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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Assalamu alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Peace be upon you a welcome to Ramadan dates, a show about the faith fasting in the holy month of Ramadan. Allah subhanho wa Taala our Creator gives us an opportunity in this holy month to improve our character and to discipline ourselves. One of the qualities that we should all be working on during this holy month is our manners. Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam peace be in place of Allah Subhana Allah be upon him, said in the Hadith, or have only been sent to perfect good manners.

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With us today to talk to us about the importance of manners in this day and age is our guest chef beloved unknown, and marriage celebrant and a Quran and Islamic Studies teacher Shall we learn Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh. Welcome to the show. Shia Barik Allah Who faecal. She's the clerk or the manners, something that is critical to a Muslim and something very important that every single person must be working on. What is the relationship or association between a clerk and mentors in the month of Ramadan? Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah undoubtably the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent as a mercy to all of mankind

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and the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in Nemer brief to live with Tammy McCarran will affect that I have been commissioned, I have been sent to perfect good moral character. Yes and so

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and hamdulillah there is a lot of teachings from the prophesy Salem from the Quran from the Sunnah of the process Salem, which deal with this with this topic. Now Ramadan is a time of detox. Yes, it's a time to reform ourselves. Ramadan isn't just about abstaining from the nullify is a fast as far as food and drink is concerned or desire is concerned. But it is also about abstaining from the sins of the tongue. It's about reforming ourselves. It's about becoming better individuals, especially as we know the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that during the month of Ramadan, the The devils are chained. Yes. Okay. And that's the chief, the chief devils. Okay, so

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they're, they're chained up. So there's more opportunity to to better oneself during this holy month. And during this very blessed month. One Hadith that comes to mind that it's related to Ramadan and manners is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that if a person, if a person

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basically abuses you, whether it's verbally or attacks you then the response is, I am fasting, meaning I'm not here now

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prepared to reduce my reward of fasting. So it is very important that we are very conscious, very conscious of our actions during the month of Ramadan. Now when you are conscious for 30 days of your manners, how do you think your manners will be after Ramadan? Allahu Akbar. So Ramadan is this window of opportunity for us to better ourselves. And studies have shown that it takes between about 30 to 40 days for a change in behavior to become a habit it takes some six months maybe for that habit to become a lifestyle. Islam is now offering us through Ramadan an opportunity for change. So this is like a training course pretty much for each and every single individual Muslim to better his

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manners his work the way he deals with with others. Yes, or we can look at it as a spiritual bootcamp. Yes. Okay. Or we can look at it as a basically an institute whereby we enter to really make make a change for the better insha Allah hooter Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said men Lamia, colas Zuri will MLBB fillet Salah he has a fee and yet the timer who Ashara but whoever does not leave off evil speech or bad speech and acting upon that bad speech, then Allah is not

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are in need of that person to live off his food or drink. So So there are two things here in this hadith, leaving off the bad speech, whether it's backbiting, whether it's slander, whether it's gossip, whether it's lies, okay, whatever, whatever it is leaving it off, and that when, when this type of negativity or sinful actions come your way, that you don't act upon this as well, making sure that your manners are always are always present. Now, when it comes to manners in Islam, we're talking about manners when it comes to your actions, your physical actions, and your verbal actions or your words as well. Absolutely, and shift we love some people sometimes say in the month of

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fasting, that, you know, they use this as an excuse that I'm fasting, it's very easy for me to lose my temper one on fasting, I can, you know, because I'm fasting, I can act with whichever way I want, because I'm already sort of short on the food and the drink and the nutrition and the sustenance that I need. So, sometimes people use this as an excuse to get angry. What would be some advice for these people? That's not an excuse at all, because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has instilled within us the concept also of subject which is patients Absolutely. So when it comes to patients in Islam, patience is required when it comes to our obligations, such as Salah such as

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fasting, such as hedge, yes, okay, so we need to be patient when it comes to acts of worship, we need to be patient when it comes to haram. So if saying something that is going to be bringing about a sinful deed, or a sinful action, then we have to refrain from this. So yes, Islam teaches us that when it comes to, when it comes to SABR, patience is required when with regards to our obligations, it's required with leaving of the Haram leaving of bed, and also when it comes to our calamities and our misfortunes. So we really need to control ourselves. And remember that we are in a in a state of a very bad and we are in a state of worship. That's what Ramadan is reminding us about throughout

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the day, and throughout, throughout all the days of Ramadan. So really, we need to be patient, and to really not only be fasting from food and drink, but from fasting on saying the wrong things. And that's what fasting is, it's an abstinence, it's abstaining from from something. Absolutely. And she will our role model is she Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he was described as a Saudi, I mean, the truthful, the most honest, the most critical, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he had the best of manners, and we should always try and emulate his Minnesota Allahu Allah. He also tell us a bit about his men as well. Really? To answer this question, we go to the Hadith, we go to

