Forbidden Desire Muhammad Anwar Sahib Al Madani

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ambia will mousseline, Ratna Leela alameen sallallahu alayhi wa sallam regard Mara Tanaka Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, my beloved brothers and sisters,

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yes, a pleasure to be here again, in just our locker shack, beloved, for giving this opportunity to me in his place to give this lecture today here.

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The topic chosen for you people, it's not entirely for you people. It's in fact for all of us as Muslims and even for non Muslims at the same time regarding the issue of the forbidden desire, the forbidden desire, or we may say a Shahada, Al Maha Rama.

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Now, we do understand that there is something called

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hakushi in elearning, Sunny mamounia, that the most beloved to a person is something which he is not supposed to touch, which is not supposed to receive or use, or C or HIV, for whatever reason it may be now, on the basis of this, I'm going to start by contemplation that long, long time ago once upon a time

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1000s of years back.

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That is what we do understand Allahu Allah, that when Allah subhana wa tada said to the angels, why is color aboukir little mother acre in nature Island field of the Khalifa between Allah say to the angels, that are going to create a vicegerent for me, who will be living in this earth, fill out the califa

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the angels who are being fellows that do not ever disobey Allah,

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they were surprised and shocked. So they said to Allah, Allah Are you going to create a creation who are doing going to do all the stuffs which we are doing today? Right? Allah He said that in the Alamo Allah tala moon I know what you don't have the knowledge of the story keeps on going. So when Allah created Adam, now Allah was not taking this permission from the malayaka to creators allow us just informing them.

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When Allah created Adam, who was about 48 to 50 meters high, at the time when he was created, remember that Allah did not just create him like that, but Allah made his skeleton finger with his flesh, and left him for a while.

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At that point, we know the Satan was among the worshipers of Allah and he was up in the heavens.

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He started to go around the around Adam fallow Mara who a Jew of Alma and the hokuriku, Falcon, Leia tamala. When he so that this new creation is created with internal organs, such as our heart, our stomach going to Stein in all these things, the angel or the the Satan realize that Allah has created a being which has no control over itself, meaning control over itself of what are the desires

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and that is very much

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obvious to us. That when the end when we say turn, he saw this, he realized that he has got victims for himself.

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Imagine when Allah subhanaw taala created Adam in his wife, however,

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they were given the opportunities to lead

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In the next, the most perfect race and division,

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he was allowed and she also to eat from everything, everything. Imagine what the agenda is to use everything in the agenda. If they are service, isn't it? Only one very small restriction. And it wasn't even an essential part of their life through which they were they had to survive. No, it wasn't that there were no substitutions. No, it wasn't that they were looking forward to that thing because they pasted it into a scene that is something very delicious. They should try to have it again. No, it wasn't that it was it was only that do not eat from this tree. Yes, narrations indicate that it looked like it was an apple, Allahu Allah, whatever it may have been important is

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that they were not allowed to eat from it. So the shaytan is when the shaytan team she can't even say go and eat and disobey Allah no shaytan will not continue as a commissioner because you have to declare to Allah that you are powerful and now you are a main shaitaan will never tell you that because straightaway you will punch up the shaitaan and he will die for good, but the shaytan will come to you in other ways, which we are going to learn some of them today today inshallah exactly like that. Do you think that our father was deceived, as easily as this no shaytan started whispering in so many ways, including that look, this is the shutter button code. This is the tree

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of the life of activity of a river. Once you eat it, you are going to live forever and never die. So this started to make this

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mean.

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If this is the case,

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that's fine. fella told me not to eat from it, isn't it? Okay, I want to live forever. Not anime forgets that it is a command from Allah, he's supposed to keep away from it regardless of the consequences. All they're all or the result from the tree, whatever it may stain, you are prohibited, you are not allowed to come near it, you're not allowed to eat it, that's it.

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But if

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he ended up eating it, he did not have control over his desires, or his desire made him blind for a while. So he could not see the truth in front of him.

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And that's why we need to not desire

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is something we know that it is good in bed.

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It is not that something which is entirely in total form Hara No.

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So we need to learn what is desire. Desire is something which you

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which you look forward to which you like which you love, what you want to do, which you may not have control over which you enjoy to do and things all these are part of your desire, which Allah has created in you in also in the haiwan. Now

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even the theme era hola when he sees it talks about the shower, he's seen a little bit of those which are explained that Allah subhanaw taala has created the shower this desire in the US Why? So that we can use it and utilize it to worship Allah, we have the shower shot our desire for food, so that we can survive. If you don't eat, you can't leave you will die. You want to leave because you have to worship Allah and then the desire to for the intimate relationship for which you get married. So that you have the production of the human or human generation, without that it can it should not be happening. So all these are part of desire through which you achieve what you are

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supposed to do. Now, also,

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desire is something which is so dangerous, that even monochrome of law he says that Mandela chahatein hierarchy dunya ilica, Allah via fukushi Tana mianwali, that the one who is able to overcome his worldly desires, meaning he has control over it, then that is the one who the shaytan even fears the shadow.

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Yes, it is true.

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It's not so much any literal meaning but that's what it is true, that once you the shaytan knows that you have control over them yourself, she can will fear you because he knows that he is not going to misguide you in any way whatsoever. Now,

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among the most

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or mid there are many kinds of Shahar desires right. In they can be forbidden, or it can be held, such as moral wealth, such as a woman

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who can come in any shapes such as

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status which can be of various form in various levels, such as the beauty, it can come in many categories such as health, it can be many categories people they become, they start to worship their own health for example, or their body or their finger or their beauty. All this is part of the desire which a person

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lasts for in one citizen. Now, among those the strongest

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in the one where

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people have almost no control is the charlatanism the lust, a nationalist which a man feels for the woman, no one was talking about the Xena of dunya Allah says de gnarliness boo boo chahatein and Misha, well, bunny well panauti real MacArthur Athena

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in Africa, I started with Allah is really beautiful for me, the love of the shadow of the desires starting from one woman for sama sama Swami said in the

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era, we're in the Bahamas catholica configure lianzhou Rama pay for terminal for taco taco Nisa, this dunya is a very lavish, beautiful place, and Allah has created you in this dunya for what so that he can test you of what you do. Be careful of this language Jr. in a woman

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in the federal motor

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oil he had the best of the Mata or any form of mama which Allah has given you is a solid religious woman. And that's why Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he said Matera to the fitness and other who Allah visually returned even Anissa I have not ever left behind a fitna which is more harmful for men than the woman in disease who who said this Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam in when he said if cuckoo, cuckoo nessa for in

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Israel Karna finisher, be careful of the feeding of the woman, because the first bit nine bunnies, right? was because of the woman it does not. And the mean BHT it is, you are totally wrong. If this is what the sisters and the brothers, they think you have totally misinterpreted the Hadith, or the ayah. It In fact, elevated status, that the power with the him in the control which they came here is amazing. And that's why they are whenever whoever the question is, if they have this kind of influence, if they have this kind of status, if they have this kind of power, they are either your best friend or your most dangerous enemy.

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When Islam is the most powerful religion, it is not not the best friend for everyone, those who are not Muslims. For them, this is the worst of their enemies. So is a woman, either she's your best friend, or your worst enemy, depending on what you are or what the situation is, which means they control in the head, that kind of power and that's the way Allah subhana wa Taala has created them. Now among the reasons

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why we become victims of desires, which are mostly forbidden meaning the forbidden desires herbicides or have been attacked for you why among those, there are many reasons among the first one in that the

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lack of Eman or the weakness of human in we know that our Eman is our weapon through that we control ourselves through that we got we guide ourselves to what is best for us and what is not good for us. And if we let in the man, there you go, you are going to easily lose with the shaytaan.

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The second reason is bad companion ship, your friends, your colleagues, your mates at work your classmates in the college or schools, your neighbors and even your brothers, the community members all these come if they are big, then you're the influence of that is reflected in you Rasulullah Hassan al Islam he said a word to Allah Dini Holly for young Buddha Dooku Manu folly that a person is according or at least has been reflected with the being of is free. So you should be careful to choose who your friends are going to be for younger manufa so you have to know because if as a Muslim you as young kids you go out in every time your parents they see you going out with the chef

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of the mercy they are never going to say don't go they're never going to dark Mashallah. You are a great

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Company what a good company if you're a good boy keep on going. Right? But

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in HCA, he picks you from your home, elated COVID-19 brings you back. Your parents are happy all with the mom Mashallah. They may not even bother to ask you where you have been, they will know because of the person. But

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if one of your notorious friends with a tattoo and earrings and nose rings and whatever he comes and picks you up 10 minutes before salata Juma says I'm going to I'm going with him for silica Juma. Your father will ask you are you sure you're going to jump in there straight after Juma? He brings you home? Where have you been? That I've been for tomorrow? Don't you trust me? Come on. Give me a break. Of course. How can he give you a break when you your friend? He doesn't look like a boy, isn't it?

