Friday Night Etiquettes Class

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Daood Butt

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January 22, 2021

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bonneval Haim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu alayhi wa sallam where I learned to be he'll carry him and he upon us Allah to automata slim. Rubbish roughly sadly, we're certainly Emily why Hannah naka 10 Melissa Ania goalie, my brothers and my sisters Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh I hope everyone is doing well in sha Allah hota Allah, it is Friday night, January 22 2021. And hopefully this is the year that the COVID-19 that started in 2019 virus goes away sha Allah to Allah, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bring about goodness and higher and to make it easy for us to make it through this difficult time. I mean,

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so you will notice something new and different. For those of you that are on Facebook and YouTube, you've got the new mic, so I'm going to ask you if this sound is better than it used to be, hopefully it's better than it was before. Those of you that are on Instagram, May Allah help you and guide all of you and myself as well. I mean,

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you don't have a new mic on your end. But I'm going to be using this mic to do some recording in sha Allah to Allah and I'm also hoping that the sound quality so the sound quality on Instagram is usually pretty good The issue is always with Facebook and YouTube it usually comes out pretty choppy. So I'm hoping that now the sound quality on Instagram sorry on Facebook and YouTube is pretty good as well. And if not hopefully better than it is on Instagram because it is a it is a decent mic on the law. So I'll go back and check the recording later on and see if everyone's able to hear properly and how the sound is different. And if it is even is any different. I could do a

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quick check myself. But we'll just carry on with the helicon Sharma.

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So today inshallah Allah we're going to be looking at finishing up this chapter on who remembers which chapter we're on. Let's see, who remembers what chapter we are on what are we learning about? Let's see how many of you have been paying attention to what we are learning about.

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So while I wait for you to tell me

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I'm just gonna plug this in.

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How to greet people.

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So we learned about greeting we learned about the selam That's right.

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And we were talking about

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how to request permission, right? requesting permission from one another in order to you know, meet each other in sha Allah. Okay, so that sounds like it's doing good. I'll just take this off because I really don't want to livestream the whole time with this on inshallah.

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Forgive me, I'm using all of you as test dummies.

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Okay, we're good. So we continue in sha Allah, Allah

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today learning about

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last week we ended off on we were talking about how it's not permissible to basically bang really hard on someone's door and knock really hard on someone's door

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and

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or forcefully approach their home and just like you know, really want to get in there really want to you know, get their attention and we're not supposed to do that we're supposed to you know, pardon ourselves three times or request permission three times ringing the bell three times and then if they don't respond after that we are supposed to leave and I left off last week giving you an example of banging on my book where I was like did you write trying to get someone's attention within their home? Today inshallah to Allah

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either color of bull Beatty little mustard in elegir fell year. Okay, so, today we begin by learning about

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what we're supposed to do if the person whose house we approach asks us to leave, right as in don't come in, don't enter our home.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says in Surah to nor Ruby let him in a shape on it wa Jean.

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What you have been Allah come mg Andrew from Jr, who was good No, come on Allah subhanho wa Taala says and if it is said to you to go back into JIRA, for JIRA, go back. That's better for you, right

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This shows us or indicates to us that the person who

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is is. So the host or the person whose house we're going to, even if they hear us, so you're like banging really hard on the door like you're not supposed to, and they hear us and they say, I don't want to open the door go away. Right? Then we have to respect that and go away. Or if they say, I'm busy, come back another time, then leave and come back another time. Or if they say, I'm sorry, I can't tend to the door right now. Call us then just leave, right. And so that's from the etiquette of, you know, visiting someone or going over to someone's home. If they ask you to leave, then you must leave. Right? So if someone asks us to leave them alone, or go away from their home, then it is

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their right, and we must leave. Some people come to other people's houses, and they feel like, Oh, it's my right. It's my right to enter your home. As in like, I'm here, hello, I came to your house, are you going to reject me? Yes, I'm gonna reject you. Because if I am busy right now, or I can't tend to you or I'm, you know, not able to spend some time with you, then that's my right. It's my home. And it's, you know, I'm allowed to do that. And that's part of our Deen. And so if anyone feels ashamed or shy, and they're just letting people into their home, for the sake of it, well,

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Don't feel shy, don't feel ashamed to tell the person that you know what I'm I'm too busy right now. Or I'm sorry, I can't open the door. Or, like we said last week, if they hear that you are inside the house, or they see that you're inside the house, even though they may not have done it intentionally. Because we know intentionally, we're not allowed to look into someone's home, right, we shouldn't go and peek and, you know, spy on them and sort of pry into their privacy. But if for some reason they know that your home or it's your neighbor, they saw you pull up across the street. And, you know, they saw you go into the house and they came over to bring you some food or something

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or to ask you something, you know, they know they're 100% certain that you are there inside of the house, you still don't have to open the door, it's your home, you have the right to open it or not.

