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the UK una Vu sallallahu alayhi wa sallam era hameau Torah hameau wasn't Pharaoh young fella hoonah come sort of Allahu la de Masada. Finally you will carry him

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honorable all of our respected elders and brothers.

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When someone closely connected to us, wrongs us, we feel sad.

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When somebody whom we love hurts us, we feel broken.

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When somebody do us down, we feel slighted.

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We feel the pain.

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And the pain takes long to go away.

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And whenever we see that person, we are full of anger,

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our blood boils.

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We want to harm them. We want to say and do nasty things to them. And if we can help if you want to even inflict injuries upon them,

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how can you How could he do that to me.

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And the amazing thing is, the stronger the relationship.

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The deeper the pain.

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The stronger the relationship,

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the stronger the pain.

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An outsider can tell you a word or two, you'll feel bad, you'll feel offended.

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But you will overcome it very quickly.

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Somebody very close to you. Somebody who's dear to you. Somebody who's Beloved. If they have to say or do something, you'll feel hurt.

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And that's the nature of human beings.

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If we don't get hurt, then there's something wrong.

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But today I want to talk about the positive angle. And that is we are able to outgrow the pain.

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We can forgive the person

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we can choose to be better people in life.

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Let's understand the nature of life.

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No one, as in no one is infallible.

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As human nature goes, we are full of mistakes.

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An insane Moroccan Bahasa Indonesian, as the poet says

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that human being is full of faults

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is full of mistakes.

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So what what should be our outlook to life?

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Our outlook to life should be that we should forgive people, even if they have wronged us. And we glean this practice from the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi Salaam, where Allah says when Yahoo was allowed to have Buddha, young Pharaoh, Lord,

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Allah says, Let them overlook. Let them forgive. Let them forgive one another. Don't you want a lot to also forgive you?

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Let's understand this nature.

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We make mistakes. We are making mistakes and we will make mistakes. How does a lot treatise a lot Forgive us, Allah forgives us and allow will forgive us.

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And the amazing thing is that Allah knows that today you are asking for forgiveness. And no one knows. Few days later you will be committing the very same mistake yet he chooses to forgive us today, even though he knows we're going to make the same mistake in few days.

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So, when we find it difficult to forgive people, let us also apply the same analogy and the same principle which applies to us.

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Do we want

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A lot to forgive us for our mistakes, of course, then we should do the same with others also in life.

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And each one of us can safely say that there are some mistakes in our life which nobody knows about. Only us in a law knows, and yet Allah has concealed them, and yet Allah has forgiven them. Now it's our turn our turn to apply the same principle in life and forgive people.

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The question comes here, that manana? Is it possible to forgive somebody who has done you wrong?

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The answer is yes.

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It's possible to forgive people. And we learn this from the life of Rasulullah sallallahu ala you send them like a kernel config rasulillah. you sweat on Hashanah. Allah says I have given you the ideal example in the life of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Let's run through some of the examples. And let's try to fit it into our life in our own personal lives.

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The narration is in Bukhari, the prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was resting under the shade of a tree.

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A missionary cannot believe

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is awaited with an open sword with an unshielded sword. And he's waiting for the Prophet of Allah to weaken.

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The Prophet of Allah opens his eyes. And suddenly there's a man standing with an unshielded sword. And he's asking me, I'm now coming near Mohammed.

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Tell me how Mohammed who's going to save you today?

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Who's going to save you today?

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He said, a law

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says the law will save me. He asked again, million now coming near Mohammed, who will save you, oh, Mohammed. He said a law. Suddenly the table's turned and the Prophet of Allah had the upper hand. He had the sword in this man was beneath the sword.

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The man said, forgive me.

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Pardon me, forgive me. The Prophet of Allah let him go free.

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I want you to think for a moment, put yourself in the shoes of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, and put it in modern day contexts with a man standing with a gun at your head. And he's about to pull the trigger. And the tables turn and you get the upper hand over the person what would you do?

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What would you do?

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Would you pull the trigger? Or would you say forgive you?

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So Pamela, look at the

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look at the forgiveness in Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, everyone cherishes their own life.

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Everyone loves themselves. The man is about to take the life in the Prophet of Allah says I forgive you.

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And the amazing thing is that this is a Salah with a non believer

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of law. Imagine our clock and our conduct with believers. non believers just believe as imagined so Hanawon.

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So forgiveness is a cement of a good relationship. We require it at every step of our life. Because we are human beings, we make mistakes. We we make serious and grave mistakes in our lives. But Allah has also kept the concept of forgiveness so that we can move on. We can read ourself in the miseries of life when we choose to forgive people.

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So one should understand that forgiveness is not something that we do for others.

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Forgiveness is something that we do for ourselves. So Panama,

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allow me to reiterate those words. Forgiveness is not something that we do for others.

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Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves. Because the minute we choose to forgive the person who has wronged us,

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we free ourselves from the shackles of hatred.

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Remember what I said in the starting, when you see the person who is wrong, you, your emotions play up, you are full of anger, your blood boils, but the minute you forgive that person and you see him subhana wa

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you no longer angry. Your blood is no longer boiling. You will no longer hate that person. And you yourself. You are

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It is

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just because of one choice.

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Imam Shafi Rasul Allah says it's so beautifully learn Morocco to Allah I had in Iraq to not see him in him. In other words, when I choose to forgive the person who has wronged me, I bring peace to myself first. So Panama. So forgiveness is for ourselves. Forgiveness is not for others. When we choose to forgive, we are freeing ourselves from that cell and that jail, which we were attracting.

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It's easier to love than to hate.

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It's an effort to hate

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your entire life you are spending, how can I do that person down, your entire energy is been utilized in how I can harm the person. But the minute you let go, you are happy. It's like a mountain of lies lifted from my shoulders.

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Number one, number two,

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forgiveness does not mean that what happened to you was okay.

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Forgiveness does not mean that the person can get away with whatever he has done.

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Forgiveness means that you have made peace with the pain and you are willing to move on in life.

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Yes, you must take your precaution. Yes, you must take your garden. Yes, there must be consequences also.

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Once bitten, twice shy.

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Now you will double

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wide in Marathi. The Prophet of Allah said, a believer is not stung from a same hole twice.

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So forgive the person and you take your measures. I'll give you the example of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was she would not accept Islam.

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in the initial stages, he killed the hams out of the Alo Thailand with a beloved uncle of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Yet when he came to accept Islam, the prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam forgave him.

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What did he do? He said, Oh, washy.

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Tell me how did you kill my uncle.

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And he went on to narrate the entire incident, the prophet of Allah was in tears. He said, you actually I forgive you. But don't come in front of my eyes again. Because when I see you remember the incident of my uncle,

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the prophet of Allah forgave him. But he also took his precaution.

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There must be consequences. We learned this from the sooner Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam also, if somebody breached the trust, if somebody did not fulfill the promise, and they let you down in the business deal, or whatever it may be, yes, you forgive them. But you changed your approach in terms of dealing with that person.

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And remember, we talked about forgiveness for ourselves, not for that person. So we are choosing to forgive that person. And we are also taking our God SubhanAllah.

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Number three

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people who choose to forgive, live healthier and happier lives. So

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people who forgive,

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live healthier and happier lives, so Hanawon.

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People who forgive, start the process of healing immediately

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start to overcome the anguish and the agony in your life.

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People who choose to forgive, lift that anxiety from their life

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and people who choose to forgive, come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala will tell them in a lawyer even when our filani nurse Allahu

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Allah says, I love this verse Subhana Allah listen to this, listen to this verse will come to me in a while those who swallow the anger.

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Allah doesn't say that they don't get angry. Anger is natural nary person. Allah says they get angry but they swallow the anger. Well, RP nanny nurse and they forgive people. What is the law of the eye It was a law your head when my son in law says I love them.

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Do not want to become the Beloved of a law

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doing not want to become closer to a law. What law we will need a law says I love them. So canon law. And when Allah loves us then problems fade in our life. So Panama

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the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Mirza de la hora then be asked when in Isaiah, a man who chooses to forgive, listen to the words of the Prophet said

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Law is seldom when a man chooses to forgive the person who has wronged him. A lot increases him in honor. A law increases human dignity. A law increases his status in front of him. So why

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don't we want prestige and honor in front of a law? Don't be one dignity in front of a law. Don't we want to earn the love of the law? Don't we also want the Lord to forgive us?

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Abraham,

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Pharaoh,

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the prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, show mercy to one another.

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show mercy to one another.

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And forgive one another. And Allah will forgive you on the Day of Prayer.

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I can safely say that there are so many injunctions in my life, which I have broken, I definitely want a lot of forgiveness.

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I want the world to forgive me. When I stand up on a piano, I want my slate clean, I want my records settled. I want my deeds to be in the positive side of life. And for that, I have to choose to forgive the people in my life.

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And we can do it brothers, we can do it. We can relate to this as parents or as children.

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When we do when we did something wrong in our life, our parents were deeply saddened

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and they were hurt. They felt the deepest of pain.

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But after a few days, the mother gave us a hug. The father embraced us, no matter how difficult it was, and no matter how severe the crime was.

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Our fathers and mothers didn't abandon us. So as humans, we have the propensity and the end the potential to forgive people.

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The non Islamic culture teaches us to take revenge. Revenge is sweet.

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That's what we are taught. But the sooner teaches us that we should be the better of the two people.

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We should forgive who they love for what more of the Lord for our eternal Jaylene. Allah says, tell them to choose to forgive people.

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So forgiveness is important.

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The Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was amazing in this regard. I want you to just pay attention. I'm going to run through a few incidents, and I'll end on this in sha Allah.

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The after the conquest of favor, a Jewish lady invited the Prophet of Allah for some news. She presented meat, but this meat was poisoned.

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The Prophet of Allah in the Sahaba ate from it.

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Later on, THROUGH THROUGH THROUGH revelation, the prophet of Allah was informed that this meat has been poisoned.

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The Sahaba brought the lady in front of the Prophet of Allah.

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They asked him on the Viva La, Fernando.

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Should we not take a life and put it to death? He said, No.

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He said, No, let's go. I'm asking you somebody who poisoned you. Somebody who tried to take your life

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and then you choose to forgive your

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partner B. He himself says that till the end of my life, I felt the poison in my body. And even in the end, it affected me.

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The very same Navy said

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forgive.

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Yama,

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salam o Spelunky. Snake Alia Sankara sunkara Pula Bursa

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made Salam and the salutations of Allah beyond that Nabhi. When people taunted him when people ridiculed him, he said, may Allah have mercy on you.

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He is standing in front of the people of Mecca, and he is the conqueror of MK is full capacity to extract retribution from the people of Makkah. And he's standing in addressing them as the Conqueror as the rule of Mecca. And he says yamashiro Quraysh yah Maka martorana nifa. You don't become what do you think I'm going to do with you today? Oh people of Makkah. And I want you to understand the context behind this. This is the very same Nabhi whom the people ridiculed and called him the magician called him a soothsayer called him insane, called him

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a soothsayer and many other names, and they heard insulting remarks at this prophet sallallahu sallam. They harmed him physically, they abused him.

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verbally in every way possible, and today standing as the leader and the ruler of McCann is asking them tell me how should I treat you today? This is a one Kareem what we know of him Kareem. You are a wonderful person. You are a gender you are a noble person. He said, If Hulu to

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go I forgiven you left the three body.

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Today, there's no reproach I forgive you.

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Look at the incident of Thor if they pelted him on miles on end. How did he respond? He said allow mania shouko La La quwata illa de la te well, Hawaii alumnus sarovar forgive them.

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And today I thought if is a Muslim city.

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I ended up with the incident in which his beloved daughter, Xena Brody, alota line was attacked by a sweater. This man struck the beloved daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam as the result. She had a miscarriage. And as a result later on, she lost her life. Yet when this very same man came in the quote of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, the prophet of Allah forgive him, but others forgiveness is not something that we do for others.

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Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves. Let us choose to be the better of the two people. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the understanding. Marlena in Melbourne Allah