Friday Night Etiquettes Class – March 12, 2021

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It is Friday, March 12 2021.

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And we are here live from the assignment community center of Milton, we will continue our class on etiquettes, morals values. And we will continue with the chapter that we're going through which was, which is Bab el qlm. So the etiquettes of speech and speaking, and how we should speak and what we should speak about what we shouldn't speak about the cover a few things last week,

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to say that which is good or remain silent. Luckily, metal by yerba sadhaka. So saying a good word or saying something nice or positive to someone is considered a sadaqa. So we get rewarded for saying good words. We also learned about the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu. And he was send them how a southerner is doing every single one of our joints every morning that the sun rises, and to say a good word or to help someone in need someone you know needs to go from place to place or putting their groceries in or getting onto their mount their ride, whatever it is, you know, those are all examples of setup, thoughts that we can do, and also praying those who knock at door in the

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So that's that

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we will get right into what we were talking about, or what we plan on learning today. In short, a lot of data. There was something last week that I had asked you to remind me about at the end of the class, or I'm not sure if it was this class or the fifth class, but no one reminded me and I didn't mention it. And now I can't remember what it was. So how long that's gone. But there is something that I do want to share with everyone today. And I will probably share this at the end of the class. And that's mainly because of two reasons. First of all, we just finished sell out to Asia here in the masjid. And I know that a lot of brothers and sisters who are praying here, will head home and

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then turn on their live stream and join in. So they're probably going to join it in about 10 minutes. And the second reason is because of that I'm trying to stall and delay a little bit, which is why last week I I you know, didn't start at eight o'clock, or closer to eight o'clock, I delayed a little bit for two reasons. First of all,

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you know, some have a lot, a chef finishes, and then we got to start the class. But the other reason is, you know, someone caught me pulled me aside and was asking something, and it was related to Jamal and something that took place. So I really had to address that. However, we'll get into our topic and then at the end, remind me about what I wanted to share with you. And this is something that's important. I put it up on social media earlier today. And I really would like to talk about it with those who are online as well In short, a lot of data.

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So for today we're going to begin with fabu Phil, lateral Callum Walker all here to care for to

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fulfill the lateral column, the benefit, or the Yeah, you could say benefit of speaking less, right speaking, less

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cut are here to care for, and the dislike within Islam to speak a lot. So we mentioned last week the importance of saying good or remaining silent if we have nothing good to say then Be quiet, right and also following it up with something that is good. And if we can't and don't know how to or don't know what to say then just don't say anything at all. But here we look at how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was blessed with Joanne l kelim. Right was blessed with the ability to say less.

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And it had a deep meaning, but also how we are encouraged to say less instead of saying more, so try not to extend what you're saying or, you know, buy time, like I mentioned trying to buy time, but I really don't know what to say and I don't want to say too much.

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The problem with speaking too much is that it It leads to sin. It leads to sometimes saying something that we regret, saying something that may not be right saying something that may not be true, saying something that takes us away from Allah subhanaw taala or sometimes even out of Islam. So the more we say things, the more we run the risk of saying something that isn't correct. Now, that doesn't mean that we should not speak. Right? That doesn't mean that a person should say hey, you know what, I run the risk of, you know, saying something that I regret later on. So I just shouldn't say any

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There's there's always middle grounds and then there's extremes right? We try to stay away from the extremes. Let's look at a hadith of a movie that you've been sure about about the lover and where he says the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Allah has forbidden you.

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And I'm going to number them with my hand, okay? Allah has forbidden you to be unduly full towards your mothers to withhold what you should give or demand, what you do not deserve and to bury your daughter's alive that was of course something that was done during the time of jetty and and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam continues in this Hadeeth and he says, And Allah has disliked that.

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You talk too much about others. You ask too many questions specifically about the deen in religion, or you waste your property. So three things that Allah subhanaw taala dislikes, for things that are forbidden, let's go back. Allah has forbidden you to be unduly full towards your mother's that's the first thing that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions in this heavy now

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this is not the part of the Hadith that we're looking for. As you know, the proof or what is linked to our topic. However, we do know that we at times speak to our parents in a rude fashion or a rude manner or we treat them sometimes as they get older, you'll notice people will treat their parents in a in a very authoritative sort of way. Like I know better than you now. You know, you're starting to become a child or you are being childish. So I, I will speak to you the way I want to speak to you. And sometimes it's very forceful, sometimes it's rude. Other times it is arrogant. And sometimes it's all of that altogether. That's something we need to be very careful of and the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam specifically mentions that Allah has forbidden you to be unduly full towards your mothers towards the mother first, right? And in this Hadeeth, only the mother is mentioned.

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Why the mother? Well, we know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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you know the importance of the mother, and then the mother and the mother and then the Father. So he mentioned the mother, the mother, the mother three times showing us that the level of the mother is higher than the level of honor and respect that the Father is deserving of. That does not mean that the Father is not deserving of respect and honor. But what it does mean is that the mother went through certain things in our upbringing, and in us coming into this world, that Allah subhanho wa Taala wants us to try to recognize

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I'll show a lot of Article Farhad taslim, if it's the fattest limb that I was talking to our daughters about this morning session where they come up with somebody well, but accountable.

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So I don't know if that's you for HUD, if it is hamdulillah.

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I was talking to our youngest one this morning about the the

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car series, right? And we call it the time machine. And she was saying I want to meet the the narrator of that. And I was like, Well, do you know she exactly the same? It's his brother.

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So Pamela so if that's you, I don't know if that's you if it is a lie you better keek It's been years since we've met the last time we saw each other was in Medina to munawwara Allah Subhana Allah bless you and your family. And

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so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reminds us getting back to the Hadeeth of the importance of being dutiful towards our mothers. Now the mother, like we said, She's gone through so much in order to first of all, you know,

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bring us before even bringing us into this world. And over lunch, we were talking about this as a family, right? We're talking about childbirth and labor and stuff like that, and I don't know how it came up. But I remember our daughter saying something and I was like 100 in law hamdulillah and not a woman because I don't think I could go through that. I do not honestly think that I could go through you know, delivering a child. It's just something that is so, so honorable, so amazing, so beautiful, so natural, yet I feel so difficult. And of course it is difficult, no one is taking away from that Allah Subhana Allah knows that it is something difficult upon us and this is why so many

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things are granted to the mother for example, you know, she to pray

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for for 30 days after the others born right to drink.

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That time of,

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you know, recovery from the childbirth. You know, there are exemptions that are given to the mother, right? If she's feeling weak, if she's feeling tired, with regards to fasting in Ramadan and so on. There's also exemptions during the time of breastfeeding, right feeding the child.

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So these are all things that we see within our Deen that Allah subhanho data uses as an honor to, to remind us and to elevate the status of our mothers. So the prophet SAW along with it, he was one of them says that Allah has forbidden us to be dutiful towards our mothers. And when we're talking about Canada or speech, we should make sure that we don't speak in a way that is rude or disrespectful or dishonouring or being being harsh towards our mother.

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The second thing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions in this Hadeeth is to withhold what you should give, okay, if it's time to give and you have and Allah Subhana, Allah has blessed you with the ability to give something whether it's your wealth in terms of money, or he has given you resources to give to others, to share with people then give do not withhold what you should give. So someone comes to you and they are in need and you have but you refuse to give. That's a time when it is not permitted. Right. It's forbidden to withhold when you should give when you have and you're able to give and it won't even affect you. Probably. So remember that that is an

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important aspect of our Deen looking after others and a lot of the time we forget about it right a lot of the time we forget the importance of giving today after Salatu Juma

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I believe it was in after the third Juma Island the third hope I mentioned to the people as they were leaving on the microphone I said donate donate, donate. Why? Because Allah Subhana Allah tells us yeah, you are Latina, either no dia de Sala, right when you hear the call for the Juma prayer, either no de la sala de mi yo mille Juma alpha o illogically la rush, or make sure that you get there on time and early, prepare yourself in advance to be there for the Juma prayer plus zicatela. He was a role buyer and leave off

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sales, business purchases etc.

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The scholars mentioned the fact that this was something left or to be left off before the Juma prayer. It is a encouragement for us to give after the Juma prayer to go and buy something Allah Subhana Allah put a time in our lives or in our day that we are not to spend from what he's blessed us with. But as soon as we're done that prayer and we leave, then spend on your family or spend on yourself or spend on someone else or spend for the sake of Allah on another person or others are on the house of Allah, the maintenance of the massage and so on and so forth. So spend in the way of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when you think of it, really, how difficult is it to give

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even 25 cents once a week, on a Friday, for example?

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Yes, I do understand and do acknowledge that it is difficult for some people. But for the most part, it is not difficult to give a little amount. In fact, we all are worried about our wealth diminishing, but sadaqa increases our wealth. And so we should give trusting and knowing that Allah Subhana Allah will give us more will bless us with more. And so the person who is in need of saving their money should still try to find bits and pieces or little amounts of their wealth that they can give in sadaqa. Why? Because you might go out with your friends, and you still are the same person who needs to save that money, but you go out with your friends, and you know, they all buy

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something. And I know it's COVID so it is what it is. But hey, it's not COVID everywhere in the world anymore, right? In some places, you can go out with your friends and enjoy a meal or go to a restaurant or something. So you go out and you know your friends buy food and whatever and you're chilling and you're like you know what, everyone's getting dessert let me get dessert too. So you're able to spend a few extra dollars to put in ourselves even though we might be filled already with food but we put the extra few dollars in our stomachs anyways, how is it that we're not able to take that amount and give it for a loss of handle what to add? We should be able to write every now and

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then not an excessive amount, but a small amount. So Allah Subhana Allah as a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Allah has forbidden you to be unduly full towards your mothers to withhold what you should give or demand what you do not deserve. Demand what you do not deserve

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Don't go and force something from others to be given to you, or request something that isn't your right. Don't demand something that you don't deserve, like, you know, a parking spot on a gym and someone comes in and says, Do you know who I am? I you know, I have this and that insight, okay. hamdulillah you are you are but you know, the parking lot is filled with spots, and you can park in multiple different places. And the volunteers are asking you to park here in particular, right? So we shouldn't demand more than what we deserve.

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If something is they're waiting for us and hamdulillah if someone serves us some food, and it's, you know, a decent amount of food and it's sufficient for us and hamdulillah don't demand more and say, Hey, I need dessert. What's this? You invite us to your house, you don't give us dessert, except in the case that it's a close friend. You know, someone who you're really close to who you guys joke around or you talk very lightheartedly to each other and no offense will be taken. That's a completely different story. Okay. Before thing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that Allah has forbidden you from doing is to bury your daughters alive. And of course, this is not

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something that we see being done at our time. And we ask Allah subhana wa tada to, you know, to guide every single one of us towards what is right and what is true. And, but this is something that did take place during the time of Jamia as in pre

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Prophethood of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, right that was very common. And then this was something that Islam abolished right Islam took away from the lives of the people in Arabia at the time.

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Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says And Allah has disliked, that you talk too much about others. Allah has disliked that you talk too much about others. Okay. Remember we said excessive speech eventually leads to something being said that we may regret later on. And the second thing that you ask too many questions, particularly in the dean, right, let us Urdu and Asya into Videla Contoso comm right? We know that Allah Subhana Allah says, Allah Allah decree in quantum letter animal if you don't know go and ask the people of knowledge. But let us allow a Shia into gadelha contest so come right don't ask too many questions about things that now when you start to

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know more, it makes life difficult for you. And this is what we call excessively asking questions about a particular topic. Like for example, someone saying but what about this people? What if I do this? What if I go first and then that person come? Oh, you're making life too difficult for yourself and you're going to find that it's it now becomes too complex. Go with the flow, you know what's right, you know, what's wrong, you know, it's how to, you know, it's how I'm you know, what's permitted, you know, it's not permitted. Do that. And trust Allah subhanho, wa, taala tawakkol in Allah subhana wa Tada. And lastly, Allah subhanho wa Taala has disliked, that you waste your

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that we waste our property.

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And that could be in so many different ways. Like you have clothing, but you're wasting money buying more clothing, or you have water from the tap, but you choose to just let it flow. And then when someone says, Hey, turn the tap off. Well, I'm paying for it anyways, up. Doesn't matter if you're paying for it, right? People will say, Oh, that's isn't enough.