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the prophetic tradition

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that we read in Sahih Muslim, whereby Isha meaning Minin the Mother of the Believers I Isha is the, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and one day somebody came and asked her this very question. And she said to this question, do you not read the Quran? And then she said Kena follicle, Nabi Allah Al Quran kind of hola Cole Quran that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his character or his athletic his manners was the Quran. So he was an embodiment of the Quran, meaning whatever the Quran

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said to do, he did it. He was like this walking Quran. Now, he put the Quran into action. And he didn't just basically verbalize the Quran and articulate the Quran, but he truly put it into into action and I think that's probably the best response I can give you. The response of Aisha Radi Allahu anha, Allah Rhodiola No, of course, we all know from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the story of his life, that he had the best of manners in the way he dealt with his companions, the best of manners when he dealt with his wives, the best of manners when he dealt with the non Muslims. And he sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is someone that all of us should actually look up

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to when it comes to manners and so they remember these stories. And that's one way that we can actually improve our HELOC. Sure, what is the importance of a HELOC in Islam? Well, manners when we look at Aflac or when we look at manners we see that Allah subhanahu wata Allah. He says we're calling NASCI Husna and say to people he didn't just say by the way, say to believers

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will call the nurse and say to people, this includes Muslims and non Muslims were all in Nursey Hausner say that which is hasn't that which is good. So, horsnell HELOC when the Roland met when the scholars of Islam talk about a HELOC

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They they actually say Houston and hook and that means that we say that which is good. Now, when we also look at the the Quran, Allah subhanahu wa taala praises the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were in Nicola Allah holy okay now we're in Nicola hola hola can have him and you are on an exalted character you have a very high character. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in several Hadith in several prophetic traditions, speaks about a cleric and speaks about manners. Hadith that we read in Bukhari, the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, a commandment meaning a man and a son who whom Holika he said the most perfect of the believers in terms of their faith in terms of

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the Eman are those who are best in athletic those who are best in manners. Yet In another Hadith in sunnah Timothy, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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he again talks about a flag when he says, What color can NASA behold okay in Hassan and, and deal with people when you're dealing with people deal with them through good through good character through good mannerisms? Sure, we'll get to a quick break and when we come back we'll be talking more with shift we love unknown about this virtue of good manners don't go away. Oh Rama Dante.

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cela Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh a welcome back we are with Chef we love the unknown and we are talking about the importance of good manners in this holy month of Ramadan and how each and every single one of us must work very hard to correct and improve our manners the way we deal with people the date the way we deal with with others around us inshallah shift we learn what is the reward of having good luck or good manners in Islam. One of the Hadith that come to my mind is a Hadith that is found in sunnah and IB there would, whereby the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he speaks about Jana, he speaks about the price. And he says that

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the Prophet SAW Selim said that whoever leaves off quarreling, just you know, argumentation, even if he is in the right, then he says, I guarantee a mansion or a house for him in the surroundings or the in the outskirts of gender. And he says, whoever leaves off lying, whoever leaves off lying, even if it is, as a joke, leaving off lying even as a joke, he says, I guarantee him a house in the center of gender law, now comes the left and comes to the manners, he says, and and whoever has the best of manners, then he will be in the he will have a mansion in the highest level of gender Aloha. So without a doubt that is that is truly an amazing and a beautiful reward and compensation for

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those who perfect. The athletic industry you mentioned, and you mentioned, of course, I mean, if someone is quarreling or arguing, just leaving that and leaving that aside, even if you're in the right, even if you truly believe that you're in the right and you got the better, better position or whatever it may be, just letting that go. For the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala is part of good manners and Las Panatela gives us great rewards. What about the ranks of people that have good manners? There is a Hadith whereby the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in this hadith, he said, In Minna la yo Derek will be hosting and holy Okay, the raja saw him will call him that a

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believer can reach the ranks or the status of a person who perpetually is fasting who follows always fasting all the time fasting, that chapter saw me welcome

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are in a car him as a person who's always standing up in night prayers, and we know how virtuous and how meritorious it is to be to be praying throughout the night pm, you know what people are doing these days during Ramadan with Tara we're, for example going to the mosque and praying you know, for long periods of time to please Allah subhanaw taala will Subhanallah what a shortcut by simply having superb manners and good, earthly good manners, personal HELOC, then you can attain that reward and that status in that rank in sha Allah hooter and aloha Akbar. And this is something that I mean, every single one of us must be working on improving their manners. How could we work on

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having better manners in this holy month of Ramadan? Well, when it comes to like said manners, we can make sure that our relationship first and foremost with our parents, that we are patient with our parents, that we watch what we say to them, we don't hurt their feelings, not hurting the feelings of our loved ones, you know, our spouse, our work colleagues, we need to really just be very conscious, I think, if we are conscious of we really put in front of us some key words in Ramadan, that you know, some of the key words normally Okay, we have for example, fasting, abstaining from food and drink, that's one key word we might have in a pm night press yes, you might

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have sadaqa Okay. Charity, we might have

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another one could be for example, you know, for any of the any of the good deeds, the prophesy celebrate reading Quran, so the Quran is a key word, we should have another key word, and that is manners. So we keep it in front of us. Now when we are conscious of something, when we are conscious of a certain trait or attributes. And we do it again and again. What becomes second nature, it becomes second nature, it becomes part of our subconscious, after Ramadan, because we're now in a habit of doing it all the time. So let us be conscious of how we are dealing with people. As soon as I come now, to a person I'm about to interact with him. Let me get into a conscious state of mind

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and how he now it's madness time, just like when you enter the masjid and and you know, it's manners with Allah straightaway you put on you know, you put on your best behavior in the masjid because you're standing before Allah. Now, I'm in front of another human being, and I need to make sure that I have the correct manners with this person and inshallah become second nature, as you said, and this is great advice. sercial will mean sometimes, unfortunately, you find that people have good manners towards others, towards their friends. But when it comes to those that are nearest and closest, you know, the ones within the same household, they sort of fail on that whether it's a

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spouse, their husband, their wife, their children, their parents, as as you might have mentioned, I mean, what would be your advice for the pope for the people that are sort of closest to you when it comes to men? It's, it's very disheartening, isn't it? Like those that are nearest to us we give we give them the leftovers of halal, right, it's very disheartening. And Allah says in the Quran, Allah Accra, buena au level models that those who were nearest to you are most deserving of your treatment by that we know for example, that in a slam you know, the mother has a very lofty position. Yeah, exactly. So that it is the prophesy Salim said when somebody came to him and said who is most

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deserving of my good companionship and he said your mother, he said, Who next your mother who next your mother, who next your father, okay, so that's one example of how important it is to be in close companionship and love with your mother. When it comes to your spouse. I mean, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said hydrocodone hydrocodone the early hydrokinetic that the best of you, those who are best to the family, family members, and I am the best to my family members. Allahumma salli wa cinemagraph I said no Muhammad, so you know, that we see that the neighbor for example, in Islam, we know that you know Gibreel the great Angel Gabriel, again and again spoke to

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the Prophet SAW Selim about being good, okay to your good to his neighbor and being good to neighbors right. To the extent the Prophet peace be upon him thought that neighbors were event were going to be included as part of inheritance that they can inherit you, you know, that's how close they are to you. So yes, let's begin with those people who are closest to us and be very conscious again, of our loved ones and ensuring that we treat them with outstanding manners insha Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it was actually asked he was asked about

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who is it? What are what is it that guarantees people gender? What is it that guarantees people which action that allows people to enter join them the most?

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And he said Taqwa Allah He were hostile. wholecloth dako Allah wa Hostal hola can habitus venison and Timothy Taqwa Allah is the reverence of Allah and the fear of Allah obeying God conscious at all times. And this is what Ramadan is about. All about taco. It's all about Tukwila. Allah come to the taco and in order to gain taco so Taqwa part of having taqwa, okay, we have to add to that Taqwa. Now, man has a custom hook and that is in sha Allah going to be a recipe for for entering gender in sha Allah We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us the best of Taqwa and to give us the best of manners. When we are dealing with people in sha Allah we'll be right back after the break. Oh

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Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh a welcome back. We are speaking today with Chef below the known about the importance of good manners. Chef, you've given us some great advice on how we should use this holy month, the month of Ramadan, as if you know as a as something to facilitate the improvement of our manners, the improvement of our conduct with those close to us and with those around us as well. How does Islam differentiate between malice towards Muslims and malice towards non Muslims? Let's say Islam doesn't differentiate. I mean, Islam teaches us to be good. As I said earlier in that quoting the verse from the Quran wacko lowliness Yes, and say two people would words

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and we know from the biography and the Sierra or the the life of the prophet Muhammad SAW Selim that when whenever he came across anybody he was he was outstanding. He was very generous. And we know for example, when a man came to the prophesize center, and he said to him, Hey, give me from what Allah has given you. And the process LM had sheep, yes, he had sheep that was between two mountains. And he said, here take take this shape, this is yours. He was a non Muslim. Okay. And again, the prophesy salah, and this man ends up becoming a muslim through the good character and through the generous nature of the Prophet SAW Selim. So the Muslims should really work hard on improving his

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character, especially towards non Muslims. I mean, today, unfortunately, it's for some reason, Muslims are not known to be for the best of character where they need to be named. But that's the reality. The reality is that Islam teaches us good character. And Islam teaches us to perfect our actions with everybody that we come across. And when it comes to non Muslims, how else are we going to package and how else are we going to make them love the true Islam that we that we that Allah has revealed through the Quran or through the words of his final prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa send them so aloha is very, very important that all Muslims take heed and and and realize that it is

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so important to be extra kind to non Muslims during the month of Ramadan so that they can understand Islam through our actions and not only through our words. Absolutely. This is some great advice from Sheila shipbuilder noon. We are lost part of our audio Jessica love her for being with us today. Brothers and sisters. Do you have us thank you for tuning in. Until next time, subhanAllah Lahoma we have technicians, you know who learned the stuff we're going to Lake wa Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh