Friday Night Etiquettes Class – February 26, 2021

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The speakers discuss the challenges of teaching online and in person during the pandemic, including the need for social distancing and sharing goodies. They emphasize the importance of being polite and staying healthy during events, respecting older individuals, and not giving up on others' opinions. They also discuss the importance of giving guests permission to leave homes and walking around, and the social norm of walking guests. The segment ends with a recap of the class and a discussion of the importance of social interaction in learning values.

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Tonight is a special night, because it's the last Friday of the month of February in the year 2021. So it's the 26th of February 2021. And aside from that, you know, being a special thing, you know, it's also a special day because we're here together right? And we get to actually got to announce in the masjid Hey, guys, remember, we got the Friday night program, so you can come online and join join us. So I asked people to message their friends and family at home and have the low we see that the numbers are going a little bit higher. Because of that, of course, the first few minutes are always a little bit slow, but that'll pick up inshallah.

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So it is the last Friday of the month of February and I need to remind everyone to do their taxes, right? You got to do your taxes, Canada, no, under the table nonsense, right? Make sure you do your taxes, be honest, have the last part of our Deen to make sure that we are doing things honestly we are earning honest income we are spending honestly. And we are doing what is right according to the deen and also what is permitted.

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Or sorry, what is what is expected from us within the country that we live in. So tax season guys, hopefully everyone in sha Allah data will get a tax break and get some returns this year. All right, that was just something to fill in so that we can give people time to log in before we actually take off our Hanukkah shot a lot of to add to

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this middle command that I came in handy last summer and I was really low, early

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bird. So I'm live streaming from the mustard here. And that's because we just had sold out to the shop. And

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the timing is it's weird, you know, when you're teaching online, and then you teach in person. So online and on site are a little bit difficult to juggle. When we are teaching on site, then you know we have the prayer together. And we go home and we do the live. Sorry, we don't go home. We have the class here in the masjid. And then

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people taking pictures and waving at me through the window outside. So yeah, we usually have the class here and the mustard so we finish our sudden we start the class right away. But considering we're doing this hybrid version right now where now the mustard has reopened, but the classes are still online, I'm trying to figure out if I should delay the class to start it after a show or just kick it off at the regular time. And continue with that, regardless of the program within the masjid. So it's a little bit challenging to deal with, but hamdulillah we try and do our best and I know that the majority of the people are at home, especially family members with children. And so we

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ask Allah Subhana Allah to make things better, just as a little bit of motivation. Before we get into our topic and finish the chapter.

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Today was very interesting being Juma. You know a lot of people have been coming to the masjid but every single person I met who we spoke about the pandemic with, said hey, you know what this seems like now we're going back to normal, like, everyone was feeling very optimistic that this is it in sha Allah this summer, you know, with the vaccines coming out and with things going a certain way in sha Allah insha Allah that, you know, by the end of this year, everything will be you know, the way the way that we remember it in sha Allah We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and remember today's name of allah subhana wa tada that we studied in the football was

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a jump up, right, the one who you know brings things back the one who

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you know, and we gave the definitions of it but you know, the one the one who fixes things, things that are broken, come back to normal things that are you know, hurt are repaired by far So, handler You know, this is something that we know Allah is capable of fully handling and no doubt the pandemic itself is something that came from a loss of how do we do that and it will, you know, leave because of the help of Allah subhana wa tada and his command as well.

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We continue our chapter on hospitality today and I wanted to finish it last week, but we didn't so we'll finish it off today inshallah. Tada. The next part of hospitality that we're going to look at is

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how much should be spent on a guest. Okay, we spoke about the days and the amount of time that we're supposed to spend on a guest. But how much financially are we supposed to spend on

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On a guest. And you know, it was really interesting. Last Friday after the class,

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there was a family friend of ours humbler, you know, you got his kids in the car, they drove over to our home. And I ended up live streaming from home last week. So I prayed to Asia at home and then or I live streamed, and then I prayed to the show right afterwards. So they showed up at our home while I was praying salad tonight, Chef.

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And our children answered the door. And they brought over this really big chocolate bar, like this big sopapilla really, really, you know, nice galaxy, I believe it was chocolate bar,

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and a couple other you know, goodies.

