Edris Khamissa – Tap into your potential – 03.04.2014

Edris Khamissa
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of laughter and how it can bring joy and sadness to life. They also touch on the topic of finding a home for a child who experiences depression and anxiety, and the importance of rewarding negative behavior and showing appreciation for one's own success. The speakers emphasize the importance of balancing socializing and focusing on one's own values, and encourage parents to pray for their children. They also emphasize the importance of being true persons of success and not just being perfect.
AI: Transcript ©
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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Thursday morning and the most exciting time of the week on the Islamic was brother Idris camisa. It is by a Solomonic hora de la hora de la Cruz cinema. Baraka

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definitely the most exciting time of the week it is by we get a chance to talk to you and

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you're not you are, you're very generous. You're very generous Allah keep you that way. May you continue Allah has given you a very endearing personality, a generosity of heart. inshallah we pray that through this interaction, that he falls off open hearts and everyone listening with an open mind, inshallah it be an opportunity for them to grow, to reflect on their life, and inshallah use an opportunity to connect with people loved ones and dear ones, so that the world can be a far more better place each other. They say, love, laughter, lubricates life, I think through laughter What happens, it gives you a perspective on life. And what happens if you look at the opposite of

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laughter, these, this kind of seriousness is kind of everything that you're serious. And when you love your baby, your facial muscles, you're able to release the hands off, and you're able to bring joy to others. Because nothing can be more beautiful for a person that you're putting down, someone comes in, he puts life into perspective, and indicates a degree of laughter, happiness, it creates a sense of joy, a sense of exuberance, a feeling of happiness, is what brings you joy to everyone else around. In fact, you know, if you look at the world itself, like, if you look at the father and the mother, even the father comes from work, when he's got this angry expression, he really impacts on

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the culture, the ethos of the home, where they know, for example, the rest of the evening could be unhappy. But daddy looks very, very upset. But when it comes to the smile, they know is the beginning of really a good evening, every day is laughter, it brings people together. And you find that in homes with these harmony. I'm not saying that you go overboard, you become flippant, but it's part of who we are, to understand that we all going to leave this world. But it's also we need to also understand that whilst we are here, in whatever form we need to bring joy, and this notion, some people are really dense. You know, what they do? They say there is no place for love. Life in a

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serious business. Yes, he is serious business. He does not mean people who love or bring joy to other people do not understand the seriousness of it I tell people is far easier to be angry than it is to make people laugh, to make people happy to sit back and relax. Look at life in his truth.

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And it's so much of the joy that it brings to people the most beautiful thing he lives by, and why they mess a lot about being sad stuff is it when you just walk into the storm and everybody does it work. No any person would turn around and just give you a good solid greeting. And then it would just bring joy and another light into your day. And that happens. All over. You just meet one person with a smile in the morning. And it makes your whole day. Absolutely smiling and very infectious thing to greet

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my brother.

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And you see to that condition.

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Hello, Gd p one. Once you are seeing a dream, basically, you are really sharing your unbridled joy. You already affirmed the other person you're accepting him. You're giving him the attention. You're showing appreciation is a very important thing because too many of us walk around the world. As if we are given a nation with no self esteem with someone gives you the attention, the attention, Transforming Your Life. For one not maybe anticipate depression one of joy, it's a wonderful thing. You know, I mean, I guess sometimes people say you know, first time in my life in my life, I love so much you know, and they become emotional about it because throughout their life, they only indulged

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in sadness people around them or negative people. And when you when you laugh when you smile. I you know, you're looking at life optimistically, you know and that is very important.

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Requesting you

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Give us a happy story or a funny story that we can get some love in our life.

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You know,

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a friend of mine said the children shall love. The one is that what happened was in the earlier days when the inspector resorts travel from Durban is for capital matters. But the moment they came to Pietermaritzburg, the guys who became married to former colleagues up in Merida by Ascot made

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the decision Listen, guys, watch out the guys are on the prowl.

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They know the next one. So this one particular feature in got the news from the friend, that tomorrow they'll be coming to school, and it was his time for his work to be evaluated. So you're very excited about it. So he began to teach his pupils. We are teaching them how, and he was singing to them. And in the end, they were saying, he asked him, What do you do? First thing in the morning, first thing in the morning, the boys were saying we brush our teeth. I mean, the pupils. We interact with the

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event on the whole lesson.

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So unbeknown to him, the day the next day, music became this one boy was not there on the day we were here.

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for boys,

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the kids now what do you do first thing in the morning?

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What do you do? He said, Sir, I got

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to brush your teeth. He said, No, no, my mother told me you got noise.

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The end. The other one was, you know,

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in the United States, you know,

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what happened to United States? The teacher, instructor heard that these one very, very dynamic,

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foundation based teacher, you know, grade, one teacher, and he went there to the scope. And so the principal secretary, Mr. G, Mr. So and so. And you can have such a great time today. Bob is my best teacher, you're going to be inspired by him. Anyway, he went to Bob's class, listen to the lesson in

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your mind. If I were to ask the one of the pupils requesting dinner.

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He said not a problem. You can ask him any question you want. So you asked a little boy to tell me boy

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broke the walls of Jericho. And boy said Sir, I didn't do it. I promise you I did not do it. So let's move over. So this teacher was very interested to find out how we left. She said to me know what they asked me how was My left? You say your lesson went very well, until I asked the boy who broke the walls of Jericho. He said I didn't do it. He said man, he would you respect you, sir. I know my pupils. I know the family. I know them. So well. It was said that boys said he did not do it. He did not do it. So now he went to the inspector now. You know, he went to the headmaster.

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He said, I'm sure you enjoyed the lesson of Bob, this man is so flabbergasted when I went to the class and he recounted the whole story. So principal said to him, my teacher, Bob, he knows all his pupils. Well, he says he did not do it. He did not do it. Anyway, now he's very frustrated.

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Now to superintendents, right?

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How was your day to man? I'm so frustrated today. I went to the school that this is what happened so that the superintendent said to him, You know what? I'll give you some money. You put that wall right? We don't cause any kind of problems

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of education, either level of education. Yeah. So these are these are things you hear the other day how to Allah knows. In the nutshell, we are not so conversant with Afrikaans right? And so this point, Pietermaritzburg, a directed growth story. So what you did you know, the first sentence in Afrikaans when you said the ghost commanded me to write in English. He wrote the rest of the English, but the teacher was very clever. He said, Well, the gods commanded me to give you not

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many such stories, you know, and like he was a teacher, and he said to the people,

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I have five apples in one hand and five apples. In the other hand, what do I have one voice that is very big. And

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I just read the other day somebody sent me an email

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with ej is pointing the game at a young child.

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You know what, there's a very, very an idiot at one end of the scheme

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to a lot of trouble because you said which end?

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We can. Yeah. You know, the,

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the the whole thing and, and I'm so glad Maulana you know that you speaking about this, because of our homes, they need some lightheartedness. They need some laughter, they need some joy, some smiles, what, what is missing, the pleasant moments, our homes, we need that umbrella, I find that you know, they are increasingly lots of homes that are trying to do the right things where children can come their baby is lost. And you find these no more. That kind of discrepancy. You know, the men, the loving and the outside the home is even know loving at home, you know, and these are very simple things, this requires an attitudinal change, you know,

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we just have to change the way we think of the things that make us happy about others. Rather than focusing and looking at those things that we can take out the fault in all things that we can really criticize or things that are upset, that upset us about others around us look at those things that make us happy about the people that we are dealing with. And it will, it will change our lives around so much better than to make our work so much easier, and so much more pleasant.

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Absolutely. Because, you know, you and you're so right. Today, we are so judgmental. We don't listen with our hearts to be based on empathy. And we do not, you know, we don't hear how wonderful it's going to be. When you say I want to do inshallah, whenever I need to, I'm gonna make them happy, to a smile to something funny to listening with empathy. And so Dumbledore everyday inshallah, whoever comes to me, no matter what the pain thing is another kind of retrospective, you know, what I'm saying? And the and this is so important in terms of relationships, and relationships, building, because we avoid people that are angry, temperamental, who do not bring joy, everything is a

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negativity, and the only see the worst case scenario to say, you know what, I know, it's gonna be a bad day today, or not fine, you know, that negativity is something that can really erode a person's happiness.

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We will you have been in the educational field for many, many years, and I'm sure over over the time, you've picked up many funny, funny incidents, excuses and things that have happened in school. Maybe you could share some some of them with us as well.

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You know, the,

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what, what you're saying is so true, you know, like, you find that this is a funny one, right? The funny one was, in a sense that this one students, you know, there was

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a knock on all his maths examples wrong, you know, so that particular day, he got all the answers, right. So, I'm surprised that even all the math some rightly, got it right. Because my father wasn't there for me

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to normally get everything wrong, you find that, you know,

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a creative would make excuses for not doing homework and everything else. And there was someone, you know, he had the habit, and he was my classmates, you know, whenever the teacher shortage, any homework, he said, No, I could not do it. Because my uncle passed away. mom passed away, my grandfather passed away, you know.

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So when the teacher said to you by now, I'm sure you have no

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living relatives, you know,

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this is what some people used to do. And at the school, you know, fortunately for me,

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you know, the people used to do the homework and he would do the goals are, but they can be very, very creative in terms of what they don't do. But at the same token, I remember during certain classmates

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One of the biggest mistakes they made when we were at school was they decided to experiment, they decided to keep

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one class that just deleted the put all the boys in the class, and every majors co Ed at that time, the mini boys were far better behaved because they want to be in our respect for the girls or whatever. They felt somewhat intimidated. But this time they put all the boys in the class together.

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And we had some crazy jessner class, you know,

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you know, like I, myself, I was a Nazi, but I don't think I was disobedient for the teacher concern. And yeah, I remember there's one person who was a very strong person, you know,

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this teacher, she was

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not very tall at all. So we never a question needs to stand up and he was sort of, you know, looking

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to teacher, and then you should get people making funny kind of sounds of the back then. All of that then the what used to happen the class was the teachers are often used to get intimidated and whatnot. But one major difference is what he did. We were known to be a Nazi class, but when he came, his name was Mr. USAC. What he did was, he came to class to serve relief. He said to us, good morning, gentlemen, you know,

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gentlemen, and you're trying to be like, gentlemen, you know, and I found that you know, I think once you give positive attributes to your children, they respond accordingly. It's just how you speak to them. And the way you address them the way you speak to

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your child, your son walks into the room when you wake up in the morning to see them for the first time and if you start off the day with a brush your teeth Why did you go to the toilet? Did you do this to do that? It's just been the start of the day in a bad way. But if you started off as salaam alaikum how you did you sleep well. It just changes the whole thing all around

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the district. You know, the moment you start up on the wrong tone,

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negating you know the I think a critical aspects especially with this and then your relationship that is to first make the connection. Once you're connected, then you can talk about other issues. But once your tone is offensive, and the things you talk about jarring and snobby, then what happens you're really upset people around you because you'd be surprised that especially with the mothers and the fathers, if for example they are belligerent to angry whatever they really impact on the culture and the atmosphere tsamina

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Islam international speaking about things that make you happy things that changing your life around it is by no part of the modernity and part of the new life that we have. We

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are planning everything on our blackberries you know everything is happening. And it's centered around our blackberries, his friends is no with our cycling buddies organizing everything on our blackberries, weddings, organized on our blackberries and everything basically is getting organized now blackberries Now, I would like the older generation all bananas and tomatoes, peppers they could do give us the insight into what they think about or what advice they would give to couples that are that want to get married in today's time and what what basic things would you tell them

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to keep the lights happy inshallah.

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Welcome back to the new Islam International. It is by we have

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a very interesting SMS that has arrived and I'll just read it out to you.

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It's about the topic that he's speaking about him. On the other side of it, Allah subhanaw taala be with this person. The SMS this says I have nothing to be happy with at the moment because my family's falling apart. I have a 16 year old son that is tearing us apart.

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elegant, disrespectful, causing problems at school, screaming at me not interested at school wants to leave, and so much more, please have

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the you know what we are not denying in the discussion.

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There are some homes that a lot of pain

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in a crisis the home is at a century, when sometimes our beloved children who we devote our life, we pray for them, can suddenly become our adversaries. And they can make life increasingly difficult, they can be abusive. But the whole thing in life is I'm always been solution driven, I don't believe anyone is incorrigible. We all make mistakes. And sometimes the 16 year old son that she speaks about that apps in his own ways crying out for help, that there are some issues that he find difficult to deal with. Because the age of 16 is a very, very difficult time your hormones are going all over the place. And when friends become more important when they compare their own parents to

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other people's parents, and they do not know the sacrifice that parents make. So one of the things that I would recommend very strongly is perhaps, is to sit him down into the engagement to find out from him what is the what are the issues, and instead of being defensive, listen to him first, because as I call this a revealing his healing, the second thing that I would encourage is asking him, what would he do differently? If he's the father or the mother? You know, what would he do differently. And in the end, there has to be some kind of compromise. And my own recommendation is that when two people if he is going to be defined, and we get upset, and angry dogs are going to

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have the situation, we need to look at a win win situation. And he must feel that love, we must connect and hug him. And then what we also need to do is sometimes on the mistakes you make when they're growing up, we do not give our child positive attributes, we need to give them positive attributes, we need to give them as self belief. Now, the other quote, The Big consolation is this. That this is often a phase that many a kid goes through a phase when he is his friends are more important, the mother and father an embarrassment to him. He needs more settle, and more focus, often they come around. So we need to

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just pray that did not get into despicable habits, you know, of drugs and a whole range of things, * addiction, alcoholism, and all of those things. So I would really encourage the mother and the father. I just hope that the marriage is intact. It's a harmonious marriage. But yeah, when you know home with these anger, kids often respond with anger, when this pleasantness and tension also be a pleasant. So I think they need to identify what is a motivating factor, who is friends, what is it that is making do what is doing, you know,

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as you say, sometimes, I've learned about the upbringing of children is that we tried different measures in enforcing certain stigmas in certain things.

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But we continuously feed our children, or whatever they want to eat, we give them spending freely and free time, etc. There is an interesting book that I read by a person called Dr. Kevin Lehman, right if you can get a new kid by Friday. So basically saying, a seven day plan of collecting your child's behavior. And one of the or the basis of his whole program is that you need to sometimes deprive your child of the luxuries that they get in life, so that you can get good behavior out of them. But you have to be very strong, staunch and strict in depriving that and depriving them of that. Like for example, if the child is used to the regular spending money used to the free time

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used to the fancy clothes and things like that. If they don't want to Tow the line according to your rules, you have to tell them to not even shout or be aggressive, just tell them simply that I'm sorry, but your allowance is going to be cut off and ignore everything that comes after it. Whether it is feeding, whether it is begging, whether it is crying, everything like that, and refuses that it works and I have sample it as best without and

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It does have a good effect. In fact, there's something that I always encourage people to do. I tell parents that they must learn to say no, they cannot keep on saying yes. You know, you know, as it is said that in giving our children what we did not have we forgotten to give them what the big mistake we make is sometimes when you feel that you grew up in a home that we might be might not have enjoyed or the luxury is now in a good situation. But by giving it to them, you are really incubating a monster, inverted commas, because they you're creating a very false notion of life. And life is going to be a challenge, you know, it has to defeat any victories. When you create a culture

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of entitlement, the moment I speak, my daddy responds, then you're creating really a jaundiced view of the world. And me, requires tremendous resilience and courage to say no to a child, because the reaction afterwards might be anger and everything else. But as long as you're consistent, when you do that, and you have support of the mother and the father, do it together. And but critically, the child must know that whatever is being done, is done utter love, for him, the benefits for him. Now, if you purely want to, you know, stifle the cries of a child, by giving him to him, what you're really doing is really destroying him. And creating a really an erroneous picture of what the world

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is all about. And what the author says something that I subscribe to, I believe in it, that you got to have certain value systems, and you've got to subscribe to the value system, because in life, like anywhere else,

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you may have consequences for negative behavior, and also positive consequence for good behavior. Good be with us take place we need to, you know, maybe judiciously reward them, we need to acknowledge them and show them appreciation and Islam as we know, we are judged by the effort and not the outcome. So when our kids are really trying hard is trying to succeed at that time, we need to really applaud them and acknowledge them.

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It is but you know, one program in Johannesburg at the War Museum and one of the comments that came out of the program was that I never laughed so hard in my life. And I think that was written by Manama Manama

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forum on Facebook and websites like that. So I never laughed so hard in my life it is very I think you have that good gift in me Allah tala award. You mean I like so much evil, alive, so merciful. I mean, you know, I'm not the you know, I don't want people to believe I'm a paragon of virtue. I'm Mr. Perfect. I have lots of shortcomings. But aligned His mercy has given me the opportunity of interacting with people and bringing joy to people. I, for me, I hold this very, very dearly to me, that whoever I interact with, I must bring joy to them. When I feed people, like when I'm doing a workshop, when it's we are becoming very, very serious. Then I, you know, I interlock my comments

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with some funny stories about myself what they were, and people love. And what happens sometimes couples that come to the program, they may not have laughed like this before. And these are opportunity every day. And perhaps the 16 year old that is rebelling, maybe doesn't see laughter in his home, in the home is not the sanctuary is a place of grief and pain of argumentation. And once these that happiness, that joy, and we are all attracted to joy, we're not attracted to a place of anger, a place we know, where people constantly argue with each other. And for that, you know, we thank Allah, you know, for personalities, and we all have the ability to have a perspective on life.

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And you find that, in fact, I found that the some of the most philosophical and serious persons are those that make other people laugh because they understand life, they understand the meaning of life, we understand that you cannot always become so serious and introspective and reflective, that you find. You don't have your moments of joy and me and I think Islam is replete with Nabi sallallahu, wasallam in his own way, creating, you know, he smiled broadly rather than laugh loud, and the jokes used to play with a valley and others around them. And so these are things that are not in

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a way or detract from what it is to be a Muslim. Because, I mean, when you want to leave a legacy behind, you know, one of the most beautiful things in shala is it is through him. I learned to see life in perspective, I came closer to Allah and His beloved also understood the meaning of life, because the whole

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Many people say that my father outside has a genial, convivial personality, bringing joy to obey Tom is not like that. And similarly, what the mother, so I think, you know, it's your it's all from Allah, and we thank Allah for the name it is given us. I mean, I mean, we received an SMS Muslim a saying, it's not so easy. But we kept together with it putting a nice story, the couples conference, the speaker mentioned that couples are so disconnected, that 85% of husbands don't know the wives favorite flower. So the course turned to his wife. And he whispered to her, the self raising.

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Someone told me this, I'm not sure who it was the you know, someone said, you know, he would maybe even for a talk, they said, you know, have you ever praised your wife for cooking? And he said, No, man, I've never done that. So today, I decided to do that. So he told his wife, you know, he said, whatever her name is Sandra, Dally, you know, I really, really enjoyed your food today. You know, she got so upset with him today, because they're our neighbor, Auntie Fatima center.

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You know,

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whichever husband doesn't say good is in problem. And he says good alternative.

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Say something special about laughing together. You know, you laugh alone, you look at the cell phone, somebody sends you a joke, we laugh alone, it lasts for a little while. Or you look at the computer screen and the email and you look

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at last laugh and finish it's done. But this seems to be some special effect of laughing all together? And do you just touched on it, that couples haven't laughed together? So much, and it's right affects them? And those motivational programs has such a good effect on them. Yeah, absolutely. See, the whole thing is this, I mean, now you don't have to be a person that is subtle with a joke. But even when you think of each other, and your gift for your love, and everything else what he does, he thinks about closeness, he just wants to shows you that there are no barriers between the two of you that you could, you know, many people, you know, sometimes they want to

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maintain the dignity and everything else. And they are, you know, standoffish, and, you know, like a bourgeois and the, the finding difficult for them to laugh at others, but they are laugh with, you know, I have no issue if a person laughs at me, or when they laugh with me. Because even if he laughed at me, he gives him joy. I'm very happy. I'm very, very happy. You know. So it's about those things. It's about us having a perspective, like in any day's work that you do, you come home tired. And when you come home tired, you want any pleasantness you don't want to listen to a barrage of complaints, and all of that. And in fact, those who have the ability to make others laugh, they

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connect with people very, very quickly, you might meet a person the first time to do some kind of subtlety. And with you know, you one example, that many years ago,

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at that time, we had to pay a fine ways to grow our traffic fine. We had to go to old fort road and be your you go to one counter. And we'll give you a receipt when you go to the cashier to pay. And remember, you know, I went to this counter with three ladies there. So I went to one lady, and I told her you know, ma'am, EMI is the good citizen, I want to pay my fine. And today, I read in the daily news that 50 million Rand is being owed on fines. So she told me in a very stern way. Oh, do you believe everything you read, you know? So I kept quiet anyway. So what happened then? Then when I went to the other counter, right, she then came to the second counter to believe the cure of that

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counter. So I decided to go back to her. And I said to her, you know today I learned something from you. So what did you learn? I said you must not believe everything that you read. You know, I'm so glad for that. And I said you know what I'm telling you this because according to your counter the sign means you are close but you are really open.

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So he wasn't amused after that. He started laughing and

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you have that good night I was either say just that the skins of patient. He was actually a comedian and they diagnosed him with kimchi the happy life and good

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Family and everything. And then finally, I suddenly was diagnosed with cancer, and we need to start going for chemotherapy. So he got to the cancer clinic, and he sat in the waiting room, and he saw this whole lot of people. And they were very, very sad. And everybody was very gloomy, because obviously, chemotherapy and you know, it's like a terminal illness. So you don't know when it's time to go. And you're waiting for the chemotherapy. And he spoke to the person next to him and he said, something in the desert, there's nothing to smile about it, nothing to joke about. And then he just

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made a small joke and another joke. And then suddenly, the person started smiling said, You sit there and my whole day around an every time they became closest of friends. And every time

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they would go for the treatments together, they would spend the whole time waiting for the treatment in happiness. And he said that you you've just changed my life around even though my immune system and don't feel it any longer the way it is. Absolutely. You know, the what you're talking about that toughies Omar from Yemen came to South Africa, right? And then he I regard him as, as many others a very profound and deep scholar. And he's also a say, you know, it's a dinner. And one of my friends I might have mentioned this on the radio, he, he and I were performing Amara is from the UK. And before we completed the walk, visit me but if you like my brother, you like my family, I want to

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tell you something that only my family knows. So I said, What is it he said, I got cancer, you know, and I immediately I cried was quite emotionally don't care for the story to tell you. And after you finished with the wife, and after we did there were

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two senate and we said this, he is telling me that when he was sitting at the surgeon's room, and the surgeon told him that and he had no idea how to respond immediately telephone, shake Habib Omar from Yemen, because he looks up to him for for guidance. And he said to me what he told me he had a profound impact on my life. Because you look at him now he's very petite, he got this pleasant disposition, he laughs He, he does whatever he has to do is a good Muslim. And he said to me, that this would have been worked for me. He said to him three times, I bear witness, I bear witness, I bear witness. There is a cure for everything except fear, will not surrender to your fear, but

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surrender to Allah. He said those words at such a profound impact on me. And today I'm continuing my life as if I'm normal. Because I realize everything comes from Allah. You know what I mean? It's about those things. It's about, we under for example, you know, the way these three workers are very nice energy workers in a construction company. So the arts is first person, what are you doing? He says, well, Can't you see I'm doing this my paycheck. very upset. The second chap was also not very happy going look at the guy. He asked, What are you doing? You say, Can't you see I'm pouring concrete here. The third person was smiling and cheerful, and what do you what are you doing? He

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said, Well, I'm helping to fulfill a dream, we're going to build a shelter. Yeah. And there will be a dormitory, there'll be the kitchen, that all doing the same thing. Now, similarly, if you add value to it, now, if a wife says, for example, or what I did, I just, you know, Cookie for my, you know, leave the husband, you know, like you say, I I'm cooking to fulfill the dreams and aspirations of my family. In other words, once you attach a value to it, we tend to diminish ourselves, you know, we tend the baby's nobility, in the secret acts inability, the beautiful things, when you for example, you know,

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you know, do little things. And if you know the value of it, a little smile, sometimes, just being honest, having integrity. I mean, the example that I spoke about some years, I mean, maybe on the radio, also one man, I think we did together, one man acts of honesty on the bus. Six people embrace Islam. Six people embrace Islam because of one person, the act of honesty. Now, this is the whole point, we tend to undermine. We all want to be in the front page in newspapers, what not, yet each one of us can be true persons of success. When we do the right things bring joy to other people. And, and this is important, this is very, very critical. And we don't realize this. I mean, someone

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from pushups, was telling me that about my father, may Allah grant our parents or the highest status in Ghana. He said, You know, I just came back from O'Meara, and I got caught up talking to people from heart and your father waited 20 minutes outside for me and then you

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gave me a hug and he made for me. He said, Never Never forget that. You know, the little x, little x, little things. And these are things that we need to embrace. And it's all part of what legacy we want to leave behind. Are you a precursor of joy? Are you a person that brings unhappiness? Are you an embittered person? Are you you know, vulgar what kind of individual you are, you know, and I think if we realize that we all have possibilities, we can do wonderful things. It's your attitude. attitude, is the only thing you can control you can tell yourself that today, I'm going to be happy. Today, I'm gonna make other people happy, no matter what my circumstances are, I can do it and

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rarely would that kind of approach inshallah, you know, we must learn from our beloved Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, I look at what he went through what he went through.

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The blocks allow you the highest of all last creation, and look at his approach to people. I mean, when he said worse effect, join ties, those that breakup with you, do good to those who harm you, and forgive those that hurt you. If he can follow that powerful, succinct philosophy, life will be far more harmonious happier, there won't be this lingering sadness and bitterness, you know,

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Allah subhanaw taala make it easy and give us all strength to fulfill that inshallah. inshallah, maybe we can just finish to finish with one, one final little funny story from you

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know, the story, you know, I often say that sometimes, you know, Professor, not all professors, you know, they live in their own ivory towers of learning, you know, and they can be very, very pompous, and all that in the not all of them. So, anyway, this professor came to this village and he wanted to get across the river. And see so a young boy said to young boy, Tommy, young boy, can you take me across the river? The boy said, not a problem said take you away when you want to go. So then he asked him, he said, Boy, Johnny, do you know philosophy? The voices or I don't know. I don't know. The professor said to him, Well, you lost one third of your life further down the river and he said

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to him, boy, do you know literature is not at all so I don't know literature. Well, you lost two thirds of your life in the excitement the boat topple. The professor was drowning. The boy asked the professor Can you assume he said no. Well, then you lost your whole life.

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But he was one of the young boy was serving a greater purpose many people I'm sure that the boy saved the professor

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Zealand for your time and will speak inshallah Allah bless you and inshallah, we will connect with you next week.

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