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You're wasting water, turn the tap off. And the husband for example, who's you know, paying the bill or the hopefully it's the husband who's paying the bill. That's why I gave that example, because supposed to be the husband. It's his responsibility to pay the bill.

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Or the father and he says, All I'm paying for it anyway. So it doesn't matter. No, it does matter because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah dislikes that you waste your property, you're just wasting what you've been blessed with. And there may come a day or point in time that you don't have that anymore. So you wasted what you had and what you could have used at a later point in time, but you chose to be arrogant and to spend it in wasting anyways. Right? So be careful of wasting what Allah subhanho wa Taala has blessed us with. Don't waste your time. You know, don't waste your health. Don't waste your wealth. Don't waste your deen. And what we mean by

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that is like don't learn something and lose it. You know, don't waste time where you could be doing something productive and good. Of course, there's always a time for relaxation. That's important right to give our body and mind

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and soul some time to relax. Some time to be free some time to refresh some time to reset. Right That's all part of our Deen

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another Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam still within the same topic right? The same topic.

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of speaking less, and avoiding speaking too much. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Indeed the most beloved among you to me.

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the nearest to sit with me on the Day of Judgment is the best of you in character.

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The first part of the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, indeed the most beloved among you, to me, and the nearest to sit with me on the Day of Judgment, is the best of you in character. So Be kind, be nice. speak to people gently try to understand what they're going through. Try not to be too harsh. Try, you know, to serve others try to smile at one another. It's a sadaqa, right? Smile, a double sum sadaqa. How many times do we say it? We rarely do it. And you know what? It's really interesting.

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The fact that we're wearing masks when we go out in public, a lot of the time, people say we don't know what you look like, we don't know if you're smiling. We don't know if you're angry. But Allah has given us eyes that indicate that for the most part, right, so a person may be wearing a mask, but still, the company that they're in knows that this person is smiling, okay? The people that they're with know that this person is in a good mood, happy, right? So

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once again, indeed, the most beloved among you, to me, and the nearest to sit with me on the Day of Judgment is the best of you in character, try to be the best you can always. And when you fail, get up and be better. And when you feel like you know what you messed up or you didn't do so well. It's alright, fix that and move on Allah subhanho wa Taala knows our situation and knows what we are going through. He continues to say some Allahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And indeed, the most disliked among you. And the furthest of you sitting from me, on the day of judgment, are the ones who speak too much of that which is not true. And the arrogant, so those that speak too much. And their speech is of things that are not true. And also they're arrogant, right, especially in their speech. So this is a hadith that shows us, the ones who want to be closest to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, on the day of judgment, and loved by him, right, are those who have the best character, and those who choose to be the furthest from Muhammad Sallallahu Edda he was sending them on the Day of Judgment, and disliked by him sallallahu alayhi wasallam, well,

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then speak a lot and speak about things that are not true, and be arrogant. That's the quickest or one of the easiest, I should say, not the quickest, but one of the easiest ways to be the furthest from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the Day of Judgment. None of us wants that. Obviously, every single one of us wants to be the closest to the Prophet so long as a US Senate, which means someone who has good character is someone who doesn't speak too much, someone who doesn't say things that are not true. And someone who is not arrogant. Okay, so we need to make sure that having good character also means when we are, you know, with people or with a certain group or

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away from people that we are still talking about them in a way that doesn't take away from their honor. Right doesn't take away from their honor.

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Alright, so what is the next part of this chapter that we'll look at? The next part is a little meaner Reba, one minima. Okay, so a warning about Riba which is backbiting and minima. Okay, and we'll look at these two in sha Allah to add, in fact, we'll look at three things in particular. First off

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shavon loves to break us up. shavon doesn't want us to be together. He wants us to be divided, because united we are strong divided, we are weak, right? united, we are able to encourage one another. You'll notice that when when there's a congregational prayer, we're praying all together, when the amen finishes sort of 230 how all of a sudden everyone all together says, mean that strength in speech is there, right? You'll hear it

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You feel it, you notice it that all together, we're united. And then there's the random odd person after everyone says, mean, that random odd person somewhere in the back or somewhere in the corner says, mean, or just starts really late after everyone else when they're like, mean and like.

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It's like, what are you doing? Right? What is that person doing? They're different from the congregation. And people feel like this person is doing something on their own, naturally, just like that. That's an example of how when we don't do things together, shavon is happy. Right? He wants to divide us. He wants to split us up. Right.

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The Shetty shows us the importance of speaking together. The truth, being honest, being trustworthy, right? As we learn from the character of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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It brings the hearts together as well. When we are united upon the deen and we're all traveling towards Jenna we're following the right path we're doing the same things. We all are focused towards what is true and what is good and what is right. It helps us to feel good with one another. We are happiest parents, having our children in the in the company of these types of people right people who are like minded people who are caring and thinking of Allah subhanho wa Taala and play and care about pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala so that's important right? It helps the hardest soothe is the heart to really make the person feel good. What Santa London us right and it's part of our Shetty,

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our teachings in Islam, to have good thoughts, good feelings, right and good assumptions. Usually we say an assumption is something that is no good but to think good to feel good about others workloads will help

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and to see the truth or three evil and and nice things. Right. That is what our Shetty teaches us. As for shape on shape on like we said, wants to break us up and split us up

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to divide us, right to make sure that we're all saying different things and they go well I follow this color, you follow that scholar, I do this and now you do that in a world divided right? What's an futile

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battle in battle and to have this sort of ill feeling and hatred or you know,

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grief in our hearts against one another? Okay, what sort of one bidness and to assume negatively about each other that's shaped on what are called baffle or habito. And to see that which is not true, false tales, false things lies rumors, gossip, spreading that and to speak with bad language okay to see things that isn't good. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam set.

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Jabir or the Allah and Homer

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jaboticaba Abdullah the Allahu anhu Omar said Samaritan VBS on Walmart early us elementary school I heard the prophets on a long ladder he was seldom saying

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shavon has despaired of being worshiped by those who engage in prayer in Arabia.

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But he has hopes of setting them against one another.

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See, at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam the Sahaba of the love and home when it was time for prayer, they came together and nothing could stop them. Right, they would pray and prayer was established. Athena sala de de Lucas Shem sila certainly right in the follow up Canada alimak Mini Nikita Alba mo quota, so they establish their prayers. And so shavon as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught the Sahaba of the Allah and Allah knows that you can't stop you in your prayer, but he's going to divide you amongst yourselves, right? hopes of them going against one another. Okay, that would be the destruction of the oma. So

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what is Reba? Reba is backbiting okay? What is backbiting? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the CRO aha the karaca Harker Bhima yet made the croaker a haka, we may have

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to mention something that you mentioned something about your brother or your sister

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that they would dislike, and of course the Sahaba of the law and one question and asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam you know what if what you're saying is true. in Cana Fie. He met Apollo

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Kakadu if what you're saying about the person is true, then you have you have indulged in backbiting. Okay? Well in lumea country, he forgot but

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and if what you're saying isn't true, then you've indulged in slander. As in you have been slandering that person, you've been saying something about them that isn't even true about them that you know, that they wouldn't be happy about in the first place. So the Sahaba were like, Yeah, but you know, what, what if what if what we're asking is something that's true about this person? Like, what if our statements about this person are true? Well, that's exactly what backbiting is that you're saying something about someone that is true, but they would not be happy with it. They would not be happy, they would not be pleased that you're saying that about them. So that's backbiting

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slander, is to say something about someone else that they would not be happy with. And what you're saying isn't even true about them. Right? It's not even right. It's not even true. That's even worse. That's slender. Right. Now, what about NEMA? NEMA, as we learnt

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there's backbiting there's slender, there's NEMA. Nema is qlm, nessebar, domina valve energy. They said they know it's gossip, telling tales, false tales, right? For for children. tattletaling. Right. You're tattling on your brother, your sister, you're telling your parents, they're not happy with it? Why you saying that you shouldn't Mind your own business. You know, and that's a lot of the time True Parents will tell their children, you shouldn't say that. Don't say that mine your own business, right? Don't share that with anyone. And so gossiping, sitting there talking and Subhanallah you'll notice like gossip or for those who use that term gupshup right, is not permitted

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to gossip, to spread rumors to spread tales to say things about people sit there and talk and say oh, did you hear this about that person? Or did you hear that about that person? Oh, did you hear that about that person? Why? Because the majority of what we say and assume of others is not even true as we learn in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa said, therefore, we should stay away from gossiping and saying things about others spreading rumors and tales that we are especially most of the time not even aware of don't know have we don't have the knowledge of yet people still talk about it.

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So shaitan is our enemy and shavonne

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as our enemy

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now you read the letter, he doesn't want goodness for us. Right? Then a short coffee that like there is no doubt that shade Vaughn doesn't want goodness for us. Right? We all as believers, no shade Vaughn's role and his position and what he wants and his purpose in life, right?

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And Allah Subhana Allah says in the shade by the local man, I do own photography do what I do what

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Allah subhana wa tada says,

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surely shavon is an enemy to you. So take him as an enemy. Surely shape on is an enemy to you. So take him as an enemy. He only invites his followers to become

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inmates of jahannam or celyad, which is, which is the please write to the blazing fire. He only invites his followers to become inmates of that blazing fire in Jan. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protected us

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with regards to backbiting Allah subhanaw taala also says in the court and in order to hold your heart while I have to bow to combinable that you go ahead, and yet coolala he may attend for carry two more, but the law in the law of the world when Rahim Allah subhanho wa Taala says with regards to backbiting whenever you have a dumbbell go come back and do not back by to one another. Right do not back by each other. Would you like your head? What would you like that one of you eats the flesh of their brother who has died? Right? They're dead brothers flesh and I know some Pamela some of you are like, Well, our children are watching. Teach them this. This is how bad it is. You know, none of

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us would eat the flesh of an animal that

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We're permitted to eat on its own. If, for example, we're allowed to eat a cow, and someone takes the cow and says Bismillah, Allahu Akbar sacrifices the cow. But then you take the meat without cooking it, and you just turn it into a burger and start eating out of it. None of us do that. Now we're talking about the animal that's passed away. Right? And it was not sacrificed. Would we do it? No, obviously not. That's a level even worse, right? It's not cooked, right? It's not prepared properly. Now, this animal wasn't even sacrificed properly and on top of the animal died, maybe there's some illness or disease or something that's, you know, made the animal die. Now, unless

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Henry Schein is asking this question in the Quran, nothing to be shy about, right? We shouldn't like be shy and be like, Oh, no, no, don't teach No. Teach them.

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Teach your children that we should not do this because it's like eating the flesh of your, of your Muslim brother or your Muslim sister right? Another Muslim

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who died

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and almost 100 dialysis for kidney to move. Obviously, you would not like that. Obviously, we wouldn't like it. So it's like it's a it's a done deal. None of us would want to do that. So why are we backbiting that's why I lost Henry dialysis what type of

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fear Allah subhanaw taala is punishment if you do something that's wrong, right in the lava to welcome Rahim Verily, Allah subhana wa to Allah accepts our repentance and is merciful.

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Lastly, to conclude,

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profits on the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said low yet Hello, Jenna num.

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layered Hello, Jenna num. The one who was telling tales will not enter into paradise. And I said Lastly, but there's one more Hadeeth that I wanted to take.

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And I'll just read it out to you in sha Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Allah usnm said, Jamar shall malerman or be discerning all community or people.

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group of people who believed by their tongue and belief did not enter their hearts do not back by to Muslims and do not search for their faults. For if anyone searches for their faults.

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In searches for the faults of their Muslim brother or sister, Allah will search for their faults, right for the person who's searching. And if Allah searches for your faults, or the faults of anyone, he disgraces them in their house. Then Allah Subhana Allah, Allah will make it such that within our homes, there will be problems and a mess, and it will be this honor from Allah subhana wa Taala. None of us wants that. None of us wants that. Which is why we should stay away from what Allah subhana wa tada has warned us about. We'll conclude there for today in sha Allah Tana is March 12 2021. I'll open it up for some questions, you've got a lot of data.

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See if there's anything written here.

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For homes, how we interact with other our co workers, most of it is gossip when we feel through being home is teaching our not to talk more than needed. Yeah, so common law, sometimes just being at home can be a blessing. And other times it can be

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punishment, or something that is negative, like a fitness. example given for background in person that religion is similar to the extreme example given to the person asking permission for both seminars. Great. Okay, so every sin is different than the other. every sin is different than the other. We cannot just put two together and say, oh, they're the same, because one has a punishment, and the other one has another kind of punishment. Okay?