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And I found you know that to be it was a reminded me of, you know, the good old days reminded me of a year ago when we were still gathering in the masjid for the classes, when we still had tea, and, you know, cookies and some houses and, you know, refreshments for for the adults as well as nice snacks and chocolate and candies and stuff for the children. So it reminded me of that. And I mentioned last Friday that our daughters had just finished baking some cookies and chocolate chip cookies. So when he came to our house, because I was praying, and my wife, you know, she had surgery the day before. So she was in bed, resting, she didn't, you know, have the ability. And she did she

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rushed to try and make her way downstairs even though she shouldn't have, you know, saw our children handled the door. And what happened there was kind of a lot, the brother and his children came to our home and they gave us some goodies. But we didn't get to return that to them.

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We did we gave them a little bit but our daughters didn't think to give them the cookies that they just baked. So I got in the car after I finished praying I shot and they you know, the family was gone already took some some home baked homemade baked cookies, chocolate chip cookies, and drove over to their house. And you know, gave them some chocolate chip cookies, because it just reminded me of how things used to be so you know what i what i?

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Yes, I know we did. I know we gave them I just finished saying that we gave them some stuff, but we didn't give them cookies. So what I just announced in the mustard was, Hey, you know what? message your family, let them know that we're doing the class online, and they should log in and watch. But also try to make it a routine amongst yourselves and your friends circle, where you know, maybe after the halaqa you get the family in the car, drive over to someone's house that you know, and you give them something could be something small, it could be something sweet, something, something salty bag of chips, cookies, donuts, whatever, right. But Pamela share something with another

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family, I think as a community, and I don't I don't know, I thought of this earlier, but I didn't explain it or express it to the to the community members online because we had a stay at home order, in effect, and you don't want to encourage people to get in their cars and go over to other people's houses. But you know, to drop something off at someone's house now is something that you can do, you know, we are able to go out even though we're not, I'm not telling anyone to go inside anyone's house, just ring doorbell, you know, porch drop offs. And some have a lot, you know, give them give them something nice. And try to make this a routine where you do something nice with your family

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where they go, and they give something to someone or they will receive something and then every week or two or three, you know, you get them in the car and you go and return that kindness to someone else. That's hospitality, right, that's taking care of people, when you're not able to bring them into your home, you're still able to do something for them. So I think we should all take initiative today in sha Allah to add, and I see a good number of families on here right now at least 25 families. So we have to make sure that we all try to do this and go to different people's houses as well. Don't go to the same people's houses, go to different people's houses, share the hype, and let

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them know why you're doing this so that they also log into the lectures to the classes. And they will be able to benefit from the knowledge that we're all learning together. But also to share something with another family because you will encourage them to do that. And they will be encouraged to go and do it to someone else. So I'm hoping that I see a whole bunch of messages from all of you later on. You know what post on Instagram that you're going to do something or you receive something from someone else who was online and tagged me to it so that way I know that this was something beneficial and successful for us as a community. And let's try to spread this today we

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might see 10 or 15 families that go out. But if we continuously do this every week, we might notice that within a couple of weeks 100 families are going out to another household not to enter their house disclaimer once again, just to drop something off at their porch or at their front door and give them something inshallah Tada. Okay, so hopefully everyone is able to do this. I know it's late at night, but don't

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worry, it's fine. It's a Friday night, and hey, we would have been in the mustard doing this anyways, right? So we can we can enjoy that now and tomorrow is a day off for most people in sha Allah. So, you know, enjoy that. All right, so how much do we actually spend on a guest? How much islamically should we spend on a guest? Well,

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it's not really it really comes down to what is considered the norm within the society that you live in. So in some societies where they might have more wealth, or they have more resources, or they have more ability to take care of people, because of, you know, the the conditions of things, or the way things are the way their homes are designed, etc, that is good for them. And what's good for us is what is the norm within our society. Now, if you think of it, it might be difficult for a family to put another family in a hotel for three days, or four or five days, right? Or for a few days, we looked at one, two or three days, you know, being the encouragement within the dean.

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is it feasible for everyone to pay for another family to stay in a hotel for three days, that's not easy for a lot of people. So when things are normal, once again, if we're able to host them in our house, you know, that saves us the amount that we would spend on putting them up in a hotel and also paying for food or dropping off food. At least they can be with us. It cuts costs, right? actual physical costs of spending money, but at the same time, we're able to spend more time with them. Right, we're able to help them a little bit more probably. In that case, not everyone has the ability to open up their homes, and again, we're talking about when things go back to normal, okay.

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So, whatever is considered the norm of that place, that country, that culture, then that is what is encouraged to do. However, we see a hadith of Jabba even Abdullah rhodiola and where he says he heard Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say baramulla wide Yaqui is named.

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What are Amil his name? Yuk Villalba. baramulla orbera yak, Thea Semenya, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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the food, the amount of food

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for one person is sufficient to feed two people. And the amount of food to feed two people is sufficient to feed four people. And the amount of food that you would feed for people is sufficient to feed or to provide to eight people. What do we learn from this, we learned that if you are going to be hosting guests, right? You're going to be hosting guests. And

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these guests are staying in your home or not. And let's say you want to treat them, okay. It's a family of four, two adults, two children.

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Just using that as an example,

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do you have to buy them for meals, like four separate meals for that family? No, what's encouraged in Islam is buy them two meals, and they will share an eat from it. And Allah will put Baraka, he will put an extra amount of hair of goodness in those two meals, that those two meals will then be sufficient for four people.

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And if there are eight people, then give them four meals, or the food that is that you would have for yourself as a family of four, give that to the family of eight or the group of eight. And they will insha Allah to Allah have enough food from that. What that shows us is we want to be able to feed people and treat people nicely and provide for them and look after them as hosts, right, give them that good hospitality. But we don't want to have any waste. We don't want to see any food going to the garbage. We don't want to see any leftover food, right? We want to make sure that what is provided is eaten. And if there is not enough food, the people who ate from it,

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they will still be thankful and cherish the amount of food that we provided to them in the first place. Right? They'll still be really happy about that amount of food, right? It'll be sufficient for them. And so remember that when we trust that Allah subhana wa tada will put Baraka in something and I'll use examples. I remember a trip to Ottawa that I made with the family many years ago.

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Ottawa is famous for shawarma right cannabis capital is famous for shawarma which is weird. I know But hey, that's just the way Canada is.

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We we ended up getting four meals. I think we got three meals actually. Right. We got one for myself, one for my wife and one for both of our daughters to share.

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And so had a lot of the meals were so big one plate, one shawarma plate was so big, it would have been sufficient for us to get one shwarma plate. And it was good for us as an entire family would have all eaten from it. And we would have eaten to our full and hamdulillah. And what we noticed was we ended up eating shawarma plates for the next two days. Because we had so much leftover food, and we put it in the fridge and then we had it for breakfast the next day. And then we had it again, it's Pamela it was just even when we checked out of the hotel, we still had a little food leftover. So So kind of a lot, you know, the amount of food that Allah Subhana data provides for us when we

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are sincere in it is filled with Baraka. And this is why when we eat food, we should first of all try to eat together. You know, as a family tried to share meals sometimes sit together, eat together if you're not going to eat from the same place at least sit together and eat together at the same time.

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And the other thing is when you're sharing a plate, right with someone else or with other people, as a family, you're sitting down eating, eat from your side, each person eating from their side working their way towards the middle, and the bucket is found in the middle. And so we'll handle a lot of loss of Hannah beuter Allah provides for us in so many ways, so many different beautiful ways. Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us you know, higher in this dunya in this world.

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Alright, the next thing that we'll look at with regards to hospitality is

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that when we enter upon someone we should enter with permission, right? If we're going to be invited to someone's house, we enter with permission. And we don't leave except that we've sought permission from them. Okay, burial for all mean a time after we have completed our food. So in this part of learning how to be hospitable

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we learn how to be with our host, but also how to treat our guests. And this is actually advice that came from Allah Subhana water Allah in Surah two verse number 53. We see that Allah gave advice, Mashallah Xena said I'm already going hope you're doing well in sha Allah. I want everyone to raise their hands and say Allah, Messiah, Ilana Xena a lot to share fee ish for her. Xena is the daughter of in fact the granddaughter of a good family friend of ours and also the niece and daughter of you know, friends of ours and humbled enough and she's currently watching this from sickkids Hospital, downtown Toronto 100 in LA Nice to see you on here Zeno May Allah subhana wa tada strengthen you and

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grant you cure and elevate you in status in this dunya as well as in the era. The mere loss of hanaway to Hana allow you to enjoy these last few days that you've had with your you know, with your brother and your sister and your other brother today And may Allah subhana wa tada make it easy for you to spend more and more time with your family members, as well as your grandparents. I hope your grandparents get to see you sometime soon. I know that I know their hearts are really big, you have an amazing family, a lot of our color and you know we hope we hope to see you very soon very soon if I could visit you I would but some kind of luck with COVID you know things are the way they are. So

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May Allah Subhana Allah grant you cure and and strengthen your Iman and I know that you were watching CIF Muslim was my old roommate. I know you watched his Giovanna hook but today so so how to lie It's just really nice to to see you so active in keeping up with your deen while you're in the hospital. And we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless you and to cure you and to strengthen you and to allow you to be someone who is used for the spread of this Deen that you become an example of the Sunnah of Mohammed some along he was sending them I mean

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super nice to see you online.

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The next thing we're looking at like I said, is advice that Allah subhana wa tada In fact, commend that came from Allah Subhana Allah to the Sahaba of the lava and home of course, being revealed within the Quran, as to how to be as hosts as sorry as guests within the home of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam Yeah, you're letting an omen who alerted Hulu to Nabhi the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam receives these aids and shares them with the Sahaba as to how Allah Subhana Allah says it when you enter the home of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Don't enter the home of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam except that you have permission to and until you've been granted permission to enter. And when you do enter the home Don't come too early. Right, as guests don't come too early to someone's home, where the host might not be ready to host you, right? Come at a time that they've invited you for. So if they invite you for six o'clock, don't come at five, come at six. And don't come at seven, because they invited you for six. What happens is sometimes people invite, you know, families over for six o'clock, for example, and no one shows up until seven. Well, the family was working all day, sometimes cleaning, cooking, preparing

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the food so that when you arrive at six o'clock, 10 minutes later, they will feed you the food. But when we arrive at seven o'clock, the family starts to feel really bad and upset, and maybe even regret the fact that they invited you. They could have invited someone else that would have shown up at six o'clock when they put the invitation out. And so we need to be respectful of that. Don't go to someone's house unless you've been invited to their home for that meal. Right and don't enter until they've allowed you to enter now that the time is right, the food is ready. We're ready. The home is clean. Everything is under order. Right. You know, you enter

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and you eat the food

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complaining without, you know, look oh, there's not enough older Oh, there's all this kind of food, right? No, no, be happy with what is served to you. And be thankful.

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don't stick around for too long.

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Right? Don't stick around for too long. Sometimes we go to someone's house and we stay there until midnight. And they're like, man, I gotta work tomorrow, I gotta get up a fun job need to be at the masjid gotta go straight to work. And so have a lot of these people will leave my house as guests in someone's house, we should make sure that we don't overstay don't stay too long leave when the invitation is over? What are people inviting you for food house, when the food is done, excuse yourself, make a door out for them. And it's time to leave. But if they tell you no, no sit down, we were gonna make some tea, there's some desserts as well. Okay, I have the love. So you sit down, you

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wait until you get the tea and you wait until you get the dessert. If there is. And if the food is served, and the tea is served, and the dessert is served, and you're done, then get up now it's time for you to leave. And sometimes people will say out of the kindness of their hearts. And this is maybe a mistake on behalf of the hosts. But at the same time, it shows them wanting to extend more hospitality to you. But try not to bite the whole hand off. Take what's given to you and how us leave, right. So excuse yourself, it's time for us to leave now. I know sometimes we like to chill and like oh man. Finally we get a break off of work. You know, like today, for example, usually on

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Friday nights after Hanukkah, we'd leave

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from the masjid. And, you know, go over to someone's house, one of our friends houses, we take turns or they'd come over to our house. And it's just a time to just kick back and finally relax. A long day starts early in the morning preparing for Juma preparing for the lectures, you know, doing all of that the counseling, the messages, the prayers and everything. And then you finish and you go home at the end of the day. And you're just like, Ah, now it's time to kick back and relax, and you don't want to get up. But you got to get up, you got to go home, someone else needs their house back.

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So some have a law that's important for us to make sure we don't abuse we don't take advantage of that. So in the case that the host is requesting that we stay and they say no, we've made dessert, you got to stay for dessert, and stay for the dessert. And if you're the host, don't be like we got dessert. Now you're calling a restaurant. You're like having dessert delivered? No, no, maybe the person who you invited needs to go somewhere. All right. I know sometimes when I'm invited somewhere I need to leave, I want to leave I gotta go I got places to go things to do people to meet, right? I got prayers to lead I got classes to teach we got things going on. So don't keep people longer than

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the invited time as well as a host. So that has to be that balance. It has to be a balance, where the host is going to respect the time of the invitation. And the guests are going to respect the time of the invitation as well. That way together they're going to work to each have fun and share in the joy and the happiness of meeting each other and being together. After COVID okay after COVID and in sha Allah to Allah each is going to earn their rewards. Remember to make dua out for the people

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that invites you before you leave their home and seek permission don't just eat and get up and run. seek their permission before leaving, ask permission before leaving. What some people do is they come they eat, and they're like, Okay, I'm going to, I'm going to quickly you know, step out. Where did you go? I invited you to my house you came you left before seeing do out. Okay, you left before, you know making a door out for the family.

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The next thing we'll look at is the demon about what took a demon, amen. Amen.

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In a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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to people.

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What did I write here? I can't even read my writing,

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to people contending to get it. Okay.

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what we learn here is that someone who's older, has more right than someone who is younger. However, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Hades.

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He said, it is out of reverence to a law in respecting an aged Muslim, someone who is older, and the one who commits the Quran to memory. So we respect someone who's older. And we respect someone who has memorized the Quran in their mind in their hearts, right. And does not exaggerate pronouncing its letters, nor forgetting it after memorizing it. So we respect the people that are older than us. We respect those who have memorized the Quran. And the people who have memorized the Quran should not do mobile stuff. They shouldn't like be excessive in their recitation, to the point that they're, you know, breaking the rules of Tajweed I see this, you know, sometimes it happens,

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especially people who are learning the Quran, they'll go and record videos of themselves, you know, reciting the Quran to put it out there to get views, and they're making mistake after mistake after mistake. And it's like, what are you doing? Why are you doing this if you haven't learned to earn with someone else. And sometimes it is to show off and we ask Allah Subhana Allah to protect every single one of us from that, you know, we know that there's a really, really big punishment for anyone who is showing off with their recitation of the Quran.

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They will be dragged on the day of judgment on their faces and thrown into Janda so be very careful of that. The Hadees continues of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam where he says nor they forget it after having memorized it, right, don't forget the quarter and after you've memorized it, and to respect the just drooler. So in this example, we learned that people that are older than us have a level of respect that is,

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or that has been earned, because of their age, and we have to fulfill that. So when we are inviting people or hosting people we serve to those who are older first. And if we are younger than you know, we back off a little bit, and another Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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in order to realize that along it will do the job for Shiva Minho, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had something to drink, and he drank from it. Then on his right hand side was a young boy, right, someone who was younger, was on his right side, and on his left side was someone who was much older. Now we know that we learn out of respect to give to the one who is older, but the older person was on his left. So the Prophet sallallahu either usnm asked the younger person right, on his right hand side, because we're supposed to pass to the right side first, right people to the right will drink first, not to the left. So he asked permission from the young person on his right. If he

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will forego his opportunity to drink after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and allow the older person who's sitting to the left of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to receive that cup or that bowl to drink of or from first.

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And he said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I will not give preference at your hand over me in any share, as in I will not let that older person drink first.

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When I have the opportunity to drink right after you so imagine the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has, you know, something to drink this minute

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and he drinks from

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And then he's asking, you know, the younger person on his rights. Are you okay? If I give it off to the person on the left, because he's older than you, we should have respect for him. He says, No.

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I'm not going to give up my opportunity to drink from what you drink from right after you and give that to someone else. That's my rate. And he was on the right side. So it is his rate. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam respected that and handed it to him. That's his right. So are we supposed to respect the elderly? Yes.

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But is it the right of someone who's in that position? That where it is theirs? They can take it? Yes. He chose to take that and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam respected it. And that's fine. No one should get offended. No one should feel hurt. No one should be like, Oh, look at this youngsters, you know, these youngsters, they don't know what they're talking about. And I know that happens all the time.

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I'm 40 years old, I still get treated like an 18 year old, especially in the masjid by some of the older you know, uncles and Auntie's, you know, brothers and sisters that are much older. SubhanAllah when, whenever they are,

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you know, talking to me or something, talk to me like a little kid, and that's fine. I don't mind being treated young. That's fine. I don't mind that. But we have to understand as well that

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certain people who are in a position where they, you know, they should be, they should be held to a standard. And what I mean by this is, an adult is an adult. And if the adult is being asked something, as the prophet SAW along Rather, he was someone was asking someone, it's your right hand asked, it's your right, take it, right. Does that mean we're being disrespectful towards the elderly? No, no, no, we're not being disrespectful. If someone wants to claim the right they claim the right and someone else should not get offended at another Muslim taking what is their right, it's yours. Why could Why should I get upset? How can I get upset with someone else? Right, I

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shouldn't and I have no right to be getting upset with someone else. And so here the prophets all along it was something handed that off to the one who was younger.

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And another Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is narrated by First off,

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he said kennametal sort of like his other one where it usnm either stuck or on the

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bill Kebede. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was either handing something off to someone or was giving the command you know feed the people give this to the people who would advise you know give to those who are older first and give to those who are older. First, for example, you have a hall filled with people or room filled with people you go and you get to the elderly people first out of respect and honor for them. Right out of respect and honor for them.

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Do I?

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So the duty of the guest

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before leaving

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the home of the host after eating food is part of hospitality as well, right? We don't just talk about the host we talk about the guest. The guest needs to know how to behave with the host.

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And so from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that whenever he would eat food at someone else's home or another nation, another tribe, for example, invited him to eat

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unnecessarily Allah and said

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that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to Saturday evening rabada

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fauja be hubsan was eating. Okay, that's the McAllen abuse of a lot of it. usnm So he came with

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bread and oil, right bread to eat, and he ate from it. Then the profits on a long lady who ascended them said

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after are in the OSI anymore and work it up on a bra or some letter la comunidad de la ek he made a drought for them after he ate with them. Okay, so he ate the bread he ate the oil. And then all right, you dip the bread in the oil. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to love which is vinegar, right? He used to love vinegar, so he would dip his bread in vinegar. And if there was oil like zaytoun right olive oil

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Dip it in the olive oil with some vinegar that was from some of the best foods or favorite foods of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I remember when we were looking through I believe it was something to Timothy when we studied it in Medina you know from the from the favorites of the foods of the profits on a longer added us alum is vinegar bread with some vinegar, right to dip it in there and to eat it just like you know, we see the Italians doing today they have some nice bread and then they'll put some balsamic vinegar with some olive oil and dip it in there and eat it the profit so long it you have some of them used to love that, right? And then he made a door up for the

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hosts, right? That those who came you know, ate from your food, their fast was broken with you.

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And you know, the the angels are praying for you.

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And so it's a beautiful, you know, drought of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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A lot of men, many Western women as corny as another drought that you could say of the prophets of Allah, Allah, you are synonyms. Throughout, you know, a lot of everyman attire many, so a lot of please feed those who have fed us And grant them to drink because they grant those who offered us to drink something to drink as well. And what can be the best, you know, things to have in this dunya, but also a door that allows us to have the best of food and drink in Africa, right? Along with Fiddler on Wareham home or berry color home female doctor, right. So another door that you could say is or law, please forgive them the host and have mercy upon them and have And grant them Baraka in

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what you have provided them as it is, as provisions. Okay.

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And the last thing that we will learn about in sha Allah to Allah is that it is encouraged for the host to walk their guests out of their home or to the door of their home, when they are leaving. So when we finish eating, we make a deal out, we seek permission to leave from the host. And they grant us that permission we make to offer them right as we just finished learning. And then the host is to walk his guests or her guests to their door. Right? Don't just be like, okay, the doors over there, you know, make your way out whenever you're ready, you know, get up and walk them out. Right, that's a sign of hospitality. In fact, walking them out, not only to the door, but out of the door. And if

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you want to go the distance to their vehicle, right, walking them back to where they came from. Had a lot. I know some people who have invited me, and not only did they invite me, they came and picked me up. And when I was done, you know, either I would arrange for someone to pick me up this is if I'm traveling somewhere, you know, arrange for someone to pick me up, or I usually like to walk a lot, especially when I travel I'd walk a lot to lots of lots, right? And I would tell them, Look, I'm done eating the love of bellies full they need to walk let me walk back to my hotel. Let me go back to where I need to go. And they're like, No, no, no. How can we let you walk? Like you're our

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guest? You come to our home, you're going to eat? We're gonna let you walk. No, no, you're not walking, we're gonna drive you right back. And so kind of some of them would drive me back to the hotel I'm staying in. And I know,

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a schelotto called I met some really really hospitable very kind hearted people very gentle, you know, families and individuals. I'm just thinking of someone right now in Milan, right? I don't know for sure. I don't think he's watching right now. Brother in Milan, in Melbourne, Australia.

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Some kind of ally remember, he picked our family up. This was many years ago. And every single time I'm there, his family will send something over to the hotel, they'll make sure that I have you know snacks there. He will pick me up he'll take me out to centros right, which is my favorite place to go in Austin, one of my favorite places to go in Australia because you can get the Aztec hot chocolate. You know, they got all these hot chocolates with chili in it. They got hot chocolates where it's like a

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hot chocolate and they put a frozen white chocolate chunk in there scoop in it and it just like melts. And anyways, the point is he would bring me out to the places I like. And then he would bring me back to my hotel and he would park the car and he would walk up to my hotel room and make sure I got into my room safely and hamdulillah like he just so much humble hospitality. It's just amazing. Amazing. And if I was to say I'm on just below height and you stay in the car, I'll make my way up. It's fine. Don't worry, everything's fine. He'd be like you sure like yeah, positive. Okay, he wouldn't overstep his limits.

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The way we treat people, that's the way we have to, you know, be with others. And, you know, so how do I just think of, you know, people I met, even when I was a student in Medina, you know, they'd be like, come to my room, their room is like in two buildings away from mine.

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But they would come to my room, get me, we would walk together. And it's usually the African students, right? The African students, they would walk hand in hand, right, they'd hold my hand and take me to their room, and we sit down and eat, you know, they give me some tea or something, or, you know, vice versa, we'd have them over to our room, and then somehow a lot, you know, hold your hand and bring you all the way back to your room had a lot, you know, that kind of hospitality, we don't really see it anymore. And it's one of the things that makes me want to go and live in some of these villages, or go and just be with these people. Because

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I just feel like we're missing out on certain things. We live in such a materialistic type of world, where we're so focused on things like, I gave you the best food from the best restaurant now, even nowadays, somehow low and it's sad, I don't like doing this, my wife hates it, she's like, you inviting people to your house, and you're catering for them, like you're gonna order food from a restaurant to give to them. You don't do that you cook the food yourself. I mean, Hamdulillah, if someone's able to afford it, and they can, you know, or maybe they don't have the time to cook and stuff like that, that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. But you know, like, going the

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distance to help people is so important. Where somehow I feel like we live at a time where we've lost it. Like we've lost the plot. And some kind of law, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala, to make it easy for us to take our children, once this pandemic is done, to places where they will learn values, whether it's to live or to visit, take them to a place where they will learn other cultures, where they will see what other people are like, well, they will learn how other cultures do things. And I'm not talking about our own cultures, like, Oh, I'm going to take my children back to Pakistan, because my dad's from Pakistan. No, I'm talking about take them to a place where you don't

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even know of the culture and you're going to learn about it. And you're going to spend some time with those people. And I've always wanted to do this, may Allah make it easy once the mosaddek reopen and things go back to normal, we can take family trips to certain places to do halaqaat together to learn together to give back to those communities in those societies. You know, with a couple $1,000 we can build a wealth like they will bring the truck to dig the well and provide water and set up the system with the spouse and you know, pour the cement and put the pipes and everything in place for villages. A couple $1,000 a couple $1,000 for us as Canadians nothing right we get 1020

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families together, how does we each pitch in $50 $100. And there you go. Right you get the well made and dunk. And think of the amount of goodness from the best things the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam advised us to provide other people is water, water, provide water to people, right Water is life, we need water.

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So that's the end of our chapter and the end of our Holocron for today are our class.

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Allah subhana wa Tada, bless every single one of you and your families. Remember, like I said at the beginning of this live stream, you know, try and do something nice for another family. I know it's 851. But what's 851 on a Friday night, right? Get your kids in the car, if you can, if not you yourself get in the car, go to someone else's house, pick up something from Tim Hortons. I don't know some tidbits, some donuts, tidbits are like overrated nowadays. I think everyone's fed up of timbits get some donuts, you know, do something nice for someone else's family, drop it off to them. And inshallah Tada, you'll see that the love and the community feel we'll come back together and

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make this a regular thing. Make it a routine where every week or every two weeks or every three weeks, you go to someone's house and you do this. And you'll notice that someone else will come to your house. And if they're not home, if you go to someone's home, maybe they went to someone else's house. It might be that one family goes to the other family's house and that family left to go to their house at the same time. And so when you get there ringing the doorbell if they don't answer, leave it there and go home and they will come home and see that what you brought is sitting there waiting for them. Don't come home with the same stuff you set out to give. Give it to someone, let

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