Purification Of The Soul 11

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11 – Purification of the Soul (Tazkiatu Al-Nafs) – Sh. Daood

Apr 07, 2017 @ Al Falah Islamic Centre

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Kleber to limited in what somebody will suddenly more Ananda be carrying out a form of Salatu atoma tasleem rubbish heraclius Audrey wire certainly me at that time mainly sunny Africa okoli my brothers and sisters in Islam SNM already come to LA he or bought our cattle

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Mashallah The sun has arrived handed in land nice and bright to you. I was just gonna say turn the lights on. Now I need my sunglasses. No Not sure lots of articles. I am still gonna say it if any of the sisters are in the back door if we can do that, maybe just open the lights in the sisters area. So it brightens up the mustard a little bit. Don't worry, inshallah, as we leave, we'll all contribute a little bit towards the electricity bill. And there we go at hamdulillah

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I'm sure there's another row of lights that can open as well. Let's try and have those on also.

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And the partition is up Mashallah. Very thick, solid partition. That one I believe is broken.

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Okay.

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No, don't don't use that one. That one is broken. It's fallen before so just just leave it aside. We don't want it to fall on anyone.

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I'm not signing the waiver. I personally think the two that are there is enough that third one, we can just leave over there and chulmleigh we don't really need it. Yeah, just to be on the safe side and shall not

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because if that falls on someone's head,

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that's gonna hurt.

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Okay, so let's get started. inshallah, we do have a quiz at the end of today's halaqa that we will do. So for those that are here that have a smartphone or internet connection on their tablet or something of that sort, then, you know, maybe some of the parents if they're going to let their children do it, just have it ready for them paired tethered, whatever you want to do.

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We're going to try and finish a little bit just you know, a few minutes early in sha Allah hota hai that will let you know at the end, why we're finishing. I'm not flying anywhere. Don't worry, I'm the lamb here. We'll be here for insha Allah subhana wa tada it gives us the life until then, but today we want to focus on is controlling ourselves and in particular, controlling our knifes

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one of the most difficult things for us to do as human beings is to control our knifes or our desires. And I want us to focus on a statement of one of the main one of the pious people of the past. But at the same time, before we do that, I want to bring to our attention the fact that the month of Ramadan is coming very, very quickly. Right Ramadan is coming really, really quickly. We just finished Ramadan, we you know, we technically just got out of the mode of aid. We're starting to relax now. And so kind of a Ramadan is coming back. Right. That's how quick it goes. Now the fact that Ramadan is coming very quickly, all the time, whenever the month starts, we always focus on how

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we're supposed to increase our Eman but stabilize it at the same time. So my reminder tonight in sha Allah, Allah is more on the stability of our email, like have we stabilized our level of emotion or are we still you know, that analog fluctuation that's just going up and down, up and down, up and down one day, it's high, the next day, it's low a weekend we attend a conference, you know, Tuesday drops and plummets Friday, we come back for jamara. And then, you know, Saturday, it's back down again. And so some handle that there needs to be some sort of consistency in our level of email. Yes, it fluctuates a little bit, but it shouldn't be so drastic, okay, it shouldn't be so drastic to

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the extent that our human is here. And Ramadan comes or arrives and it goes up here. And for 30 days, it's just hovering around there. Or for 10 days, it's here then for 10 days, it's there. And then for 10 days, it's back up high, and then two or three days after eight, it plummets again, it shouldn't be that way. And one of the most important aspects of Ramadan is that we control ourselves during the month of Ramadan. Can we just go and eat something? Can I just see this cup in the middle of the day sun is shining? And this minute?

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Can I do that?

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Yes, I can because I might be a traveler, right?

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Or I might be sick. Alright, so kind of love but technically No, he's absolutely right. During the day during the Ramadan if we're mature adults, etc. We know all the conditions. If we can fast we must fast right? Or if we meet the conditions, we must fast. And so it's important for us to do that. Now we control ourselves in terms of what we eat and what we drink what we consume, but at the same time do we control ourselves in how we speak during Ramadan? Is that something that we do?

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Hello. Is that something that we do during Ramadan? Yes, of course. You will.

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Notice the average person during the month of Ramadan will always say or be very comfortable saying, I'm fasting, right in the salt in in Nice. I'm fasting and fasting, someone comes in argues husband and wife, they're arguing, you know, the children may be doing something they shouldn't be doing at home. And the father says, Don't make me get upset, I'm fasting. But why is it throughout the rest of the year we're not fasting, as in, we're not controlling what we say we're not controlling how we say it, we're not controlling our level of backbiting or our level of speech and how we speak the tone of speech, the words that we use, and so on and so forth. And so because the month of Ramadan

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is coming in, because we need to be focusing on controlling ourselves, we want to focus on

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like I mentioned earlier, striving to gain control of things that will keep us in tact or keep us on track until the month of Ramadan begins so that we can focus on that. Now one of the statements of the people of the past Subhana Allah Yeah, been more have ahwazi he said, fight against yourself as in your soul, your own self, your desires, he says fight against yourself with four swords of training. Okay, four items of training for things that we need to try and control. And we need to work with ourselves to control these four things are, and he says eat little, sleep, little, speak little. and be patient when people harm you.

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Eat little, sleep little, speak little, and be patient when people harm you. Now, that's absolutely important to panela because when we think of the month of Ramadan, we eat little, right? We sleep little, we speak little, because we're so worried, you know, we're like, I'm fasting and fasting, don't make me argue with you. And when someone tries to harm us, we're patient. Now, if that's the way we are during the month of Ramadan, how can we be that way? Now? It's not Ramadan, we're not fasting, we should be aware, we should be conscious, we should be paying attention to ourselves and controlling ourselves and not giving into our desires. So if you're an authority, or a mahoba, he

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said,

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I never dealt with anything stronger against my own self, than my own self.

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As in we need to force ourselves to be a certain way. Without our own selves, we can't achieve that. Right? We're not going to be able to achieve that. So let's look at a few things in shallow data.

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We're going to focus on these four categories. What are they?

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Uh huh.

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Oh, just one eat little

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sleep little

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speak little very good. And

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we mentioned sleep little. You were sleeping.

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Just a little bit right and just I slept a little bit on the Yeah.

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Be patient when people harm us very good. Now let's look at eating a little bit.

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What is considered eating a little

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islamically according to the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is eating a little? How are we supposed to eat? What is the Sunnah in eating food? Does anyone know?

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How very good Mashallah, before we eat, we say Bismillah but we're not talking about the tea or the method of eating. We're talking about the amount of foods that we eat. What is the sum now with regards to eating food? Yes.

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And that's three quarters of your stomach. Mashallah, you have a big stomach and hamdulillah your stomach is 10 quarters

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haven't been in LA Yes.

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One third for food or solids? One third for liquids and one third for air. Okay, anyone else? Yes.

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Very good. Start eating with your right hand and hamdulillah Yes.

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Okay, so if you eat too much your stomach is gonna be full and then there's no space for water and air. What about from the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam are you raising your hand or? No? Mashallah. The lights the way it is? It looks like you're raising your hand hamdulillah any of the sisters No. Sisters like we know how to cook the food because our husbands Don't let us do anything else. Please tell the husbands to cook so we can go and do something else right? Yes.

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Only two bytes of few bytes somehow I said two bytes. Mashallah. Very good. So the sister says we only need a few bytes in order to fill our stomachs. Okay, good. Anyone else?

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Very good. I'm the loss of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that we are people that we don't eat unless we're hungry. Right? And so, I want to look at this. I want to look at this from a different angle. Many of us think Yeah,

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enough to keep your back straight Alhamdulillah let's look at how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to eat. There were times when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had nothing in his home.

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Absolutely nothing. And we know that because I've mentioned to you the story time and time again of how I shoveled the Aloha and I had a single date, or she had a few dates, three dates, a mother would come by and give it you know, she would give the three dates away one to the mother, one to the to each of the children. And then I showed her the Aloha and how would see the mother right in the example, the mother would watch her children eat each of their dates. And then they would still say that they're hungry, and the mother would break the data in half and give it to give one half to each one of the children. And then the mother would have nothing for herself. And she would tell

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this story to the prophets and along with it, he was send them when he comes home.

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Which means how much food was in the house of the prophets of Allah. Hi, my name is Elena.

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Nothing, exactly nothing. There was nothing. Sometimes the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would tie a stone to his stomach, Abubakar Viola and as well with Taya stone to their stomach, why? To keep their back straight. There were times when they had no food. There were times when they had food, but they would give it to others because other people were more in need and did not have food for a longer period of time. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa send them in some of those major Sahaba or those that were very close to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But when we talk about eating and how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ate, how did he use to eat? Like when

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he had food in front of him? Let's say someone roasted an animal, right? A nice lamb was roasted or barbecued in front of them, and they got to eat from it. How would the profits in the long run he was sending them eat? First of all, a lot of people don't know he had something like a fork.

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Right? The profits in the long run even send them actually and I have a picture of a replica of it. He had something that looked like it was more like a spork. You know what a spork is, it's a spoon and a fork. Okay. And he would use this whenever there was a big piece of meat or a piece of meat in front of them. He would use this to dig into the piece of meat and break a piece off of it. And sometimes he would put it directly into his mouth and other times he would just use it to break the meat or to cut the meat and then to separate it he would separate it and eat it with his hand. Right? So yes, the profits and longer I need to send them how to utensil he would use it sometimes

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when they had soup. Right? He would eat his soup like that with with that utensil. Right? And we know this because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not like when we take a bottle that we can share with other people and just drink out of it. Or take a big vessel like a bowl and drink out of it ourselves. Right? Because then what are we doing, we're technically not caring or thinking of the other person. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would encourage us a habit of the Aloha on whom to eat from their side to take from their side, and so on and so forth. And here, we see that the profits in the long run and even send them when he would eat, he would take a portion

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and he would eat from it.

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But the amount that he would eat was enough until his hunger went away.

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Until you don't feel that hunger inside of you anymore.

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Now many of us will constantly quote the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says if you need to eat, then eat one third solids and one third liquid and one third leave for air which we do the absolute opposite, right? We leave nothing left for air and we can't even breathe after we're done eating this panel. I want everyone to put their fist up in the air. Just make a fist and put it up in the air. Good. You see the size of your fist? Is anyone here a medical doctor?

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Anyone?

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no medical doctors. Mashallah to your medical doctor. How big is the stomach

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when it is not expanded, because we know the stomach expands. We put food in it's like an elastic when it's not expanded. How big is the stomach on average?

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10 centimeters. Mashallah about the size of a fist?

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No, no not, not when it's

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expanded when it is in its normal state.

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Okay, between five and 10 centimeters, I've asked quite a few doctors this question, many of them have told me the size of a person's fist.

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Other doctors have said, the size of your fist with your other hand over it, right. So with basically an extra centimeter all around the size of your fist, right,

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which is a rough estimate. Now we know that the stomach expands, but the profits no longer any of them doesn't tell us to fill your stomach until it begins to expand. In fact, he says the worst of vessels that we can feel is our stomach. The worst thing, the worst vessel, the worst container that we can feel is the container of the stomach. Muscle handler when we eat, we feel our stomach so much that we can't even move. Now that's with regards to food. Now if if we know that we're supposed to eat a little

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than eating a little is to eat until we no longer feel that hunger. For some people, it's a few bites for other people, it's you know, a decent amount. Because some people's stomachs stretch so much they don't know the difference between when it's stretched and not stretched, right? So panela on average.

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When we think of the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that a person if he is to eat, he should fill his stomach one third with solids and one thirds with liquids. That is the maximum amount that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam encouraged us to eat the maximum amount. Now you look at your fist, and you think to yourself,

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the burger I ate last night is about one and a half times the size of my fist, just the burger not including the fries, not including the drink, not including the desserts, not including, you know, going and getting some tea or coffee after that, and maybe even another doughnut or something. And so kind of like How big does our stomach stretch when we technically don't need to fill it that way. Now, there are some harms that come our way when we feel our stomach. When a person eats too much. One of the biggest problems is that they then tend to sleep too much. And that's exactly what yeah.

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Yeah, he had been more otherwise he tells us, he says eat less after sleep less, right, eat less, and then sleep less. How does a person sleep less, they have to make sure that they eat less.

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Now this is all part of controlling ourselves. And the month of Ramadan is coming if we don't start controlling ourselves. Now the days are 17 hours long, panela 16 and a half 17 hours long of fasting. How are we going to do it? Of course we know we fast with the help of Allah subhana wa Tada. But you know those first few days when a person starts to feel those withdrawal syndromes like withdrawal from food and liquid, right? Not drugs or anything but withdrawal from food that we don't have the food, a person gets that severe headache, they can no longer come to the mustard for monthly Berisha because their head is just pounding, they start to become dehydrated, because the

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days are really long. And it's been a few days of fasting two or three days now. A person if they're regularly in tune with eating right and eating healthy. And that was also another aspect of food when it came to the life of the Prophet sallallahu usnm there were certain things that he liked to eat proteins, fiber, you get that from meat, you get that from dates, right? Or fruits and vegetables, wheat, right barley and so on and so forth. These are things that the profits are longer and even send them like bread, and a type of of

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dip that was actually like vinegar. And you know, when you go to an Italian restaurant, and they give you all of oil, and vinegar, and they swirl it in a plate and they give you bread and they dip it in.

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That was actually from the favorite foods of the prophets that Allahu anhu Asana, he mentioned in a hadith that from his favorite food is to have bread with that vinegar dip. right he would dip his bread in the vinegar and just eat it. And from the things that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also loved and encouraged was olive oil. And so so Pamela, you go to an Italian restaurant and you wonder to yourself, wow, the prophets that along with some of them love this stuff. And we sit there and we just look at it and we waste the bread and waste stuff. No, eat it. In fact, that should be our The highlight of the meal. Now everyone has a different type of taste. And we don't

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encourage everyone to just eat things that they don't like, eat what you like from the creation of a muscle panel, what's a Hana?

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Now when a person eats a lot, they then fall into the next category where he says sleep less, and a person cannot sleep less if they're eating too much. But there are certain benefits that come from

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sleeping less, from the benefits of sleeping less

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Are that your memory increases? Is anyone here reading or memorizing the Quran?

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Any of these youth memorizing Quran or learning to read some Koran Raise your hand if you're learning to read or memorizing Quran Yeah, all of you Mashallah even the adults, every single one of us even if we've memorized the Quran, we still revise the Quran. And one of the most important aspects of learning the Quran is to eat right and to sleep right. And many students who do not sleep properly,

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will not be able to retain the Quran as best as someone who sleeps a little bit less. Now, what does it mean to sleep less? Do we mean don't sleep at all?

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Do we mean don't sleep at all?

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No. What was the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in sleep? Who can tell us his routine and sleep? Yes.

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Okay

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after Isha go to sleep and get up for 200 That's it. Okay? Yes.

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Okay, sleep after Mashallah, everyone knows when to go to sleep. Right? No knows when to wake up. Very good. Okay, sleep, Astor's. Oh, that's a Lula. That's no more than 30 minutes. Right. Very short. So Can anyone else

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eat and go and see very good.

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It's not good for the brain, either.

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Some kind of law. Okay. But what about when did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam go to sleep? We know he went to sleep after a shot, right? hamdulillah. Hopefully we know that right? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would go to sleep after a shot, he would sleep how much of the night?

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Okay.

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Two thirds of the nights, he would sleep and sorry, half of the nights. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would sleep half of the night and wake up. So break the night into six parts. He would sleep for half of the night, then he would wake up for one third of the night. Then he would go back to sleep for one sixth of the night. And then he would wake up for soldato fauja.

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Son Allahu Allah usnm How many of us can do that?

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We can do it. But how many of us do it on a regular basis? Not? Probably none of us, right? Because it's too difficult. If we go to sleep, wake up and go to sleep and wake up. We're probably not going to wake up for one of the things we need to wake up either work or a job. or young 200 in the middle of the night. Right? So So kind of what we see from the from the life of the prophets and along with us on them, the importance of being able to wake up. Now how do we wake up our brother, you know, so kinda he just mentioned it. Never go to sleep right after eating. Why? Because you will not be able to wake up. It's very simple. Now when we eat a little when we then go to sleep, we find it much

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easier to wake up. Try it tonight. How many of you did not eat supper yet? Raise your hand if you did not eat supper yet.

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Be honest.

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And see half of them the other half are shy to raise their hands good. Those that did not eat supper yet. Don't eat supper tonight.

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Now the mother's like no, I cook supper.

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Don't eat supper tonight. Try this as an experiment. Right gives give the food away. Just give it to the neighbors right or something right? Go to sleep hungry.

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And you'll see at four o'clock in the morning, you're gonna wake up hungry.

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Naturally, you won't hear the alarm clock. You're not gonna you know, you're not going to hear that annoying. You know, a knee coming from your father's room, right? That thing that's really loud that you just want to take a hammer and smash and break right? You won't hear that you're gonna wake up and you're gonna look at the clock and say, Oh, it's only four o'clock. So panelo Why am I awake? You're awake because Allah woke you up. Because you are hungry because it's time for you to pray because it's time for you to recite Quran. It's time for you to stand before Allah Subhana who was added because you went to sleep with an empty stomach. There was no need for the alarm clock, and

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then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would pray a little and then he would go to sleep a little bit very short sleep like a nap before so not too fragile. Right? And that's why some hannula when the profits are longer it will send them would pray his tuukka of Sunnah before fudger Chateau de La Nina. She says that he would pray them so quickly. In his standards, not our standards were professionals are praying quickly right? In his standards. She would see him praying them so quickly, that she said I wouldn't know if he even recited Fatiha.

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I wouldn't know if he even recite

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sudo su Fatiha that's how quickly he was doing his his tuukka right he was just very quickly some handle on his standards again, right, showing us or indicating to us or Pamela that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would spend a lot of time in the night prayer, the MLA 200 he would wake up during that time Subhana Allah and that was the time that he dedicated in worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala then take a nap then wake up very quickly you make your rule and you head to the masjid for selective budget. That was the sleep of the prophets on a longer day he was under

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we move to the next let me move to the next time is a Saturday 930 Okay, good handle. The next part of the statement Have you had been rather busy? He says speak little. speak a little bit. Now what does it mean to speak a little according to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Can anyone tell us what it means to speak a little bit? Other than you because Mashallah you're going to get a prize for knowing everything how vanilla?

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Anyone else? Any of the sisters know what the Sunnah is in terms of speaking? Yes.

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Okay, very good. Speak only when you need to speak good.

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Very good when you have something to say and it's good say it if you have nothing good to say then don't say it even if you want to speak even if you want to say it very good.

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That's a really good point that I did not think of when I was preparing tonight. Do not overwhelm someone with too many questions lattice Aloo and Shia into Videla Contessa calm, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would encourage the Sahaba of the Aloha home, do not ask too many things. Do not ask so many questions that those questions are going to complicate your life. They're going to make things difficult for you. Right? So what you know implement that what you understand or what you've learned already implement that and don't ask too many questions. Very good. Yes.

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Don't ask about irrelevant things and don't speak about things that are irrelevant. Very good. Yes.

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No backbiting so when we speak we only speak about things that are necessity and not speaking about things that we do not need to say or about other people. Yes,

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sir.

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Very good. Listen more than you speak. Why do we listen more than we speak?

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We have two years and only one mouth Mashallah, right? So hello, we should be listening double the amount of time that we speak. And subpanel if that was the case, we would see that it's always quiet, right? People would only speak when they need to speak Yes, you had your hand up.

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Sorry.

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Nothing, okay. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, Men can or your men will be lower, he will yo mill earlier, failure will hiren Alia smaht. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said whoever believes in Allah, and the last day as in the Day of Judgment, for Leo cool hiren then say that which is good, say good things, oh, Leo smooth or remain silent. Don't say anything at all. You don't need to speak now. So kinda when we say when we hear someone telling us speak little, that means only speak when we need to speak like you're hungry, you go and tell your mom or your dad, I'm hungry. Right? Or you're upset with your child, you go and you tell your child

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you're upset with them. But your child does something good. You go and you tell them that you're happy with them as well. Right? This is a mistake that parents make we only go and tell our children things, especially fathers, we only go and tell them the bad things that they do and how we're really upset with them. And we don't want to see them do it again. But as parents, we should be focusing more on telling them good things. I like that you did this, I'm happy. Mashallah. That was amazing. Alhamdulillah, you should do that more often. That makes me happy. I love you because you do this. And when we tell our children more of the good things, they will want to do more of the

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good things because they know that's what makes us happy. And so the profits on the long run, I think he will send them would encourage us if we're going to say something, then we should only say the things that are good to others. And if we have nothing good to say then we should remain silent. And I'm seeing many of the brothers in front of me for muster that are common. And they remember throughout this week, we mentioned something really important during our tough seat because we do Tafseer over there on Wednesday nights. And one of the things that we mentioned in mustard or at mustard that are common was the fact that rabada

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can be of various different types. Right. a bad day.

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can be of various different types and one of the types of a bada can be nothing.

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As in you don't do anything.

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do get it. We just finished saying the Hadees you see only the our youth get it the adults are like what are you talking about doing nothing, right. So don't pray, no pray, write fast gives the guy give you, you know, pay your your dues in whatever we're supposed to do. But when a person is going to commit sin, or a person is going to backbite or a person is going to say something bad about someone else. If you have nothing good to say nothing good to do, you're not going to do anything positive, you're not going anywhere. That's good. Don't do anything. Control yourself. restrict yourself from doing that, which is bad. And that in itself is a type of very bad because you're

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controlling yourself for the sake of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala you're doing nothing, absolutely nothing. And so some kind of law or a burger can actually be nothing. For the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala we move on and shout Allahu taala. The last thing that

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you mentions is that when someone harms us, we are patient. And we we've we've taken this very recently in our halaqaat when someone says something bad to us, someone who is Jonah Hill, calls out to us says something bad to us. How do we respond?

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Okay, very good. Send them when they come or we respond peacefully, we respond patiently, we respond in a good way in a good manner, right? By saying something nice or doing something nice. Or we could even just walk away because that is the nicer thing to do, than to do something bad. Now, when we do that, when we're caught in that moment when something comes up, and things are really difficult for us, for example, I punch you.

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Okay. Do you want me to punch you? Okay, good. hamdulillah I hope you said no, right. I don't want to punch you right. But for example, I punch you. What do you do?

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We have nothing good to say we don't say

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yes.

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Walk away and tell someone who is older. Very good. What else? I walk up to you and I punch you what do you do?

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Mashallah, you're very strong, handily. lousy. Like, yeah, you want to see how strong I am? Let me show you. What do you do?

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you'd walk away. Anyone else? I walk up to you and I punch you. What do you do?

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Ask if I'm okay. I'm like, yeah, everything's fine, man. Don't worry. Don't see one. Another one. I'll show you how. Okay, it is right. What about you? I walk up to you and I punch you.

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Huh?

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You would you would kick me Isola handed in law, right? Were you just playing basketball?

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What if I walked out there and everyone who's really upset we just start you know, taking things and throwing in and you know, telling them you guys are are useless. You're just wasting time you came to the mustard. You're not doing anything positive, which playing basketball is not something that's negative, right? I'm the lawyer. You're full of energy. I could see your cheeks are all red. And you're sweating. Right? You got your exercise? That's very good. But what if I came out there and I got really upset? How would you respond?

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You don't know. Right? But would you start to throw things around?

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Would you start to break things? Would you start yelling back at me?

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If you needed to maybe right? If you need to do you might do that. And it's your right to do it. But somehow Allah, Allah subhana wa tada wants us to be patient. Yes. I wouldn't hit you because maybe the brothers right? Fight with the brothers. Mashallah, yes? in the in the example, what would you do?

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You would forgive me Alhamdulillah. Why? Because that's your son. So Allah Subhana. Allah wants us to do goodness towards others. But if we forgive that person, that that is doing even more that's doing even more and being better, and that's doing or dealing with the situation with our son. And so it's important for us to try and do that. Yes.

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Nice try. He said, If I punched him, he would know that, that I'm not the real code, but

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hamdulillah we don't know how to love We never know. All right. Okay. So what we learned from that example, as well is that when a person gets upset with how someone dealt with them, we need to control our anger. We need to control ourselves and the profits in the long run a US lm teaches us about this situation, that the strongest of person is not someone who can show off

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their strength, or someone who is physically strong, who is the strongest person, the prophets and along with some of them says,

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the person who can control their anger. The person who can control their anger is the strongest person. So anyone we know that gets angry regularly and loses it regularly is a person who is technically not strong. They're not strong here. They're not strong, we need to help them. We need to be friends with them, we need to get close to them. We need to teach them we need to support them. We need to be with them so that when they do get upset, we can help them to calm down. And that's absolutely important. In our Deen, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for us. In the few things that we learned this week in sha Allah, Allah, I'm cutting it short on purpose

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because there was a request. But before we get to that in sha Allah, we do have a quiz that we will do for our youth in sha Allah.

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For those that don't come regularly,

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or that are here for the first time, we do a Kahoot quiz. So

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if you have a phone with internet or you have internet connection and a device, you can log on to

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kahoot.it

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and you can play along with us in sha Allah.

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The only downside to today is something you will learn at the end.

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Good.

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should pick up.

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are using it. The unfiltered one. The guest account. Okay, so what is it again? And fella guest

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Are you on it? alfalah Guest Okay, and the password is remind me again. What is it? Allahu Akbar with capital is?

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Allahu Akbar 123. Okay, so Allahu Akbar AE l capital A l l, h, u, capital a. k b a r 123. Okay.

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We'll just give you another 30 seconds in sha Allah.

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Anyone else need more time?

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Does anyone need more time? Raise your hand if you need more time? Yeah, I shall not. You should be a professional that this by now.

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He's logging in on five different accounts. So he wins.

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Cut us.

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Is that you?

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Anyone else? need more time? Raise your hand if you need more time. Yeah. Okay, we'll give you another 1520 seconds. Chawla

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Are we good?

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Are you guys logged on?

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No, no comment. That means you are okay and hamdulillah Hey, we're gonna go. We're gonna start in sha Allah.

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You're doing this. That's the Saudi Wait, wait, how much time do you need?

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punches

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that's okay, next time I'll kick you out for that.

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I won't kick you I'll punch you out.

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No, no no, I won't do that. I've never been in a physical fight

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Okay, are we good?

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We just got likes 123466 players just joined

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Okay, you guys okay there? Can we start? Yeah, good hamdulillah Bismillah

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striving against one's desires eight questions.

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Question one who said strive against yourself with four items of training eat little sleep little etc. Who said that?

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Was it more either? bingeable Yeah, he had been Zakaria, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were Yeah, he was he?

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Oh, so hon Allah How many of you got it wrong? Look at that.

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Law.

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Many of you got it wrong. I don't know how you got it wrong. But it was Yeah. In the wilds of law z. I actually said his name so many times on purpose. Okay, we move to question number two. inshallah. Don't worry. At the end, there's a bonus question that I did not give the answer out to Okay, so you do not know the answer to the last question. It's a bonus question. So it's technically like a free for all. Whoever guesses it will get it in sha Allah. Okay, so you have a chance still.

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So in first place so far, we have that guy then we have someone who forgot their name.

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And Jose for Jay and FMCSA. Hey, Question two, based on the regular actions of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. What is the Sunnah amount of eating? Is it until my hunger goes away? Or until I'm full or one third of the stomach or two thirds of the stomach?

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read the question properly.

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Okay, for some reason, a lot of you chose one third of the stomach, right? And we said until my hunger goes away, that is the best according to the actions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. That's why I put it bold. And I said read the question properly. Because according to the actions of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. How did he used to eat on a regular basis, he would eat until the hunger went away. And that was it. That's enough. It could be two bites. It could be three bites, it could be five bites, it could be six bites of food. And that's the end of it. Right? We'll move on in sha Allah. That guy is still on in first place. Question three. When a

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person eats a lot, they tend to then breathe better. Have a strong memory sleep less or sleep a lot?

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Okay, the correct answer is sleep a lot of hamdulillah at least everyone knows their problem, right? Everyone knows that we sleep too much because we eat too much hamdulillah so let's try and cut down on some of the food that we eat and we'll sleep less and then waking up for fudger won't be such a big deal. After all.

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Oh that guy has been knocked down to fourth place. Nice try. Question four which is not from the benefits of sleeping little your day has more useful time your memory is strengthened you become less lazy. You sleep so little that you feel exhausted.

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Which is not from the benefits of sleeping little

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Alhamdulillah you sleep so little that you feel exhausted. So make sure that you sleep the profits in the long run even send them straight off the bat for half of the night he would sleep right for half of the night right away. At least for half of the night. He's going to sleep now. In the desert sleeping for half the night is not like sleeping for half the night in the middle of June for us in Canada right half the night is only about

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tuna what three four hours in total? So what two and a half hours of sleep less than that? No that's not how the prophets that Allahu it was some of us just to the right

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so in first place we have that guy who's moved back up, up 12 places is Ahmed he's the highest climber Where's Ahmed? Mashallah you're climbing keep climbing in sha Allah

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Hey, question number five complete the following whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should

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speak about good things speak less and listen more speak goodness or remain silent. Listen, double the amount that they speak.

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Okay, very good. Speak goodness or remain silent. When can you be loud he will Yamanaka folia. co hiren. Holy smokes, okay.

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All right. So that's how it stands so far. Question number six based on a Razzie statement. What should we do when someone harms us? harm them back, speak less, report it or be patient?

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You should all get this one.

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Okay, and the correct answer is Be patient. Right? So that's what he advised us to do is to be patient and not to

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not to react in a negative way.

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Oh, what happened to that guy?

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Is this the last question?

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What question are we on now? I have a question seven. Controlling blank is considered real strength. The tongue anger, envy or hatred?

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Don't tell the answer to others.

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Okay, the correct answer is anger. Alhamdulillah 38 of you got it. Right. So controlling anger is considered real strength. We technically concluded with that right. Okay, so now we're at the last question. This last question is a bonus question. I don't think any of you know this answer. Hopefully you don't. If you do Alhamdulillah right.

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Hey Bismillah where will doubt v next Friday.

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England, Canada, Australia, Malaysia, choose one of them buy me the ticket and I'll go

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Okay, the correct answer is Oh, Mashallah eight of you want me to who? Who here wants me to go to the UK? I don't want to go to the UK. It rains all the time. And the streets are really small and the houses are tiny. Alright, and Canada Alhamdulillah we can't complain. Malaysia 14 of you know that Mashallah, I used to live there and there's a special spot in my heart. But no, I'll be in Australia in sha Allah with Taekwondo. Okay, so let's see how that went. I told you as a bonus question. The only way for you to have known this question is if you were to have followed me on

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Snapchat.

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The only place I posted it yesterday was Snapchat. Right? So Hannah,

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and my username is always doubt but and Facebook is down but official. That's the only one that's different. No space. Okay, so in first place we have we don't know who's in first place so hamdulillah who's in first place?

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You're in first place. I saw lots of articles. How do we know?

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It shows your phone? No, I'm joking. I'm joking.

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We believe you Al Hamdulillah who is 786

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right here hamdulillah. Okay, so that's the way it stands. Everyone knows their their result. You got it on your phone and hamdulillah so everyone gets the results on their phones for those that don't know. We can you know, save the results here and show you the results. But our brother What's your name?

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Abdullah nun Mashallah came in first place.

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Let's just do

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just want to save it to my desktop.

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Where my desktop

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is

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on us. There we go desktop.

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Okay, here we go.

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Oh yeah.

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Okay, so these are the top nine, okay, or let's do the top 10 hamdulillah those are the top 10 that played tonight with us Alhamdulillah. And because tonight we're learning about controlling our desires. There's no prize tonight.

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There's no price. And that's part of learning to control ourselves, you know. So Panama actually had a really nice prize in sha Allah next time you'll win it, right? a prize that came from mcca not the dates that I gave last time. But a nice prize actually came from Medina this price. And I actually forgot it at home. And I thought to myself, so Pamela, I had it right next to my desk right next to me. And I left it and I thought to myself, this is a lot teaching us we need to control ourselves. And so we're going to control ourselves. The point of winning is not to win something. It's to know that we learned something. And so we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for us to continue

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to learn this Deen through understanding the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as well as the Quran.