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So demons of the 11th Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
Welcome to my show on radio Islam it is Thursday morning. And as we know on a Thursday from the law, we are blessed and honored to have our guest on the line for the Idris camisa family Lincoln
walaikum salam, wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh my most beloved Milena and Belinda and hamdulillah How are you I pray the listeners are good. And it's so good to reconnect with these a pity. I was here to give a talk now Alhamdulillah the numerous organizations have a program for the elderly Alhamdulillah that Hall is full. And it was so good to talk to them and talk to them with respect and love as hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah.
And we're about is this program today it is by it is in Durban at the nmJ Hall is organised by the IMA by the beta nor by alinda, then n double a sun a number of organizations. And I'll have the lights so good to see the elderly, smiling, some of them maybe for the first time for a long time. And perhaps some of them are feeling the pain of neglect from the children. Some of them might have gone through marital disputes, and some of them might be neglected might have felt neglected by society. And it is so good that communities are honoring the law.
Except your program and you're speaking to them very interesting topic. Indeed, it is, by
the way, an interesting theme, as well for a program like this, to be addressing the aged and elderly and to be recognizing the value in our community and society. Absolutely. And that at some point, you see, the point is he does not feel when you grow older, you give up on life, you know, as someone said is so nicely, you are not retired, you must become refired You must really, you know, be optimistic. And of course we depend on Allah's mercy, do whatever we can watch, have a good weekend, and we need at that time especially forgive, we need a time to let go, let go of the painful memories of the past because they say 95% as their garage, the guests from UK was saying is
so true. 95% of illnesses come from depression and 98% of
you know, depression comes from
wrong beliefs. So it's important to be optimistic and to let go, and to forgive because otherwise you are carrying the burden
is through then we end up with it
in the bottled up emotion, and that's exactly what I spoke to you about last week, when you proceed with the presentation it is by the bottled up emotion that that turns around and becomes a disease it becomes an illness, and it has a bad effect on our body. Absolutely, you know, we really we need to understand that, that our body can heal itself. But once you allow something to fester, then it impacts on the way you look at yourself and the way you look at the world. And we have to let go and we need to always move forward and do as much good as we can to as many people as we can devote our life to the deen and look at ourselves and Allah giveness. And in that way, one of the most
beautiful things in life is when you bring a smile to another person and that smile, you cannot quantify you know when through your interaction through your positive interaction. That person might say wiped away here and the person begins to reconnect with people and do beautiful things that a person will ought to be doing. You know.
It is my fun this topic of the age of the elderly.
It's obviously firstly the responsibility of children and
young people in the family to take care of the elderly. But very important reminder is that many of the elderly don't have family they don't have immediate relatives living around them. And so it becomes the community responsibility to make sure that they are seen to taken care of the needs are taken care of. And they are
well looked after.
I mean, the one thing is we talk about it takes a village to bring up a child, it also takes a village to look after the age and this is the my own thinking that we need to look after them, we need to honor them, because what he said, we did not discuss with them, because they have many of the answers to the problems that we are dealing with. And you find that a place like Japan and other places, whoever has retired the bring them back to the workplace. And they asked him to share the wisdom, to share the knowledge with people around them and, and Alhamdulillah those that do that, you know, it has a very, very profound impact on them, and impact on people around them. And, and,
and really, I think, what are some of the things that we can do, I said, if you have not contacted your father, for a long time, do that now. And if you haven't spent time with that, do that now, if you haven't prayed for them, do that now and it is a neighbor with all go through them and engage them because in the end, as we are told by lobbyists and allowed us tell them, if you think of in the time of prosperity, I think you have the time of adversity, and these are things that we need to do, we must do inshallah, and that could make a whole lot of difference, you know, yes, inshallah has is better listeners, You are most welcome to SMS and 0731738461, you can even call in on
018541548. And it is very light and note, I hope we are among those to take care of the elderly. And we are not not in that category of the old in ages already. You know, I said to them, You know, I said to them that my wife likes it. When does call me uncle, you know.
And now another call me grandpa also. So my wife means total. Right. But that's the point, you know, but the point is, in the end, I think, you know, in the end, it's about it's an attitudinal thing. It's about you know, how we respond to the emails, they are those people that are walking dead who have given up on life already in
the listeners, please remember to SMS 073173846 when given call in on 1185415 for it to be the famous Hadees which we hear about the elderly all of the time. And we are constantly reminded of Mel Amir Hamza de la mujer maccabean enough Elisa mean that that person is not counted as part of the Muslim oma, he doesn't have mercy on the children and the young ones. It doesn't maintain the respect of the elders. And it's a very serious, very important Hadith, emphasizing greatly the respect that we have to forth to the elders in our community. And I would applaud people to set up programs like the one you attending today, and others that have taken place in different communities
in different towns, and Allah Subhana Allah reward them tremendously. And I seen the answers coming out of programs like this, really appreciating what has been done for them.
Yes, you know, that they come back re energized because all human beings, what do they want, they want appreciation, they want acknowledgement, they, they want to be affirmed, and they all want affection and attention. So all human beings want. But the real challenge is beyond this function, what kind of support structures we can create. So the old people would know that of course, you first turn to Allah. But there are people on this earth that walk this earth would grace, calmness and compassion that we can turn to them if there is an issue in any kind of support. And therefore I know Allah is pleased. And I see so many people making phone for the elderly, supporting them going
there, give them a massage, doing shopping for them, getting their pension for them. And this is what we all need to do a fraud. Every elderly person in the community is your own father and your mother and we need to understand that and it's very, very important that we embrace that because this is a point you know, sometimes we are so concerned about having our own
pleasure, you know.
Okay, we have a caller on the line in this way. That's taking corner.
We have a caller on the line of slavery
in America too. How are you? handling Molly?
Go we went to Montana how you keeping very well and handy and the other brother also and it was all up for the therapy program give you people long life and good health and lots and lots of the years to come and feel them and only our Muslims Jenna
like to add on that manana is got
a place of safety for the elderly and homeless in St. Louis. And I would like to say to all people
that you know what elderly people is near my heart today or near my heart because I see in all areas where we bottle people Indonesia and other other parts that all people are not recognized sometimes children It is so sad because there's a lot of trucks going around in areas and we also have people with this April problem trying people they've got sick people that decision on our premises. And I would like to say to people when it comes to elderly widow eating out of out of Malaysia, we able to keep in your pockets for those people because they only get a pension and it's really really hard for them to reach hospitals and older you know, people must be concerned with the elderly eat
because and let's say that whoever helped my omake I will help you. So my my love for the age is so concerned that I would love to do more for the elderly if I can because Indonesia itself is 25 people that is typically that is better than and Mulana if you can see sometimes what some families do etc. So it's so hard so that you know what, sometimes I feel Yeah, why does people do this to the families? Some of them they stay alone some of them they are pinch and blue and it is so sick Milan but really people not really they must really do for the H mo and we've worked before wheelchairs and sticks in workers if they need they can contact me I want to leave my my number what the one of
answer like I said, people
even more concerned with the elderly is concerned and the town sometimes children because there was other people that need your help more than the other people you know system may Allah really you know, I'm very in touch with people show your kind of generosity. May Allah bless you, Allah give you a burqa in your time so that you can help more people and inshallah May you be an inspiration to others because selflessness today has become a very rare attribute in individuals we are so preoccupied with our own selves and our own narrow agendas you know, and shall I pray that others are going to contact you and so that they must understand our system and also understand that you
are part of a woman who will allow you will tell them and you also have an obligation to help the oma whenever you can. sakana so, so much and I made a special job for both of you people and read you Islam, that Allah if you people the face of health, and the face of protection and abilities from Allah, all I can say manana that my heart is really really sore that I'm doing this work for the last 20 years, which each person can come and see my work. They can come and view it day and night. But I can't get away from the jammies. I'm sorry to say that but my heart is really really sore. really special.
So much I inshallah yo yo longest allies witness to what you are doing and that's all you need very inshallah, Allah is the facilitator. It makes things easy for you. Allah knows what's in your heart inshallah may you continue and really a I'm sure you have inspired others by your calls and molana and I really appreciate your your silly phone call. Thank you so much.
You people so much, and so much protection for your family. Because life is so so short today mana
to people whenever you wish for your family, and look after your children bring your children nearer to Islam. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Very important call it is by going to the sister for for highlighting the work that she has been doing, and isn't humbler there are many organizations and people who are doing work and people are privately in secret
Work and helping out the aged and the elderly and other people who require help and assistance in the community and society in an hour boosting oma is an oma of mutual assistance and help. This is what I think it is. The essence and beauty of the Muslim Ummah is all about.
Yeah, absolutely. And it wasn't that parents become the role model. And the way they conduct themselves towards their own parents. The similar thing will happen with the children, the kind of generosity, compassion and whatnot, they show, because you know what, in the end wanna, the point is, you know, what is best for you. So before we go on to that we have a caller, can you take the caller? Yeah, please. Take the corner, sir. Mr. Lee como rahmatullah wa barakato?
My name is?
Brother, I can hardly hear you.
Unfortunately, I can hardly hear you. Can you please speak up or make some changes? Now? No, very, very slight decrease I can you hear the brother?
You know, why not? Going through? Clearly.
I will try to grasp what you're saying. Yeah. I'm from Indonesia, we have started to fail Care Center. And it's called Russia, Asia.
And if anybody wants to know more, they can contact Oh, 118524328.
That is, did you get that? Yeah, we got that. No, Allah, Allah bless you. I repeat the number is that the name of your organization is aranci. file.
Yes, so the number is
Oh, 1185203288520328. And
what's the physical address on the screen? At the moment, we don't have a physical address as such, but we are busy with
doing quite a bit of work. We looking at public as well.
doing a little bit of home care. And the lady that you should speak to? Let's answer the phone. Her name is Christina Kareem.
Okay, and then akmola for your call, and May Allah bless you and those involved with the organization and other organizations that were unaware of, in trying to improve the quality of life. And to make it easy for those that have challenges. We appreciate your call this afternoon.
Like this organization, many people must be doing work, they must handle and accept all of the work that they are doing, about the IDP the only home and orphanage in Niger as well. And
the brother's name is known as is known as by by many of the people in the area and excellent work there as well.
It has a point one and now you see the point is that we expend so much of energy and monies in trying to lead a far more comfortable life trying to obtain as many creature comforts but sometimes you forget to look after the others you know, and then that's the point and I think shala we can do that inshallah. inshallah. We'll take a short break, and we'll have to return just after that. Stay tuned to our mashreq aanrader Islam subdeacon pay prime match is back.
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well as mature Hans.
And Idris homies
it's 26 minutes to 12 Welcome back to elementary unready Simon, welcome back to Casper, the Idris, some Easter. It is an interesting topic that we have started off with regarding the elderly in our community. And we'd like to hear the positive stories of what people are doing for the elderly in their lives, parents, grandparents and others in the community as well. One story out of ermelo and this was a few years back that will humble
the ladies in the village twice in fact that the ladies got together and they decided to host a tea in the afternoon for the elderly ladies and very beautiful program set up with gifts for the ladies etc. And it was really well received. And I was visiting one of the towns I'm trying to remember which town it was. Exactly. And they had a program for all elderly men.
I can't remember which town it is exactly. Maybe one of the towns that had it can can remind us and this was one of the positive things done for the elderly in the community way.
Which is my day with me.
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Welcome back to mashreq. We apologize for the gaps in our transmission. There seems to be some issue with the telephone line. Welcome orchestral VCs camisa back on the line is used by Salam Alikum walaikum salam rahmatullah wa barakato sorry for cutting off like that.
Looking at the various activities and initiatives taken for the upliftment of the elderly in the community. We'd like some feedback from from different towns and places for about the programs that they have. initiated inshallah.
Yes, you know,
Lila, I think there are many people are doing things at a personal level, which is depressing is a community as a whole response to it. I mean, I get so gratified when I hear when days or walima, or a wedding, that people invite all the old people from the old age home and wherever else. And to bring them there. And really what it does, it really gives them some sense of gratification, some sense of appreciation, and they reconnect with the community. And it's right. And I think there are many individuals and organizations who might be doing the same thing and be great if they share it, because who knows, a particular town may have a beautiful model that other towns could emulate, you
this inspiration and motivation, when, when placed or something in some other people can can follow on from the
edges by coming to the other issues that you have been dealing with, perhaps we can wait for listeners to call us about the activities that they use instead, just brought about for the elderly, we're coming to the other
issues that you've been dealing with, that you would like for us in? Yes, you know, I mean, the funny thing is, as much as you know, we all leave, and it's so true, that you like our kids,
no longer the Quran and to become an alien, is that all people
may be inclined towards it may even want to do it. So as parents, one has to be very, very guarded, that is we do not impose things on them. And that can create a lot of resistance, and anger. And this can also create problems in relationships. So that's very, very important in life.
That as much as of course, where someone has a potential, a way out of laziness is another matter. In anything in any profession. They don't want to do it. And sometimes the parents
have their own positive ambition. They do that, you know, as far as Western are concerned. So one has to be very, very guarded about that, you know, that's one one issue. Right. The other issue that again, seems to be quite problematic, is that, you know, sometimes, you know, when a person when he gives us a lot, he does not communicate
to the person.
Finally, my guess I'm trying at the back, you know, let me sit outside for a moment, right. So, you know, so what happens is this, that they may not communicate to the person, the reason for the separation, and that's also very, very unfair. And I say, all the time, I say that if you if you have, you know, really committed yourself to the relationship, and you really want to make it work, you're going to try everything that is humanly possible to do that, you know, and that's the second issue. And the third issue that is important is that
sometimes, the couple may have a problem. And but they're not prepared to discuss the problem, they discuss something else, not related to the problem. And I find that men are often very reluctant to discuss it as important. And the last point I want to make is that I find that this seems to be a pattern with vehicle assistance, that they find it very, very hard to forgive, and to let go. They find it too hard to forgive a network. And as it is, now they keep on repeating the error of the husband and mistake he has made. They keep on doing it and that doesn't help the situation.
We have a caller on the line. Let's see if we can take that caller Salaam Alaikum.
I think the main is dropped.
Okay, you can call back in to the problem in some houses. And we'll take your call once again.
It seems like when it comes to issues of marriage, love is numerous programs and
discussions with regards to management 1000s of books that have been written. One of the interesting books that we have picked up and we are discussing on Saturday mornings with one and a half people that is the Book about the languages of love. And I don't know if you've heard about that, but no, no, no, no.
Okay, before we go on to the caller is back on the line. Let's take the caller sir Malcolm Lumley.
to note that there are a number of debt free cages now that been formed quite a number of the men's, three k
men for just 10118521520328. no 2033282820328. Okay, is that the last?
g, you are familiar with that book, the Yakima crossable gene
has been testing information and I find it to be greatly beneficial. If couples were to practice on it properly and make sure that they
any gently I think they feel they can get good benefit out of it. That's the point. That's the point molana, you can give any book to anyone in the end, if they're not receptive to open the hearts. And to learn the biggest problem with the oma today that we have given up reading, and I don't see it out of any modesty, if we can surprise myself, over three and a half 1000 books at home, right, the others I know for 10,000 books. And what I'm saying is this, that we do not need, we don't want to read, we don't want to increase our knowledge, you're not prepared to invest in ourselves, we have forfeited the first I in the finance. And therefore, in the end in the last great book, gold
equities. And you find that except for those that love reading, others do not want to read at all, did not prepare the whole thing in life, you must be prepared to embrace change was he prepared to do things differently? You know, and that's very, very critical. And I'm so glad you're in Montana, discussing that particular book.
other issues that you've been dealing with? Yes. So the The other issue that I'm dealing with, is the whole issue of kids running away from home, you know, and because they're running away from home, or to fear for the parents. And just as, for me, very disturbing, very, very disturbing. In fact,
you know, I'm going to meet someone, I suppose to meet someone, you know, today, and still waiting for the person was running from home, and he wants to be mediated between him and his father, you know, I mean, he said, Man, you know, that he must learn to communicate, I'm not justifying it all the reasons for the kids leaving the home, but the home itself must be a happy place, you know, a place where you can communicate where forgiveness is important, where
people understand the the commonality of values, with Islam, rather than only intimidation and anger, for the family is together. And you know, these things we need to do, really, we are living in very, very challenging time. So this is very important.
This issue is running away from home, in the smaller towns, obviously, wasn't the habit that much, but generally, what is the main reason what, what are the most common reasons? The common reason is the afraid that they might have made a mistake in life and the parents are very, very punitive. They're very, very harsh in the treatment. And and they create a huge problem. I mean, only running from home, if you have
grown up in a unforgiving home, you know, and then you run away, you know, so. So there is no forgiveness in your home, then, if you know that your father is will literally kill you. What do you do? See, these are important things. Some parents themselves understand the desire, they have reason to do, right. But we are human, we happen to make mistakes. So we need to be far more forgiving.
now that the holidays,
students have gone on holiday since yesterday, and they have free time. Like we remind them during this period, usually it is way past a little discussion on how parents can keep the children occupied and
keep them busy. Yeah, yeah. I think it's important for us now to look at ourselves and look at what areas that we need for development. It could be in terms of your spirituality, it could be in terms of your relationships with your family, it could be in terms of your physical developments. It could be in you know, a whole, a whole range of things, right. So it could be any number of, of these things. So I think it's important
It's important that we do that and, and focus on our holidays and whatnot, you know, and we need to do that and I think it's a chance for us to reconnect with members of our family.
Is it gonna take another short break now inshallah and we'll come back with our discussion just after that to the listeners Stay tuned and you can call back in and zero double 1854155 just after the break inshallah.
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nine minutes to 12 Welcome back to our mashreq and welcome back to orchestra vs camisa It is my it's the almost the end of our program perhaps last few words of advice inshallah.
critical thing is that we have no idea how long are we going to live? The time is now when we need to engage each other we need to forgive and inshallah in that way we invoking Allah mercy and the community we need to respond to the needs of the community in response to the you know, the issues community have you know,
and we need to do that and we need to experience be the role models for children like to keep the relationship going and inshallah try to make our city as rustic philanthropic so they can also go and help the wider community and we must understand the part of South Africa you need to get involved in the plural society, helping people of other faiths so that we are like NaVi Salah is awesome and must be on to all men.
Equals heaven for your time this morning inshallah we'll speak next week. inshallah you take him on Anna look up your Shabaab Lena Dunham Alaykum Rasmussen liberica
Janine ntds camisa sugar into my studio beta sama and to you for listening from Tunisia satin Mr. De Sena. aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.