Channel: Faith IQ
There is always an adjustment period when a woman gets married. If one’s mother in law is dominating, how can she deal with it?
Ustadha Taimiyyah Zubair answers
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What can a woman do if she feels that her mother in law is very dominating?
If a woman feels that her mother in law is very dominating, what I would advise her to do is that first of all, avoid conflict as much as possible. Secondly, always be respectful, no matter how dominating she is being, no matter how disrespectful she may seem, do not disrespect her in return. Remember her status. She is after all your husband's mother, and so she deserves some respect. So do not be disrespectful no matter how hurt or offended you are. And remember that in a hadith we learned Manta, la de la la he Rafa, Houma, whoever humbles themselves, because of Allah, then Allah subhanaw taala will elevate them. So do not be disrespectful. This does not mean that you don't
speak in your defense, or that you don't express yourself, or that you don't share your concerns or communicate, you should do that, but do so in a respectful way. Another thing I would advise you to do is that you should try to keep your husband out of this conflict as much as possible. The reason is that it is a very difficult position for him to be in, because on the one hand is his mother, who he has to respect and on the other hand, is his wife, whom he has to protect and take care of. So unless it's a very serious situation where you feel like you are being extremely disrespected, or that you are being oppressed, then you should seek His help and involve him. Otherwise, over little
things. Don't involve your husband and create unnecessary stress in your family.