Daood Butt – Status Of Women In Islam

Daood Butt
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of avoiding false assumptions and being flexible in behavior in Islam, as it is crucial for future success. They also emphasize the need for men to educate themselves and avoid eye contact, as it is crucial for future success. The speakers stress the importance of privacy in marriage and encourage individuals to learn about it, while also highlighting a double weekend seminar and encouraging reaching out for advice on finding a partner.
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All right, University of

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Florida. Can everybody hear me I think we might get loud enough.

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Before we start, I have a question. And this question is not to offend anybody. I just want you to be honest. Who here is not a Muslim?

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Okay, good.

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Everybody else get out.

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So, I began by saying a samurai they cannot go to warn you about capital. This is the term which is used, it's them. When we meet somebody, it is the aesthetic way of greeting somebody by sending Peace and blessings upon that person and asking about some kind of without a doubt mercy upon that person. So this is something that we usually greet our brothers and sisters with Islam.

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Today's topic has to do with women in Islam, or the status of women in Islam or the role of a Muslim woman. And before I get into specific details, I would like to start by clarifying a few things that both Muslim women and Muslim men and non Muslim men and women need to know about

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gender in Islam, whether it be male or female,

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Allah subhana wa Tada. Our Lord, the one who will be worship, Allah is not male, nor female. And this is a very specific point to understand.

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If any of you are there any students here that are in the postgraduate programs, just raise your hand

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to University of Nottingham, you guys got to get some more postgraduate students around here.

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Anyone who's doing a postgraduate program or for the undergrads, they know a little bit about thesis writing, when you are writing a thesis for example, the topic in which you choose to write about you cannot choose something that you will be biased towards. For example, if you choose to write about Nike footwear, or Reebok footwear, is that popular here and you guys have Reebok. I've only been in Malaysia for a while. So

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Reebok footwear for example. And you are the world's biggest Reebok fan, you wear Reebok t shirts, Reebok trackpants Reebok shoes, even as Reebok boxer shorts, okay? And this is something that you love, you love Reebok, you love athletic, you know, athletic wear, for example, when you're writing your thesis, you will have some sort of biased opinions in your writing, because of the fact that you like rewalk so much. Now, this is important, I stress upon this point because it wasn't what Allah is neither male nor female. So when Allah Subhana, WA Tada, created men and women, he was not biased towards which one was better than the other he did not. And I say he, a lot of people wonder,

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why do we refer to Allah our Lord as he? Well this is a common thing which is found in every language, it is a term used out of respect, you usually use the masculine gender when referring to something which is unknown. So you refer to Allah as he, and this is not stating that he is a he, nor is he is she. Okay, so this is a point that needs to be clarified, before we began or before we get into anything.

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Therefore, there is no favoritism in Islam towards either men or towards a woman. Now, I know a lot of you already have things in your mind that you're thinking of certain verses of the Koran that you may have read certain things you may have seen in the media with regards to men oppressing women in Islam, women ask for a job or in a call, and the man doesn't have to need to wear shorts and go out and play basketball and enjoying themselves while a woman has to stay at home. Well,

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the fact of the matter is that a woman does not have to stay at home when a woman goes out Yes.

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has to cover up in a specific way, and then has to cover up in a specific way as well. And each methods of covering up are done in an equal fashion, not specifically equal, but in a just manner.

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One of the important things is that a lot of people always think of equality. People always want to hear that, you know, a religion is equal, men and women are created equal, men and women are treated equally, everything is equal. But men and women are not equal, except for one specific point in the way that they worship, a lot of times, they are equal in their belief, they're equal in their worship, they are equal in things that do that have to do with spirituality and worship. Now, a lot of you are thinking, Okay, you just said men and women are not equal. Islam treats men and women justly, there's a difference between being equal, and being just, and I will give you a hands on

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experience, or hands on an example of that, in a couple of minutes, right here in class where we will have both men and women demonstrate that men are not created equal to women, that will come in a few minutes. But one thing that is equal in Islam with regards to men and women is the amount of times that they are mentioned in

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the term of the job, which is men and a term, I mean, the setup, which is women are mentioned an equal amount of times in beforehand, they are mentioned 24 times each, in beforehand, which is our ob book, for those of you who do not know what the point is.

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Now, if you have any doubts about the fairness of Islam, towards women, then you are actually in fact, questioning a lot of wisdom and justice. And this is actually leading you towards shift. So for those Muslims that have a doubt about who is equal, who is more, you know, higher in status than the other with regards to gender, then you are actually in a way leading yourself towards shift because you do not understand the way that a loss of data has created men and women, and you have this sort of viewer opinion inside of you, which makes you have this biased opinion, towards the way a lot created mankind or humankind.

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Do not let yourself

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experience or how can I say this.

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Don't let your own life experiences, for example, affect the way that you see the differences between men and women in Islam. And one of the most important points to understand is that you should never judge

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based on the actions of the Muslims. If I wanted to read up on Christianity, I could read books on Christianity, read books on Judaism, read books on Hinduism, and that's fine. As long as I did not look at the actual Christians, the actual issues and the actual Hindus and their actions and what they're doing, if I do that, well, a lot of Jews and Christians and Hindus and Sikhs and Buddhists and whatever you want, what other religions are out there Confucianism, you can look at these people and they will be doing things that they are not supposed to be doing. Similarly, not every Muslim is doing what he is supposed to be doing.

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Muslims are people human beings, and in Arabic The term is incense, incense, actually reach to the root word of misia. michiana means forgetfulness. So human beings are created in a way that they are sometimes forgetful about the things that they have to do with regards to religion with regards to life. So that is something which needs to be kept in mind. Do not judge them based on the actions of the Muslims. Do not open the TV and see what is going on in the world today and say look at what the Muslims are doing. This is how Islam is do not open YouTube and you know, type in women in Saudi Arabia because you think okay, the holy place in Islam is in Mecca, Medina, so you look at the women

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of Saudi Arabia and all the history and the stories behind it and then you think, Okay, this is how Muslims are and this is how women are in

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look at how Islam treats them according to the authentic texts. Look at how women and men are referred to in how they were referred to in the Hadeeth the life of the prophets on the wall and also

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give some examples of that little bit later on before I finish.

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Understanding that men and women are not created the same is very important. And this is because we just seriously aren't. Okay? There's no other way that you can play you can put it in scientific terms if you want. All right. But men and women are not created equally.

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physically, psychologically, mentally, there are different aspects that women look at, and that men look at. And each has their own way of looking at things. The man has a beard. Do any of the women on that side of the room have beards?

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the women have you know, bulky muscular muscles that are you know, built on shout out like some of the brothers are built over here.

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It is not natural for a woman to be built in a physical way similar to the physical aspects of men, which is normal. That is one point that needs to be cleared up. Okay, men and women are created equal in certain aspects, and they're created different in other aspects. So we need to get this whole idea that men and women are equal out of our minds, we need to understand is that it's not a treat to men and women just mean each gender is treated in an honest and drug and just manner.

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Now, I'll give you an example of women in Canada, for example, we're in other countries around the world, Western countries, specifically.

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Any of you guys know shifting to the disease

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Institute, good. Shepherd of the disease, walks into a department store one day,

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he's with his wife, his wife is wearing makeup. Does anybody here know not know what niqab is? called, is the face veil that you see some women wearing in some parts of the world?

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in every part of the world, actually, there are women that wear the niqab, regardless of what country it is. And so he walks into a department store with his wife, and somebody approaches his wife. This is a woman, a French Quebec Canadian woman, a Canadian woman, not Muslim. And she goes up to them and says, What are you doing?

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And he's like, What do you mean? She's like, Why do you make your wedding dress like this? She's like, I never told her wants to dress like this. She could dress like this. If she wants to dress. I have no problems with it. She's like, you have no problems with it. But what about my right as a human being to see her face?

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What does it with us as human beings nowadays, everything we need to see everybody means whatever happened to the rights of a human being to allow who they want to see their body? Why can't a man say you know what, I'm gonna wear a shirt because I don't want women to see my massive calf muscles when I'm walking around the university.

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A human being has a right to cover up their body in a way that they feel fit Muslim women, Muslim men as well cover up their bodies in a specific way, not because they're ordered to when you ask someone about his time, they say, Why do you work a job because we'll order to you or any job because in order to know when you need to go and study, you're Muslim, you're a job, you say you're wearing it because you're already doing it. When you need to go and study you need to actually educate yourself about us now. If you're not wearing a job, because you are ordered to you work a job because you believe that this is the right thing to do. You believe that Allah Subhana Allah

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created you in a specific way that you need to cover up in front of other men? Why? Have any of you been to North America, if any of you have been to running home, for example, in the UK, if any of you traveled to Western countries, and seeing what goes on at two o'clock, three o'clock, four o'clock in the mornings, especially on the weekends, women are out dressed half naked, men are out.

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Trying to get those women. That's it That's that's just the way it is. Now what happens is you do find men are not honest people, all of them, okay. And women are honest people as well. But my point is you will find men that see women and cannot control their desire. A lot of creative men with this desire woman, which is why we are allowed to marry a woman. In some cultures in some religions in the past, you were not allowed to marry women. In fact, in Christianity during the Dark Ages, they used to burn women at the stake because they felt that women were such a distraction for men, that it was so hard for them to to see a woman and not be able to do anything with them that they would

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think you don't need to just remove this

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This thing from in front of us so that we can concentrate on our life. So they actually used to kill and burn women, just to remove them from society because they could not bear to see this woman in front of them and not be able to do anything about it. Well, Islam teaches us otherwise Islam teaches us to be honest with our wife is that teaches us to marry. And I know a lot of you're thinking, Okay, we have a question about four wives, you know? Well,

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I'll let somebody ask that question later on and we'll talk about it later.

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to worship Allah alone, Allah says, the worship Allah alone, without rendering any partners to Allah subhana wa Tada. This is the most important part of this. Now, the most important thing, the first thing as a believer that you do is you believe in Allah subhana wa Tada, you worship Allah Subhana Allah and you do not render or

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and you do not associate any partners with a lot. So

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after a lot of mentions, that's right after he says that, worship Me alone and do not,

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you know, associate me with any other deity or any other being to be worshipped? What does Allah subhanho wa Taala says? Or say, what does God say? After he commands us to worship Him alone, and not associated? Any partners?

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Does anybody know?

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I said that for those of you that do not know Arabic, unless you have a system for worship Allah alone without associating any partners to him? And right after he says that, he says, What did why did they need and be just honest and obedient to your parents? There's a reason why I'm getting one of your parents is

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a man. The other one of your parents is

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your mother, a woman?

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What does the prophet SAW the longer it was send them our prophet in Islam Muhammad, he tells us something about being obedient towards

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a lot, being obedient towards

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them. But after that, after being obedient to a lot of the profits of the line in the sense of who should we be most obedient, and who deserves our love and our respect the most

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common mother, not the father, because he's strong, and he goes out to work and he brings on money and you can buy laptops and nice Reebok shoes and footwear and yada yada. The Mother, why

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Is anybody here?

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the reason why a loss of habitat is

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the reason why I lost the tie that says your mother and not your father, is because the mother is more deserving of your love and respect, the amounts of hardship that she goes through while giving birth to you. Each one of us was born. Each one of us has a mother.

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Some of us may not know of others and ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it easy for those brothers and sisters who do not know who their parents are. But

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all of us have a

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And I challenge any of you

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to go with your wife when you have a wife to the hospital and see what she goes through during a natural birth.

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try and do it Tell her way through I don't take any painkillers. We don't want you to take any painkillers while you're going to have a baby and see the amount of pain that she goes through. The mother goes through so much pain during during labor that she wishes she was dead. She wishes she was dead.

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Who amongst us wishes we were dead? Who has experienced something so harsh that they cannot take it anymore. They wish they were dead. Some of us may have experienced that but the majority of us

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Do not ever wish you were dead, not because of pain or what we're going through, we never wish that every single one of these women, if they have a child will probably wish that they were removed from that situation, and not give birth to this child, they would probably wish that baby would stay inside this company for the rest of their life, but don't come out because it's too painful.

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After the profits of the law, it says, Be obedient to your mother.

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Who comes next after your mother?

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says father.

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As we said, Allah we said the prophets of the law as we said, the mother who comes next mother, sorry,

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mother, the mother comes next.

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mother, right, the third time as well, mother. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, Be obedient. And you're the person who is most deserving of your love and obedience, and respect is your mother. Then when he's asked, then who he says your mother, then who? Your mother, then who? Then your father,

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three times, does that mean that your father is more important or not equal or above your mother? Now, as I mentioned, Islam treats women and men justly, not equally, justly. There are certain aspects where women are treated equally, but you cannot generalize and say men and women in Islam are treated equally. And the Muslims who say that have to correct themselves, okay?

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Allah Subhana, WA Tada.

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We'll skip that for now.

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Less isn't.

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And one of the most important things about what I'm about to say is

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which chapter in this verse is mentioned. He says, If any of you do righteous deeds, whether they are male or female, and have faith,

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they will enter heaven, and not the least injustice will be done to that, and just not the least,

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But the least injustice, I was was mentioning.

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Again, the important part of this is men and women. If they do righteous deeds, they will enter Paradise. So when it comes to worship, when it comes to who we worship, men and women, both equally, worship Allah subhanho wa Taala. That is one point where men and women can be placed on the scale as being equal. What chapter of the Quran is this mentioned?

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Is it mentioned in the chapter called the men?

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Right, I'm hearing so

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those of you that know that one, there is a whole chapter in what I'm called.

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Does anybody here knows the so called of a job demand?

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You know, there's no chapter called demand. There's a chapter called the women. In this chapter, you will find a lot of rulings, a lot of things to do and how to deal with women in Islam,

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in everyday lifestyle, in every sort of aspect that you could possibly think of.

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Now, one thing that people say, it's not fair, it's not fair that a woman has to have her period, and then she cannot pray for seven days, or seven days, for example, because for those of you that do not know, is a woman when she is having her period of menses or menstruation cycle, she does not have to pray five times a day, like she normally does. But that's only for the days that she has her period for the days that her period is over. She can pray and worship Allah, just like every other day. Now, a lot of women think this is not fair. Well,

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you asked those women as well. How do you feel? How do you feel we have a period? Every man sitting here knows PMS. Every night and every woman knows the term PMS, premenstrual syndrome, right? What does that mean? That means that a woman goes through certain things just before her period is about to start. And what are those certain things? Usually pain

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Usually cramps, sore back, cramps in my stomach cramps in my back pain, don't want to do anything want to stay home.

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A lot gives you the opportunity as a woman to relax, take a break. This is justice. And it's not. You are not feeling good. A lot does not want people who are not feeling good to force when you go and pray. And then they think, oh, we can just have to go and pray about feeling good after pray. This is not fair. And this would happen a lot in North America, for example, in the West, where women would say, you know, it's not it's not fair because I have to pray you know, I'm not feeling good. So Allah gives you the advantage, the ability to take a break, relax, if you're not feeling good, relax. And there are many other

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situations in Islam where a person who's not feeling good or who's sick, for example, does not have to do certain things. But that is psychotic.

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Now, we talked a little bit a little bit about economic rights, the economic rights that a woman has, and it's not

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something that most of the Muslims know is that a woman in us that is allowed to work, she's allowed to own her own business, she's allowed to have her own money.

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The wife of the Prophet someone longer it was seldom, Khadija,

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the first wife of the profits of the USA.

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She was one of the most successful businesswoman of her time, she was more successful than the majority of the men that were doing business. She had caravans of

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business and trade that was going out from Macau, from the Arabian Peninsula, all across that part of the world country known today as the Middle East. She was a woman.

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Islam came to the Prophet civil law, it was some of them married her, then Islam came, did he ban her from doing business

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allows a woman to do business. And the good thing about a woman green businesses in Islam is that all the money that she makes is hers. As a husband, as a father, as a man, you have no right to touch her money. Why? Because if she is making that effort to go out and work, you as the man have to be the one who provides for skill, you are the husband, you are the Father, you have to provide for this is the way that is set the system to work, it works perfectly if you implement it. For a woman, if she wants to use her money on her husband, on her father on her brothers on her male family members she is allowed to.

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But she does not have to give them any of the money, not even a cent from the money that she makes nothing of it, that money is hers. That is a right that a woman has. She's allowed to keep her own money.

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Now, Islam has never changed much of these rulings when it comes to women working or doing business or educating themselves, for example. But if we look at some of the books in history,

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from day one, it's not allowed a woman to do business to own property, and things such as that. But in the West Western countries, it was only until 1870. We are now in 2011 1817, just over 100 years ago, in England, a woman was given the right to own her own property 100 and something years ago,

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in the West, whereas it's them, which is pressing the women

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as they say,

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a woman is allowed to own her own property. She is allowed to do her own business. She can keep the money for herself. She can spend it on her family she can do as she likes. But unfortunately nowadays we hear the opposite in the media.

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I mentioned this already a woman has no financial obligations. A man husband has to provide for his wife. So if a woman is married, or let's go pre marriage, before a woman gets married, the father and her brothers must take care of her. They have to look after her. She as a woman is supposed to be taken care of by the male members of the economy. After marriage, the husband or the sons have to take care of the woman financially.

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When it comes to education, whether it's providing clothing, food, shelter, the man has to take care of. Now, a lot of the time

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People think when a woman dies, especially people think negatively about them, they think when when the husband of a woman passes away, so the husband dies, the wife is left with nothing.

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They think that the wife is left with nothing.

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Allah says

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Allah says clearly and normally that first but the full page after it. He mentions the inheritance which is allotted to each member in the family, whether you're brothers, you have two brothers, one sister, your grandchild, you have an ad, you have an uncle. All of these are mentioned in all of them are mentioned in the Sunday as well. A woman has the right to inherit. Now some people think that can you miss your outfit? One thing, a man or the sun, for example, inherits two times more than the daughter Why? People say why this is not fair. Why does my brother get two times more than I get? Why this, my father had three cars, for example, and a son and a daughter.

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Okay, three cars, son and a daughter. The son gets two cars and daughter gets one car example. Is it just a rough example, is not exactly how it works. So

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two cars go to the sun, one goes to the daughter. The daughter says,

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Well, if the daughter's car ever breaks down, that son has to give her his car so that she can use he has to do that for you has to provide her he cannot leave his sister stranded. He cannot leave a woman member of his family without any means of transportation or any means of clothing or food or shelter. This is the rights that a woman has upon the male family members of the family. So the male members get more, but they have to use this money towards the female members of county, now have a daughter who got that one car, if her brother's car breaks down, both of the cars break down. And he has no car, she does not have to give her car to him. She does not even have to lend it to him. That

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car, her money is hers. It is her right to have that to own that. And she can do whatever she wants with it. So it's not it does give a little bit of play here and there when it comes to men and women.

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A father and his now cannot force his daughter to get married, he cannot force her to marry somebody who she does not want to marry. And a lot of people think that this is not true. But this is actually true is that the prophets have a lower idea Southern was approached Prophet Muhammad, he was approached by a woman who complained to him and said, my father forced me into this marriage. And I do not want to be married to this man.

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two instances happened where a woman came in one of the instances he told the woman your marriage is invalid.

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Because your father forced you to marry this man, your marriage is actually invalid. You're not married to him. You can go on your way. You're not married to this man. And the other occasion or the other instance, the prophet Civil War, it was so dumb, he gave the woman the choice. He gave her the choice. Either you can stay married to this man if you want to. Or

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we can invalidate your marriage. So the woman has a choice between who she can marry, the father has to be present upon the marriage or whether somebody who is responsible for a woman she has to be there at the time the parents do not force her to marry a specific person. She has the right to say yes or no. It is totally up to the woman.

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When it comes to education, education and as

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we look at the example of the wife of the Prophet, peace be upon him.

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He was married to Ayesha.

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And after he passed away

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she was one of the most learned people of that time. She was a woman and she was young. But she was knowledgeable and he did not restrict her from knowledge.

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She was so knowledgeable that all four of the caliphs that came after the Prophet some of them all four of them, including the majority of the other companions went to add the show available

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And when they had a problem with one of the aesthetic rulings that they did not understand, all of them would go to her why she was the closest person to the Prophet Muhammad. She knew so much about him, she knew so much about the Quran. She knew so much that as a woman, people, men, the Calif, Khalifa would go to her and asked her what is the ruling and so on. So matter. She's a woman. So it said does not restrict women from education. It's nice to see that there are a lot of sisters that are studying, becoming doctors becoming lawyers becoming

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teachers, whatever it may be. One of the biggest problems that we have nowadays is that we do not have female doctors, for example, in the West, in Montreal, in Quebec, where I come from in Canada, we do not have female gynecologist, it's rare. It's rare that you go to the hospital with your wife, and you can have overseen by a female doctor. It's rare.

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It happened to myself, once we went to the hospital, my wife and I, it was about two or three o'clock in the morning. There are absolutely no female doctors present in the hospital. This is one of Montreal biggest and one of Canada's oldest hospitals, no female doctors to see my wife, a male doctor comes in, he's like, I need to see you and you can touch this and that.

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We need female doctors and this is why it is nice to see female Muslim members who are

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studying educating themselves to go back to their countries and to contribute to not only helping the Muslim Ummah, but to help the world

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as well. So this is another thing where people think that it's done restricts women, when it comes to education, I show the wife of the Prophet some of the audio, some of them she narrated over one over 2000 over 2000.

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That is a big number for a woman to narrate.

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And this was it.

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And I remind ourselves that it's one of the most important things in Islam, which was actually the first commandment and the first word of the end that was revealed is pick up

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this mirror, you can let the

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echo Read, read this word. This was the first word that was revealed to the Prophet Muhammad from the Quran. It was revealed to him through revelation by the angel 2 billion

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in a cave found in the city of Mecca today.

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He received this revelation and the word of means read not only doesn't mean read, it means educate yourself. Reading is a means of education. Unfortunately, today, the Muslim Ummah, is one of the laziest nations when it comes to reading. We hate to read, we would much rather be on YouTube watching videos of somebody who's teaching us how to drive a car, rather than learning how to drive the car itself. getting in the car with the key in your left foot on the clutch in neutral. We don't want to do that we want to watch YouTube. We don't want to read we want somebody to show us how to do it. We have become lazy. The first thing that tells us to do is educate ourselves, women in the

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What's the relation? The relation is that a child

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in a Muslim family is usually educated by the mother.

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The mother is the one who's at home with the children. The father is at work and mother stays home. She tends to the children's names. She sees them their food, they get older, she educates them, she teaches them if you have a dumb

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daughter that you married off to some guy, Muslim, right off to some of the subreddit. And your daughter, you did not want to educate her. You wanted her to be dumb. You wanted her to stay at home? No, no education can't do that.

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As we learned it should go away from the profits online. So she was one of the most learning people around. And this plays a very important role when it comes to educating the children of the Muslim family. Because the children are educated by the mother.

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I think I'll stop there.

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Anyone had something else to throw around? But

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That's a little later on. Remember what it was I know it was something else, but I can't remember right now.

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So I'll stop there for now. And we'll take some questions. And I think the brothers and the sisters are passing out some papers for questions, and

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I'll try and answer them.

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I can't guarantee anything.

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But we'll see how it goes.

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Okay, so one of the questions here is,

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okay, one of the questions is, and I do not know if this was written by a man or a woman, so you will have to clarify, is it how long to go to a Muslim doctor?

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For example, if he is the best to give me advice,

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I do not know why it would be how long to go to a Muslim doctor.

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I honestly think the most hilarious thing you can do is go to.

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But again, I do not know if this was written by a man or a woman. So if this was written by one of the sisters asking, Is it

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streamed by you?

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You want me to stay here?

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So no, it is not how long to go into a

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doctor, it is actually advisable to go to a doctor if you can find wherever you live.

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Okay, good question.

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When a woman owns some property, as you said, it depends on her and how she uses it. When she dies, how should the property be divided? It's not up to me to tell you how the property should be divided. The property is divided according to how it is mentioned and how it is mentioned. According to the Sunnah the life of the Prophet.

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It is clearly stated during a plan, whether it be male or female, if a man dies, and he has children and how many children he has, and who gets what, and who inherits what, that's all mentioned, if a woman dies, and she's a mother, and she has children, or she's not a mother, she's a widow, all of that is mentioned. So to get your answer for this specifically,

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you cannot just give a random answer. You need to go to somebody scholar

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who's going to actually divide your property, excuse me on this property?

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How big is the land? How much is it worth in dollars or ringgit or whatever you want to calculate it in? And then he will say how many members do you have? Okay, great, we'll actually advise all of us to do that. We shouldn't have a will. It's not a clue. There isn't it's not a clue, you can find it on certain websites.

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side will provide them to you guys.

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And all these things should be taken care of in advance so to know the actual amounts that should go to a person that needs to be decided.

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Good question. Is said that traveling overseas without a microwave? In Islam, a woman is not allowed to travel a long distance along the journey on her own.

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She should travel with a men male companion who is for example, her father, a brother or uncle, grandfather, somebody who can take care of her along the way. If someone was to harm her ticket advantage of her, he's there to protect her along the way. So she's asking, if it is not permissible for a woman to travel such a far distance. Then how do you suppose women to go to university abroad to attain knowledge and educate themselves? Good question.

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I have a friend of mine from Saudi Arabia, the Saudis are really strict majority of them when it comes to letting their women travel abroad and study.

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But what my friend does his he studies in the UK in England, in London, and his sister's study there as well. So the father took the opportunity to send the dog

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With the son, both of them went, both of them are studying together, both of them live together in the same apartment, both of them can share the food, they can share the shelter, they can share everything. And they both travel together and study together. This is one solution. Sometimes there are situations where you cannot find a brother You don't have a brother to travel with? Well, this is something that you need to look into. Is there really a need for you to travel abroad to get that degree? Or can you get it from your own country? So there's many factors that play in this situation. But there are ways that you can go about studying abroad in a woman at the same time.

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Okay, very good question. A woman, let's have a moment.

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Who works has her own income. And from that income, she takes a small amount of small portion of it and gives it to her parents or siblings.

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Is this permissible? For the husband to object? Does he have a right to object?

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For her giving money to her siblings? No, he's not allowed to do that. The money that she earns is her money. If she wants to spend that money in a way that she's getting into her family, then that is the best way that you can spend your money the best.

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The best way is the Prophet Muhammad, somebody has taught us that the best way that you can spend your money is to spend it on your own family.

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So if your wife is spending money on her own family, her parents, her brothers or sisters, whoever it may be, the husband has no right to stop. unless she's doing something wrong with this money, then he can advise her because it is his wife, he can advise her to not spend the money in that manner. But generally, if you're giving it to a family member of yours,

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that needs it, then the husband has no right to stop her from doing that.

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The question came?

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This is the golden question. I wanted to be projected.

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There's a verse in the world, which allows men to beat their wives.

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What is the explanation for this

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provides me the example I was going to give you guys.

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I mean,

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the camera

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was picked on by one of the chefs sitting in the front row of conference last summer. And I was a speaker at the conference as well. One of the other speakers had no idea that I was a coke speaker in the conference, and I was sitting right in front. And he's up on stage a massive auditorium with balconies and stuff, and he kept picking on me, you would actually jump off stage and run into my face. So when do we what do you think? What do you think about this?

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And he would constantly pick on me. So now he is a US

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if I come up to you,

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as someone who's scared, you already go. Anyways, what I was going to do is I was going to try and scare him by pretending to beat him. But actually, what Islam says about beating in the Quran, you now have to look into the actual term meaning

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what is meant by beating somebody

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not permissible and it's not to hit another brother or an enemy in the face. It is not permissible

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for a Muslim to hit even their enemy in the face.

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But I'm going to hit you according to what the plan says.

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When it comes to dating, your wife does not say clear cut. First thing to do when you're ticked off at your wife theater.

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It does not say that.

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If a man who is taking care of his wife,

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doctors microphones that turned on

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If a man who's taking care of his wife does not

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there's always a solution.

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Okay, so then third time, third time

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Right, if a man does not, who is taking care of his wife, right? But she's not being obedient to Him in the ways that she's supposed to, she's not fulfilling his rights. She's not doing certain things that she's supposed to be doing.

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He has to advise her advisor speaker, talk to her explain to her. Look, I'm not happy with what you're doing. I'm not happy with the way you treat me when it comes to the door. You're always like, angry at me. You know why you're five minutes late? Where were you? What were you doing? I don't like that. Can you stay so mad? I need space. Can you Thanks. Okay. teller communicate, one of the biggest problems that Muslim men and women have. And I'm not turning this into a marriage. And they think one of the biggest problems that Muslim men and women have in their marriage is that they do not communicate.

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They do not express their feelings to each other. So when you communicate with your wife, usually, usually,

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at least is the case for me and my wife, and she's gone out. So I can say this. Usually, it works. Okay, you don't feel good to communicate with her, she will try to, you know, conform to whatever you want her to do. Usually, if that doesn't work, and she's doing something, which is really, really bad.

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And you have a problem with this. So you can now

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kind of ignore her. Give her a cold shoulder as they say, you advise her doesn't work. Give her the cold shoulder. Later, you know, and women are liking this. You know, they have this feeling very emotional. Why isn't he talking to me? What did I do? Oh, no, he's gonna call my father.

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So, when this happens, she starts to think of everything, how things are rolling around in a

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whole bunch of things, candles, flowers, it all. So I'm gonna be nice to sweep the floors. Vacuum mop. everything's nice and clean. What is it? What is it that he's got from? She's gonna understand, she doesn't understand after that, after speaking to her, and ignoring her or giving her a cold shoulder that says that you are allowed to

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be a woman.

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You actually want me to be a woman.

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If I go to a woman and do this,

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I go to a woman and do this.

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So it's not does not allow them to beat his wife. It is forbidden for men to beat his wife and is not permitted. He is not allowed to beat her. You're not allowed to do anything that puts a mark on her skin. You are not allowed to mark her skin, which means you are not allowed to return. That is what it says about beading.

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So for those of you that want an ally, this is what I'd say we're about to beat women look into it, read the explanation of it.

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The heavy compliments the one that explains it tells us what we are supposed to do and what we are not supposed to do according to what is mentioned in the

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full data question.

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Have to the motor

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savings at 530 to 730.

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Okay, this is an interesting question. What is the woman

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has chosen not to marry at all.

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And do any work, for example, like engineering or teaching. But what if a woman decides she's not going to get married? And she just wants to educate herself and go and work?

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Can the woman mix with men? I think she wants to know first, is this permissible?

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A woman might have the intention to not get married and want to do certain things with her life with regards to education and work and so on.

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But I highly doubt that her whole life she will stay unmarried. And if that is the case, the profits on the law I do, some of them told us to be lenient in our game told us to be take the middle path.

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Or some of the companions that were doing specific extreme things, at the time of the Prophet Muhammad, and one of the companions what he was doing, he said, I'm not getting married, I'm not gonna marry anybody, basically saying he's gonna devote his life to Islam, and not married. So the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. And why is this person that said, that he himself as a prophet marries women, so he gets married. So basically, what he's trying to say is, do not be extreme. Do not think that you have to devote your life to one specific thing. Getting married is actually fulfilling half of your deen. If a woman corpsman does not want to get married, that means you are

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losing out on the opportunity to fulfill half of your deen, who would want to lose out on that opportunity. Now, she also says can the woman mix with men at work? note, this woman is wearing proper any job.

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This is a problem with women going to work that they have to mix with men. And this is a it is a must. Or a ruling or a topic that needs to be looked into specifically. For example, if a woman wants to become a doctor, and she gets a male patient, she needs to look and examine certain parts of the male body, or touch the men even if it's on arm, she is not allowed to do that. So you have to look at whole thing. There are countries where women can practice with women, there are certain fields that women doctors, for example, can only deal with female patients.

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Engineering, for example, you're not going to be like a female only engineering department, or company,

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Corporation. So

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the woman needs to limit the amount of contact that she comes to.

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She cannot be free with men is known as limits. There are limits in our religion, you cannot just freely mix with men go and talk to them.

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And all this stuff, you know, and just enjoy yourself today. And all this, you know, you have to have limits.

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And there's an example this that came up to me, you know, when I came to Malaysia and I started studying here,

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a couple of our classmates started going out after class just, you know, down the street to have some tea and have something to eat. And it was guys and girls mixed together. They're like, just like, my wife's at home like a big problem.

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First of all,

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I'm not worried about my wife getting ticked off. worried about me doing the right thing

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tells you what to do, what not to do. And there's a reason for that. This is it's all part of the system is defined system that works perfectly. And if I go out and sit with other male and female classmates and sit down and joke, and you know, just be free, then this barrier between the men and the women slowly diminishes and disappears. And so now you feel free with the other female classmates or work or, or people you're working with, for example, feel free to sit with them and joke with them. And then this opens the door to shame on this opens a door to something else happening. So you yourself must be really really particular and really strict with the way you

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handle yourself. You cannot expect other people to treat you with the respect that you want, or with the boundaries that you want your aesthetic boundaries. Treat yourself with the boundaries that you are supposed to have the boundaries that you deserve, and respect your own life your own lifestyle.

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has to be a man that wrote this terrible read.

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Is it true that if mailed

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does not have any son, and only daughters, then some of the property goes to dad after he dies, we'll go to the brothers children if so, why? Yes, this is true in certain situations, again, you have to go to somebody who is knowledgeable with when it comes to inheritance and dividing a property and money, and they will give you the roommate, they will explain to you why this person gets more than the other person, I cannot sit here and explain to you who gets more and why they get more, I already explained to you the general rule, the general rule is that they are responsible for your well being as a woman, the man has to take care of you. That is just the general rule.

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Can a woman work as a new speaker and appear on TV?

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can question this situation just like myself standing up here, there are women sitting on this side of the crowd, the only one I'm looking at is my wife who just stepped out the door again. So I know when she comes in and goes out. But the other sisters that are that are sitting there.

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It's not likely if you're not allowed to look at another man. And a woman is not allowed to look at another woman is not allowed to look at another men. And the man is not allowed to look at another or foreign woman who is not a family member or blood related, then he should not look at her. Again, when it comes to the topic of you know, working and being out in the workforce to the field. And

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being on TV, for example, broadcasted to many different countries across the globe, you are putting yourself in a position that may not be how long for you, it may not be impermissible for you to be there, you're allowed to sit there and allowed to read this, you're allowed to be filmed. But you're making a situation something is being created. Other women story other men from around the world are looking at you. And they're maybe looking at you to the desire as well. So in order for you to want to eliminate these things from happening and use them, you should try to avoid those situations. Journalism does not only mean that you become you know, an announcer, and you're on TV, yes, the pay

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may be better, I don't know, brothers in the radio field, I'm not. And he's definitely not in the TV industry. But you have to try and avoid others committing sins as well, part of our religion is a powerful one that he didn't want to encourage others to do good, but also to stop evils from happening evils that you know, of evils that you are aware of. And one of the evils that is present today is found in the media, where you see within worrying loads of makeup, and in the West, not dressed properly. And if you're a Muslim woman, you should try and avoid these situations is to try and avoid being in the spotlight so that other people can look at you in a specific way. Try and be

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modest, try and control yourself. Try and find something which is suitable. Aesthetically.

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You mentioned previously that women should have a limit when it comes to communicating with men. What is the limit? Could you please elaborate, thank you. Again, the limit is

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if I go up with salad, and the sister who was tossed potatoes comes and she's like, you know, want to go out with you guys.

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Why? Why do you want to go out with us? Well, I have some questions about this now.

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Okay, we will go upstairs, we'll sit over there in the open public where people can see. And there are three of us. There's not two of us. There's not a woman and a woman, there's me sad sister. So there's a witness to witness if something bad is going on if something improper is going on. And again, I'm going to be able to encourage others to do good. If you see that something is not going right between you and your friend or sister or something. Give them some advice. So you have to be the one to judge what that limit is. I cannot tell you what the limit is because there are millions of situations that you will be faced with.

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Most of you are all young, you will be traveling the world you will be faced with many, many situations. For example, you might go to a job interview. Once you get

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Issue your degree. And the university finds you placement somewhere in.

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In the UK, for example, and you go there you fly across the world, part of your job interview is to meet with certain people, whether it be CEOs or delegates or whatever, and you have to shake hands with them. It is up to you to decide how you deal with the situation.

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You might think if I shake hands with this person, I'll get my job. If I don't shake their hand, they'll all get offended, and I lose my job. What is more important to you? Is your religion and pleasing a lot more important to you? And attaining genda peridots? Or is it to get a job here so that you can drive BMW turn 50 years old, 6070 and die pass away and BMW sitting in your garage, I buy it $500 restore it. Nobody cares about you. But you got punished your whole life for what you were doing. So you need to be the one who makes the situation.

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Good. Many people talk about how it is important for a mother to nurture or educate her sons and daughters. However, what about the father? What does Islam teach us on how a father should educate his children?

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The father must educate

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his children, he has to educate. And we mentioned father has to educate his daughter because she's going to be taking care of her children later on. But he has to educate his wife as well. His wife is taking care of his children. Maybe his father didn't do the greatest job raising his wife. So he has to be the one. Now all of the brothers that are sitting here, for example, a lot of the time they go to the masjid. And there's a program at the masjid. And this feature comes from abroad from another city or something like that. And he gives a lecture at the masjid.

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And the brothers go home, crack open a can of Pepsi, you know, pizza with their family enjoying themselves? What were you doing in the mustard? You were learning something? Why don't you tell your enemies about it.

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The mother, the woman, the best place for her as we know the best place for her to pray her prayers is in her house to avoid her frequently going outside. And maybe you know something may happen along the way, especially late at night early in the morning.

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Now, if that's the case, you have to take on the responsibility of educating your mother or your wife as well.

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explanation for four wives

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apart from men are less than one.

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Okay, so what do you think?

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Is the ratio of men to women is that more women and less men right? Apart

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from that factor?

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For sure.

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In fact, it is the only religion that limited the amount of wives that you can have support.

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If you look at all the other religions, and you read the Bible, for example, I saw yesterday, the Bible says that said a man

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had 700 wives.

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I'm fine with one, I'm gonna die. And for those of you that want to go on to four, you can you know, you got problems you can ask me about it. But

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But 700.

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And there are other examples in the Bible, and in other religions that marrying more than one wife is common, and is totally fine. But when it's not a game, it was limited to four. Why? Because it's not a loss of habitat Allah knows. And he taught the prophets

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that men cannot deal with more than four wives at one time.

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Most men can't even take care of one. Okay, come home and you just get all this pressure all the time from one way Imagine if you went to four different houses now all this pressure coming from four different wives. You just be like, Man, I'm just going to divorce all house. stay alone. Okay, so a lot of people think that Islam allows men to have four wives. Why can't a woman have four husbands?

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You've heard the term, your daddy.

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Something which I mean, it sounds funny because people see it on TV and stuff like that. But it's a real life situation. There are many, many children out there in, I'll just talk about my own country or my own part of the world in North America,

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who these children have absolutely no idea who their father is. In fact, our friend from Jamaica, who's studying here in Malaysia as well known him for almost 10 years now.

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He was telling me about the situation in Jamaica, that he told me he's like, you know,

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fair skinned, if you come to Jamaica, man, women are just jumping all over you. I'm like, What do you mean, he's like, the women over there in Jamaica, what they want is, they just want to have that one night stand, get pregnant and have a fair colored like a beautiful looking baby, that's all they want. They want to have a beautiful looking babies. What happened to this child grows up.

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Who's gonna take care of this child, who's gonna, you know, be a father figure for the child can play with him, it's gonna take him out, treat him out, take him to a ballgame or something like that. I don't know what they do.

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And so this is the problem that you have when a woman marries more than one, or wants to marry more than one husband. Another problem that you're faced with is

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totally slipped my mind. When a woman has four wives. Yes, a woman. Right? physically, emotionally, she cannot deal with more than one.

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One man is the number one man is her world, okay? for a woman to have one men in her life. That is just amazing. And she doesn't want another.

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She wants to just be loved by this one man. And she wants to know that she means everything to him. So, generally, when women ask the question, you know, why can't we have four wives? And you really need to think about it if you had only one.

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For husbands

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so wrong.

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But when a woman has more than one husband, then it just it's not right. Just women don't want that. Deep down women look inside, they don't want that one man who's gonna be there. And if something happens to her, he's there. And he takes care stepper.

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Question is when a non Muslim woman wants to marry a Muslim man, what rights does she lose or gain if she marries,

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you don't really lose any rights, you actually gain a lot of rights.

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Most of them

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treat their wives with the most respect at least they're supposed to. So the woman is gaining a lot by marrying a Muslim men. And at the same time, the man should be strong enough to demonstrate his love in front of her, he should be able to pray in front of her he should be able to read the woman in front of her and should be able to talk about Islam in front of her. All these things are good and she gains the good aspects of Islam. The other part of the question is, is a marriage possible if two partners are of different faith? Of course, across the world, we see Hindus marrying Christians and Muslims marrying non Muslims. This happens the only situation that is not allowed in

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is that is for the man to marry a woman who is of the religions of shifting for example, or render associate or associate partners with a lot for example.

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The only religions basically that marry

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into our Muslim women, Christian woman, or a Jewish woman.

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Apart from that the other religions are considered to be religions that Sophia partners to their God and we're having more than one God. So then it is not permissible within those religions.

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Is niqab compulsory for women? No niqab is not compulsory for women. But it is advisable for women in certain countries.

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It may be compulsory for women in certain countries based on their laws, but islamically it is not compulsory for a woman to wear a job. Nowadays we tend to forget sort of Hippo, we tend to forget what niqab actually means. We see Muslim women wearing niqab chilling out with like four or five guys?

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What's going on? Okay, they can't see you. But your behavior is part of your niqab. And they call this something that protects you something that seals you, it's like this barrier around you that you want to be protected. This diamond or this pearl inside

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knows the answer. Okay, basically, you're protected Pearl, okay. And you have to reflect this protection, or you have to show this protection or this method of guarding yourself in your actions as well. Not only in covering your face, and then just tune out with whoever you want.

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What is the Islamic way of approaching getting to know a woman a Muslim, then admirers or legs? Okay, basically, I think this question means, how are two Muslim students at the University of Nottingham, one who's a man, another one that was a woman supposed to get together and get married? Are there ways of doing that? First of all, if your family is not here, and you have friends, you have friends who can, you know, link the two of you together and say, You know what, I know this sister, she's really good, Mashallah, you're a practicing brother, she's a practicing Sister, I think the two of you would be a good couple of brothers looking to get married

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to our sister,

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women and university like,

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that's good, fit enough for you.

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That you can approach each other in specific ways. If the Muslim men and the Muslim woman themselves come into contact, meaning they speak with each other, and they say, you know, I'm interested in getting married.

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And you know, you seem like a really nice brother, then you must contact your families, or your guardian and get the families involved and or approaches, or religious scholars, somebody who can help the two of you come to some sort of agreement between the two of you where you can get to know each other. And then if the family is both consent to it, then get married. And that's how it's done. It's very easy. It's just, you guys are just too shy, shy, shy to get married?

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Okay, somebody's asking a question. It's kind of confusing to understand the writing. Basically, she's asking for me to elaborate a little more on women not having to wear a job, because a lot tells them rather. That is because that is because she believes is the right thing. or government. Allah says we hear and we obey, because there are some commandments which we are giving that we don't understand the wisdom behind them was the importance of

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this matter.

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If you do not understand why you are wearing hijab, then you should

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consider the situations that are going around going on around the world today.

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* is one of them, and I forgot to bring statistics to it. But * is out of control these days, especially in the West. Women just walk the streets get mugged, get raped, they go to bars, clubs, drink, they get raped, things like that happen. And wearing the hijab doesn't only mean covering covering your hair. This is something I noticed when I came to Malaysia, with all due respect to the Muslims in Malaysia and the women in Malaysia. But I find it kind of

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When we landed in Malaysia, we thought we're coming to a Muslim country,

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from Muslim, Muslim country. And we're sitting in a taxi. And beside me, there's a Muslim sister on a motorcycle, wearing Hijab with her skirt above her knees. And she just

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was like,

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what's the point of this?

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you're just bearing everything. And

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men are not so concerned in your hair right now, concerning other parts that are being exposed. And this is something which is actually normal here in Malaysia, and it needs to be changed.

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You see it very often Muslim woman wearing a hijab and short sleeve shirts, or really tight pants and a tank top, for example, but the right the job covering your hair. Now, I understand that you're covering your hair, because you're obliged to cover your hair statically. But you're also obliged to cover the other parts of your body. And you choose not to cover those parts of your body. So now when I say you should not only wear a job, because you were ordered to now you're wearing a job covering your hair, but you're not covering your arms and your legs. So it doesn't really balance, there's no there's no balance there. between the two. The other thing is that

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a woman may be completely covered, that she wears a job, but she doesn't mean that she's ordered to do that. And

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that is good. That is good. That you may not understand fully the reason why you have to wear a job when you do it, because a lot quarters used to do that. And so when you're doing it for the sake of Allah, and not just doing it, because your parents told you, you have to do this, because as well wants you to do and you're doing it because Allah says to do that, but you believe that this is the right thing to do. You do not know why you have to do it.

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But you do it anyways, out of belief, that is okay. But to just do it, because Okay, in order to do this, so I'm going to do it. And you don't know why you do it. As I said, you need to go and understand why you do it. And if you believe that isn't the right thing. You don't know why you're doing it, but you're still believing that it's right and you're doing it, then you're doing the right thing. So continue to wear it. And

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you know you're doing the right thing, and you're on your way to understanding more of yourself and people around you and your future children.

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This question where he answered?

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Part of this question is,

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I think basically, it has to do with the same thing. Why a woman is not allowed to have more than one husband.

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There's a girl who's alone for example, on campus.

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Should I be a person who runs errands for her to be like a guardian, if her parents want me to do it?

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Are you just like sucking up to her you

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seriously want to help your sister, if you seriously want to help this sister. That is one of the most beautiful things as a Muslim. See, brothers sister helping the other. And that we today we see how

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some of the Muslims don't even pay attention to their own family members. And their family members, the Mother, the Father, the brothers, sisters, whatever may be in need, and are requiring some sort of assistance from them.

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But we do not help them. And we go to the masjid and we see another brother, that we have no idea who this guy is. We don't even know his name. We never saw him before. But he is in need of some sort of assistance,

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as usually help one another in that situation. Unfortunately, a lot of people are distancing themselves from their families, which is besides the point but I just wanted to mention that that we should help our families, our relatives, as well as help the other brothers and sisters in the community. how you can go about helping another sister, your brother and you want to help his sister. First of all, she may be on crutches and has broken legs or in a wheelchair or something like that. This is a form of assistance that every brother and sister needs to take advantage of, of helping this person. Somebody who is disabled or has some sort of difficulty in doing something. We

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should all take advantage to help. Now somebody is completely fine, healthy but it's another sister and her parents as mentioned

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They're, the parents want you to look after them and be a guardian to them. Being a guardian to that sister doesn't mean you replace the Father, you do not go and sit with her and have dinner with her and deal with her and ask her about her feelings and her emotions. No, she requires to go out and buy groceries, milk, eggs, stuff like that. You can jump in a cab, go out, get this stuff for her, bring it to her knock on your door, here's the stuff.

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I'll tell you how much it costs the next time or you know, she gives you a certain amount of money or the parents give you a certain amount of money to spend to buy to buy stuff for her, that's fine. Don't enter her house, stay you know, keep your distance, know your limits as we score documentations

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those are all part of helping this person and you will be rewarded for helping if you do it with a sincere intention and a pure heart.

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It says Iranian, Iranian, all women are forced to wear hijab.

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Does it have anything to do with this?

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Again, this is a wall that was

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placed by the Iranian government.

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I've never been to Iran. And if the Iranian government chooses to do so then they have the right to do that it is their country, they run the country in a specific way. It may not be according to all the opinions of the aesthetic rulings that are out there. But this is the way that they choose to run the nation. And that's what happens. Does it have anything to do with Islam?

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If they encourage non Muslims to dress modestly within their own country,

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then I think that is okay. But we do not

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force our ways upon other religions. We do not force other religions to follow the aesthetic rulings that we follow. Of course, when you're going inside a Muslim countries, certain rulings take place, you have to pay jizya, which is a tax for anonymous, a specific tax.

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They have to for example, in Saudi Arabia, they make women dress modestly or wear Kumbaya. Not necessarily a job though. So every country has its own

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you have to abide by because you live in a country.

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Someone told me that I wear any job for men. And this is how women are

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oppressed in a kind of way under the name of the job and are not free. How should I respond to that?

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Women have the best response for these questions. You should not be asking me isn't that you? Judging by this question, you were a job? Why do you wear a job? How do you feel when you wear a job? There are so many machines out there. Describe how a woman feels when and where they feel free. They feel like this is the way they're supposed to be they feel protected, they feel happy, they feel like this is a form of identity for them. So every woman feels differently. You as a woman should express your feelings to this person. One of the best ways of getting down to this

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person or giving them advice is to express your feelings to them and tell them exactly how you feel with regards to wearing the hijab

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is the ruling about socializing with girls

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and or to talk to girls out of necessity?

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aesthetically, if it's out of necessity, then it's necessary. If I

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you know was late for

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the night my child was born.

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I went to class the next day, and there was a sister in the class on Wednesday. That is also in my class on Tuesday. She was the only person in my class on Tuesday that I saw on Wednesday.

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So I asked her, What is it that we did in class? And

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she told me what exactly was covered what we need to do. And that's it as to socialize. You don't need to socialize with a woman want to socialize with a woman get married, you're going to be fed up with socializing.

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No, seriously speaking though,

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before you get married girls think you know you want to have a woman you want to sit with a woman, you want to talk to a woman you need that person to, you know, express your feelings. I never had a sister growing up. I have two brothers, no sisters, most of you probably have sisters. But you talk to one of your sisters. Talk to your mother. Sometimes it's hard to talk to the mother. Talk to one of your aunts. You know, your mother's sister, your father's sister, your grandmother, for example. Or just turn to one of your one of your sisters. Talk to them. It's not like I said get married. And you'll enjoy the long nights of socializing with a woman.

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She comments on niqab and HR being banned in western countries.

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I don't know exactly what comments to give regarding this question. niqab was banned in France, I believe. I don't know if it's bad in any other countries.

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Turkey. Okay.

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There may be some other countries across the world where niqab is

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then to be used, actually in Montreal, Canada, where they've right now. Within the province of Quebec, they're trying to pass a law that governs the use of improv in any public places. Slash and or government places, for example, you're going to a bank, or you go into the airport or you go into any government or public place they want to ban the use of.

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Now, if you're living in that country, and you're a Muslim woman and you feel that there's something that you must do, and it is against the law to do that. You're stuck in between two things.

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You have to look at the ruling of niqab. Do you feel that niqab is legit or compulsory ingredient to wear. You also have to look at the fact that living in that country as a Muslim, you must abide by the laws of that country.

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That doesn't mean you know, in Canada, they allow both men and women above the ages of 18 to drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes. So that's the law you can smoke or drink cigarettes and that's

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not something they allow you to do. But that is not something that is forced upon you. If you are forced to not wear a niqab, then you have to look into is it compulsory to wear and the country that you're living in? Do you want to continue living there or not? You don't want to continue living there, by all means move to another country in the world, if not, now you have to study the permissibility of not wearing niqab in one of those countries. The majority of the scholars say that wearing niqab is not compulsory. So therefore I follow the opinion that wearing niqab as well is not compulsory, it is optional. A woman can wear it if she wants to. And if she doesn't want to wear the

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gloves, she does not have to. My wife wears it at all.

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I am of the opinion that training is not compulsory, but she still wears it that is her choice.

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That is her rights as a woman she has the right to wear it or not. I like the fact that she wears it. But I again, if we're in a country where she's not allowed to wear it. She's not allowed to wear it. That's just the way it goes. So you have to look at two generations. If you live in France or you live in Turkey, then there is a problem with you wearing a call and you may have a problem with living there.

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I think I said that right?

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When I'm tired three hours of sleep tonight.

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Okay, next question.

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Okay, why did the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him marry it show the long run when she was only six years old? Good question. He did not consummate the marriage until she was mature

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and contrary to Western

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Every nowadays, everyone says you need to be a team in order to have relations with a woman, anything. If, for example, the man is 20, and he's dating because this happens in the West, he's his girlfriend is 17 or 16 years old, this is something which is illegal.

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The profits in the long run

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showed us a clear example, that a woman can be married. Once she is mature, he married her before she was mature before

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she reached puberty. So he married her at a time demonstrating to us that it is okay to marry or to,

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to commit to this marriage before the woman is mature, but to actually consummate the marriage, you must wait until she is mature and has passed the age of maturity. Another thing you need to look at, which is very, very important. Living in a cold country, women, female children do not

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become mature.

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Much like living in a hot climate. For example, Saudi Arabia,

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the women over there mature at the age of six, by

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four, sometimes it happens because of the hot climate. So does that mean you can go and marry someone who's four years old, you can commit to a marriage with someone who's four years old, the father once, but

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the child also has to give consent, the daughter has to give consent to this marriage as well. And usually,

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this is something which is not commonly practiced. It's rare to see someone especially nowadays, four years old, and five years old, getting married.

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But at the same time, we have to look at the levels of maturity. In Western countries, we mature at much later stages and like, in the sense that a woman, for example, only gets her period at the age of 15. Whereas in a hot climate, she gets her period at the age of five.

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When a child is 15 years old, in Canada, for example, not selling things on the side of the road doing that exchanging business ideas in Saudi Arabia. I know a little boy, who's four years old, who does business and walks around with scale, raised people, they pay him, he pays his dad a certain amount, and he'll teach the certain amount for himself. His brothers do that his cousins do it. They're all within the ages of three and 15.

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Okay, so the mentality is totally different, where you grow up, the way you're brought up, all these things play a factor.

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You have to also look into, you know, nobody wants to marry off their daughter when she's five years old, and see something happened to her. At the same time she has to give consent to that marriage, chances are a five year old daughter is not going to want to go home with the 20 year old guy

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is the only subject as male friends along with female friends.

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No, it's not a nice thing to have male friends and female friends islamically are allowed to have male friends, you're allowed to have female friends.

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Your sister can be your friend. your aunt's can be your friend can confide in them. Nowadays, we have all these barriers, these terminologies that we use Mother's Day, you know, we only we only call our mother once a year, and thank her for all the goodness that she's done for us. You know, when she wished she was dead, giving birth to us. We only call her once a year. We're not doing justice to our mothers. Does that make me every day is Mother's Day, every day is Mother's Day, we have to take care of our parents, but the mother or father every single day. Some of the companions would not go to sleep at night, unless they took care of their parents first before they took care

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of their own children. They wake up early in the morning going out to the animals and bring the milk to their parents and wait for the parents to wake up. And their children are crying for food. But they know the importance of being obedient to the parents. So you can have female friends. You can have male friends, they just have to be within the boundaries of people you're allowed to.

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You can have coworkers again, but like I said, you must know your boundaries.

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To wrap it up, not seeing any issues you guys, probably one on the video screen. One thing I wanted to mention, though, brothers that

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there is for any of you that are Muslim, or non Muslim, there is a seminar coming up a double weekend seminar by the Institute, some of you are aware of this, this institute, they set up the weekend seminars, basically, it is not too intensive. They provide texts, as well as the venue and a teacher will be coming from Canada as well.

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It is a very good way of understanding of sound, very good way of learning what Islam is all about, especially this seminar that is coming up. It is called a heart serene. And it has to do with purifying the soul purifying a person's

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soul, their hearts, their inner desires. Basically, you're coming to terms with recognizing who you are, and what you are and what you're made of. So I encourage all the brothers and sisters in Canada take advantage of that belief. You can go to website, maybe a.com sorry.org.org.

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You can ask the brothers around the brothers and the sisters, they're aware of that as well. There may be some fliers upstairs and I've seen them all over the place. So I don't know if they're being distributed here. That is something which is very beneficial both for Muslims and non Muslims, especially considering the topic. Nuts. purification of the soul has to do with recognizing who you are as a human being and as a Muslim. And we'll end there by saying

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thank you very much, may Allah bless all of you. And for those of you who are not Muslim, please get in touch with some of these brothers and sisters get in touch with some of the sisters and try and learn a little bit more about them. This is what awareness is all about. And I'm sure the brothers and the sisters have no problems with communicating with one another when it comes to giving or giving advice to the other

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