How to Balance My Dunya and Akhirah I Journey to Taqwa – Part 2 I Be Mindful of Allah

And I'm sure all of you will have this question. Any I don't love my children.

I don't love my husband, very good husband helping me doing everything. I shouldn't love my husband.

And I work hard well in my hand, and I have wealth. I don't love it. I don't go buy a good house. What is the answer?

Have you thought this way? Probably not. Because you're looking at me, what is she saying?

So what is the answer? Where is the balance? You all talk about balance? Where it is the balance, so I don't love my friends.

I don't study too hard to get to this university.

Where is the balance?

Who can answer them?

Yes.

I can't hear you. I'm surely

not sure.

That's actually one verse will explain it now. Right.

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Allah says from among people, US may attack them in doing the lahaie and data and who takes from among people and data and need Is this the one who is equal to another a person equal to another person? They call it nted competitor.

But he didn't say they take people with people. They he said they take people or competitor to unlock

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And I'll comment in a second. We're Lavina Amanu the true believer the true

I should do Hogben Lila,

they are way more I should do. They are way more stronger, more passionate about Allah.

So how do I love Allah less? Or know? How do I love Allah equal? Who can tell me equal? He didn't say less? He said equal really any I love my husband like I love Allah.

I love my career like I love Allah.

Who says yes, I love the wealth.

My jewelry? My home like I love Allah.

Yes or no?

No,

no or yes. Which one is more?

Really?

Why I'm here?

Really? I didn't say it, you answer you will get it.

You love Allah more. And I'm going to give you a couple of things in our daily life. And then let's take it one by one. So you'll have a lot more than your phone

Tobon Sure.

Yes, anybody disagree? Okay, I'm hearing the people in front of me. So I'm just like so you love Allah more than you love your phone? Yes. Okay. Hamdulillah you love Allah more than you love your children? Yes, everybody. Okay, just the front saying yes.

What about the the back? Allahu Allah. Allah knows.

Do you love your career?

Or you love Allah more than you love your career?

Yes hamdulillah Do you love Allah more than you love your home?

Now this is going to be tough the next one.

Do you love Allah more than your love your beauty?

Yes. Bismillah

so you love Allah more than you love your phone? Yes. So when the call for Salah when Adan comes in and you're in the masjid while you're still looking at your phone

at calmative Salah cut out you're in the masjid.

And I'm not saying you're home, you're in the masjid. And the Imam is saying that cometa salah, get up and you're looking at

You're texting someone, or even worse and I've seen this I'm not making stories looking through social media

which

you will love Allah more than you love your career.

Now, no one said no

Hamdulillah that means you are thinking

so when my career require a haram action

we live in a non Muslim country. Why do I do it?

There is a dinner, business dinner. And everything in that dinner is haram is not different opinion is clearly haram. Why do you go?

Because you worry, I'm not gonna get promoted.

Or what do they think of me? Or I may get fired? You just said you love Allah more than your career.

You love Allah more than than your children?

Why do you disobey Allah for your children?

Do we do that?

Do we disobey Allah? to please our children? Absolutely.

Now the painful one.

Do we love our beauty more than Allah?

Yes, we do.

Do I leave it to you to think?

Why it is very difficult to dress Islamic proper.

You don't walk on the streets. And I lived in all, most of my life, I lived in western world. No one put a gun on my head, whether in a street or a hospital, or visiting someone and said, you take it or I'll kill you. And believe me that day, I would have taken it. Because that's what Allah tells me.

Then why do we do it?

Because we love it. The reason I'm saying this is I want you to start thinking, remember what I start saying? Where are you?

So let's be very honest. And Allah knows, I'm weak. I'm not perfect. I'm not an angel. I was not born as an angel. I have my struggles, say it.

And acknowledge it. Because without acknowledging who you are, where I am, where we are, I will not change.

When somebody tells you they are overweight,

and you tell them as a physician, it's not good for your health. And they say no, it's excellent for No, I'm fine with my health. And they will never change. Versus they told me but I love food.

This person is honest,

and is excellent. Let's work together. Let's see how we can modify this law. To make it pleased to to make it in a way you will lose weight. Did you get my point? That's what we all need.

And by the way, every woman in this room, the loves that I shared with you is very different. This people cared less about their beauty, even woman they don't. They're very happy who they are. And there is people who don't have children. I don't have this issue.

And there is people who are not married, no husband, no issue. But each one of us in this room and every woman actually Muslim or non Muslim, it doesn't matter. We have these attachments.

And this hadith of Rasul Allah saw to sit down and said it actually he before he said that he asked Sade, not Allah.

And he said, the meaning of who is more beloved to the meaning of it. And he said, Allah, he put it in that sequence. He said, Allah and you y'all Rasul Allah Alayhi Salatu was Salam and my knifes me

and he said, Not yet Yama.

Not yet.

And he said, what's not yet he said, You haven't reached it.

Then say no more understood it.

And then later on, he came to me says Yara so Allah, it's only Allah and you. He said now we are

Allah.

When Allah and Allah Swati slaughter, Seta becomes my focus. That's what I want to pay. That's or those who I want to please, that those are my priorities. Then you use just use

Look, the journey actually, you're on the journey.

A very simple example. And this is our daily I call it struggle.

You always feel this summer, and it is for your time.

For example, when I came from the States federal was 445.

So at 445, usually what happens? You put the alarm, and that alarm goes off.

What happens here?

I'm tired. Just five more minutes. There's still about an hour. This is reality. This is my struggle. Actually, when you have this struggle, this is a sign you have Taqwa. This is a sign that Allah is in your life. Because what a Salah it's my connection with Allah. But I'd love to sleep I'm tired, especially if it's cold, or you slept late. And that I call it struggle.

Or that debate.

Who wins at the end

tells you who is number one.

If you got up and it was very difficult, but you managed and you prayed and went back to bed, Allah is number one at that moment.

And if you slept at that moment, pay attention. That doesn't mean all the time all the day at that moment.

So the path of back to Allah is a path there is always this dialogue.

Why I am doing this? How I am doing it. Why I succeeded why I failed.

It's the call it self reckoning. You take yourself accountable say no more said the beautiful statement has he will unphysical cobbler and Taha Cebu was the new Amana come cobbler and tourism. What is the you know the only loud will Akbar

way your deeds today before it will be way for you.

Waited for you has Cebu and full circle take yourself accountable. You mean us before we will be taken accountable and beautify yourself you see it as a you beautify yourself for the day of the show. The Big Show, he was referring to your multicam

Path of Allah one more time?

Where are you?

10 is an MBR or so deeply the prophets and those who are truthful. I am not your lawmaker us we're not? Am I zero? Am I five are my seven?

Do I really want to change?

Do I really want to change? Three, identify your weaknesses. Now I'm speaking current languages. My weakness is my attachment. Food is a biggest problem also, you may laugh but that's why we can't do fasting outside Ramallah

because I miss my morning coffee or tea or breakfast. Again, it's not haram but it's attachments.

And Allah is

at that moment, it's hard even for me to say it. That moment Allah is number two. Versus Allah should be number one. Identify your weaknesses. No one in this room is like the others. Which one? Sometimes in a day, I have three or four. Sometimes in the summer will be less in the winter will be more Allah dos five.

You ask yourself this question, everybody. Why are you on here in this life?

Why did Allah created me?

Why did he put me here? Whatever here is why. While a HELOC to Virginia will insert Ilaria who don't some of you may know this verse. I didn't create the gin and the INS right human and the gin but to worship me. That's how it's translated. Very poor translation. But there's no other word.

Allah didn't create me from morning to evening, Allahu Akbar, and I'm doing Salah who's going to take care of this earth?

Right How I'm going to get married and have children how I'm going to study.

So why did he created

to worship? True, but what is worship me?

That's something we all need to

memorize literally if you have a piece of paper write it down.

Because it will change your concept of this Deen completely. Because we think the deen of this religion the following I pray I fast. I wear my hijab.

I don't do haram and perfect. And everybody else is this true?

Yes. No.

Okay, poor lady's Bismillah.

Right? Don't What makes you say she's religious.

This is very narrow, it's true. You You pray mashallah, you faster. hamdulillah Ramadan I'm talking about you do the obligation, but this is very narrow.

Very narrow. That's it.

And this is what a bad actor for shippers. And one of the best people who sent this email even Taymiyah. He said under a bad act of worship.

You could be here sitting here, right? Is this is an act of worship.

Yes or no?

Yes. Let me tell you the definition of it. And then we will apply it on here because that's a practical example. He says la vida khulumani or Haibo, La Jolla, la everything Allah Who loves one and pleased with two. So not only love, but pleased with. Okay, from what Minella quality when a foul saying and actions, not only actions, that's why I said Really that's it singings sayings and action. And look at the next one, external and internal.

Who lives and what lives in my heart.

That's an act of worship.

When I am so upset with someone,

and we all go through this, because they did whatever they did. Unfair, not pleasing to Allah to me. What's my reaction? What feeling I have in me?

Anger. I want to do something, say something revenge, right? And when someone tells you don't respond, but you don't know what she said to me.

At that moment, if I controlled my anger,

and I didn't say a word and I can that's an act of worship.

That's an act of worship. My the angels in the right side would run to write it.

This is why I say it's not about only the external we made the deen so narrow, so narrow. So here I am I externally I look very pious.

And everybody else looks so look mashallah tomato cola.

But then let me open my mouth.

And I'm going to start backbiting everybody. And I'm going to start looking down at everybody. Is that the act of fortune?

So Kulu Myoho, Allahu Allah, you're here. Right? This is an act of worship. Absolutely. Shouldn't be, because there's no people get together as a hadith of Rasul Allah Santosa. Get together to learn about Allah, but angels will surround them, Allah will engulf them with with his mercy, right? And then Allah will mention them in his gathering.

But can this be an act? That is not worship?

From my side? Don't you think it's only you? From my side? Here I am. I'm quoting Allah, Allah rasool Allah He saw to a sinner, and I'm dressed the way Allah is pleased with. Can I be not an act of worship at this moment?

Yes or no? And how's that? You're right. And how's that?

What's in my heart? And why I'm saying what I'm saying, if I'm looking at everybody announced, like, they don't know anything, then I am an arrogant woman.

And that is one of the hated actions to a loss hunter.

I am arrogant.

And may Allah forgive us all.

We all have it.

Please forgive me. I'm not talking about you. I'm talking all of us. When you walk out in that street, and you see a homeless person,

what is the first thing comes to your heart?

You start judging them. Right? And you look down at them.

If you don't say to yourself what are soiree saw to Sarah taught me

Alhamdulillah Allah the phony map that I'll be healing URI of Ebola Niala cathedra him and

when I see someone less fortunate than me, physically, mentally, or economy economically, what did he tell me? What did he taught me at Roswell SR two. So, first thing I said, your law, I'm so grateful to.

You saved me from what you have tested others, and you have favored me over so many of your creation. I didn't do it.

I worked hard do this. So many other people worked hard. But Allah put fruit in my heart.

Allah subhanaw taala put fruit in my heart. So here you are. act of worship, or getting here sitting here together, talking about Allah. And Allah soiree saw to us. An absolutely, this can be an act not pleasing to Allah. If you're sitting here. And you're looking at the person next to you again, I'm just giving examples. And why is she sitting next to me? And I wanted my friend to come and sit next to me.

That's an act not pleasing to Him.

So every step that's why we say all the time we say it, but we just say it. Islam is the way of life don't we say that? Islam is my way of life. Okay, really, how is that I'm driving in this in the street is damn is my way of life. Absolutely.

You drive by the speed limit. Not because you're scared and you're gonna get ticket.

That's not an act of worship. That's act of fear of a human being

versus Allah once and loves when I obey the laws

and it is against my neffs remember I told you me because me wants always to dry fast.

Honestly, we love it. Especially with this new cars. We love that and if the street is empty.

So in every step in my life, honestly in every step,

you can and you should be is Neela turn it to an act of worship.

Then you are absolutely taking the path back because you made him number one.

Let's make a disclaimer. There is no act of worship. If what you are doing or I am doing is haram.

period there is nothing can change the statement. I cannot be sitting on that couch, watching whatever I am watching on that TV. And that TV is Haram has language has scenes, whatever it has. And then I say this is an act of worship, because Allah told me take care of your nerves, and you need time downtime.

Which is true. I need downtime. And I need to take care of myself. Absolutely. Because me, I don't own me. Allah owns me. And this is a trust he put it in me. But I cannot take care of it in a way that is absolutely hated to Allah subhanaw taala Did you get it? So don't say act of worship or Today I learned after 40 Okay, everything I'm gonna say Allah, this is for you.

So number one, what are you doing? And number two, and this is really tricky.

Who Are you pleasing?

Who do you want to hear from? Or the compliment from? And we are creation of Allah loves to be complimented.

We love it. Who doesn't love to say Wow, you look so beautiful.

And if I didn't say it and you look beautiful, you're gonna ask me 1000s questions. So what do you think? Don't you see I got my hair.

Why are you asking me this? Because you want me to compliment you? There's nothing wrong with that. Again, Scott, I feel good. As long as I don't get too arrogant. But the point I'm trying to make your actions the daily actions that is going to make my path remove the obstacles and I'm going back to Allah as to you'd know Musa I love this idea is inshallah BA. Allah asked pseudonym Musa well ma Jenna Kang calm aka Musa. Why did you left your people Coakley

Allah, Allah Allah sorry, they are

got behind me that coming. But why did I run?

Well how genius to a Kirby later law. I ran to you, your Allah. So you're pleased with me.

That's when Allah has number one your life. I heard this. I was in high school

and the group, someone was walking very fast in front of us. And the she asked why you are going so fast. And he quoted this verse. Because we're going to have fun.

We're going to artifact.

And the chef could not say a word, ideal to a corrupt be the terrible. I'm running to Ya Allah, so you're pleased with me? That's what say no, Musa said. And Allah then said was done out to clean up. See, I made you for me.

So here you are. Every act in your life can be an act of worship.

And then the scale will be very heavy. Femen Sakala Tamala. Zeno for older ecohome of the whole, those who their scale is heavy, those are the successful.

You go out with friends, you're going to handle place or you're invited in a home.

Can that be an act of worship? Absolutely. Why you're going because she invited me and that's her right upon me. Number one, number two, she'll be very happy. When I go. Now you made the human being happy. That's an act of worship.

However, if you're going and making sure you dress very well. So you're the best woman in that gathering. That's not pleasing to Allah, even if you're winning, you're a buyer.

Because now you are acting with

arrogance. I sat down and I start looking at everything in the house. And I'm gonna find one or two or three or four, whatever

falls in that house and I'm gonna go out and talk about it. That's not pleasing to Allah. That's not an act of worship, let alone what I'm going to talk about.

I'm going to talk about this and that and this person was she did do he did whatever. That's all backbiting

that's all haram.

And we have become May Allah forgive me, number one before anybody, we became so numb about backbiting that it is part of our life.

Is it true?

Is it true?

Allah soiree Santosa I'll share this with you because it's really when I learned this Yanni it changed. I wouldn't say 100% ebme rasa risotto Sal was in a funeral. And they just buried a Sahabi they just buried a companion. And he was going back. As he was going back he heard two companions talking negatively about the dead person. Something about he was not doing this act of worship.

And that also Ali salatu salam hurted them. He didn't say anything. He just walked. And then on the right side, there was a dead animal.

He looked at both of them and says Go and eat from that animal.

So the otter saw Allah did

that.

You know what he said? Does anyone know?

He said You already did.

He said You already did. I have a yet Carolina he made 10 for curry tomorrow. This is the verse in the Quran sorter hoorah. And Allah says, Well, if the Bible can bada do not back back to each other. Do you? Like do you love to eat the dead flesh of your brother and you hated it?

That's why it's a major sin.

So here I am. Back to the point. Whenever every moment of my life, I'm going to switch it and make it an act of worship, which is possible without haram.

And I need to be you know how we much love selfie.

Right? Everybody loves self. Nothing wrong with selfie.

But I say this to myself before anyone can we have a selfie to our hearts? Just put it

what are you going to see on the screen?

As one righteous person said, I think it's in the book. He said if sins has a smell, you will not be able to sit next to me.

If so,

Is has a smell, you will not be able to sit next to me.

So let's change Levy's

very simple, don't take drastic changes.

But let's make it and priority we always talk about priority. When we run around all day, and I feel so overwhelmed and somebody look at you say what is it as 1000s things to do? And there isn't much time so okay, just put one, two and three, what's important? So let's make it here as in our path of Allah subhanaw taala. And I'm going to end up here so we'll take some break and then we will come back for question answers. Let me ask you a question. How many of you wants a lot to love her?

Show me hands. Everybody.

Like, is it possible?

Oh, man, I love that man who said that? Highschool love it. Okay, she says in Arabic of course. Bismillah she's absolutely right. How's that?

What do I need to do?