statement This is Heidi, that is found in Bukhari and Muslim. He was passing by the symmetry. There was a woman who lost her child. And she was she was crying, making some sounds, you know, she was not chewing patience, sort of for less excellence said to her. She was not looking at him. She didn't recognize him. He didn't even recognize her voice because she was suffering to cry. She must have some sort of loss as Ellen said the tequila was very Yeah, the tequila was very,

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very old lady fetullah and have some patience.

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So and then he left but what did he say? What was his reaction? He said LA County Fair in the column two c two sub B musi Betty

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ilica Anita in the column two supremacy but she said away from me. You're my calamity has not been fallen you have you are not aware of it. Yeah. And you don't know what I'm going through. Basically, this is what they say in this country. Either know how I feel about the future know what I'm going through, you don't understand. And I was expecting people to show some support and everything, which is fine sometimes. But sometimes you exaggerate and we cross the limits. And I'll tell you about complaining to people complaining too much. There is a difference between complaining a lot of complaining about color a lot to other people. So here comes the difference between, you know,

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different types of shampoo, and the relationship with beautiful patience. So here in the afternoon,

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they told her that it was a messenger for Allah. So she felt she felt sorry for that for her reaction. And she went to his house looking for him to apologize. So he went to him, he knocked the door and she met him in a couple months.

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I didn't recognize I didn't know that you're the Messenger of Allah karasuma Setsuna what was his answer? Kingdom a sub zero. And the third little ooda is patience is only at the first strike of briyani. Now, eventually, as I said, and this is what Rama said, this is the real meaning Danny the real patience, that is beneficial and the one that should be rewarded on the day of judgment and should be blessed by Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one that takes place right away after the person receives when us about his calamity or her calamity.

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You lose a family member or you lose your job or you lose a business or money. So patience is is your reaction, your calmness,

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your thinking, thinking as you're having good thoughts about the loss pelota plans for you. And that moment, right immediately after you receive the news immediately after you know the calamity. Otherwise, the initial impatience at the later stage. It is not it is not any, it's not something that is excellent is not something that is beneficial. Because eventually as I said, whether we like it or you don't like it, we will show some patience and we will accept it

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and we will live with it.

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This is our human nature. So the difference between those who are patient and those who are actually not patient is timing. Timing is very important here. And this is what he

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did after he received this news. This is what he said he said possible injury now what is a southern Genie, what is beautiful patients who are

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in African will suffer the means is to detain to refrain from stop. This is the literal meaning of the word chub.

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And in the spiritual sense, they said patients needs to stop ourselves from despairing or panicking, despairing in the rational for most pelota sparing about the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala all panicking, our tongues and also stop

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chunks from complaining about the other of the last panel attack that people who strike their faces when they hear the news of the first time. So like the faces are the key the most, you know, this is a clear this is a, this is a mercy, actually it's a sin.

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And this is something very common in many communities. It gives you a sense, it's your statement you're making, or she's making is that you're not pleased with the other fella.

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I'm not pleased with the other philosopher editor and this is not this is not the behavior of a true believer. So what is the beautiful patients are several Janine check is going to change here. Do you find it he MSA This is the same opinion of the aroma. They say the several Jimmy a several Villa Shaka. So there is nothing extra is suburbia Shaka, he said it is a patient without any complaints and complaints.

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Without any complaint to the owner. He said, you know, the pain is there. The suffering is there because there are some people, there are some Buddha

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who were discussing sober. This actually the reality of suffering Islam is being able not only is not to distinguish between times of ease, and times of difficulty, and to be content all the time should be happy all the time.

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refuted this notion of sub, said this is impossible. This is difficult. We're human beings. This is not this is against our nature.

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Study stories.

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He was showing pain.

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He was suffering. He was sad, because he lost his beloved son. But he himself has said I am going to exercise patience. Beautiful patience is most trading for me. So is there a contradiction here between him, you know, show showing his anguish, but not complaining who is not complaining to people? That's the difference here. So the only remedy said there are two types of shekou checkweigher is complaining tshepo in Arabic is to complain to dissent, the first type of complaint is to complain to Allah.

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And this does not contradict

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complain to Allah subhanaw taala and himself.

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He says international true that he was in Illinois, after the he criticized him his own children criticized him for remembering us all the time. He was talking about us all the time. And showing his grief about the loss of use of La Silla.

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So he complained is what do you keep talking about future you're gonna kill yourself. So did what his response to them not complaining to you?

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Has nothing to do with you, even though

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there was plotted against their own brother, he did not complain plenty to remember.

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And that's it is it and only complain about my suffering and anguish to Allah pelota. And this does not contradict submit to go back and you go back to Allah and start making darat even if you are crying, that's okay. You're a human being. You're supposed to show these emotions. Yeah. And it's part of our nature. Trying is not against

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trying, or you know, if your tears are coming down, is that I

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was crying when he lost his son Ibrahim, and he said, but he said what an Apollo 11 movie.

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We don't say except what pleases that. We don't say anything that goes against our aqeedah Oh, that might affect the relationship with Allah, Allah with Allah might show that we are complaining about the other of Allah. He lost his his child, Ibrahim Ali Salah when he was at the age of two, or three in, in Sun for Marian. Now the second type, the aroma he said The second type of complaint of chakra is to complain to people, either directly through words, or indirectly,

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the way we look. Okay.

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So we don't say anything, but the way we behave. Rob said, in a good mood, we don't want to talk to anyone.

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And we expect people expect people to understand to show the port and to be patient with us. Because we're facing suffering, we're saving big calamity. So everyone in our surroundings has to understand and if people don't meet our expectations, we don't happen. We feel that they are not genuine

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or they are not doing their duties of showing you know that there are friends or their family members. So they should you know, feel the same pain. So you expand you have big expenses.

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For people, and this is against suburbia, the beautiful concept of suffering is

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to when you when you face a problem, as a Muslim, you always think about the help of a last panel attack. You don't try to show your suffering to people expecting them to sympathize with you, expecting them to show their support, expecting them. And if they don't do that, then you become upset. And you might have hold some carry some hatred or some practice again, towards them. This is not Islamic, and this is not accepted. And this behavior contradicts patience, which is an excellent virtue in Islam, a young patient what was mentioned 93 times in the Koran, some olema they said the religion actually religion is based on two main concepts.

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The first concept is patience. And the second one is show called gratefulness. Because they said life is either good or bad. There is no third option

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is either good or bad. When you have in good time, you're supposed to thank a lot. Hello, dad. Thank you. Let's pettalia with your time with your man with your actions with your statement.

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You know talking to people about the name of the last panel to add on. It's okay for our material because I had this. So this is how we show gratefulness for Allah subhanaw taala and also obeying the last paradigm, the best way to find a Lost Planet Allah is to obey Allah subhanaw taala Papa will chuckle because you show you're grateful for being an obedient servant. The other time when you're having some difficulties,

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facing some hardship, that what is your Eva is suffering. So basically life is between seven patients and gratefulness.

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The second wonderful lesson in this story, one is that jacoba salaam was trying his best to give benefit of out to his children. And use of La Silla did the same thing.

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Use a valet and he said that he was he tried to give the benefit of doubt to his own brothers. So we learned this from the beginning of the surah and the end of the surah in the beginning sort of use it when you finally Sam came to his father Jaco. And he told him that I saw in my dream, the sun and the moon and 11 planets making salute to me. So you said I'm told his son you said he said you have a laptop to sort of

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say a key do laka Qaeda in a shape and insanity I do want to be so he told him Oh, my son did not relate your vision to your brothers, or they will conspire against you.

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against your plan. He said indeed Satan shaitan is a clear enemy is a manifest and me to men to the son of Adam.

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So here he is writing actually saying thing in a different way that the kids are good to believers. But shaitan is the one who might induce them to do something bad. He's the one who might invite them.

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And like in sort of the the story of Adam and his setup, and this is a great class and he had one great conclusion that we can conclude from the Quran. There are so lots of prophets and messages when it came to your family Salaam. I told you about this, his behavior after the family Salaam failed in his test with his wife, her work and the age from the tree, when he made the statement of Toba and sorbitol era for banner villamagna and fusina. This is the lesson that Muslims need to be to understand these days. The alumna Abu Salah weightlifter fell in our hand and an akuna Minal ha serene. So they did not blame shaytan because they are talking about themselves. They're talking

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about their action. They are the ones who listened to shaitan he was just invited them to eat from the tree. But when it came to talking about other people,

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or family members or friend, so you try to give them the benefit of doubt. People are good, but shaytan is the word who might invite them actually, to commit this sin and disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala to hurt their own brothers and sisters. So this is the segment if iacobelli center and then use of La Silla made the same statement. So this is the behavior of prophets and messengers, he will come up with this conclusion. This is what the Pope said. This is what he used to have said that the end use if at the end, after you know, you know what happened to us if it was a caravan that passed by, he took him with them. He sold him in Egypt to someone who was wealthy and

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he could be one of the ministers as he is as long as he's a minister. And then he's his wife, you know, fell in love with us if he was handsome and she invited him

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To commit to sin, do the illegal act. And he may do act Allah subhanaw taala, to protect him against this another, that's another test for use by the seller. And he prefer jail, to go to jail instead of committing sin, and doing the illegal act with that lady or the other ladies too, because we got some other ladies involved in the story. And they were impressed with his, with his, you know, with his beauty, and he said he was

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Elisa. So, and he went to jail. And he was innocent, he did not commit any sin. It wasn't a mistake. But he stayed there for a long period of time. But he was in the in the cell with two other people before the two trees. Well, then he saw that he will be at the end you will be killed and the other one will be working for the king. And then the king saw another dream. So there were three dreams in this story, the story fuse of Alison and the theme of use of and that the to, to dreams of the companions of Yusuf in jail, and the dream of the king. And he chose that Allah, Allah, that he was helping people, because they were ancient Muslims at that time, this is how we should look at the

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children of Venice, right? The these are ancient do fools of prophets and messages, but they made mistakes, and some of them made copper or disbelieve in Allah subhanaw taala some of them believe in worship Allah subhanaw taala maintained to heat and monotheism so they were ancient Muslims and that's why I lost panatela tell us about these stories. One brother one time he told me why we is Allah subhanaw taala honoring the children of Israel and talking to that about them all the time in the Quran, telling us about that he favored them over the rest of the world. And he gave them this and this and, and he said many prophets and messengers about them. Allah subhanaw taala is telling

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us about their stories because they were prophets and messengers, and informed prophets and messengers, so they were ancient Muslims.

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So these are the the nations that came that preceded us, and we need to look at their stories and learn from them. This is the only thing there is no if they don't if they disbelieve in Mohammed Salah.

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On the day of judgment, they will be cheated like the rest of the disbelievers. Allah subhanho wa Taala does not favor people because of their family lineage. And among the children of Ibrahim La Silla, who is a great personality, great prophet, Allah subhanaw taala said there will be some believers who will follow the path of Abraham, and Abraham and SLM. There are people who will do the wrong themselves will will not follow the path of the heat will not follow the religion of the heat. So Allah Subhana Allah will determine the Day of Judgment like the rest of the disbelievers. There is no favoritism here. The only connection between us and our last panel to Allah is taqwa is

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fearfulness panel to Allah until he and obedience being obedient to Allah subhanaw taala. So anyway, Yusuf Ali Salaam here at the end of the story, this is a 100 sort of use of Allah.

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Allah Allah, and he raised his parents upon the throne, hula hoop Susanna, so. So usually salam, after he explained the dream of the king, he became like the chief minister to the king. And, you know, Allah subhanaw taala tested them with seven years of cramming before that seven years of prosperity, and tell him he said, You have to eat some of the food, but you have to save some of it for this the next seven years, they will be tough, in a very difficult seven years. So the king who was very impressed with his, with his wisdom, with his knowledge, and he appointed him as Minister. So he became like a king. And there is a beautiful story about

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about the position

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of his son, we will know about to leave it to the end of Sharla. But here in this area, Allah subhanaw taala said wahala who Sousa

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and we bow to him in prostration. So they may choose you to use if not to our last pelota so it was permissible in the religion to greet

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honorable people with sudo that's why last panel, Allah commanded the melodica the angels

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and he believes was one of them there. He was not an angel but he was sitting there it happened that a police was there. He commanded them to bow down to Adam any seller, it was permissible in the religion at the time. So here the show, this is how they greet you. They used to greet honorable people or people in positions of leadership at that time. Were Haruna who said this is what the Quran is saying.

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What Carla? So he raised his parents because they are parents now. Their parents he raised them on the throne. They allowed them to sit on his throne. Yusuf Ali Salah.

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In

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the haka, he said, Oh my father, this is the explanation of my dream of my vision of before my Lord has made it reality. And he was certainly good to me. When he took me out of the prison, and he brought you from the bit one life, the beautiful life, they used to be big when in the area of a sham.

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So Ben Israel now moved all of them with jacobellis, Sarah, all the children of Israel, moved with their father, he moved to Egypt. This is how the this is how we ended up having the children of Israel living at a time a pharaoh and Musa La Silla, because Musa La Silla Moses is one of the descendants of yaku. Through his, his,

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his son law with one of his sons, his name is la li la vie. So the grandfather of musala salaam is yaku, how many generations between mouza and iacob, only three or four generations? That's it. So Moosa, actually, when before he became a prophet, he was a movement. He believed in Allah subhanho wa Taala. berusaha in Egypt used to believe in Allah subhanaw taala, they used to worship Allah subhanaw taala. But when I was a captain, and his people were confirmed, didn't believe in the last panel of data. So it was a multicultural society in Egypt at that time. So how did we move to Egypt after Yusuf Ali said I was there. So the all of them moved with their father yaku, all of them moved

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to Egypt. There were small number, but they said,

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I'm not sure about this number. He said, when they left Egypt, at the end, they were around half million. Then it was Friday, when they left Egypt after riano Pharaoh tried to catch them and kill them, and the last penalty and cause him to drop

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to suffocate in the water.

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In his army. Anyway. So Yahuwah, Yusuf Alayhi. Salam is saying here, what did he say about you from here from vidual life after Satan

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said after shaitan has induced enemy tweet enmity between me and my brother's. So he's talking about to a cheetah and did not talk about his brothers.

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Because he before, you know, he forgave them, he said, I forgive you. And let's forget about everything, let the three valuables and he prayed to Allah panatela to forgive his brothers. But he went talking about the stories putting the blame

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because he's dealing with his brother, family members or friends, someone else putting the blame on shaytan. But Adam and his element, however, they put the blame on themselves, because they wanted to assume responsibility for what happened.

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But use if he is not talking about himself, he's talking about the actions of other family members. So he's putting the is not putting the blame on them. He's putting the blame on shaitan. And this is a great lesson for all of us here what we try to get the benefit to give the benefit of doubt, to our family members and and brothers when and friends when we deal with them.

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So before that, this is

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something that amazed me getting the reaction of Jacobi, I would like to tell you about it. Now iacobelli Salim is in Egypt and everything but before he moved to Egypt, when he received the good news, that use of is alive, use of is alive. And the machine the machine is the one who brought the bad news to him. And he brought the short fuse.

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And I don't know it was a miracle, or there's some secret in it, which is the use of violence and he said throw it in the face of my father and my father, the sight of my father will be restored because he lost his sight. He was he became a blind after you know, showing his grief and crying,

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crying over the loss of future Family Center and his brother at the end of bieniemy. So and Yusuf Ali Salaam, he said through my church and on his face, and Allah subhanaw taala will restore his sight he will be able to see and this will happen.

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But when these men came to him, and and told him about the news that Yusuf Ali Salaam

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the reaction of jacobellis Salah was amazing, something that shocked me Yeah, these people, these people are amazing. And Allah subhanaw taala selected them. They didn't prophets, because they were amazing people. What happened is

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jacobellis Allah told the man who brought the news to him, he said, okay for Dr. Yusuf, how did you leave us?

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can you protect the use of color who are Marie Kondo alumnus

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or he is the king in Egypt, of course, he was not the king. But he was the chief minister. So and the king gave him the freedom to deal with the economy and he gave him full authority to deal with all the affairs of the country. So he was like a king right. So the the person say, you were medical animus

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you know, what was the

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reaction of jacobellis

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Paloma the federal

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way to do with kingdom.

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Imagine someone losing his losing his child, his beloved child for 20 years, at least 20 years. So remember they said 18, some of them these are 40, but it is a long period of time,

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losing his child for a long period of time. And then when the guy came to him, and said, he's a king, he's the king of the land. He said, What do you want me to do with kinked demand and add an interrupter upon which religion you left him behind? What is his religion Tell me, what is he worshipping?

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And he said, the man said, Islam, he's Muslim. He said that.

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He said, Now, that bounty has been completed,

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because he got the news. Now he's alive. This is a big bounty. But the bounty will be will not be completed unless he knew about the religion of his son, is he following the religion of Islam religion, Islam of his religion of his forefathers, Ibrahim la sala, and his har konnyaku, or his following another religion. So when he told him he's, he's Muslim, and he's following the religion of Islam, even though the king was not Muslim. And that's why it's a modem and he said, it is okay to take a position in a non Muslim country, if you think that you will be helping the people and you will be doing some good and you will be you know, making some Islam It is okay and they use this,

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this story as a daily so unless Allah subhanaw taala and he will say is that it's a beautiful story, I didn't mean to tell you about the story, the whole story of us of because it's, you find it in solitude, and there are many people explain the story. But I want you to, I wanted to bring to your attention these two, you know, beautiful lessons the meaning of beautiful patience and the meaning of patience in our life, the real patience and the difference between real and fake patience. And also the you know, the

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way we should deal with our family members. And you know, treat them or giving them the benefit of doubt when they misbehave when the you know, they hurt us.

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So, we need to be patient and also give them the benefit of doubt and and learn from these great personalities in the these are beautiful stories and they are preserved there in the book of Allah subhanaw taala for all of us have the left we have easy access these days to the book of Allah subhanaw taala books of Tafseer Ramadan is coming here one hand it is a good opportunity for all of us to you know, strengthen our relationship with

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so that we recite it or or memorize or study some, some Tafseer some stories you can select some stories and spend some time with the book of Allah subhanaw taala because these are the best stories. These are the best stories and and hamdulillah our Roma have helped me they have explained the stories and and as I said the book of tersedia Luca here is translated in English hamdulillah Jay sekulow Hayden Baraka lofi comes to panic alone. We're coming to

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