Facing and Overcoming Trials and Tribulations
Channel: Calisha Bennett
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The reasons behind we are tested and trialed are three. Okay, the first one is called 10. Thea. Okay, so it
means filtering, or sorting bit of a tricky word to pronounce 10, the 10 Thea filtering, it's filtering and sorting of what is filtering and sorting the true believers from the untrue believers. Yeah, or the true believers from the hypocritical believers or the doubtful believers. It's a way to sort the who you are. So when a test comes you are you feel in yourself, you're going to make a choice, I'm going to rise above this test and get closer to Allah. Or I might sink from this test and draw away from Allah which we're actually seeing more and more amongst our Muslim communities, people who were once then solid starting to drift away, may Allah protect us all. So reason behind a
trial and tribulation coming your way. It's to filter you in and it's to question Allah tala does question us in the front, he says, Do you think you'll be left to say we believe and you won't be tested? And what kind of challenges do you think you're just gonna say? Yeah, oh, yeah. A lot believe I was gonna test that belief to see is it shaky? Is it just gonna fall over? Or is it like rock solid firmly planted with a solid foundation, okay, and the tests in themselves, of course, they're going to help build that strength of foundation.
The the tunzi of the filtering and the sorting of the truthful believers from the untrue believers, the truthful from the liars who say they believe, but they don't truly believe it's to see if you are going to step forward and have patience, it's to see if you are going to have acceptance is to see if you're going to be happy with the cutter of a law.
So imagine a test comes and it's not nice, it's not pleasant. It's giving you turmoil. You feel physical pain from the test your heart, you have anxiety you wake up, it's the first thing you think of, it's the last thing you think of before you go to bed. You don't know how you're going to get through it practically you don't know if you can sort it out. It's out a lot of it might be out of your control. But are you happy with it? Do you really sell hamdulillah? It's from Allah, I accept it. I know I'm gonna be okay. We'll figure this out. This is from Allah. So you can only be happy with a test. If you have a strong tie to understanding what Qatar means. Qatar is Divine Decree,
accepting the decree of Allah subhanaw taala. We know that's one of our six pillars of Eman to believe in the Divine Decree, that Allah subhanaw taala is the one who decides what doesn't doesn't happen to us and happen in our lives. So
you can only be happy with a test if you have that concept of a strong sound concept of understanding. Another reason why Allah subhanaw taala sends tests is to teach or to discipline. When a test comes your way, and and you feeling the pinch of it. Ask yourself what does Allah want me to learn from this? Even if it's when someone has wronged you? Yeah. Sometimes we just think they're in the wrong. They've done everything they need, they need to learn a lesson. We have lessons to learn to even when we are the victims of
a really big trial lesson. Yeah, they really like consuming what's going on in life is hard. Yeah, take a step back and be like, exactly, in the forefront the pain. But if you look through and you ask yourself, what is my turabian is what is Allah trying to teach me? Because everything that happens can teach us a lesson. Sometimes we can't like, can't see you what the what the lesson is.
And then you have to understand why then you have to have patience until the lesson comes because I can guarantee them the lesson will come guarantee, but you won't be see it immediately when you want. It's when Allah says now your heart's going to see it. And that's why we have to have patience until we get that lesson. Yeah, patience is a very important part of it. So another reason in, in teaching is to discipline to sometimes we're getting a little bit maybe weak or a little bit neglectful, negligent, a bit loose, in some ways, you know, spirituality or not, amen? So Allah sends a test to shake us up. And we all know this, but look, what happened earlier this year at
Christchurch, shook the oma somewhere. wishy washy if it was a way of 10 Thea is sorted them they were always on the fence in their Deen and they were like, No, I'm with the Muslims. Yeah, they step forward. It's sorted people. Yeah. So is a way that Allah tala can discipline us through our tests too and sometimes is what happens when very bad calamities happen, but he wakes up a portion of
You know, of the Omar who need to wake up and I was calling them to something as well. So you will inshallah through tarbiyah become more strong, you will learn and you will inshallah be able to not fall into becoming depressed. Okay? When you're looking for lessons and you're looking for the wisdom, you're looking for the growth, it'll protect you from sliding down into depression and despair. Okay, so there have been tests in my life that have come. And you know, when I look at it, and I'm like some of it I'm like powerless to change or impact, I just have to hold space be there for people that I care about and the tests that are happening to them, you want to just lift you
want to help seeing them in that pain is a pain and a test for you in itself. But you just have to sometimes just wait, it was teaching me a lesson through having to witness this or experience this or be a bystander to this.
She will feed off the laughter and she gets very cheeky, she needs to be alone. Alright, so the third one
it says here, which is
purification. Okay. When we go through hardships, what are the narrations that we know that when a believer is tested? Well, they experience any kind of pain, even the prick of a thorn. It's an expiation for them. They lose sins, when you're in pain from your tests and you feel upset, anxious, distressed, depressed. Allah subhanaw taala. When you feel that pain is removing your sins, as your patient with that pain, yeah, you're not saying anything displeasing to Allah, you're not complaining about him and his decree. You're like holding like, this is such a hard test. I don't know what's gonna happen. I don't know how to get through it. That pain and worry you're feeling
even though worry alone forgive your sin. Since when, when it's no real way really to lose from a test. Yeah, you'll only lose from the dunya material. You lose your home, you might lose your wealth, you might lose your job, you might lose a person in your life. You might lose a relationship, all your stuff. But with a law, you don't lose anything. always win win. That's how kind and generous he is. pinata Allah. Okay, so key up here, vacation from sin. Also purification of your heart. When you go through a test or an injustice, to forgive, is a journey of purification, to not hold resentment, and bitterness to not hold hatred is a way to purify your heart. So look at all
these three reasons why Allah tests us. All good fruits come from these tests. with whatever reason we don't know why I was tested which specific reason. But these are just some of the fruits of tests. Instead of just like tests so hard, how do we get out of it? Let's look at tests from the, you know, the perspective of tests are a beautiful thing and a source of great traits and purification and strengthening was a while ago now, about 10 years ago. So I was doing a lesson I used to teach from home, just like local friends and local community members. And we used to have lessons and programs from my house. We just read some articles and notes and from some books. And I
remember one night will I was doing a lesson teaching about kazaa. And I ran through how to teach about decree and understand the decree of a law and, you know, like, I loved the topic, because it's always such an uplifting topic when you learn and understand my God. And
and then, you know, later that night, a situation happened
with someone very close to me. And I came to find out something which was really like devastating heartbreaking within our family. And it was just absolute crisis point. In that moment that I'm like disbelief. Oh, my God, how are we gonna get through this? What's happened? I was like, you know, you just did a lesson on Qatar tonight. And even Allah plan that to prepare you for this. So like losing it wasn't an option, and losing it in that moment, losing it in the days that came as this test unfolded wasn't an option because I had an understanding of concepts to lean on. And again, this is the power for us as Muslims of knowledge, and seeking knowledge and being reminded of who Allah is
and what life is about. Knowledge is like the key that is the survival kit to truly overcome trials and tribulations to have knowledge of understanding this is the way to deal with this nurses the way to cope through and get through it. Very Um, so, you know, in that time, I think, I don't know if I if I didn't have that lesson that actual night.
I was like, What are the chances of this situation coming right within, within an hour and a half, two hours after the lesson? How, again, that is the cousin of a line. And so, but it reminds you of how Allah looks after us. You know, like if I'd had that maybe another time when I was maybe feeling weak, and maybe I wouldn't have coped along those best when everything is meant to happen, and when it's best for it to happen. So, again, we just have to learn the understanding of perspective, when the tests come our way. So how can we get through hardships and trials and tribulations? So how can we overcome them? That's what we're trying to address and ask today. One of the key important things
that we often know as Muslims is that we need to be patient. Yeah. So patience is one of the most important keys we know and we learn we'll always learn about the merits of patience, but we struggle to practice and implements it. Yeah, being patient. We know it's one of the best virtues wisdom to we have to truly internalize what patients mean, and that our patients is very clearly strongly channeled to Allah subhanaw taala patience for his sake. And again, knowing the reasons why should you be patient, what are the benefits of being patient, and in reality, the only way through tests is to be patient. Because they sorted themselves out. Whenever we ever had a problem, that was
always the same intensity, the same level of problem, and it never ended. The problems will always flow. Finish one problem new one comes or the problem changes. Or yesterday, you felt like the end of the world, but the next day, you had to see me woke up, it didn't feel as bad. Okay, like, and then it Yeah, and slowly. Like they say, Time heals all wounds over time, the tests, you either build resilience, so you get used to it, or you get over it, or they pass. Yes. So you know how we feel like it's doom and gloom, this test, we have to put ourselves into the reality of knowing it's not always going to feel like this and be like this. And sometimes I'm like, toward today's like,
something's going really bad today. But I remind myself, you know, what, after a good night's sleep, usually almost always guaranteed, you feel better the next day. So the intensity and the severity, severity of the test isn't ongoing and everlasting. Yeah. And when you remind ourselves of that, when it hits, that gives you a bit of relief, too. Because what people tend to do is they tend to get like a magnifying glass on this situation. And you don't have this when the sun shines through a magnifying glass, it narrows in, and then it burns. Yeah, in the moment, that's why people lose it, you can lose your emotional mental coping capacity and capabilities. Because you're zooming in, or
when in reality, what you want to do is actually zoom out and look in the bigger picture of things. This feels so young right now, but in the big scheme of things, it's gonna pass tomorrow, it won't feel as bad, it's gonna go up and down. But overall, you'll always be okay. No tests is to be that it will swallow someone and you know, destroy their lives, you know, there's always a way to find resilience. And we know there are people who have been tested way more than our tests. And you look like how, how, people who have no physical ability, sometimes fully paralyzed. Some people have terminal illness, some people who lost all of their family living destitute in the street, but live
with gratitude every day. We know when we look at the big picture, I compared to the tests of others, our tests are this they're painful not to you know, you know, make them like them. They're not so bad, but our tests are sometimes painful. But in the big picture, there are a lot worse tests that could that could happen. So again, this perspective is very, very important. So patients being an important key with our tests, our last panel to Allah, you mentioned patients in the Quran, in 90 places.
90 which means what must be very important, must be very essential for us as Muslims to have patience Allah to Allah says in Surah Al Baqarah verse 177 was so obedient I feel that you will blow raw he Joaquin Albert's una he can lead enough Florida who will eco moutoku and be firm and patient in pain or suffering and adversity and throughout all periods of panic. Be firm and patient Yeah. In suffering pain, adversity, panic. Such other people have truth that God fearing. So when you find out something or when something's come your way, and you're shaken by it, yeah. Those are the times to be firm and patient. ground yourself. ground yourself. So imagine now we had an earthquake. Yeah,
I live in LA. Salaam Wollongong is quaking. What do we do? What do you do? How do you stand do
guys just sit laying back like that. Why haven't you guys grabbing you ground yourself up firm? I gotta hold my balance. I don't want to get hurt. I want to help others. We're like, What do I do? This is where we should be like, when the world is shaking and quaking our lives things are happening. Be firm, in what in your faith and conviction and consciousness of Allah. Allah, what are you filtering through me in this phase? What are you teaching me? What disciplines Am I going to gain? What purification Can I get from?
going straight to those? Allah? Allah also says in the Quran? Yeah, you Hello, Dina Amano, spirou, wasabi Rue
de la la la Khun to flee hone. Those who show patience and constancy and work righteousness for them is forgiveness of sins and a great reward. So elephants, Allah also says, are you who believes seek help with patience, patience, perseverance, and prayer, for God is with those who patiently persevere. And sometimes we feel like oh, tests are coming. It's you know, the prophet peace be upon him even said, you know, that in one Hadith, he said, There will come a time you're sitting on the rooftops with one or the other competitors that there will come a time and fits on trials and tribulations will fall on these houses like the rain mentioned that. Sometimes when you look around
you, like I think this is now just doesn't end it feels relentless. It feels like everyone's going through different tests. So you might feel like that sometimes. But the important thing is when you sort of say, oh, there's so many tests, and so many people are just like losing it letting go of their religion 3d says, maybe I should join them shape, one will say that, just join them. There. Hold on week, one, week two, you know, you won't be as weak as them. So these are the thoughts the whispers that will come. But you have to have patience, perseverance, stay home, stay fascia pray, even you have to be alone in those tests. Yeah.
The Prophet peace be upon him says whoever would be patient than a lower making patient. So patients will breed more patience. And there is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patients. It's one of those attributes that we should all aspire to be someone who's known. She's so patient. Yeah, ask our kids, they'll be like my mom's very impatient.
So we want to be known and have the reputation of being someone very tolerant and patient, that the winds like these winds that we've had here, but you don't shake your like a strong pillar, not like a flapping piece of sheet metal. Yeah. Because what happens when you have loose sheet metal, when the winds blow, it becomes shrapnel flying through the air, and it can cause big damage to itself and to others. And that's what will happen if we don't be patient, you can end up flying off the handle and you're dangerous, spiritually dangerous, physically dangerous to the community to your family, you become very toxic person.
That coming up, even Malik reported the Prophet peace be upon him passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. And he said to her feel a lot and be patient. She said, Go away from me, you haven't been afflicted like a calamity of mine. And she didn't recognize that that was the Prophet commanding her to be patient and feel love. Then she was told that it was the profits that she went to the house of the Prophet peace be upon him. And she didn't find any guards there. So she said straight to the Prophet. She said I didn't recognize you. And the Prophet peace be upon him said Verily patience is at the first strike. What does that mean? When true patience is the test comes
and immediately you're solid.
That's what patients that's when you know, you've found patience, that a test comes and doesn't knock you it doesn't distress you the way it may be used to. That's when you know you found that that sweetness, a true patience that our last one to Allah talks about.
So we often think that being patient means dealing with major calamities like death or illness, disability, loss of wealth, livelihood and homelessness. So yes, patience in those situations is extremely important. We need to remember and realize that patience is also required for many other areas of law. So examples when you're traveling or on a journey, right holidays have to spoil myself. I'm going on a holiday, you know, and then when we get bad service, we're like all grumpy and we're like, you know, we become maybe disrespectful. You want to see patients at tests, go to Hajj and see people pushing people doing tala o in the router and the Prophet's mosque were there to
pray and people are stampeding over elderly people. Yeah, it's really scary. Another way time important to be patient is when you're frustrated or angry with someone or something. Don't let that anger or frustration get the better of you. When you've been wronged to be patient, even though you've been treated unjustly or something's been done to you which is wrong, when you have to study and you're inclined to
slacking off, or you want to give up and you say no, I have to be patient on this path of study, when you're waiting, no one likes waiting when making dua, or maybe you know, when you're waiting in peak hour traffic to just be peacefully trental Yeah, and not a road rage job, trying to do eba in the best way. You need to be patient sometimes to pray properly, easy to just pray and rush because you just got to get back to things to be patient means all that's going on there, but my Salah I got to give it my my maximum attention that I can that takes patience as well. So don't just think of patients in terms of
tests come in now you have to stay strong as a Muslim. It's also for bearing things that are happening around you. Now the important part of overcoming, aside from patients that I want to touch on the second one is tawakkol. What is tawakkol?
so reliance, trust, trust. Yeah, trust, acceptance,
and reliance, which we've kind of touched on all throughout anyway, throughout these, but just to make an important point about patience. And then tawakkol going alongside it. Our last panel, Darla says in the Quran. Miyata, what callala law he for who has to go, whoever places his trust in Allah, Allah is enough for him. So when tests come, and then you trust a law, that is when Allah subhanaw taala will be enough for you to figure out the way through, that becomes enough, you don't need anything from anyone. You don't need like someone to fix it or you have to fix it. You're like, I trust Allah with this, I will do what needs to be done to get through it. But I trust along with it
that initial and immediate or gradual, however, whatever it takes submission, where your heart is like, a lot, I submit to you again, this is what being a Muslim means like submitting your will. I want a certain outcome, I want this problem to be fixed. But I have tawakkol in Allah, or whatever is meant to be that's what was meant to be I leave it to a lot because he and he promises us whoever trusts puts his trust in Allah places his trust in all Yes, what can put your trust, this is your trust. Because usually we think I'm going to do, I'm going to take care of my life III, you put your trust and you go Allah and leave it with you that submission and that trust when you place it with
Allah, Allah will be sufficient. And we're reminded while on life, Elliot, our kallu in quantum meaning, and put your trust in Allah, if you are believers, indeed, if see this except this exception, if you are believers, indeed,
it's a key to be true believers that we put our trust in Allah subhanaw taala. In in putting our trust in a light, it doesn't mean give up your effort. You know, some people would just let go saying, Do we just like let go and we just trust the law and we accept his decree? Or do we still make effort. So the scholars have said that tawakkol in reality doesn't deny actually working and striving for provision for Allah Almighty has decreed that we should work and that it's from his ways that he gives people when they strive, in fact, a lot of mighty ordered us to both depend on him, and to work to take the necessary steps needed to achieve our goals. And so the act of striving
for our sustenance is an act of physical worship, while
trusting and depending upon Allah, is faith in him. So your trust and dependence on Allah is your Eman. When you work towards, you know, your livelihood or fixing your trials and tribulations or working your way through that becomes worship.
Okay, so your Eman is that trust that internal relationship with Allah and you're actively making effort is worshiping Him. So when you're trying to sort things out, you're being the better person, you're being committed to, you know, to your goals, or trying to fix a situation or correct or wrong, this is worship, the effort that you're making. So again, it's all win win. Yeah, there's no way to lose out.
So Allah, Allah says, instead of relying on Kabuto, seek permission, she's a corner.
Down she's pulling. Now I'm just seeing her at the edge of the chair.
And she's got a thongs on the runway.
So Allah says, So seek permission from Allah and worship Him alone.
So striving to resolve old matters in our life
is is very important. So we do have the element of striving
What does TOEIC will involve?
So tawakkol involves
that while you plan, only a law can determine the outcome, and the outcome is the best for the person in that given moment.
So when we're making efforts, again, we're not even supposed to attach yourself to a set outcome. So you're like, if I study hard, I'm gonna get a good job for the last month. And then you study hard, and you come find a job, the outcome, it's up to a lot in years to then work in that industry and start your studies all over again, the outcome is up to Allah, what happens is when we attach to our desired outcome, is we then experience unnecessary grief from it. And it's almost self induced, because we're like, I want my outcome, the outcome is with a loss, so you have to have trust in Him. So like kids, we put in all this effort, and it's a sacrifice, then they reach the age of freewill.
And they say, I choose this. I don't want to do that. But you're like, No, no, no, no, I did all this ingredients, the outcome is perfectly baked cake. And then the child is like, I'm not gonna be that perfect. But how do you cope with that? You have to accept that the outcome is up to Allah as we're seeing, like the example of profit nor his son rejected, he's 950 years of effort message. So we have to again is preparing ourselves to let go of that desired outcome that we want a loved one. So how do we trust his decision, his decree and accept it? So when you trust in Allah,
you, you realize that it involves you to take care of yourself. So sometimes people think that trusting and allow me that I need to say, Okay, yeah, Allah will look after me, my health, whatever is written, that's how long I live, and then they let go of themselves are important that we must have our law, we have to look after ourselves. Look after our, yeah, physical health, mental health, emotional well being. Yeah, it's very, very important not to let those things become unhealthy. And we have, you know, we have so much psychology in Islam that can remedy and protect and help us you know, with a lot of the calamities in my chat group that I've got with sisters at the moment is a
massive discussion about anxiety, a lot of sisters suffer and struggle from anxiety, you know, I had never in my life experienced anxiety, and then hit one point, and I had it for about a year. And I was just like, what is this feeling? And it's almost like, I think you have anxiety and anxiety, how we're going to pump understanding why and using Islamic and Quranic remedies, as well as my own checking in with myself what's going on what is in my conscious, subconscious and unconscious mind, that is stirring up some of these feelings that I was experiencing. So it's very important responsibility that we have. Okay, I'll just touch on levels of tawakkol. And then we'll close with
the three outcomes of when we're tested with family. So levels of tawakkol I thought this was really good, because we often like, like, I don't know, do I have TOEIC? Or not short? tawakkol? I think I do or what's that? What are the levels that I might be at? So if we had to describe the first level of tawakkol, it could be tauheed, that it is the basis for tawakkol we believe that Allah is the best sustainer he's the all knowing that all capable, and he is sufficient to rely on all things could happen or occur only with his will and instruction. So that basic foundation, Allah is the one who takes care. He's the old capable to take care of the decree. The second level is to believe that
every matter has a cause or a means. So this is what we learn here.
Some people give up utilizing these means due to the ignorance and they think that this is reliance on a lot of mighty they wait for a lot to send down their provisions and food and take care of their concerns and affairs while they do nothing. We should not be complacent or inactive. We should do everything that's available for us to reach our goals. We have to believe in a law but with that we have to do something by ourselves as well for living our lives. The third level is to remain firm in relying on Allah alone. Indeed a person's reliance on Allah can't be fulfilled until one relies on him alone.
So we're like I do I have trust in Allah do depend on him. But then you're like, I need to talk to someone can you help me? Like I need you feel like you need to continuously seek outside help or support. The fourth level is to depend on the law wholeheartedly. And then feel tranquility when doing so. To the extent that one does not feel confused about their provision. You just feel calm your dependence and avala dependence on a law you don't have any grief or strife or an ongoing anxiety from it.
The highest level of tawakkol towards which we should all seek is to realize that the element of reliance on Allah is to trust all matters to him voluntarily without being forced to do so. So will you trust the law without feeling forced, you know, when a test comes in here, like have to trust in Allah, I have to you're forcing it because it's not coming naturally. So the highest level of tawakkul is it comes and like you're not even knocked again by the wind doesn't even sway you. You just absorb it. You just absorb straight to trust in Allah. It's from a line that alone Allah, He Rajon. That's, that's the goal of tawakkol. And you might be blessed some time in your life to meet
people like that, when I've witnessed it, or I've heard stories of it, you just like in or you're like, oh my goodness, how like, how and that's why these women have strong these men and women strong trust and reliance and dependency on alesmith Oh, that that's goals, you know, going to close inshallah three outcomes.
Three outcomes that come from trusting in Allah. So when we're tested, with either major calamities or other challenging areas of our daily lives, there's three outcomes that we get to choose from. Number one, we have stagnancy, you're the same, you're not any better than you were before the test. Most people, the tests just flow in and out, it just knocks them they blow wherever it flows.
And they're kind of just caught up in number two, fail failure, fail the tests. That means you're in a worse state than before the test. So some people fall into that some of us will fall into that, after a test or during it, you kind of lose that grip on your Eman. And the third one is success, that's when you're in a better state and you're closer to our last one to Allah than ever. And that's very few achieved that with a closer to a lot after the test. From tests. We have a stagnancy failure or success. And that's what we have to choose. And only we can really gauge. And that's important for us to know keep in mind that after a test, we end up stronger because well, the tests
will continue to flow in life guaranteed. But what we want to do is for them to each each test is a stepping stone to a higher level of Eman and a stronger relationship with Allah subhanaw taala because that's why he sent them yeah, every test is a calling back to him. A reminder that he's the controller, a reminder that he's the one who decrees he's the one who gives them new withholds. He's the one who gives life and takes like, he's the one who provides Yeah, he's the source of all goodness.