Life of Aisha R.A #04 – Aisha R.A and Other Wives of Prophet ﷺ

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah dear brothers and sisters as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh and welcome to another episode of the life of Aisha mother of the believers with me your sister Fatima Baraka, tala. In the last episode we saw how our Isha or the Allahu Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam settled into married life in Medina after the Battle of butter. we addressed the question of the age of Arusha, Atlanta, and we began to look at how loving and close their relationship was and how our mother Aisha was very playful. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam really appreciated her personality and entertained her in various ways.

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On the day that I shadowed around her moved in with the Prophet sallallahu when he was a lump into the small heart, you know, the little room next to mushy the neighbor we should she was playing outside on a swing. And she tells us this in the heavies, and her mother on Roman came and told her to come in. And she was surrounded by these women women, who beautified her and dressed her up and they took her to her new home. She entered and sat with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, who offered her a bowl of milk and she felt very shy to look up. And one of her friends said to her, take the bull from his hand and don't turn down the offer of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Upon hearing this, he shattered the land, he took the bowl and started to drink.

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And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam told her to offer some of the drink to her friends who were also in the room. And they said we don't want to drink you know, they were feeling shy, or they you know, they didn't want to bother. And I sort of love sallallahu wasallam. And it was on this occasion that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, you shouldn't combine between lies and the hunger.

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So it was a very simple wedding, the two tribes. You know, in Medina, they were two tribes, the awesome heritage tribe, the leader of the hazardous tribe, sad, Ivanova was known for his generosity, he brought a meal to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his home. And so this meal became the walima this, this meal became the wedding dinner,

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the home of eyeshadow, the LAN ha, the small heart, it was on the eastern side of the Prophet's mosque. And I shall run her, she could reach from her heart, into the mosque, or at least from the courtyard of her heart, right into the masjid, if the Prophet salaallah salam needed anything, she would just hand it to him through some kind of opening or curtain.

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And sometimes he did, he would ask her, you know, sometimes she would comb his hair. If he was staying in the masjid, he would just put his head out into the area of eyeshadow on his house and she would comb his hair. The walls of her room, were only six or seven arm's length long, right. And the ceiling was low enough for a person to touch it if they raised their hand. So if they stood up and raised their hand, they could just touch the ceiling easily. This gives you an idea of the simplicity and the small kind of space that is shattered delana had as her home.

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And the space was so modest, that it shattered the land her describes, she says if the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam was performing Salah, if he was praying when I was sleeping, he used to touch my foot

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when he was about to make such and I would pull my legs in and only then could the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam perform his such that so she would be lying down. Typically, when he was praying, she would actually have to move her legs in order for him to be able to have enough space to make such that gives you an idea of the of the restricted space but of course the blessitt space that her home was.

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And you know, decades later, when the halifa Abdul Malik bin Marwan was planning the extension of the Prophet's mosque, it became necessary to deconstruct the house

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About Asia or the olana.

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So, you know, obviously now there's that huge green dome right above the area where the house of a shadow was, and where the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is buried. But at that time, it was the first time that they were going to deconstruct her house, and the famous mom, her side been massaged, he stood up, and he said to the halifa, I wish you didn't have to destroy this room, that and so that people could come and visit and see it. And he said, you know, because if they were to see it, they would be content with what they have, they would feel thankful. He said, thus future generations would understand what kind of life the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was pleased

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with, even though he had in his hands, the keys to the world treasures, right? So panela. And really, even today, you can actually go when you go to Medina tomonaga, there's like an exhibition you can go, then you can actually see models of the house of I shall Atlanta, what it would have looked like, where it was in relation to machine labor, we, of course, machine the buoy was tiny compared to what it is now, right.

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And so, really, by looking at the house of Ayesha, or the land hat and thinking about the space that she had it, it makes us reflect on the fact that, you know, these were the best of creation. And I saw Allah sallallahu wasallam could have asked Allah for anything he wanted. But he chose to live a very simple life.

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So what do you think was in the house of it shall not be allowed or not?

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Well, there was a mattress or a mat of some sort, very simple mat, you know, something maybe stuffed with some kind of palm leaves. There was a leather pillow filled with fiber, a piece of leather hung to a hook. There was a water skin, and a bucket for water, and a ball for drinking. Very, very simple items. And what was the lifestyle of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he shall grant her like, you know, she tells us that sometimes they would spend 14 nights in succession, without burning a lamp, or anything to give light. And I should have said, Surely if we had an oil lamp, then we would have used it for cooking. And she said often, they would only have dates and

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water as their meal for days on end. So panela and she tells us that sometimes three full moon moons would pass and they would eat only dates and drink water.

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She also tells us that the members of the prophets household never ate wheat bread three days in a row, until he passed away Subhan Allah

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was given he was giving a special type of tarbiyah to his wives, right. He's trying to train them to be detached from the life of this world and its material Ulla, even though these things were permissible. One day Aisha Abdullah and her heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying, My Lord enabled me to live as a poor man. Take my life as a poor man, and resurrect me with poor people on the Day of Judgment. And I shut it down her asked him why a messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? And he replied, because the poor will enter Jannah more than 40 years before the rich. And he said to her as a form of advice. He

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said, Oh, our Isha love the destitute and needy people, and always keep them nearby. Because on the Day of Resurrection, Allah will exalt you through them.

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He also told her Oh, I shall save yourself from the fire even if it means giving half a date in charity.

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And he would say to her if you want to reunite with me, be in this world like a traveler. Keep away from being near the rich. And do not think about buying a new dress before the present one becomes so old that it cannot be used anymore.

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This is not because being rich is necessarily an evil thing. No. But Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was

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Choosing for himself and for his family, a greater level of zewde of asceticism, even though they were permitted to enjoy and we are permitted to enjoy fully whatever halaal pleasures Allah Subhana Allah has bestowed upon us. Nevertheless, as Muslims, we are encouraged to prefer a simple and pious life over the over one of luxury and indulgence.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married other women, of course, and he used to divide his time between his households to be as fair as possible to all of his wives. And so over time, a group of huts were built next to Masha Nebo we were all of his various wives would live because people knew of his special love for it shattered around her. They would wait until he was going to have his night at it shut up, Dylan has house and that's the day when they would send him gifts and food. And sometimes they would not send gifts and food on the days when he was in the other wives houses. And so this started to annoy some of his wives.

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Actually, Bella has nephew odawara he narrates that our Isha said the wives of Allah's Messenger were in two groups. One group consisted of herself hafsa Sophia and so that and the other group consisted of on selama and the other wives of Allah's Messenger.

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The Muslims knew that Allah His Messenger loved our issues, so if any of them had a gift and wish to give to Allah's Messenger, he would delay it until Allah's Messenger had come to Ayesha's home. And then they would send their gift to her home.

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The group of home selama discussed the matter together and decided that on selama should request Allah's Messenger to tell the people to send their gifts to him. What whatever wife's house he was in, in sha Allah, after the break, we will carry on with this story. And we will hear what exactly happened when on selama went to speak to Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam about this issue. Join me after the break.

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Salaam, Allah Alaikum and welcome back, we will tell it the story of how I shattered it on her and the other wives of the Prophet salaallah sallam. You know, the little incident happened between them. We said that, you know, I should have done her and had kind of like a number of the wives of the Prophet salla salaam, who she had more of an affinity with, right? And on selama had a nother group. So it was almost as if the wives of the Prophet were in two kind of groups. And what happened is that because our Isha rhodiola, Anna was the most beloved wife to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And people knew of this and they could tell this, they used to send gifts to her house, on

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the day when Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was in her house, and they would send food and gifts. And sometimes they would stop giving gifts and food on the days when he was with his other wives, and so on Salamat and the group of wives who kind of with her in her group, they discussed the matter together and they decided that on selama should go to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and tell him that they felt that this was not fair. And to tell the people to send gifts to him, which have a wife he is he was in the house of. So on Salamat she went to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And she said this, you know, and he didn't reply.

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Then they asked on selama again, and she said, Well, he didn't say anything to me. So they asked her to approach him again. She went to him again. But again, he gave no reply. And so and this happened another time as well a third time. And this time, he said to her, do not hurt me regarding Ayesha or the Lana as the divine inspiration comes to me in no other bed except the bed of Ayesha drama so it's only in I shudder Dylan has home while he's lying in bed.

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That sometimes there are some Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would receive revelation. And that didn't happen in any of the other wives houses. And when on Salah heard this, she said, I repent to Allah for hurting you, you know she did not want to kind of put pressure on Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And here Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was telling her, that look, there is something special about Aisha, even the fact that Allah Subhana, Allah reveals verses of the Quran in her house, and doesn't reveal them it when he is with other wives of his shows you that there's something special there. So he was telling his wives to not feel this kind of, you know, unhealthy

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level of jealousy towards her. And, you know, obviously you're assuming Allah sallallahu Sallam he couldn't control whether people would send gifts, you know, on his night without Isha on any other night, right gifts or gifts. So he was kind of telling the wives to kind of not put pressure on him and to accept, you know, Allah Subhana, Allah has made all of us at different levels has given all of us different blessings. And here, I saw Allah Salallahu alaihe. Salam was highlighting that there is something special about Ayesha, right, simply because even the revelation comes to him in her house. So when on Salah, or the Alon, he went back.

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You know, the the group of the wives they were obviously disappointed. And so they decided, let's talk to Fatima or the Allah and have a daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so, they went to Fatima and they asked her to talk to Rasul Allah. So she went to her father, and she said, your wives requested me to tell you to please treat them and the daughter of Abu Bakar on equal terms, right. And then Fatima grana conveyed the message to him, you know, the complaint that they had. And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh, my daughter, do you not love whom I love? And she replied in the affirmative. And, you know, she realized that Subhan Allah,

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you know, this is not something first of all, it's not something that's in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his hands, you know, things like gifts and these types of matters are not in his hands.

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And, you know, there was no point in kind of putting pressure on Rasul Allah when he was doing his best to be as fair as possible to all of his wives.

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They then asked Fatima to go again, and she refused. And so they sent Zainab bint jash. Then at mindjet, she was Massoud Allah, sallAllahu salams wife, who was from his own tribe, and she had a very, she was known for her beauty and for her status. And she went to him and you know, she used some quite harsh words. Okay, she said your wives request you to treat them and the daughter of a bee kochava is, you know, abubaker on equal terms.

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When she raised her voice, and she saw a shed there and she started to kind of verbally attack a shadow around her to her face Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam obviously looked at our Isha, and, you know, allowed her to respond, and our Isha or Dylan has started to respond to Zane up until Xena but Atlanta was completely silenced. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam, it seems like he took this as something quite humorous.

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So Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said she really is the daughter of abubaker. Right? Because of a worker or the lion who was also known for his eloquence and here is Shana Dylan had replied and responded to Zainab in an eloquent way, and kind of silenced her right.

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This story, it kind of tells us first of all about the special status of Asia, the Golan Heights, but also about the humaneness of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and his family, right. They experienced some of the same struggles and human emotions that all families experience. But you know, it's how they controlled and then how they were nurtured, to react to their feelings that we can really learn from. They control their feelings and they learn how to read

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react. And what the best way to react was.

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I shut down her loved Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, deeply Once, when he ventured out quietly in the middle of the night, she followed him secretly. And she saw that he went to the Buffy cemetery. And she saw him raise his hands and make da.

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Then he started to head home and she tried to run ahead of him to get there first. So this is all in secret. You know, he didn't know that she was following him. She got home before him and she lay down in bed pretending that she'd never been out.

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But she was out of breath. So the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam could tell that something was up.

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The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her, are you going to explain yourself? Or do you want Allah to tell me about what happened? And then he asked her, What are you the figure I saw in front of me while I was walking? And she said, Yes.

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On another night, she felt around the bed and our soul, Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not there. So she became worried. And she started to suspect you know, has he gone to visit one of his other wives? You know, these ideas started coming into her head.

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She looked up and she witnessed that he was actually deep in Salah he was making the night prayer and he was making dua and he was saying Allah Houma are all the theory Doc, I'm in Sahaja Yoga will be will be more or fatica min aku baetica where all the becoming law, see if Anna and I like her and took him out of Nita Alan of sick.

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Oh, Lord, I seek refuge in your pleasure from your wrath. And in your forgiveness from your punishment. I seek refuge in You from you. I cannot praise you as you praise yourself. And she said, May my parents be sacrificed for you? What was I thinking about you while you all the while we're busy doing this. So panela so you can see that her heart was very attached to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he wasn't there, she would look for him. If he wandered out in the middle of the night she would get worried and she would, you know even secretly go out to see where he was. And all the time she was witnessing how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his heart was

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attached to Allah. And then she conveyed you know these two as these incidents to us.

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I share or Dylan has served Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as as his wife, right? She needed dough for him. She combed his hair and beard, she applied perfume to him. She prepared his meals, she washed clothes for him. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also helped with the household chores. And in that is a message for all of us, that the best of women, the best of people who lived on this earth, lived lives of service, the best women would serve their husbands and families and allow the home to be a place of calm and order to support the work of their husbands. And the best of men would be sensitive to the needs of their families.

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So I pray that we learn from this, that we learn that the best of women used to do the everyday household chores that women all over the world today do. In fact, our lives have become easier because obviously we have these machines, we have these, you know, appliances that really help us to do work and in a lot more of an easier way. So we should never look down on being women who serve our families. We should never belittle that. Because the best people who lived on this earth also served their families in sha Allah I will see you next time when we will continue the life of our Isha mother of the believers. A salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato subhanak Allahu mobi

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