Educating Children in the 21st century 02

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Finland. Let's look at Finland, Finland. What is special about Finland?

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The students are provided with different learning environments.

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They don't have the traditional chalk and chalk system anymore. Yes. And the subjects are also given us options to the children, the children select what they really want to study. Okay, yes.

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There are no private schools. Yes. What else? Yes.

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I hope you heard of Finland a.

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Finland is not the sea fish enough in Finland. Right? Okay.

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Primary Education in Finland, it's more focused on the mother tongue of the child wherein they grasp it easily. Post grade three, they are taught how to translate it to other languages. So concepts are grasped very easily by the children when that is done in the mother tongue. Okay. Yes. Now, let me tell you, my beloved brothers, okay, sorry, your shoulder say something could you give it? Because she had that really angry looked like, you know, I saw that I got scared. I said, Maybe she knows karate or something, you know, then I'll be forced to scream in Japanese. Yeah.

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From that time in the school is probably four to five

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hours, yes,

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you will be surprised in Finland.

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It's the most sought after profession to be a teacher.

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It's perhaps the most highly paid profession.

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So you have to go for an interview, a thorough interview.

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And when you qualify as a teacher, you cannot teach until you got your master's in education,

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you should be able to develop curriculum.

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Right? Next thing, compulsory schooling starts around the age of six and seven. Not before that.

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The contact hours with the children is amongst the lowest in the world. Unlike other places, they don't get much homework.

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They don't have much assessment.

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The learning is experiential. They learn out in the fields, all of those things.

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For example,

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they will do something like this. They also develop the sensory perceptions of the children.

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Right, for example, for example, for example,

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let us say they go through a forest area. They're blind for the children. Let's take them by the hand, and the child will feel different trees, the box of different trees. So it's tactile sense, feel the trees and then what will happen. And he must say which trees his preference is. Right? He has to remember that field, then is taken back,

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back. And then a teacher takes him to fill all the trees. And he must show the teacher blind for which tree that he chose.

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You understand?

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It's not about pumping information.

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Yes. Very important.

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It's about you exciting. the curiosity of children.

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Yes. Okay. You got that. Now, there is another question. Right. I want to ask you,

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Which do you think is the most important quality a teacher should have?

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The most important quality?

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Hey,

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your ego is one thing.

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Teachers your learner. Passion learner. Okay. Right. But I'll tell you something. I agree with all of you saying, right. I don't want to fight. You know, I mean, I'm in your territory. Right? My flight is only tomorrow morning, right?

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But let me tell you this.

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I did a survey and our surprise what the survey showed

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in what the children said to me.

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The teacher must be just

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if you're not just

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If you're not fair with children, no matter how dynamic you are, they're not going to listen to you.

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You ego of course, you've got to be just, you've got to be just j ust just it mustn't be the saying that is the teacher, you know is only you know, giving rukhsana preferential treatment in I mean, you understand that very important now.

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Okay. Okay. Okay. So far. So, just to summarize this, I think we agree, that is no more teacher centered, but teacher inspired. Also, we got to prepare, you got to have activities there. There has to be personalized learning. I agree, the SP engagement, students should ask questions.

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Agree. And when you when they do not understand you do not reteach it the same way, but in a different way. Okay. And you as a teacher, you have to make your lessons relevant. Hey, meaningful.

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Use your imagination. And the child must say, today I learned something about myself about life. Wow, I'm inspired. Wow, I'm inspired. Right.

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Do you think for example, in your senior classes, do you think students should be given the opportunity to teach sometimes?

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Yes. With your guidance, isn't it? They need to do that. Right. Okay.

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One? Yeah, yeah. Not Not Not all the time. Right. Agreed. Right now. I want to stop there for a few minutes. And I want to take questions from you, please. Right. You got to ask Chris. You cannot sit here passively. You got to ask me questions. Right. Are you happy so far? Yeah. Are you got a lot of areas to cover? But you happy so far? If you're not happy, I'm happy. And my beloved wife. She's too happy.

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And she's too happy. She's happy because she's Yeah, she but she's even more happier because she's married to me. Right, darling.

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She's blushing. She's blushing. I hope your wife blushes when she sees you.

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Binary say love is Brian. She doesn't see you. But my wife is not so blind. She can see me. Yeah, okay. Right. Okay, right. Okay. questions, please. Questions?

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Questions?

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Okay, one moment, right. Let me tell you also, those of you may not know, I have.

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I've got sets of eight CDs time for each CDs has got four CDs. I've got there was two topic educating your child for the 21st century.

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I'm not saying everything from this year.

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I've got on parenting on personal empowerment and everything else, right if you're interested, right. Okay, come system. Salaam Alaikum Wa Alaikum Salaam wa rahmatullah Baraka. This is something I'm facing quite often, that the speed of all students is very different, like some are really quick in learning, some are very slow. And that's why I can carry my class together like most of the time, so I don't know like how to take them together, some learn it very fast, and some are really slow.

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Okay, now the question she asked, she says that, you know, I have some children who are quick learners, and some are very slow learners.

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What do you need to do, there are many things you need to do.

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Those that are fast learners,

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you got to do what you call accelerated learning for them to another level. And also ask them questions that are a little more demanding, right? And then what you do, let them learn compassion.

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You say to them, you see Muhammad they're sitting there is not too clear. I want you to come and help you.

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You understand? The other thing that you need to do what I used to do, I shall allow the fast learners to continue the work. The slow learners had them around the table around me, and I did a one to one with them

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over a period of time, inshallah, they'll come right. What you got to understand that academically, we all made different. There are some people without much studies will do exceptionally well. Others have to work very, very hard to just pass the examination. All right. Okay, anyone else?

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Sister my autograph late or not now, right? Okay.

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Please, I don't want you to go and say, Oh, you know how I wanted to ask him this question?

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Us

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waalaikumsalam in the beginning of every class, I like to make a prayer that show me an unhappy child, if my child is going through some kind of abuse, how to help that child, okay?

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The most important thing.

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If a child knows

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that I can speak to my teacher,

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then you have one. But you got to take the information in strict confidence.

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If the information is sensitive enough, and you feel

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with their permission or his permission,

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to take it up to your Headmistress, to headmaster,

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you understand it, or else what you could do. I see I'm just giving you a guide. I'm not too sure what the regulations are. It's also to summon the parents to school and without confronting them directly. Say, you know, we are calling parents randomly. We want to know, what's your house things at home with a child? Say I noticed that your child seems very down. Has something happened at home.

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Use your hikma. You need to look at the nature of the situation.

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You understand? Right? And also, the whole idea is you must create love between them and the family. You got to make excuses. But if these serious abuse, there's another matter okay. I'm not too sure whether you have guidance counselors at the school, they can deal with it. Okay. Next.

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Yes.

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Don't forget that mine is this red one matching this flowers Yes. And matching my

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Yes.

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Sir, looking to formato particular timetable for scenario classes.

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So, there are about eight periods,

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small break between two years each, the limitations of a period is concise to a particular minutes, say 30 or 45 minutes for a subject like mathematics and science, if a teacher starts to teach a particular subject, I mean to concept, the important concept and the moment he arise The Complete Completion of that particular subject, and then the bell rings. So

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what should be the remedy to keep a continuity grasping and understanding for the students? Okay.

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A question has been asked, because of time constraints, you have a syllabus to complete. So how do you do all of these things? Now, let me tell you something. Creativity is as a result, because of time constraints. You look, you need to look at creative ways. And I tell you what I used to do, and my beloved wife is testify.

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I spent a lot of my Saturday mornings at schools.

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A lot of my time.

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You know, my students knew

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that if they're going to problem they could talk to me.

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I engage them what you need to do, you got to set the tone at the beginning of the year that you are caring, you are loving your year to help them. Tell them about the method in which you operate.

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Tell them that whilst we busy with the school curriculum, at any time, you could share with me your issues. Now a good teacher for example. I remember I had a teacher of English May Allah bless him.

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He'll start off every morning with the lesson. He lost us. How many of you read the letter to the editor yesterday?

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So what he did, it inspired all of us to read those letters. That's what he did. Every day started with something like this.

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You understand? So in in that way he engaged us.

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All when you walk into the class, it is a topical issue. speak about it for two or three minutes, two minutes, inspire them to not ignore it.

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That's critical.

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All right. Okay. Anyone else is what is comfortable length for students for a teacher in classroom

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3045 or 60? nanny depends, you see, the

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I have taught in 30 minute periods and also

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45 minutes, I also thought in an hour period, and also 90 minutes.

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Hey,

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okay, how many students you got? How many

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45 students, let me tell you, the most students I had in my class was statistics.

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And I was able to deal with all of them.

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Nine more wouldn't have hurt me. 45. So you got to think as

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the brother said, in a very creative way, because I know one thing in every class, you perhaps have four kinds of students. That one,

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it picks up immediately

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before you finish, he understands

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the second one. Second one, nice.

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Little bit of help a little bit.

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The third group requires more help. And the fourth group requires personal attention. I know that. So what I do. So when I'm teaching my lesson, I teach it in four different ways.

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So it appeals to all the groups

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you understand? Or three different ways. Right? So if you've got to look at creative ways of engaging them, okay, okay, sir. Yes, sir. My question is right now about 70 to 80% of students are already joined Facebook and WhatsApp and excetera everything they know. Yeah. And this is affecting their studies and concentration focus level, even though they are very talented. But due to this all, they are lacking their focus. So what measures should we take to get them on that track? back? You need to do a one to one interview, asking them? What are your aspirations? What would you like to do in life? Do you have a purpose? Do you have a goal, you know, create in them a sense of

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urgency. In other words, also, for example, what I should do is to get people that have succeeded in life to speak to my students, or show them a video clip. I have lots of video clips on my enough is full about motivation, about focusing, understand, I tell people, the two R's, the recklessness of youth, and the regrets of the agent. If you have been restless as a young person, when you grow older, you can do regret. I'm not saying must have any fun. I helped them with developing a,

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a weekly planner,

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time to play time to read.

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So you got to eat a one to one basis. Now you got to understand that learning is lifelong. Sometimes what they may not grasp, or eternalized. Now, afterwards, when they expose to reality, your lessons become meaningful. Don't give up on them. Never say you stupid us silly. All right. Okay. Anyone else? Right. Okay, one more day, the back or one more day.

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Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Answer generally, what happens? Students of some other planning for the future, and parents are different partners are planning for the future. So generally, students become sandwiched between those two, what I want to do when my parents want, so in this case, what we can do, because, like, I want to be like some mechanical engineer, and his parents is, you know, you go for automobile engineering. So in dead cases, how we can promote the students, like in the same way, okay, very important. Engage those parents. Have a general meeting with parents. You understand and talk because parents really, they want the best for the children,

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but sometimes they require guidance. You understand what I'm saying to you.

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You do not create the notion that your father doesn't like you or your mother, they love you. But I'll talk to them ask them Do you mind if I call your parents in?

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When you have the parents, evening, whatever, take down notes, engage them and guide them, right. Okay, right.

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What time is our break? What time is our break?

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When is a break? What's your time now?

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Okay, I want all of you to stand up Stand up.

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Right, right. Okay, now, I want all the brothers to face that way. face that way. That way, right. Okay. Okay. Sisters the other way phase. Right? Roxanna, you can get up to phase that way. Right? Right there. What are you do your brothers you can massage the back of the brothers in front of you. They massage the back in front of you. Right now you there, Brother. Brother. You can massage.

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Sorry, massages back then the massage. Massage is back there. Yeah. Right. Okay. Right. Look, Santa massage, massage a massage the back, right. Massage the back. Yes, yes. Yes. Not Turn around, turn around. Turn around. Massage the back. Massage the back there.

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Okay, okay, I wonder if you can massage my backyard massage in my backyard.

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massage my back. massage my back. Right.

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Don't break in massage, bro.

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Oh,

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my right. Okay. All right.

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All right. Sit, sit.

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Sit.

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Right. Okay, now I want to

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of the most important thing a teacher needs to give children is hope.

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Hope

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there was

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a young boy about are you enjoying it so far? Hey, okay.

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And Allah bless you the heat and everything else. you listening to me? I'm very humbled. I'm very humbled. Really? Right. Remember my parents in your prayers. They? My mother is rabea My father she my wife's father is Abdul Ghaffar. And I'm Idris My wife is Roxana.

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Make dua for us. Right. So there was a boy about 10 years old. How many years old boys and girls? Yes, sir. Good. This boy

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used to wear long pants to school.

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And he had marks on his body.

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Now, the next week, he's going to take part in the swimming Gala. What gala? Swimming Gala. He felt if my classmates see me in my shorts.

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They laugh at the marks in my body.

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He felt very embarrassed. He went to see the doctor.

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The physician.

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The physician was very clinical. And he told the boy, there is no cure for the disease. The boy said there must be a cure, sir. Say I am the doctor. There is no cure. Finish. no cure brother.

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So the next day, on the Sunday or Monday he goes to school. And you can imagine how despondent he was. He puts His head down and he's walking.

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One teacher noticed him not his own teacher.

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The teacher sat him down and asked him what is the problem? And he shared the whole problem. He must have said them for about eight to 10 minutes, you know, 10 minutes.

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That young boy

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was so inspired by that interaction. unbeknown to the teacher. When he finished up school, this boy became a doctor.

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He became a medical scientists, and more than anything else, he found a cure for that disease.

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Because of that one teacher

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because that teacher gave him hope.

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The prophetic methodology has always been if anyone came to Prophet Nabhi said aloud he was seldom for any help. If he could not

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Help the point them to a person who could help and say tell them that I sent you.

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Our children must not leave empty handed from you.

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They must know no matter what background they can come from, they are born to lead. You got to be a leader someday. You got to give them positive attributes.

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You understand that?

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There was once a professor.

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How phase two? I don't know. She came to India. He was from England.

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Professor, and you know, many professors. They not all, they are very aloof. They live in a theoretical World in Books. They do not know what's happening next door.

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This Professor came

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and he wanted to get across the river.

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So he asked his young boy there. Tell me young boy, can you take me across the river? The way boy said not a problem. I'll take you wherever you want to go. Or did you?

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So the boy was taking him across. So the professor said to him, young boy

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do you do philosophy?

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The voice that knows I don't know philosophy. It's a my boy. I am so disappointed in you. If you do not know philosophy, you have lost one third of your life.

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You went further down the river.

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He said to him boy. Do you know literature?

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The boy says no. I don't know. He said Well, I'm flabbergasted. You have lost two thirds of your life.

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In the excitement, the boat capsize.

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The poor Professor

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well back the young boy asked the professor. Excuse me, sir. Can you swim? He says no. He said well, Professor, you lost your whole life.

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The boy was serving a greater purpose but I'm sure the boys saved the life of the professor. Okay, right. Now, what I want you to do, right? Okay.

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I want you to put for me two columns, two columns. Right, one column is 20th century. The other column is 21st century. Right? Write down what were some signs of 20th century schooling and what should be 21st century schooling?

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What should be same what should be different? I want you to give me 10 each, Is that understood? Right? Okay. And you do it with your immediate neighbor.

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If you don't have neighbor speak to your split personality.

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Saturday joke haha. Cato columns or

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aka Sadie Tikka or don't okay we each make a difference or not a constitute a MBC sedici replicat kar sakta a copy cache? Same except a yafei bulkley change cardinia the dough columns banana or does this point some column name? Take a look at the city. He left it out. left it out right now. This to me

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is perhaps one of the most important things I'm going to share with you.

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Okay.

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The worrying about 25 minutes to break for salah and for lunch.

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What do you understand by emotional intelligence?

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What does it mean to you?

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How important is emotional intelligence? What's more important IQ or EQ?

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Sadly, in my travels in many parts of the world,

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not many schools are focusing on EQ.

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academic achievement

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is never a predictor of success.

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But EQ is a predictor of success. EQ is a predictor of success.

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In fact, I'm gonna share something with you, that might be a bit controversial, but it's alright.

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I'm not a controversial person.

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There are exceptions to every rule.

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Those children that come up first, second and third in class, who do well academically throughout have yet to come up. There are very few of them. Very few of them, who have contributed to society. It's always been about them, the personal aggrandizement, the personal enrichment, what is it there for me?

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And what surprises us, there are many a child that is average at school, who shows form form of compassion. If they do well as business people, they're contributing to the society. Therefore, the purpose of school life is not so much learning to earn, but rather learning to serve.

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If children know,

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the IE, to learn, why am I learning, say no? would eat or Molly more mollema? I'm learning to serve humanity.

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I'm not here learning to serve myself.

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Because we, as educators, have to redefine what is success? What does it mean to be successful?

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You and I know in the hearts and minds most people success means having a fancy car, a fancy home, you know, being affluent.

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But what's the true meaning of success?

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What is the criteria? And you and I know

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that our criteria is that those that have Taqwa, those who serve humanity, who fulfill the obligations, who respect people, who like Nabi sallallahu, wasallam, has been a mercy on to all

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contributed to society is thought about my ego or me.

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Good family, man, good community, man has goodness in the heart.

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generosity, forgiving. That means that individual who labeled to live in society, and contribute to the growth of their society, who will see the pain of others as his own pain, the joy of others, his own joy, who will not sleep at night, because of pain of others,

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who even when he eats, he thinks about the people throughout the world who are going through difficulty, who if he is married, when he gets married, is a wonderful husband, a wonderful wife, who is a wonderful son, a wonderful daughter. All in all, an eloquent ambassador for humanity at large. That's the bottom line, nothing else. Nothing else,

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you know, nothing else.

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Sadly, Today, many of us worship people with money. I have no issue with them. in a broad sense, as long as though I'm not saying worship them, I got no issue respecting people, because they got wealth or no wealth, as long as they are decent human beings worthy of the respect.

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Because you must also understand, for some people, wealth is a curse, rather is a blessing.

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Depends how you use it.

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Okay, so now, so we got to understand that.

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Now the question is, is what is emotional intelligence? How do you develop it? How do you integrate it in the school curriculum? Why is it important?

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You know, at that time

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when Nokia were the top mobile company,

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they said that

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we got no issue. If someone doesn't have the qualifications, you know, the certification

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as long as he has the right attitude,

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he's got the right attitude, then he can learn.

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Okay, so the question is, and we need to discuss this in some detail. So we understand what is EQ emotional cost

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What is it?

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Okay, now

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a person with high self esteem, sorry, emotion, emotional intelligence means a person is aware about his emotional reaction. And he's able to self regulate his emotions.

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I would add upon to this that at the same time, the person is also aware about the emotions of others and can deal accordingly as per the situation demands, keeping in mind the sensitivity towards the person in front.

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Yes. Now, EQ means being smart about your emotions.

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Now we are human beings, there are days, we will be happy. The days will be sad. There are some days maybe you're frightened.

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Some days you are excited, is all part. And I'm not saying you must not experience all these emotions

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and experience it. But do not allow these emotions to control you.

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those emotions mustn't impact negatively on yourself, and on others.

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You understand?

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Right? For example, let's say I'm so excited and happy. I'm happy, I come home, my wife is there. Hey, I am so happy today. And you're going on right through. She said, What? Why you? Don't worry, I'm happy. And you go on and on and on.

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And it's crazy, isn't it? Right. So it's about the very important, very important. The purpose of education. The purpose of education is to make you into a decent human being. Remember that man is learn to fly like the bird in the sky, soon like the fish in the sea, but he cannot walk like a human being on this.

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Man has landed on the moon. But he has no time to walk across and say hello to his neighbor.

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Now let me explain this to you.

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Very important.

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Our children today. Remember, you spoke for the changing landscape. They are living in a virtual world of social media. They spend on average, I don't know about you five hours a day on social media. Magic when they turn 75 all together 15 years of the life, what it means in front of social media.

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They are worried about how they're perceived. The concern about the image it has people that are consumed by social media have a psychological problem.

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You understand. And as a result, I jokingly say some boys and girls meet each other on Facebook, when they get married, they cannot face each other.

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They're living in a virtual world.

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Right? Because behind the phone, you become emotionally invisible.

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So I don't have time for all of that now, but let me explain this to you. So for example,

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let us say my wife is here I'm speaking to her.

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I'm able to monitor my own emotions, I listen to my words. I say three's a command. Bring your tone down

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and regulate tone down okay. Right. But this smile face

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You know, you are regulating it Am I right or wrong? Because I can see the impact is having on me and the impact it is having on her. And when she's talking, I also understand what she's going through. So as a result, I'm able to deal with it. I understand the social context, you become self aware is not selfish. Now, let me explain this to you. Remember this

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What are the attributes of people with high EQ? What are the qualities they possess?

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What are the qualities that do they possess? What are the qualities? Hey, they are humble. The discipline

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Hey, peaceful, AC a peaceful, they charge. They don't get angry. I mean, they know not nothing wrong that you go through they, for example when I'm upset my wife and I said this yesterday, I don't say I'm angry.

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I only tell her like this and she's witness here. I tell her darling, I'm angry.

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It doesn't make me less angry.

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Why should I scream like a mad thing? I'm angry.

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Now, let me explain this to you. Very, very important. Whether you like it or not, we are gregarious human beings. We are social beings. Nabi sallallahu. wasallam said, there is no good in him was to this effect, who neither be friends or is befriended. Having friends is part of who you are, you're going to interact with the community to be part of a community. When you get to work, you're going to work with other people around you. Yes, you know,

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right. Now, the thing about EQ is a following listen is very carefully.

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Let us say,

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you and your boss, you and your Headmistress, you have a difference in something. You don't say, I don't know why I came to the school, I made the biggest mistake of my life, my life is finished. No, you're able to isolate the issue.

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Your happiness, the score is not affected at all. You're able to deal with it in a loving way, in a loving way. And those people that have a high EQ do not suffer what you call an emotional meltdown. They don't give up on life. But those that have a high EQ are able to deal with situations as they come across, and they're able to pick themselves up again.

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So the attributes of people the high EQ, they're very good in fostering harmonious relationships.

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They are able to disagree without being disagreeable.

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They are never offensive, they have a high self esteem.

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They are able to persevere.

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They are able they are positive people, they manage the emotions, they are able to understand different social contexts that they go to. They become perceptive, they understand the mindsets of other people. They can interact with people from different walks of life.

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They are comfortable in company, they are comfortable when they own their own. They are comfortable with their own emotions. They never overreact.

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They are forgiving people.

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You understand? So you see the benefits? Now the question is this. My real question is this. How do you develop children's EQ at school?

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What do you do? I want you to talk to your neighbor, please about this first, right.

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Okay, just say two announcements. We're going to break off for

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lunch and namas and we'll we'll start punctually at 227

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to 27. And then also my CDs are available and books and our encourage you to buy these it will help you I discuss in emotional intelligence, I do this program they also what I will tell you is this my friends, if you are not prepared to invest in your own personal development, then your children will never grow.

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When you develop yourself, then you can be a really a dynamic educator and educator for the 21st century.

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You must invest in your personal development.

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inshallah. So, remember this, I don't want you to go back to your school the same person.

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You got to be dynamic, inspirational, charismatic, the student must say Wow, wow, what have you done? mollema

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