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The next point that we're going to look at in sha Allah, Allah is neighborhood and mustard in a dog in lumea can be heard. So when you come to someone's home, and you find that they're not there, right, when you go to someone's home, and you find that they're not there, you're not supposed to just walk in. Now I know for us, we're like, Well, obviously, we're not just gonna walk in. But you know what there are some people in different places on earth, different countries have different setups, right? So a house might be one where you can simply walk into the courtyard, for example of the home, right, they might lock the rooms, the respective rooms within that house, but the

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courtyard area stays open sometimes, right? Not every house is the same. And so you might go to a country where you find this as the norm islamically, you're not to enter anyone's home without their permission. Okay. So if you come into someone's house, and they're not there,

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then it is from their rights, that you do not enter into their privacy into the, you know, their home. And that's a given, I don't think we really need to spend too much time on that. The next point that we're going to look at in shallow data is, and this one is a little bit interesting.

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If you grant someone permission to act on your behalf, then that is their permission,

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or your permission being granted to them. So for example, someone comes to your house, and you're busy. And you live in a country or you live in a place where you have servants. Now the reason why sometimes this doesn't make sense to us. And I know for me, you know, born and raised here in Canada, a lot of the time when we were when we would you know read through some of the traditional texts, it just wouldn't make sense. Like, why would someone come to my house and just walk in, like we just learned in the previous point. And over here we see, you know, and point number nine?

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Why would someone come to my house and I have a servant there, acting as me on my behalf? Well, there are many countries that Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed me with the ability to travel to, you know, countries where people have servants, and they have, you know,

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I don't really like to use the word made or you know, maybe it is more properties or word made, I don't know. But they have someone who's working inside of their home. Now.

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If I come to someone's home, for example, I remember when I was staying in South Africa. I was staying at someone's home for a few days. This was my first time going to Durban and I was not staying in a hotel. I was staying at someone's home. And

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when I got there

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it was kind of weird.

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I don't really like staying at people's houses simply because

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there's always this level of privacy that a person wants for themselves and that a family expects and when you don't know who they are, it's very hard to grant them that privacy. So I remember on that trip, you know, staying in Durban, South Africa. And in fact, I've stayed there quite a few times now at that house. And I enjoy it. I look forward to going back to Durban and staying at the molos house once again, right. But I remember when I got there, one day, I went out with one of the brothers Hamza who picked me up we went out you know, you've shown me around Durban we went to get something to eat. And

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I believe I was staying in Durban for about five or six days. And when he brought me back to the residence to home where I was staying, the family was going out. But the servants were there. Right? Are the maids were there, and the maids opened the door, and they allowed me in now, when I went in, I felt really awkward because I'm like, okay, so no one's home. You know, no one's own. And it's weird. Like, if you're ever from a country where like born and raised here in Canada, most of our children don't know what it's like to live in a home where there are maids or, you know, servants who are going to cook and clean and you know, do the gardening and stuff like that. So it's weird

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when you come to a home like that. Now, I was a little bit used to it because I was living in Malaysia at the time. And I had already seen Mashallah lots of Alcala in Malaysia, you know, some people just really have very comfortable setup for themselves. May Allah Subhana, Allah bless them with more and more, you know, they have, you know, people who cook for them, and people who clean for them, and people do the gardening and, you know, hamdulillah

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and drivers.

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And so

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I felt really weird initially going into someone else's house when the maids are there, and they are not home themselves. But then you realize they've left those people in their home, because first of all, they trust them. And second of all, if they've given them permission, then islamically, it is permissible to enter that home. So if they've given them permission to welcome you into the house, then they are acting on behalf of the person who owns the house. And so if they allow you to come in, it's because the owner of the house has allowed you to come in.

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Okay, if they allow you to come in, it's because the owner of the house has allowed you to come in.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, amens messenger or a person's messenger sent to another, sent to another person indicates his permission to enter. Okay, so for example, someone's home and they say, you know, go and open the door, enter the door and let them in. So they answered the door and they say, Come in, you're allowed to go in, if you don't see the owner of the house there. Okay, because they've been granted that permission.

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Is it your responsibility to ask if you can come in? No, it's not. Right. You should not say, Oh, am I allowed to come in, because that's a little bit disrespectful. The Maids are the servants that live within the home that are working there know what their responsibilities are, what their rights are, and what the limits are. And they would not allow someone to enter into the home if they didn't have permission to let them in.

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And if they did, let them in without permission, right? If they let you in without permission, then it is their responsibility to look after, you know, settling it with the owner of the house, okay with their,

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with their employer, we could say not master because nowadays, they're more like employees can.

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Also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when one of you is invited to take meals, and comes along with the messenger that serves as permission for him to enter. Okay, so I want to I want to look at this from two angles. First of all, that when you're going to someone's home, and the messengers bringing you they sent someone to come and get you to come and eat, then that's sufficient. You don't need to come in and be like, Can I come into your house and eat? Well, obviously, I sent a messenger to come and get you. So for example, if you send a friend of yours, right, for example, I'm inviting you to my house. Okay, I'm not actually inviting you right now.

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It's late. Okay. I don't want a whole like lineup of cars pulling up in front of a house. But like, let's just say I am inviting you over to my house and I send I don't know, I see who do I see on here. I send brother out if to go and, you know, I say brother, I'll do go and get brother Muhammad Ali and tell him to come over for dinner. So brother often goes along. He's not my employee. I'm not employing him. I'm not paying him or anything but he's acting on my behalf. I've requested that from him.

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As a friend to go and invite someone else over to our house to eat, right, and so they'll come and eat altogether.

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The next thing that we'll look at in sha Allah who to Allah is

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seeking permission.

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It then and it auditorium will insert off mineral imaginisce. So seeking permission from

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let's just say the host of a gathering, if you are either in a halaqaat tiller lm, right, in a gathering of knowledge, or you are invited over to someone's house, for example, you're at someone's house, and

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there's, there's 10 families, let's just say it's non COVID time you're invited over to someone's house, there's 10 families there. And you happen to be one of the families that's invited over.

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It is from the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to seek permission from the host, or whoever is responsible of the gathering,

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when requesting to leave, okay when requesting to leave, or to request permission when you want to leave.

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One or the other. But never we're not off here, as in this is a very, very noble type of etiquette that we learn from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, they wouldn't sit with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam unless they had permission to be there. And they wouldn't leave until they had sought permission from the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, to leave the gathering.

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Now, this could be for a number of reasons. First of all, you know, you want to seek permission of the person who invited you into their house, and leave with their permission as well.

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The next thing is you want to make sure that when you're leaving someone's home, you're not going to leave their home in a way that you may run into some of their family members who are not my home to you. And you then are in a very awkward situation, they may not have cleared the way for you to go. So for example, sometimes in a home, you know, there's not enough space or you know, you're in a room that's like deep inside the house, and you need to come out and pass through another room. Let's say a bunch of sisters are sitting there and a brother is the one who's leaving. And so as he goes, there was no heads up given to the sisters that so and so brother is about to pass, anyone who

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needs to put their hijab on we'll put it on or you know, those that want to turn away in, you know, modesty sake to, you know, just turn away from that person.

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Out of respect.

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You know, they don't have that time, if the person who's leaving is not going to seek permission from the host of the home, the host of the home knows the situation knows what's going on, knows who is where at all times, pretty much all times, right, unless you're having one of those crazy massive parties, like people do in university and stuff like that, where no one knows where anyone is, and everyone is just like invading their parents home, like you see in movies and stuff. So how do we try to protect our children from doing these crazy things?

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So seeking permission from the owner of the home before leaving is important, but not only seeking permission, also giving salym sometimes people leave without without even mentioning that they're leaving, and they don't even give them to the people who invited them into their home, which is not nice. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he does

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a horrible for jalesar in the Who? Fela yokomen

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Dena Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, If you visit someone from amongst you, visits his brother, right or visit someone that he knows, and sits with them, right gathers with them. fella yokomen What is that dinner? Then do not get up to leave until you've sought permission to leave. Okay, until you've asked permission to leave from that gathering.

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One thing that we would see in in some countries as well, where there are large gatherings and you know, it's mentioned here also in

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a Villa de la rubia. In some of the Arab countries, they have these massive gatherings with lots of people coming over and they have these big mud lists, right? They call it a mage list. You come into someone's home, and you don't even see their home is just this massive, massive room, decorated very nicely. It's called the mejlis it's like a living room but huge, not like our miskeen living rooms here in Canada, right where, you know, five people sitting

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there and it's crowded. So

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sometimes because the people

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there, people feel, Hey, you know what I don't want to disturb the host and go and give them sell them and request their permission, let's just go.

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That's wrong.

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We should not only seek to leave, we should also give them senem. And before giving them send them or even after giving them send them make do or offer them, remember, we learned about this already, that we should make dua for the people that host us in their homes, and ask a lot to put Baraka in their earnings and their provisions. Okay.

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So, let's not miss out on that responsibility that we have as people invited to other's homes. The next point that we'll look at in sha Allah hotel, Allah is listed then Island, um, well,

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woman v hochma.

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seeking permission

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from

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our mother, and our sister, when about to enter into the home.

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And some people will think but it's my mother, why do I need to seek permission, like you go over to your mother's house all the time? Yes. Now, maybe your mother has this way of allowing you to just walk into the house, I know, if I go to my parents house, I have a key to their house, I can simply go to their house, unlock the front door, and walk in as long as as daytime, you know, it should be fine, there shouldn't be any issues, I'm not going to startle them, they're not going to get scared, they're not going to get spooked. It's always better to give a heads up. But you know, sometimes you want to surprise people, right? And I remember Subhan Allah doing that once I flew all the way back

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from Medina, to Canada without my parents even knowing it. And my wife picked me up from the airport. This was way back in the day, when we were young and filled with energy. Well, I was young and filled with energy, my wife still is young and filled with energy, right.

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So she picked me up from the airport and went over to my parents house, and my wife was living there at the time.

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And some Hannah law, you know, we just walked into the house, and my parents saw me, they were like, what almost gave them a heart attack. And so somehow we need to, you know, be careful how we do things. Of course, especially when our parents get a lot older, we need to be even more careful with how we deal with them and do things, okay. But, for example, if you're in your mother's house, let's say your mother is in the kitchen, right, or your mother's in her bedroom, or your mother is doing some something in the basement, or she's in the backyard, right, she's doing something on her own, if you're going to enter her space, as a man, you should seek that permission. And if you're a

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sister, if you're going to be entering into the space of not only your mom, but your dad as well, then you should seek their permission.

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Basically, what we're saying here is, it might be that you enter the space of someone else without them even knowing it, and they are not prepared for you to enter. And the next part that we were looking at is, you know, entering your sister's room, for example, you shouldn't just walk in, okay? Because you may see something of her that she's not happy with, or you're not permitted to see. And so the same kind of respect goes not only to the sister, but to the mother. Okay, now, I know our mothers, we feel a lot more comfortable and close with her. And this is why I've seen Subhanallah some cultures where they will seek so much

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permission from their parents. It's, it's admirable. You know, like, in Malaysia, I remember when we were living in Malaysia, you could be a grown adult who has children of your own, but you come to your parents and you're going to go and ask your parents permission. Is it okay? If I do this? Is it okay? If I bring this here? Would you like me to do this for you? You know, Can I come in? Can I do this? And they'll come in, they'll wait for their mother to say yes, they can come in, they can come in, and then they'll go and they'll take their hand and kiss their hand. Pamela, you know, so that permission is important to seek. Why? Because as much as our mother is our mother, and we think to

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ourselves, oh, we're grownups now. She's always been a grown up for us. Right? And she's entitled to her space. She's entitled to her privacy as children, even though we're adults, we feel like our parents, you know, they don't need privacy. But that's because we are their children. As parents now ourselves when we think of ourselves, do we expect our children to give us privacy? Yes, yes. And their children, they don't even know a lot of the time what privacy is they're like, Oh, you don't need privacy. Right now. You can only imagine when they

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The older you like the you should know, and you should expect to, you know, or I should, I do expect as a parent to, you know, be warned if you're about to, you know, just barge into my room.

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And so

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the issue here a lot of the time is the fact that we are still the children of our parents, even though we've grown up, we still feel like, well, they don't need privacy. They're older, but they still need privacy. Right? And so it's important for us to seek that permission from our parents before entering the room. Were there.

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Forgive me, I'm just gonna take a sip of water. I haven't had enough water today.

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Water break in the middle of a Holocaust, right?

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Okay.

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Two more points that we'll look at in jalota. Adam before finishing this chapter

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is to burb 10 B has Zoda and do who this is an important one for anyone who is married or anyone who's looking to get married, okay.

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It is recommended and encouraged that we seek permission or sorry, that we inform our spouse that we are about to either come home, or come into the bedroom.

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If they're there, okay. So wherever their space is, if it's their home, you're about to enter your wife's home, you know, where she is where she resides, you should as a husband let her know and vice versa, right? The same thing goes for the wife entering upon the husband.

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But it's more important for the husband to do this towards his wife. Why?

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First of all,

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it's the responsibility of the husband to provide for his wife. So naturally, he is going to be going and coming from home quite often as in, he's the one who leaves throughout the day, and then comes home at the end of the day.

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So she's at home, she's comfortable in her zone, and all of a sudden you walk in you startle her, that's one issue. Or she's not expecting you yet. And you come into the home and she's not ready to receive you

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know, I know as men, we're like, what's the big deal? It's my wife. But

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for sisters, first of all, it's important, right? For women, it's important. And also when we want to try and maintain that, you know, maintain the romance, maintain that relationship within your home,

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that love between husband and wife.

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Sometimes she wants to maybe, you know, maybe Her hair was all messed up. And

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you know, he's coming home and her hair is like, all crazy. Or, you know, she's still in her pajamas at six o'clock in the evening. And he comes home. And he's like, why are you still in your pajamas. And she's like, because we're going to sleep soon. It's already 6pm

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she's like, I was in my clothes and you weren't here and I'm back in my pajamas, right?

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Or, you know, somehow, just for the sake of you know, keeping it neutral because I know there's some children that are probably listening as well. You know, basically a spouse being ready for their spouse, a wife being ready for her husband to come home. This was from the son of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, they would

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come back from an expedition.

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And they don't have what we have today. Right? They didn't have a phone to send a message or text message or WhatsApp or they didn't have GPS location where now you know, whenever you go out, you share your GPS location with your spouse to let them know where you are. And so that in case something happens, you know, they'll be aware of your, your, you know, exact location.

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They didn't have that. So when they would go somewhere they would go sometimes for months, sometimes even for a year, maybe even four more, right.

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And of course it was not encouraged this habit of the alohar and home were not encouraged to go for more than four months. Right Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the Quran in surah, Al Baqarah, four months, right, come back within that time, it's the right of the wife in the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu were with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would send them back after four months and then you know, some other Sahaba might come and join and so on and so forth.

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Some people say what about the Prophet sallallahu I think that's on a more he he would bring his some of his wife's with him sometimes or, you know, one wife, they would take turns, and go with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. So

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when they would return from a long journey,

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they would camp outside of Medina for the night. And someone, a messenger would be sent forth to Medina, to inform all the families of those men that were returning the next day, that your husband is here, and he's going to come home tomorrow. So that's basically your message that you receive that text message like I'm home, you know, I'm coming home, mom was home, I'll be there. I'll be there in the morning and shot along with dad. And so that's the time that you get in order to,

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you know, prepare the home or, you know, get yourself ready, and so on and so forth. So it is encouraged that, you know, a husband lets his wife know that he's coming in now, what about if he enters the home, she knows he's coming home at a certain time. But she doesn't want to scare him and spook him. Sorry, he doesn't want to spook her. And this happens to me and my wife a lot. Right? What happens is, she will not that she'll come into the home and scare me. I usually come into the house, open the door, said Mr. Nick, I always say Salaam right. I always say said Mr. Robot account or Bismillah knowledge. Now we'll just be learning college. Now I know I've been on our calendar.

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Sometimes she just doesn't hear me. She's like doing laundry or She's upstairs or something. And when I walk in the room,

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it's freaked out. And I'm like, I don't understand. Like I came in, I said, set, um, I closed the door, lock the door. And she's always like, make some noise, make some noise. That is from the teachings of Islam, that we inform the person that we've arrived.

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Even if an email, Allah was asked about this, and he said, even if you have the dictionary level, either the hell like you, you move your shoes around, right? You basically doing this?

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For those of you that are using or listening through the new mic, right? You make some some sound on the ground with your shoes or your slippers, so that they know or basically you're stomping your feet inside of the house. So they know they're aware or they you open the door. Right? They hear the lock opening. Okay, how do they know Okay, he's home now, right? Instead of getting startled and spooked, you know, randomly someone just appears right in front of them.

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So that's from our Dean, you know, to let the people of the home know that we've arrived in order to avoid them getting super scared and spoofed. And the last thing that we'll learn for today in shot along with data is that for those who live within our homes, like the servants, or the maids that live in our homes or children that are not yet mature, let them know that there are three times in the day that they should not enter our private space as adults. So for example, three times in the day that they are not allowed to just walk into our bedroom. Okay, the parents or the adults bedroom. What are these three times? God bless holla till fudger. So before sadati fudger

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walk through the cooloola Okay, the time in the afternoon when we take a nap, that time of Lula and barra de sala de Lucia after salata. latricia when you know the family is going to bed and everyone's going to bed. As children, you don't need to enter into your parents room. And if you need to, then you knock on the door and you ask permission to come in. Okay, that's from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as he taught the Sahaba as a loss of Hannah with Anna mentions in the Quran. So these are three times in the day that we should not disturb our parents, or disturb the adults in the home or disturb adults generally, that live within our home.

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So for example,

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parents walking into their children's room, children that are mature, right? They might have children that are 2021 22 years old. Do you just walk into your son or daughter's room?

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Before Salatu fudger.

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People will be like, Well, how do we wake them up? And this is what you asked me last week and we spoke about it right? But no before 500

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in the afternoon during a Lula time, as well as at night after solid Asia. Those are times that you avoid just walking in. Can you go into the room? Yes, you would. seek permission knock say Salaam Alaikum. You know, let them know that

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You're coming in and then you know once they give you permission, you can enter into the room

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when hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen. That's the end of this chapter. We'll see if anyone has any questions, feel free to type them in in the comments or chat section in front of you insha Allah.

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Next week we continue with the chapter on

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burb, double liko.

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The etiquette of meeting,

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meeting up chilling with each other. Right? What are we supposed to do? Alright, anyone have any questions? See if I can reach this.

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Questions, no questions.

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don't see any questions. If there are none. I know some of you are typing away. evatik fique. How's the sound brother out TIFF? Does it sound better? I hope everyone is doing well.

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All right, no questions. I'm the law. I guess that's it.

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So if anyone has a question, feel free to type it in. I'll stick around for a little bit longer. Those of you that want to head out feel free to do so. Sunday night 8pm in sha Allah hota Allah we will have our essential thick class and remember we're finishing up the chapter on marriage I don't know if we're gonna finish it this week but we're getting close to the end of the chapter might finish it up but we are talking about divorce and the different types of divorce that's on Sunday at 8pm inshallah to add

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sure I'll see if putting the mic lower makes a difference. What if I do this?

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What if I talk into the mic this way? Hopefully the sound is still good let me know if it's still good on YouTube and Facebook inshallah.

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So for those of you that are leaving gerakan low Hayden robotica lo fi comm with some a lot of sentimental about a cannon Amina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam use of Santa Monica Mashallah Nice to see you there on the law.

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I think it's you looks like your picture from far from the law.

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Hey,

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more effect. So is a better lower or is it better higher?

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Alright, we'll see you on Instagram and child Law Center money.

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sounds better now? Is it actually better when it's lower? Mashallah, that's good to know.

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Okay, so what I'm going to do is, I'm going to actually just leave the mic on the table, because I can go really close, but I can go really far as well. And I have a stand on the table. So I might just use that might be better.

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Hide. We'll head out just a little Hayden. I'm actually going to go back and check the recording and see how the sound came out myself. Take care said I'm ready. Come on.