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Fatima Barkatulla


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AI: Summary © The importance of diversifying various types of spending, including praying, giving charity, and spending in public is emphasized. The speakers also stress the need for women to get married and avoiding marriage. The importance of fasting and blood tests for health and wellbeing is emphasized, and the need to respect parents' actions and behavior. The speakers also encourage parents to make it easy for girls to get married without their father or sister's consent and to try to bring family members together through pleading and dialogue. The importance of learning to adapt to Islam and avoiding fasting during the menstrual period is emphasized, and cultural practices may cause confusion and anxiety.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Dear brothers and sisters are Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to this episode of Islamic with me your sister, Fatima Baraka tila. We're right in the middle of Ramadan Dear Brothers and Sisters,

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more than half of Ramadan has gone. And now we have just a few days left. I want to encourage each and every one of you to make the most of these days because as we know, the last 10 days are the most special, they are the most blessed. So we still have an opportunity brothers and sisters to make the most of these 10 days. And some of the things I would encourage you to do in these last 10 days are to at least this is the minimum at least apart from obviously the fast and keeping your prayers and the obligatory things,

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to at least

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pray to rock art.

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Of course, we should try to do more than that. But at the very least, to rock out after the solid Salacia of PM. At least do that. Also try to spend your day, every moment of the day when you have a bit of free time when you while you're cooking while you're standing in a train or even driving a car, etc. Whenever you have that kind of time when you're not really doing anything important.

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Try to keep your tongue moist with the vicar of Allah mentioned Allah on your tongue Subhan Allah Al Hamdulillah you know, a stock federal Allah, Allahu Akbar Subhana Allah Subhana Allah who will be handy Subhan Allah, Allah Veeam. All of these phrases that Allah Subhana Allah and the messenger have taught us are phrases that are going to increase our status with a loss of $100 and are going to be heavy in our scales on the Day of Judgment. Also try to have a bit of time every single day, when you recite and read the Quran, from the last half

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Insha Allah, we've still got lots of days left. Another thing we can do is give sadaqa, right? give charity every single day, try to give something and try to diversify the causes that you give charity to, you know, just like a person when they're investing money.

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They advised you know, diversify your portfolio, don't invest, don't put all your eggs in one basket don't just invest in one type of thing. Because different types of things will yield yield different types of benefit, right? That's for investment. Well, when we're giving sadaqa Dear Brothers and Sisters, we are also investing, we're investing in our akhira. And that money that we are investing, we're going to find it in our bank account on the day of judgment. And so let's diversify the different types of causes because there's so much care that we can do, whether it's giving some money to of course, the poor people, the needy, orphans, widows,

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you know, building a house, building houses for refugees, for example. Or, uh, well,

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those are all things but also dollar projects, you know, that will projects, Islamic educational projects, Masjid building, there's so many things that we could be doing. So let's make the most of this month. I'm going to go straight to your questions now. And on the screen, you will see the WhatsApp number, you can send a question in, or you can call in and speak to me here in the studio and I will do my best to answer your question. Insha Allah. I have a question here. A Salam aleikum. My parents rejected proposals from a good man without any shadow, a legitimate reason. They did it before as well. But this time, I really liked the brother. And he liked me as well. But my parents

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still refused. It was not a haram relationship. My Willie was on board from the get go. Would it be okay if I get married without my Wali? Since they don't like almost anybody for me? And in this case, there is no valid reason for my parents rejecting the marriage with that brother. His parents are divorced. And my parents think

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that, you know, what are people going to say? He's a pious person who taught

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Come with me with the permission of my father. And we found a good compatibility.

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Okay, this is an interesting question. And it's very sad actually that. So first of all, I would say to parents out there, you know, don't make marriage hard. Don't make it hard. When a good person comes to you, a person of good character, you know, marry them to your daughter, if your daughter is happy,

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call us. You know, make it easy. Make it easy. Don't make this. Don't make it so difficult that girls are having to ask questions like this panela. You know, no girl wants to go against her father, oh, girl wants to go against her Willy. But she would only ask a question like this if she feels desperate, if she has a need to get married. And that's another thing parents don't seem to understand. You know, your daughter, when she becomes an adult, she has certain needs, she wants to get married. She has desires. I know that we don't like looking at our daughters and thinking of them as though they've grown up. But actually they have. And so now it is not your job to prevent

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her from getting married, it's your job to facilitate and help her to get married. And if we don't do this brothers and sisters, then haram relationships will become the norm. Family breakups will become the norm because girls will feel that they have to basically move away from their own families. So my first message is to the parents out there, you know, don't do this, make it easy for your children to get married. It's their life at the end of the day. Right. But to the sister, I would say, a dear sister, I understand and I feel your predicament. However, I would not advise you to go against your father's will in this case, at least not initially. Right. And it should be only

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a last resort. You know, if if a person for example is going to fall into haram, they've tried everything, they should then go to a Sharia Council, go and consult a scholar properly and ask the scholar to come to help them find a solution, right? And the scholar might say, Okay, this is unreasonable. And so then the scholar might act as a Wali, for that person. Okay. But that's an extreme end result, right? That's only if everything else has been tried. And there's a very difficult situation. I don't think that's been done yet. So what you really need to do is try to bring your parents on side. Okay, try as much as you can, through pleading with them, having, you

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know, dialogue with them, maybe even bringing mediators in. To have a dialogue with your parents.

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Try to see things from your parents perspective as well, is there some validity in the reasoning that they're giving, you know, maybe sometimes we can be very short sighted, and our parents can sometimes see things, see dangers maybe, that we can't see. So please bear all of that in mind. And I don't advise you at all to go against your father. I know of sisters when they have done this, okay, when they've tried to get married without their Willie involved, okay.

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They end up estranged from their families. And then they end up in an even worse situation, because now they don't have the backup of especially the male members of their family. They're left to this husbands, you know, their relationship with this husband, who at the end of the day, they don't really know very well, okay. And so, and then they regret it, especially when they have children, that their parents are estranged from them. We don't want to go down that route. You know, we want to try our best to keep families together. Your father has a great role in your life. You know, he's done a lot for you all your life. So please don't take this step, especially at this stage. Please,

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try your best to plead with your father and have a good relationship with him. And I hope in sha Allah Allah subhanaw taala helps you to find a solution and helps you to find a pious spouse that your family and you are happy with. Just like a laugh Aaron. I do believe we have a caller.

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Salam Alikum caller

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so Alico. My name is Amin, and I'm calling from Lewisham London. In my question is that I'm fasting? Yes. And if I go for blood test, should I break my fast

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and in the blood test, they just

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What taking? They're just taking a blood sample? Right? Yeah, blood sample for you know, the for cholesterol for

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sugar and all that, you know, for diabetes, you know for that they are taking these blood, and have they asked you to be fasting or not fasting? Have they said anything? No, I read to dogs I didn't tell her that I'm fasting.

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Okay, so it doesn't matter whether you're fasting or not to them?

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Yeah, there's a mentor for them. Yeah. Okay, she's I love her and brother.

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Okay, so the brother is asking, Can you have a blood test while you're fasting? Does he need to break his fast, there's no reason if the doctors haven't said that it's a must, for you to be you know, to have eaten or something for you to break your fast, you know,

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having a blood test is fine. The only thing that would break a fast is if you're putting something into your veins, that is nourishing, right? I mean, in this kind of area, something that is something that you're putting into your veins that is nourishing, like a glucose drip or what you know those kinds of things. That would be something that would break your fast or that would necessitate you breaking your fast. But if there's no reason for you to break your fast, if it's fine for you to have a blood test, and if you're not going to have any kind of negative effect, there's not going to be a negative effect of you having a blood test and being in the state of

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fasting. I don't think there is really for most people, you know, so only a very small amount of blood that's removed,

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then you should continue fasting because it's Ramadan, Ramadan, fasts are not to be taken lightly. You know, we shouldn't be trying to find any little excuse for not fasting. We should try our best to fast because no fasts are like the days of Ramadan. And we know that fasting in Ramadan is one of the five pillars of Islam, it's one of the most essential actions, right. But of course, if a person is ill, if a person has been advised medically, that they must not fast, then you know, that's a different matter. And then they would have an excuse in that regard. I hope that answers the question just like a heron. So, let me see, I've got some more questions here.

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My sons would like to know the importance of their mum and dad in Islam in sha Allah. Okay. I wonder if the son wants to know, the importance of a mom and dad or if mom and dad would like the son to know the importance of mom and dad in Islam.

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The importance of mom and dad in Islam, Subhan Allah, you know, after Allah subhana, Allah tells us to worship him alone. He says, and have a son with your parents be excellent in your behavior towards your parents. Don't ever say a word like even as small as off it says in the Quran, right? Which represents the smallest type of rebuke, you know, to your parents don't look at them in a negative way. If your parents asked you to do something, do your best to fulfill that request. Try to make your parents smile, don't cause them to be upset and sad.

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The only thing that Allah subhanaw taala The only exception to that is if they're commanding you or asking you to do something haram. Right? They're asking you to do something wrong, then of course, Allah comes first. But in everyday life, you know, usually, that's not the case, right? Especially if you have Muslim parents, we should be really respecting them, trying to do as much as we can for them.

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Because we don't realize what they've done for us, brothers and sisters, right? When we were babies, we were not conscious of the sleepless nights that our moms went through for us, the breastfeeding, the physical difficulty, but also the psychological difficulty that our mothers went through for us the sacrifices they made, the hours they made for us, our fathers, you know, they go out every single day, to earn money for us to be for us to be able to have stability for us to have a home.

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All of these things are things that we can very easily take for granted, but that have helped build our personalities. So brothers and sisters, we must always treat our parents with respect and feel a sense of depth towards them, even if, you know with their some reason that maybe that they don't have the best behavior with us, et cetera. Still, just by virtue of the fact that they are our parents.

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They have rights. So I would encourage your son and I

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I would encourage all of us to make the dua for our parents, Allah Houma, or a bit of ham Houma can rob Bernie Sahira Allahu Maura Burnham Houma come out of the Jonnie Cervera which means, oh Allah have mercy upon them both my parents as they had mercy on me when I was small, and that's a beautiful that we should all be making for our parents whether they are alive or whether they have passed away.

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Okay, next question.

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Assalamu Aleikum, sister. I'm a New revert.

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And I was asking if it's okay to wake at night and make dua without take making Moodle. If you are in your period, if you're in your monthly period, yes, of course, in order to make dua, which is supplicating, to Allah calling on Allah, making, you know, asking Allah for things,

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there is no need to have will do. Right a person can be in any state, and they can make dua. So yes, in fact, I would encourage that, especially when a lady is in her menstrual period of time. You know, she's not praying and she's not fasting, she's not making the ritual prayers, the Salah, and she's not fasting. So what she shouldn't do is maximise on all the other types of Baghdad, right? All the other types of acts of worship that you can do, for example, vicar, mentioning Allah praising Allah subhana, Allah hamdu lillah, Allahu Akbar, keep your tongue moist with the vicar of Allah. That's one thing and menstruating woman can do. Another thing as you said, you can wake up in

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the night and make dua, you're not you don't need to pray the prayers, you're not going to be praying the five prayers, or even any kind of Salah, but you can make dua This is one of the blessings that we have that wherever we are, we have this 24/7 line, fun line straight to Allah subhanaw taala. And we should make the most of that. You can also read the Quran, from a device, you know, not from a physical copy of a must have, you know, that is purely Quran. But from a device you can read, you know, do as you can read Quran from that. Those are just some of the acts of worship that we can involve ourselves in. Also giving sadaqa right? So when one door is close to us, of

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Hamdulillah, Allah Subhan Allah Allah has given us many other doors that we can focus on. So yes, sister, you can do that.

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Another question?

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How do I convince my Christian mother to believe in Islam?

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It's upon Allah.

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May Allah subhanaw taala guide your your mother to Islam, dear sister, or Dear brother?

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Brothers and sisters, you know, there are two types of guidance. Okay. There's guidance. So we, we do our part, we convey the message to people, right. And so we do earshot we guide them. In that sense, we try to give them you know, pointers, if, if it's specially with your parents, the best thing, one of the best things you can do is to have excellent character with your parents, with your mother, have excellent character with your mother. Let her notice how Islam has changed you be a role model in and of yourself. Right? When people see us, brothers and sisters, when people see us and our behavior, they learn more from that. Then words, you know, sometimes, especially when it

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comes to family, so I would encourage you, dear sister, to have excellent character with your mother. Make sure that you're taking care of her, make sure you're visiting her talking to her being very gentle and nice with her. right alongside that, and that should be you know, regardless of whether she accepts Islam or not, it's not just to get her to accept Islam. Not at all. That's how we should be with our mothers anyway. But I'm just emphasizing that, you know, don't make Islam a cause for arguments. Don't make Islam a cause for any kind of stress and negativity, if you can avoid it. Right. have excellent character with your mother. But then you can also try to reason with

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her, you know, especially over time, there might be opportunities when you can introduce

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So to certain things, certain Islamic things, encouraged her to come and visit a new Muslim center, or some kind of circle with other people with other sisters. In London, we have one in South London turning point,

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we have revert to reality center as well. I'm just giving you examples. But those centers, what they do is they actually encourage people to bring their mothers to bring their parents. And that way it can break the ice. Your mom might be able to see Muslims and Islam in a different light, you know, when she sees the community.

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Those are some of the things you can do. Also, like I said, because she's a Christian, there are certain arguments that you could have discussed with her right to have certain dialogue with her, that helps her to see the reality of Isa Alayhis Salam, the Prophet salallahu Salam, and the beauty of Islam. But my dear sister, when it comes to hedaya, right, the guidance of hidayah that's something that comes from Allah subhanho wa taala. Right. So when the when Allah subhanaw taala give somebody total faith, gives them the ability and blesses them that they will be guided. So we should let go of feeling that we want to control the results of the doubt, right? When we're giving Dawa.

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We do our best we do our utmost but we can't control the results. So we don't need to worry about the results leave the results in Allah subhana dahlias hands, but do do our best from our side. May Allah subhanaw taala guide your mother to Islam

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It's going to read the question

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Salam aleikum. I don't fast due to having a mental.

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I don't force due to having a mental health condition. And on I'm on medication twice a day, which means after take every 12 hours, I do pay figure, but can I get your opinion?

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Look, if you're on medication that you've been advised, that you must take and it's, it can't be taken during

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during the time when we are not fasting? Then you have an excuse, right? Inshallah I'm going to continue after the break to answer the question. So stay with me brothers and sisters Desikan will la heron.

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Salam aleikum, brothers and sisters, and welcome back. So before the break, we had a question about somebody who had to take medication every 12 hours.

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And so they were not fasting. So, you know, the question is, is that something that you have to do all the time? If it is, then, you know, you can't even make up the fasts afterwards, right?

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So if there's no way for you to make up the Fosse even, then yes, you would

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pay the Vidya. Right?

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And, yeah, so when a person has medication that they must take, then, of course, they are

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exempt. If there's no way, excuse me, there's no way that they can take the medication during the nonfasting hours,

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then, you know, that's something that they don't have to do them. Right. And they have a valid excuse. So I hope that answers the question. Have a question here. Salaam aleikum, I'm pregnant and fasting. But at times, I do feel weak. And I have the thought of breaking my fast but I just keep managing. My question is what did that did my thoughts of breaking my fast make my fast invalid. So just thinking or, you know,

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wondering whether you should break your fast or not, that doesn't break your fast. It's when you've decided that you're definitely going to break your fast

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you know, that would then affect your fast. So when you're breastfeeding and pregnant, and this is a question that comes up a lot, you know, should you fast when you're breastfeeding and pregnant?

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The answer to that is that, you know, generally speaking, unless there's some other underlying illness or some other condition, a boss, pregnant and breastfeeding woman can fast, you know, because all the body does is just readjust,

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readjust itself, while you're really doing think about it, when you're not fasting on a normal day, you don't eat or drink from the time you have your last meal until the morning, right, which is quite quite a few hours.

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All you're doing here is kind of inverting that, right. So we are not eating and drinking in the day. But we can eat and drink at night. So a pregnant and fasting woman generally speaking, okay, and of course, you should get medical advice for this. And I'm just giving some general guidelines having fasted through four pregnancies, myself and and during breastfeeding myself.

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If a woman has plenty of water, you know, during the nonfasting hours, make sure you have an excellent, nutritious diet that you're consuming.

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And even take supplements if you need to right vitamins and things like that, whatever it is recommended, then, there's no reason why she shouldn't fast, you know, for most women,

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the body will just adjust itself, the baby will continue to get what the baby needs, right, the baby gets everything that the baby needs from the mother, regardless of what time you eat, or drink, right. So that's not something you need to worry about. But you can if you're worried, you can ask, you know your doctor, etc. But generally speaking, just take it easy. You know, get rid of all the unnecessary things from your life during Ramadan, if you're finding the fast start.

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Put your feet up, you know, don't feel that you have to exert yourself in lots of other things. The main thing is the fast. So make sure you try your best to keep the fast unless there is a valid excuse. Just like your Lokeren.

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What is the best Islamic way? And dua of remembering our late parents are SubhanAllah.

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Brothers and sisters, and this is a good point for us to start reflecting, you know, because we do have another question where

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I think it's a brother who's saying that they're really ashamed. Brother says I'm so ashamed as Ramadan is in the middle, please, what can I do to regain the connection and get the rewards of Ramadan before its end?

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And I'm linking this to the question that just came in about making dua for parents because who have passed away. Because brothers and sisters, this is this should be something that motivates us this Ramadan. If you think about those who have passed away, they are lying right now in their graves.

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And there's nothing they can do to benefit themselves, nor harm themselves anymore. Right? They would love to be able to have one more Ramadan.

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But me and you brothers and sisters, we have been blessed to be able to be alive and be able to reap the rewards of Ramadan, to be able to get you know the night of little color, which is better than 1000 months Subhanallah imagine the reward for any good deed we do on that night. So brothers and sisters, this should motivate us that we are still alive, we should be reaping the rewards as much as we can and inshallah that should be a motivation. But to the sisters question, sister, the main thing that I would encourage you to do,

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one of the things that is the most beneficial thing we can do is to make dua for our parents, right? As the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told, told us, when a person dies, all of their deeds are cut off except for three things, right? knowledge that they left behind, that continues to benefit people sadaqa jariya, some kind of charity that they gave that has an ongoing benefit.

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And the last thing he said was a pious child who makes the offer them Subhan Allah, a pious child who makes to offer them so you, sister or brother, you are your your parents good deeds, right? Your existence your very existence is something that can benefit your parents. If you are a pious person, if you do good deeds, and if you make dua for them, try to make dua for them every single day, make dua for them in the search, in your prayer, etcetera. And keep making this dua on

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La Homura Burnham Houma Kamara Bayani Sahira Allahumma Rob Burnham, Houma. Kemah Rob Dyani Sahira which means, oh Allah and this is in the Quran, Oh Allah,

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have mercy upon them, have mercy upon them, then both, as they had mercy upon me when I was small, right.

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Another two we can make, of course, the best of us are the ones that just come from your heart. Brothers and sisters, we don't need to only make the laws that are prescribed, of course, the prescribed the odds are good. They're from the Sunnah. And they're from the Quran, and they are special.

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But at the end of the day, Allah subhanaw taala loves when we call on him sincerely, from the bottom of our hearts, in our own languages, from our in the way that we want to express ourselves. And that's the beauty of GWA. So you can do that. You can also give some sadaqa for your parents, right for their sake in their name, if you like.

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Especially things that will have an ongoing reward and ask Allah Subhana Allah to reward them. Some people they make Umrah, or they make armor on behalf of somebody who is deceased.

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That's of course, if they've already made their own Onra. And they've so you know, then they they want to do extra, so they make umbra, asking Allah subhanaw taala to give that reward to that person. So those are some of the things you can do. But yes, the VA is the number one. So please don't stop making dua for your mother.

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And that DA will reach her the benefits of that DA will reach her.

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Okay, next question.

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Salam aleikum wa Rahmatullah Wa alaykum salam Wa Rahmatullahi. wa barakaatuh.

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Am I allowed to fast even if I see a spot of blood?

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Yet it's not my menstruation.

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Okay, well, if you know that it's not your menstruation. Right? If it's blood from I don't know, an injury or, or something else, then you continue fasting. Right? The principle is that what you're sure about the state that you're sure about your pain? Right? Certainty is not removed by doubt. That's a very important principle that everyone should learn in Islam. It's an Islamic flip principle. Eliakim lawyers Zulu be shocked that certainty is not removed by doubt. So what does that mean? It means if you're certain that your period has not started,

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then something that happens that makes you wonder, Has it started or not, does not change the state of certainty that you have, right? So you know, that you, your period hasn't started. In order for you to consider your period to have started, you need to be sure that it has started. So since you're not sure, or since you know that this isn't your menses, then it has no effect on your fast. Okay, you should continue fasting until you're sure that your period has started. Okay. And by the way, this principle can be applied to lots of things.

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Even for widow, this is something that I like to teach young people because sometimes they can start getting worried, you know, how I got we do have I know I'm not sure, blah, blah, blah, you don't need to worry, once you make will do.

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The only thing that removes that will do is if you're sure that you will do as broken. If you're not sure, again, apply that principle, that certainty is not removed by doubt. You are certain that you made with you. Now, how if you're unsure whether you've broken it or not, then you should continue upon that certainty. You continue as sure that you've got wood, the only thing that will remove that sense of certainty is when you're sure that you have broken, the will do right. Or if there's evidence that you've broken the will do. So that's a principle that you can use across many different scenarios. Is that Kamala heron? Let me see.

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My name is Mary. I'm not a Muslim,

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but maybe one day I might become one spamela At times, I love watching Islamic programs. Most of my clothes are trousers and short clothes. In case I become a Muslim, must I stop wearing them? Because at the moment I can't

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afford to buy new ones. Please advise me

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our dear sister Mary, mashallah you have a beautiful name. You know your name is the name of Maria mallia Salaam, the mother of Isa and A salaam, the mother of Jesus. And that's a beautiful name.

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Masha Allah. So, Sister Mary, welcome. And you know, we welcome you to our Muslim community. And we say to you, that don't delay in entering Islam, dear sister, okay, and don't allow your concerns about dress about, you know, different rulings and different things like that. Don't allow those things to cause you to delay entering the door. Right? You know, when when people ask me about this, especially ladies like you who maybe they're worried about their clothing, maybe they're worried about, you know, hijab, they're worried, would I be able to do this will I be able to learn Arabic, Allah, you know, all of these things that come into people's minds. These are things that shape on

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is using, Satan is using to make you delay, embracing Islam. You know, if you believe that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone, without any partners, the one God, the Creator, and that Muhammad is the Messenger of God. If you believe that if you believe that Jesus and A salaam was a messenger of God and all of the messages,

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then you're ready to become a Muslim. Now, this is Islam. You can enter Islam by making that statement. And the testimony of faith or shadow Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah will ash huddle. And now Muhammadan rasul Allah, I bear witness that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah. And I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. And you can say that even in the comfort of your own home, and that will cause you to enter the fold of Islam.

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Now, sister, when it comes to clothing, like I said, that's a secondary thing. You know, that's not the most important thing, especially when you're not yet a Muslim. In sha Allah, once you enter Islam, you'll see that you can slowly but surely learn things, you can slowly but surely start, you know, adapting, adapting your clothes, adapting different things, and you'll see the Muslim community are so generous, you know, we will provide you with the clothing that you need, my dear sister. So please, don't hesitate. Don't make this a reason for not entering Islam. Right. It's like, for example, I give the analogy of a house. If your house is needs renovation, right?

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Well, your house needs fixing up.

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You can't fix the house all in one go. Right? You first you've got to enter the door. So that's the Shahada. You've got to enter the door, you've got to, you know when you're ready and enter the door of Islam. And then slowly but surely, you can go from room to room, and you can renovate, improve, fix things up, until eventually you'll see that the whole house has changed for the better. And it's something that we as Muslims, those even those of us who were born into Muslim families, something that we're continuously trying to do, right, improve ourselves, learn better ourselves. So it's a lifelong journey, my dear sister, and I encourage you to enter the door, either by reciting the

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shahada by yourself or going to a masjid, asking some Muslims and reaching out and I'm sure that they will help and facilitate you in that and then all the other rulings will come in sha Allah with in due course, as I can. Oh, Karen.

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Okay, I do believe we have a caller so I will go straight to the caller. A Salam or Aleikum caller

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all I want to know my granddaughter's feeding the baby myself, she found out she's pregnant.

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And some someone says that it's not right to feed the baby while you're pregnant. You just found out she's pregnant, but she's still feeding the baby.

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So, okay, so her arm you can't feed the baby, because you're pregnant now you can't feed the baby.

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I haven't heard that. So I said, I'll just clarify from you. I'm lucky I caught you this morning. So is it okay, she can still feed the baby.

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By pregnant he just found out she's pregnant again. Mashallah.

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Yes, that's good news. Good news for you this Ramadan. Mashallah.

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Okay sister, so I will answer your question.

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So the sister is asking, she has a, I think a daughter or a daughter in law who's just found out that they're pregnant, and somebody has told them, you're not allowed to breastfeed while you're pregnant.

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That's not at all true. You know, there's no reason why a person shouldn't should stop breastfeeding once they're pregnant with another child now. Okay, so in other words, they're breastfeeding a previous child, and they're pregnant. One thing that does tend to happen, okay, my own experience is that sometimes the child who's Breastfeeding can sort of go get put off the milk anyway, you know, naturally, I think something in the taste of the milk changes. This was my experience.

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When I had a child, and I was breastfeeding still,

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or when I was pregnant, and I was breastfeeding, my third child. So I think what you might find is that the child will naturally kind of not really be that interested in breast milk. But until that time, there's no reason, you know, in terms of from the Sharia that she should stop breastfeeding. You know, there's no evidence to stop, you know, she can continue up to two years.

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And that's fine. Inshallah, that's the answer to that question. I think I think these things are like cultural things that people say to us, you know, our old wives tales, people have these like, saying that, Oh, this is going to be bad or this is going to be bad luck, or this is good. You know, forget all of that. Islam came to clear our superstitions to remove superstitions. So if there's no medical reason to stop, then inshallah there's no there's no reason to stop. As long as your daughter is comfortable. As long as the baby still wants milk. Up to two years. It's fine insha Allah does not allow her I do think we have another caller As Salam aleikum, Kula

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while is Muslim

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I have a question in relation to leather cover yes we in the mosque they are doing

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about one and

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a lot of excetera

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here and it's not easy to get the

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if I'm doing at home what is the cutoff point because you need to sleep as well. Can

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I stay up to fudges so it's a bit of

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confusion as to you know, the letter to

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the house is the best way to capture

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the benefit of

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Okay, so that's one question second is your neighbors recline questions etc.

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Sort of you see them they expect you to see a Happy Easter or you get accustomed to the fall

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are you just bypass it

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Okay, so you're asking about say Happy Easter. Is that what you mean?

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Yeah, what I'm saying it's certain points certain places.

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If they're saying Happy Easter to you.

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How do you

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respond without looking discourteous? Okay, does that tell a fair and brother I'm going to answer we'll try to answer your question shot a lot when it comes to let us look other. Now look, we each of us have a different capacity, you know, little color is a blessing night. People can stay up all night if they want and pray and make it a bada make dua

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you know, make vicar read Quran, spend that night give sadaqa even spend that night doing as much as you can. That's the general guideline right? Now, your own capacity is going to differ, right? Some people they can stay up all night, fine. Some people would prefer to sleep for a little while and then get up or they'll sleep the next day. Right? So each person has their own capacity. You got to know what your capacity is. The last third of the night is always very, very blessed and special. So that would probably be what you want to prioritize.

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And as for the second question, just say thank you as answer. Salaam Alaikum brothers and sisters