Modesty And Guarding Secrets Series The Book Of Good Manners

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa sallim ala Nabina Muhammad Ali he was happy he edged mine. This is due to Allah. And may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon all those who follow His guidance, who follow his way until the last day, my dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Today inshallah huhtala.

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begins a series of talks

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on a very important topic, which a man will never wear him a hula hoop Tyler has included in his book criado sila hain

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and he entitled this topic or this book kuttabul added keytab added.

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Now, this is not to be mistaken for a memorable high res book. And addable new front

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emammal Buhari Rahim Allah hota Allah He has entitled other will move further talks and etiquettes as a very beneficial book, but in the upcoming weeks inshallah hota Allah we will discuss the Hadith in areas related to the many manners in Islam that a man will know we are Hema hola hola Allah included in his great book, we have to sign him now. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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in an authentic hadith he said in the midwife to Luton Mima muckety muck, that I have been commissioned, that I have been sent to perfect, good moral character. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this hadith is telling us in no uncertain terms that are part of Islam and part of the teachings of Islam is that we adorn ourselves and beautify ourselves in our behavior, in our actions, through good manners. So a man will know you're a hymn of Allahu taala, he dedicated a book

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called keytab, when added and included in this book are chapters or chapters to do with the different areas that add up includes. Now added could be generosity could include being generous, it can include being brave, it's a good characteristics, having a kind heart, a smile etiquettes related to eating and drinking, related to sleeping related to how to deal with others. So Islam is not only about your dealings with allies, but it is also your dealings with the people that you interact with and the people that are around you.

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So Alhamdulillah we find that the translation that has been given to this chapter, in which MMO no way he said Babel hyah were fugly he would have Fiala at the Hello Kitty.

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It's about modesty. and hire. The is the first manner of good manner that a man will know with a hammer Allahu taala speaks about in his book and higher modesty. So modesty is what drives a person to do that which beautifies and adorns and by leaving of higher and higher modesty, this makes things really look ugly and disfigures things. So, part of a higher or another translation of the word higher is shyness that is feeling shy to do actions which people frown upon, which are disliked by others and higher or being shied from committing sins. Because you know that this is displeasing to Allah azza wa jal or feeling having this higher in front of Allah azza wa jal by not committing a

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good action that you were supposed to be doing. Let's say you're leaving off a wagon or leaving off a farm. So and higher and higher modesty. We're going to look

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is one of the main ingredients of Amen.

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One of the main ingredients of your faith of your Eman is L higher. And we're going to read the Hadith that a man will know we will have a Maha Allahu taala. Included in a moment. So it is your higher. It is your modesty and your shyness that prevents you from transgressing the limits of our luck. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a hadith authentic hadith. He said in Mim andraka a nurse NES Min qlm in Nevada till oola either Lam testa he first navmesh it he said in that mimma draka ness from amongst the things that people ness people learnt from the prophets of the past is the same

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either lamb testa Hey, if you feel no shame, if you have no shyness, then do as you will do as you wish. So, in other words,

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if you have higher and if you have any shamefulness

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then this is what will prevent you from committing wrong and doing bad deeds. Now

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remember now we are him a hula hoops China, he included. The first the first Hadith that he mentions is the hadith of Ibn Rama, Rama Allahu Allah. May Allah be pleased with even Omar and Ramadan kata.

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And the Hadith is found in Bukhari and Muslim

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and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mara Allah Julian meenal answer

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Whoo hoo hoo ha ha who feel higher sakala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they are who are in hire Amina and Eamonn they are who for in hire men and a man

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the professor a lot of money he was so let me pass by a man of the unsolved the people have the answer of the people of Medina, the original inhabitants or the original occupies of El Medina unsolved.

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And he passed by one of these men who was admonishing his brother regarding shyness

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regarding and higher. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said to him, leave him alone. Leave him alone. For modesty is a part of Amen. and higher. He said, I'll hire oh man and a man being shy is a good characteristic having this modesty. So, because as I said earlier, modesty What does it do? It restrains you from following

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the wrong ways. And for this reason, for this reason, modesty has been called a part of the men because it stops you from committing that which is wrong.

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The next Hadith is the Hadith a very moron a been saying about the Allah one woman.

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Kala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and higher o laity in LA the higher

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and higher Ola t Illa. The higher

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shyness does not bring anything except good. So when you have this characteristic, it's going to reap much goodness.

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And the Hadith is found in Bukhari and Muslim. And in another narration that we find in Sahih, Muslim

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and higher or higher on kulu that shyness, or all of shyness is good, too. There's no part of shyness is not good. It's all good to have this characteristic.

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In the next Hadith is the hadith of ebihara, the Allah one who were Allah and it's found in Bukhari, and Muslim so it's Hadith and Mustafa, Allah, it's agreed upon. Now here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said lie man, n EMA new

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member on WhatsApp grown a bit later on was it to Nashua at a man has

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60 odd or 70 odd branches? There are many branches of mn imagine just one area, one branch but many branches.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said for have been Oh Ha

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Power Lula Illa Illa Allah, and the upper most of all of these branches, is the testimony of La ilaha illAllah, to say la ilaha illAllah, that there is no true God worthy of worship except Allah. This is the highest level of he meant to be able to believe and to say it with your tongue and believe it in your heart,

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La ilaha illallah wa adna her in multiple other anaphoric. And he said, the least of these branches is removed is the removal of a harmful object from the road.

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That's the least of your Amen. That if you remove something that's harmful on the road, something that's fallen on the pathway that's going to cause people to injure themselves, then removing this that shows a level of your Amen. So you can tell the how much Amen You have by the actions that you are doing. So, and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he concludes this hadith by saying, we'll hire are sure about one minute Amen, and higher modesty shyness. And shyness is a branch of Amen. So he included that as being part of Amen. So modesty is actually or shyness is one of the important ingredients of Amen. Now if we just dissect this hadith for a moment and analyze this

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hadith

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not mention all of the branches of Amen. He told us, okay, the highest level of or the highest level is La ilaha illAllah. The lowest one is removing a harmful object from the roadways.

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And one of the branches is China's, but he didn't tell us all of the branches of Amen. Why. So we can pursue them ourselves through the two primary sources of Islam, the Quran, and the Sunnah of Mohammed Salah Sal. And we find this in Islam. We find this for example, when the Prophet said a long winding he was setting them

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spoke about Laila to Qatar. Does anybody know when later to cut? That is for sure. No, we know that it isn't. It is in Ramadan. We know that it is it is in the last 10 days of Ramadan. We know that it is on an evening of one of the odd days of the last 10 days of Ramadan. We know that it has science, but we don't know definitely when it is because if we knew when laylat will occur there is then what are we going to do? We are only going to work hard on that evening. And then we are going to be lazy on the other evenings and not work hard and forget about worshiping or do very minimal acts of worship. You see when you don't know when something is you work harder to achieve it. Likewise, yo

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Jamal on Friday, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said there is an hour a period if you make dua, during that period, Allah will answer your supplication.

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When is it exactly? Allahu island? Yes, many of the rules I met analyzing the Hadees they said that it is when it is between acid and maharrey when the sun is setting, so when the sun is setting on Friday, yo Majumdar

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It is very meritorious and very beneficial for you to raise your hands or to make dua for you is highly to be accepted during that period.

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Now, if we knew when that period was

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for certainty for surety, then we will just make do I in that period of time and not make any any other time. So Allah azza wa jal wants us to remain in contact with him.

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Another example, would be for example, there is an hour during the night whereby, if you supplicate to Allah azza wa jal, your supplication you will be answered. So again, when is that our Allahu Alem? Yes, we know it is in the third part of the night.

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Likewise, Allah azza wa jal has two names from amongst his many names.

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He has two names, that if you were to call Eliza Jen by these names, and make

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Do I make your supplication you do I will be accepted one of these two names. They have been, again many attempts and many opinions to say what they are. But do we know for sure that they are those names? We don't know.

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So we make that way we are making a calling upon Allah azza wa jal by all his names and his attributes, and we're not say that we are always in contact with all of Allah azza wa jal is names.

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So

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Eman has many branches. And when we sift through the Quran and Sunnah and we read through the Quran and the sweetener, we see, we start to learn about the many traits that develop our Amen. That nurture our Eman that cultivate our Amen.

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And the professor along while he was selling he said, I let her the highest, the highest point, or the highest part of a man, without a doubt is your belief and your acknowledgement of La ilaha illAllah that Eliza Jen

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is the only god that is deserving of worship. And in Islam, we call this towhead monotheism. And the opposite of monotheism is sheer polytheism. So if you want to become a Muslim da listener,

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and you want to follow the religion of God,

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then you are to say la ilaha illa Allah, that's it,

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believing that there is one God, saying it with your mouth, say I believe I declare there is only one God worthy of worship, and that is Allah and you become a Muslim. But of course, there are conditions associated with La ilaha illa Allah with this kenema with this phrase, and that is to believe in Allah and His angels in his scriptures, in his prophets and messengers in the last day in Divine Decree.

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So, what distinguishes a believer from a disbeliever is La ilaha illAllah this kelemen this tauheed this monotheism So, what does that mean when you say that ILA in the law, by you saying La ilaha illAllah. mice, you saying there is no god worthy of worship except Allah, you're saying that Nam Abu Dhabi, hufton illa Allah, that there is no one

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that is that deserves to be worshipped.

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except Allah azza wa jal let Holika Illa Allah it means that you acknowledge that there is no creator, apart from Allah azza wa jal that you were saying, lair Rosa Illa, Allah that the one who sustains us and maintains us is none other than Allah azza wa jal, he brings down the rain and the fruit and the vegetation. He causes life and death.

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llamada bear Illa Allah that the only one who controls the affairs of this world is Allah azza wa jal, and nothing happens without his permission

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that lambley could

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adore, were never in law ilala that the one who

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the one who allows for harm and benefit to happen is Allah azza wa jal La ilaha illAllah in encompasses all of these things,

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Men can ask euro kalami he Mina dunya La ilaha illa Allah, the halogen, that whoever's last words from this dunya from this life, where La ilaha illa Allah will antigen that's why if you see somebody who was dying,

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then softly and gently remind them to say la ilaha illAllah and nothing else, so that when they die, the last words parting from this dunya is La ilaha illa Allah so they can be included in this hadith and go to Genoa inshallah hood Island.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked about a man in the hadith of gibreel, what did he say? He man is what belief is what to say that a man will be law that I believe in Allah, as the only deity only God worthy of worship. When mela ekati he and his angels were called to be here and his books, scriptures, such as the Psalms of David and the Torah, the in and the and the

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Gene

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and the Quran and the scriptures of Ibrahim Prophet Ibrahim alayhis salaam, Sophie Ibrahim, Mombasa. Okay, well Malaika t wakatobi. He was truly prophets and messengers were your main asset the last day and I'm caught up Divine Decree. So

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now if we have a look at these different hadiths we say that belief entails four things. The proper and true belief

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includes four four things.

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sayings with your tongue. So actually saying La ilaha illa Allah, this is only one aspect of one component of even

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one component of a man his actions of the tongue, La ilaha illAllah it doesn't end there. You can say lay love but not mean it in your heart and not show it with your actions. You haven't completed your email. So number one, it's his sayings through your through your tongue.

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Number two, they said Allah Allah Allah mentioned the next one is a llama Lu Bill jawara. There is actions of the limbs, such as in the Hadith What did he say? He said, removing a harmful object from the road. So by you removing it from the road, that's an action of Amen. So Eman is action of the tongue action of the limb, such as also your prayers such as fasting, such as going to Hajj that's now putting your Eman into a reality.

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Number three is the action of the

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action of the hub. Like what luck with luck we're discussing as opposed to Selim said and higher.

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He said a higher Oh, sure button minute, amen. Higher shyness. shyness is an action of the heart. It's an action of the heart sort of belief. So now we have an action of the heart, we have an action of the tongue, La ilaha illAllah. And we read the Hadith. We have an action with the limbs, removing harmful objects or prayer or fasting, we have an action of the heart, which is what shyness, then we have the belief of the heart as the fourth one, the belief of the heart, dotted,

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dotted. And that's why the word apathy that comes from appa akkada, means to tie a knot. So your heart is attached or knotted to a certain belief. It's very firm in that belief.

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So when you say I believe in Allah and the angels and the books and the prophets and the messengers in the last day and other and other Divine Decree, that's a belief of the heart so that the heart can have

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two aspects to it. One of them is an action and one of it is a belief. And then we have the actions of the limbs and the action of the tongue. So this is one way to remember in shallow diala when it comes to our email. Now the next Hadees

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that email will know when we rahima hula hoop Tyler included is the hadith of Abu Salah Eden alpha de radi Allahu Allahu wa.

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Taller he said Ghana Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I shouldn't the higher and meaner la de la if you need rehab

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for either iascaigh and yet Rahu who are of now who fi YG

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listen to this beautiful honey

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that is found in Bukhari and Muslim.

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Outside in Rio de la one who are the he reported that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was even Shi'a. He had so much shyness moreso than a virgin behind her veil behind her wall.

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As

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when he saw something which he disliked, we could perceive it on his face. He was very shy.

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It could be seen on his face. So I love ya he was settling.

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But in saying this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never shied away from the truth. He never shied away from the Hulk. If something was truthful, he stood up for it. He stood up for what is

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What should be stood up for? Whenever the rights of allies or agenda were transgressed, he wouldn't be quiet. He wouldn't remain silent or shy away from this.

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And it's very unfortunate that we see this in this day and age, that many Muslims, for example, may even not perform a prayer on time because they are out in the shopping center, or in the park, or on a picnic, or engaging in some sort of amusement and the prayer time comes, and they're too shy to pray in front of people.

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And so this is not what Islam teaches us. And that's why this whole earth is a place of prayer.

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And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, in

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Jerusalem jaillet ado, I will add the message and la hora

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de Mesquita la hora. This earth is a place of prayer. So wherever you are, you can pray. Of course there are certain exemptions, such as the bathrooms and toilets in areas where there's it's inappropriate to mention Eliza gels name

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but apart from that, there is no excuse to miss your prayer. Pray wherever you are, don't be shy.

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be shy from Allah azza wa jal. You have an appointment with him five times a day. Don't be shy from yonni the people

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and commit to you're

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committed to your obligation your obligations. And also don't be shy about asking about matters to do with your religion to do with your deen some people they shy they're shy they don't want to pick up the phone and ask the chef or the Imam or a teacher

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about matters to do with the deen because they are shy.

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This has to do with your deen to do with your ask Allah to do with

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a better life in this life and the hereafter. How could you be shy?

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Amina is Sharia law one haha. She said Nia man nissa nissa will answer the best. She was praising the women of the ansata

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when she said that from amongst the best of women are the women of Allah ansara Lem yumna hornell hyah. And at the fucka Hannah Dean.

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She said that shyness never prevented them from understanding their Deen from understanding their religion.

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So a woman would approach the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and ask about that which men would be shy from mentioning team.

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The women of the onside with come to him and asked him about matters.

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So even to the extent that women used to come to Isola who are unhappy

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with their pads, asking whether this color allows them now to pray or not pray.

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And she would say wait until you see the white discharge.

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So this is a matter to do with Deen to do with religion. We shouldn't shy away from these things because what it means is either your act of worship is accepted or rejected or unacceptable.

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We need to worship Allah azza wa jal Allah basura with short sightedness,

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and we just don't blindly follow.

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So, this was the the first chapter the MMO no rahima hula who Tyler he included in the book of good manners. The next chapter, he titled it babble headless theorem, which is the chapter of secrecy and safeguarding or guarding secrets, not disclosing people secrets. And Allah subhanho wa Taala in salt LSR verse 34, he says, well for villa in Allah dakka masuleh. He said,

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fulfill your promises, or your covenant.

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Verily the covenant will be questioned about you will be questioned about your promises.

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And here,

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I remember a story.

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A story that happened during the time of Ramadan, the loved one who were about when he was the hollyford

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men came to him.

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Or two men, two brothers, they came to him with their men.

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And they stood before

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the loved one who were at a bar.

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And he said to them, what is your situation? What is your case? They said to him, Harajuku katella, Adana, this man, he killed our father.

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He said, Did you kill their father?

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He said, Yes, what happened?

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He said, Well, their father came onto my property. And I want him to leave the property. And he didn't leave.

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So I picked up a stone and I threw it at him. And the stone struck his head, and he fell down and he died.

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He said, I might have been hotdog, Allahu, Allahu Allah. He said, ally no Beeline

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in our iPhone.

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He said, you will be punished accordingly.

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So this man who said, Yeah, I mean, I mean, I am from another village and other town and I leave behind a wife and children and they have no more a no nobody to maintain them and to look after them.

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Except for Allah azza wa jal? Can you allow me to go back to my family, just so I can

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attend to them. And then I will come back to you, just so I can let them know what is happening.

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So

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I'm gonna bill Hobbes thinks about this. He says, look, you know, this isn't the right of two brothers as much as about $100 or $1,000. But it's about life.

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So he says, who will guarantee who will guarantee this man who's the guarantor? Who will guarantee me that this man will come, we'll come back.

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So one of the Sahaba, who was one of the elders of the Sahaba, who was still alive.

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He said, I will guarantee him a mirror meaning

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I will get an hour down guarantee him.

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So

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I might have been caught up with a loved one who advice it to him, okay, you may go And I'll give you three days.

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I will give you three days, and you must come back before sunset on the third day.

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So he goes away.

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And then on the third day,

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an announcement is made of solid to Jamia he used to the way they used to gather people and congregate them and call them to congregate they would call out a salad to Jeremy a salad to Jeremy are the people gathered and Omar even hotter their loved one who

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is now looking at the size as his setting and the man hasn't showed up.

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And it appears that the sun, Tamar is sitting very fast, and America is now concerned. And all of a sudden, the men apiece and the people start saying Allahu Akbar.

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So Omar, even el hombre de la one who, blah. He says to him, what made you come?

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You could have just stayed in your village in your town. Nobody wouldn't have known where you are, because he was a stranger.

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He could have just stayed back. And nobody would know where you are, who you are.

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So the man says to him, but allies though.

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He knows where I am. And he said, I feed that if I stay behind, that people will start to say that you can't trust anybody anymore. that people don't fulfill their promises.

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that people don't fulfill their promises. When Allah azza wa jal says we're out for Beloved, in Allaha, kenema Sula, I will be questioned about my promise to you.

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So I didn't want people to say there's no more people out there that fulfill their promises and we hear this

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so then

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Mr. Malhotra the loved one who he turned to. I think it was it was that it was a hobby who guaranteed who guaranteed armor that he this man will come back. He said to him, what made you guarantee him

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He said, I feel that people will start saying there's no more good in people. You can't, you can't get good out of people anymore. I wanted to show that there is to goodness in people.

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So he turned to the two brothers. And he said to the two brothers,

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Will you forgive him? Because really, at the end of the day, it's up to the brothers to forgive this man, if they forgive him, he will not receive the capital punishment.

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And they said, We forgive him. Yeah, I mean, what meaning we forgive him. So I might have been the last one who

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allowed for this man to be set free.

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And so one of the characteristics also of Muslims is forgiveness, and pardoning others. And that's why Allah azza wa jal, he praises this virtue of forgiveness, Eliza which was what Jen says, well as seen and the nurse will love who you haven't seen him and those who part and others and allies so again, he loves those who do good morning.

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So

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we're going back now to what mmm no Rahim Allah who died he opened up with this verse, and then he mentioned the hadith of Abu Salah in the Allahu anhu. whereby the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in min ashari nursia in the LA HeMan zealot and yo malkia mature Raja Lu, you've B lol Ma, it was the La Familia en su Silva. He mentions the Hadith that is found in Sahih Muslim,

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the prophets of Allah while he was setting them, he said, the most evil of the people to Allah, on the Day of Resurrection will be the man who consults with his wife, and then publicizes her secrets. So what happens here, and this is a practice that we find, in some cultures, a man and a woman get married, and they have intimate relations. And then on the next day, the husband or the wife, or both of them,

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they go about spreading the bad experience. And in Islam, this is not allowed. You're not allowed to disclose

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your intimate, bad experiences with others. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Hicks said in min ashari nursia in the law, that these are from amongst the most evil of the people to allies.

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The most evil to go around spreading and talking about the experiences that you had.

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Another Hadith that he mentions here regarding secrets.

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And we before we mentioned this Hadith, just a quick note on secrets.

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When it comes to secrets, a person either may come to you and tell you something, and give you instructions, not to tell others. So this is known is Jani through alef. So he explicitly tells you, or she explicitly tells you,

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please don't tell anyone. If somebody says to you, please don't tell anyone, then you have a duty to tell anyone.

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Please don't disclose this to anybody. This is very explicit and direct.

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Another type another way of a secret, you know that something is a secret is through a career tool failure, or Kareena to failure means that you find for example, a person comes to you. And he comes to tell you something, and he looks right. And he looks left. And he says, you know, is anybody listening? Can anybody hear me? I want to tell you something. So he tells you something or tells you something, but they haven't said to you don't tell anybody about it. So now you go and see someone and you go and tell them? Well, you have disclosed the secret, because he saw in the actions of that person that they didn't want you to disclose that. Those words that they mentioned to you. You saw

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that you saw it through a Kareena, he saw that through.

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You saw that through an action. This is so number one was they either directly tell you or it's implied that you don't tell.

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It's implied through the actions that you don't do and certainly

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Sometimes, okay, they haven't told you not to tell anybody, or they haven't, you know, shown you through their actions that you don't want to. They don't they don't want anyone to know about it. The third way that you can know is if something is embarrassing. If somebody tells you something, and it seems like something that's embarrassing to tell others,

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okay? Or for example, if you go telling others it can bring about harm. That's enough for you not to tell others.

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So don't go saying well, he didn't tell me she didn't told me not to. There needs to be some common sense. Common sense here prevails and you need to be able to read the read the scenario.

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So this is regarding a serum and the word for secret in Arabic is a serum and spreading secrets is if she was spreading secrets. Now there is a hadith Hadith Abdullah ibn Ahmad radi Allahu anhu man.

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He says my father Omar said when his daughter half saw became a widow,

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meaning her husband died.

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I met this man Eben offene probably a loved one who

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and offered have sought for marriage to him.

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Sir Omar have hafsa his daughter in marriage to her to Earth men love your loved one.

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servicemen said I will think the matter over

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Omar said I waited for a few days and then both men met me and said it occurred to me that I should not marry at prison.

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Then I met abubaker sama met Abubakar Adela one

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and said to him if you are willing, I shall marry my daughter have said to you if you want you can have have sought in marriage.

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So Abu Bakr radi Allahu Allah remained silent. I did not utter any word to me in reply, didn't say anything drama.

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I grew more angry with him than with Earth men.

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didn't say anything else man didn't want his daughter. How am I responding this strange.

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I had waited for only a few days with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked for her hand in marriage. And I married her to him. So Omar gave half sagala Juan and who he gave half sagala on her to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in marriage.

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There after I met Abubakar Avila, one who who said, perhaps you were angry with me when you offered to have such a meeting? And I said nothing and reply. I said yes, that is so he said nothing stopped me to respond to your offer, except that I knew that the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam had mentioned her and I could not disclose the secret of the Messenger of Allah Selim had the Messenger of Allah sauce, lm left her and not wish to marry her. In other words, I would have accepted her.

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So you notice how our Baccarat one who didn't say anything, and he knew that this was going to upset Amara, but he remained silent, and he waited for the time to see what the process was going to do.

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So

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we learned from this hadith also,

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that a man can offer his daughter's hand to a righteous person,

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that you can come and say, Look, I would like to offer my daughter in marriage to you.

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So this is another Hadith that we learn how the Sahaba maintained secrets, they kept secrets, they guarded the secrets

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in another Hadees that imamura him Allahu taala included is the Hadith of the loved one Ha, ha ha. That is found in Bukhari and Muslim.

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On one occasion, all the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim, were with him, when his daughter Fatima de la wine her who walked

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after the style of

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his father came there.

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He sallallahu wasallam Welcome to a saying welcome Oh, my daughter, and made her sit on his right side or on his left side, and then he whispered something to her, at which she wept bitterly. So Mohammed Salim whispered something in the ear of his daughter, Fatima della Juana, when he whispered after whispering, she began to cry.

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When he perceived her grief, he talked secret to her again, and she smiled with happiness.

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I said to her

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messenger of Allah sauce ln chose you from amongst all his wives to speak secretly to you and you cried.

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When he left I asked her. What did the Messenger of Allah wa sallam say to you? She said, I will not divulge the secret of the messenger bots are silent.

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She didn't say anything.

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When the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away, I said to her, I assure you buy the right I have in respect of you to tell me what the messenger was SLM, had told you, she said,

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Now when the message of Assam has died, I will tell you, when he whispered to me, the first time he told me that gibreel used to listen to my recitation of the piano, and then recite it back to me once or twice a year. And this time, he has done it twice, and I perceive he has done it twice. And so I perceive that my death is approaching.

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So basically, the posts are telling me that jabril coming twice that he, it must be that he, his life is coming to an end. When Fatima heard this, she began to weep.

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So then be mindful of your duty to Allah and be patient and steadfast, for I shall be an excellent predecessor for you on this I wept as you saw, when he perceived my distressed he talked to me secretly the second time and said, Oh, Fatima,

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you are you not pleased that you will be the chief among the believing women of this oma? And this made me smile as you saw.

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So here we have the Sahaba we have Fatima de la one Hahaha, not disclosing a secret that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told until he passed away.

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So again,

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we have the Sahaba and how they maintain the secrets. The last Hadith that MMO no Rahim Allahu taala included in this chapter of guarding secrets is the hadith of fair bit about the Allahu Allahu Allah. And it is originally found the Sahara Muslim.

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And he reported that the messenger of us our cell and came to me while I was playing with the boys, he greeted us and sent me on an errand.

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This delayed my return to my mother. When I came to her. She asked what detained you I said,

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messenger of Allah wa sallam sent me on a rent. She asked, What was it? I said, it is a secret. So here,

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says savate is telling his own mother, that it's a secret. I can't even disclose it to you.

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So his mother said, Do not disclose to anyone the secret of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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anus, Ravi, Allahu Allahu wa, he said to sabot for the loved one who, by Allah, were I to tell it to anyone I would have told you

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now.

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And us is the teacher of fair bit. And this is a teacher of fair bit. So fair bit is the student of anus.

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So here Anna's is saying that I mean and mind you said but used to narrate lots of howdy from Ennis. So Anna's is saying that if I was going to disclose to anyone, I would have disclosed it to you. But we know the secret should not be disclosed. And here it shows the relationship between a teacher and his student. Therefore the relationship and the love that should exist between a teacher and a student should be strong and vice versa.

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So he's acknowledging his very own students.

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And he will also learn from the Hadith, how Anna's did not even disclose it to his mother.

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And how we learn how even the mother did not pressure on us to disclose the secret. So don't pressure anybody into disclosing any secret that's not from the etiquettes. And the sooner. If somebody says to you, it's a secret, let it go. And you should be telling them and reminding them, this is a secret. Don't tell me and don't even tell anybody else.

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So it is part of moral t

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We should keep the secrets of our friends in our hearts

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unless we receive the go ahead from our friend to tell other people

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so inshallah who Thailand next week, we will look at some of the other characteristics of good manners, inshallah hota Allah as included in emammal no he for him mahalo hoteller chapter of the book of manners in Raja Sala hain, or sallallahu selama Rebecca Allah satana Mohammad Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh