Science of the Soul

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The importance of human spirituality is discussed in the context of the spirituality of the soul. The speaker emphasizes the need for the soul to be the most important part of the spirituality of the soul, and the importance of avoiding certain activities and behavior. The speaker also discusses the importance of staying in the state of voodoo and building a habit, as well as the negative impact of overdoing certain acts of worship and regretting mistakes. The importance of following spirituality and following guidelines from religion is emphasized, along with the use of analogy and personal experiences to achieve spirituality.

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All right, so Inshallah, today we will, we'll be talking about, if there are no more glitches, Inshallah, we will be talking about the signs of the soul, greater Hamdulillah, you have had amazing speakers so far. And I hope that I'm able to be like, even one person as good as them and do justice to the topic, inshallah. So, let's see, what are we going to cover today?

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Before I really get into the topic, let me quickly tell you what is the difference between modern psychology versus Islamic psychology, right? So modern psychology, where, where it speaks about a lot of different stuff, it talks about, you know, it talks about human dimension. So we have different human dimensions, including physical dimension, emotional mental. So since we have a body, we talk a lot about the physical needs, we have an, we have a heart. So we talk about the emotional needs, we have, mind and brain. So we talk about mental needs. But if I could keep it a little bit interactive, but it doesn't look like I can keep it keep it interactive. So what's missing in this?

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What the modern psychology or the secular psychology largely ignores?

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is so right. So you have

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a metaphysical metaphysical part as well. That dimension is largely ignored in modern psychology, and that's where Islamic psychology comes to our rescue because it takes into account the needs of soul quite a lot, right? And when when we talk about, you know, taking care of these needs, let's have a look at what are we doing, you know,

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around the year, we are taking primarily taking care of the first three needs, right? So we take care of our physical body, we take care of our emotional selves, we take care of our,

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our mental intellectual needs. So we are the students of IB, we are the students of gasm University. So we are studying so the intellectual needs are being met. So we are eating food, healthy food, or let's have a look at how do we spend our day we wake up in the morning, we go take a shower, we brush our teeth, and then we have a healthy breakfast. So

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by and large, we're looking or taking care of our physical needs. I'm not saying that these these are first getting any they are mutually exclusive, they are not. But then yes, they have an 11 element of exclusivity to them. Right. So and what are we largely ignoring, right? There's no judgment involved. So, um, I will be generalizing a lot of stuff, but of course, there are always always exceptions are there right. So what we are ignoring is that

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we are ignoring the soul and the soul

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is sometimes screaming, because it's starving, so bad, and when we are not taking care of our spiritual needs or when we are ignoring the soul, it has consequences right. And these consequences, they sometimes manifest themselves into psychological challenges, you cannot ignore that. So, when Ramadan comes, you know, we have an amazing opportunity to you know, kind of strengthen our resolve to take care of the needs of our soul, right. So, Inshallah, in this particular context, we will only be talking about spirituality or in this particular setting, we will only be talking about the spirituality or the spiritual needs or the needs of the soul.

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When we will quickly be having a look at what spirituality is what it is not and how to be spiritual in this Ramadan and if inshallah Allah subhanaw taala permits, we will be able to take a few questions at the end. So I'll start by discussing what spirituality is not right. So when we have to understand what it is a very important part of it is

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a piece on my international design, there's a farmer so I'll keep speaking. So that's the this there's this super human spirituality like the super ego. If you understand Freud, that's how he puts it super ego requirements. Sometimes the super ego requirements are imposed

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was by are

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not so religious religious community, right? So we're the people who pretend to be religious but they have no understanding of what religion is or how does religion, what kind of spirit spirituality is expected of you, right? So sometimes one is forced to do

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you know more than what's required of this particular person,

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we are encouraged to, you know, kind of suppress the very natural desires that Allah subhanaw taala has created as well, you know, you just keep suppressing, don't do talk, don't talk about it.

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Let's let's not get there, you know, you're so spiritual Sister, how can you talk about that? So that's like suppressing the natural desires. Let's let me give you a good quick example that, you know, fasting, there are a few prescribed hours for fasting, you have to pass from this time to this time.

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But if somebody want someone worried to see that I'm going to be fasting for, let's say, two more hours, because that adds to my spirituality.

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Does that work?

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It does not work, right? Or if someone were to say that, okay, I'm going to offer like, a few more regard. Because I think four, four is not enough for my spirituality, that's our spirituality is spirituality is not also, you know, faking it. And we'll, we'll be talking about it. Okay, it's just to elaborate this point, there were three companions and quickly go through this hadith. And, you know, they came to the as far as the wives of the Prophet and they asked about the routine of Prophet salallahu Salam, and when they got to know that and they were like, okay, you know,

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he, you know, his past and future sins have been forgiven? And what about me, I am such a sinful person, so I will do some extra. So one of them said that, okay, of course, I'm paraphrasing this right, just to explain so one of them said, I have offered the prayer throughout the night forever. Right?

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That is superhuman spirituality. And another said that I'm going to fast throughout the year, and others say that I'm not going to marry and prophets, Allah darsena us like, that's what you're saying. That's what you're intending to do. And then he said, By Allah, I'm more submissive to align more effort of Allah, then you get a fast and I break my fast. I do sleep and they do marry woman, Yanni. Nothing. That is beyond human capacity, or nothing that human being cannot sustain is expected of you, Allah would have given the, you know, the command or fasting, like throughout the year.

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We couldn't do anything. And he's a one word acquisition, but he could have done it. But he did not do it out of 12 months, just one month. Right? He could have asked us to look, you know, 50, prayers Musa lesson and said this, it 50 prayers are too much for them. And he was right.

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So it has been reduced to five because I was confident I knows, what are we capable, right? And then, so when we're talking about spirituality, I'm not asking you to meditate for like five hours straight, or I'm not asking you to go to a mountain and do some crazy stuff. No, Islam has given a very fine blueprint of spirituality that inshallah I'll be sharing with you in a way, what spirituality is not right. So you're not even doing the bare minimum, and I'll discuss what the bare minimum is with reference to Ramadan, you know, fasting, and you're expecting that, you know, I'll do some crazy stuff, and I'll be spiritual, you will not be right, or you're fasting. But doing

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everything that's not permissible, you're being rude to your mom, you're fighting, you're using the words that you're not supposed to use, right. And I don't need to get into the details, we all know what such words are.

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And then we are they like fasting and fasting. So unless Mandela does not want us to stay hungry, or last night, or does not want us to, you know,

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be thirsty all the time, he doesn't want that from us. Fasting is not just staying away from food and drinks.

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It is it is a whole support perspective. And he was many other dimensions to it as well.

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Or it is not like following the desires all the time. One extreme it's like suppressing all the desires, even there are national desires.

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Right and in a clear example of, you know, suppressing the desires is what we see that the iron that we that were revealed about Ramadan, and this is the reason that Allah subhanaw taala get the permission that after you're done with your fast you you have, you know, open your fast and you have prayed Margaret, until the next pass, it is allowed for you to have sexual relationship with your spouse because the last part Allah knows that it is not possible beyond human capacity to stay away from the spouse for one month straight. So he said that this much amount

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this much amount of time it is not permissible. But for the rest of the time you can go ahead you can you can fulfill your natural desires. And then there is another extreme falling the desire to use you see whatever you want to see, you have the access to whatever you want to see or do whatever you want to do, you know

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sites where you shouldn't be spending time saying whatever you want, seem whatever you want. So that's that's not that that is actually something that kills spirituality. So what actually spirituality is so the fine blueprint that Islam gives us when it comes to spirituality? Is that you strike a balance between these two right you strike a balance between two you and what is that let's have a look at that you start with bare minimum bare minimum and what's bare minimum that is required of every single Muslim these are the fry the yo yo first Salah right five times a lot no compromise on that you cannot claim to be spiritual if you're not if you're not praying yet a lot of

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people are like, tell us a b2b spiritual and when you start with for right with when you start with stuff that is mandatory. What happens? Yeah, that I know. Okay, can you tell me something else? No, dude, you start with this. You start with what what else Kamala has prescribed for the last month Allah has made mandatory and then any definitely want to do more, we'll talk about more as well. And then you fast that's also that's also required. There's also a for the cm of Ramadan, therefore danza and how do you know you start with this, if you're not doing this, there's going to be spiritual spiritual, right? There is no manmade way to be spiritual. And then And then what's next,

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you can add them after.

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Right? You can add them after whatever you want. And there's a whole list of it.

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And something that

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when it comes to bare minimum, I missed a point that I wanted to make here. You know, when we when we talk about fried. And of course, since all of us know that, you know, knowing is not equal to doing or knowing is not equal to being. All of us know that praying is mandatory. It's fun, but how many of us actually pray.

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So when it comes to obeying Allah, it starts with, of course, fulfilling the fluoride and then remember that when you obeying Allah,

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if I were to ask you, again, if we could have kept it interactive, why do we will be allowed? The general answer is the generic answer is that we want the reward in the next word, or you know, some, some some people who are like, Oh, if Allah is not in our needs, or about, you know, why am I supposed to do that? I'd invite you to have a very different understanding of why we have been commanded to do something. Yes, of course, we will get the reward in the next world. Yes, we will. Allah will be Ragi and Allah Subhana Allah is going to definitely make us end up in June. Now these things are there. But I would invite you to have a look at in a third dimension. And what is that,

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that when we obey Allah, it strengthens our emotional, intellectual, physical, or IT facilities or emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual growth.

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Right? I'll say that again, when you're obeying Allah, when you are, you know, you when you're praying or you're fasting, you're of course you're being aligned, you're going to get the reward but at the same time, you are doing yourself a favor, you're doing your body a favor, you're doing your brain a favor. You're doing your heart a favor, so a favor Does that make sense? And here's this a lot of videos in Canada we also have very,

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like conclusive data on almost each of us like how these varieties are. And I'm not talking about data when it comes to you and your I think so it's like

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definite empirical proof is available, although we as as being Muslims, we are not in need of proofs and we are not in need of you know, statistics to tell us that how effective these rituals are, but there is data available that tells us that when you are being obedient to Allah by doing that by following the rituals, there are a lot of psychological emotional, and definitely spiritual benefits as well. So we were talking about strengthening the spirituality How do we do that on top of it as an icing on the cake? On top of fried you can add new waffle and whatever you want, you can you can choose and you can Inshallah, do it consistently and we will talk about consistency as well I just

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saw the question.

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But if if I want to give you three or four suggestions to add or to include in your planner this Ramadan, this will be number one we do right to

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If you are in the state who dermatoscope bazooka iThenticate Armenian dot get and what we'll do, right? So when you are in the state of voodoo and I'll give you actually a dance in any activity, right? You You just stay in the state of voodoo and you feel that how your entire

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psychology is how do you feel right and you do the same thing in the state of not being in with you. Right and you can tell the difference Wallahi I am telling you that you can tell the difference, but if you experiment it yourself, Inshallah, it is going to give you some additional level of your pain. Right. So, one of the easiest version of being a better version of ourselves is staying in the state of voodoo. And, you know, with, with taps and water coming out of the taps 24/7 and so many facilities, there are no excuses. what excuse do we have? We go to the bathrooms anyway. Right? How much time does it take to

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do to make wudu after that, and every time you go back, you go to the bathroom, just make it a point that inshallah if not forever that at least in this Ramadan, I'm going to stay in the state of Cebu. And it's not difficult, it's, you know, we cannot hide behind our excuses anymore, because of the facilities that we have. And then

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really quickly if I were to tell you that, you know, if you do something at the beginning of the day, Allah will take care of all your affairs for the rest of the day.

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Right? Allah will take care of all your affairs and that doing that thing is just going to take five minutes or five minutes or so

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will you be doing that thing

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we're up doing that

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yes or no

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and that's that that one thing and personally I have benefited a lot by adding this into my practices. And this is praying to her right you prayed

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few minutes before the hire some say like 20 minutes before the her the first zakenna massive beast minitec Even Pele finishes.

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So in between

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this time you can offer this and there's a hottie reach me in the beginning of the day with for you

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will be sufficient for us

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if Allah subhanaw taala is there

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to facilitate it for us, right? And especially in those days when you're having your exam

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then you're you know, it's like, the schedule is crazy. You have one class after another and you don't know how you're going to submit your assignment. You don't know how you're going to

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you know, do your presentation and the quiz at the same time. That those are the days when you need you to have the most right you create the high and you're like Allah subhanaw taala I'm a mess and please take care of me please take take me out of this mess right and then what we can do is that AD DA you know the interesting thing is that

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the place where we study about Ramadan in Surah Baqarah in between those if las Panatela brings this ayah that way

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that I like it

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there I'm calling on that and I answer the call of the prayer is answered the call of the caller when he or she calls me if paraphrase it right very poor translation.

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So it's the of course there is a formal way of doing it you You of course you're spreading masala Jain, a mascara bedpan and you raise your hands and then you you know, praise Allah and say You're rude and then you mean that is also conversational Heart to Heart conversation. The last hand Allah you know, you are entering the exam room and you're like, Okay, Allah Allah, please meet him at ki jagah

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okay, you know what my heart my preparation is, please Please save me. Oh, you're going to

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work presentation heart is pumping so fast that you feel that it is going to just bring the rib cages and come out of it and it's just like that moment a lot of puppies take care of me. That's a conversation with lost handler, right? It is of course the former way of doing it No, Allah give me this give me that by all means do that. But then you know, who must handle it?

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Hear because he is near. And how do you talk to a person who's near you know, if you are very stressed the person standing next to you, how are you going to talk to them? You're just going to not your friend is like, how much about the Allegra and I'm really scared. What am I whatever, you know, what am I getting myself into?

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So just the way you talk to a person who's like really close to you, well illegal material I'm just trying to make it understand that it's a conversation. Right and when you when Allah Subhana Allah is doing in your life, and you can feel his presence and you know Allah subhanaw taala it's going to be terrible, but I'm sure that you are I know that you're going to take care of me, your life changes, life changes completely. And then I'm sure that other teachers would have talked about it so I'll just quickly skip it. I don't know how much time I have and honey if you can just let me know.

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Okay, so

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Quran Ramadan is the month of Quran Quran has been revealed in Ramadan so this is an excellent opportunity to connect yourself with Quran and there are so many doors that are going on I highly encourage you to at least join one spirit sometime you know it's an Subhan Allah

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in the chat we will be just contacting her so that we can get to know where she is. And we will just log her back in in a few seconds

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okay, I'm like I'm audible I'm assuming the time you can hear me well now inshallah Okay, is it okay if I don't share the slides? I don't know what what the trouble is. I'll undo without this like okay, so so the next point was that

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there are many other things but

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don't worrying

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*ting said, Mom, I am going to make a study today because you're not feeling well. All this adds to your

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spirituality in your community that is strengthens your spirituality you are making Iftar for someone who cannot make a thorough can someone who cannot afford Iftar

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that's a

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Thank you, dude, that adds to your spirituality that let's not separate these things from from the experience of our spirituality. And there's a social responsibility that we need to fulfill and when you know, fulfilling the social responsibility does that not add to your spirituality? And finally, your relationship with yourself? When you make mistakes and repent? Does that process of repentance, your your reconnecting with the last part Allah? If it's not spirituality, what else is it? Right? So who is asking you to make mistakes and start hating yourself and the last panel has given you a way out, who's asking you to keep looking at your past and keep regretting forever. You know, these

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things, this the psychological disorders, they are the consequence of all these things that I've done that I'm discussing. But of course, there are more to it, that definitely there's a lot more to

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it. But the things that I'm discussing, they are a significant part of it. Right?

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The mistakes are a necessery part of understanding of learning of growing some, there are some things that you know, you hear the sermon, your European saying, you hear the word saying that.

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But you do not learn unless you make mistake, and you learn it for yourself. Right? Or you know your relationship with yourself in a sense that when you're learning to be a doctor, when you're learning to be a businessman or woman, right when you are doing MBA, and you're thinking that it's shallow, when I when I finally become a businesswoman, I'm going to do my all these trading and whatever is included, so in my business and deciding is not very mature. So I'm going to establish justice, right? I'm going to be honest, in my dealings, this entire process of studying and taking exam and

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your presentation, does that not become a spiritual experience? It does. The problem again, that you know, we have detach spirituality from what we think is worldly things, these are worldly things that they've limited to.

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You know, and we have limited spirituality to certain acts of worship,

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you have seen both ways to be spiritual ritual,

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through rituals, as well as to your dealings with others and yourself. Right, I'll quickly take a moment to also discuss what weakens spirituality. So unfortunately, I'm not able to share this screen. But this was something

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so I'll discuss a column that again, if you're taking notes, column, Manam instarem column is conversation Manam asleep.

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And time is our food. So excess, or cathrach Jonnie when you're when doing you're talking excessively, when you're sleeping too much, and you have no idea when you're sleeping, and when you're waking up. And when you're eating too much.

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Three major sources of

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you know, spirituality being weakened. The three worst thing that we can do to our spirituality is to talk excessively, to eat excessively and to sleep excessively.

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And in BC that Ramadan, you know, as Pamela it's a it's it gives us an amazing and polar opportunity to control all this at least you control two of them, you you control, eating, and you control sleeping, so you're not you have to wake up at school, you have no choice, right? And so when you can train yourself to sleep at a certain time and wake up in certain time and eat at a certain time and not eat during other hours of the day, then you can definitely take care of the third as well and what is that three? Talking? Right? So when you just make God will like you cannot control it just mean God to Allah. I mean, God will know all the time, that Allah allow me to sleep less, eat

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less and talk less. Right Kalon time and mme. And I'm just giving you theory you have to transfer into it. All this into action plan yourself. How are you going to speak less? Okay, I'm going to make more thicker of a law when you're engaged. When you engage yourself and pick it off Allah, then definitely, you will do

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don't have time. And then when you're not cooking all those handouts, we had

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a teacher who said that

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eating pakoras is not a sugary, unique command, I don't know how to translate it. Any having pakoras in the if that is not a command from Allah subhanaw taala we Muslims, we can even take it so seriously we take our pakora so seriously that we think that it has come from Allah Subhana Allah, may Allah may Allah forgive us. And when this being said, what actually we need to take your off or what actually we need to take seriously is our spirituality. Right. So my next point is that when you have learned the ways to be spiritual, and by to take your spirituality and I invite myself to take my responsive spirituality very seriously, and I'll do elaborate this point I'll quickly share

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a hadith with you in which Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said that, you know, he said, Amin, Amin, amin three times, and people ask, like all messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi. Salam, you ascended the pulpit, so he was going up, go to give the hotbar right, and he said, Amin, Amin, amin three times. So Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam said that Gibreel came to me and he said that whoever reaches the month of Ramadan, and he's not forgiven, then he will enter hellfire, and Allah will cast him far away. So say, I mean, I said, I mean, this is such a such a scary thing. If you and I, if you're not going to put in effort to be a better version of ourselves, we will come out being

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Right? It cannot be the fact that we entered the same and we came out the same, it's not Same old, same old No. And there's no entry and no exit being the same version, you either come out better, or you come out worse.

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So this is a reminder to you and myself, my dear sisters and brothers, make the best of these days, a Yamaha doodad, just a few days.

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That's what this hadith is teaching us that you are either going to come out when or you're going to come out worse, or worse, the choice and if we really want to come out better, you have to do Majah we have to strive a Yama Malouda just a few days you strive and inshallah they will be over before you know that. And last thing that I will be covering is that when we talk about these things, and we have been talking about these things, the question is how do we actually inculcate these practices? The question is, how do you actually have consistency? Or how do you actually build a habit? So this is the question that I get asked, really, very often. So I just spent last few

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minutes discussing this, right. And so just a bit of psychology involved, please tell me there are some jargons that I'll be using, I'll be more than happy to explain. But I may not know myself, but I'm using them or not. So broadly speaking,

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it is of two types, right? You have conscious mind, and you have subconscious mind. So your conscious mind is the one that was listening to me right now. And the processing the data and everything. And the subconscious mind is the mind that has everything else our desires, our wishes, our habits, you know, the patterns that we are familiar with. So now what happens is that when you are adopted, when you're about to adopt a habit, the conscious mind, take the decision, it says that, okay, Ramadan is coming, I'm going to speak less, or I'm going to exercise from now on. And you know, you start doing it for a few days, and then what happens you fall back to the old pattern

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has this ever happened to you, you know, New Year and you're trying to exercise and lose weight, and then and just one week down the lane? You're out of the gym? No exercise anymore. So it starts we have all this adrenaline rush, we start a habit, but just a few days down the road, we collapse. Why does that happen? So I want you to pay attention when I say that, you know, this is where you know, your subconscious mind comes in where you have this are already there. And subconscious mind it kind of it kind of it wants to protect you. So it says that, you know, Satya, you're exercising, I don't have an agenda. We normally don't don't exercise. So this the subconscious mind takes any new habit

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as a threat to it. And it tries to save you from something that's not familiar. So you do it for three, four days and the subconscious mind keeps pulling you oh you don't do it or you don't do it please stop. And what happens we start we fall back to our old pattern. We start eating junk again. We are not exercising anymore. We are not praying anymore. So how do you train that? That you know what difference the slides were very important but for that Allah How do you do that? How do you

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take care of the subconscious? Just mind

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you you read? How do we train our subconscious mind by doing

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it over and over again. So, so that it gets imprinted in our subconscious mind. And subconscious mind accepts us as a new information as a new data.

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Right? And when this happens when you have repeated it enough and it gets imprinted in your subconscious mind, the subconscious mind becomes our friend. Now if you're not exercising the subconscious mind is going to keep pumping you like keep reminding you Okay, so sad. Yeah. Okay.

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Tanya, you you exercise, why aren't you exercising today? Right. You might have seen some people when they are not praying, they are so restless. And they cannot just, they're like, Oh, my God, my my prayer, my prayer. And there are some people who don't pray weeks months. And they don't care.

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Right. So this is the difference. And Ramadan is an excellent opportunity to build the habits. Why? Because you know, there is an added Baraka, there's an added help of Alaska, this, because it's in the air, everyone else is doing it. So you have a community support. It's not that you just have to wake up in the middle of the night and have your support and go No, everyone else is getting up. So that's an excellent ground, an excellent opportunity, because your community support you have extra hammock from Alaska. Right? what excuse do you have now? It's an excellent.

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Again, opportunity to make new habits or develop new habits. How many times do we repeat a certain activity for it to be able to become

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a new pattern or a new habit, there are different data available, but you have sufficient data that says that 29 to 30 days are good enough to rewire your neurons to develop new habits. Right so if you're doing something between 930 days straight, inshallah you will not have to use your willpower or your internal motivation self motivation to be able to do it, you'll start doing it automatically to some extent and the more you do it, the better you become at it. Right. So you adopt you think about doing it, you have your paper you can you write a habit that you want to adopt into it every day. And when I say plan remember, if you fail to plan you plan to fail, right if you're not working

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in Ramadan shaytan will be working on your post Ramadan. Make sense? Right. So plan meticulously have a tracking sheet

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and put this tracking sheet where you can see it like every day, which is straight right there on your face, maybe on the mirror or anywhere you can see right and you write everything

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it is said that if something is not there in your calendar, meaning you have not planned it and you don't want to do it. So let's say you want to develop a habit of freedom Quran, you write it meticulously that I will be reading for and from six to 7am every day and then you have an entire month

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chart right in front of you and you do it every day and you didn't cross keep crossing keep crossing till the end of the month and you will see that you know, there are all of these dates are crossed. Right? So anything that you track you improve whatever you try to improve. And finally there is there's a there's a process which is very effective. That's called visualization. Right? So how do you visualize you take a paper and pencil and write about your ideal Ramadan day? How will you start the day, okay, I'm going to start the day with the Hutcher write it in present tense, which salvia salvia is going to write I don't know, why am I why am I gaming the example of Saudi over and over

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again, that's what's coming into my mind. So I wake up at the 100 every day, and then I recite the 10 elastin ayat of surah Al Imran, and then I paid her child and then recite my Quran and then make make my support, and then go and make Misool. You write it as meticulously as you can we, you know, then I entered the bathroom, and I put my left foot in, and then I decide to die. And then, you know, I decide Bismillah, before eating my food, until all the way you know, starting from Al Anon all the way to

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Subhanallah so, so great, something that you do before sleeping. And the more meticulously write you write it, the better it is going to be. And you read it over and over again over and over again. That's how you're training your subconscious mind. You're just trying to get this right up imprinted in your subconscious mind. And if you are, you know, if you're not very fond of writing, then what you can do is that you can speak you know, you all all of us have our mobile phones. So what we can do is that we can,

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you know, record all the things, we can eat this entire routine and we can listen to it over and over again. And it is going to be beneficial. And

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Ramadan is around the corner. Have you been doing it one week earlier, it would have been beneficial that in any cases is beneficial for you. So very quickly what we discussed we discussed

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what spirituality is

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What it is not what strengthens spirituality, what weaken spirituality? And finally we discussed how do you inculcate the practices that strengthens the spirituality and that inshallah marks the end of my very turbulent presentation but hamdulillah so many glitches but of Hamdulillah we are at the end of it. So

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are we going to take any questions or are we done

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if someone can let me know oh my god so many oh thank you very much I can now see the comments just like Kamala Harris for being here everyone.

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show please go ahead

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and when it comes to Nam again

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Okay, so we're just proceeding on to some question and answers. We received some questions through via email before the event and we just wanted to ask those to you. So a lot of people claim that they are spiritual but not religious. So is spirituality and religion separable? See, if you're talking about Islam, then these things you have to follow religion in order to be spiritual religion is giving you a guideline, a set of rules, regulations, and definitely a fine blueprint to be spiritual. It is not that you can ignore all these sets, but then you be spiritual, then you have your own definition of spirituality, by all means you can be that version of spiritual, you can

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adopt that version of spirituality. But definitely that's not Islam. Right in order to be able to follow the Slavic spirituality, you have to take guidelines from the religion you have to take guidelines from the scripture you have to take the guideline from the Sunnah

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and if you are not following that then whatever version or whatever your definition of spirituality is, you can definitely adopt it and you can definitely be it but that's not Islam

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I hope that answers the question of the best parts x x mn Ottomans

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I yes you are

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okay, so, the question is what is well being in terms of Islam

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Alright, well being is being in perfect state of health, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and physical health and just not merely the absence of

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of disease, right? So you are functioning optimally in all these four areas, then that's wellbeing for you. And see,

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when we talk about Islamic spirituality, and when when we talk about secular spirituality, as I said, In the beginning of the presentation, the major difference, the fundamental difference is the fact that secular psychology by and large, it ignores the presence and needs of the soul. And we see that many mainstream psychologists are, are secular, for that matter. So the fact that Islam takes into account your spiritual well being any years, that your spiritual needs, is the fact that Islam includes that as well in the definition of well being. So if you're doing very well, in terms of your emotional health, in terms of your physical health, in terms of your intellectual health, but

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if there is, you know, no, taking care of the spiritual needs, and definitely, definitely you are not you don't fall into the category of being well, or your well being has a major loophole that has not been addressed. So all these four areas and optimum functionality, that's wellbeing for you.

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Yes, you can go ahead. I hope this answers the question.

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Okay, that's, that's great.

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Yes, yes. If that's if that's. So there's another question throughout, we just have two more questions, and we'll just wrap it up after that. Sure. So we have two more questions. The first question is that, what as a psychologist, you've studied this field. How do you think like, Can you name some incidents in Islam are some examples in the Quran, through which you realize that even Allah subhanaw taala talks about psychology and these fields look is usually when you look in the Quran, you see history in the Quran, and you see others fields as well. But what about psychology? Have you ever found any theories of psychology being represented in the Quran? Or in the Hadees?

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Very good question. Very good question. And I'd say that the entire Quran or entire the entire Scripture as well as the Sunnah. So full of psychological examples, full of psychological examples, right? So I'll give you a quick example. I can give you like literally dozens of them, but I'll give you a quick example. You know, have you ever noticed that? Sometimes the Companions, they came to Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam were the same question. But to each of them Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave a different answer to some prophets, Allah Salam said that, you know, nataka Don't be angry. was sunny caca Rosada, or to some prophets Allah Allah wa sallam said that you know you need

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to increase in your schedule Kenny nimasa proton Yeah, so don't be me. Mud guru. different answers why? Because prophets Allah, Allah knew the psychology of the people. Right? Hum Hum hum Do Good day, we we have to treat our seven year old and we have to treat our 17 year old we use the same parenting practices. We see the prophets Allah Salam never did that. He never did that the way he treated the children. Right, the way he catered to their emotional needs you all of us know the incidents when promise a loss and I was kissing his grandsons and there was a companion he was sitting and he said, I never kissed any of my children. I have 10 children and professing the Lord's

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love said that, you know, if Allah has deprived you of mercy, what what can I do? So prophets, Allah Islam knew how to fulfill the emotional needs of the people. Prophet salallahu alayhi salam knew how to

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the intellectual needs of the people. That's why he gave a different answer to the same question examples, right, so many examples so as to be able to take care of the self esteem of the other person so as to be able to take care of it. Again, I'm repeating the same stuff, but all these emotional, physical, expensive needs. And in childhood, if you if you can ever get a chance to actually discuss psychology in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

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You know, there's several examples the Exodus story of Adam and Hawa, it contains so many psychological references. So, the entire Quran and the Hadith, all these treasure, they are full of psychological examples, and given a chance, Inshallah, one day we'll be discussing that I hope that's sufficient for now.

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So one

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yes, yes, it is, as a man and another so beautifully explained. And truly there are so many incidences as incidents in Quran and Hadees that talk about psychology and all of these western subjects in the fields that we think that they're very much separated from Islam, but it's actually there's a lot of INS

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Like two concepts that have been taken from the Quran and the Hadith itself. So this is the last question. I forgot to give you my favorite example the

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worldly desires that are very hard to leave. So how can one STAY AWAY FROM SIN when it is so easily available? And are knifes desires is so much?

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Okay, but if you just allow me to add one more point to the previous question before I take this question, because that was my favorite example. And I regret forgetting that that was gratitude. You know, there was this a lot of work that has been done in modern Western psychology, when it comes to gratitude, sugar Bizzarri. And they have come up with so many much empirical data that gratitude has a lot of effect on your psychological well being that you know, when you're grateful abundance comes to you. And

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gratitude has been summarized not even an I A part of Ireland, Shackleton does Ivana come if you're grateful, I'm going to give you more. So whatever more you want in life, whether it's materialistic things, whether it's psychological, or if it's like sukoon in your life, the Sakina blessing whatever you want it's materialistic thing or non materialistic stuff, you start being grateful for what you already have, you don't know even if so, if it's a penny that's coming to you just start appreciating that and you'll get more of it. and Western society has done a lot of Western psychology especially. But unless pattern has given us this concept 1400 years ago, and that too,

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and a part of an AI. Right, so again, quite a lot of it so I'll take this question

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Okay, so the the question that the sister is asking there, there are some worldly desires that are very hard to leave. So how one can stay away from sins, when it is so easily available on our nerves desire so much. Let's see if any one thing that what we have done is as, as individuals and as collectives, as as a collective society, we have failed to understand the functionality or an off our knifes, right how knifes functions, what is desire? And how to channelize those desires? So I don't know what is that you're calling worldly desires. But whatever natural desires last month Allah has given us he has also given us a very natural and halal way to channelize it

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right, so when you're trying to understand the functionality of naps, you should know that all the desires that have been put in our heart is there's a halal way of channelizing it

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right so let's say if you if you if you like a brother, right let me be very blunt then these are these are these are wrong way of doing it. Let's be friends on Facebook. And last month Allah says that

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no, no, you cannot make secret friends with secret friends, it's mama aka FISA trick, remember that the if any sin is something that had coffee so that I could pick you up give it to me, I don't I don't know how to translate in English. Right? It screams some restlessness in your heart.

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So if you have done that, then this restlessness was all this video, it will keep bothering you, it will keep psychologically hurting you.

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But unless Mandela has also given up a natural way to channelize it right, so this brother comes and you tell him that, you know, here's my father's number, go ahead, let's arrange a Nikka right. So this is also the way to channelize it so remember anything that last month Allah has kept us in our heart is the proper way to channelize it and inshallah

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that should should sufficient for now.

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hamdulillah Yes, for sure. As the comments are also mentioning, and I would also really like to appreciate you that the talk was amazing and it was really, really enlightening for all of us. And I'm really thankful for you for joining us and highlighting this extremely beautiful part of Islam and how we can understand the psychology of the science of the soul. And I hope you also had a good time interacting with us I would really like to have more sessions with you so that we can bring forward all the amazing points that you have to more and more of the people and the community here at IBM and beyond.

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And shall I look forward to meeting you guys when again and thank you very much for having me I had a great time as well

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disaster Lokeren to zero

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so now we have ended our second day and Abdullah event is also

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