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The speakers discuss the importance of keeping relations with family members and avoiding topics like hasn't been shipped, the "the Shs" and hasn't been shipped. They stress the importance of keeping relations and avoiding topics like hasn't been shipped, and the importance of avoiding giving money to charity and avoiding "the Sharia." They also emphasize the importance of avoiding giving interest money to charity and avoiding giving it to people who don't know what to do with it. Additionally, they discuss the importance of reducing one's power and offering physical attraction to others, and the need to negotiate and have a strong bond with their spouse. They also mention the Islamic calendar and its historical source of information.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah 10 Brothers and sisters As salam o Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to this episode of Islamic hub, where we ask answer your questions about anything related to Islam.

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Now, brothers and sisters, I already actually have some questions in front of me that people have been sending in. So without further ado, I will begin to go into them straightaway. I have a question here.

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About Amara Salam Alikum, a sister is going to start her cycle. So I'm assuming her menstrual period, two days before her flight for ombre, she cannot take any tablets to delay her cycle due to other medications she takes? How can she perform her Umrah while on her cycle? She's only in Makkah for four days, and so will not have finished menses. Okay.

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Okay, this is a quite a common question.

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And of course, you know, if you think about it,

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you know, something like your menstruation is something SubhanAllah. It's something that Allah Subhana Allah has ordained for women, right? And so he wouldn't put a burden on us more than we can bear. So the general way to deal with this is, yes, some of the scholars say that it's a good idea. If you do have time to take these tablets, go to your doctor, consult with your doctor, there are certain tablets, you can take that then delay the onset of your monthly period. And so if you could delay it, until the end of the umbra, then that could be a possible option. However, if you're not able to do that, and you know, what, if you don't want to do that, then the other option is that

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when you go on camera, you enter the State of Iran. So you enter the State of Iran.

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At the market, at the point, you know, there are certain points at which you have to enter the State of Iran, just outside mucker, once you enter the state of your home, it doesn't matter if you're in your menses or not, you know, you can enter that state, then

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you carry on to Makkah, and you're in that state of Iran, throughout that period,

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the one thing that you can't do is make throw off. And so what you would do is you would stay in your hotel, you know, you would wait in the State of Iran, for a few days, if you think your period might finish before you leave, then, you know, that would be the best thing for you to do just to wait, and then go and make the dough off, go and make the sigh and complete the ombre, okay, but if you have a flight to catch, there's no way you can delay it. You know, if there's a really high level of

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probability that you're not going to be able to do it in time, then what you've got to do is

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you are permitted because it's like a necessity, it's a necessity

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to actually, you know, go and make throw off. Even in a state of menstruation, of course, you have to make sure that there's no chance of any impurities coming, you know, soiling the masjid or anything like that, of course, take all the precautions that are needed, and go and make your bow off and Saturday. And that would be considered a situation of necessity. But like I said, if it's possible to delay your flight, that's what you really should do. If it's possible to just wait until the period has finished and Menzies has finished, you stay in a state of Iran within Makkah till the period is finished, and then you complete the rights of ombre. And then, you know, you can exit the

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State of Iran before you leave. Just so called a heron. Next question.

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We have a question here about

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I wanted to ask the question about reading the coils and blowing. I was advised to do it at night. Can it also be done in the morning or at any time one feels the need for protection? Thank you. Yes. So you know the practice of

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making locally on yourself.

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You know, cupping your hands and then saying are reciting the

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the short Surah of the Quran, the cold sutras and then blowing it over oneself, that it's not something that you have to do at night, it can be done at any time. So that's absolutely fine. It's for protection.

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Another question I have here is, is it permissible to breastfeed your child beyond the age of two,

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really, you should stop at the age of two, you know, try not to go beyond that. So probably as your child is approaching the age of two, you want to start cutting down on the number of times you're breastfeeding. So maybe, for example,

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stop the daytime feeds. Right? And only feed at night, or vice versa. And then just, you know, start eliminating the feeds more and more, of course, at the same time, you're increasing the amount of food and milk, cow's milk, you know, that the child is consuming. And so there's no nutritional issue there.

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At the age of two, that's, that's the limit. You know, you shouldn't go beyond that. You should try your best to finish before that. And there's no nutritional reason why your child would need it beyond that age either. So inshallah ALLAH SubhanA. Allah knows best.

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Another question I have here, salaam salaam aleikum when he comes set up. I wanted to know if I should keep meeting my sister, who has two young children. And now she is married to a Christian man.

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I don't want my own children to be negatively influenced. I don't want them to start thinking it's okay. And maybe they could also do something similar. Although I'm sure they know it's not. Okay. Also, if I should keep meeting her, should I also invite her husband? Is any of this permissible?

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Okay. So that's, that's

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quite a predicament, I guess. Because, you know, on the one side, it's your sister. And on the other hand, you know,

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she's obviously in a relationship that she deems haram. And then on, the other issue that you have, is that you have children and obviously, you know, you don't want them to be affected. Okay, I think

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one of the simple advices I could give is that inshallah you should, of course, maintain, maintain the ties of kinship with your sister, you should maintain the,

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the ties of kinship with your sister. And that means, you know,

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saying the salaam to her, fulfilling her needs, and those kinds of things. If you think her coming to your house, I mean, her coming to house by herself, that should not be an issue either, you know, Inshallah, perhaps by her coming to your house, this might influence her, and help her to become more practicing, etc.

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Where I would perhaps draw the line. And this is obviously for you, a decision that you need to make is that if I feel that somebody and not just in this issue, but any issue if you think about it, you know, if you had a sibling who perhaps was drinking alcohol, or doing any kind of thing that the Sharia disapproves of, or that is haram,

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where I thought that that thing would now start influencing my children,

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where that thing now is becoming harmful to my own family. That's where I would probably draw the line. So in terms of like, keeping relations with her,

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you know, I think you should keep relations with her Insha Allah, especially, you know, those of us living in Western countries. You know, we're already a minority as Muslims. So, you know, the idea of kind of ostracizing somebody

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you know, that that's only going to cause probably more harm than good. You know,

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it's obviously a decision that every family needs to make for themselves. But I would say, in terms of keeping relations with her personally, is definitely something you can do at the same time. You know, like I said, just as somebody any any impermissible thing, or undesirable thing that somebody in our family is doing, we might want to have that chat with our children, right. When they get to an age

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where they can understand and appreciate this, that not everybody who is a Muslim is necessarily, you know, doing the right thing is necessarily practicing Islam. I don't think there's anything wrong with us being very open about that with our children. Because if we're not open, unfortunately, that can cause a lot of confusion content. A child will be asking, well, how come? You know this Auntie of mine does this. And my parents say that this is not allowed, or that person says it is allowed that but so I think in order to prevent confusion, what we as parents should do is make it clear to our children, what the Sharia says and why. And then let them know that Muslims

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you know, different Muslims, even her own relatives are sometimes on their own journey. You know, they might be making mistakes, they might not feel strong enough.

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You know, they might be falling into sin. But that's not something that we want to emulate. And we want to help them to come out of that sin. So Allah Subhana Allah knows best. I pray that Allah subhanaw taala makes the situation easy for you.

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Salam from an anonymous sister.

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I saw my sister who is living in in my dream, and I was doing her hustle. Is there any meaning behind this? Okay.

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I personally do not know what the meaning behind that might be. Okay.

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You know, I'm not versed in the interpretation of dreams.

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But inshallah you know, when we have a positive dream, then hopefully it has a positive meaning.

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We have another question here.

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And brothers sisters do feel free to call in to the studio as well, especially our younger brothers and sisters. You know, a few weeks back we had some younger callers and I think that's it's really nice, you know,

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Allah subhanaw taala has encouraged us and the Quran and Sunnah encouraged us to ask questions, to gain clarification on any issues that we might be curious about, that might be bothering us, especially in relation to our dean. And there's no

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higher in the dean, meaning that if you have a question, it might seem a bit embarrassing to you. You might feel shy to ask but if it's something that inshallah will help you to get closer to Allah, it will help you to worship Allah better, and prevent you from sin, etc. Then in sha Allah, there's nothing to be embarrassed about, or anything like that. So I encourage you also to call in. Although, of course, your WhatsApp messages are welcome.

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Salam aleikum is a husband obliged to heed to a father indoors instructions, which favor the desires of the wife and her parents?

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But which is against the desires of the husband and his parents?

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I'm afraid I need a bit more clarification on that question. Because it's a little bit too cryptic.

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Sisters asking?

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Can I read the Quran during my period? If yes, do I make wudu

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I think the easiest way to read Quran when a woman is on her menses is to do it on a digital device. You know, because it's actually the touching of the most half the physical touching of a must have and a must have is basically a copy of the Quran that so a book for example, or a page that the majority of which is Arabic Quran, right?

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If a copy of the Quran does not have the majority of the text within it as Quran, then inshallah we can touch that copy. So for example, a translation, you know, if you're reading from a translation, a book of translation, the majority of the text in that book is going to be probably in English is not Quran. But when there's a most half that is pure Arabic, that's the most half that you shouldn't hold and touch. So really, one of the best ways to deal with this is to use a digital Quran, you can go on There's loads of apps out there, right? You can just download them onto your phone, and you can read them from your phone. And in order to read from your phone. You don't need to have

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a unit you don't need to be in a state of although.

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Okay, we do have actually got a call on China. I will ask the caller

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to ask the question, and then let's see if we can fit in the answer. I said, I'm Alikum color when it comes to camera, but elaborate, I guess, it's just I would like to ask you, you've got a little bit of interest money. Is it allowed for this to give it to a children's hospital?

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Is it allowed to give it to a children's hospital or any hospital for that matter, or anywhere?

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Okay, it seems that that's money. Okay. Erin, thank you for the question.

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Thank you chose that color ceremony.

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While it comes down to labor, but again,

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I'm going to have a look at some of the other questions I've got here.

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Okay, I had a question about how to check out a spouse for marriage, you know, what is the best way? For us? As Muslims, obviously, we don't have premarital relations, what are some of the means that we can take to check out a spouse before marriage to do our due diligence.

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So one of the important things that we can do apart from obviously, meeting that person with our maharam, you know, with our Wali, preferably, so, if you're a sister, you know, you would want to meet that person with your father, or with your brother, if you're a brother, you would want to meet the prospective sister, perhaps with a member of your family, it would be a good idea, maybe your mother. And the reason for that is that, you know, our elders, they obviously have the breadth of experience, they know, certain things to look out for that perhaps you won't be looking out for, you know, especially if you're very attracted to somebody, you know, it's not something that you might

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And so it's good to have the views of our elders, and for them to be present in some of the meetings that we have with that person to ask the right questions, etc.

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The other thing is, what you can do is actually request references. Unfortunately, this is something that a lot of people don't do.

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But if you think about it, if you were going to interview somebody for a job that you had, or something that you wanted them to do, one of the things you do is to request references, right. And the reason for that is that obviously, somebody who's perhaps worked with that person before or lived with that person will have more of an insight into their personality into their character, etc. So I think one of the important things you can do is ask them to provide you with references. And, you know, try not for it not just to be their best friends, you know, but somebody who's actually traveled with them, or lived with them, or done business with them, you know,

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or even like, studied with them, you know, those kinds of things. And if that ref reference is a Muslim, then of course, they should know, that they've got to be very, very honest, they've got to be very honest, that allowed to disclose any negative traits of that person as well, or any, anything negative that,

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that, you know, that might, that you should know.

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And so they should be very, very honest. And in that case, it wouldn't be considered backbiting at all, you know, it's something that they should do. And subhanAllah sometimes, you know, there's certain insights that you can get from a reference that you wouldn't ever really be able to get from a few meetings, or from knowing somebody for a short amount of time or from only meeting you know, their, their family. So I'd really encourage brothers and sisters, you know, before you get married to,

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to seek out references to seek out people who like I said, have either traveled or lived with done business with studied with

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your prospective spouse and ask them for either a written or other type of reference. So inshallah we're coming up to the break.

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And after the break, we'll continue answering your questions. Just like Kamala Harris or Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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Smilla hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah the brothers and sisters, welcome back to Islamic. I'm your host today. Fatima barkatullah.

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And I'm answering your questions. Brothers and sisters. Have you noticed we're getting closer and closer to Ramadan? It's not very far away. I think it's a very good idea as the Sahaba and the salah used to do to start preparing for Ramadan. Right

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plan out your year, and actually go into a different mode for Ramadan, start preparing what you need to do before Ramadan so that when Ramadan comes, you're in the optimal situation in sha Allah for making a brother, some of the solar fuse to increase in the number of fasts that they would do just before Ramadan, so that they would, you know, be in the practice of the fasting, etc, get a feel for it again, and and find it easier in during Ramadan.

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So I hope you're all making your own preparations. In Sharla, I'm going to be answering your question, so please do feel free to call in, especially our younger callers. You know, if you've got a question you've always wanted to ask, you've always wanted to know, a particular thing about Islam. You know, maybe somebody at school has asked you a question, you don't know how to answer it. You can call in in sha Allah? Or of course, you can send me a question via WhatsApp. So we had a question earlier, from a sister on the phone line. And she said that is it okay to give interest money? to charity, basically, to give to give it to a hospital? I think she said,

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Well, look, the first thing to say about interest is that we should be first of all trying to avoid it as much as possible, right. So that means if we've got a savings account, if if we're saving our money, we should be putting it in the type of bank account, or a type of investment. You know, there are investment accounts, Islamic ones now, that doesn't accrue interest, you know, that that's actually what we should be doing.

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If, however, you happen to have, you know, some money that is from interest that you don't know what to do with what what should you do? Well, first of all, you should not benefit from it in any way. Okay, so you should never use it for anything, for example, that will benefit you personally, things like your food, your clothing, your living, paying taxes, or any anything that's going to benefit you personally, you should not use that interest money for the only thing you can actually do with it is to give it away and charity. So yes, you can give it to a hospital, you can, you know, give that money away to poor people even.

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You know, it's not haram for them. Right? Once it's transferred hands.

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It's just money, right? But for you, it would be haram for you to benefit from it in any way. So yes, you should try and just give it away

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to any kind of charitable cause. And you wouldn't even be expecting reward for that, you know, because interest money is so despised by Allah subhanaw taala it's something that we're basically trying to clear our wealth from, right. We're trying to just get rid of it.

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So inshallah hope that answers the question. And we should avoid giving it to, for example, a masjid for building the actual masjid, you know? Or, yeah. Although it can be used for things like, I don't know, building certain facilities in a masjid that are not the actual, you know, main building of the Masjid. So, hope that answered this question.

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I have another question here. How were the names of the Islamic months derived? Because I intend to add them to the calendar so that people can learn them. But I want to know, the ruling on doing this, because these months as far as I know, we're known before Islam appeared.

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Okay, so, you know, there are 12 months in the Islamic calendar. They are the lunar calendar, which is basically, you know, the the moons movement around the Earth, rather than the solar calendar, which is the the calendar that you know, the mainstream calendar in, for example, Western countries, which is a solar calendar, the, the the movement of the Earth around the Sun, right? So, now, those months, the months that we know, you know, Muharram, Safa, robiola, well, etcetera. The Islamic months Yes, they were already established before Islam. They are historical, historically named, based on various reasons, like every every single month has a different story behind it, like

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something that happened in in Arabic history in Arab history.

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You know, in sometimes it's to do with wars, sometimes it's to do with the seasons, something that was happening at the time, some famous event that happened, et cetera, et cetera. So each of the months Do you have a different story. However, once Islam came, the prophets Allah saw

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didn't get rid of the months, you know, the months are the months they the Muslims continued using the names of the months.

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And there was no problem in that. However, the Prophet SAW Selim did give, for example, with Ramadan with certain of the other months, a different status, right?

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Based on Allah subhana, Allah is guidance. So, there's nothing problematic about the months and their names. It's just a historical fact that they were named in a particular way.

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And so, I hope that answers your question. In sha, Allah, I have another question here.

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When getting to know someone for marriage, how compatible do you have to be? How compatible do you have to be?

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Okay, I guess.

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Okay, this is a very good question. You know, how do you know if you're compatible with somebody for marriage? And of course, there is an element of subjectivity there, right? This? It's not like there's no one size answer for that question. However, I can give you some pointers, some things that you might want to look out for compatibility, or kapha, is something that is something that the Sharia does, or has traditionally encouraged us to

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think about, you know, so

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compatibility can be from different angles.

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Are you compatible? In your age? You know, that's something for you to personally think about, you know, is the is the age difference between you're going to be a big deal? Is it kind of appropriate? Is it something that you're going to be able to live with maturity, mentor,

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you know, intelligence, as well, sometimes, you know, you you want to have, you want to marry somebody who you feel you can have a conversation with who's on a similar wavelength to you Islamically, there might be certain other elements you want to consider like language,

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and cultural elements. Now, sometimes people, you know, especially those of us in our generation, those of us brought up in the West, we sometimes kind of ignore or think it's not important to think about culture, and language.

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And although culture and language are not the most important thing, when we're thinking about marriage,

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it's not, we can't also say that they're nothing, you know, they do actually affect people, right, some people would actually like to be able to speak to their spouses family, in their native language, right, or like their spouse to be able to speak to their parents in their native language. Or there might be certain cultural things that you don't even realize that you've been brought up with that are really important to you, in your culture, that somebody in another culture wouldn't necessarily think about important. Now, that's not necessarily a reason not to consider somebody compatible. But it's definitely worth thinking about, you know, it's definitely worth at least

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thinking about that, you know, is this something that I'm prepared to live with? Are these differences, things that I'm prepared to live with and are Shala many brothers sisters do live, you know, in culturally diverse families, and they've adapted and thrived in those situations. But I'm just mentioning the things that you might want to at least think about when it comes to compatibility.

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What I would, in summary, tell you to do is to make a list of negotiate of the things that you're willing to negotiate

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on, and the things that you're not willing to negotiate on, you know, and if you can do that, then Inshallah, when you meet somebody for marriage, you can, you know, see, okay, do they fulfill the things that are must haves for me? And do they fulfill the things that are nice to haves? And of course, we have the guidance of the Prophet SAW Salem, in his head, the youth in which he said that a woman is usually married for four things,

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you know, for her beauty, for her lineage.

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For her, for her beauty, her lineage, I forgotten the, the other two.

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But he said at the end, didn't he that take the one who has the religion, right? Take the one who has the religion that that's, that's really where you're gonna get your success from. So yes, religious compatibility is the most important. Okay? However, you know, other things like beauty, like, wealth, that sort of wealth, lineage, those things are things that people usually take into it.

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How'd you know what kind of family are you from etc. But the most important thing, of course, is

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religious compatibility.

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Other areas of compatibility are important as well, and it's really quite subjective. So in sha Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala help you with that? Do you have a caller actually on the line? So I'm gonna go

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oh, I think I've lost the corner. Please do call back caller and Shiloh will prioritize you in sha Allah. I have another question here. How much does attraction matter?

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Okay, before before I answer the question about attraction. I'm gonna go straight to our caller, a Salam aleikum, caller

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harlequins for lunch. I have a question.

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Tell us your name and where you're calling from, if you don't mind. My name is evening. I'm calling from Hertfordshire. Okay. Yep. So my question is, when you're performing sujood is it wrong for the nodes to touch the ground?

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When you're performing sujood? Is it wrong for the nodes to touch the ground as well? Okay, is it wrong for the nose to touch the ground? Okay. jozankei love for your question. Thank you so much.

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Okay, so to answer a sister, Evelyn, I think her name was question. Yeah, the nose should touch the ground when we're making sujood. Yeah. So you know, the nose, the forehead, the hands, the knees. And the feet should all be touching the ground when we are making such that. Okay, so I hope, hope that answers that question. Going back to our question about attraction.

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A sister asks, How much does attraction matter? You know, what if I'm not attracted to somebody, but they have other good qualities or characteristics?

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Well, look,

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again, it's very subjective, right? Different things are attractive to different people.

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But here are some general pointers I would give.

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Of course, one of the purposes of marriage is to satisfy our sexual desires, right? And that, and for that, you usually need to be attracted to the person, right, who you're going to marry. So I wouldn't disregard attraction, or attraction is important. You know, we already mentioned the Prophet SAW, said that a woman is married for four things, her beauty, her lineage, her wealth, and her religion. But he obviously emphasized the religion, but it doesn't mean that the other elements, like beauty, etcetera, are nothing or that they don't need to be regarded or that they aren't important to people, right? In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged a man when

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he was going to get married to look at the lady who he was going to marry. Right? So and of course, the reason for that is to build some kind of attraction, right? When there's some attraction, then inshallah

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that is kind of laying paving the way for a fruitful marriage.

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We just have to be a little bit careful. Because we're living in a culture and a time, when we're constantly bombarded with images, aren't we? We're constantly bombarded. And so our ideal ideals regarding attraction can sometimes be quite warped.

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So that's something to bear in mind, you know? And this is why the Sharia encourages us to lower our gazes. You know, if you lower your gaze, you protect yourself from seeing so many different types of people, so many different ideals and over attraction and over beauty, that can sometimes warp your own natural,

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your natural sense, you know of what is attractive or not. So lower, our lowering our gazes helps us to feel attracted to an average person, actually, and vice versa, right for men to feel attracted to women and women to feel attracted to men. Because the average woman is attractive to the average man. And the average man is attractive to the average woman, except when we have kind of warped our sense of attraction by bombarding ourselves and exposing ourselves to a lot of this stimulus, you know, that is actually very harmful for us visual stimuli.

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Just be aware, also, that sometimes somebody might not be very attractive immediately. Okay. But that attraction grows over time, you know? So sometimes if you marry somebody, if you're generally attracted to them, and they've got lots of good qualities, and you marry them, then actually, the attraction can grow because of this

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See, once you're married, you're both able to express yourselves more. And you can see each other's qualities, et cetera, et cetera. So I think it's really something that you have to weigh up you have to think about all the different elements of what makes somebody attractive.

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And through that Insha Allah, you can make your decision. But generally speaking, attraction is something that we should consider. And that's important because then it helps us to lower our gazes once we are married, right.

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I do have a caller so I'm going to go straight to the caller. A Salam Alikum caller

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Lee consola

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dear sister, please tell us your name and where you're calling from. My name is Habiba, Masha, Allah Habiba.

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And I'm calling from Scotland mashallah, how are you, sister? I'm fine. Thank you.

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What is your question? Sister? How can I help? Um, my question is regarding Salah

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when it just requirement for the elderly, when they pray, they have incontinent of urine. So how that make you a salon valid or naturally how that works?

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Okay, does that color fair? And for your question? Thank you, yes, for that question in Sharla.

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Okay, I'm going to try and answer that question very, very quickly in sha Allah before the end of the show. So, of course, when somebody is ill, then they have an excuse, right for maybe certain things can be overlooked. So they do still have to pray. Okay? So even if a person is incontinent,

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as long as they can pray, and they're conscious, they should pray. And if the incontinence is like, you know, temporary if it's only at certain times, then of course, they can clean themselves make wudu for each prayer and pray, but if it's a continuous thing, then inshallah you know, it's an aurora situation, it's a situation where there's a necessity and they should just wear something that will protect the themselves from urine, and they should make who do and pray. You know, for each Salah and Allah Subhana Allah knows best.

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Does that Aquila Ferran brothers and sisters until next time, salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh