Friday Night Etiquettes Class – June 11, 2021

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The speakers discuss the upcoming class and its focus on the experiences of people who have experienced similar experiences. They also talk about the challenges faced by children in their homes and the negative impact of social media on their mental health. The importance of protecting children from extreme conditions and the need for people to learn to use technology to learn. The speakers also emphasize the importance of focusing on one's actions and not just knowing outcomes. They encourage listeners to practice these techniques and make them more aware of their actions.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen salatu wa he was Saddam Hussein and abhi Hill Karim, Allah he have gone to sada to attempt to slim rubbish, or he saw the reverse Sidley Embrey wagon and orchidectomy disseny of Coco Lee, my brothers and my sisters sent him Why do you come back to LA, he was about a cat.

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I hope you're all doing well in sha Allah to Allah.

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we're supposed to do our etiquettes class, but I figured we'd do something a little bit different.

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I probably should have put up a poster about it and might have gotten a little more views. But hamdulillah I figured that we would just keep it open.

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to talk, to have a discussion, you know, questions, answer some questions, but more of a discussion. I figured that some people in the community might want to express themselves based on what has happened in London in the last few days. And also,

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a lot of people have been asking so many questions, like questions about

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being worried is, when does it become permissible to

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not publicly show your deen? Or when is it permissible to this was a discussion that came up amongst a few people?

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When would it become permissible for sisters not to wear hijab,

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based on some examples from around the world,

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in the last few years that have come up, we also see some

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parents probably struggling with trying to figure out how to tell their children what has happened in London, or to just have a discussion about it with their children.

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So these are some of the things that have come up. And I figured that we would, you know, keep the discussion today open.

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I thought if anyone wants to share their screen, and maybe you know, just for one minute, so each person could just share for a minute in sha Allah to Allah, to say something about how they feel or how they've dealt with it or to you know, just share something, get it off your mind, a lot of people have been trying to get things off their mind, off their hearts, we could say as an express themselves a lot of anxiety that people have been feeling.

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So why they come up to all of you that are getting set up. So I figured that that would be something that we could do and also actually just asked my wife if she wants to come on and maybe we could have a discussion about telling children and

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just about London, and the Muslim community and having fear in the hookah today. For those of you that

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attended, we were talking about

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fear and how Allah subhanho wa Taala is an Kabir and he knows everything that's happened and he knows everything that is happening and he knows why it's happening as well. And you and I might feel as though this is strange, why is it happening? We don't understand it, but Allah Subhana Allah knows why it's happening. So

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if anyone wants to, you know, jump in and say something or express themselves in some way, feel free just send me a request share screen that is more specifically for the Instagram

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viewership and those that are on YouTube and Facebook. Um, because I'm using a platforms streaming to multiple places we won't be able to hear so that's that's that but you could type things in so if you want to type anything in and ask any questions, feel free to do that on YouTube and Facebook channel.

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And then my wife's gonna join

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right now if we could figure out how to fit the two of us in the screen.

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Because not because I put on a lot of weight. But because I'm sitting in a little corner in our bedroom, you have to come closer. You scared of me. I'm married to you. You go. You go behind where you're fitting the screen.

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All right. Yeah. So she scared of me.

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Oh, wait, why aren't you on that screen? Hold on.

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So I usually have the cameras tilted.

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So it doesn't show the entire bedroom.

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Alright, so this is my wife. You have no idea if it actually is her because you can't see here.

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I hope it's her otherwise. Otherwise my wife whoever she is will be really upset.

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It's a lie, but it gets to everyone.

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So what I was telling people is that maybe we can just have a discussion about a few things that have gone on. And someone asked question about the difference between zeca and sadaqa, or socket and donation. But we're not going to get into that today inshallah, basically Southern Christ sadaqa. And in English, we call it a donation. Does that make sense? Good.

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I think you might be wondering what the difference is between zecca and sadaqa. But we'll leave that for Sunday's class, because that's fick related. Okay.

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My sitting like that. It's more comfortable. You're on a live stream so properly.

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So here's a question.

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My wife and I had a conversation with the children. And I want to know, my wife's thoughts on how that conversation went. And if she feels that we should have

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told them more than we did. I think we told them more than we need to. But

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yeah, so

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like on our team, so no lectures, Congress it casual.

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No, you know what, I think the conversation that you're going to have your children is going to be based off the relationship that you already have with your children.

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You yourself already know, as a parent, like what your kids can handle what they can handle, you know, what they've been exposed to already, what they what they are capable of comprehending. So,

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you know, everybody has already an understanding of what they can share or not. So for us, we know that our kids had already experienced them cabac, mosque shooting, shooting, and because of the work that though does.

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And also I also teach. And so we already are talking about it ourselves. And our children are homeschooled. So whatever conversations happen, it's very difficult to have private conversations and to hide anything from from that are already exposed to a lot of things. So I think for us, our conversation with the kids was perhaps not like most people. So

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I think that they have already been exposed to what happened in Quebec City, they've already been exposed to

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what happened in New Zealand, we just finished recently talking about what happened in what's happening in Palestine. And I'm studying the history of what's happening over there. And we've also been talking to them about what's happening in the indigenous communities as well.

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That's something that we've been talking about consistently. So it was just another

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another thing, another event, to talk about, that we we've already been framing their perspective about these types of issues. So it was just another example to give that this is something that can happen, you know, all the things that we've been talking about, and all the concepts that we've been talking about, you see this, this event happened. This is this demonstrates some of those concepts. And so we present that way, I think.

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So one of the things I was telling my wife is,

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I found that a lot of people are having a hard time

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having discussion with your children, and they were like a few people even reached out to me and asked, should they tell their children? And if so, what should they tell their children. And my response, mentally, in my mind was, I feel sometimes that we baby our children too much, just because we and it's not something that's intentionally done. It's just this society that we live in, like hamdulillah people have nice homes. And even if they live in an apartment, the apartment has electricity, and it has water and it has a parking spot for their car, and it has an elevator to go up and down instead of walking on the stairs.

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So many luxuries.

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And if you look at children of other countries or in other regions of the world, that doesn't mean that people aren't suffering here. But the suffering and the pain of like the children in Palestine who have been seeing their parents and their siblings and their relatives and their need to every person that they could possibly even think of sometimes be killed in front of them. And, and it's another day for them. Right. So yeah, it's difficult for children to see it and grants it but I think we need to have these like not that I think we need to let our children know what's happening in the world. And they should know what's happening. Yes, they are children. But I don't think that

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it is harmful for them to know what's happening in the world. When you look at how about the law and how they experienced hardship and what the yes children are supposed to be children but children in Canada, I would say our children till they're like 30 years old.

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Their parents, pamper them baby them. Okay, they might know about things that are happening in the world from the age of 15. And up, but prior to that, it's like,

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well, I think I mean, I think from from, in the societal perspective, and I know, there's even been research done on this, I was actually just reading a book, and I'm trying to remember the title of it. But talking about like the, the resiliency of human beings now, like the resiliency of youth and children, how it's gone down so much compared to like, just 2030 years ago, how, like, our capacity for dealing ship, and dealing with failure, and dealing with,

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you know, challenges has gone down so much that something so small can can faze a teenager, a teenager or can face like a 10 year old and cause them to like, to just lose it or become so depressed, or you don't need to take medication, because they can't cope with that the capacity of the youth in general, has definitely diminished. In terms of their capability within North America, I would say that every, like, every place has its own little bubble of what they think is this is what existence is like, and this is what we're experiencing what we have in our life. And then

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to sort of to see what's outside that bubble is very, very challenging. You know, and especially if you just stay within that bubble, and you keep yourself in that bubble, you know, and then you never are exposed to or talk about or frame anything outside of it. So in North America, definitely, I would agree that we are in somewhat of a, like some kind of little bubble here, where we think that,

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you know, we don't, we're not exposed to as much hardship, so to speak. Like, that's always been a frustration that I had, though, like, literal hardship, you know, I mean, like, we do have hardship, we have depression, we have drugs, we have, you know, problem of, you know, a lot of mental health issues and those kinds of things. But, you know, like real life problems, like, you know, the scarcity of water, and, you know, the inability to like, wash your clothes, and when you want to wash them and those kinds of things, everyone feels entitled, children feel entitled, they're 18 years old. And they're, and that is an issue that I find a lot of people have, because they try so

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hard to give their children what they didn't have. So, for example, you grew up in a village far, far away, and you didn't have electricity, 24 hours a day, you didn't have air conditioning, you didn't have a car, you know, you didn't have so many things. So you came to Canada, or, you know, parents came to Canada, and they tried really hard to give to their children what they didn't have themselves. But the problem with that is that we've given so much to our children. And I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we're so overworked and stressed that sometimes when our children get on our nerves, we just give them more stuff, so that it just keeps them quiet. Like the concept

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of TV, put your children in front of the television, that's what we were, you know, growing up, that was the thing, put your children in front of the television and they won't bother you. Right, they'll stay quiet, you can go and do what you need to do. When they no longer like that you give them something else, giving them a lot much from a material standpoint. Yeah, and this is what a lot of the studies have shown. And I think the book that I was reading was talking about this concept is that we've given our children a lot, that a lot of material things, but we haven't given them a lot of

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real the material aspects like what they need for their characters to nourish their characters, you know, the resiliency, patience, honor nitti, those kinds of characteristics, we haven't given them enough of that. And that is what's causing them to have a really hard time, when they witness events like this. They don't know how to handle it, how to frame it, how to how to view it, so it becomes something so shocking. And so

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you know,

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flips over and some, you know, something so dramatic needs to be done in order for them to be able to know how to handle it.

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So I want to hear from people. If anyone wants to share their screen or just type in anything. I see a question here. I'm gonna see

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what age should they be for us to tell them what's happening in the world? My son is six. Okay, so what age should they be? Well, my opinion, it depends on what we're telling them. Right? Like, it depends on what you were talking about. So if we just won't keep it too broad, let's stay focused. If we're talking about, let's say, Palestine, or Syria or Burma or even

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East Turkistan, then for those of you don't know

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China, Westside Muslims, we are Uighur, right?

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Or even what's happening, right? At what age do you start telling them? I think they can know from a very, very young age, but you tell them in a way that relates to maybe some of the stories of the Sahaba, or some of the stories of the prophets. Right? When you think of it like that question a six year old, does the six year old know stories of Ibrahim it has sent him there's a six year old, no stories about prophet.

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You know, it's not even so much of what what, like other stories to show, it's not so much about that. It's just about

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you, yourself, as a parent, kind of know what your child has been exposed to already, like I mentioned before, and you know, what your child's mental capacity is? So, to be honest, I don't really think that there is a specific age that you can say, Okay, this is the cut off major by six or by seven, like, a simple way would be just to gauge like, what your child has been exposed to what kind of cartoons Have you let your kids watch? And what are the themes in those cartoons? What are the storylines? Or what are the some of the character dilemmas that have come across in Paw Patrol, or you know, any other it's a cartoon that kids watch any other cartoon that has a lot of

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very adult themes. Most cartoons like that are for children, most programs that are run for children have very adult themes in them already, you know, character dilemma, and, you know, bullying and, you know, feeling the need to prove oneself and very adult themes in them. So, if you look at what your child who's six year old, what they're already have already been exposed to in terms of what they've watched and consumed. And in terms of media, that will give you a good sense of, okay, they've been exposed to this, they've seen this, I can frame the discussion that I want to have with them based off of that, you know, you can start it off by like, you remember, in pa patrol, when the

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little puppy wanted to take this, his thing, and then his friend was hiding it. And then he had to search in this long journey, and you had to go find it. Well remember that when you know, sometimes in life, that happens for real, and then you can frame it like that. And then the child has already been exposed to that concept. But now they can apply it in a real world way. And that's actually very healthy. Because if it's if you only show it to them in the, in the framework of cartoons, and it's just fun, and it's just play, and this is real, this is not real life, this is just to me, this is just cartoons, you created this disconnect of your child between what they're consuming and

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everything. And when they get out into the real world and see, see it for what it is, you've done your child a disservice. So you can see right away what your child has been through what they've what they've seen, and then kind of gauge it from there and look and look at it from there. I think there's another issue there, as well. I usually talk about

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desensitizing like some people will

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allow their children to play video games, you know, shooting and killing. They will allow their children to watch movies, that of course, they tell their children. It's not true. It's not real, right? It's fake blood, it's fake everything.

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When you see it happening in a movie, whether you're a child or you're an adult, you're not telling yourself it's fake, it is fake. Because when you see something that's emotional in the movie, it's that you feel it right when when something is going like throughout the movie, you start to draw, you're drawn into it, okay, especially the way that they do the whole emotional emotion. So now what happens is, we no longer have so much respect for the human being because so normal to see killing in movies and fighting and video games and all that, that when when you see it in real life, where the hero about in ruins, like okay.

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And that's the end of it, like, oh, but there's 1000s of people and children being killed in other countries around the world. Okay. It's like,

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what's the problem? Because they get points higher on the video games when they carry out some acts in a similar way as well. And that is taking away from the fact that a human should have for another human. Yeah, I think at six years old, they're not playing those kind of games, though. Well, we can ask. I think I was just thinking of like, if you even if you just look at like a movie, like

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Cinderella, or what was the one let it go frozen, right. I mean, most parents let their kids watch frozen from a really young age. And there are so many themes in the movie that are very serious, right? There's a lot of serious themes power and

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you know, the fight good and evil and there's a lot of very drunk

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Not a very violent scenes and

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because it's masked in this, you know, cartoon and everything, and it's, it looks pretty in their songs, and it has a happy ending, but the themes that are in it, and what the kids are witnessing are still adult view very mature things. So

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if it's okay to expose them to that in that way you can, you can certainly expose them to the reality of life life, that life is also messy. And what would you do if this happened to you? What would you do if, you know, someone came in and told you you could not be together with your sister and you have to go far away and, and then your sister went far away? And you didn't know where she was? And you have to go find her? Yes, it's just a story in a cartoon. But what if that happened to you in real life and you lost your sister, and you have to go and find her? You do as a real human person? And this being a real possibility? Right? So we've already exposed him to a lot of things

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anyways, even at a young age, outside of your games, we have, but I think parents just don't have those conversations with their children. And the other thing is, he might just pass the time. Exactly. And really talk about it. Yeah. Like, children know, and children see and hear things like, if a lot of parents out there are saying I haven't told my children yet, they've probably heard you talking to a friend about what happened in London the other day anyways, right?

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Now, it's a matter of talking to them about their feelings, right. So

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sadly, I find a lot of parents are just basically disconnected with what's going on in their children's life. And that's mainly because of school. Right?

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Because of school, but now that they're not going to school, a lot of parents are at home with their children are like, okay, now we got to, you know, spend time with them and do things with them and stuff like that. But there's, there's always been a disconnect in the life of the parents, especially now more so than ever, I find because of how busy parents are, especially whether they're working now or not, once upon a time, it was the working parent that was complaining, they're too busy, to be with the children, or to do things with the children, when they come home, they're tired. But because of social media, it doesn't matter if you're working or you're staying at home,

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you're always busy with something, and that buisiness

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harms our children.

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We know that. But it also allows them to develop skills to pick things up without their parents telling them right. And so they know a lot about the world when their parents never even told them about it, because they're busy exploring and figuring it out on their own. Especially if they have access to social media and Internet with one of the concepts that I was reading about recently was talking about this, that if like, in a child's life, the way that they view the world, if, if they don't, if they don't get something from somewhere, then it creates a vacuum in their life, and it creates a hole and someone or something will inevitably come and fill it up. So they will hear about

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current events, or they will witness certain themes in whatever they're being exposed to. And because you as a parent, don't fill it, fill up the gap for them and don't fill up that vacuum of space for them. They will either create a reality for themselves create an idea about what they think it is for themselves, or someone guaranteed will come and decide or tell them create that for them. You know, like someone will say, this is what that means. And this is what your viewpoint should be. So whatever space you're not feeling as a parent, someone will come and fill it for you. And as a parent, you want to make sure that you You're the one in control of that. And you're the

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one who's that's essentially the job of a parent. So here, let's let's change it up a little bit. Let's talk about

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let's talk about fear. Let's talk about how some people are scared now to be a Muslim. And I want to hear from all of you Are any of you scared to be a Muslim and walk? There's a question there wasn't there was more statement not a question that was

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asked sister I forgot her name. Now she was saying

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Alia Z's she was saying

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my daughter is nine and is aware of everything that is happening. I try to instill trust in Allah and the power of Dora. And just before that something is the process of giving and protecting our children.

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Our kids they become into on us and don't comprehend the hardship of the real world, and how to cope and how to deal with these things mentally. So what was a fear? There's a lot of people out there.

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That's a lot of people out there that now are feeling scared to be Muslim, or I shouldn't say scared to be Muslim, scared to outwardly portray their Islam

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So a few sisters, you know, concerned about wearing hijab. And I can also say that some you know, people will be like, Hey, you know what? Scared to maybe even use my name. If their name is something different than the norm and the society they live in one brother told me he says I'm never going to be wearing a thong to go for Juma ever again, he says usually wears a syllable, neon jamaa, and he's not going to be wearing a folk to go for Juma. Because

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when he's wearing

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You know what, when I, when you were mentioning before about how people, some people didn't tell the children I actually hesitated to tell the girls right away to and

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even though they are exposed to a lot of Freddy

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I was a little bit apprehensive and nervous because my the girls go outside a lot. And they both wear hijab, and they're both very little.

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And I was a little bit nervous about them, just how they would feel when they go outside and play in the park. But I didn't even want that to go in their mind that like that second thought where it's like,

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my hijab on and reason to stare at me and I just felt that and what do something bad happens, I just, I didn't even want to like have that happen to have that second thought kind of thing. So I was nervous about telling them this incident in particular because it was like,

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you know, something that they do every day they go outside every day and they play everyday cars drive by every day. And it's like, I didn't want them to think to have that extra thought in their mind now so that I was nervous about that, that they would have some kind of negative association with hijab and being so visibly Muslim so I think it is a real fear it's a real fear to fear but you know when you think back as well what happened in Quebec City

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or what happened in the mosques in New Zealand? Does that mean now we should not go to the mosque because that was a that was a legitimate concern and fear that people had and that's why many massage it here in Canada as well even though we're you know, New Zealand was on the other side of the world, Quebec City is just you know, 800 kilometers away. People were scared to go to the masjid police present at the presence at the mosque was heightened. Like I'd be in my office and every two or three hours a police car would come in do rounds around the parking lot sit there, make sure everything's fine and then go Jamal, we would have extra security we'd have the doors locked while

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we're praying regular prayers the doors will be locked no one could come in.

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Except if there was you know, someone monitoring the door that would allow them through. But now it's like

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okay, even to just be a Muslim and walk down the street.

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And this is where I think there's always going to be one or two or three people around us somewhere in life that are expressed their hatred towards Islam, or toward or hatred of us to ourselves.

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But does that mean I should stop doing what I'm doing? Like we grew up in Quebec, we always would have issues I've been told to go back to my country Think of how many times so many times right go back to my country. I am in my country. Does that make me feel angry? Yes. Sometimes I would get angry. Now I learned how to deal with it. But

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as a Muslim when someone tells me something about Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, yeah, you have Latina Aminu either hot or the hormone, Sanjana.

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in the moment, normally Latina either

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wait, which verse athiya, combining verses, which versus the one where people will say stuff to you what you reply? Yeah. Did you say that? I did. Yeah. So Allah Subhana, Allah says, believers, when someone is, you know, some ignorant person yelled at you said something to respond to them in a nice way, respond to them in a nice peaceful manner, right?

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That was credible data is not telling us to change ourselves. He's telling us to stand strong, be firm, and to respond in a way that you may not feel like you want to respond, you might want to say something back back to them. But Allah is telling you control yourself, say something nice to them. Because you never know you what you may might actually be beneficial to that person. Like don't lower yourself to their stack. Yeah, I mean, that's what I was. I had a nice talk with our non Muslim neighbors the other night. And that's what I was explaining to them because I was talking to them about the fact that I hadn't told the girls about it yet because they were expressing their

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concern over it. And they were saying, you know, we love your girls, and we feel so upset that, you know, we're worried about them and things like that, and they were just offering their, you know, solidarity with us. And I was telling them explaining to them my reasons for not the girls and

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I was gonna say, you were telling the neighbors. Yeah. What's the point of bringing it up? I had one of your famous line by, I can't remember in five seconds, and you're in the middle of talking.

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And I'll be sure to send you this recording.

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Watch how

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I just don't remember know what you were talking about the neighbors yesterday about it. And being kind and being nice little saying

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something, I'll remember it after I remember.

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I don't remember after live in the fear of death, we will meet Allah subhanho wa Taala. When it is time, not early, later. Very true. Right.

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None of us knows when we're going to pass away. And I say this to people. When I go to the hospital. Sometimes when I visit someone who has been told by the doctors, you have a certain amount of time left to live. And

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I'm speaking to them and talking to them. They're like, you know, my life and this and that. And they're they're talking about the thing they want to do, and they need to finish up and how they're going to spend the little part of their life because a doctor told them they have a few months, or a few years left to live. And I always they might outlive me.

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Because law club or law, any of us could walk outside our door. And I honestly didn't premeditate saying this, I always would say you could walk out your door and be hit by a car. And not because of someone who's intentionally targeting you. It's just an X.

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You know, something could happen like that. So as believers in the last panel with Anna,

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we have to press just like we say trust that your it is from Allah, your provision, what comes to you is from Allah. So why were

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I remember what I was gonna say, there we go.

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I was telling the neighbors that in our own Islamic tradition, we already have discussions about, you know, persecution, and going through challenges and stuff of the story from stories from zero, right. When you learn about the Sierra and you learn about the first 13 years of prophethood in Makkah, it's essentially what many people will be rinsing now persecution for bleeding, and it's in bleeding and Allah mockery, being forced to dispute to disbelieve having to hide your belief. All those same things happen in the first 13 years of prophethood. And so

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it's not like it's something new and something different. I think what's different now is that, with the advent of social media,

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it's in your face all the time. And I think that's why I've noticed that a lot of a lot of you, you will find a lot of scholars have been saying,

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Get off of social media, like, yes, you want to have your posts and Bert first, you know, for social activism and everything. But at the end of the day, shut it off, and do something else. Because things like the way that the world is now. You never get a chance to just breathe. It's just just festers investors, investors, you're constantly faced with it, faced with it face to face with it, oh, this, you see this negative posts and this negative tweet and this thing and this conversation and you just never get to breathe, there's no silence. Yeah, there's you never get to breathe, there's never a noise in the brain. There's never like a moment of calm anymore. Whereas when we

