Daood Butt – 30 in 30 – Ramadan 20221443 – Day 5

Daood Butt
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of following user's desires and avoiding harming their feelings. They emphasize the need for everyone to be mindful of their preferences and allow their own desires to fall through the cracks. The importance of following one's desires and respecting family members' privacy is emphasized. The speakers also touch on the negative impact of social media and divorce, as it is a act of worship. The importance of privacy and privacy in homes is also emphasized. The speakers emphasize the need for people to hold onto their parents' hearts and trust them, and the importance of working together and not just taking time away from work.
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hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen wa sallahu alayhi wa sallam who are in the V Hill Kelly, and they have total salat wa tema Tasneem apostrophe Saturday when Sidley Emily we're having a look at the tender descending of Kabul quoting my brothers and my sisters said Mr. Ajay Kumar how to ye Roboto Catherine

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so as usual I'm going to suggest if any of the sisters want to come through to sit in the back of the main prayer hall feel free to do so you can come through the great doors or you can open up Inshallah, that way you can benefit from it, Nina tidy

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so today, in short amount of time that we're going to be going through the fifth juice of the Quran, it is the fifth day of Ramadan, tonight will be the sixth tonight in shorter lines. The month is when we think of it just started, but it's already going very fast. And so when we think of the fifth jewels of the Quran, it begins by continuing what we left off with in the last verse of the fourth Josias, the fourth Jos ends by talking about all the categories of people that a person is able to get married to within Islam. Okay, and so anyone who's interested in marriage, right, then you can always go there and see which categories of people you are able to get married to, and those

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that we are not allowed to. We're going to start with verse number 26. And sha Allah will go from 26 to 32. To start with, and here Allah Subhana Allah Allah says, they'll be learning initiative on and watching Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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Allah subhanaw taala begins by telling us what He desires for us, what Allah subhanho wa Taala wishes for us as human beings as his creation. He says, you read the law who do you may in Allah calm, it is Allah's Will, to make things clear to you where your idea comes soon and then letting them in public. And to guide you to the noble way of those who came before you

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will love my name on Hakeem and to turn to you in mercy. So Allah subhanho wa and to add that showing us that he wants mercy for us. He shows us the way and that way of living is a way that is in the Mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala indicating to us that he knows we are going to struggle, he knows that we are going to turn to him asking and begging. And Allah Subhana Allah is telling us that we are going to be in His mercy, that it's okay, you are going to make mistakes, you're going to fall short. Nothing is perfect. If I asked you or myself, how was the last prayer you just finished praying?

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Would you consider your answer to prayer that you just prayed? Perfect?

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Would you consider it complete? Would you consider that you had full concentration, full devotion, full dedication to Allah subhana wa Tada that it was the perfect ideal Salah tell us that you ever prayed it because every aspect of prayer will be better and better than the previous one? And of course the answer to that would be no. Why? Because we all tell ourselves maybe I could have done extra Vica in my report or such that maybe I could have done something better. Maybe I could have recited more beautifully, maybe I could have just focused a little bit more. So no prayer is ever going to be perfect. And it is with the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala that he accepts our prayers,

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that we submit ourselves to Him as best as we can. And we continue to try to become better. But despite that, we will never achieve perfection because he is perfect. Allah Subhan Allah data is perfect, not us. But we need His mercy and His Rama. And he says in verse number 27 of Surah Nisa will love your ego and you do have a headache. And it is Allah's Will, to turn to you in grace, not only mercy and grace, you have to let it come. This comes from the word tilba tilba you turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala you repent you submit ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada accepts that submission because he's

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sees that you are humbling yourself. So Allah subhanaw taala wants to show that to us as well. Allah is the One who is most humble and he accepts from us won't really do anything valid from where you really need to be your own nationality and to meet who made another email. But those who follow their desires, their own desires, and do whatever they want. Those who follow their own desires, wish to see you deviate entirely from the way of Allah subhana wa Tada. They wish to see us go away from Allah.

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Now, when you think of this, those who sway away from the path of Allah subhanho wa taala.

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And they know that you are upon the truth, they know that you are sincere, they know that you are genuine, they know that you are trying your best to come closer to Allah.

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But they can't achieve what you achieve.

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Sometimes jealousy kicks in, and they try to pull you away from it. And they follow their desires. So they tried to encourage us to follow our desires, right? And remember our loss handler data says and we'll look at this another day in sha Allah, that those who worship those who follow their own desires are worshipping none but their own selves.

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They're worshiping their own selves because they've given in to submitting to themselves. They agreed to submit to do what they want to do. In verse number 28, Allah subhana wa Tada says UD Domo and you will have FIFA golden. Well, when he said viry, and it is Allah's Will to lighten your burdens, Allah wants things to become easier for us. But the test is, when things are good, we never turn to Him. When things go difficult, we then turn to Him. The moment Allah subhanaw taala lessens the burden, we start to forget him. And so a test may come back on. And at times, we forget that it is good to be under pressure. It's the pressure you'll notice you know someone who's doing business,

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right people in business, they know when you're under pressure you deliver. When there's no pressure you kick back and relax. So the pressure is needed. And the same in the dean, Allah subhanaw taala puts a little bit of pressure on us. Not too much that we can't bear but he puts a little bit on us so that it keeps us on our toes. Imagine if life was perfect. Would we come to the masjid and ask Allah? Would we sit at night and raise our hands and beg from Allah subhanaw taala Yeah, Allah. Everything is perfect in life. Like, I don't really know why I'm sitting here right now. Right? It's because we're going through hardships and challenges that we turn to Him. But Allah subhanaw taala

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wants to see that we turn to him as well at times of ease, to do chakra to thank him for the goodness that we have. Thank him for the ease. And what we see happening is that people who follow their desires thank themselves, they say it is because of me that this happened. It's because of my actions that I earned this much. It's because of what I've done in my life that I've handled in love my family is the way that it is in fact, they probably wouldn't even say Alhamdulillah because that's praising or thanking Allah for everything. Right so they think of themselves as the ones who are achieving things and forget about a lost man with Allah. Then Allah subhana wa Tada says,

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Yeah, and you are letting

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come in. I can have you come Rahim. Verse number 29. All believers Yeah.

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How many times in the Quran? Do we hear this being set? Just this? Yeah, you're listening to Alma.

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It's like a loss of $100 way of waking us up.

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And every single time we hear it, whether we know Arabic or not, you now know. Yeah. Johan leadin. Amanu is calling you as believers, all you who have believed, technically it's in the past tense, right? Those of you who have already submitted and you do believe you believe then you continue to believe.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala is trying to get our intention lert Kulu and Werner conveyed a convey about it. Do not devour one another's wealth illegally in ways that are not not permitted. Islamically

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but rather trade by mutual consent. When you do business, remember yesterday we're talking about a transaction, someone purchasing gold or silver and then saying well I'll pay later. No, you buy it, you pay for it now.

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But Allah subhanaw taala showing us here he says

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What that's up to you and for second and do not kill yourselves or in addition to yourselves one another, do not harm one another. Surely Allah is most merciful to you, and whoever does this sinfully and unjustly will burn ALLAH SubhanA wa Tadesse as we will burn them in the fire.

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That is easy for Allah Romania for identity, or do I know as women for Sophia, mostly in our Canada, Africa? I don't know he is Iran.

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Now, when you think of this, and you stop, and you just pause for a second, how many times do we go to a store to buy something? And we tried to get a deal? I know it's fine at times, especially in the you know, some of you may have come from countries where, you know, bargaining and negotiating the price is the norm, right. So it's normal for you. I know. For me, it wasn't. I remember when I was a kid, and my dad would take us to footlocker to buy a new pair of shoes, you would go in and he started negotiating with the salesperson and it's like some teenager, 1920 year old guy, or woman who was working there and they're like, sir, it's my commission. If I give you any discount, I'm

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gonna lose out you know, and my dad's like, that's okay. What do you need commission for? How many shoes have you sold today? 10. Okay, no problem. So you made your money already. Plus, you're getting paid this other you and I used to sit there going to have the stuff embarrassing. That's right. So how about like, it's like, for him? It's like, No, I'm gonna go into any store supermarket doesn't matter. I'm gonna negotiate like, how do you negotiate six prices in Canada? That's Panama. Sometimes we go even further. How many times do we know the Muslim brother, the Muslim sister. And we go to them and we say, you know, your my Muslim sister and my Muslim brother. We're just getting

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a deal.

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That Muslim brothers sister is getting a deal to every Muslim brother and sister that comes to them. And sometimes it's doable.

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Other times, and this is the majority of the time. It's taking away from that Muslim Brothers Sisters livelihood. Like, yes, it's one thing to do charity, but to force another person to do charity just because you're benefiting or we are benefiting from the charity. That's where it becomes problematic. When we're taking away from someone's livelihood. I have no businesses, Muslim owned businesses that had to shut down because they were constantly giving discounts to the Muslims. And when they close their businesses, they were still in debt. I remember when halal meat store shut down. The brother couldn't afford to keep the store anymore, close the store and still had $8,000 in

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tabs from brothers and sisters in the community that would come and say I'll pay you next week. I'll pay you next week and they never came back to pay close down the business still had $8,000 from the Muslims. Now as a Muslim, shouldn't we be looking after each other? Yes, but is it one Muslim? That's always looking after everyone. And sadly, it's usually the Muslim who everyone says Oh, mashallah brother so and so sisters also has some money at hamdulillah everyone flocks to a person like can you help me? Can you help me? Can you help me? Yes, it's good and hamdulillah Allah has blessed that person or those people with wealth hamdulillah

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it's a blessing from Allah subhanho wa taala, to have that wealth and to be able to help others with it.

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But it's another thing to take advantage of.

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It's one thing to borrow and to return, it's another to take advantage and to say, You know what, we don't care. You might, you might not even have food on your table, but we're gonna suck everything out of you. That's wrong. So what was Metalla showing us here, don't harm each other, do trade respectfully. As much as we want to do when we're sharing or you know, you're trading something, let's say you're trading, you know, something for something else. You want to get the best out of your trade, expect that other person to get the best out of it as well. Especially if it's your Muslim brother or sister, especially if they're a believer, you want them to have the best of this

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dunya so we should always increase in what we give to others not interest, but increasing what we give to them. Right? Whether that increase is good manners, or that increase is welcoming them making them feel you know, at home hospitable, or the increase is it's okay, this this is for you. Right. This is you know, this is what you purchased. This is a gift from us. Right? This is a gift hamdulillah Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for us to understand this and Allah Subhana Allah is telling us don't do this unjustly. Because the reward for doing that to one another is China for harming each other.

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In digit and evil, can you imagine how narrow Fiedler comes? He do you go Manu, the Komodo caddy. I love this verse. Allah subhanho wa Taala showing us here, intelligence and Evoca

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Allah subhanho wa Taala saying if you leave off major sins, we know what major sins are, right? Who can give us examples of major sins?

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Xena, what else? The Rebbe ship, right?

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Murder good. These are examples of major sins, right? Allah subhana was added, saying, If you avoid major sins, sins that are already forbidden for us avoid them, we will absolve you of the lesser sins, the smaller cities, avoid the big ones, Allah Subhana Allah will absolve you of the smaller sins that we've committed and admit you into a place of honor one at a time and no one will be bothered Kumada about and do not crave what Allah has given some of you over what He has given others don't wish for what you see someone else has, even if it is something that you think can benefit you in this world. Don't wish for something that other people have. Sometimes you see

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someone and I use this example all the time. The beautiful candy apple red Ferrari above,

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right or that Ferrari red, not candy apple, the Ferrari red, it's a specific tone of red, right? Beautiful car, Ferrari whatever model it is, if it's a Ferrari, it's a fanatic, right? It's a beautiful Italian fine piece of parts.

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And you drive it and you say or you see someone with you like mashallah about a kilometer Brother Love. Right? Amazing. Absolutely amazing. Like the other day right? After Giovanna. There was a brother who came for Juma and he came with his father. His father went to make Wuhan he took off his Toby and he lifted in the washroom. So his son came back his son is in his 20s. Right, he came back and he had to pick up his father's hat that he lifted left in the washroom, but he came with his brand new Lamborghini Aventador.

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And everyone coming into the mustard knows like Asha, you gotta raise you gotta raise mashallah, you got a new car? It's not like, I'm going in that way. Well, I had Hamdulillah. Because sometimes we wish what other people have

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just a brake job on the car is $25,000 you can afford that. Just tweak the brakes.

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On that beautiful, nice Ferrari $25,000 just to do the brakes. What about the oil change? What about new tires? What if you hit a pothole and you dent your rim? Another 810 grand right there a logo of a commercial? Are you going to be able to afford that the gasoline that goes into it? Because if you have that car, every single stop sign only? Right? You're gonna rip it every single red light, you're gonna rip it right? How much gas are you using SubhanAllah. And you think of it, you're like, I don't want to have what someone else has is too much I can't deal with.

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And then you look at someone else and you say hamdulillah they have happiness. Like I gave this example the other day. And this is me reminding myself of someone who lives in the village somewhere that hardly has anything.

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And we say hamdulillah they have happiness. And it's true when you see them the real happiness and those children and most people, they have nothing. They don't have hot water, hot water. They never heard of hot water. Water. How do you make water hot? Right, it's like you put in a pot, you start a fire and that's how you warm up on water. That's the only way in their minds. Water gets hot. You and I would go to the washroom, turn it on and let it run and then it runs some people turn on the shower. And while the shower is warming, warming up for 6789 10 minutes, you're turning the mustache, you know making sure the beard is done right? Looking in the mirror doing themselves up

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before they get in the shower. And the water is just running and running and running and running hot water. We look at people in other countries who have nothing.

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And I say Man, we wish we had what they have simplicity. If we really, really wish that that means we're wishing for a lot of take everything away from us.

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Now that we've had certain luxuries if we get everything taken away from us, it's not so easy.

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You get sick, you know a little toothache, you want to go to a doctor, there's no doctor, there's no dentist. You're living in a village. You need to get on a motorbike and ride through the desert sometimes for two three days journey to get to a city where there might be a dentist but then you can't afford it.

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And so you say you know what? Just pull the tooth out. It's cheaper than getting it fixed. And this is why we see people struggling as well. Right? They have nothing but they have happiness. Yet at the same time when they're afflicted with something that they can't afford. They can't afford it. And Hamdulillah we take it for granted that we have health care. We complain about it we complain

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about parking and how expensive it is to complain about you know going to the doctor or the dentist you know with the medicine and how expensive it is well you know England has free health care but they also have free prescriptions so you can get your medicine for free so we always look somewhere else that grass is greener on the other side unless penalties and it says one at a time and no method but along the back

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and don't crave what Allah has given some of you over others

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literally died in asleep on the map testable. He says men will be rewarded according to their deeds. When in Nisa in asleep on me Makita said men and women will be accorded what sorry and women will be rewarded according to what they what they earn according to their deeds and Allah's penalties and it says was a lot I mean for the day and ask for His bounties from him ask Allah for His bounties. Don't look at what other people have asked a lot. Yeah, Allah if something is good for me, give it to me. If it is no good for me, save me from it. Save me from that. Sometimes even a spouse, right? People looking to get married, they don't want to get married or want to get married martial law.

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You know, your wife brings you this your husband does that. You know, everyone's looking at it from the outside everyone saying mashallah to Monica. They're living it out, they're enjoying life. But on the inside, the two people are dying.

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They're torn to bits and pieces.

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Sometimes even the spouse,

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turn to Allah subhanho data, ask Allah, Allah make it easy for me, if it's good for me and granted to me, if it's no good for me, protect me from him, protect me from her, protect me from them. Because at times what we see and I see this all the time, you know, I was in prison again today. I do chaplaincy in the prison. You see it. You see people are not happy with each other, but they don't want to take the step to make things easy for them.

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That is permissible. And I always tell people, especially in divorce, and there's a reason why we're getting into this because Allah Subhana Allah talks about women and, and men and marriage and divorce and stuff like that. Even in divorce, divorce is an act of very bad.

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People think of divorce, especially, you know, from the Indian Pakistani subcontinent, you're taught divorce is like, no, no, no, right? Like, you do everything to avoid divorce. Right? These that's what I learned. And Subhan Allah, Allah subhana wa, tada. Yes, it is not something that's preferred. Why do we say it's not preferred? It's not preferred, because by default, we should try our best to keep the family unit together, try your best.

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But if it's really not working, and you've tried everything, you've exhausted all measures, then part in a way that is good and righteous.

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Where you still respecting each other as your Muslim brother and Muslim sister.

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And if we do it in the way that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught us as Muslims to divorce, then that becomes an act of riba as well. And people like what? We thought we get sinned. No, no, it's an act of worship, to do it right according to the way of Allah subhana wa metab shown to us through the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam. And we shouldn't think of it as something bad how many of the Sahaba got married and divorced, married and divorced, to protect themselves to save themselves to you know, not let them go towards harm that exists in society? How is nothing wrong with that? So we've also had with as it says, In Nevada can be cliche in Lima

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surely Allah has perfect knowledge of all things.

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If we skip a verse and go to verse number 35, so we'll have to miss out Allah Subhana Allah says, similar to what I was talking about, What in the 15 shaper club at EMA feather as the one heck mm in the EU, I had mean, ni e read.

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in Canada Hi demon kabhi. Allah subhana wa Tada. He talks about, you know, the importance of men looking after the woman in marriage and how it's their responsibility. That's verse number 34. And like I said, I try not to cover the verses I've already covered. So I've covered that verse in the previous year. So today we skipped the verse number 35. Allah subhanaw taala says what it means to shape aka the Nina. If you anticipate that two people, husband and wife spouse will split, that their marriage will end that they're going to get divorced. So there has to handle Amendment and the Wahaca amendment earlier

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out, then appoint a mediator from his family and another from hers. Bear with me for a second here, I'm going to go on a rant. If they desire reconciliation, Allah will restore harmony between them. If they desire reconciliation, Allah will restore harmony between them. Surely Allah is all knowing, all aware in the law in Canada, and even for the era, my brothers and sisters of US or Canada, or whatever that tells us a quantum mediator from his family, and a mediator from her family.

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What this means here is not necessarily a specific family member from each side,

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appoints someone that this family says we want this person to look after, or to represent, or we want that person to represent. And these two people will come together with the husband and wife and try to make things work.

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However, at the same time, what we see happening is that whenever a dispute happens, between husband and wife, the majority of the time, here in Milton, from what I've experienced, of people who come into my office, is that they go to their family members, they immediately go to their parents or their siblings.

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And the siblings and parents feel like we have to do something about it.

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And they jump in immediately. And they try to resolve the issue by using force.

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That's not the way we resolve something in Islam,

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especially amongst believers, Muslim with Muslims physically grabbing each other, pushing each other hitting each other why? This isn't what the Muslim does to the Muslim. This isn't what the Muslim does to non Muslim as well. But sadly, and strangely, as Muslims, we seem to have a lot more respect for the non Muslim than we do for the Muslim. We feel as though we are entitled over the other Muslim, I can tell you what I want. You know, and you get in the person's face how many times we see it here in the masjid as well. You know, sometimes we're praying especially during Ramadan, people, you know, it's cramped, it's tight to talk to people, I'm irritated, agitated, and someone just said

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something. And I was like, be quiet.

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You know, and people yell things out. Were you like, what you think you have some authority just because you're Muslim. Oh, so now suddenly, you can tell us what to do.

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The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything. Stay quiet.

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Don't say anything. Make an excuse for that person. Make an excuse for what you're seeing happening.

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Pamela, we jump too quickly to say things and we don't make excuses for each other enough.

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Now here, as I was saying, one of the biggest problems that I see is that family members once they get involved, family members are biased.

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I can tell you, it's honestly like one in every 100 cases, maybe two in every 100 cases, where a family member is honest, and just and will come in and say no, you are wrong. You're my daughter, you're my son, but you were wrong.

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That's like one or 2%.

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I remember Subhan Allah a case of a family that came to me,

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the father in law, so the father of the husband

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told his daughter in law

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on Sol sol de at some time, you and the children are going to be home, I'm going to take you to your family. My son is not treating you properly.

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And he knew what was going on between husband and wife. He knew the troubles and the problems that she was going through. And he told his daughter in law.

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You are writing this, I could see how my son is treating you and it's wrong. And I'm sorry, this is not right. This is not right. And as my daughter in law and as your wedding, right, he not worthy, but as your mom, I have the responsibility to look after you. And he told her and they got the children ready, packed up the stuff. And he specifically himself, on his own took responsibility to take his daughter in law and the children away from his son when he was gone to work and brought them to the family. Because he knew that if he did it when the sun was around, it would have been chaos. That's rare. That's rare. Like I honestly when I heard that the father in law did this. I

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want to meet this father in law. I want to go and sit with him and talk to him and ask him how is it that you're able to do this? But then when I think of it as a Muslim, we should all be that way. Because we should see someone who's in need and it doesn't matter who

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Is wronging the person, even if it is our own children, we should go and try to assist the person that is being oppressed. That was an amazing you know,

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example that came right right to my desk. Subhan Allah, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah make it easy for us. So my brothers and sisters, you know, sometimes family when they're involved, they are biased, they are not the best people. This is why we can seek someone that the family approves of. This is what I like what I was paired with Dad is showing us here someone that the family is okay with.

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Right? But they have to be completely okay with it. Not like Okay, on the condition that you work in our favor? No. It has to be you are going to look after this matter. As long as you are doing what you're doing for the sake of pleasing Allah. How Allah subhana wa Tada wants this marriage to be looked after, or this divorce or this case or whatever it is that we're going through.

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And that is not easy to find. Then Allah subhana wa Tada says, a very, very famous idea that we all know

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where to go do more, however, to shriek will be sure he will be will worry that he has

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a one year term wellness dakini well Jerry did

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when he was saw maybe will be will be nice study in one minute at a time

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your head. Ken

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Starr who was one which says Worship Allah alone and associate nun with him. Why are Butoh Baha wala to Sri Gu be che, nun and nothing at all should be a partner with Allah subhanho wa Taala not a person, not an animal, not a being not a creation, not a wall, not a statue stone, nothing nothing. And then Allah subhanho data says what Bill worthy they need asada and be kind to your parents. A lot of the time we misunderstand. And we think and this is a mistake in translations where we say worship Allah or be obedient to Allah, obey Allah obey His messenger and obey your parents. obey Allah obey the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam because what he was sent with is working

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from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada and respect your parents.

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Respect your parents. Because if we were to obey our parents, some of us our parents are not Muslim.

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Right? And how are we going to obey parents who are asking us to commit you're

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asking us to drink What's wrong, and eat what's

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an indulgent what's haram and sit with people that are haram for us and go to places that are

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Allah subhanaw taala wants us to respect our parents, even when our parents are asking us to do what goes against the loss of Hello, Dad. Don't do that. But still continue to respect your parents. See the difference there. The difference between using the word obey and respect, obey Allah and His Messenger, someone guiding us and respect your parents.

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Because if we were to obey our parents as well, not every single one of us was gifted with parents that are believers. And more and more you will see this in Canada. The longer we stay here as Muslims, the more you will see people embracing Islam, and they are just like the Sahaba will be a lot more unknown, where their parents are not Muslim. Their siblings are not Muslim, but they are your husband and wife

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because our children will marry into those those families and marry those brothers and sisters.

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And so became the loss of habitat so as to parents will be when they

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do get sent towards your parents.

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Sign is even if they're asking you to do what is haram still respect them still look after them still treat them in a way that is honorable, because you want them to come closer to a bar. And the best way to teach them about Allah subhanaw taala is through our actions

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through our actions. Remember the story of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam

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where he sees the woman who's carrying her stuff, right she was

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And to the market, whatever, she's carrying her stuff to her home, and she lives in the outskirts of the city.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is a young man and comes and he asks the woman can I carry your stuff for you? And she gives him the stuff and he carries it. And the whole way to her home, she is bad talking the Prophet sallallahu Ariosa putting him down bashing Mohammed, this man Muhammad who's come with this message, he's evil. He's this he's that don't listen to him. And he's a magician. He's, you know, he's manipulating people's minds. She's saying all bad stuff about the prophet sent along.

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And he's carrying her stuff home. Very nice, very respectful.

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He gets to her home, she gets there. And she, you know, opens up her home and the prophets of Allah I do some of them puts the stuff inside. And she says, I'm sorry, I didn't even ask what your name is, is old time. I was so busy talking about Muhammad. I didn't even ask what your name is.

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He says that man you are talking about Muhammad. That's me.

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Whenever I think of this story, it just gives me goosebumps.

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That man, you were talking about the you were bad talking this whole way to your house?

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You, that's you, you're him. You're Muhammad. You're the person who does this and doesn't that's me.

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A shadow

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in law novela. she testifies her belief and

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she testifies her belief in the loss of Hannah Montana. Why? Because the prophets of Allah, Who are they to send them humbled Himself?

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How many times are we in the masjid when someone corrects a mistake that we make the mistake we make? You know, you're wearing a shirt and your back is exposed that you didn't intend to do it, but it just happened. And someone comes and says, you know, you shouldn't do that the manner that correct may not be the best, but they come and they do it. They're correcting us because it's good for us. Maybe they're not correcting us in the best way. But they're perfecting a part of our deen for us. They're helping us to become better.

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And what happens to us? Who do you think you already tell me about this? You don't know my intentions. Allah knows what's in my heart. Don't come and tell me this. They'll talk to me like that. If you're gonna correct me correctly, there was like we start to defend ourselves right away.

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Subhan Allah, the prophets on the long run, even Saddam was taking the hit. He was taking it, taking it taking it and this was not even his mother.

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It was not even his mother, some of all by the USA. So what about you and I?

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When we hear about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, for example, we should try to put it in our lives right away.

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Right away.

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Be kind to our parents will be widely Dany Sena

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will be disappointed by Allah subhanaw taala says, Be kind to your parents, to your relatives, or relatives, Allahu Akbar. We have a hard time being kind to our parents imagine how difficult it is for us to be kind to our relatives. Right? When we think of it, ultimately, sometimes, we don't even know when we're hurting our parents.

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Because our parents, they're happy when they see us happy. Even if we're doing something that's wrong. Even if what we're doing is haram, our parents are happy with us because at least they see us happy and they're not happy with what we're doing. I'll say that they're not happy seeing their children commit how wrong but they love us so much that they're happy if we're happy. That's what you want. Okay.

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But it hurts them inside. Inside. They are just

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I don't know how to describe it. fuelling burning up, broken down. You know, it hurts. It hurts. And get ready my brothers and sisters, get ready. Because we live here in a society that influences us before it influences our children.

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And I say that because it influences us, but it also influences our children

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and our children, we need to hold them close. When you see the child who's here in the front row. Don't tell that child go to the back, keep them in the front row. Keep them in the front row. pat them on the head say mashallah Devarakonda Masamoto RP Allah, may Allah bless you with goodness mail will keep you in the front row always. May Allah protect you from the harm that's out there. May Allah subhanahu ittehad use you for the spread of this deed.

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Because my brothers and sisters we see our children leaving the deen fast very fast

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very, very fast.

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I have so many youth that come to me and they sit down in my office, their parents go out and they say, I don't want to tell my parents, is this gonna stay anonymous? Is this gonna stay between us? Say, Yeah, shallow. That's the plan

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for me to be able to show respect to you, and for you to be able to trust me, I have to keep it between us and say, Don't tell my parents, but I don't believe anymore.

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None of us know. But I can't. I can't bring my parents heart. So I won't tell them. This is what they say.

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I don't want to I don't want to break my parents heart. They do so much for me. They do so much for me, but I can't tell them I don't believe in Allah. Now, there's a flaw in this. Our parents do so much for us. What does Allah do for us?

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What does Allah subhana Metalia do for us? And the problem is, is that we as the adults as the parents, we haven't taught our children that we depend on the loss of hundreds that we don't depend on ourselves. It's not me who brings the money home, it's Allah who allows me to have this money.

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It's not me who has health and I've been mashallah, you know, I go to the gym and look after my son, I don't go to the gym, but, you know, look after myself and have that good health. No, it's a loss of habitat who gives it to us. And just like this, he takes it away.

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So my brothers and sisters, Allah is telling us, be kind to your parents, be kind to your relatives, be kind to the orphans, the poor, those that are near and distant in terms of neighbors, your neighbors that are close to your neighbors that are further away. Be kind to them. This is the month of Ramadan, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the most generous throughout the month of Ramadan. If our neighbors don't know that, it's Ramadan, then there's a problem with us. I'll say that, again. If our neighbors that live beside us, in front of us behind us don't know that it is the month of Ramadan, there's a problem.

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There's a problem. We haven't shown Islam, even in our own household, around our house, in front of our house, beside our house, in our backyard, in our front yard, our Muslim or non Muslim neighbors don't even know that it's number one. They don't even know sometimes that we're Muslim. You're just like, oh, you know, Canadians of all different colors and sorts, right? from all different backgrounds. As Canadians, we're from all over the world.

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So sometimes people just think, okay, I remember when we moved into our home that we're living in now, right, our neighbors were not Muslim. And I was so like, used to being in the community. And we went over to see the neighbor he opened the door and I was like, Santa Monica is Hindu, not even Muslim. It was like Santa Monica. It just came out. Right? Because as Muslims in Canada, like sometimes we don't even know who's the Muslim. And then at the same time, and I mentioned this the other day we judge

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the other especially the person who's white, and we think all Muslims are not white. Muslims can't be white.

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Was Kennedy white? Right? Especially when we see where Muslims come from, we have Muslims from all over the world and their skin tone is white. Syrians are very white you know Turkish mashallah to botica good food good women Good Everything good massage and at Turkey has everything so if

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you look around the world and then like I said, we we are marrying into families.

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New Muslims are entering Islam. So we shouldn't judge each other, be kind to our neighbors go and meet them, bring something to them, knock on their door, ring their doorbell. Just want to let you know it's our month of Ramadan of fasting, here's something nice we brought to you bring them some cookies, bring them some food, bring it up, whatever it is, just make sure it's not too spicy, right? Because even the Muslims have a hard time eating spicy times. Right? They'll be kind

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to the poor, to the needy to those who are near us close friends, the travelers, travelers, my brothers and sisters, we have golden opportunities. And I know sitting in front of me are the people who frequent the Masjid.

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Our Masjid is strategically located right off the 401.

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F every day. Every day. There are travelers that pass through our Masjid every day.

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offer them something.

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Reach out to people when you see someone who you don't recognize and I'm already going How are you brother? My name is Helen. So what's your name? Where are you from? MC where you from? Milton? No, nothing, nothing. Oh, can I help you with something? Do you need anything? Ask them they might be coming from Chicago from Michigan.

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They might be coming from Windsor or they might be traveling through from another province. Ask them, Do you need anything? And don't even ask them if they need sometimes just do the fitment do the size that's needed. Tell them say go to so and so restaurant, you know, and I've handled brother idea at Paramount. He's like, awesome for this awesome like you can call him and be like I'm sending so and so person over, you know, just feet up

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and Subhanallah like his heart is so big, so big. I get literally brings me to tears and emotional sometimes just seeing what some of these brothers and sisters do for another Muslim. You know, tell them say look, there's so many Halal restaurants around go, come let's go Let me buy you something. You know, treat the traveler nice with respect. And Allah subhana wa Tada says, and those that are in your possession now of course we don't have sleeves nowadays. Right? I'm going I know. You probably looked at the time right? I'm going a little bit long today intentionally because those who did not get the notice that we changed the time. I want them. I know brother came at the regular

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time, I want you to still benefit so I'm just going a little bit long on purpose today. But generally from now on, we'll start right after so lots of awesome. Okay, just a little change in time. And we're gonna just for about 30 to 40 minutes max Siobhan tag, okay.

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And then Allah subhana Montana says, surely ALLAH does not like whoever is arrogant and boastful. He says in hola hola. Your woman can also tell them for hoorah. A lady named Coronavirus, moon and NASA available. We have to move them along in fugly. What aren't ignited carefully, neither of them will either those. Surely Allah does not like whoever's arrogant, boastful, those who are stingy, promote stinginess amongst people and withhold of loss bounties we have prepared for the disbelievers that humiliating punishment, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah save and protect us all and make us from amongst those who are not stingy. And those who are not boastful a problem in society is that the

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more wealth you have, the more greedy we become.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said we're fitna to motif in

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and the fitna of my OMA of the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is in wealth man, that is our fitna. The more we have a bit the more we want, and the more we get, the more we keep, we become stingy. And we become arrogant and boastful. Look what I have. I have this I have that. Everyone is like showing off showing off showing up. Be humble. Be humble.

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Keep in, use it invest in building more and more good. Nothing wrong with that Earth. None of the above and look at his wealth Allahu Akbar. We'll talk about him and other days Pamela when we talk about the life of the rest man and our fun drama living out of Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu Akbar, Allah.

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They were multimillionaires of their time. And I say this without exaggeration, if you compare the wealth they had to the wealth that we have today, who gives 700 gold coins and is considered to be poor.

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You're not poor, if you have 700 gold coins, you are a millionaire. You know who gives all of their wealth and the next day gets it all back because they're so established in business, like a bucket of the love are so well established in business gives it all for the sake of a loss of habitat that within a day or two, all of his wealth is back again. So well established in business giving for the sake of law, when you see them humble, or Marathi Allah or hand in the middle of the night,

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goes and fetches flour and oil

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as the Ameerul Momineen

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the leader of the believers in the middle of the night, here's of the woman who complains, right? So he goes and gets the oil in the flower himself.

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His servant asks to help him he says, No, you're not going to help me on the day of judgment. You're not going to answer for me why I didn't do this. I have to do this myself.

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Goes to the house of the mother with the children. Kind of like

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you call any of us in the middle of the night there's, you know, a young boy on the streets. Can you help busy there's a mother who's in need shut off. You know, you transfer your 20 bucks

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get out of our homes go and help assist the people that are in need. Or I'm gonna have the alarm or and goes over he doesn't just drop the flower and the oil at the door here.

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make something for your kids. The kids are crying, he goes into the home. He goes into her home, he's not my home for her. These are things that we forget to think of. He's not my home for this woman. He goes into her home respectfully, with Hyah. With modesty, goes into her home starts the fire, takes the wood rubs it and rubs it starts in the middle of the night in the desert, it's not hot. It's not like you take a magnifying glass and just start the fire. All of a sudden, you know, you have this beautiful fire there took off. He's rubbing the woods, starting the fire.

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And then mix the food himself in another woman's home, he's not my home firm. These are things we need to think of. In our time, immediately whenever we see also the older the sister we, as brothers, we like put this huge barrier that someone wants to go home.

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Yes, as men and women, we are going to desire the opposite gender, but that's not always the goal. That's not the purpose. Like if someone's in need, help the person clean our hearts that we can help someone and we shouldn't be able to come out of that, you know, discomfort that we feel and say I'm doing this for the sake of pleasing Allah.

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And this person is allowing me to come in to do this. Yes. Shavon is the third person Yes. But if there's other people around the children around you do your best and you leave.

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For the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. Look after each other.

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X Subhan Allah how many that we hear it all the time. Churches, other communities doing so much I have so much goodness, Muslims are getting help and aid and assistance from the non Muslims. We as the Muslims should be helping them.

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And this will be my last rant. And the last thing I'll say, inshallah.

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My brothers and sisters.

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I came home the other day, and I told my wife and we need to find we need to solve this problem.

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We need a place and I've asked the masjid even this trailer that we have, can we not convert it? It's already converted. Technically, we can use it to house people in how many times someone needs a place to stay. And we have to go and pay a hotel. Why shouldn't there be someone's basement? Shouldn't there be an apartment. And I know massage. I don't think this is revolutionary. I know masajid in Edmonton have a lot. If you are on the street and you don't have a place to stay, they have a place for you to stay. If you're elderly and you don't have people to look after you they have a home where they're going to look after you Muslims will take care of you.

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This is not revolutionary, but we are falling short. And so many times, especially here in Canada, the winters are cold.

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How does a woman who's a single mother? Yes, I know. Everyone's gonna say but we have shelters and we have this. We have that. Then in that night at 1130 at night, you know, we're not getting any shelters. There's no access to a shelter. We need immediate assistance.

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What do we have in place? Nothing.

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We don't have anything in place. Almost a brother comes out of prison, who maybe was innocent,

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was innocent. Obviously, if they're out of prison, they should be fine to be in society yet when they come to the masjid. All sorts of judgments are thrown at them. Oh, you came out of prison. Sorry, go there. Just make a little upgrade and you have to leave. And like 10 people standard watch, make sure this person is going to leave. Maybe the person is innocent. Maybe the person who you know there's something small that they did and they got picked up or the wrong place wrong time. But all of a sudden, now they need a place to stay because their family's like oh, you got arrested. You're not coming home.

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Where do they go?

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Who is they talked to? What do they eat? What clothing do they wear? What transportation do they have? Especially when we think of Milton? Where are you going to get a job where you don't need a car where you can walk? You can't?

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I know one time I put you know someone that we're looking after, brought them to a shelter in Oakville

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and told me I have a job starting tomorrow morning in Milton.

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after fajr I had to go all the way to Oakville pick up the brother from the shelter just to bring him to work here. That's not practical. That doesn't make sense. We can't do this.

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We have to figure these things out like brothers and sisters is a huge responsibility on our shoulders. We can't just stop at building masajid enough with building masajid we have enough now. The places to pray we have enough humble I think within Milton we're good now. We could use a few more this

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gotten dairy area? Yes, we need a few other masalas. But we need other services. And we're failing at that. And I'm an employee here, I'll say it and I've said it and the management knows we're failing, we're failing. And this is why I've counted it not. The intention is to continue working, continue doing. So when you see like, okay, Youth Center Hamdulillah. But we need other things. We can't stop there. And this is where we have to work together and shall not have to have that does not come along with some of our Cabal, a few come forgive me for taking a little bit more time today. Like I said, I wanted to go a little extra for those that were unable to. For that I was

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unable to notify and let them know about the change in time. And from tomorrow onwards and show along or from today and onwards. We're going to start right after so that's awesome. So just look at the ASO time Insha Allah and we'll go for about 30 to 40 minutes and that stuff in sha Allah that gives people enough time to go home and have their thoughts back. Hello people most of all senemo better candidate AnnaLena Safi will sell them, which is on welfare in Santa Monica marketing party, we're gonna catch up. And we still do have a thought in the masjid, by the way. So if anyone wants to now reach for an link to our own stay until it's gone, feel free to do so.

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