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Just scroll through here and see if there's anything I remember seeing something. So saying the truth that they wouldn't like in front of them a sin, okay? No. So if you're saying something to them, you're telling something

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to a person about them. And what you're saying to them is true about them, but you're saying to them, then that is not considered a sin. That would be considered advice. If you are saying it in a way that you are advising them. You're saying it in a way that you are you know how

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serving them or accusing them or, you know, getting them worked up. That's a completely different story. But if you are saying it in a way that you are advising them against something, and this is sort of leading into what I mentioned earlier that I wanted to talk about.

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But yeah, I'll leave it at that. And I'll mention that later.

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If we talked about someone in good manner, it doesn't come in backbiting. So if you talk about them in a good way, then that's most of the time not considered backbiting, as long as the person would not be upset with you, or they wouldn't be displeased with you for saying that. Now, there's one thing for someone to sit to feel.

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You know,

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I don't really know what the word is looking for. Like when you say something nice about someone they feel like you're talking about me Don't say that, right?

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That's different than someone getting upset and saying, Why are you saying that? You shouldn't be saying that. Don't tell that to people, right? If they're getting upset, then that could be considered backbiting, right? If they would get upset, they wouldn't be pleased with it. Remember, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to say something about someone that they would not be pleased with, they would not be happy with that, then they would get upset.

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So I mentioned earlier, I don't see any more questions I mentioned earlier than I wanted you to remind me of something. So I'm reminding myself since nobody reminded me, I don't know if the people logged in earlier.

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I don't know if the people logged in earlier.

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Remember, or are still here. So what I wanted to talk about, and I'll briefly go over this and shot a lot of data I posted about this online earlier today this morning. And I was going to read it to you what I posted, but my phone is being used for live streaming. So what I was talking about was

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or what I posted about was the fact that some people,

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wherever whatever community you're in, have the ability or were blessed with the ability to register for jamara. Okay. And

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because of a meeting, or because of work, or something that came up, they opt out of attending jamara in order to

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go and do that other thing or attend a meeting. Now, when I posted about this earlier today, I think looking at the comments of the post, I think most of the people completely missed the point of the post, as in the people who commented they're just frustrated and venting about the fact that they want to jump on spot and people shouldn't do this and that and whatever the point of the post is

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Juma is formed,

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a jamara attending jamara is formed, okay, it is mandatory for the men of this oma to attend Juma.

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if during the pandemic, okay, someone just posted it here.

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Some people are fast. There, I'll just put that up there.

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If some people are not

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able to register, so they attempted to register and I remember talking about this with one of the other events, he says it's still failed, it is still compulsory for everyone to attempt to register for July.

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Okay, if of course that mustard is doing registration, if that mustard is not doing the registration, and it's just you know, first come first serve, then it's it's still fuddled, compulsory for them to go and to stand in line and to pray that Juma prayer. Now, there's a few things added on here. So like I mentioned, in the post, there's a pandemic. So now the numbers of attendees is is drastically diminished, right? We're only doing just over 200 people per Juma prayer, where we used to be able to do you know, 1200 1300 people at one time.

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The other issue is a registration so you may not be able to get registered for that prayer. If you attempted to register, and you couldn't register because all the spots were taken, then pray the hook prayer, right. Or, if you're unable to go and due to medical reasons, then praise

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So we've explained all of that a year ago. What's happened now is people have lost the importance of Jumeirah. They no longer feel not saying everyone talking about a few. But the few is starting to spread. Because people feel as though I can opt out of attending drama. And I'll just give my spot to someone else, and they will go and attend drama. So they feel Oh, as long as someone is going to attend drama, that's fine. No, drama is not a fun key fire. It is fun aim, you must go and pray. And if you were blessed with the ability to register for Juma, then you should go and pray that jamara except that you're absolutely not able to make it. But to say and I'm saying this because people

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reach out to me. In fact, they don't even reach out to me. Initially what happens is on Thursday nights, when our registration opens up after marketed

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when people come for a shell prayer, or after a prayer, they come to me and they say Do you know what I registered? Can you find someone who can you know, take these spots because I'm not able to make it I got a phone call, I gotta attend this meeting, I have to go somewhere and do something. No, you got drama spots, you go in, attend drama, it's fun for you and you got those spots. It's a blessing from Allah. It's an honor for Allah subhana wa Tad attend that Juma. Don't opt out and give it to someone else, you don't have the option to opt out. You do not have the option to opt out. If you've registered for the gym, and you managed to register for it. And remember, we said you got to

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try you need to make an effort to try and register. If you were able to get it you need to go except that you have a valid Islamic reason that you can't make it.

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Other than that, my brothers and my sisters, and this is more particular for the brothers, but also our sisters are feeling this as well. And I know it because they're talking about it and they're mentioning it about their brothers or they're mentioning about their husbands or mentioning it about, you know, people that they live with.

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They're saying, Oh, you know what I told them, it's okay, give the spotlit let other people go We'll pray at home? No, they have to try and register to go for Jamaat.

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So what I'm trying to say here, my brothers and sisters is

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you cannot opt out of Juma because you have a meeting or because you need to do something that didn't used to be the case before. And now because of the pandemic, people have taken a backseat with Java, they feel like oh, I'm in control. I pick and choose when I want to go and I don't want to go, I got meetings tomorrow. So I'm not going to register for Jamal, go to my meetings and I'll pre vote. No, you have to still attempt to make it. And the reason why I'm saying this is that we should still let our employers know, wherever it is that we work. That Joomla is something we must go for as Muslims. And despite being a pandemic, we need that time to pray anyways. Whether I'm

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going to go and pray in the congregation in the masjid, or I'm going to pray vote on my own or pray as a family or pray vote with colleagues at work or whatever the case is that you will still have that time for Juma. Remember, many people,

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our ancestors here in Canada, people worked really, really, really hard with the government to get the ability or to have the ability as Muslims to pray Juma and have that time off on Friday. Let's not work backwards. Let's not take away from the efforts of the people of the past to make something better for us. And I'll share this last thing with you

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some of the very first Muslims in Canada and what I mean by this is the first documented Muslims in Canada

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and their children and their grandchildren.

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Some of their descendants have shared with me how Juma used to take place on Sundays in Canada, for the Muslims. Why? Because the only day that they could get off was Sunday. And so the Muslims would gather on a Sunday and they had to work really, really hard to be able to have Friday's off to pray Juma prayer. That's one issue. The next thing is that we are entitled to it and we should take full advantage of it as Muslims. And what I mean by taking advantage of it is take advantage of attending the Juma prayer if you have the ability to do so. And so if you've registered and you are not going

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then I'm sorry.

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Shame on you.

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Right? It's a shame that we have the ability to register and don't go and we opt out of it. Now, most of how do we try to guide us and bring that level of importance back into our hearts about the Juma prayer. Right? It's, it's part of our Deen, and it's part of our week. And it's from the Shah of Allah subhana wa, it's something we must do, let's not take away from it in sha Allah.

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And like I said, you know, before, this is not because of one or two or three people. This is because week after week, after week, for months, I've been seeing this trend, very common around me, not only on social media applications, but even in person, people saying, I have meetings or you know, I got requested to do this or that or I have to go somewhere, I need to take someone's somewhere. And so I want to give away my jaw spot,

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you attend your Joomla.

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And we make other arrangements for that person or whoever else. last panel, we had to forgive me if I said anything that's wrong or incorrect. Forgive me if I offended anybody or upset anybody with this. This is not for any person or group of people is not intended for anyone in particular, this is a general advice that I'm giving to everyone. And I will be totally honest with you. I shared this on our Canadian Council of emails group this morning, and told them Michelle, if there's a problem that that I'm seeing here that has, you know, started because of the registration and the Juma and the way things are, and we need to make sure that we let our community members know. So

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this is not something that I'm just sharing as a small thing. I've let the other mums who are all part of the Canadian Council of the mums know that this is a problem we need to fix in our communities. And please do share this message with whoever else you can ensure a long time Let's respect and honor Fridays and the Friday prayer that we have as part of our Deen in Islam as Muslims Zakouma level Hayden robotica level fee comm or some of our more send them a little barcode and if you know how to do it early, you will suffer your son was sent home already come to LA he are gonna get