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Thrown in a Well
(Tafseer Ibn Taymiyyah of Surah Yusuf)

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The speakers discuss various examples of Christian arguments and theories about popular culture. They explore the use of indirect language, negative language, and negative language in court cases. They emphasize the importance of avoiding false assumptions and confronting others. The segment also touches on the importance of not losing faith in Islam and the need for people to see what they want in life.

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critical pillar here at mine Amina Mohammed invited earn he also have He is married to mom about Somali law he want to go to their respective sisters. Welcome to the continuation of the series with Yusuf Ali Salaam. We've got to the part of the story where the brothers, they've come to come to dad, and they've all gathered together to say, Dad, look, why don't you trust us, like a lot of men are sending with us tomorrow, and you know, we'll take him somewhere we'll have whenever feast will play loads of games and enjoy himself and on top of that, you know, we would have cost to him well wishes and also will protect him.

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Now, jacobellis Ron responds to, you know, the request of his sons. This is what he says and will recite in Charlotte this portion because this will be today's portion versus number 1314 and 15 in Sharla. So let's begin with the recitation.

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Our hamina shaiya banyuwangi Bismillah euro euro

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Paul in Neela zanoni

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man who was

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on in

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the book born a man tune in either

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a gym or a movie.

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nostra to Santa Marta shielfield ambia Muslim, Amina Mohammed bin Wilder vs vein vs. Number 13

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jacobellis Ram response color in nelia Zuni and Hopi wahaca Yakuza who want to move off, you know, jacobellis sam responds to his son's What does he say? He gives two reasons why he doesn't want them to take use of our esOm away with them and leave his presence. Firstly, he says in the layer zanoni and the movie that's reasonable one that says that I will become grieved by him leaving me

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a second reason is the high fear that a wolf may devouring may eat him.

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Now look at how he you know, which reason did he bring first the fact that the wolf may eat him or that he will be grieved by this the fact that he leaves his presence which one came first? The grief right? The grief came first. So the fact that he mentioned his grief first shows that just the idea of useless on leaving his presence. You know, that's the real reason, you know, that's a stronger reason. And then the second reason that came afterwards, you know, that's also a reason but it's not as you know, as strong as the other one you like someone calls you and says to you look, bro, you know what, you want to go for a much easier exams or can't be doing that at all. Someone's going to

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get upset with me. Okay, so which, which is a real reason or you got exams, okay? Because you said it first. But spatola on top of that, look at how he said it. La zanoni this lamb. Okay, is for emphasis. Leah has zanoni and he'll be so he emphasized this In fact, there's two emphases he says in need. Enough is useful emphasis lashes uno de la more emphasis well, so two times he emphasizes the first reason which is the just basically a Sadie mentioned that just generally the thought of Yusuf Islam leaving my presence, even for a moment that thought itself, you know, makes me grief.

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Okay, but the second reason, he never emphasized It was a halfway columns. The second reason that a wolf may eat him. He never emphasizes sex. He bought a second and when he brought it in, emphasize it like he mentioned the first

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Okay, so the second reasoning here, there's two opinions regarding it. Okay, the first opinion is that Jacobian is,

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you know, he actually did face the possibility that when the brothers are, you know, your doTERRA lab, when they're eating and playing and enjoying themselves, they're going to lose track of use of, and a wolf is going to come and eating. Okay, who's going to come and eat him?

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Now, it's quite as you might think, is quite strange, though. You know? Imagine the scenario happening here in London, you know, sons come to dad and say, Can we take the little one out tomorrow? You know, I don't know, to Lego Land or somewhere that says, you know, I'm scared. What's going to come in here? Come on dad, a wolf in London.

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So, no, no, actually where they lived, as Ignacio mentioned, in the deserts of Sham. You know, they were Bedouins, they are. They used to be wolves. There was a reality. And on top of that in Nashua mentioned that the most brutal of wolves, were they in Shamp? in the deserts of Sham.

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So any historically speaking is a real reason. This is the first opinion that actually Apple Madison um, he thought that this could be a possibility. The second opinion is that it was actually a play on words. It's a play on words when he said, I felt the the wolf may eat him. Okay. He's actually trying to say,

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I'm talking about the warfare are talking about

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talk about you guys. I feel you guys. And there's some things even in the way he said it. You see, if you if you were to say I fear you'd say I say a word.

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You would make a Nikita. He said I have a cauliflower Informatica as if to specify, I say that will, the will, which will have that. We're talking her

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as if he's talking about them. Yes, if he's talking about them. So that's the second thing that he's actually not, it's not a real reason. He's just kind of indirectly saying, I fail the wolf. Meaning you guys and this was mentioned by

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one score is named. Yes. Is Dean

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is Dean tsunami actually mentioned that? The Apostle Islam is like playing on words here. It means not the wolf, the wolf want to use and he even said that you specify one of the sons here.

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The interesting thing to ponder about the second view, okay, is that first of all, he said, he said it in Meredith. Okay, as if to specify a particular wolf. And secondly, why the wolf and not any other creature? Well, of course, historically speaking, there were many wolves in that time in that place. But also, if you think about it, how do how do wolves attack?

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And who do they attack? Well, the if there's, like, you know, a group of individuals say there's a group of people and the wolves are thinking or thinking about, you know, grabbing one of them and eating one of them which one they're gonna go for?

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The weakest not very good. The other thing is, is not just the weakest one, how do they attack the weakest one?

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Okay, well, the least expected very good. And Jacobo so when mentioned this, that, you know, you it may happen when you are off, you know, when you're unaware, very good. But the thing is, how exactly this one wolf come? Or do they work in very good they work in a pack. A pack is a pack of wolves, wolves attacking packs, okay, and they are 10 of them as well. So if you see how the father is, you know, wording what he's saying he's saying his paternal line in an indirect way, and what's the benefits of that? inshallah we'll come to that in the lessons but just this is the second opinion, okay, they are populism is actually speaking about them and not

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the world. Now, before we end, just for the moment of Salah, two points, the first one is that

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he said things indirectly. But he also kind of gave, you know, a reason that would they may accept because saying that a wolf may eat tomorrow, you know, whilst you are unaware, it doesn't, you know, doesn't make them look bad, because the thing is, even if there are 10 men, strong people, they could, you know, have a lapse of concentration, you know, they could become awful, was it playing, enjoying some eating, and then a wolf could come and get the younger one.

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You know, just because you're a sizable force, it doesn't mean that you never would become you know, unaware of something anyone can be caught unaware or not.

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Even if you're strong, you're weak or strong, big number smaller number, you could be caught unaware.

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So he's being indirect, okay? And he's also giving them a possible reason that they could accept the second thing Subhana Allah is that he said I would fail, and also before that I would feel sorrow.

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You know, and in the Quran Subhana Allah, there's a power which came to my mind that hey COVID Islam is saying that he feels sorrow over his Sunday son may be taken away from him.

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And that's very similar to the case of a mother

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who feels that her son will be taken away from her which is

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the mother of Masada, Islam, and both of them feel

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Yeah, Jacobi says himself diezani and a larger law Allah He says it to the mother of asceticism in Surah causes verse numbers and voila, the half Yoda has any in La, la ki wajah ilumina, more serene.

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She feels Hausen. hula says don't feel hesitant. And the other parallel is that both parents are given comfort that their sons will be brought back to them Jaco is given that dream he knows one day son is going to come back Mother of moose are told by a lot of inspiration that we will bring rod to will he will bring it back to you and make him from the from the messengers in a beautiful parallel that we find a number on the beach ultimately will continue close

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to winning what is

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Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. Okay, so just to recap that verse number 13. We said that sons asked that to a request to give them useful is to take away the next day, then that gives the following reply following reply contains two main reasons as to why he doesn't want them to take him.

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Now, one thing I missed out two things I missed out is that the second reason that he feels a wolf may devour useful as was said, according to what appears to be a real reason, a real reason and they gave the historical reasons why the you know, that was definitely something possible that could happen to us for this.

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The other thing I forgot to mention is that some scholars that have now put them on line is that Steve said that jacobellis omashola dream and in that dream a wolf was any scene being any brutal towards useful Islam so that dream kind of made him also think that this may happen in this way set it to his sons now, the most important thing with Mr. Which is that mentioned webinar sure

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that the first reason that you jacoba Islam gay, okay, was this very strong reason for his sons to say, you know, what, because of this reason, we shouldn't take use of Islam away. What was that first reason because dad is going to become upset. Yeah, and this is the strongest reason for the sons to say, you know what, we shouldn't do it because any good righteous child should never want to upset the parents to know even if they his parents are going to become upset because of them doing because them doing something Helen permissible. Even those things where if it makes them doubt upset, you know, I'm not going to do mom says you look I don't want to do that because it's gonna

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make me upset. And any righteous showers. You know what, for that reason alone, I won't do it. Okay, so that is another reason why that reason was more important of the two

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which basically means jacobellis, I'm being very indirect in the way he's reasoning with Okay, he's telling them look if you know it's going to upset me then why would you want to do now what's the response of those sons? They said Paul Lula in Akela who won nationals but in either locker room they said if a wolf does come and eat him up when together we make up a powerful group in that case we truly would be in Los so they reply okay. is very interesting. Okay. First of all, they reply is that their replies that in in Akron Ohio now this in is as if they if if wolf did end up eating him why nationals but once you know that we're strong, tough group, we're tough guys. Either the

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hospital in that case we'd be would be losers, okay. Now they emphasized okay the fact that this could never happen by actually saying let in lamb is like person isn't actually said it can be read as a person so like saying, We swear that swayed down. If a wolf did eat him

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Whilst we are tough guys, even Lucha Sirhan would totally be losers. So it's like, you know, the implied meaning is we're trying to say that producers is all you're trying to say, who's gonna win? And it's gonna happen to us. That means the losers is that we're trying to say that.

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So they, these panela they reply shows that they, you know, they messed up, they messed up in the way they thinking. However, what is interesting was, you mentioned this point that dad mentioned how many reasons why they shouldn't take him?

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To which reason did they respond to

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Aha, which means they left out the first reason, okay, they left out the first reason. But before we go to explaining why that was the case, or why that why that was, was the wisdom behind that. Notice here, I said that these three points of emphasis in this ayah number one call to law in Islam, Islam of custom. Second is the inaccuracy.

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In inner is another point of emphasis, and then either the hospital love again of Tokyo. So, so much emphasis, you know, when someone says something, which so much emphasis, it kind of shows you, they're very emotional, very passionate, you know, I'm really the best person to work for this job. And I'm the most qualified.

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Okay, you're very passionate about this, right? So the brothers, you know, when they speak a lot of emphasis means they're very emotional about this, not just emotional, they're very, you know, eager

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to say, you know, what, that even though that's the case, we still want to take him, you get that, you know, so I was really passionate about this, start emphasizing what they're saying. So kind of send a message to dad that you know, it's going to happen either way, whether it's because of this or that we're going to do this, we're going to this so going back to that question, that they only responded to one of the two reasons why did they respond to only one reason which was that you know, the wolf may come and eat him and they kind of just glossed over the first reason which is that will become grieved by the main taking away of us for example, is prisons Why did they only focus on that

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second reason you know, what was the What do we learn from that? What does that say about them? So I'll give you I'll give you two minutes okay to discuss this in pairs. So the activities the father gave two reasons for not wanting use have to go which of the two reasons did the sons respond to and why so we know which one okay but why. So getting into tos now and discuss it with someone Tom starts now.

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Okay, can I ask the two brothers over there please? Here he goes.

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Now you've been talking a lot row resolving so what do you think why did they only go for the second reason which was that the possibility of a wolf coming along and eating useful Islam you know, was in the presence Why did they choose to respond to that reason? and not the first reason or both reasons

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Okay, so even though it's kind of sad and dead they still want to take him so they can't really respond to that because they notice in the fact that they are super strong group you know, they can they can respond to that reason that you know, we're strong group that's not going to happen as for making you upset

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call respond to that because that's going to happen is all you're saying.

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we're youtubers Okay, the first thing you said which is that

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the first reason is that that is going to become upset the one data because here they want that so they're not gonna respond to that we want you to become upset that

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and then on top of that, we want to become even more upset. So we're telling you that this possibility of a wolf have coming along and eating him is not going to happen and then we're going to do did happen to add muscle to them and

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they anyone else thinks they can get dancer. This is a close, but something else that

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wasn't very good. So this is one possibility. sneakers and camera.

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This is one this person on camera. Okay, so let's see what was he said? Yeah, Rosie.

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Rosie said that they wish they never responded to the first as that was the very reason for the hate and anger in the first place. That the fact that dad becomes upset over this one is the reason why we planning this whole thing in the first place.

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To get it

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The fact is that, you know, you become so upset, you're so attached to this one, this is the whole reason why we come to you in the first place. So you don't even want to respond to them. You know, this is the, this is why we hate, you know, useless and so on, because you feel like this towards him. So we don't even want to hear that. But you're gonna become upset as well. The second thing, this is, as the brother said, Why nationals were strong, tough group. How can you say that about us? Also, the only thing they could focus on is that it portrays him in a bad light for dad to say, a wolf might come and eat him whilst you're there. What does that say about us when we're trying to

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save us all? So we're just gonna focus on the second part, you know, so it shows part of the scheming of the brothers, and also that they are only concerned about their own souls, you know, they're not concerned really about that. So they're not bothered about whether he feels and they're not concerned about usefulness to them either. They're just concerned that you sort of some could be harmed whilst we are in our spa.

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You know, the obeah is the real thing that they they want to defend this not to respond, release what dad said, Okay, very good.

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Now, this is the last verse inshallah will take

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for them to be here, tomorrow a job who feel yerba till job, but when in fact, they did go out with him and gathered all together and agreed to put him at the bottom of a will. This, to be honest, is maybe my favorite, I and the whole sort of juice of Okay, there's another one we'll come to later on, but this one's panela amazing. So what happened is that they asked that dad said, Look, don't do it. Okay, I don't want you to, however, for loving mother her boo Ashoka and he said me that eventually they got dad to agree to allow yourself to go with them. So they allowed he allowed them to take useless on the hobby. So when they went with him, meaning when they took him away from that,

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so they took him to that place that they plan to go to okay for them to be he was

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a geography lawyer, but

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then a lot wanted us to pay attention to not that they threw him in a well, but a genero that they all agreed that they would throw him in the world. Do you see that? Allah never said they took him and then three mineral Allah said that they took him one edge of a geography and then they all agreed together to put him inside not just the Well it means the hidden the depth, the most deepest part of that job again, we said job not beer. Because job is like the ditch type which is means that some well out there that nobody could even see from a distance because there's no there's no you know, built up wall around it.

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So here edge metal means that they all agreed, I mean, 10 people all agreeing to literally you know, leave someone for dead and not just someone they own brother

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which shows us how the law How has it, you know, totally overcame all other emotions. They had love towards a brother, their love towards the dad. They had compassion, gentleness, which is part of human nature, but

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all of them, which means their hearts became hard. And also the hazard overcame all of them until they all agreed I mean, one two people saying let's do this and egging on the others is usually what happens right? You know two people in a gang they say let's communists go do this. And was that Nana has too risky or might get caught? Someone said all right dad. Now edge America, all of them agreed that they're going to put him in design the world. Now what happens next? How do they put them inside that will? What did they do to what did useful Islam say to them, you know, just before they threw him down the world, all of that is completely omitted.

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No detail whatsoever given about how the three men know well, what was said what you say Salaam said a lot in glosses over that which is called an ellipses in English ellipses, which means that some detail is missed out of the sentence because it's not significant. So I left it to my imagination. So they took him they they all agree to put them in a world where Oh, hyena LA. And the next thing I want you to think about is that we inspired use of Islam inside that work. But what happened in between left to your own imagination? Yeah, narrations brought by some of the scores of the see that when they when they were taking use of Islam, you know, they they one of them, carried him on his

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shoulders, and then he would throw him on the floor and then we use it as almost crying another one, take him on the shoulder and that one will throw him on the floor is Oh, and then they kept on doing that passing him around like this. So cruel until they go to the world and threaten the world.

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Those days.

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automation, okay, it's left to your own imagination. But then Allah wrote the significant the significant is that while Shayna la he led to not be an American has found a law that we revealed to him led to not be unknown that indeed to know the unknown Lamb of Tokyo and new Tokyo together they give emphasis emphasis to words that you use for this some will do in you will inform inform the word enbart used here is different to a kebab in two ways it can mean to inform so it can inbound inbound means to inform us something significant and secondly is something which is very important as well. Yeah, something very important. Sorry, inbound is a form either in detail or to inform of

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something which is important. So here Allah is saying we revealed to us that you will inform them either in detail or the significant part emri him haha of this matter of this memory him already means this matter of this

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is what they call battle, okay is to emphasize again, as if to say, Allah revealed to him that you will inform them of this matter, this one of this, this one right here, of youth being thrown in the world by them, while homeless, amazing, and what's gonna happen is you're gonna tell them what they did to you. And they won't even perceive that coming. They won't even have any idea that that was the case. And when you know the ending of the story, you appreciate it. You know how so true that was? But look at the word choices. Allah didn't say what

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Allah said, we're homeless. Sharon, what's the difference between the alimony children assembla he brings a point in a very interesting he says that, you know, sometimes you can, it's the case that you might not know what's about to happen, but you can sense it. You know, like, you know, you go home sometimes and mums be upset with you, you know, you might have done something wrong.

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She speaks to you the same way. But you can tell she's not happy with you. You know, the way she looks at you may be what she's seeing in a place in the house. He doesn't usually, or she usually does something for you, but she's not doing it. You can sense you know, mom's not really happy with me. You get that right. That is shuru. That is intuition you can sense. As for Yahoo, you don't know, you might not know that mom's upset with you, but you got the science

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alone. You got intuition, you can perceive that a lot negated what the thing which is so subtle, sure, that they wouldn't even perceive it. They had no idea when they go back to Egypt, meet him as as easy as they thought he was as is no idea up until the point he says, What did you do with use of his brother?

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in law?

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Is it really the case is you your use of Subhan Allah amazing choice of word here, you know, which shows us the beauty and eloquence of the last panel that and to two ways. Number one, the ellipses, the fact that a lot left out the detail as to how the three minute well what happened at that point is below his eloquence leave left that to your imagination, you think about that. But remember, and focus on this point, there will come a time where this one here, throw in a well, he will fall in for them in of detail about what they did, which means that they will be reprimanded brought to justice, but the way justice will be served in a way that they will never even perceive that coming

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to them. How amazing you know, it's very beautiful. Okay, so let's now move on to the lessons many lessons here.

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The first and basic lesson is that one should avoid upsetting their parents. Now, the thing is, jacobellis said you know, you guys, I don't want you to take us for this exam because there hasn't been nice is going to upset me. Now, we all know that we are supposed to show good character good kindness, you know, conduct towards our parents, but how far does that go? You know, if dad for example, says you know what, son?

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I want you to take me to the hospital tomorrow. I don't want you to go out with your friends. Okay, that listen to you should listen to you that no problem then. Of course you should. What if dad says you know what, son, I want you to?

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I want you to wear that shirt today. You know that shirt that I got you? Okay, no problem. I can wear that shirt. Now I want you to be rich today.

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A richer, more vibrant green shirt. Does that mean that I went against the commander of a large show geared towards my father? Aha, here the fukada different. What level of obedience does one need to show to their parents?

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Okay, but without getting to that discussion here, this is a case where dad is telling them not to do something permissible. Let's clear it. They can take the brother to play. That's permissible. But the fact is, How did jacobellis tell them not to? He said, is going to upset me.

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Yeah, he said, it's gonna upset me. So which teaches us that if somebody's going to upset mom and dad, we should avoid doing it. You get that point? Yeah, we should avoid doing it. The second lesson is a parenting lesson the father was having one of his children I should mention about cost me. So of course me Rahim, Allah is saying here that I see jacobellis. He said, maybe a wolf would come and eat him. In that case, he was kind of according to one of you, you know, having good assumption about his children that, you know, his children, they don't want to, you know, do anything bad to us for this, they will play and eat, but maybe they come heedless. And when they do a wolf will come

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and eat usefulness. And I'm, which is having good assumption about the children, as opposed to saying the children are going to do something bad to him. Yeah. Now, the interesting thing is, is that having just not been of other people, not only has benefits for the person himself, but also has an impact on the relationship with that person. Good. I mean, ever done. For example, you know, brother comes to the mercy sister comes in the masjid. And let's, let's not, let's not talk about mercy, let's talk about for example, I saw,

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like, you're part of the eye sock, and maybe you know, you got a lead role in it. So either me or someone else, and another brother comes, and he becomes part of it, because also you need to talk to him. Now, the thing is, you're talking to him, and you're talking about a project that you need to do. And you already in your mind, go bad assumption, this guy's is lazy, man, he's not gonna do anything, you know, he's not reliable. And I've asked him to do that, he's not gonna end up doing it, bad assumptions in your mind, okay? assumptions based on no evidence whatsoever. So you already become negative, you already become negative, that's your own any negative impact of having bad

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assumption, the other person, the other brother is looking at you. And you don't realize that the fact that you're bad assumption in your mind that affecting the way you talk to him,

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the way you speak to him, is, you know, really with it, you know, you know, very confident, you know, you know, fully there when you're discussing things, he kind of gets the impression that he doesn't think good of you. So when he thinks that you don't think good of you, how does that impact him, usually, he starts to starts to say, Well, if you don't think good of me, then, you know, maybe I won't do anything good, then maybe I will be unreliable, maybe I won't be committed, then if that's what you think of me. If that's what you assume about me, then fair enough. That's how I'll be. This way. I'm saying that, you know, sometimes you have bad assumptions about people. And the

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person actually starts to behave in the way that you assumed, or in a negative way, this is the only to do with psychology and sociology, this is how people interact. However, on the flip side, if you behave if you have good assumptions, not only does it make you positive, but the person you're talking to, also can become positive to okay also can become positive too. And this is partly remember this in your relationship with your wife, and for the wives remember, in relation to the husband, that sometimes you know, it's true, the husband, you know, he could assume bad things about us because of past experience. Now, the thing is, if you continue to make bad assumptions about your

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husband, and most probably your husband, if he was in a place in his mind is thinking, either I could change myself and become better, or I could just carry on the way out.

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That decision may hinge on the way you talk to him. If you talk to him in a way that has bad assumptions built into it the most for most probably the husband would be like, you know, I'll just carry on and vice versa. That makes sense. Now,

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let's move on. The second lesson is about how to do

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that to be indirect and dignified. This is quite a deep point here. And as mentioned by Ashwin nofal he said that the way he spoke to his sons, he was being indirect, that's clear, you know, he said, I don't want you to take him because gonna make me sad. And because I feared that I was may come and eat him. So he's being indirect. Why was he being indirect? This is the point. Why?

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So before we go to Why, what's the alternative? The alternative is that dad said to them straight up, you know what, you guys

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I'm suspicious about you. You're gonna do something on you tell me Oh, no. Are you gonna do something or not? That's the alternative, right? Instead of going with that way, he went with the indirect way. Why?

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Why was he indirect? Why didn't dad just say, You know what? I think that you guys can do something bad. Tell me Are you not?

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Okay, so you said you said number of things at first. I mean, the last

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thing you said is that being indirect isn't is is not hurting the feelings that much. Okay? Then you mentioned that it's indirect way is more like giving a warning as well. Okay might explain that a bit?

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Why was he being indirect?

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When you told them? I don't want you to do this? He was being indirect.

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Very good. Okay. So if he was confronting them, it may just increase him in the hatred, right? Very good. Anyone else can give anything?

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Any other reasons?

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Okay, so this is very close. This is part of the answer, which is that you know, when you dignified with someone who rather than when you give a person, a way of making a dignified retreat, that sometimes more effective in persuading, what does that mean? It means someone comes to you and they got evil intentions, instead of saying, You know what, I know what you're up to. You say? What do you think about like this?

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What do you think about the fact that wolf might come in? Oh, yeah, we never thought that is true. Actually, we're not going to do that. You kind of say face, isn't it? They say face. So giving, he gave them some had a lot telopea, beautiful Serbia, which is that if he confronted them, then it could go really bad. Yeah. And his bond with which he could, you know, develop reform them, of tarbiyah could be forever broken. And if it was forever broken, then those people would continue to do maybe more and more sense. So instead of confronting them, he went indirect, though he said the same thing. He never broke the bridge, you know, between him and them have tambien. He wanted to

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continue, you know, to

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have that link between them. If he confronted them, maybe they say, you know what that hack? How do you think that about? Is that what you think about us forget, forget it. We don't want anything to do with you anymore, that

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and then hold on, Dan's got no way of changing their minds about anything else after this. Yeah. So this, listen to the interview, that being indirect sometimes is more influential than being direct. And secondly, a person should think long term in the way they want to reform somebody else, their wife, their children, friends, you know, sometimes if you confront them, they may not listen to you. And on top of that, they will never listen to you ever again.

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So I don't want to risk that. Okay, but at least I'm still gonna do something. I'm gonna take the indirect approach. Think about this. Think about this. Another lesson we learn is what a specious argument looks like. They used a valid assumption for an invalid argument, they used a valid assumption for an invalid argument was a valid assumption. This is about the sun's. So what is the sun says the sun says in Akela, who is the one national Ozma in the house, he wrote this statement here is a specious argument. Okay, why will because they're using a true assumption.

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But in order to drive home a false argument. So what's the true assumption?

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Very good. So that's the that's the assumption. Okay, that they they are nervous about tough group. They're not going to let anything happen to him or kill him, because we're here. That's true. But what's a false argument, then?

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What is the whole what is the whole argument to that? That says no, don't take him? And the argument is?

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Not that it just won't mean that they think you saying no, that we say, yes. Yes, you should let us take in that saying, No, I shouldn't let you take him. So that's the argument, that it's okay for you to let him come with me with us. That's the argument.

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The assumption is that wolf can't eat him, even though we've caught him his arguments to true and valid that he should be led.

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The income is noisy. So it's a false argument to assumption here to assumption, the logic behind it is true that they are a strong group. But just because that assumption is true. It doesn't mean that the argument which is that that should let him go is also true. Yeah, think about that. Yeah, it's a true assumption. false argument. Yeah.

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is a nice bit too much today is it? is okay. A bit too much.

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What do you think?

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I don't want any. The main thing is that people only understand and they think here, it makes sense. Does it make sense? Oh, yeah.

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They are.

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Let's move on the fact that a larger Law Review to use for this and I'm in the bottom of that will then he would one day inform them of what they did shows to us the key and affection for a law of use of an incident, that the fact that he cared for him so much, that in the bottom of them will be actually inspired him, you know, some scholars even went to the extent to say that you said his son became a prophet at that stage, because he can only come to a prophet. However, others said, No, this is not the case, he became a prophet later on, and why he can be understood in two ways. Sometimes it means revelation, which is only coming to a prophet Other times, it can mean

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inspiration, like it came to the mother of you know, who says, like to millennium,

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etc, etc, in the same way, inspiration, okay, just like the dream didn't make him a prophet. Even though revelation through dreams happens to profits, you get that? So but besides that effect, a larger Lawler wanted to inspire him at that moment in time to console his heart, you know, and the way Allah did that is amazing. Because Allah told him, and I didn't say to him, you're going to get out of the will did, Allah said to him, something even greater than that, which is that you're going to inform them about what they did to you. Once they don't even have a clue.

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Which kind of says that, if you're going to be the one informing them, what's your procedure going to be? What's the position going to be?

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Very good that you're going to be in a higher position. Secondly, that if you're going to be informing them of what they did, how does that gonna make them feel?

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Is it going to make them feel weak, it's going to make them feel, basically, like censored here? Like they're going to be reprimanded. So there's going to be, you're going to be someone who's behind standing so high that they're going to be below you. And secondly, they're going to be ashamed of what they did. And thirdly, the way it's going to happen, is going to be so amazing, we're homeless shows that they won't even have any clue as to how it's happening to them.

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Which all shows us the canned affection of a lawful US citizen. And the last one, the advocacy regime Illa mentioned that Allah subhanho wa Taala sends help in times of dire need, you know, now, he said that Allah sends help in terms of neat, I did die in it. Okay. Why? Well, because if you look at the story, bucephalus justice story. So what you can see is that, you know, righteous people end up in difficult circumstances. But it's only when the circumstances becomes so difficult does Allah sent his help useable Islam in this case is thrown into the bottom of a well left for dead, this is diet. There's no way out now, how is he ever going to get out, death is in the face. At that

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moment, Allah inspires to him that you're going to get out and not even just going to get, you're going to become someone great. They're going to be brought, you're going to give them just, it's just going to be served. And they won't even know about it. Then later on, he's in the house of Aziz. And that woman's, and she's often

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now she calls him, he refuses, he runs away, she is running out of she's grabbed on to his shirt, the last possible moment, then the door opens and this as these alerts help comes, but right at the time with dire need in prison. Next stage, he's in prison for so many years. Okay, then a glimmer of hope that prisoner has a dream that he's going to get out he tells him was put me under remember me make mention of me to your master?

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Is it going to be a way out, but he forgets are not fella with a facility with it. And he's in prison for another, you know, good number of years. This is too much. At the moment, the king has a dream.

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And then he's taken out of it. Now look at jacobina songs from LA.

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This is already going to be so difficult for him to so he's gonna live 40 years with that pain. And then what happens? He loses the second son, even more double trauma. Now when that happens, his eyes turn white. This is going to next level when it goes to that stage. The very limit of that person's insurance then allows help comes to him. So how do you see this? that it's not just difficulty is the you know the extent of the difficulties like maxing out a person can enjoy this much allows him to enjoy the maximum before his help comes in. Why?

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Why Why did Allah sin is held before them

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to test us in a bleep good lesson.

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Hold onto though,

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to see whether your patient that this is kind of similar to what the brother said, you know, because your patient is basically a man, why your audience and how before that point, why a large and Why leave it up to jacobellis. But you know,

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It's close. is close and but that doesn't answer the question.

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Come on brothers who can answer this? Is the question clue. And the the fact that Allah waited until right? To the extent the extent then then a sort of a law comes, okay, the more you enjoy, the better the help of allies, the better.

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Because the more you'd be more grateful.

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Not quite the economist must be a clear reason.

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Never to lose hope now. But that's retrospectively looking back, isn't it? Not in the moment?

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I sent or sent very good follow law to increase the person's reward.

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How would you ever earn, you know, that high rank before Allah if you don't be put through everything before? How,

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if you never went through all of that, you know,

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then how would you get the reward of the impossible, it will tell you that I am Allah, He said regarding the battle ahead, you know, 70 odd people are martyred that day, perhaps is the case that Allah wanted to reward for those people that was too high for them to achieve without martyrdom.

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Amazing that the only way that they would get their reward in Paradise is if they was laid on the battlefield that's the only way along wanted that for them. And so he put them through that level of tests so they could earn that level of reward.

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Amazing you know, the way he said that, so it teaches us a lot what's good for us Hello is good for us in the best good we can have is the higher rank in paradise before Allah. And the only way you know we will ever get that is if we go through the maximum for Allah. Because only go through the maximum we exercise the most demand the most of the most taqwa. And when you do the most for Allah, that's when you get the most back from a margin longitude. Okay, so there's two major lessons here. Okay. first major listen was mentioned by a scholar, whose name is Al Kushi from the fifth century. Now, he's supposed to be a infamous Sufi scholar. I don't know any other things this. The chef

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mentioned, however, this one statement of his seems to be from a very major Listen, he said a lawsuit. Lawyers would the NVR will never try.

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And he's amazing lessons. Pamela, those brothers, they all came together to agree to throw use of Donald well, hoping that you know what, Dad will love us more. That's what they wanted, right?

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Is that what happened though?

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That's not what happened. That will not be unknown. bmdm homeline, Sharon, Allah said to use him that there's going to come a time when they actually going to be brought to you not up to them. And they actually going to be the low ones. So they, you know, tried to achieve something through hazard, because it has now lost showed us that they were never able to achieve what they set out to do. And that shows us that the NVR will never try them in where he wants to pursue through his envy. You know, let me tell you what I mentioned a similar point later on Sharla. Is this point clear?

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The second one is another major lesson, which is their righteousness is not part of inheritance. What do I mean by that? Come on Jacobo Islam, a prophet of Allah. And he the grandson of Abraham, and 10 of his sons are messed up. How? How could that be? You know, sometimes, you know, people that talk about others and when they see for example, a brother Mashallah, you know, he's married and he's Louis looks a bit and you know, he goes to the machine five times a day, his wife as you know, we know what's going on there. Oh, is that that's a shake over the look at his son. His son goes to university with me. He's no good. He's messed up, man. What's what's happened in what happened to

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that? Did people start to talk right? They start to question the parents disappearance for now, though, that may well be the case. Sometimes. It's not the case is

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It's not the case here that that didn't do a good job bringing them opposite. But still, the knowledge the taqwa a man of yaku never transferred down to 10 out of 12 reasons is quite phenomenal, right? That they were messed They not only had this disease of envy they wanted to kill one of the brothers on top of that they were ready to lie they face lie to that they know and later on more things as low so which means they will messed up

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How comes dad's righteous children are not righteous. In fact Subhan Allah, this other place in the Quran, okay. This is amazing that this is a case of father sons being messed up righteous father Mr. appsense was the case in the Quran with his righteous father and one sons Mr.

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One father righteous father sons messed up

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this one this is really righteous and the Prophet

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the sons Mr.

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scenario of righteous son messed up Father, I mean really messed up.

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Abraham and his dad is not just messed up dad is the guy who makes the idols of people.

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They are righteous wife messed up husband,

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the wife of Iran, very good.

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Righteous husband messed up wife.

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every scenario is

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amazing. You know, at one lesson we learned just from that is that this man is in the hands of Allah. Not in the hand of the father or the mother, or God wanted the best for children. He strove for the best for your children. Despite that, most of his children at this stage at least totally messed up in our tells us that human is not transferable. What does it mean? Well, it means that a law is the one who gives a man Why does he give a man we mentioned this many times. This is another verse which shows in Surah verse number 27, Allah says, well in Allaha, your Lumia sherway de la HeMan and up amazing if Allah says that he any misguides whoever he so wishes to, however, he

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guides, not whoever he so wishes, he guides, men, and he lay human and those that turned back to Allah in Toba. So Allah said that he guides those people based on how they behave with him if they want a man. Allah gives it to

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sons of yaku unfortunate at this stage of their life, they were looking for guidance Allah never gave it to them.

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Even though their dad is the most guarded person maybe on the face of the earth at that time. You know,

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they have so that's a major lesson that we learned.

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Now, my own personal reflection and we'll leave that actually is getting onto much inshallah.

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Okay, we finished that particular elantas the Furukawa to willeke