Friday Night Etiquettes Class – January 8, 2021

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Getting an E bottle solo to attempt to seem rubbish roughly suddenly were certainly Emily melissani of Gabor Kohli, my brothers and my sisters send them why they come to LA he robot a cat, I hope that everyone is enjoying their time at home throughout this lockdown here in Ontario, and ask Allah subhana wa wa to add it to make it easy for all of us and for everyone around the world. As well as here in Canada, I know that,

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you know, the province of Quebec is going to be going into another stage of their lockdown. So they'll now have mandatory curfew every single night for one month. And I believe that begins from tomorrow, I

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was really, really hoping that by the end of last year, I'd be able to go to Montreal and you know, visit my parents and see family and stuff like that, but some kind of law. You know, we just got to hang in there a little bit more and be a little more patient and a lot of data.

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Very interestingly though, while we wait for people to log in, in different places, is

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you know, what I saw happening in Queensland, which are Queensland, right, Australia, Brisbane, the East Coast, you know, for cases of Coronavirus, and they went into like lockdown, and, you know, isolation and mandatory masks everywhere and my friends reached out, they're like, what's the permissibility of praying Salah? Imagine they had four cases? Right, four cases of Coronavirus in their province. And, you know, friends of mine are messaged me asking, what's the permissibility of praying sold out wearing a mask. And we can we make such the with our mask on because it's covering our nose, and our nose doesn't touch the ground. So they're asking if there is, you know, complete

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or correct. And I was like to kind of look at that, you know, on one side of the world, people have almost forgotten COVID and our, you know, way past the stage that we are at currently here. And I was just talking to my parents not too long ago. And you know, my my parents were saying, you know, we came here, and this was apparently the third world country, you know that they left a third world countries to come to or, you know, other countries to come to. And so I've had a lot, you know, it seems like in times like this, you would expect a little bit more. But remember, at the end of the day,

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this entire situation is in hands of a loss of data. So I don't want to make this, you know, lecture tonight or this class, I should say about Coronavirus, because that's not why we're here. We're here to continue learning about the etiquettes of giving sentiment, we're going to conclude that chapter and shall have to add and begin the next chapter.

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So in order to make a move in this chapter in sha Allah, Allah or in tonight's class,

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you know, first off, we do have our Waianae youth class that starts up tomorrow. So please do register your teenagers if you haven't already done so. So if they're in grade, seven to 12, than these classes are really for them in shallow data. And we're going to be going through some really, really interesting topics this semester, both myself as well as brother Ahmed. So please do register your, you know, teenagers and the way we've done it is because we're doing the classes online, there's only one registration fee for all of your teenage children. So if you have two or three teenagers, first of all, I'll help you and grant you patients at ease to deal with them.

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And if you have one or more than, you know, you can register all of them for one fee and that's simply can be done through the mustard website

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So it's a flat fee $100 for the entire semester, and that will register all of your teenage children in Charlotte in Canada. Okay, so tonight we move on with the chapter of setup. And there's only a couple more things that we have left to cover and ideally it would have been nice if I give all of you a quiz online but I think that's gonna be a little bit complicated considering some of you are on Youtube, some of you are on Facebook, some are on Instagram and then you have some on the machine Instagram and then others on the busted YouTube channel as well which makes it very complex. There's five different streams going out right now to five different locations. So it's a little challenging

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to to be able to pull everyone in one area and you know, have a quiz. But regardless, I hope that everyone is learning something and benefiting and implementing in their lives and hopefully we'll get some feedback at the end of today's session inshallah.

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So, I set up a little while see what

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Tonight we look at giving senem to someone who is a sinner. And it could be a known singer, this is what we're talking about someone who's a Muslim, but openly sinning openly doing what is wrong, What is wrong? And whether they are doing it openly or you are aware of them doing that. So is is something we're supposed to give to them? Are we supposed to greet them in a nice way? Or should we just avoid them and abandon them or sort of ignore them, maybe not abandon, but just ignore. And the next part is also people who are committing be the people who are committing innovations, right? Doing things that are not according to the dean. So I want to separate these two, as is done, but I

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also want to talk about it in a certain way. Now, this goes, this goes back to me learning Islam in other parts of the world. And you know, when you travel to learn Islam, one of the things you need to remember is you're going to learn Islam, and you're going to take certain teachings from people all over the world, you need to bring it back to the people that you will be teaching yourself. So when you're a student, you're learning when you're a teacher, you now need to apply what your teachers are applying that wisdom in teaching. And I know that we can simply just read out of books and we can take books or we could just, you know,

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what's, what's the word that is used this little more properties, regurgitate the knowledge, right? Take it, take it from here and give it over there.

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But keeping in mind, the fact that Islam came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, at a time, when people were were very ignorant people were far from from belief in Allah subhana wa Tada. And even when they began to believe, you know, there were still some practices within them that Allah Subhana which added took some time to slowly reveal the principles within Islam to filter out the sins or the, you know, the wrongdoing that people were committing.

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Now, if we were to say, you know, generally speaking, okay, is it permissible to give set them to a Muslim who is committing sins. First of all, every single one of us commits, since we all are sinners, you know, earlier today, Sheffield was mentioning, you know, driving to the mustard or driving anywhere, even if you're driving to the masjid to go worship Allah, you might swear, you might cut someone off, you might speed break the limit, you might not wear your seatbelts, you might you know, change lanes without indicating you might run a red light or stop sign, there are things that we do that, of course, is against the law. But as Muslims, we see that as breaking the law,

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which is also something that Allah is not pleased with, right? If we're doing if there's a law or something in place, that is for the betterment of the people, the greater good of the people, we have to respect it. And we, we should be people that uphold those laws and values.

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Now, when we talk about giving set out to someone who is a sinner, we can go even deeper than that, not just someone who breaks a speed limit by a couple of kilometers or

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you know, changes lanes without indicating but someone who is openly doing what is wrong and

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should the believing Muslim who's practicing gifts, send them to that person. Now, when we look at the context of the world that we live in, or the society that we live in here in Canada, in particular, you know, as Muslims, first of all, we are a minority or smaller number. Second of all,

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we need to try to to

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be more understanding of others. And understanding doesn't mean accepting, okay, understanding does not mean accepting. So when someone is doing something wrong, we can understand how they maybe got there, how they got to that position, you see a teenager, a Muslim family who has an 18 year old or a 19 year old teenager who is going out and drinking and getting drunk and coming home stoned. And, you know, in in this process, I remember some how to lock clearly one of the students that we had over here once

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he was going through a phase, and one night, I was hearing the mustard really late, and he came knocking on the door really, really late at night. And he's like, he's like, gonna come in and pray. Like, sure you want to come in and pray Bismillah you know, you think to yourself, someone wants to come and praise the house of Allah, let them pray. A couple minutes later, I go and see if this you know this young boy who's Mashallah, you know, maybe 19 years old. See, if he's ready to leave, though, you know, gotta go gotta close up and lock up and make sure that places secure I find him knocked out on the carpet completely knocked out. When I approach him and this was this was over a

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year ago.

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Actually, we think of it's been going through COVID for almost a year. So it's about a year and a half ago. And,

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you know, I approached him to ask him if everything's okay to wake him up because I noticed he's just laying there on the carpet. So I go over and I see he's sleeping like Sonic him. So

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he's not waking up. So I start tapping him like, how did he come Wake up, wake up. And then he's not budging. I'm like, Hey, buddy, come on, wake up, you know.

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He just, I don't get loud. And I start clapping and he's waking up to Pamela. This was a young boy, right? When I say young, like Pamela 40. No, so young. He's 19 years old. 1819 years old.

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He smelled like he was

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maybe drinking. I don't know if he was drunk, but he also smelled like he was smoking up. Okay. So he's probably a little stoned.

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And had you know, drinking binge drinking a little bit. Now, what does that mean? That means here we have a case of a Muslim teenager who's doing something that's wrong. Would we ban him from the masjid? No. Why ban him from a place where, you know, he feels comfort? he feels he feels a connection with loss of data. He came here. And his question was, can I pray? And so I let him in. And he prayed.

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Now how his prayer was, and if we're supposed to even be praying in that state, that's a different story. I hadn't noticed at the time, right. I hadn't noticed when I opened the door, that I could see that he would look really tired. His eyes were completely bloodshot. But you know, he came into the masjid, whether he prayed or not, that's a completely different topic. But he's laying on the carpet completely knocked out. And so eventually I wake him up, and you know, he gets up, he moves a few feet, he goes back to sleep, he falls asleep here in there. He's like, moving all over the place. I'm like, What am I going to do? So I get him up? And I'm like, Hey, come on, you know, come

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on, you got to get up. And I was like, This is someone you can call. So he's like, Yeah, he's calling He's like, Yo can come pick me up. And I'm at the masjid. And I think he called his mom. So his mom comes and picks him up from the masjid. I was just like, a lot. Like, had I opened the door and seen this young boy bloodshot eyes stoned, was drinking a little bit or a lot, I don't know, and shows up at the mustard. I'd be like, What do you want? And don't give him center and refuses entry?

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Where else? Where else do our youth have to go?

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So when we talk about this topic of getting sent out to someone who's a sinner who's openly sinning, and you think to yourself of, you know, young adults or, you know, teenagers, if the older generation continues to push away, the younger generation, what,

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what hope do we have for our own children or, or for, you know, the Muslim Ummah, here in Canada, or in North America, moving forward. So we need to be a little more understanding, remember, I said, understanding is not accepting, I can understand how a 19 year old got to where he is, I don't accept it, and I don't approve it. But I'm going to try to help him come away from it so that I can continuously help him to be someone who's better. And that's what we need to try and do. So when we look at someone who's sitting now when you look at the books traditionally, and they say, should we give send them to a center? And should we send them to someone who is who is

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someone who is committing, you know, not only sins, but someone who might look to be very pious and religious, but is, you know, bringing about innovation within the dean doing things that the prophets Allah usnm did not do or approve of.

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I'll say this, for the most part, my brothers and sisters, the scholars consider the believer who's committing a sin as being in a position that is less harmful than the believer, that is,

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you know, evading in the deep.

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Right, doing things that are bigger innovations in the deep. Why? Because one person is committing a sin knows this is wrong, and is not attributing it to Islam. The other one is doing something that is wrong and considered a sin, but making it a part of our belief. And this is where, you know, when you see this happening, first of all, it's important for us to speak up about it right to let the people know that this is wrong, this practice should not be done. For example, a couple of weeks ago, someone called me and said, you know, we want to do so and so action for a loved one of ours that passed away. And we want you to do this and do that and I'm like Brother, listen, please, if

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you don't mind, this is not from the son of the Prophet son, a logline of USM we have a responsibility to let people know this is not from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu usnm you should not be doing this right. You should not be you know, encouraging this type of practice and he says, but

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This is what we learned back home. So you know, we continue to do it. I said, Look, even when you learnt it back home or it was part of what you grew up with, doesn't mean that you need to continue to do it. But so how about the Aloha? I know, they did things for many years until the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received Prophethood. And, you know, then practiced and taught Islam to others.

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They didn't turn around and say, Yeah, those sort of love is all we know. No, they stood strong, to change themselves from what they used to do, to do what is better, okay? And that's what we need to try and do within ourselves in our lives as well. So do we give them to people who are committing, you know, actions or statements of bit of innovation within our Deen changing our Deen. Again, this is where you have to look at the situation, every situation is going to be different. Now we don't encourage to sit with them. We don't spend time with them and learn from them and do the things that they do because they're pulling people away from what is right islamically away from read is

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according to the son of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, while at the same time, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions les lulea Rajan in a minute. And you have a whole focus LS, is not permissible for a men who is a believer

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to abandon his brother for more than three days, as in not to greet not meet and greet his brother, Muslim brother for three days. And of course, the same goes for a Muslim sister.

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This is where we need to try and be a little more understanding of each other. You see the profits on a longer entity with some of them did not spread Islam, as opposed to what many people think that Islam was spread by the sword. And it was very strict. And it was a rigorous, tough time. In fact, the strictness and the toughness was placed upon the Muslims, by the non believers were living in Mecca at the time. So there was, for example, the boycott that took place it was extremely, extremely difficult. And that was the Muslims going through the hardship of the boycott that was placed upon them. They were not the ones picking up arms and going and attacking others. You know,

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the Muslims themselves, were humble, and we're taking the punishments so money out of your lungs, you know, she was first martyr in Islam, a woman sumaiya of the Allahu anhu. And so Pamela, when you think of it below, about the llama and being dragged on, you know, the, the hot sun, sorry, not the sun, the hot sand that was heated by the sun right in the middle of the day, with a stone placed on him to put more pressure of his body onto the grounds.

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You know, if you have a, you have a candle and someone says, okay, just pass your hand over it fun. But if you then put your hand into it, or press into it, or put your hand on coals, you know, it's very different than just hovering your hand over it and pressing it down harder onto it. And that's what they need to be done.

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Now, when we look at, you know, trying to convey the message of Islam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was one to try and begin with a softer approach. Okay? Now that doesn't mean that every single time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used a soft approach. You know, you think of the men who came to the bedroom who came in urinated in the mustard of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in mustard, the number one

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immediately this habit of the long run home, right, the companions, they got up, they were furious, like, what's going on? How can this person even urinate in the mustard in the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala, right, a place of worship. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was like, calm down, hospital, relax,

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go and get some water, so that we can pour on it, right to wash it away, and let that men finish relieving himself. And what that man learnt is the compassion of the profits in the long run. He was on them at a time when someone is doing extreme, you know,

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sort of actions in the house, violating the sanctity and the purity of the house of of worship, right? The mustard? Where do we learn from this, this habit of the alarm, or football is told to you know, calm down, go get the water, pour a bucket of water over it, and that's sufficient. You think to yourself, how did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam have that type of patience? And today's kotoba or lecture, I should say earlier today was about that loss of Hannah Montana is an haleem. In fact, it was it was something that I completely forgot to mention in the hook but I said I would mention it at the end.

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I had completely forgotten. So you reminded me of it, but it's not relevant right now. Different topic different plays different.

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So the question still is do we give them to someone who is a sinner, and someone who is committing, you know, innovations or innovating in the deen?

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if it is going to bring this person closer to Islam and closer to the truth, then get them set up. And you'll never know until you actually do it in most cases, right. So basically, what I'm saying is

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living in the lens that we live in, we need to try to bring the community together, that does not mean once again accepting people's wrong, what that means is trying to bring them closer to us being understanding of how this person may have gotten to this situation that they're in right now that is wrong. But trying to bring them closer to what is right by showing a little bit of compassion towards them.

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There are times that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was strict and harsh or straightforward, I should say, not really harsh, but straightforward or strict. And that was mainly with people he knew people who he was already very close with, right? So he could tell some of those habits, some of those companions or some of those non believers very straightforwardly that you're doing something that is wrong, and this should not be done. Right? Or go and fix yourself or go and make we'll do our go and pray again, right? You know, very straightforward, whereas Generally, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took a softer approach.

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To be honest.

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I feel that here in North America, or in Canada, as well, because the Americans martial law yesterday, they demonstrated they're very different than us. Sorry, I know, we have some Americans on here.

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They demonstrated very clearly and very loud and well that, you know, we are slightly different than them. And that's okay. That's okay. Right. Because at the end of the day, you know, we make drought and we wish for goodness for everyone. Right as I was coming in earlier to the masjid, you know, some of the some of the people I know some of the brothers were saying some things you know about what happened in the US and you know, I can only make a door for goodness, right? Make a door I for goodness, I'm not going to encourage you to join in on people saying things about Oh, look at these people look at them and look at how bad they are. No, no, just make do I for goodness, make do

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either. Allah Subhana. Allah guides, those who are misguided for when we think of the position that the Sahaba were in with the machete comb. What happened yesterday in the US is nothing. Even the way some of them were dressed. People are mocking it. You know what, don't give your good deeds away. Don't talk about others. Don't spread evil. Don't spread evil. In Islam, we don't spread evil. Right? So conceal it, right? Try not to spread it. Try not to post it on groups, try not to share it with others, try to conceal things that are wrong things that people do that are that isn't right. And tried to put goodness out there and help others in goodness to come closer to what is right and

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what is true.

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So what was I saying?

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I'll share, I'll share one thing with you before I move on to the last topic in this chapter.

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I remember. So growing up, I studied in a room.

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many of my friends

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and colleagues and even teachers,

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I have a lot of respect for them. And they have a lot of respect for me. And that was mainly because I think at the time, you know, first of all loss of handling data is the one who blesses us and puts us in any situation. And I want to say good things about myself. But

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I have always been taught to show respect to others and people will show respect to you.

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And so I always showed respect to my teachers when I was memorizing Quran, way back in the early 90s.

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And in return, I always had that respect. I remember even many years later when I was a student in Medina, I was maybe 2425 years old. I think it was 25 or 26. You know, my teacher from when I was 13 was performing armbar hedge and I ran into him and mustered the number up. And he was making such a nice dude. He was showing so much respect to me. I was not seeing him for over 10 years. And he was still you know, treating me like I was his own son.

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The reason why I'm sharing this with you is some of the people who I studied with

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moving on, and then going and studying in Medina, because in their minds, they have this idea that studying in Medina is very different, you know, they're like, you know, people use the term Wahhabi, hardcore Salafi. And to be honest, I didn't even know these terms before going, I left all of that stuff. You know, as in I was not part of it ever. And Subhanallah I, you know, never really associated, never associated, I could say, never associated myself to any sort of group or, you know, movement or anything of that sort.

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And so growing up being someone who grew up in a in a city where the Tbilisi jamaats was very strong, and I was, you know, going out in Jamaat, when I was younger, you know, before the teenage years and throughout the teenage years, until I left and went to study in Medina, when I went to study in Medina, you know, I started to learn more, read more understand Arabic research a lot more, a lot, a lot more, a lot. And I never came back and said anything wrong about anyone or started to preach against anyone, it's not my style, those of you who know me, I don't preach against people, right, I always tried to bring people closer to a loss of data and away from what they're doing.

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That's wrong.

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In a nice, respectful way. And I remember being at a wedding one day, right where some of my friends from,

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from, you know, Devin Erdos, from memorizing, from

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some of my friends who now you know, we were married, some of us had children. We met up for the first time in years. And I was I think, in my second year as a student in Medina, second or third year. And I was standing in a circle with a few of my friends who I knew since I was a kid.

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And a couple of them came by

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and started getting sent out to everyone in that circle that was standing there.

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But they skipped over me. So it's like, you know, there's, let's say, five people, and they come, and they get sent them. This is, this is me here. So they give, send them to this person, shake this person's head, shake this person's hand and then go and shake that person's hand and skip me out. And that happens twice. And then a couple other people came these were like uncles now right uncles in the community, we always call the uncle who we, you know, ran around in the masjid. And they would be like, Hey, come on, listen to the band, and come do this and do that and clean the mustard and you know, stuff like that. And so Pamela, we always called him Uncle, I always had respect for

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them. And I still have respect for them. But in that, and I remember that day, that it was so vivid, still so vivid in my memory, because so many people were judging me, because I went to study in Medina, and was still studying in Medina was only in my second year there finished or completed two years. And so they were like, Well, you know, he's different. Now. He's not one of us.

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And I could tell you straight up, the fact that they refuse to give me senem made me feel there's no way I want to come closer to people like this. I didn't feel like I wanted to come closer to them. I didn't feel like I was missing out on something like, Oh, you know, these people that give me some, there must be something wrong with me, I need to change and be better like them? No, in fact, it had the reverse effect. I felt like,

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Did I do something wrong here, my studying something wrong is wrong with me, you know, my in the wrong place at the wrong time. And then I understood that, first of all,

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people don't have the knowledge of Islam.

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And some people might say that they're ignorant, but really, if they don't have the knowledge of Islam, and they're stuck to this amount of knowledge, and they're not going to move beyond, you know, the small amount of knowledge that they have, and don't want to grow and expand and learn more and more. And you can't expect them to understand what's out here. When they're stuck over here, right? There's stuff written all over, right? There's Islam all over, it's like an ocean, and someone's sitting in their boat, and all they know is their boat, you can't expect them to know more outside of it. So you don't need to be like people who are ignorant, you don't need to lower

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yourself to their standards, while at the same time. I understood going back to the example of giving selam I understood that. We need to be people that are open and welcoming to teach people what is right and true. If we block them off, you can't expect you can't expect them to come on the day of judgment and be like yeah, Allah, they were right. They refuse to talk to me. I was wrong. They refused to share Islam with me. I was wrong. I ignored them and they refuse to give me anything. Yeah, this doesn't make any sense, right. You have to be inviting. You have to open your

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You know, sort of reach to them and, you know, speak to them and talk to them. So when it comes to getting sent out to others sent out is like the icebreaker, you walk by a Muslim on the street, if you don't say send them to them, you didn't break that ice with them.

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Okay, you walk by another Muslim on the streets, they slam on a cold, call a setup, they feel good, the ice is broken, you conveyed that message, you receive the reward, right? And so on and so forth. Some of my brothers and sisters in conclusion to this long, 30 minutes, you know,

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point and we've only been covering one point in the book so far.

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Try to understand the importance of conveying send them

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and try not to judge another person. Try not to judge other people. We're human beings that happens when we make that mistake. seek forgiveness from a loss of data, seek forgiveness from the person that we've made that mistake against or with and you know, trying to change for the better. Life is about learning. Okay, life is about learning. And we make mistakes along the way we learn we get better we move on.

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The last point in this chapter is

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Mina Sunnah set I'm kubla wolf arakata matchless it is from the Sunnah to convey set up or to say a set Mr. La calm before

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leaving a mentalist a gathering. Right could be a gathering of knowledge a gathering, you know with people friends family, you know you don't just get up and walk away You're invited to someone's house to eat you come in as I said, I'm I go oh food Mashallah. And they serve you food you eat it, you just get up and walk away. They're like, man, I just served in food eating and kidney sent him when he was leaving, right. So it is from the Sunnah.

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As we see a statement of overload or the logger and or he says he then

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lol mejlis, if you send him if one of you has, you know, concluded or ended, for example, when I end the halaqaat at the end, what do we say are some logs Alamo Baraka, Medina, Mohammed

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Salim, which is a local haven was sent Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, right. So we will give Sam at the end, right before ending the gathering the modulus. He also says for either I know that any of

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you that are either in uniform failure.

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So if one of us wants to get up into leave,

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right, for example, the modulus is still going on, it's still happening. But someone needs to leave, then say, send Mr. Alec, and then leave.

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And so with that, we basically come to an end,

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or come to the end of this chapter on setup, the importance of getting sent them. And I think, instead of starting the next chapter, is if I start it will probably go on for some time. I actually had planned to start the next chapter, but I think will suffice with that and open it up for some questions. And I also want to get your feedback as well. So we'll end there in a lot of data. And what we'll do is I'll open it up for QA, and also ask you for some feedback as to how you feel these classes are going or this Friday night class in particular is going and also some feedback as to some of the topics that we've covered. Do you feel that it's been beneficial, do you feel that you

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personally have benefited and changed yourself and also share, share something that you that you feel is important for others to hear? Or even to motivate the teacher to continue teaching in shallow data and you know what I'm gonna keep teaching anyways, it's something that I like doing, but it's always good to to, you know, share with each other and Shama.

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My good friend, Mr. de la just logged in when we're just about to finish. But if he's wearing his dopey and he wants to resize, and then we can always allow him to do that. So I'm going to scroll up here and see if there's any questions.

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Feel free to type in your questions somewhere in the chat or comments section.

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Otherwise obey the sub

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pozzi sub query sub, are you going to read some code and press?

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So someone's asking Can we say Allah Hafiz before leaving? So if you say Allah Hafiz, okay, it's it's a statement, which is okay, but why say something different than what this habit of the law and what we're taught? From the

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profits on Allahu Allahu wa Taala. You see, we can do things that might seem old, right? And as long as we're not breaking the rules within Islam or introducing something new then that's okay. However,

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what is the centum of the believer? What is the salutations the greetings of the believer SLM wherever they are. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato as we learned, and you get rewards for it, and there's so much blessings involved, so why say Allah Hafiz instead of saying a cent mRNA

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Do you see that? So we should stick to what is better to do and say

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you say Salaam to an unbeliever with the intention of download Okay, I think we spoke about this last Friday so you can go back to last Friday's and watch that Sharla

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we need this weekly reminder I was like a little faded from the UK super beneficial always learn something new after listening to your

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class in Sunday's this class and Sunday classes are extremely beneficial for me and Zack thanks for sharing that feedback. I don't see anything here. So other lava you want to read some Quran something short just for one minute shot law shall wash your screens with you.

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So hopefully all of you can hear this what I'll do is probably

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Hello, how are you?

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I'm doing my good so for those of you who don't know about the law is

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so he is in Surrey, British Columbia.

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And he's a good friend of mine. And a dear brother to my heart. I'm gonna love

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your brother. No, the honor is mine. Zach Hello Hayden. So something you know short and sweet and shot a lot for everyone

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else this minute

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starting a

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So when are you moving to Milton man?

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I can open up my

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but you're gonna have to bring the trees of British Columbia here.

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I'm getting one. lol make it easy. How's the family? Everyone's okay? Everybody's doing well. How's your family gets handled very good. No complaints.

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Zico height

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is a pleasure to have you on and look forward to seeing you again sometime soon. inshallah.

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hamdulillah So,

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those of you who don't know, Gandhi, Hamada, Allah subhanaw taala. His recitation, he can recite, like so many different mark on that, and with so many different, you know, tones and tunes and recitation recitations as well. So, so panela you know, his recitation is beautiful his eye then as well, he's got multiple different styles of event. And he's a dear brother, who was also introduced me to another dear brother

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at the dcma in Vancouver, sapan a lot. And, you know, these guys work really, really well with the youth and they go through so much to try and pull the community together. And we need lots and lots of people like this who dedicate their time day in day out for nothing, nothing, bought anything from the community at all. You know, just doing it for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. In fact, they have this really awesome

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trip that they do every single year with youth and one youth

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gets to win a trip to go for free with them. And I don't know, that's fully paid by, you know, community members and stuff like that. So, you know, it's an initiative to bring the youth in had a lot. You know, there's a lot of things that we can do ask us to make easy for every single one of us.

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Alright, so one of my classmates is in a comedy. And we do talk sometimes with texting. But in this case, can I say a sin mRNA? Con?

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Well, look,

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it depends, right? Like First of all, do you say send them to each other? If you already say send them to each other, what I would do is focus more on teaching what Islam is truly and really about, right? There's a lot of teachings out there and I want to get into the different groups, insects and stuff like that, that you know, exists. Otherwise, we'll be here forever and talk about things nonstop. But remember, we're talking about etiquettes. Okay, so the least you can do is greet this person in a nice way. Treat that person in a way that you're inviting them to what is right and what is good. And we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to forgive us for any wrongdoing and any mistakes that we

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Masha, Allah, Allah motherload. One is saying your recitation is beautiful. I had a long list long list

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of people talking about your recitation last last year.

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Okay, looking for questions, looking for questions.

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Are we not allowed to call non Muslims our friends is mentioned in the Quran. Okay. So

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with regards to non Muslims, we can have non Muslim colleagues. Okay. A friend though. And that's the thing is friend is is one word, right? A friend who's near and a friend who's far a friend who's dear, but there's no real term for it other than friend. So the people who are closest to us should be from amongst the believers, does that mean that we are not allowed to have friends or colleagues that are non Muslim? Right, we can have colleagues out there, friends who, you know, we interact with, we might do business with, we might need to be classmates with and so on. That doesn't mean that you can't be colleagues of theirs, that doesn't mean that you have to abandon them. Because if

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in Islam, we were to abandon everyone, then how would we be fulfilling that element of inviting people to snap? Now I know people will start to debate and say, Well, wait a second, are you going to invite people to Islam?

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You don't need to be friends with someone to invite them to Islam. I understand that. Right. And this is where the closest people, like I said, should be from amongst the believers. Okay. The closest people to us should be from amongst the believers. And there's wisdom in hikma in doing that, okay.

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You know, when when I think of it as someone who goes into hospitals, as a chaplain and meets with people who are sick, you know, when people are ill and not well,

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you want to have someone who

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you want to keep the closest people to you, people who care about your asset, right? Not people that are just going to say, you know, his time is up. And that's it know, someone who's going to encourage you to remember a lot, even when you're in your last stages of life. You want to have people who encourage you to do what's right and not take things that are home and do things that are wrong. Sometimes friends will be like, Oh, come on, it's okay, man. Everyone is doing everyone's cheating on their taxes. Everyone is you know, cutting corners everyone is doing this and doing that. But a believer will say no, I'm sorry, you're not allowed to do that. Right? And that's why

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you know, we are encouraged to have people who are believers as the closest friends to us right the closest people to us because they will remind us of what is right according to Allah and not remind us of what it is or not sorry and not encourage us to do what they just simply want us to do. Okay.

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Chawla looking forward to Suri coming down there sometime soon. inshallah. Tara

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can we convince them to summon through another person? Yes, we can. We covered that topic last week. Celebrating molad allowed or not, okay. So,

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when it comes to this topic, there are many scholars that they know somehow they could come on and just be like, Why are you saying that this and that. But if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam didn't do something, why are you doing it? That's that's a simple way of putting it right. If you didn't do something

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Why you doing it? Does that mean that we are not happy with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam being born and being raised and coming into this world? Absolutely. We're happy right? We enjoy that and we say some of the longer it He will send them a lot of money. We'll send him a birthday card. So you didn't know I didn't want to be in a Mohammed. We say these things all the time. And we believe that in oui oui oui oui oui fulfill it within us. We love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam more than we love our own selves, right.

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But if I love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so much, I should love to do the things he wanted from us.

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That is a commendable loss of handle return on Antigua and it'll help lower your hand. And so if I want to show my love to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I should show it to him in the ways that is permissible that he permitted that he did or he encouraged and this habit of the lava and home did as well so

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you know simple answer is if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't do it didn't encourage them don't do it simple

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so you are not allowed to make them as your very close friends but if you

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just normal hi and Hello friends is okay even calling or referring them as friends is okay yes that's okay.

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Okay, no questions here no questions there and questions you're done. I think that's pretty much it inshallah tada Jazakallah height and to all of you for attending. I'll see you on Sunday in sha Allah

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Sunday night 8pm for our essential class okay.

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In the last panel data Forgive me for anything that I said or did that was wrong first from myself and shame on and anything that is right in good is from the last panel with data about a colossal few Come on Mr. Heym will also be in the incentive if you hustle in the living room and want me to slowly hurt you or to work or happy whatever so the son or son in law who has something more about our Carolyn Amina Mohammed earlier Sophia Salim, was set up when he come to LA he or cat. That was the last thing we learned today in our chapter, right send Mr. de la your cattle