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You see, it's it's the effect of life. It's the fact of life. Simple as that. So your friends are very important. The first one being the shape, you are away from home for hours and hours, your parents will never even bother you. They may ask you just for the sake of information, but not for the sake that they're there for the benefit of any doubt. No, but for the second one, half an hour. But still they keep on asking because they can't trust you. Or even if they know they trust you. They fear that this trust is going to take you as his son or your daughter to someplace or somewhere in the state where you may lose. And that's the way people are that's why good companionship is

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very, very, very important.

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Also

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among those reasons, and this is I have found this a very dangerous one. It's lack of knowledge. You're seeing you're never your eyes, your sight looking at things Alhamdulillah Allah has given us this Nirvana ole

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if from your eyes, your tongue in your ears. If you are given the choice only to have one thing you will choose your eyes

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you will choose your eyes

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because the near mouth eyes is far more than other neon Subhanallah in that's why when the near Amma the blessing of Allah it's so much concentrated on eyes and that is why the opposite and that is that is the trial in the test. The empty hand or the deviation or the designs. The Forbidden ones are also all mostly concentrated in starting point from the eyes. In most of the cases were lovely Mr. And Mrs. Amina yo domina Babu colome Delica escala who tell the believers

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you have enough sorry him today to lower the Arby's we follow follow yo into protect your private paths. First you have to lower your gaze without that it is impossible to protect your private parts impossible to keep away from intimate reactions. It starts mostly with the looking which Allah has given you in your eyes.

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Also, among those things, alpha alpha kill, meaning that frog is emptiness or too much of time in your hands. Or I'm getting bored mainly is nothing to do. Come on, give me a break, I want to go to the supermarket. We have been hearing this for the past two months, isn't it in the school holidays. And that's why since last week, all the parents in Australia and New Zealand they have restarted to be normal again. Because the kids are in school, they are not getting bored anymore, that you don't have to you know, go out of your way to entertain them.

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In either.

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Now we are grown up, I can see for where they are coming. But in my age in it my time. We did not know the vocabulary in existence of the word of boring. I'm not joking, is my parents, my mother, she did not know this word that I am bored. And then telling my dad we need a timeout. We need a holiday we need to go somewhere because I'm bored. I never heard this from my parents, my mother.

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But we hear this nowadays from the wives. So when we were young, we never knew this vocabulary but now our children this

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See?

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Right? Why we get bored. It's exactly that same 24 hours in what we achieve is far less than what they may have or what we can do in what one hour used to be taken. Used to be done in one day by our parents because of the technology and facilities. So you can do so many things they invent, to keep us busy. There are so many things more than before and you have it all. It's all initiative, you find that you are bored. This comes from lack of lack of demand, also, restaurant knowledge let me Sydney I'm attorney makuuchi McAfee roominess as well for that there are two kinds of two forms of Nirvana. Many people that have been placed with this in they abuse it and that is your health in

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your time. Never think that you have got ample amount of time.

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I always feel that I have hardly ever any time. So if you utilize your time, in the way Allah is loaded, you work every day, every day I by Allah showing up every day, I find that I have not achieved what I wanted for the day, almost without exception. Because you make yourself so busy, you've got so many things to be done that you can't do all of it.

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Then we raise the frog which you are talking about ways that emptiness way is that boredom, which you are talking about. He should not so many of our children, they complain that they're getting bored. Did you finish memorizing the Quran? Did you finish memorizing all the sooner for somebody to finish memorizing al Bukhari and Muslim in all those seven books? If you had done that, then it is my challenge, you would not have been bored, but you'd become too busy yourself teaching others.

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So there is no time for boredom? No, it's not only those things you can go for there are other other things also which you can do.

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So hamdulillah

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fifth one attesa woodfill. Heron

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taking it easy when it comes to her arm, releasing the the valve when it is the concept of her arm. Okay, we are in the Western society, you know, we have to take this approach in a different way. You know, it's bit okay. I know it is Robert theme. We are in the 21st century, and we are in Estonia, we are not Ivanka what you are talking about here. Yeah, in these one thing leads to another in then it becomes well as will

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a normal thing in your life. I remember, when I graduated, I'm from Fiji. for 14 years, I lived in a community, which is just like an Australian community mixed and everything is just normal, not jamdani, acabo de and Muslim, and they are doing better than what it was 2530 years back in Fiji. And then all of a sudden I find myself in a community which which was and still is still better than many places, most of the places where you observe a job and segregation in all these things. And it came in my veins. Being at the age of 14, it wasn't difficult for me to change my system in my thinking. And then after I graduated, I came out

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I found it so difficult to resign in Islam.

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Because of you know how this varies Exactly.

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When it came to social aspect of life. Now, every time

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I asked a woman, you know, I know most papilloma in the normal like this, or I still I do but what I'm saying is it's not what it was, why you get used to it.

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You get used to it, though maybe I'm not seeing maybe,

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no, those elements are not there. Allahu Alem but that feeling of the beginning, I got used to it now.

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And this is the real and what is shift we are born here so we don't know how really it works. Well when you go to Makkah, especially not in hajj or Umrah or in Ramadan because that time you are only going to get mixed mixed around with the rest of the foreigners. And they are just like you I want you to go and see those communities who observed the job who observed the segregation in their other their educates you in the beginning you will find it difficult and then you melt in it and it becomes your other

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anything you start in the beginning it is difficult and then becomes your other use your system in your life. It becomes a system of your life and exactly like that when you take around easily and then it becomes normal of your life and it

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As part of your culture

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six, number six, our poor woman with irati, a shower shower, to get near to a all those things which, in fact wakens up your shower, which exaggerates your shower, or which fires up, ignites your shower, your desire.

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And that leads, one thing leads to another as we know, it leads you to commit all the Haram in it, because something which you don't have control on, what do you see the facade lies around Allison and he said, Well, you lose faith to record when the Sahaba is, you know, he still repeats in existence, the herbs, they will, they would have in front of the houses, in many places, they do practice even now, they would put the cow the Shah he the tea, the coffee and they would sit with their friends and colleagues and they would talk there in the Rudy's in front of them. So it used to happen, very similar to that the culture was that the servers would sit in the front of the houses

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or near that on the side of the roads talking and in

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sharing the whatever news or whatever it may be. sola said be careful, do not sit on the roads, it doesn't mean sitting in the middle of the road, though the donkeys if coming, they would not trample over them, they would go on the side. But if we sit on the middle of the road, then we know where we would be today. But he means by that on the sides of the road. So the Sabbath, they sit here as well as online cinema but the meaning that we have to we don't have any other place to go to catch up with each other. So we have to sit in those places. There are some Muslim Muslim, he said for either abetone lol Melissa,

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but if you refuse, but only to sit there and give the rights, which it is entitled to give them the rights, which is because women they work from there might be when you are sitting on the outside, the one of the Windows is open, or the door is open, and you may see something inside the house, which you may regret later. So you have to be very careful of these things. And when somebody say passing by, you have to give the answer to their Salaam and things like this. So it's difficult, you might as well be better off not to sit in that place at all.

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Also,

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we have to be careful that as I said those things which leads you to commit her arms, in examples of such as music, movies, and in any kind of things as such.

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Now, we are We gave certain examples or certain reasons through which we see that we end up becoming victims of our own desire.

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Now, how can we all have agreed right from the beginning that they something called desire,

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they are of two kinds halaal inherent,

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accepted and forbidden, we are concentrating on the reasons where we commit forbidden desires, or we lose the control over it. Now, once agreeing on that, now we need to we need to see how can we be with the situation of the shadow of these desires? How can we react to it? Or how can we cure it? Or how can we prevent it? Or how can we take the precautions. Remember, precaution is better than cure. Because when you want to cure, sometimes you are damaged a person if he is going, Oh, I don't care if I get sick, we are in Australia medication is free or I'm paying this and I will go to the doctor's maybe you never come out of the safe maybe there will be permanent side effects to them. So

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it is better never to be sick, isn't it though we all go through those things. So here it is, it is better to keep away from all the elements which is going to make you lose your control over their desires. Because you may come out of that with over in become safe, but the remnants of that may be forever with you and you may never forget it and you may regret it and that may become an obstacle in the rest part of your life. Allahu Alem.

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Among the things which are going to be you have to utilize to protect yourself self from these desires. The first one is to say our ob learn our Uzu biller.

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And this is what is known that use of Alice electroslag remember when the wife of the either the king or the Sultan or the minister, depending on the way we explain it, when she he remember was hard in our seventh to her asleep.

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And he was extremely extremely, extremely beautiful. Allah subhanaw taala had made him with exceptional beauty that led to that is that when the woman they started to talk about that in rattle Aziz that she is the one he she wanted to have wrong haram forbidden desire,

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desired actions with the slave with us with asleep. She wanted to tell them and teach them. Look, he is not a new, normal human being. So she invited all the woman and she gave them the fruit to cut while they were cutting the fruit. She ordered uses to come in. And when he came in, all of them, they cut their hands.

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Because they didn't know what they are doing. The moment they saw, they said, This guy can't be a human being is an angel, because of his beauty. Right? So when she tried to overpower him, she hit the stages. She was beautiful, and she had the power. And she had closed the room. They were secluded in privacy, there was nobody seen and the husband looked like that he was away. And then he was the youth himself if he didn't hit the gala and the jealousy is the rest of the incidents indicate to that all that was there in vain. He is just a slave and he is unmarried, a young, beautiful men, all powerful, handsome, not sickly, the shower. The desire was all there. in it. Our

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Safety Man protected him.

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He said madula

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maravilla that I seek refuge in Allah subhanho wa Taala when the soul or the llama and but

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we will call it Lilia Fatah.

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raha Lama absurd to Matsui ready for call to pay for uncle la hora de acima. Yamaha Sharon Nancy is Gulati the year

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to incarnate be her vulnerable Jabari was softer la

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la de se hottie Paula how useful Koolhaas Hola, yo Korea, this this shine is basically reflecting in reminding us that when the woman is it happens even today. When they came towards me inviting me to do around I remembered the law and the case the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala in vain I will be handcuffed and dragged and pushed to the knowledge of random yomo gamma where it is not going to be of any benefit to me in that area. And that is when I said what are the law This is what Yusuf Ali slapped Islam he said when he was invited almost forced In fact, Carla how useful for her year over year in sales and in this is very important. You know some of us when we see the harem some of us

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when we see half naked semi naked or almost 90% naked females walking

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we say

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or

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roller and you keep on following her for minutes.

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This is not only learn it also applies on sisters when you see half in decent acting people men walking around

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trauma brothers.

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No, it is it is totally unacceptable. Your staff is supposed to protect you but get as the flula as the trauma unfortunately is not coming from the heart It is only a lip service.

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So when we say maravilla or Udo Villa it has to come from the heart It has to come from the heart. Now when you are saying that the another

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thing is very important at the same time to deviated even though you may still want to see look when you see some Heron you say a stuffy Rola and you take another away while in your heart you feel that I want to see it again there is nothing wrong in it. You're not alien. You are not alien, you are not alone. You are not somebody who is abnormal. You are very normal.

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You are very normal.

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It's a desire created in us but you did not do any harm. You said Mr. feola. In colors.

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In colors, you see? So if you think that you feel that in me, I should have seen him in at least one more time.

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What is coming in your heart is nothing wrong with that because it is

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it is coming you have no control over your heart what is being whispered in your heart comes reflects in your brain you have no control over there.

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You are only thinking what is normal.

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But

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you should not act on that. If you act then it becomes abnormal.

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You should

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Also act normal and that is a structural law. You think the point so if it comes in your heart,

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you are not abnormal, believe me also physician is

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same, but you should not continue and you should not intend meaning you know that I am going to the supermarket today it is very, very, very hot or pedis market. It's very, very hot today, the temperature is in 40s. So I'm pretty sure that there will be some decent men and decent woman there who will be almost with no clothes. So I'm going there to do the marketing and I'm pretty sure that I will be able to see them. But I will always say Allah and Allah so you're in pain right from the beginning colors. That's wrong. No, I'm going there because it is a season of mangoes. I love mangoes. I want to buy cheap mangoes, big watermelons and big rock melons, which we don't have in

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New Zealand anyway, only we have a small ones. So I'm going to buy that. So when you end up there you see some of the Phaeton which you may have not expected, or you had no intent intention of Allah has a handler, say, Oh, I'm going to watch beach volleyball. Right? You know what happens in beach volleyball, as when you go there, every time through La Jolla, you won't have any you look up, you won't be you won't be able to see beach volleyball later, you know what is going to happen there? Come on, give me a break, isn't it? So you don't go there right from the beginning with the intention, you know, that is the wrong place. So where is the place was the idea you intended you

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acted already. So you are one stage ahead of the roller in our odo Villa Villa Hall, Mr. Han, and you see the rewards of this operation who was invited by a woman with all the permission in his status to commit sinner which he did not do. He is among those who are going to be given the shelter the shadow of the throne of Allah Yokohama, Yama, La Villa Illa de la semana huhtala, a Zilla, Shiism Hannah who was the island.

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Also, among those things, which we have to be very careful of,

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is that I'm just trying to look at it I can't find it, but I will tell you for myself here it is that

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remember, fishing is hot right? And that is something which comes in your mind just pops up like it from nowhere, oh, this is it, then it becomes a secret it becomes a kind of psychological thing or ideology or an idea which you want to implement, right? So when it becomes a cocktail right here, you have to start finding that in that is the easiest part of all.

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straightway you change your mind because

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I need to go to the beach today.

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No, I have got shopping to do. My mommy said make sure you finish it up. So you've ended up being shopping for three hours it's already sunset, sunset, you can't go to the beach. No hot if I have to go to the Sun to the beach, then instead of changing yourself continuously or straight where you say you make it a secret, an idea? Yes. Okay, I'm going to call up my friend and we are going to the flower shop to buy some six packs and and then there are some fruits on the way we are going to buy it and then maybe we are going to the polar restaurant to have some takeaways and then on a certain place we are we are going to end up in the beach and then we are going to eat in enjoy with the rest

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of those public who are not dressed properly and this is where the restriction is isn't it? Oh, then it becomes a secret.

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You see, now you are committing yourself to Africa because on the heart If you did not control it becomes Africa in this speaker if you do not control yourself in the speaker now, then you start to take the next step and that is to really implement it really implement. So you go to the next step of carrying it up and before you carry it out, if you do not control yourself, then you go to the fourth stage and that is you really implemented committed haram right there. If you do not control yourself after committing haram after you have committed Haram, you go into a Stefan you go into Toba you go and get rid of that sin. If you don't do that, then it becomes an other it becomes part

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of your culture part of your life part of your practice. And that is when it becomes most difficult to get off that desire.

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Be it drugs, be it,

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sinner, be it movies, be it music beat whatever it may be. So you see the stages through which you go through before you start it before it becomes your culture. You have not seen anybody who has who has been a very, very religious always in the machine, blah, blah, blah. All of a sudden he says from today I want to start going by myself in drugs. No, it doesn't happen that way. It goes on gradually, so you have to control it before it becomes too late. Voila, who Island.

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The next car is the low here to protect yourself is

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this is the most dangerous weapon which I have already told you brothers and sisters right few minutes back. And that is the another Allah Subhana Allah says yeah, Allah, hi, Natasha, Yo Mama, toughie, sudo that Allah and Allah knows, in which I'm going to explain in whatever is concealed in your heart. Now,

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you have known the criminals, or like a bank robber or a highway mean, or the one who steals people's goods or people who do fraud and people in many kinds of criminals you have heard

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but this client kinda Tula Are you in here means a criminal of sight or criminal of looking or criminal have eyes.

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In what Who is this explained by such a similar bus, Robbie Allah tala Ando and also by soufiane and others, that it is like high and high enough to LA is like, you know, I mean, he see he goes in visit somebody in the family of friends, you know, and there is a beautiful woman in the house. So whenever he knows that the main focus of the house is not watching, he looks at the woman. And as soon as he realizes they're watching him, he goes like this, you know, or if they are passing by. So the brother is stood up there in the market, he meets with his family and the young beautiful daughter or a beautiful wife, and then you meet Assalamu alaikum brother, how are you everything you

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talk and your brother is listening to you and maybe he's looking at something, you look at his family and then the moment you realize that Oh, and then you this is

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this is caught in

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a criminal of sight or looking or whatever you want to say this is one example of one explanation of it, you can explain it in any other way you want in this car you need to learn is the most dangerous weapon, which we have, which I have already said before that because one thing leads to another index where it is natural to in fact the salmon for Salaam infirmary don't follow that it is starts with another a simple innocent looking which you are Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam has made it very clear to

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me The first one is for you meaning forgiven and that natural Ola it means by mistake you saw something then you deviated and if you continue looking, then it is haram in the second one definitely is not for you be it in family wise or in repeated actions both way it is haram. So, that is the starting part of it and that is why the concept, the culture or the teachings of Islam of the niqab the hijab comes in and we know why it is the niqab why it is the hijab, why it is the segregation, why it is lowering the gays why it is that the woman when they go out they are not allowed to make up themselves of themselves, especially if they are not observing niqab or when they

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are going to be in in places where the mixed men would be around and things like this. And that's why it differs when a woman is getting dressed up at night to go to her parents place or to have brothers plays. And she will sit in the car and then end up in the house of her brother. She may be well with perfect makeup and things with niqab and then she goes and takes it out there that is different from of course when you come to the places such as this place or to the markets because you have to go through public places. Allahu Alem Allahu muslin.

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And we also know that as another burrito, Xena that you're looking is the bereaved or the actual thing which leads you towards sinner. So you have to be careful of looking for law who Allah Allah understand. I think as far as

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looking at the issue of looking and controlling your gaze is concerned

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with have spoken enough on that but I would like to mention one thing. Many of the people who do not condone to the issue of segregation, they love mixed cases.

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And he starts, they say that my heart is pure. And we know that they are the biggest of the lives. They are the biggest of the liars and I can see in their faces and I've said it also to the sisters who say this, that my heart is pure, either you are not a woman or you are a biggest liar, because this is what is the teachings of Islam And then secondly, Firmin you are not you are not a human normal human being, you are not a normal human, you are not a normal normal main. So, you are abnormal, but are others not they may not be definitely they are not you might be abnormal, but others are not they are but only normal. So, these things are supposed to be taken very strictly

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what law who Mr. Moran is I said that

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do control take control of something which is in front of you and you are already committed to that or the reasons which is going to make you committed, it becomes more difficult compared to if it is eliminated or restricted.

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Also

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among among the reasons to control ourselves, we have spoken a lot now a little bit more inshallah segregation, not looking keeping away from music, keeping away from

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movies and things, which leads you to commit these kind of things, and then also such as getting married in time, that is for those who are not married and before because of that, you get you are committing that kind of sins, this is part of philosophy, or you fast to control your desires, or you do exercises or whatever to keep yourself in control the way it is permissible and,

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and

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also to help those who want to get married in the society to help them financially or by finding them a suitable girl or a boy, or by

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giving, decreasing the amount of mohar or supporting India walima. Or in whichever way possible to make this award. Big being a successful one in it is better, especially in this kind of societies for girls and boys to get married earlier, if possible, because that is going to keep them in the right track compared to if they are not Allahu Alem.

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There are a few other issues which I wanted to talk about, but I would rather not do it. But here what I'm going to give you some examples of those people who went through these forms of difficulties in how Allah subhanho wa Taala protected them. The first the most known example is of use of knowledge left Islam, which we already mentioned a little bit about in the previous minutes while we were speaking about him alayhi salatu was Salam.

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And

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among the reasons which Allah protected him was of course, he's the man and he was unabie in the fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala and continuous worshipping of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now we have got another story of duraseal. avi, we already heard about him that

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he used to worship Allah subhana wa tada so much that the people they wanted to put trials on him in turn. So they are almost a woman. In fact, she said, I'm going to do fitna to this to this main to duress. So see, she came to him. And she almost, of course gave herself to him to commit sin. And he said no. Then she went to a person who has a shepherd meaning grazing animals. And then she committed seana with him in once she delivered the baby. She said

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to people that he is the one who committed it. Well, it has to be law. But Allah subhanaw taala supported to read so much because he was he was a very religious man, that he prayed and asked Allah and meat to her. And then he pointed to that very young baby and said, Who is your dead? Then he said, Are you meaning the shepherd? So I was until I help him. And this was all due to that he used to be a Mormon and not looking at him and not committing Zina and things like this. Also, we have a robot of no profane, Rahim Allah.

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They requested a woman they requested the men of his time, they requested a woman to make him commit Zina. In they said that if you are successful, we are going to give you 1000

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in order to do that, which she tried, so

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she will

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And approached him in the way very,

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very attractive way naturally, but she was not successful in In fact, that he was able to make the our to her the Tao will it be that if molecule mode will come and take your roof now in how will it be that if the Moncure in lucky goes to angels who are going to ask you questions your karma, or that the fever would come in destroyed the beauty of your body. How will it happen, she feared so much that she did Toba and she became among the most religious woman of our time. Also, we see a study of the dinar, who had a very similar story to Arabia, where Allah subhanho wa Taala protected him from the cable car eating wha hoo, Stan. And we have the story. This is a very famous story of

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Abu Bakr Al miski Rahim Allah, Josie, he, he, he related the story in one of his books that Abu Bakar miski was asked that whenever you can put in universally, we smell the right had the smell of Musk, from you Musk is a perfume, if you really want to know the real one, how this smells, I invite you all to try this this is real must By the way, I did not bring it for this, this is real mask and it comes out from where Who can tell me

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I did not ask you to ship.

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It comes from which tree

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from

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from a Dr. ship has answered it.

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It's from an animal life animal it is extracted from that special kind of deal. And that's why

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the original real once there which I this is the only one I can use otherwise, I'm sensitive I have headaches, because of other kinds of other and this is from the real animal Of course, now, it used to come as the smell from him. So people they asked him

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a why why or why is it that you are continuously smell in such a nice way? He said, it has been for years, I did not use any atom. But it is that only that there was this woman She tricked me in by tricking me She made me enter her house. And then she closed the doors. And she

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she proposed to me and requested in ordered me to commit Zina with her which of course I did not I did not wish to get away from there, which I could not say in the end I said that I need to go to the to answer the call of nature meaning go into the toilet. So she requested one of our servants to take her to him and watch over him while he's in the toilet. So when he went to the toilet, he did it and then he soiled himself the entire body with with it and then when he walked back to the to her she got the shock what kind of a stupid guy is this is foolish and insane. So she said to him, you may go so he went in he said then I took my shower and clean myself and from there Allah

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subhanho wa Taala blessed me with this and this is in the book of Allah Allah is well majority is the eternal Josie. Now this is not a Hadith, this is what historically happened somewhere in narrated to us by even a Josie and it is this is among one of the famous cases known and also we see that

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I think the time is over. I would just

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I wanted to present some of the movie stories of those people. But I think I will just mention one ship. Just one is enough now in er 278 and this is also narrated in Alberta Obi Wan

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Rahim Allah, Allah, that Abdur Rahim he used to be a mudra head Listen, how many of you have done Jihad? Nobody? How many of you have memorized the whole Quran? Almost nobody. This man was a healthier, he used to do jihad with those a cell of a swallow so many battles, even in the Roman Empire, in so many other places. One day,

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the black day for this main half evil could earn Mujahid muscly Muslim, what happens

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while they hit,

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captured some Romans. He looked at the Roman woman.

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He kept looking at unnaturally and then he fell in love with her. He said that I want to get married to you.

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She said no. You cannot

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Unless you become a Christian my father will not get you let you get married to me he said I'll become a Christian he did. He got married to her.

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And then the his colleagues would go and visit of course they must have done their that our Allah subhanaw taala made him forget everything apart from rubella yo Bula vinaka Peru rubato Latina Kuru Locarno, muslimeen that the wish

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that those those who are non Muslims they wish that they were Muslims were humi aku a tomato where you will hear him Allah Manu for Sophia Allah moon entity This is inserted here is number two and three from this villain From where did they start? They start with a telephone call, a mobile call, net? No It started with another. So if none of you are foreign, none of you are Mujahideen. None of you are that we are more easily victimized by these our eyes than them. We don't want to be victims of that. So be careful. Remember, this forbidden desire which we are talking about? The waist one of that comes through our eyes as we say in the most powerful influential one is the relationship

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between men and woman and that is why we have so what we have nica we have

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husbands and wives and not boyfriends and girlfriends well lahoma Stan, may Allah subhanaw taala support as guidance keepers, all guidance. May Allah help us to be among those who protect ourselves in our private life from any harangue. In May Allah give us the success to control and protect in guide our children at the same time. Just like him locker and Mama Alena lol Bella