IslamiQA on Islam Channel #06

Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah the brothers and sisters are Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to Islamic hub, where we help answer your questions about any aspect of our beautiful religion of Islam. Brothers and sisters, I'm your sister Fatima Baraka Tula, you will see across the screen a phone number, you'll also see a whatsapp number so you can send your questions in and in sha Allah, I will do my best to help answer those questions, or at least to give you some pointers along the way.

And hamdulillah brothers and sisters,

recently, I just heard about two people who recently embraced Islam, who are quite high profile figures. One is the son of a famous celebrity chef, here in Britain, who happened to be in prison and then hamdulillah while he was in prison, he he learned about Islam, masha Allah, and another is actually a

Christian priest in America, who recently embraced Islam, and he talked about it on the internet, you know, about his journey. And subhanAllah, it really got me thinking Subhan, Allah, Allah subhanaw taala has given us such a great opportunity here, especially those of us who are living in the West, to share the message of Islam with people. And there are people out there crying out to hear that message. So I wanted to ask you, and I wanted to reflect within myself as well. Are we doing everything we can to reach out to our neighbors to be the embodiment? And the role model that we should be the embodiment of our deen, that we should be? Do we even know what our neighbors are

doing? Are they okay? So I wanted to encourage you and remind myself that Subhanallah, we have a huge responsibility as Muslims in the West as Western Muslims, British Muslims, to reach out to know what our neighbors are suffering from what's going on in their lives, to find causes and things that we could help out in, in our communities, right? Because these communities are our communities, whatever affects the wider community affects us affects our children. So Let's all make more of an effort to not be in our own little echo chambers, to not just, you know, be happy with our own little homes and our own little communities and families. But to actually reach out and find ways of

serving the community, and also of sharing the message of Islam. When was the last time you shared some information, some beautiful aspects of Islam with somebody else? So these are some of the reflections that I was having, and I wanted to share with you. And without further ado, I will now turn to some of the questions that have come in. So one of the questions I've got here is

is it compulsory for a female to put socks on while praying? Is it compulsory for a female to put socks on while praying? Well, the majority opinion regarding this is that the feet should be covered when we pray. So you could do that either by having, you know, like an extra, like quite a long item of clothing that you're wearing

a skirt or you know, a buyer that then covers your feet, or by wearing socks or any kind of footwear.

I hope that answers that question.

Another question I have is I wanted to ask if fake nails or false eyelashes are allowed to Zakah Karen okay. Yeah, so in our times has become quite common for people or at least the internet would make it seem as though it's common for people to be wearing false eyelashes and what was the other thing? Nails

instead of talking about whether it's allowed or not, okay, and I think that of course, they're highly problematic things. You know, when you're wearing false nails,

how are you able to make well do for Salah you know, is it possible to do that? Not really because the water from the widow must reach our nails right?

The water from the blue much must reach our skin and our eyes, right? Like our eyelids, etcetera, even our eyelashes. So these things are problematic on many fronts. But rather than focus on that, I would like to say, you know,

brothers and sisters, especially sisters, do we really want to be part of the culture that has warped society's ideals regarding beauty? Is that the kind of society that you want to live in? Do you really want to buy into the culture that

commodity commoditize is women, right? And these industries that cause women to feel so inferior and so on, unattractive? And make us doubt ourselves so much, that we cannot celebrate the natural beauty that Allah Subhana Allah has given us, don't get me wrong, you know, there's nothing wrong with wearing makeup and these kinds of things in the privacy of your home, when you're amongst women only, and amongst your Muharram the Mara men in your family, right? But what I'm asking is, this is this is over and above that, right? This is really trying to change ourselves to such an extent, that is unnatural, it's unnatural. And so I would say to sisters out there, let's not buy into that

culture, let's not be part of that culture and that problem, because what happens is it again, it warps people's sense of what normal is, right? If you're walking around constantly wearing these eyelashes, you know, these false lashes and nails,