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were growing up, we had the same stuff we have now we would be afraid to pray in pub, we would go to our own, like the amusement park. And then next to the roller coaster, I will call the event it's super loud voice everyone would stare and we'd all be like hiding behind the trees and like, you know, trying to

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Oh my God, this guy with like a kurta and the big white beard and he's like seeing Allahu Akbar Allah with the music in the background and everything. And we'd be so embarrassed, and then he will be staring at us and, you know, making fun of us and everything. So we had that fear growing up, and we had

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people who would, you know, see things and there was racism, and there's Islamophobia back then too. But now, it's the same thing exists, but it's heightened. And it's like, exaggerated and it's just constant aggravation. And there's no, like you said, there's no calmness, there's no stoppage of it, because people are constantly it's just a constant barrage now, because of social media. And because everybody has this demand. And even when they get off of that, and they go on the computer or they go on TV, again, they're so there's no escape for anymore. And that was different from the time that we grew up as teenagers to the time that people are growing up in now. You know,

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so interesting though, because

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when you think of

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so once upon a time when technology was needed,

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I'm a little bit more advanced. And we started getting smart phones and ease of access to the internet. With the fingers. I like doing this, right, because it's the things that we talk about.

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When it comes to learning the deen and spend time trying to memorize headies memorize called on focus, you need to focus, focus focus, I find it's good for children and adults, everyone must self included down. To focus down writing, preparing my drama club, I literally need to not only put my phone on mute, but turn it upside down. So I don't even see the screen light up when a message comes in. Like that's how I focus, I will completely disconnect and we need to try to do that more as human beings. Like you see people at fudger time, you know, they come into the muscle standing there sometimes they will not pray their sound right or to hear to the masjid because maybe they heard the

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sun at home. And it's not a project any time of the day or night. Like we should not be people that wake up in the morning and the first thing we do is that of saying a humbly learned lady here no matter what you do, even before the people that start to look at our messages avoid that, honestly, is to disconnect the messaging ability from night before our wake up the messages are not there just particularly at the room turn the internet off, like people say but I use it for my alarm. Okay, if I turn the internet off, right and then the reason why I'm saying this and I know I gotta leave soon for love except the lead magnet but reason why I'm saying it is our minds are so busy with things

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that take us away from the remembrance of Allah subhanho data that we don't spend time with of us personally. We don't spend enough time in Nevada, we don't spend enough time

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since Ramadan, how much Korean have we read?

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You know, since little monogamy makes it's an AMA bond, how many extra tuukka? Have we prayed at night? Since the Ramadan? Have we even missed a formed prayer? If we have then like what are we doing? I think when you in general when you look at whatever is happening, I don't think certain situations and circumstances and certain themes like racism and hatred and

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phobia of any kind that is new. I think that my that that is different now than it was any other time. I think what's changed is the people. Well, that's it. Yeah, he's the people are less resilient way we react to it. Right? Yeah, because we're less resilient, where it's resilient. This example in my cookbook today, and I was saying that this has been around since the time of the Prophet salallahu. It was summed up or I'm gonna click Bob embraced Islam and gathered the Muslims and they marched towards the carrabba and they stood around the cabin and prayed and Congregation for the very first time.

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And it took a malignant hubbub to become common Muslim for the finally feel we're going to be safe while we're praying and no one's going to jump on our backs. No one's going to attack us. So that was happening during the time of the profits on a longer it was some already.

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Yeah, I think it's not new. It's not new. It's not new. So the problem is, it's the condition of the people yes, the caliber of the people, or the condition of the heart, or the caliber of the level of email one has this is what is changing and this is what's different from from all of us up until now.

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So someone's saying how do you focus on prayer I really struggle with that and the person is saying so if we have done for your son No, we can't do any Noah food before the phone sorry if it question

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let me just quickly answer these helgeson yourself. How do you focus on solo focus, try to focus on long I don't care about my phone, I don't care about the world I don't care about this focus, and try to listen to your self reciting This is reason why some of the prayers are supposed to be out battle the silent prayers you recite in a way that you can actually hear yourself so you can listen to yourself not like

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or someone who's asked me the other day I when I pray. The brother was saying that he recites in his heart on right? No exposing your tongue. And if we have done for Jefferson, no, we can't do any no often before the fold. Sorry, yes, you can. You can do you can do extra some Nuffield prayers after the son of fudger for the fuddled congregation to be late. I think another thing that would help with concentration or too is like, like with any other thing that you want to do in life is that you have like a procedure leading up to it right?

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Yeah, your preparation leading up to it, create ideal conditions for yourself, do it in a quiet place, you know, like have a method of going into the same kind of thing that you would do for like relaxing at bedtime, right? You have a bedtime routine, you go you brush your teeth, and they do this and, and that sort of helps you get to sleep. So with prayer, if you want to get more out of it, Julie do the same type of thing. And I think even more so the effort needs to be made for prayer, because it's something that's very ritualistic. And it happens very often five times a day. So it has it runs the risk of being something very just monotonous. Yeah, it's subconsciously,

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you're praying almost? Yes, it's just so routine. So I think if you like, maybe choose different verses that you want to think about the meaning of what you're saying, say it think what the meaning and then say the next thing. I think even slowing down the movements to help. You know it really helps is actus, the quota and that your weekend while you're praying your prayers, yes, I always tell my students this, I tell my students revise your sutras in whatever school you're memorizing whatever pages of the Quran, you are revising, if you already memorized, read those in your Salah, and you'll see how much more you're concentrating and focusing on your prayer, you're going to be

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there and you're not going to pay attention to anything else, right?

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Unless you're like super happy, who has not made a mistake in your recitation of 20 years. And those are rare people to find, I think related to what you were talking about today, but a bead and you were saying that how Allah is a hobby because he doesn't just know about something, but he knows the reasons why why. And I think for everything in our life, we can we can demonstrate that same quality, that attribute that Allah has of being aware is by you know, like, bringing awareness to the opposite. We're doing like when you think about when you're standing up in Salah. Why am I standing here? What am I doing? Why, why is this and then when you bend down and you're making

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record? Why am I doing this movement? Why this movement in particular and then when you get back up again and we will down to the ground? And why am I doing this? If you try to answer the why of every movement, everything even the finger raising Why am I doing this? And you you start to ask yourself that question that will help draw your heart towards focusing on on all of the actions because you're now think about the why not just do I need to say and what do I need to do next and what do I need to do next? You've now changed your focus onto Why am I doing this? And it becomes a richer experience. It's like someone who's going through difficulty in their life

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something dramatic has just happened you know a loved one was told or you found out that someone close to you was hospitalized for some reason Something happened and accident or something all of a sudden your Salah is totally different because you're like I need the help of Allah you do is only different I need the help of Allah right? Why exactly it

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Why am I doing this? Well, I'm doing it for less bandwidth data for this purpose. So for every scholar maybe before you saw that starts thinking to yourself, why do I need vote today?

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What happened from fudge up till now?

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It also stops so today what happened from the hood until now? And now it's just you know, mother's in 16 minutes. Why do I need marketing? What did I do wrong earlier today? What do I need less pancreatitis help for what has just happened? What have I learned? Listen to and learn today throughout the session that I need the help of philosopher maybe that'll help and also it's the time when I was accepted so let's get off the line. Now. Yes, you can get off the Llodra I will get off the line so I can make it to the masjid in order to lead the salah and I'll make dua for you while I'm driving in sha Allah to Allah does not come along okay then for attending just like myself and

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into my wife I'm not paying you for this Don't worry

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sorry man last minute Alex from every single one of us and ask the last time we tried to keep all of you families and their last panel data strengthen you and Ian and make all of us proud to be Muslims and okay proud to have Islam and not arrogant because of being a Muslim. But a calligraphy comes along or will be handy can or should we learn that in lantana still Filipina to be like was said Omar Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh