Al Adab Al Mufrad – EP16

Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala MD mursaleen Nabina Muhammad in la sala to attempt to slim a marriage, my brothers and sisters in Islam Shalimar aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Now I know I've been traveling a lot, but we had a convention as well. So some Hanalei, you know, you got your you got your dosage inshallah of knowledge at the convention in Charlotte, North Carolina.

I have to say, we won't do an exam, because, you know, we're a quiz. Anytime you you announce We will begin with a quiz after people leave. Right? And so handle I was like, No, don't say that don't, we can do surprise quiz, but never announced a quiz, right. But we won't do a quiz in solid because we want to finish off this chapter. And then we'll go into the chapter related to neighbors in short, a long time. And of course, the time is getting a lot shorter. You notice between motive and shadow, the time is getting shorter. We only have about an hour and 15 minutes until Salalah. So about an hour until the end for for, for Salah to Asia. And so Subhanallah The time is going

quicker. And you notice outside as well. The weather is changing. And I just came back from Malaysia. And I was like, Yes, the heat is beautiful when I arrived back in Canada. And tonight, I noticed that it's already getting cool. On the outside. So it feels like winter is coming. I know the children are going back to school and they're feeling a little bit depressed. Are you happy to go back to school? Yeah, happy? Are any of the children sad to go back to school? Are you happy? Yeah, yeah, you're happy to go? You're sad? Why?

Why are you sad to go to school?

Okay, don't worry. When I was your age, I was I was sad to go to school. So I'm going to give you a candy to make you happy inshallah, right. I never used to like starting school, in fact that I hated school. Right. I always used to hate going to school, especially the first few days, it was the worst time of the year for me. And Subhanallah you know, the smell of those new textbooks and the pencils and the crayons. And then when you get older, you know all the pins, and I just absolutely couldn't stand it. I hated it. I love to study, I love to learn, but I hate school. And it's that structure in school that used to always bother me. And because I never really felt as though what I

was learning at school was actually going to help me in the future. And to be honest, when I look back at it, and I think many of us that have finished school when we look back at what we've actually studied, up until the end of high school not talking about after high school, high till the end of high school. I don't think there's much really that we learnt that we hold on to that we need for the future. Right. And that's why I'm a big fan of homeschooling. Alright, so for those of you that are against homeschooling, then we have issues. Now how do I you know, I met some families yesterday

and talking about what we're going over now and this brother was saying how,

how he began homeschooling, and yesterday was their first day of homeschooling for his for his family. And I met them at WhatsApp play Centerville, which is like that amusement park on center island. And I thought, well, Mashallah, today's your first day of homeschooling, and you take your children to an amusement park? And he said, Yeah, because they were in school. And because of the changes in the curriculum, we took them out of school so that they can do homeschooling. And we wanted them to remember that the first day of their homeschooling was the funnest day of their year, right, it was the most important most, you know, a pleasant time of the year for them. Whereas when

they go to school, they're like, Oh, I don't want to go I don't know who my friends are, I don't know who my teachers are going to be. So it made it pleasant for them. Right so we ask Allah subhana wa tada to have mercy on our children. We know that school is, you know, round around the corner, but there's a lot that you will learn at school that is very good for you. Even though we say that we didn't learn much. That's because we forgot. Okay, we got old and we forgot. So we asked us to kind of add it to make you leaders in the future inshallah, through your knowledge

will continue with chapter 54.

Mercy consists of 100 parts, okay, we didn't do this Hadeeth as far as I know, we did not finish this Hadeeth and then we continue on with the neighbors. So mercy consists of 100 parts of what I about will be a lot more unsaid. I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say, Allah, the Almighty and exalted has divided mercy into 100 parts. He kept back 99 parts and sent down one part on Earth. Because of that one single part on Earth. creatures are merciful to each other so that even the mayor which is a female horse, lifted tubes away from its full, which is the the baby horse, right, the young horse for fear of trampling on it. So we here we see here,

how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that Allah subhanho wa Taala when he created mercy

Now we know that everything is a creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala including our hope and our fear for going to school. Right and mercy itself as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that Allah has divided it into 100 parts. Only one part of that mercy, that Rama that a lot talks so much about in the Quran, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam emphasizes so much in the Sunnah. We noticed that out of all that talk with regards to the Dharma and mercy. That's only one part of mercy. That's just one part of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa, taala.

And 99 parts of mercy is capital philosophy.

99 parts, which means that the mercy that we receive from Allah subhanho wa Taala you know, how your parents when they get upset with you? Right? They get really upset, and they don't show any mercy whatsoever. They don't give you a candy like I do. So are you upset, okay? You're taking candy, right? When your parents are upset with you don't give you a candy. If you go to your room, you're grounded for a week. No more video games or no iPad, no YouTube, right? Something like that. So Allah subhana wa Jalla is so merciful, but he only sent one part of that on Earth. 99 parts are for the hereafter.

So you ask yourself when Allah subhanho wa Taala will bring us forth in front of him. And we will stand in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we will have to testify with regards to everything that we've done in our lives, every single thing. We know that Allah is so much more merciful in the hereafter than he is here on Earth, that that He has given to us here on Earth. Right? Allah is extremely merciful. But he reserved that, that extreme amount for the hereafter. And so when you look at the commentary, you notice that some family, some some areas are highlighted on how we might be merciful towards others, and we might receive the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we recite

it in our Salah all the time, in fact, before we recite in our Salah, we say Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem, that Allah Subhana Allah, Allah is merciful, a mercy that is specific to the believers as well as that which is general to the believers as well as the non believers. And that mercy itself is only one part

of how kind the last days.

Right, so we shouldn't be, you know, as parents, we shouldn't be though, you know, as parents, we shouldn't be those parents who say, you know what, I'm going to be really, really strict on my children. And I'm only going to reserve, you know, 99 parts of that of My Mercy for my children when they have children or spend it on their grandchildren. Right? We shouldn't do that. We should try and spend as much of our mercy as we can on our children. And we know that the family is absolutely important. And we can technically conclude the chapter with regards to parents and children right here. This is where we concluded and we were talking about parents being merciful upon their

children. That's those the last few Hadeeth that we took parents being merciful upon their children. And here the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam is telling us the importance of showing mercy to our children. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala shows mercy to us. Now, we're not the children of Allah. Right? A lot has no children, he has no daughters, no sons, the angels are not the daughters of Allah subhanho wa Taala, as some of the other religions like to say, but Allah is so kind to each and every one of us when you look at yourself.

Most of you right now are looking either at me or down.

When you look at what you're looking at, contemplate what you're looking at that you can see. I'm looking at this little boy who has a blue gap. T shirt, right? He looks at his shoes, like yeah, it's me. Don't look behind you, I'm looking at you. But behind you, I can see another boy. Right. And in front of you, I could see a few people and to the side of you I can see many other people then I can see the carpet is different colors. And I could see the wall has a has a wooden border around it, and I'm still looking at you. But I could see all these things in peripheral vision. I can see them around you. I could see the door I could see the fence I could see the black chairs. I

could see the pillar over there and over there. And you can see different things someone is sitting on this side there's something here, right? And then I noticed the wall there's some digital thing that has red numbers on it. Right so penalize read good from below. I'm not going crazy, right? And all of that is a mercy from Allah subhana wa Tada.

But that's only one part. That's only a fraction of a part. Because all the mercy that Allah gives to all the human beings is only one part of the 99 parts of his mercy.

In our own selves,

we are we we contain we have things that we should be thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala because that is a mercy from Allah. Simply, you know to go and use the bathroom

The ability to go and use the bathroom is Rama from Allah subhanho wa Taala. I know when my daughter was young, right? She's still young. She's four and a half years old. But when she was just a few months old, you know, just past a year old, she started to have a difficult time using the bathroom going number two, not because she couldn't, but because she didn't like it. She didn't like the feeling as a child, and she didn't understand it. And so for over a year and a half, we had to give her laxatives and suppositories.

Just to use the bathroom is a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. It keeps parents awake at night, knowing that their children are going through struggles and difficulties.

Yet Allah has made everything so easy for us. So aluk the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned this, and emammal Buhari concludes the chapter with regards to parents being merciful upon their children by highlighting how Allah subhanho wa Taala is extremely merciful upon us, we move on to chapter 55 the recommendation to be kind to neighbors now, the book and the headings shift towards talking about neighbors, who are our neighbors, how do we behave with our neighbors? What is the responsibility that we have towards our neighbors? What responsibility Do they have towards us? Right and this is what we're going to talk about inshallah. Tada.

All right, so it'll be a lot more said that the prophets a little longer. I know you offend them said gibreel, alayhis salaam, kept on enjoying me to treat neighbors well, until I thought that he would make them heirs that they would inherit. So gibreel alayhis salam, when he was teaching the Prophet for the long run, he was seldom the dean, he would continue to tell the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to be extremely kind to the neighbors, to the extent that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam thought that Allah would make it such that the neighbors would inherit from each other, that when you pass away, not only your children inherit from you and your family members, but

your neighbors would also would also inherit from you. That's how much the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, that an emphasis was put from gibreel as a command from Allah subhanho wa Taala to respect neighbors. And in fact, we will see this hadith being quoted over and over and in multiple different chapters. inshallah.

If you look at the commentary for those that have the book, you look at the commentary, and it mentions here the rights of the neighbor, is here emphasized by a half in hedger, Alaska nanny Who is He Who can tell us we've asked you this before and halfway they've been Haggadah last colony, who is he?

commonly known as even hajah?

You all know this answer. I've mentioned it to you before.

You forgot.

When we look at the book written by a mammal Bahati fluffy, and jammy, right, the agenda by Emmanuel Bukhari, the book that contains his authentic hadith that he narrated.

Today, we have, if you find it on the bookshelves over there, you we have maybe 12 volumes, which will contain those Heidi, now doesn't take 12 volumes to write, to write all those headings. That's the commentary to the Hadeeth the commentary to the authentic hadith, and it was written by even harder. Okay, so the author of the commentary of Sahih al Bukhari, he is the author of fatale body fatale batty is the shutter or the explanation of Sahih Bukhari. So, even harder, he says, the rights of the neighbor are emphasized here in 12 different aspects look, sorry, in 14 different aspects for 14 different types of the rights of the neighbor. And look at how he breaks it down.

He said the word neighbor encompasses the Muslim, the non Muslim, the pious, the sinful, the friend, the enemy, the stranger, the resident, the helpful, the harmful veneer, the strange, the one whose residence is near to you, and the one whose residence is distant

14 different characteristics with regards to the neighbor, so let's look at them in sha Allah hotel. So the word neighbor encompasses, first of all the Muslim so whether your neighbor is Muslim or number two, non Muslim is totally irrelevant. You have to be good towards your neighbor. This is part of our Deen

and we will see many examples as we move forward with regards to the importance of the neighbor. So whether the neighbor is Muslim or non Muslim, we have to respect our neighbors in school. Are all of your friends Muslim?

Pretty much do you go to a Muslim

School and Islamic school? No, but the majority of your friends are Muslim.

Okay, those are your friends. What about your classmates?

The majority most of the people in your class are Muslim. What school do you go to?

So what half say about half of the students are Muslim. Mashallah, see that's the benefits of living in what Mississauga, Mississauga Muslim saga. Right? So, in school are all of your classmates Muslim? You go to an Islamic school?

The one right here? Mashallah. Does anyone go to a public school? Good? Are the majority of your classmates Muslim or non Muslim?

You have some Muslim classmates. But most of them, are they Muslim or non Muslim? Not Muslim. Exactly right. But you still have to be good to your neighbors, meaning those who live around you as well as and this extends to, when we're sitting in class, we have neighbors next to us, right? We have neighbors to the right, we have neighbors to the left neighbors in front of us. Those are classmates, they're our neighbors in class. So we still have to be good to our neighbors, whether they're Muslim, or non Muslim, okay. And then he mentioned the pious as well as the sinful. Now the pious we can understand that we're good to our our neighbors, so long as they're pious, but our

neighbors that are sinful, why is it that we have to be nice to our neighbors that are sinful? Who can tell us from the adults? Why should we be nice to sinful neighbors?

To give them Dawa? Exactly.

Now, our neighbors, if they're non Muslim, are they going to be sinful? Yes. Because the mere fact that they are non Muslim in itself is a sin.

Our neighbors that are Muslim, are they sinful? Yes, because we as Muslims, we are still sinful ourselves. Right? None of us is free from committing sin. So our neighbors, whether Muslim, or non Muslim, pious or not pious, meaning sinful, we still have to be nice to our neighbors, to the extent as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that he thought Allah would make it such that our neighbors would inherit from us. That's how nice we have to be to them. Even if they're sinful. Even if they're drinking alcohol and throwing those bottles of alcohol on our grass or on our property, we go and we clean it up, and we tried to be nice to them. And that in itself is an example. And I

know many of you are thinking, Wait a second, it's a bottle of alcohol, we shouldn't touch it. It's on your property. It's empty. You're not consuming it, you're removing it. It's permissible. Okay, you're removing it from your property, you're cleaning the area from something that is dirty. Something that well actually, it's maybe an empty bottle, which is not really dirty, it's glass, it's permissible to touch, right. But some hemella a lot of us think, oh, we can't touch it. And I know when we were children, how many of the children would see a beer bottle cap on the ground and think, Oh, I can't touch this. Right? It's not just I can't touch it. I know when we were growing

up, that was the case, because no one ever explained it to us in detail. Now you don't have any need to pick it up. But the point is, if it's dirty, and you need to remove it and put it in the garbage, pick it up and remove it.

Okay, then that goes for anything that's harmful.

The then he goes on to mention category number five, and six, the friend as well as the enemy. So the friend and the enemy if our neighbor is our friend, should we be nice to them? Yes. If our neighbor is our enemies, should we be nice to them? Yes. The neighbors to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when they were living in Medina, were they the enemies of the Muslim mean?

Yes, they were. At times they actually took up arms. At times, they tried to harm one another. Right? At times, they even tried to poison the profits for the longer either us elements, some of the other companions will be a long run home. They were their enemies, no doubt. But the Muslims were still nice to them. The Muslims still showed a good example to those that were even their enemies.

And a prime example for this. We went over the chapters and we spoke about the Battle of how at the very beginning, the first battle, the Battle of budder. When the Sahaba of the Aloha and whom were faced with the enemies on, you know, in the battlefield, who were those enemies, their own family members, their own fathers, their own sons, their own cousins, their own uncles, their own nephews.

They were their enemies, but they still had a relationship. On the battlefield. They were the enemy. off of the battlefields. They were people that they still had to fulfill. Srila Torre Rahim, and biro validate, they still had to be nice and kind to one another. And so the same goes

For our neighbors, then we look at the next two categories, the stranger,

as well as the resident.

If our neighbor is a stranger or our resident, we still have to be nice to them. And this goes to show us that the person who's living next to us might be there for a year, two years, 10 years, and we get to know them, and we're nice to them. But even the person who is a stranger, they come for a night or two nights, maybe they're visiting, they're visiting our neighbor, we still need to be nice to them, we have to be kind to them, we have to show respect to them. And it shows us the importance of going and fulfilling the rights of the neighbors, that that person may only be there for two days for three days for maybe even one night, and is our It is our responsibility as Muslims to go in to

show them a good example of Islam immediately and as quickly as possible without disturbing them. So if they're tired, let them rest. Don't go over and be like, hey, come over, come into my house, I'm going to recite Surah Baqarah for you, and then I'm going to give you some food, and then we're going to stand awake for pmla all night long. And I'm going to show you what we do in our prayers. Right? No, don't, don't abuse it, don't harm them, don't make them feel uncomfortable, but rush towards bringing them closer to Islam. Then he mentioned that helpful as well as the harmful now we've gone over this those that are nice to us kind and gentle, those that might be harmful towards

or against us. The near and the strange, right?

The one whose residence is nearer to one who's sorry, the one whose residence is near to us, and the one whose residence is far and we'll see in a hadith. Maybe at the beginning of next week in sha Allah Allah, how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the distance with regards to neighbors, if the neighbor just the house next to you, and the house beside you and in front of you, or has been neighbor, the house beside them, and the house beside them, and the house beside them, and how far is our neighborhood. And that's important for us to highlight the word neighborhood and not just neighbor. Because in Islam, there's no such thing as just a neighbor, that your neighbor

has rights upon you. Your neighborhood has respond has rights upon you, the people who live around you, all of them have rights upon you. In the next idea of who should I was sorry, about the long run. He said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, she last day should be good to his neighbor. Now we all know this Hadith, we hear it all the time as an authentic hadith. Whoever believes in Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and the Last date should be good to his neighbor. He also continues to say Whoever believes him a lot and the last day should be generous to his guests. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should say what is

good or be shining.

Now I love to quote this last part of the Hadeeth right you hear me say it all the time. When can you be lazy? Well Yomi folio pool hiren Alia Smith, whoever believes in Allah Subhana Allah and the Last Day should say that which is good or remain silent. Don't say anything at all. If you have nothing good to say remaining silent is the best thing that you can say. But before that the Prophet for the longer Anna usnm says whoever believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala in the last day, he should be good to his neighbor.

How do we be good to our neighbors who can give us examples?

For candy because you're my neighbors I need to be good to you.

Yes.

By doing what helped your neighbors by doing what

Okay, so if your neighbor has a lot of garbage and they have a difficult time taking it out, then go and help your neighbor right that's very good. Just pass that down to me. Yes.

So help them with their yard work if they're tired such as mowing the lawn maybe doing some gardening for them right. Can you catch? Yeah, I can't throw so be careful. Yes.

Good Mashallah. So helping the neighbor his his neighbors he actually did help his neighbors he's saying a few times by mowing the lawn and helping with you know, the leaves and raking and stuff like that catch. Good. Who else? Yes.

When your neighbor is mad, calm him down. How?

Very good. So your neighbor might have you know, had a funeral or something happened in the family and he's really upset calm him down by sending him a gift right?

Sometimes you don't actually have to go and feed them. They might look at you and punch you in the face, right? But you go online and you buy something, use your father's credit card or whatever, right? And you buy them something and send it to them catch. Right? So some handler, those are ways that we can we can help our neighbors. Anyone else. Do you want to say something? Yes.

Sorry.

giving them food during Ramadan. Very good. Absolutely great. Right. And we shouldn't only do that only during Ramadan, we should do it throughout the rest of the year as well. We should be sending things over to our neighbors making them feel as though Subhanallah You know, there's something there's there's someone important living next to me. And we're, we're, you know, we are Muslim? Yes, we consider ourselves important. But we should let our neighbors feel as though the person who lives next to me, who might just be a janitor at a school, but they are important, because they care about me. They take care of me. They send things over to my house, right? So regardless of our status in

society, they still feel as though some handler the people next to me, they're important. catch some last one. Yes.

You raised your hand. You just want to candy. Yeah. Okay. There you go. All right.

So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever believes in the last day, and sorry, whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day Now it's important for us to highlight this. Whoever believes in Allah, and the last day must be good to their neighbors. You ask yourself, how many of us are really good to our neighbors? How many of us have been living next to our neighbors for maybe a year, two years, three years, five years, 10 years and we don't even know the neighbor's name.

We see their car. We see their their their driveway filled with snow, and we don't have the courtesy to go into clean the driveway. We don't even know their name. We don't even know how many children they have. We don't know if they're married or not married. We don't know anything about them. But we've we've lived next to them for so many years. Now, the question is, if we don't know a single thing about our neighbors, and the profit from the longer either usnm says that you will not that whoever believes them along the last date should be good to their neighbors. You ask yourself is my Eman really complete.

Is my Eamon is my belief in Allah Subhana Allah to Allah complete, have I fulfilled my responsibility, not to the neighbor to Allah subhanho wa Taala. He's asking me to respect the neighbors. He's asking me to look after my neighbors, and then the profit for the long run. I know you have some dimensions, whoever believes in Allah Subhana Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his guests. How many times do we receive guests, and we can't wait for them to leave our house. Right? A guest comes to stay over the first day. It's nice, we enjoy it. They sit down, we make tea, coffee, have chips and cookies, and you know, Chai and all that nice, beautiful, lovely

stuff in the night. And we have long, long discussions at night. The next day, we go out with them. And then they come home and we're tired. They're tired, where we're like, oh, we still have to entertain the guests. And then you have to go and get food and maybe you order out food. That's the second day. Okay, at the end of that day, then then the third day you start to feel exhausted. You're like, when are they going to leave? This is you know, disrupting my schedule. This is annoying. And I'll give you an example. When I was in Medina, I toured Saudi Arabia. And I went down to Abuja. And when I was in Abuja, I met I met some of the most

kind people, some of the most generous people as well, in terms of their hospitality, not that they were just throwing money at you, because a lot of the time when many people living in the West think of people from Saudi Arabia, they just think of a lot of money just flowing out their pockets, right. I'm talking about kindness and generosity in terms of their, their personality that they would look after you. I had a friend of mine, who I met in Heathrow Airport when I was transiting one day. He was a Saudi, he was coming to Canada to Vancouver to study English. And I was going back to Medina to study to continue my studies, right. And so Pamela, this brother, I met him for about

two hours in the airport, and we kept in touch for the next two years. Two years later was the first time I met him again. When I went to Abuja, I gave him a call and said, I'm coming to your city. He took three days off of work, without pay. He paid for our hotels, he took us sightseeing, he brought us around. He brought us to even family members who had like arctica he brought us to enjoy it to see the culture and everything. And when we were leaving, he asked us he said have I fulfilled my my responsibility upon you have I have I achieved what you expected. And we were like, you know what you did more than enough. You did more than what we could ever imagine. No one has ever treated us

this nicely. He said Are you sure you positive said positive

Right, we're absolutely sure you've done more than we can ever, you know, give back to you. And he said, Well handed in that. So I asked him, I said, Why are you so concerned? This is actually the law in our country in Saudi Arabia,

that if they are not kind to their guests,

the guests up to a certain amount of days, I think it's five days, the guest can take his host to court for not being a good host.

That's part of our Dean, look at that, that they've made it a law.

As a Muslim, you must look after your guest. And if you don't, your guest can take you to court. Now who would ever imagine my guest who's staying in my house is taking me to court? Who are you? I said, Do I close you I gave you a place to stay. I give you a shower, I give you whatever you needed, took you around, and you're taking me to court. Yeah, because you didn't fulfill the rights upon

look at look at our Dean, how important it is that they've made it a law, that the guest can take the host to court for not being a good guest and for not being a good host. And somehow that stuck with me forever. that stuck with me up until today that was you know, many, many years ago, 10 years ago. And some handle, I still remember it as though it was today.

If we look at the commentary here very quickly, it says.

And this Hadeeth also shows that actions are from the aspects of emotion. And we highlighted this previously, that our actions can actually affect our men. In the footwear that I gave two weeks ago, right here in the mustard, we mentioned how the lowest level of emotion is to remove something harmful from the pathway, the walkway of people and put it aside. Therefore, our actions actually affect our emotion. And that's why it's important for us to learn this book. And it's important for our children to study this as well to learn how valuable their actions really are, when they go to school, and they smile at people that want to punch them in the face. Or they go and they tell the

teacher rather than punching the person back. That's important. That's important because our youth learn that they can increase their emotion by doing good values, good morals, rather than harming others, and they will become closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the question always arises, how can I raise my emotion?

Many people always ask this question, how can I increase my email? How can I get closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala do the small actions that you know, do the small actions that you know of and your email will slowly start to increase? But do them with the intention of getting closer to Allah? Do them with the intention of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala if you do them with the wrong intention, you will not benefit. You won't benefit. All right, so you have to do it with the right intention. Chapter 56 Hadeeth number 103.

The neighbor's right.

anemic dad ignore us what are the alohar and said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked his companions about fornication and they said, it is how long forbidden so the companions tell the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he questions them, right. So he's asking his companions, there'll be a lot of random. They said it is hot, um, it's forbidden. Online, His Messenger have forbidden it. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, it is less serious for a man to fornicate with 10 women than for him to fornicate with his neighbor's wife.

He asked them about stealing. So He then asked this habit of the long run, what about stealing? Can you tell me about stealing? And they replied to him and said it is from Allah and His Messenger have forbidden it. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replies and says, it is less serious for a man to steal from 10 houses than it is for him to steal from his neighbor's house.

Now we'll suffice with discussing the second part of the Hadeeth because there's youth here, young children, and we all get the idea. But the second part of the Hadeeth highlights the first part is well, the part that the profits are, the longer it will send them as mentioning that it's important or it's worse, actually, for us to harm our neighbors than it is to harm 10 other households. Now the example that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is giving he's not giving us the permission to go and do this. Okay, you know what, steal from five houses. It's okay. Just don't steal from your neighbor. No, that's not what he's saying. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling

us that it is bad, and it's hot on and forbidden to steal as his companions reiterated, right? They mentioned it's how long to steal a law and His Messenger have made it how long to steal.

And so the profit for the longer it was send them says if you steal from 10 houses, that's not working.

Then stealing from your neighbor, which goes to show us as we see here, because a person should be safe in the hands of their neighbor, person, a person should be safe in the hands of their neighbor. And it's more serious for the neighbor to betray this trust.

And and to commit a sin with their neighbor's wife, or to steal from his house. And the transgression is worse when is directed at the relatives. So even though it's worse to take from your neighbor than it is to take from 10 houses, it's even worse to take from your relative than it is to take from your neighbor. Look at that. But how many of us treat our relatives worse than our neighbors?

The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam encourages us to be nice to people in general,

whether our neighbors or not our neighbors, but to take from 10 Homes is worse. When you're gone when you're away. When you've traveled. For example, when I travel, I expect my neighbors to look after my family, whether they're Muslim or non Muslim. And they expect more from my Muslim brothers and sisters, who might not even be my neighbors to look after my family when I'm not there. And the same goes for others when they travel when they're not around. And we gave the example before of how there might be a child sitting here amongst us right now, who on the way home today, the father or the mother, or maybe even both in a car accident, they die.

And the family members of that child bring them back to the mustard tomorrow, or next week, for example, when we have our Holocaust. And the child sits in the halaqa sits down with us and doesn't even miss their parents.

Because the people sitting around them fill that gap. They fill the void of their parents. And they take care of them and they look after them. And that's what's important for us to do. as Muslims, as neighbors as believers in Allah subhanho wa Taala we have to look after one another. It's important it's part of our Deen and so we ask Allah Subhana Allah to make it easy for us to do that. Chapter 57

one should begin with one's neighbors. Even Omar

are the Allahu anhu Omar said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said gibreel kept on enjoining me to treat neighbors well until I thought that he would make them

our errors, right? Those that inherit from us. So we won't go over this hadith because it's very similar. And it's just under a different chapter heading one should be one should begin with one's neighbors. Okay, so begin by looking after your neighbors because they are the closest ones to you. They live closest to your house. The next Hadeeth Mujahid said

that a sheep was slaughtered for Abdullah in the long run. He said to his servants, have you given some to our Jewish neighbor? So I'm delighted that Emma has this sheep that was slaughtered for him.

And he said to his servant, the servant of his, he says, Have you given some of this to our Jewish neighbor?

And he says it again. He says it a second time. He says have you given some to our Jewish neighbor? Have you given some to our Jewish neighbor, he says it twice.

And then he tells his servants, he says I heard the messenger of a loss of the lover and he will send them say gibreel alayhis salaam kept on in joining me to treat neighbors well until I thought that they would make them heirs. So Allah Subhana Allah shows us through this example of this habit of the Allahu anhu that the concern that had been normal, the Allahumma had for his Jewish neighbor was so great, even though he was not even a Muslim.

He was not a Muslim. They were Jewish, their neighbors were Jewish. Right. But he still was concerned about the neighbors. And the next Hadeeth as well is basically the same just the internet is different. The chain of narration is different. In chapter 58. Give to the neighbor whose door is the nearest to you give to your neighbor whose door is nearest to you. So now we start to get into the distances. So it'll be a long line has said I heard the Messenger of Allah sent along to us send them say

three. All right, he said it'll be a long line. He said, I said, O Messenger of Allah. So she said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I have two neighbors, too. Which of them should I give my gifts? So she's asking the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Who should I give gifts to? I have two neighbors Which one should I give the gifts to? He said to the one whose door is nearer to you.

The one whose door is nearer to you. So you have to be nicer to the closest first, and then to those that come after. And we see in the commentary of this hadith that it teaches us three things, firstly, being the importance of knowing the rulings regarding an action before doing it. So I shall be alone on how she goes. And she asked the Prophet salallahu, alayhi wasallam. Before she actually does it, today, we do the opposite. We go and we do an action, whatever it is that we're doing in life, whether it's a business transaction, the sale, dealing with something, buying a car, buying a house, whatever it is, right? We go and we do it first. And then we go and we asked, Is this

permissible? Why because we're like, oh, we're already stuck. Now. We can't change it right? Or I already did that. I can't change myself. Now. I already did the action.

It was, it was a habit of this habit of the Aloha home to ask the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam first, before they did it. So for our youth, that go to school, for example, you might have a class at school, that the teacher tells you tomorrow we're going to do this tomorrow, we're going to study that. Go and ask your parents. Is it okay for me to take this class? It is, is it okay for me to sit in this music class? Is it okay for me to sit in this phys ed class and the parents know what we're talking about, right? So we have to go and ask. As children, it's important that we ask, always ask your parents before you do something. Can I go with so and so person? Can they play this sport? Can

I do this with my friends? asked your parents first before you do it. Okay. The second thing we learned from this, Heidi, that it is better to do that which is more rewarding in terms of deeds. So I said of the alohar, I now wanted to get more rewards, she could have easily given to one of the two. But she wanted to know what was better. According to the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, what is going to get me more rewards? Can I get more by giving to one other than over the other. And that's what we've learned from this head eat as well. And the third thing that we get from it is that the neighbor who lives near has a greater right to be treated kindly. So the person who lives

right next door to us and many of us live in townhouses, right. And then we share the walls with our neighbors. I know in my house, this is the first time in my life I lived in a townhouse, right? And Subhanallah The walls are so close. Actually, the second time The first time was the previous house I was living in which was just down Burnham thought

the walls were so you know, close to each other, that you can hear if the neighbors listening or watching TV. Right? You can hear what's happening in your neighbor's house. The house that I'm living in now, right, the townhouse SubhanAllah. The vents are shared. So the vent you know when you go in your bathroom and you turn the vent on, to turn the fan on. It's shared and our neighbor, right? Sometimes you smell smoke in our house. When I moved in. I was wondering, where's this smoke coming from? Where's the smoke? I don't understand How come my house smells like smoke. When we came to see the house, there was no cigarettes sent. All of a sudden we move into the house and we're

smelling cigarettes. And so I asked some of my you know, friends and colleagues, I said How come I'm smelling cigarette smell in my house and no one smokes, and I feel bad. Sometimes you invite a guest over and they come over like Mashallah shack smokes, right? You know, it's strange. And now anyone who comes to my house, I have this disclaimer that I tell them when they walk through the door, just so you know, when you go to wash your hands, you might smell cigarettes, it's not me. It's the vents that are shared. And I had to ask my friends and they said, you know, in the townhouses, sometimes the two houses side by side, the vents big, they go up, you know, they go up from the house, and

then they connect. And so if someone is smoking in one house, the fumes will come into the other house.

And so you live so close to one another, but we don't even know their names.

You might only learn about your neighbor because you learn Oh, that person smokes because the smoke is coming through the vents. But you never even went to see them. You don't even know if they're 18 1920 years old in order to be able to smoke, right? So we have to get to know one another. The closest to us. Our most important first and foremost. I remember it happened to us once where we left went to the masjid this Ramadan came here. I taught the Tafseer right during Ramadan, then went to Milton prayed Isha thought our we did the hotter the little you know tequila after Florida. After thought we went home realized our garage door remained open the entire time. It's about six or seven

hours at least. The door was open

in the middle of

The night we coming home at one o'clock at night, the door to the house is wide open the largest door, you can literally walk right into our house.

And some handler, you get this text message from the neighbor, your door is open. That's amazing.

It's amazing that your neighbor is letting you know your doors open. And you can actually tell them go and close the door. And it happened another time where a friend of my wife's drove by and saw our house and said your garage door is open. But I don't see a car there. And some handle on when we moved to this house because of that button that you push to close the garage door, we got used to you know, just pushing the button. And sometimes when you're in a rush, you forget to push the button. At least you know that when you're good to your neighbors, your neighbors will look after your house when you're not there. They will call you if they see something is strange. They will let

you know that there's a problem. And they will help you at times when you least expect people to come and help you. So we asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for us to learn about the the beautiful life of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and how important it is for us to behave nicely as human beings. And school is going to begin and we you know, comment again and remind our youth that it's important for you to be nice to your classmates, you are Muslims, you look after the rest of your class, you have to be the classmates who everyone respects who everyone expects you to be the, you know, the leader in your class, whether you're five years old, whether you're 20 years

old, whether you're in university, and you might even be retired, I know when I was doing my master's degree, I had a 67 year old classmate 67 years old, retired. But it's important for us to be an example for the rest of society in China. So that's why it's important for us and we asked the lesson how to add it to help us to learn the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and to implement it best in our lives as much and as easy as we possibly can mean or subtle or senemo. American and Amina Mohammed weida it yourself.

Questions?

I'm pretty sure that some refreshments out there, but we'll do questions.

Yes. And the weight just be loaded before you continue. If any sisters have any questions, and they want to either open the door and ask the question or write it down, please do so.

So let's say three houses, right, or four houses and these two, right four houses, you're always helping these and this one is left out. But that's why this one is supposed to be helping that one, right? So everyone's neighbors supposed to helping you supposed to be helping each other out. That's the first thing. Second of all, as we mentioned, you're supposed to be nicest or most serving towards your closest neighbor. But you're also also supposed to be that way towards the neighbors that are further away. And we'll see when we begin next week in sha Allah with the distances right as a prophet shot along it was Allah mentioned to mention the distance what is regarded as a

neighbor? Is it one house two houses three houses? Right? And it's actually pretty far, right? pretty far. For some of us, it might be right to the end of our street. For others, it might be a few blocks away. So it's important for us to be nice to all of the neighbors that are around us, regardless of the distance, but be slightly, you know, pay slightly more attention to those that are immediately right next to us right beside us.

Right.

All right.

Okay, so the question is for the sisters, and those that didn't hear, it's, it's good to exchange gifts, right. And for every child that's here, you can come and get a gift after. So it's good to exchange gifts with our neighbors, and sometimes our neighbors exchange gifts with us. And it does happen that sometimes they give us something that we as Muslims cannot consume. Right. And we spoke about this right? At the very beginning of the book, when he spoke about um, it'll be a long run, receiving a gift and then giving it away. Right? So for example, the brothers mentioning that you receive a box of chocolates, and in the box of chocolates, there's an ingredient that you're not

allowed to consume, for example, gelatin, right?

Or it could even, you know, be some some other ingredient that's in there. So for example, if it's gelatin, right, and we get this this box of chocolates, what

Can we do with it? No, we don't consume the box of chocolates, if we know that this is how long it's a hot on product for us, we don't consume it. However, we are allowed to give that product away to someone who is non Muslim, for them to consume.

Because it is okay for them to consume it. They do consume it according to the to the to the dean or the no Dean that they follow. Right. So for example, in the, in the example that we took at the beginning of the book on metal Viola and received a gift of a robe that was made out of what silk you remember. And what did he do? He took it and he gave it to

who was non Muslim? Right? So he gave it away to a non Muslim? Can Muslim men wear robes or any clothing that is silk? No, but can a non Muslim? I mean, they do, right? They don't follow Islam, and they do whatever they want to do. So he gave it away to them. So we can give that gift away to someone else. But we ourselves don't consume it. However, if it's something that is haram for us to consume, as well as how long for us to do.

So alcohol, for example, we are not allowed to buy sell trade, you know, deal with interact with it. So if that's the case, then just throw it in the garbage. Okay, just throw it in the garbage.

don't consume it, don't give it to someone, just throw it in the garbage. Because the effects that the alcohol has on the non Muslim as well as the Muslim whoever consumes it is an effect that is not permissible. the very reason why that ingredient is not permissible is because of the effect that it has on the human body. Alright, so we don't gift those gifts to anyone, even though it is not permissible for us to consume. We're not to deal with it or to trade with it or to interact with it. So we just throw it in the garbage. Okay.

Anyone else? Have a question? Don't be shy. You're going to school on Tuesday, right?

Okay, so you live in the middle, and you have a house to your right and a house to your left, and they're both equal distance away from you, who do you give a gift to? You go back to the store, you buy another gift and you give one to each.

Or you split it in half, and you give half to this one. And after that one half to this one. And after that one, okay. And I'm taking from the example of being nice to our children. Remember the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was when he was dealing with with family members who had given one gift to one child and not to others, he said, either give that gift to the other children or to the other child as well, or take it away. Right? So we should try and do some sort of justice. Maybe this time, you can give it to one neighbor. And next time give it to the other neighbor. Okay, switch. Alright, so maybe you don't have enough money to buy a gift for both of them. All right.

Yes. Go here first.

All right.

You guys are getting too technical now.

Okay, so you guys are understanding the neighbor as one neighbor,

the neighbor, or all those that live around you.

Even if it's 2345 houses, if you're all right beside each other, those are all your neighbors, those are your closest neighbors, the rest to live away. Those are the further though those are the neighbors that live a little bit further away. So a neighbor is not one person, it could be many people, you might have one house next to you. And there's only two houses on your street, your house and their house. But in their house, there's 10 people that live there. Does that mean you have to be good to one person in the house are all 10 all 10. Similarly, if you're one house and around you, there's 10 houses and all 10 houses share the same property. They're all in the same sort of complex

same area, you have to be good to all of those 10. All right.

So don't think of the neighbor as one person. The neighbor is, like I said, neighborhood, we should think of it as a neighborhood, that it's many people who live around us, not only one person or one household, but many households.

Yes. Now that gets into actual Darwin techniques. So for example,

You, the brothers saying? Wouldn't it be polite to explain to your neighbor that there's certain products or certain things that you can consume? Yes. And that's the whole point of getting to know our neighbors, that when you get to know them, they start to ask you questions about your deen. They see that you're talking to them and you say, Oh, you know what, it's time for me to pray I have to go pray. Now it's time for Mohammed, the sun is setting, right? So they asked you what is this prayer? Why do you have to pray at this time? So eventually you start to talk about Deen. And that's how you bring people closer to Islam by developing this relationship with them. Whether they accept

Islam or not, they become understanding of your deen they become understanding of your way of life. And they then will respect you based on the type of person you are and the type of of religion or path that you've chosen. Alright, so yes, it's important to explain it to them. But also have, you know, some sort of an understanding of your neighbors? Sometimes a neighbor might get upset and say, oh, wow, all these times I've been giving you gifts, you haven't been able to consume them. Right? So what have you been doing with my gifts? throwing them in the garbage? Right? So you have to use wisdom in that, right, use wisdom in it, and maybe go about educating them in a way that they don't

feel hurt. Okay. We have a few more minutes before the event. inshallah, if anyone has any more questions. Yes.

Right.

No. So the question was, are we allowed to use or wear shoes that are made with?

skin that comes from TIG right leather that comes from pig? So pig skin?

No, the majority of the scholars say no. All right, that we're not allowed to.

Because the

Yeah, that's what I said that the majority of the scholars say that you can't, the majority.

Of course, when you say the majority say you cannot that means that there is a minority that says you can, right?

Yeah, but that but we go with the majority. Why do we go with the majority? Because that's the safest bet. Right? It's not even a bet.

Am I applying democracy on Islam?

This is

so we go with her job. The Her job is that the majority of the scholars based on the based on the delille. And the proofs that are there, the majority of the scholars say because of Let's forget about majority, the scholars look at the proofs. And based on the proofs. There's a larger amount of scholars that say because of these proofs, it's how long you can't use it, because of the proofs. Now, for us, we look at what those major scholars have said.

And because of the proofs, a large portion of the scholars have gone with it and being not permissible. So we will follow that if someone wants to go with the minority. That's their decision that's up to them. They follow the scholars that allow it but we can't sit here and say, Okay, this scholar says this one says that no one says there's more than form of that. There's a lot more than form of that hip. When you look at fichte. In general, you can get sometimes on one Mashallah over 110 115 different opinions from scholars. So who do you go with? This is why we make it easier by going with the majority, the majority that agree on the on the evidences and the proofs that

actually have some sort of weight. Now, we can't go in detail, obviously, in a q&a session. With regards to all the minute details. I can go into detail with this, but we don't have time for that. Right. So we simply say the majority says this. No, we're not using democracy in the dean. But this is just a method that in a short q&a session, this is how we respond to the to the answer. Now, for those obviously that hear it, yes, if the majority says that is not permissible, we know automatically, there must be a minority that say it is permissible. And yes, there is a minority that says it is permissible because of the tanning because of the the chemicals that are used, that

it is permissible. However, we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even though that process was there and was used also during the time of the Sahaba of the 11. home, they didn't use it. So we still go with it being not permissible.

Anyone else we have one more minute.

Going once going twice. Yes.

We will start with that next week.

So you gave the answer away.

So we'll start with that headies next week inshallah all right

Yes, so the Hadith are compiled they're put together by amount of bodies.

Yes.

Yes. And we highlight them. We mentioned them especially those that have the book they can see it and sometimes we mentioned this one is a weak Heidi this one the chain is weak. This one is good or hash on Heidi right or the chain is good and Hassan or the the actual narration is, is weak. So we highlight that when when it does come up, and

we'll end there in Sharla digikam Hello, Hayden and some Law Center more Vatican NTV now Mohammed while earlier Shafi was running