you know, when you take them off is basically like, you're going to feel weird. And you're going to look weird, as well, to other people who've only ever seen you wearing those things, right? Why would you want to do that? Why would you want to give a false impression of yourself accentuating your own natural beauty, again, in the halal way, within, you know, women only settings and with your macarons for your husband, etc. There's nothing wrong with that accentuating your own natural beauty. But these excessive things, I would say, Let's not buy into them, let's not make those a part of our culture. Because, you know, they're, they're very harmful, it's going to harm us as

women, it's going to harm the next generation of girls who are going to feel inadequate, you know, we have women now who inject their lips, who every single part of their bodies has to be changed. And they say enhanced, I would say it's not being enhanced at all, you know, ALLAH SubhanA, Allah created us beautiful, he made us in proportion, in the proportions that we should be. And in the proportions that make us attractive to a normal person, you know, a person who, whose sense of beauty has not been warped by all of these images, and all of this fake stuff.

So, in summary, I would say, Let's avoid these things, you know, false lashes, these nails and things like this.

If somebody is going to wear lashes, nails, I think are very problematic, because again, how can you make will do when you're wearing them? Right? And why are you trying to change the creation of Allah to such an extent?

But, and also, you know, they're going to be out on display in front of non Muslims, right?

Unless you're going to be wearing gloves all the time. But when it comes to lashes, say somebody wore them temporarily for a party for some kind of event or something like this, then I would say again, you have to be very careful, because

you know, are you going to be making whoodle?

You know, it's as if Allah subhanaw taala doesn't want us to be obsessed with these things. Because we have that constant reminder of making wudu and making Salah sisters let's not

jeopardize our Arcada for the sake of a few moments of this dunya have some false sense of feeling beautiful.

And again, that sense of feeling beautiful is very questionable. Allah subhanaw taala made us beautiful. Let's be happy with what Allah has created and enhance that. But not try to change or Woolpit

and Allah Subhan Allah Allah knows best. Next question. Let me see

we have a question here.

If my husband is not ready to go on camera with me is

okay for me to go with somebody else with another male relative?

Yeah. So it's not a condition for you, as a wife, when you go on camera or even had to go with your husband, it doesn't have to be your husband in particular. Right? It can be any, any Muharram. Who is will who is able to travel with you, you can go with them, you know.

So, yeah, I hope that answers that question

is

what is the Islamic way to offer condolences? What is the ruling on gatherings for mourning?

Okay, before I answer that question, I want to remind you that you can call in to the studio, I welcome your calls. If you have any question on any aspect of Islam. Maybe you're a non Muslim, who's viewing this show. If you have any questions about Islam, anything you've ever been curious about, please do call in. Maybe you're a young person, and there's something that's been bothering you are something someone said, and you just want some clarification on it. Don't hesitate to call in or to send your messages via WhatsApp. So that question was about

I forgotten the question.

The question was about condolences, how to offer condolences, and what's the ruling for gathering for mourning, okay, so usually,

the way to offer condolences is to go and visit the person. Right? So when you hear that somebody's family members have passed away, or a family member has passed away,

you know, go and visit them and bring food for them. That's what the Sunnah is, you know, bring some food for them, because they're distracted, they're, they have a lot of things on their mind, you know, food is the last thing that they're thinking about. And yet they need food, right, they need to feel supported, and they need to feel that their community supports them through this grieving process. So, you know, taking food for somebody who, who has had a bereavement in their family,

visiting them.

And, of course, once the janazah is the funeral is arranged, you can go attend the janazah, right, if you can,

you know, attending a janazah is for the Keifa, which means that as long as a number of Muslims are doing it, the obligation of attending Jaya is lifted from everyone else, okay. But of course, we want lots of people to attend a person's janazah because, you know, that is a sign in sha Allah of goodness for them. And it means more people will be making dua for them. So if you can attend the janazah, for the men, they should follow the, you know, the janazah as well to the burial, and be there for the burial, you know, that is a hugely rewardable Act, that they should take part in as much, you know, if they can,

for the women, again, supporting, making dua bringing food,

usually, you know, unfortunately, nowadays, what can sometimes happen is people descend upon the, you know, the family's home, and then

it's almost as though the family feels obliged to feed people who've come to the home, right. And it shouldn't be like that, it shouldn't be, the expectation shouldn't be there that you're attending, you're going to somebody's house for condolences, and you're actually going to stay to to eat and stuff like that, if a family wants to feed people is fine, you know, is is allowed for them to do that. You know, maybe they've got people coming from abroad, etc. But it's better if the people who are present in other words, the you know, the the non family members or the people who are visiting, for them to arrange food and things like that, that would be better.

And of course, it shouldn't really go on beyond three days, you know, it's not something that we want to drag on and on. You can go and support somebody, of course, even after three days, but that kind of everyone gathering in their home, and that kind of thing. We should restrict that to three days if we can. And some of the things that you can do is you can of course make a lot of dua for the deceased.

We can give sadaqa on behalf of the deceased. These are some of the things that are permissible in sha Allah. We are coming up to a break. So I'm just going to remind you all you can call in to the studio, the number should be on the screen. You can send me a message on one

What's up? And I'll be happy to answer your questions.

Let me see if there's another question.

Brother is asking as a Muslim man, does my mother in law have to wear the hijab in front of me? As a Muslim man? Does my mother in law have to wear the hijab in front of me? The answer to that is no.

Your mother in law, who is basically your wife's mother,

you know, her actual biological mother, she doesn't have to wear hijab in front of you. In fact, you are her maharam for life. You are hamara. And for life, what that means is, even after like, say, you know, may Allah protect your marriage, if you were ever to divorce, or if you became a widower, your mother in law would still not have to wear hijab in front of you. In other words, you are Maram for life, it will never be allowed for you to marry her. That's what technically that means. Right? So and the same with Father in laws, you know, for their daughter. I mean, it's not exactly the same. But father in laws for the daughter in laws as well, you know, they, the daughter in law

doesn't have to wear hijab in front of her father in law, her husband's father.

I hope that answers the question.

So we do have a caller. Let me take the question from the caller. And then perhaps we might have to answer the question after the break. A Salam or Aleikum, color, Salam Salam aleikum delivered to

why they come as salam. Where are you calling from?

I'm calling from Republic of Ireland.

Sorry.

I have a question about a general general ruling on calling the last three times at one

and what is the ruling? Because there is a difference of opinion quickly guys, isn't that

a general? Okay. Does that color her brother? Thank you for your question. Appreciate you.

Okay, we do have a break coming up. We've got a break coming up. And so after the break, I'll answer the question. Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah brothers and sisters As salam o aleikum. Before the break, I had a quite a caller call in and he had a question about

three locks or three pronouncements of divorce being pronounced in one sitting. You know, how many does it constitute? Now unfortunately, brothers and sisters people are very ignorant about the Sunnah way or the actual proper way. If a man wants to divorce his wife the way he should actually, you know, carry it out. And so that's why people will do things like pronounced divorce, you know, three divorces in one setting, which is not the right way there's there's never any reason why a man should need to do that, you know, because even pronouncing divorce once and then waiting for three months to elapse without taking a wife back, or without having any kind of sexual relations or

verbally taking your wife back.

Even just doing that constitutes a divorce in Islam, right? Pronouncing divorce once and then waiting for three months, three menstrual cycles.

But what people what has become popularized or what people have started to do? Sometimes I think it's because of like, popular culture films and things like this. They have these notions of what divorce is, they've never actually gone and actually found out you know, what is the proper way to carry out a divorce. And that's what causes them to do this type of thing.

My general advice is that if you're in that particular type of situation, and something like that has happened, you should go and seek advice from a scholar. Okay, you shouldn't get advice from somebody on the television for a specific situation that you're facing, because

a scholar will ask you lots of follow up questions you know, they need to know like, Okay, what do you mean by three pronouncements? What was the situation

Were you in a state of anger, all these kinds of questions, right? Just to make sure that they give you the right footwear for your situation. But just as a general pointer, I'll say to you that

the fatwa of Umar Radi Allahu Anhu. And also Sheffler some even timea Rahim Allah was that, because especially, you know, even in the time of Omar, men had started to become very hasty and out of ignorance or out of haste, pronounced divorce three divorces in one setting when one sitting, right. And of course, normally, normally, if the third time a person has pronounced divorce upon their wife, it means that they can't get back together. Right? Basically. And it's very, very serious. It means they can't change their mind and, you know, marry again, even right, because that woman now has to go and get married properly to somebody else, consummate that marriage. And only after she

has left that marriage, can she re marry her previous husband? If he has pronounced divorce three times, that's the norm. Okay.

Listen carefully, because I don't want you to misunderstand this. And so O'Meara Dillon, who and some of the scholars, they have actually said that because people are so ignorant in our times, or because people are hasty.

That those three divorce pronouncements, if they were done in one sitting,

they don't constitute three divorces. Okay? They will constitute one divorce. And that's because it was done in one sitting, right, in one in one go.

But for a specific particular situation that you particularly are facing. So I'm just telling you, the general, giving you the general picture, okay.

For your particular situation, I would advise you, in fact, it's a must for you to go to seek a fatwa from a scholar to lay out the situation in front of the chair. And have them assess your situation because there's so many factors that they might want to factor in. And Allah Subhana Allah knows best. Brothers, don't use this power that you have of pronouncing divorce lightly. It's not something to be done lightly. You know, it's a very serious thing. And that's why, you know, it's not something to be done. When you're angry. It's not something to be done in the heat of the moment. No, this should be something that you've been thinking about for a long time that you've

tried lots of different ways to rectify whatever situation you're facing.

And every other mean has been means has been exhausted. And it's done in a very thought out way. Not something that is just uttered, you know, like a swear word or something out of anger. May Allah Subhana Allah protect our families and protect us. May Allah Subhana Allah make us responsible human beings who don't utter things out of anger.

Amin, so we're gonna go to the next question.

Another question that has

come in. My mom lost her husband in December last year. She has a shop. Can she go to her shop before she finishes her in December last year? So

okay.

We do have a cooler so I'm first of all going to go to the cooler.

A Salam aleikum cooler. Please tell me where you're calling from.

Welcome Slava rahmatullah wa barakato. Barakatuh.

I'm Mrs. Dyer and from Bradford, okay, Masha, Allah, how can I help you?

Just for the whole Ummah is suffering because of

some, like disaster or calamity or something is affecting and they feel so helpless because of that problem. Like, there's so much money of Muslim Ummah is going because of the bunch of selfish people is going to perform hand wrong places and instead of the whole, my suffering in very, very

deep problems and

really, really big disaster problems, and the money is wasted into wrong things. So what's

our collective responsibility to how to

Pour those people and do something useful as a collective approach and collective wisdom and everything we use our best.

You know, like, we get together and do something about to use that money or resources instead of

like a bunch of ignorant like you are mentioning about ignorance. So ignorant people who waste all this money into useless things and you mean Sorry to interrupt you system do you mean disasters like the earthquake that have happened that has happened recently in Turkey in Syria, if we would have some things some sources of income, like generally you get together, our rulers have some

payments into something we managed to collect from them for a yearly basis or monthly basis, then we won't have to back up more money from other like other non Muslim people are we have to beg from other people we have some sources to to like, resolve these issues. Okay. I don't know.

Thank you for your question, sister. Khilafah.

I think we do have another caller so As Salam aleikum, Kula Where are you calling from

yes sir Mr.

Wiley

I'm just gonna keep this brief if that's okay. Okay, sister go ahead. I'm just saying listen to physical second of high school I liked the procedure

and then it's really been

hitting you saying about what's your mum was going through and they've been really London

is really touched my heart like

because I live in some I live in England but I live with

just us

and we have

we do have that okay you know the looks you know the the comments Salacia comments

but been handling still wearing my scarf and I

have no scars with no one and we're always gonna have my scarf when

I just wanted to help her have two kids.

Twins are nine

again in the boys and in London, none other than Muslims in the schools. And then I'd have the low or skip us have to get them teachers online

teachers in the Quran and

Sunnah.

But you know the kids and they always have they always question and always have doubts, not doubts, but you know, they have no other Muslim friends who say

I don't know what to do on or what actually can make them feel proud because my son he's 12 and he's I

don't want anybody knows I'm Muslim school.

Everybody knows you or maybe isn't so you said did you say that you live in an area where there aren't that many Muslims? No, not at all. Just me.

Is there any possibility for you to move to an area where there are more Muslims

to be honest with you? I am I spoke to my husband about this and we don't have actually we already been moved about four months here and four years ago from a place had really bad neighbor we went for all courts and everything

because it was a racial stuff.

We just we always find the same thing. So you're not you're not seeing a major city. You're not living in a major city.

I live in I live in like a forest. I'm sure you have a new forest.

Okay.

Okay. So surrounded of English or Christian.

Understand.

So

it was that your question that how can you

how can you?

Yeah, I'm being asked to

Carrera two, to see if we all

have, you know, the Hajer tilaka has was to help us if we can move, because we don't have the money ready to move, we're missing sort of a council house.

So,

yeah, so really do offer us that system. Oncology? May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for you. Inshallah, I will try to give you some pointers to Saki La Jolla. And for your question.

Is that because I have a sister here?

Okay.

Okay, brothers and sisters. So

I'm going to go for the first question that came from the caller. And the question was about what Mr. Starr Hill? What kind of efforts can we do you know, to help when there's disasters that strike, you know, subhanAllah brothers and sisters, disasters are going to strike? Allah subhanaw taala told us that he made this life for us to test us right to test us. And those of us who aren't being directly tested, in other words, those of us who might not be on the receiving end of those disasters, we're being tested as well, because of course, Allah subhanaw taala is going to ask us, did we help? What did we do when we had the privilege

of not being affected by those things, but maybe having some wealth or having some other kind of power or cloud? What did we do to help the situation? I know that there are some people out there who also like scammers, you know, so the the general advice is you got to be really careful. Not every WhatsApp message not every call for a donation should be something that you respond to, you know, because you should be more discerning as a Muslim, as a human being, you should be more discerning before you make a donation. However, if you look at any of the big Muslim charities, or any of you know, like the properly established Islamic charities that are on the ground, in places

like Turkey in all over the world, and different places, they are very well connected, Masha, Allah, you know, I, myself have worked with some of them. And I'm actually going to be going to Lebanon soon in sha Allah to a refugee camp. And I know that they are very well connected, very well organized, they do work with the government, sometimes, well, at least with the permission of the governments, they, they have a huge network of other charities on the ground there. And so your money will go towards helping our brothers and sisters. So in Charlotte, if you're discerning, and you go for the big charities, or at least the well established ones, Inshallah, you shouldn't have

any problem there. For our sister, who, who's in the predicament of living in an area where there aren't many Muslims, and she fears for her children's identity, I would encourage you, sister if you can't move, and if you can't be in a place where you know, your children can be surrounded by fellow Muslims, at least some fellow Muslims, then you will have to create that social circle yourself somehow, okay? That's either through inviting people to your home, you know, maybe other relatives, other other Muslims from other areas, right? inviting them to your home to help establish some friendships with your children, or by going to Islamic events, going on Islamic retreats, you know,

there are these family retreats that in the UK, especially that take place, those are great environments for our children to start actually feeling connected, any kind of youth events, youth, Islamic activities, please involve your children in those because Subhanallah you know, our children's friends, they end up being more influential on them than us as at a certain point. Right? So it's really important as you've identified, to make sure they do have a circle of friends who are pious, who remind them of Allah, right? Because the person is upon the religion of their friend, right? Another thing you can do is to go abroad, I know that these things cost money, you know, may

Allah Subhana Allah make it easy for you. But you know, if instead of going to some other type of holiday, you know, if we take our children to Muslim majority countries, this also helps to form their identity and strengthen their identity because they see, they they are in an environment where Islam is the norm, being a Muslim is the norm and that's where the problem comes, doesn't it? No child wants to be the odd one out, having grown up in a you know, in a state school system myself. I know you don't, it's not comfortable to feel like the odd one out. But as a parent, there's a lot you can do by teaching them about Islam connecting them to the Quran.

connect them to the stories in the Quran. And help them to feel a strong sense of love for Allah. Help them to know Allah make dua with them so that they feel connected with Allah, at some point that will all come through, and it will help form and strengthen their identity in sha Allah. But yes, environment is very important. If you can't move to an environment that is better,

then I would say, you know, you can definitely try to create that environment by inviting other people to your house, by by creating a youth group or going to youth groups, youth events, Islamic events, et cetera.

I hope that helps dear sister, also, another thing you can do is, you know, make sure that your children have good reading material, you know, they can read good books, all of these types of things, help them to form and strengthen their identity helps them to feel that actually, you know, it's there's nothing wrong with being different. There's nothing wrong with being different. As a Muslim, you're going to be different. Let them know that we're different, but also

let them see their role as leaders in society. And lastly, sister I would say to you never underestimate the power of your DUA. As a mother, you know, the dua of a mother is answered, the dua of a mother is answered. So please hold your hands up to Allah and make sincere dua for your children that Allah subhanaw taala protects them and keeps them on the straight path because that's going to be one of the most powerful tools or weapons that you have in your armory when it comes to dealing with this issue. May Allah Subhana Allah guide our children and protect them and keep them on the straight path. Me anthem, amen.

So we had a question about it. So

you know, if if a person has things that are absolutely necessary for them to do, you know, as a as a woman and they are in the period, then they are allowed to go out and do those things, but only if those things are necessary. So I hope that answers that question.

I think we have another caller if we can fit one more caller in that would be great as Salam Alikum caller Where are you calling from? And please if you could ask your question

when it comes

to

the career Please can you explain your view and such there is no difference in the woman's with the month the law even if the money for the company? Not really?

Sorry, brother, please do repeat your question. I didn't fully hear it. I said can you explain your viewers that that is no different than the one

with the mumps even if the woman is full ended up because the mom or anything like

Okay, does that Karen

so, I think brother asked me to explain if there is any difference between the men salah and the woman's salah, right?

Well,

there is a bit of the difference of opinion regarding this. Okay, so some of the scholars they encouraged they've, they encouraged women, for example, when they're making their search there to make it you know, more modestly if you like, you know, etc.

But generally speaking, yes, there is no difference between the salah of a man and the salah of a woman, right? Generally speaking, there might be some minor things that scholars talked about, like you know, where you place your hands. And

like I said, you know, a Praying is more modestly if you're like, trying to be more kind of, as they describe it clinging to the ground when you're making the sausage that etc. But that's by no means something that all the of the scholars said. So, the general principle is yes, that the salah is the same

except for some minor differences, which is mainly to do with,

you know, modesty, etc.

But of course, women and men do dress differently as well for the salah. That's one difference, right? That as a woman when you're

getting ready for Salah everything should be covered except the face in hand.

And you should be wearing loose clothing that's not see through, right.

It can be your normal clothes that you're wearing at home, as long as it's covering everything, you know, because you're at home.

And for the men, at least, the parts of their body from their navel to their knee should be covered. Actually more or more than that should be covered like out of adab

and out of respect

So, we've come to the end of the show, brothers and sisters until next time Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Subhanak. Along mo Byham. The Shadow Allah, Allah, Allah and as the Fuuka what will be like Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh