The Effects of Sins

Ammar Alshukry


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The speakers discuss negative effects of loss of knowledge and control when faced with loss of knowledge and control. They emphasize trusting oneself and avoiding negative consequences when faced with loss of knowledge and control. The conversation includes a Zoom chat where viewers can ask questions and receive feedback. They also touch on the negative consequences of lying and uncomfortable with people, as well as the negative consequences of nudity and loss of people's lives on society. The conversation is not intended to be a formal or formal discussion.

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Okay, so it handles a lot of Soula why the audio? So have you seen him see him because he'll actually Let him lie that will actually get her while she has a hammer then Abdullah Surah salatu salam, what are they? So in this session, we are going to talk about the effects of sin, the effects of sin. And the this is a topic that actually it's very rarely discussed. You, when we think of the harm of sin, we think of harm, we think of sin as being something that simply impedes us in the Hereafter, or it affects us negatively in the hereafter. Right. And, by the way, for those of you who are joining live on Instagram, for those of you who are joining live on Facebook, I always like

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to start the sessions just by saying,

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you know, share the welcome everybody. One of the things that

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really helps the sessions is simply by just taking a moment to just forward it to a friend or to share it in your groups, let other people know as well about it, so that they as well are able to participate in goodness, and that they're able to benefit as well. So, that being said, I'm going to show I'm going to go over whatever I can have the effects of since

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many, like I mentioned many times when we think of the effects of sin, we think about it in the hereafter we think of sin as being something that causes harm for the individual or punishment in the hereafter. But we don't really connect the harm of sin to this world. And this this worldly life and the effects are many, the effects are many, and probably the most expensive list you will find of the effects of sins is by Eben Pagan. And he mentions it in his book adapt with the illness and the cure, also known as the illness and the remedy. And so you know, they list out

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over 50 effects of sin I have the book here actually.

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And this is the book that we that inspired the course the venom in the serum and so it's a debt with illness and the cure by

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and he lists out over 50 harms of sins 50 Okay.

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And maybe even more than that, if I remember correctly. And so what we'll do is we'll go over some of these effects of sins. Number one, the first effect of sin is hormonal and that a person will be prevented from knowledge. So that's number one, a person will be prevented from knowledge that you will be denied access to the Quran and to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu. It is a Num because of sinfulness. Now, this was something that some of the greatest scholars in the history of Islam understood, and they recognized and that's why it's incredibly important for us to understand this and to recognize Imam Malik

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dies in the year 179. Okay, 179 after the hijab, so you're talking about within two centuries, he and he's in the third generation he started at dabbing so the third generation and Imam Malik meets Imam Shafi, this young man who's in his 20s, maybe even late teens, and he meets him and he's unbelievably brilliant Shafi is incredible. Mohammed bin Idris and the Shabbat he passes away in 204. And, by the way, just a moment after he was born in 150. So if, if there's one thing also that gives us just a glimpse to the brilliance of a Shafi is that he died at 54 years old. He didn't live into his 70s he didn't live into his 80s. And so if this man is shattered, he had the life span that

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some of these other Imams experience who knows

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how much he would have filled the world with knowledge when he already did at 50. Right. So that just also gives us insight into this this incredible brilliance of of Muhammad even Idrissa Shari, may Allah have mercy on all of them. And so when he travels to Medina,

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and he meets Imam Malik

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Imam Malik sees his brilliance of this young man. And he says to him this statement, he says in Allah Allah Allah al Coffea Calibrachoa. Nura, he said, I see that Allah Subhana Allah has cast into your heart, a wise cast into your heart light. Allah has cast into your heart light, so do not so do not extinguish that light with sin. Do not extinguish that light with sin. And so one of the great masters of knowledge, Imam Malik is telling one of the future masters Imam Shafi that if there's one thing that is going to extinguish your brilliance, if there is one thing that's going to extinguish it, that's going to disable your intelligence. If there's one

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thing that's going to be a barrier between you and having an understanding of the Quran and Sunnah. It is sins. And so be wary of your sins. Be wary of your sense. And so this tells us that our sins become an impediment to knowledge. Even if a person still feels like they're learning, right, I'm still attending classes, I am still memorizing Quran I'm still memorizing the Sunnah I'm still, but even then a person can memorize the Quran. And they can recite it from cover to cover and the Quran not penetrate them in the way that it is supposed to write the whole adage are an example of that. They recite the Quran and doesn't go beyond their throats, right. And this is also because of sins

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right? It is also because of their belief. And so a person should be wary of their sins because you recognize that knowledge is not in knowing a lot of narrations. Knowledge is not in being able to recite verses of the Quran or knowledge is a light that ALLAH SubhanA to add about places in the hearts of their believing servants. And so the more that you protect that light, the more that you guard that light, the greater access to be able to have, and Imam Shafi himself he tells this anecdote, famous anecdote that he tells from his own life when he was a young man. And he was studying under another great scholar of Hadith, Wookieepedia genre, and Loki. Raja machete says that

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on one occasion, the fifth story is famous, you've probably heard a version of it before, where he's walking in the street, or he's outside and he sees the uncovered ankle of a woman. And Shafi had photographic memory, it was said that when he would read a book, he would have to cover up the other page, you'd have to cover up the other page, so that he doesn't his eye, his left eye doesn't scan the page, he's not reading, and it ends up being jumbled, right. And he's just capturing everything. And he needs to kind of siphon out he needs to filter out and things that he wants to capture, like his mind is just working at this incredible level. And so he has this photographic memory, and he

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knows that of himself. And so when he goes and he's walking in the street, and He glances at the ankle of this woman, he goes back home, and he's reading his normal routine, what have you and he finds that his, his memory isn't the same, it's a little bit weaker, he might have to read something twice, might have to read something three times. And so he goes to his teacher, we'll get him to draw any complaints to him. And he says, I don't know what happened to my sins. I don't know what happened to my memory. And so let's get into JIRA. He then gives him advice, and Imam Shafi because he was a poet as well, he was a master of the Arabic language, and he's a, a teacher, he is

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considered to be a, a,

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not just a he's an authority in the Arabic language, the amount of Shabbat, he said should go to in our care as heavily for our children in our tech in my house, it was Bernie BNL el mundo, or Hola, hola. Italia, I'll say. He said, I complained to a key app about my poor memory. And leaving sins is what he guided me to address. And he informed me that knowledge is light. And the light of God is not gifted to those who transgress, we'll get into July without necessarily knowing the story, right? He's telling him if there's one thing, if your memory is suffering now, then there's one thing that I can tell you, it is that you leave since right and so this tells us and this also gives

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us access gives us understanding, if remember, Shafi and this, and this is also really powerful is that look at the perception also look at his incredible self awareness, look at his incredible

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knowledge of his self is that if he notices just the slightest change in his performance and his behavior and his routine, he's able to say, You know what, I need some help, I need to talk to my mentor, I need to talk to my teacher. Now one of us might, you know, you know, the greater performers, world class performers, the slightest change in their diet, they will notice it right, they will see how it affects their performance. And whereas, and so they'll change their nutrition accordingly. And they'll change their diet, and they'll fine tune all of these things that they'll play with all of these things, because their performance is world class. Whereas with us, you know,

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we'll have an Oreo Cheesecake before the lid, right? And we'll just like, I don't know, I don't know why I slept for three hours. I don't know why I

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when you are operating at a high level, you are always fine tuning and you are always incredibly self aware. And so for us, because we're not doing that. We might binge watch a show on Netflix, and not read the Quran for another month because of that show that we watched and we won't even caught the two together. We won't even realize you know, after Ramadan, and I've been able to read the Quran every single day. On the day of Eid, I will watch something or I will do something or the three days after it. I will do something

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right don't read the Quran for three months.

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And I won't even realize it. Right? I won't pray it down, we'll live for another 10 months or 11 months. And I won't even say You know what, hold on a second let me what's what's going on? What's what's, what's changed in my life? That because Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says what? In Allah, Allah, Allah, you know, maybe Omen Hatha Yoga, you know, maybe unforeseen. Allah does not change the conditions for people until they change what is it themselves, meaning Allah does not change your condition from good to bad, unless you change what is in yourself. When you change what is within yourself, Allah changes your condition. Right now you're in this beautiful city, you're in this

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state where you're reading the Quran, and you are you are praying family and you are praying to like as after Isha and four and six and eight, what is going to change Allah won't change you until you change what is within yourself. And for most of us, what we change is the the the introduction of sins that we had kept off and repented from in the month of Ramadan.

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We said, You know what, I'm not going to do this, I'm fasting. And I'm not I don't have time for this. And I am not going to indulge in this and I'm not willing to do this right. And so we refrain from all of the sins. And then after Ramadan, we opened the door for them again with whatever reasoning whatever you know, shade on his back or whatever excuses or whatever means we make or whatever right accommodation that we allow, and then we are prevented from so much including knowledge, including knowledge. And so I just want to stress on this one point because knowledge is a light that Allah Subhana Allah gives. And the best way for a person to prepare for them to receive

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that light is to have Taqwa of Allah. Allah says have Taqwa of Allah where you are Lemo Kamala have Taqwa of Allah and Allah will teach you That's powerful. have Taqwa of Allah and Allah who will teach you okay. So, number one, the first

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the first

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effective sin is the loss of knowledge number two.

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Number two is the loss of sustenance and risk. Baraka, the loss of sustenance, this and Baraka. These two things are, I mean this, this is the stuff that scares people normally when you say the loss of it is Allah subhana data he says, without an Al Quran, Armand or taco if the people of the towns have taqwa, left Adana, I lay him baraka to minister even out we would have opened up for them but I got blessings from the heavens and the earth. Well, I can cancelable but they disbelieved for her now Habima can we actually moon and so we seize them due to what they used to do. We seize them due to what they used to do now.

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I love this verse says, but I can't, we would have opened up for them blessings and not risk. What's the difference? What's the difference? Why does Allah say blessings here Allah knows best why says blessings but something that right we launched this class lost in translation, contemplation of the Quran, the art of contemplating of the Quran, which everybody can access, you can get access to the class at Faith essentials, the online, but contemplating the Quran is just beautiful.

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The difference between blessings and risk when we think of risk, normally we think of risk, right? You think of risk. We think of this as it is we think of money. But blessings is different. I asked you a question right now. And this is a question that chef would impose in The Lost in Translation class. And it's a beautiful question. And it's a beautiful perspective.

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Who has more money? Who's wealthier? You are Bill Gates.

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Whose wealthier you are Bill Gates. me right now as I'm sitting here, am I wealthier? Or is Bill Gates wealthier?

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You right now as you're sitting wherever you're sitting, are you wealthier, or Bill Gates, or Jeff Bezos? Who's wealthier?

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So, Bill Gates is

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So as Jeff Bezos, they're wealthier. And a lot of times when we think of it is the reason why we feel so down and and is because we think of risk as money. But I asked you the question now, who's more blessed? You are doing gigs?

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Who's more blessed? Who is more blessed me, or Jeff Bezos? Who's more blessed?

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When you ask yourself the question, Who is more blessed

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than I can't say that anybody in this world is more blessed than me.

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I'm thinking about my parents. I'm thinking about my siblings. I'm thinking about my friends. I'm thinking about my family and

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Thinking about my child. I'm thinking about my, my spouse. I'm thinking about my, my, my job. I'm thinking about my, my, my personality. I'm thinking about my who's my Eman? Of course.

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I'm thinking about my peace of mind. Who's more blessed? Right and so when Allah subhanaw taala says Oh, and then of course Ramona with Ebola for Daddy him Baraka, we would have opened up if they had taqwa, he said we would have opened up for them blessings in terror. Dunya amatola helado. So he would not be able to count the blessings of Allah. Right, but you lose out on this and blessings because of your sense.

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You lose out on risk and blessings because of your sins. Where do we find the loss of it is Allah subhana wa Tada. He says in sort of the Talaq when a tequila Elijah Allahu wa Maharaja were zoom in how to dataset. Whoever has Taqwa of Allah, we will provide for them a way out and we will make for them. We will make for them a way out and we will provide from them from where they do not expect. They do not expect you will get risk from where you do not expect.

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This is a promise of Allah subhanho wa Taala for the people who have Taqwa. So what is also understood from this verse is that if you don't have taqwa, then you have no promise of a way out and you have no promise of risk from where you do not expect. And so, your risk now that it is that you would have gotten you do not receive because of your sins, you are actually withheld from this because of your sins and Allah only knows how much it is that is, and again, this is not just in wealth, this can also be in many, many other endeavors, right, it can be manifested in so many different ways, but you are prevented from it because of your sins. Okay, so a person's risk is lost

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because of that, blessings are lost because of that. Number three, loneliness in the heart and alienation

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of the effects of sins is loneliness in the heart and alienation. Loneliness Wascher How does that happen?

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Number one, it is an estrangement from Allah Subhana Allah. And it is an estrangement from the people of Allah. These two things, estrangement from Allah, and estrangement from the people of Allah. You have some people who are able to listen to anything and everything. They're able to listen to anything and everything.

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You are sitting in the car with them, and you got control of the ox. And so you want to play hip hop and they're down to listen, and you want to play Japanese weird music not weird, let's just say Japanese weird music.

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And they will, they will be down to listen to it with you, right? Korean boyband music they're down to listen, African folk music, they're down, you know, they're willing to expand their horizons. You want to listen to a podcast great, you want to listen to a lecture great you want to listen to whatever it is that they want to listen to, that you want to listen to, they are down except when it comes to playing the Hold on.

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Except when it comes to playing in the Quran, when it comes to playing in the Quran, and they're like, let's just talk or you know, just Can you turn it off for a second, right? You literally feel

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and arithmatic Nathanael de la and he's has his famous statement, he says, low low sodium active group. If our hearts were healthy, mash heavy, I mean could I mean not, it would never feel satisfied. It would never have its fill from the words of Allah. And so when a heart is sick, when it is diseased, the Quran is like a medicine that is just kind of bitter. You don't even I can't even I can listen to anything else in the world. Right? And this is something for us to also self diagnose with that, am I able to listen to the Quran? Do I enjoy it? Okay, that's not your favorite recite or I get it but somebody's got to be someone that you enjoy listening to. There's like 10

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million her father in this world. They're all reciting the Quran. There's got to be somebody who you're comfortable listening to. There's gotta be right. And so do I feel comfortable reading the book of Allah? Do I feel comfortable listening to the Quran being recited because this is the speech of Allah. This is the greatest speech. And if I don't feel comfortable listening to the speech of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. That is an indication that is the effect of my sin so not being comfortable with ALLAH SubhanA data, I can't make dua to him. I can't I don't enjoy prayer. I don't want to pray, right. All of this. All of this is an indication of, I need to there are some sins going on.

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There's something that I need to resolve, right? I need to there are things that I need to check in on because this self diagnosis that I'm doing is telling me hey,

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If you are not healthy, there's something going on. That's number two. We said alienation also from the, that's actually number three, we said alienation also from the people of Allah subhanaw taala.

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And that alienation can go in two ways. It can be that you feel alienated from them, or they are alienated from you. So let's do they're alienated from you. First. Again, you have that person who's comfortable going into every setting their job, they're very outgoing. They're very, you know, they're able to mix and match and walk into any room and chat with everybody. But the one place that they do not feel comfortable going into the one people that they cannot stand,

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are the people who look like this got these types of beards, and then the carbs or the jobs or the people who are who when they talk their entire talk is Subhan Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah hog, but on their jokes are things like corny jokes, like, you know, the only weed I need is to eat and if it's just like, the type of things that they're saying, you're just feel completely attracted to.

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Sometimes I feel like the righteous are too righteous from my heart. So I avoid them like I avoid the devils in the dark. But those that sit all day without even a spark of Taqwa are equally painful to an aching heart. So who can I be friend, in the end, it's a lonely paradox. At times, it's better to be alone, hearing the ticking of the clock, but the sheep that travels alone is in danger of the fox. So we pray for safe passage in the danger which we walk. And so I feel just alienated from the righteous. I feel alienated from the people who and it's important that ALLAH SubhanA Dotty tells the prophets of Allah this and then he says, what's good enough sick and endure the company of those

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who seek ALLAH

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in the morning in the evening, who are seeking his face, right, without having to identify them and do not let your eyes go beyond them? I get it. And I understand that sometimes, the believers are not necessarily the coolest people in every time in place, right. And this is a shout out to all of my MSA, kids, you might go into an MSA you might be in high school. And the kids who are practicing are not the cool kids in school. There are lots of kids who are cooler. There are lots of kids who are more famous on Tik Tok, there are lots of people who are more, but you know what, and there might even be, I might go into a place I might go into a space where the believers don't even look

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like me. They don't speak my language. They're not my ethnicity. They're not my skin. They're not my color. They're not my my background. They're not my culture. They're not right. Still, Allah subhanho data says, The Greatest connection is the connection that is born out of faith.

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Endure their company.

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Let us endure each other's company. Why? Because at the end of the day, that righteousness is the righteousness that will save that person on the Day of Judgment. I didn't have a thought it says, befriend the righteous as much as you can, because every believer will have an intercession on the Day of Judgment.

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Every believer will have an intercession on the Day of Judgment. So as much as I can befriend people, right. Hopefully one of them on the Day of Judgment will say You're a madman. Yeah. Obama is somebody please

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write they will make an intercession on your behalf on the day of judgment. And so in any case, that is strange Mint is a sign, but then it can be another one which is what?

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That you are estranged by the believers.

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They are not comfortable around you

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have to live near miss Earth has a really profound and powerful statement. He says until Annika global meeting International.

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He says, Be careful. Beware that the hearts of the believers curse you while you are unaware. Beware that the hearts of the believers curse you while you are unaware. He was told how does that happen? How does the hearts of believers curse you and you're unaware. He said that Bluebeam had Imola. You commit sins against the loss of Hannah data in private when there's nobody to be there when you're all alone. You're committing sins against Allah Subhana Allah for UK law who bought the coffee Colombian what we need, and so Allah Subhana Allah casts aversion towards you in the hearts of the believers. Allah casts aversion towards you in the hearts of the believers. The believers have like

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a radar that Allah subhanaw taala places in their heart. That's not to say that every time you dislike somebody you're like, yep. I think I don't know, man. I don't I don't know if this person is is kosher halal. Because I don't like no, that's, this is not a metric for you.

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to ever use on other people, you don't judge people's righteousness, but this is a metric always for you to use for yourself. Right?

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Be aware that if I am that person and I fulfill that quality where when I am behind closed doors I am I become shaytans friend and outwardly I am che Fonz enemy, that you know what I'm not going to be able to, to, I may have that aversion be cast in the heart of the believers because of my actions. So be aware of that. And so that can manifest in these ways. Now, is it possible that a person is the most sincere believer in the world and still people just don't rock with them? Yes, absolutely. You know what we see that from the prophets, let alone from any individual, we see that from the prophets that as sincere as they were, and as committed as they were, and as intelligent as

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they weren't as merciful as they were, and everything they did was right, the people still didn't respond. And so again, it's not a metric for a person sincerity, but it is something for a person to pay attention to when it comes to their own self diagnosis. Number four, our fourth effective sin is that a person's affairs become complicated. affairs become complicated, where do we get that from? We get that from the IEA. Also in sort of the law covers for ALLAH SubhanA data says, well may tequila here Jalla Jalla hoomin. Emery, he is wrong. And whoever has stuck with Allah, Allah who will make their affairs easy. So what does that mean? It what we understand from this verse is that

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if a person doesn't have Taqwa of Allah, then they have no promise of ALLAH SubhanA data making their affairs easy, they have no promise of Allah subhanaw taala making their affairs easy. And so, their affairs become complicated their affairs become difficult. There are even if they make to out right in those moments, their sins might barricade might block might impede that draft from being lifted. The Prophet saw the light is said and tells us in Hadith was in the Hadith reported by Muslim Hadith Abu Huraira talks about the man who is dusty and disheveled and a traveler and broken and calling out to Allah saying God up we all up, but his food was haram and his drink was haram and

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his nourishment was haram. So how can that not be accepted? And so the opposite of course, is that if a person had been walking to Allah subhanaw taala and had been journeying and having Taqwa of Allah and protecting themselves and protecting their, their, their actions from any sort of any sort of of insincerity and any sort of falsehood and any sort of evil and when they turn to Allah, and they make it to that is answered, Allah subhanaw taala facilitates things for them. Number five, is the weakening of the body.

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A person's body physically becoming weaker, a person's body physically being weaker, it no pay mentioned and he says, Where do we get this from? He says, Because sins weaken the heart and the body. Sins weaken the heart and the body. And he says, asked for weakening the heart. That's clear how weakens your heart. If you're not able to do the things that you would normally be able to do, it weakens your commitment.

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It weakens your commitment weakens your ability weakens your sense of possibility weakens your aspiration. It weakens your toe feel all of that.

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How does it weaken your body? How does it weaken your body? He says, As for weakening the body. This is because a believer strength sprouts from their hearts. A believer strength stress from their hearts. When their heart is strengthened, their body strengthens. And as for the wicked person, even if their body bear strength.

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They are weakest in situations that demand strength, and their strength betrays them when they need it most. And he said reflect on Rome and Persia reflect on the Romans and the Persian empires, how their strength and their bodies betrayed them when they needed it most. And how the people of Eman conquered them with the strength of their bodies and their hearts.

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So even though the Sahaba loved the Allah and whom were not the strongest, they were not the most built individuals, right. They weren't the largest bodies, especially going against the Roman Empire in the Persian Empire. They were outnumbered, outgunned, out meant out everything.

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But their hearts were stronger than theirs. And their own material hot Bob. Bob would write letters to his generals and again, we have to appreciate this. This isn't just book knowledge that we're sharing. We are talking about some of the greatest figures in the history of Islam talking their secrets to success. Right when when when we see a YouTube video that's talking about Michael Jordan Secrets of Success or Kobe Bryant's Secrets of Success, or who else Bill Gates or Warren Buffett or we're taking notes, right, we're taking notes like this is this is

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They're here we have Imam Malik saying Imam Shafi say, now we have omitted these individuals in the realm of knowledge and omit them to hip hop in the realm of empire. What is he saying? This man who so much of the Martin of the known world at that time, you're talking about North Africa and the bringing down of empires happened, while he is the Khalifa, what is the advice that he's giving to his generals, he's writing them letters, and he's saying, you are given victory from the heavens.

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You are given a victory from the heavens. And the only reason why you are supported, is because you sinned less than your enemy. You sin less than your enemies like you, as far as their resources, their resources are greater than yours. The only reason why you win is because your sins are less than there's. And so if your sins are equal, if your sins are equal to theirs, then resources will be what determined the Victor and you don't have the resources that they have.

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And so no matter what the law who this is what he's writing to his generals,

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since weaken the body, since we can the body and this is something that we experienced every Ramadan except for this one, but every Ramadan, we see it. If it's a matter of physical strength, who would be the individuals who would be the individuals who would be standing

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in taraweeh, a hand should be able to stand for two hours every night and thought it would be the 18 year old dudes, right? It would be the 20 year old guys who would be the guys who are super in shape and who can play basketball all night and do all of these types of things. But in taraweeh, and Ramadan, we see them dropping like flies, dropping like flies and the guys who are shoulder to shoulder feet to feet shoulder to shoulder first row that Ollie every single night. The head good. Yes, I'll take three more edges that please. Yes, right. These individuals are your uncles who are like 70 years old.

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7565 years old, 60 years old. It's not about their physical strength. It is powered by the strength of their heart. And I mean, I've experienced this and I you know chef

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resembled better to have the result and better is a scholar in Medina and he's the son of the famous scholar Medina chef, I've been rescinded. But may Allah have preserved both of them. So Shawn, Zaki tells the story of when he was 14 years old. He says, I've never forgotten this. He says I was 14 years old. And it was Ramadan. And I went to the hedges in a masjid where they would pray like every Aloka they would pray like a juice and a half. And by the end of like forecasts or something, you know, they would not six edge that, but maybe by the end, they would they would they would have prayed for. Okay, so maybe a juice every rock. So it's a long, long prayer.

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So he said, I'm 14 years old, and I'm lining up. And I see the man in front of me is an Indian, Indonesian man.

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And I see him walk into the line. And he's on crutches. And he has one leg. And I'm thinking to myself is 14 years old. He's like, I'm looking behind this man. And I'm like, Is this man going to pray? This long prayer standing on crutches, he was amazed.

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And so he said, The man said, the Imam said Allahu Akbar, and everybody said, Allahu Akbar. And he said, I'm behind the mat. And that man also on the crutches, he said, Allahu Akbar. And then he took the crutches and he put them on the ground. He dropped the crutches.

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He was standing on one leg.

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And he said, This man was like, a mountain. He did not move. He didn't shift. He didn't rock back and forth. He didn't sit down. This man stood the entire pier.

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on one leg, he said, I never forgot that. And he said, When you see a person, this is what he said. He said, When you see a person with one leg, what do we call that person? We call them disabled, right? Call that handicapped.

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He said,

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but you may have a person who hasn't prayed fidget in three years. And we don't call that person disabled. We don't call that person handicapped. When that is the person who's truly handicapped. Right. And you know, the famous statement is made about

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what's the point of being able to benchpress 300 pounds if you can't bench press your blanket off of your body to pray fidget, right, but these are all the effects of since I have my own story that I experienced in hedge. I performed hedge I was 25 years old.

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And I am by myself

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And I am making

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say that you're going back and forth between the software and the Marwan. And I don't know why this is, but I can tell you out of all of Hajj for me the hardest thing in the world is setting and model setting between stuff and model. This is going back and forth. I don't know if it's walking barefoot or if it's the marble what it is, even though off is still off is so much easier. But in any case for me, so I have to say between sofa and Maura is the hardest thing. I'm doing it by myself. And I'm walking.

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And I look and it's packed, right? It's hedge. And I look to the right, and I see an old man

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who on his ROM has the Indian flag. So he's from India. And he's hunched over. And he's just powering through. He's also by himself, and he's power. He's exerting so much energy. He's just focused. And he's just going, going, going going, looking like The Little Engine That Could, right. So I thought to myself, let me just walk with him. I'll just walk with Him. And I'll just keep pace with him. He doesn't need to know. But it was just, you know, I'll he'll, we'll keep each other company. And so I'm walking and I'm walking and I'm his like,

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like beast mode is my like stroll pace. So I'm just strolling with him. And he's just hunched over and he's just going and going and going and going. And after like the first round, and we make a lap and I'm heading, he starts to get ahead of me. And so I, I speed up, you know, I'm just keeping pace. I'm not gonna let you know, there's old uncle past me. And he's just, I don't even exist to him. He's just,

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and I'm just walking with him. But he's, but now I'm faster. And he's still going. And now he's starting to get ahead of me again. And I'm like, Come on, Uncle like, you can't I can't let you do this to me. So I speed up to. But then after a while.

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I just had to let them go. Speed Racer over here. There's uncle Marshalls auto article, it just took off. And I never forgot that because it wasn't about strength of body at that point. Right? I'm pretty sure if I arm wrestled him, I would have beat him. But it was about strength of heart. It was about strength of heart. And the thing that weakens our resolve the thing that weakens our heart, one of the greatest things is our sense.

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Of no time says the believers strength comes from their heart.

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The believer of strength comes from the heart.

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Of the effects of sense is so what are we at we're at number seven now of the effects of sense is.

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And by the way, for those of you who are on Facebook with me right now, the next session at 4pm, or 5pm, Eastern is going to be shiftwave. And he's going to talk about the effects of of good deeds, the effects of good dishonouring sins and he's doing good deeds, but the good deeds is going to be on Facebook. So make sure you join the Ramadan 360 group on Facebook, or go to Ramadan, three It's free, but you'll be able to catch that session also. So the shortening of one's lifespan. Actually, this is number six the shortening of one's lifespan.

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Sins inevitably shortens one lifespan and deplete its blessings. Oh my god.

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How does sins shorten a person's lifespan? Does that mean that I might have been destined to live for 90 years, and instead I'm only going to live 60 Or I was destined to live for 60 and instead of only live for 20 that I might try to resolve this in a number of ways.

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Firstly, do good deeds increase a person's lifespan? do good deeds increase a person's lifespan? Can they do that? Yes. And the province level like I said, I mentioned that inequality. He says whoever of you wants for their wealth to be expanded and their lifespan to be extended. Whoever wants their wealth to be expanded and their lifespan to be extended? Then let them do what? Let them connect the ties of kinship.

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Talk to your uncle check in on your aunt call your grandma call your cousin's like main not just maintain but connect the ties with kinship. I don't like the word maintain because maintain, maintain, maintain maintains or it communicates that you are being good with those who are being good to you. But silica rang me literally means to connect. I am connecting with those who are who are not interested in connecting with me. I am connecting with the person who doesn't answer my calls that uncle of mine whoever responds to my messages, I'm still sending them messages. Right? I am still checking in on them. I am still calling them even though I don't need them. And even though

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my own ego might tell me like you know what, I don't need that individual i

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that you continue to connect with those who don't connect with you. Okay.

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And that increases your lifespan. So what that teaches us, if good deeds, increase your lifespan and then since decrease your lifespan

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and they differed on this, one group said that the way to understand it is that your lifespan is decreased meaning the bulk of your life is decreased. The bulk of your life dissipates and dwindles. Okay. So you know what,

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three years of your life go by, like like nothing, no productivity, loss of everything. 10 years go by 15 years go by, and you are, you know, you're, you're 15 years old living in a 30 year olds body, you're 30 years old, living in a 60 year olds body, right. As far as accomplishments as far as just even just good deeds, right? It's as if it's if you've lost that time. That's number one. Number two, they said it actually decreases. The second loop said it actually decreases just like this decreases.

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And where do we get this from? Just like your lifespan decreases your lifespan, just like your lifespan increases it lifespan decreases. And that's an issue of color, right? It's an issue of destiny. But if I could resolve this very, very quickly, or presented very, very quickly, there are four writings that happen. There are four writings of destiny that happen number one, the first is the eternal destiny. And that was written 50,000 years before the heavens and the earth were created. That was the eternal writing, actually. So therefore, writings, there's the eternal writing that happened 50,000 years before the heavens are created Allah subhanaw taala first thing he

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created was the pen. He commanded the pen to write the pen said, What should I write? Allah said, Write everything that will happen until the day of judgments, right? That's number one. That's the eternal writing that writing does not change. Number two, is the writing of a lifetime, the writing of a lifetime. When does that happen? That happens when the soul is breathed into the womb of your mother. When your soul was breathed into the womb of your mother by an angel and the angel was then commanded to write for things. The angel was commanded to write your lifespan,

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your actions, your risk and whether you will be of the people of paradise for the hellfire. Okay, how do you feel Abdullah of numerous wrote these four writings, this writing of a lifetime is changeable, that can be changed.

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In fact, even Omar will be Allah and we used to say, Oh Allah, if you wrote me as shocky then then write me as the eight because shutting it means being of the people of the Hellfire, he says, if that was what I was written, as then change it and make me written as being saved. So this is a changeable destiny to change the one of a lifetime, that we have a yearly destiny that is written, a yearly writing that takes place and when does that happen? That happens on a little further, Allah says, fee how you for Roku, Amazon, Hakeem that on the day of destiny, every matter is determined, every matter is determined. And that's one of the that's one of the reasons why we want to make sure

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that we're

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we're present on native causes that we're making dua native to even our best that even the names of the judge are written on native to them. So you want to make sure that you are present and inshallah we hope to experience that as other if it hasn't passed that it'd be in these upcoming nights and that we'd be there to take our greatest share of it.

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Then we have the fourth writing and when is the fourth writing it is a daily writing ALLAH SubhanA Dionysus Coolio Ming Hua Fisher, Allah says every day salsa, Rama, he says every day he is determining a matter every day.

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And so out of these four writings, which one of them are changeable? alterable, it is the second, third and fourth that I mentioned. As for the first one, the one that's written in the lotion, my fourth one that was written 50,000 years before the heavens, the earth, that was not. And so

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the destiny that would be changed the lifespan that would be shortened would be the lifespan that was written in those three.

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A third group, they said, let's look at it from another aspect. And they said Syns role in diminishing lifespan is to because actual life is the life of the heart.

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Actual life is the life of the heart. And so when Allah Subhana Allah describes the disbelievers. For example. He says, I'm Latin later. Oh, yeah. And what they do is they are dead, they're not alive. And so this is

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a description saying, you know, what, are this is a presentation of of this aspect saying, when a person for example, is in what we would call Janelia, right, three years or five years or 10 years or 20 years or one day or one hour, right and in fact of the prophets of Allah Allah has sent him he says, that there is not a gathering there is not a gathering of sitting down where Allah's name is not mentioned. And salah upon the province of Elijah Salem is not done except

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that it will be a source of remorse and regret for them on the Day of Judgment.

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Why? Because this is this is a moment from my life that is going to be worthless on the day of judgment I lived on this day, right? I was I had that extra hour, I had that two hours, I had that 10 hours. I had that extra year, but it is completely worthless for me on the day of judgment. So it's like it didn't exist. It's like I didn't have it. And so that's why every gathering that you sit, if you simply say at Hamdulillah, subhanAllah, when you're gathering up Hispanic Allahumma, Hamdi construida, in Ireland to Sahara to be like, well as in Arizona, of course, like all of these things, this hobbies to say, just so that this gathering becomes something that is valuable for me

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on the day of judgment.

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Right? Just so that this I can I can turn this gathering this chit chat with my friend, this conversation, I can change it into currency on the day of judgment that will be of benefit to me. Cool. So they said that it is the life of the heart, your real life is the time that you spend alive and even, you know, subhanAllah it's a it's a statement that you hear people make, right? They say, don't count. They say a life is not measured in the breaths that you take. But in the moments that take your breath away, right? It's not about how many breaths you take. It's about the moments that it's not the moments of the breath you take, but the moments that take your breath away, right? And

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so this is like a secular philosophy. But if you were to understand this, just from the aspect of what if no theme is presenting here is that your life is not counted in the breaths that you take. But it is the remembrance of Allah subhana dialer that you take with those breaths, actually, that came out to be pretty poetic to mashallah, that's

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a good one.

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Okay, another great harm of since now we're at number eight, and we've got 10 minutes to do this. So, another great harm of sins is that sins lead to one another.

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Sins lead to one another. That is a great harm of since the scholars they say Al has an Atala, what was rubella? What that sense lead to one another and good deeds lead to one another, good deeds lead to one another instance lead to one another. So, the good deed of you going to the masjid easy example you walk into the masjid and your goal is to praise them after Isha but how many good deeds are wrapped up in you going to pray a lot to Russia, there is praying to hate and message there is giving sadaqa there is shaking people's hands there is giving setup there is giving the person a ride home on the way back there is so much that is tied one good deed lead you to so many other good

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deeds, okay. Then you have

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sins lead to one another. Sins lead to one another and an authentic hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he says in acidifier the elder he gives the example of one good deed. Truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to paradise. And beware of lying because lying leads to fewer and fewer leads to the hellfire, right for God leads to the hellfire. And so sins lead to one another. And lying in particular, is the most common sin that is paired with every other sin. It doesn't matter what the other sin is, whether it's gambling, whether it's alcohol, whether it's Zina, whether it's whatever that other incentives, the sin that is most commonly paired with every

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other sin is lying. Why? Because lying is the cloak of sin. Lying is the thing that we use to hide ourselves and to hide our sins. And so that gives you

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that gives you a better understanding of this hadith in which the province of Elijah Sam says truthfulness leads to righteousness.

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And lying leads to everything else lying leads to all sorts of transgression. Because if you're going to lie, I mean, then the sky's the limit. And if there is one thing that will correct a person's behavior if there is one transformative action that a person can commit to it is to speak the truth.

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Your mother calls you and says, Who are you talking to? I'm going to speak the truth.

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I'm going to die on my shield right now. Right? I'm gonna go out on my show. I'm going to speak the truth. What did you do last night? I'm going to speak the truth right? Because what that is going to do is it's going to force you it is either going to lead you to righteousness because I am completely uncomfortable with people thinking this of me and knowing this of me and all of that. So since I'm committed to the truth now it's going to lead me to righteousness or it's going to lead me to simply being comfortable with with people knowing things about me right

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so since lead to one another as well, okay, we'll end with this one. And this is number. I've lost track. I think this is a number eight. I think this is number 811. Okay, M says

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The loss of aversion and abhorrence, the loss of aversion, and abhorrence, meaning that one of the effects of sins is that you're no longer bothered by it.

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Can you imagine the first time a person?

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You know, that's why they say that they're things like gateway drugs, because you need a gateway to get to it. A person doesn't go from step one to step 10.

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But they must first go through step one, and then become comfortable with step one, they have to lose the aversion for step two, and then they go to step two, and then they have to lose the aversion for step three. And then and then of course, by then, step one just becomes normal. And we've all seen this in our lives. Where something that 1015 years ago, we were completely uncomfortable with completely bothered by completely repulsed by completely afraid of committing, right and I'll give you an easy example.

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My Michelle, Michelle told me that before, when they were like growing up when they had beards, and they were practicing Islam, one of them would not ever think of telling their friends that they went to a movie theater, that was like a major red flag you would be boycotted you are a facet than going to a movie theater, going to a movie theater.

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And then over time, that became normal.

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It was just going to a movie there. It didn't matter. No one's even asking you what the movie was like your ex out or not. Doesn't matter if it was rated D or it could have been the it could have been the

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I can't even think of what movie would be but right it could have been like the most childish movie could have been the Lion King. Nope, your x out. Okay, now

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you have practicing Muslims practicing Muslims. These are the and they're tweeting out oh my god, this episode of Breaking Bad is so amazing.

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Oh my god.

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What is the Game of Thrones? What a fantastic episode was amazing series. Yeah, and you're talking about series that have nudity as part and parcel of the programming.

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I watched the first episode of Breaking Bad, because I heard so much like literally. And this was after the entire series was over right the entire series and for years online, I'm seeing oh my god, this was such an amazing and hope was are being given and this and that.

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Watch the first episode, first episode. And you're talking about complete nudity. I'll say what is shocked. Mama shattered. He lost part of his memory because of an ankle. And we're wondering why we're still on Usama 30 years later.

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Like, well, how are we supposed to survive all of this? I was supposed to survive all of this. Lila.

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You're talking about part and parcel, right? And this talks about the shift the loss of aversion to sin, you're no longer even bothered by it. You don't even have a personal stake in the law. At least setting the standard and saying you know what, we should be better than this.

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We should be better than this. Okay? The prophets of Allah they send him he tells you a very, very powerful and profound Hadith.

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The prophets of Allah do send them he says,

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Allah has given the example.

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actually hold on that's not the Hadith that I want.

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Okay, the Hadith that I want the prophets of Allah to send and he says, method Luca, me either who do the law, that the one who is who is standing on the, the limits of Allah that guarding the limits of Allah, and those who transgress beyond it are like people who are on a boat. You have some people who are on the lower level, and some people are on the top. So double decker boat, have some people on the bottom, you have some people on the top.

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And the ones who are on the bottom, they get this genius idea. And they say, you know, every time we go up to get some water, we keep bothering everybody's got to step over. People got to you know, excuse me, excuse me got to do all of that. We got to wake them up and all of that. How about we just make a hole in the boat. We make a hole in the boat will get water whatever we want, and we don't have to bother the people upstairs. And so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he says, If we leave them to their own devices, if they leave them to the device, if the people who are on top leave them to their own devices, they will all be destroyed. They will all be destroyed. But if they take them

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by the hand if they hold them by them if they stop them

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They will all be saved. And so this tells us that our salvation as a community is a communal salvation.

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Our aversion to sin needs to be something that we awaken amongst ourselves. And we recognize that this is one of the effects of sin, one of the effects of sin is that you just stopped being bothered by it. Just like you know what, this is fine. It's freedom of speech. It's freedom of choice. It's my life. It's, you know, worry about yourself. Don't judge me, you keep hearing that enough times. And you keep saying that enough times, and you owe us there's nothing stopping you from just being completely comfortable. I need to be unapologetically myself. That's another great one. I need to be unapologetically myself. I heard that I said, that was the silliest thing I've ever heard in my life

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couldn't believe it.

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I need to be authentically me. Okay, we're all being authentically ourselves. But I recognize that I have things that I need to apologize for. That's what doba is. That's what its default is. And so the notion that I am just perfect, and that any requirement to have me to be better than what I currently am, is abhorrent and oppressive and judgmental, and all of that. That is the

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All right, let's we're at four o'clock in Charlotte. I'm sorry, we ended up going along at nine you were supposed to interrupt me man and tell me we got questions and stuff or half so we're supposed to tell you I just went off. No, I'm sorry about that. But does that go on with her and something that really resonated from what I might introduce you to the Instagram feed. Hold on. This is the Instagram feed like, are you Instagram? I actually follow you Instagram. While you were talking. I was actually logging in on here. Nice. So this is this is the Zoom chat for everybody. This is anon and we're about to go live with Jeff What are you talking about the effects of good deeds Insha

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Allah, Ramadan, 360 Facebook or go to Ramadan three For shuffling session in sha Allah is what I call current chef Amar for that very riveting talk something that rowhouse was saying we can take questions so let's take a few questions that in the meantime, so what questions do you got for me? So Inshallah, if you have any questions, do leave it in the Zoom chat or Facebook or YouTube I have that all open. So inshallah go ahead with that.

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Okay, so, Latif says My question relates to backbiting Can I talk about a wrong that has been done to me by a person to another person even though the person I am telling this to cannot change my situation, but talking about this issue with another person makes me feel better? So the answer to that is if it is simply a matter of venting, then no the venting just for the sake of venting should be done to Allah subhanaw taala or if I am going to vent to somebody that I vent without mentioning that person's name, okay.

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Imam Minogue has a Imam and no, we mentioned five or six circumstances in which Backbiting is permissible. Okay.

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Mr. Manoli mentioned five or six occasions in which Backbiting is permissible. Let me or six six situations actually, in which Backbiting is permissible? Okay. So Are y'all ready for this? Because I know people want to know when they can back by number one the volume oppression a person seeking the removal of oppression from themselves that's number one. And so

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in your circumstance, if you were explaining it to somebody who had the to had the ability to help you it would be okay but just because you said I just only one event then I would say no number one is oppression. Number two is seeking assistance in changing Moncada and removing the transgressor back to goodness okay, so again, seeking assistance and removing the oppression this is actually similar so maybe it is only five. Number three is seeking fatwa. I'm going to shift to ask him what should I do? Or and where do we get this from? We get this from

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Hint, hint mentored by who came to the Prophet sallallahu de Sena and she said O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sophia and my husband is a stingy man and obviously God Of course he's one of the sides of course he wouldn't like for anybody to know that about him. But she wants to know is it okay well, messenger of Allah for me to kind of just take money from him without him knowing Can I just go kind of go into his wallet and grab some some money right? So she's asking the province of the lobbyists and okay.

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So seeking fatwa number four is warning Muslims of the harm of someone so warning Muslims of the harm of someone. So if for example, I know that this person does bad things or I know this person cheats, or I know that this person you know,

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steals or what have you, that I I share that with the Muslims or one Muslims. Number five is if the person is a facet who is known for their vices, a facet who is known for their vices. So for example, if I mentioned that DJ hided, for example, drinks alcohol, I mean, a person can't dunk.

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Come to me and say, Oh, don't back by I mean the guy is on Snapchat every day with his. It's alcohol bottles, right? That's not me. Backbiting somebody, it's something that's known about them. Number six is to identify someone if someone is known by the name of if someone has a name, like Amash, for example, the person with blurry vision or have some the death or an Atma, the blind, right, some people sometimes they have nicknames that will, I'll say, become a source of identity identification for them. And so

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if someone you know, people have all sorts of nicknames like that, that I don't want to mention, but the point is, if a person becomes known for that nickname, and as long as they're okay, with being known by that nickname, it's not offensive to them, then it's okay.

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I think someone asked a question, saying, how do we go back from normalizing a sin once it does not bother is anymore, or I think what the person is trying to time time, repentance and time,

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repentance and time, a lot of these things.

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A lot of these things are not immediately fixable, right. And I think a lot of times, we rush the process, we rush the process, we take 15 years getting sick, and we want to be super healthy tomorrow.

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You didn't get sick all at once. And so it's not going to be healed all at once. And so, you you hasten to repent to Allah subhana data, and then you go through the process of purification, you remove what you can, and then that distance in and of itself Inshallah, to Allah will return your Fedora to you. But it's going to take time.

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Still looking for Okay, so Shefali I think we'll be here in five minutes. So inshallah we can have maybe one more question.

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Come in. So I'm looking

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between the Facebook and YouTube. So okay, one person asks, how do we teach children that certain sins, although common, are not okay, without seeming intolerant?

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How do we teach people?

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How do we teach children to question us?

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So a teacher with with with children,

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I'm not, I'm not someone who specializes in teaching children, but I appreciate creativity when I see it. And so I'm not the best person to ask about this. But I'll give you an example. And it also depends on how old the child is, but you have to speak to them, according to their level, and according to their age. And so, I know, for example, I know from, you know, even some five year olds, how, you know, their teachers will say to them, for example, if they do something bad, they'll say to them, Do you want this written in your book of bad deeds? Do you want this written in your book of you know, no, I don't I want to read. And if you don't do it, it'll be written in your book

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of good deeds. Right. And so you speak to them just on their absolute level. And, you know, I've had teacher Summit, like, you'd be surprised at how amazing this works. Just that just the concept of book of good deeds and book of bad deeds. You don't have to talk to him about Jahannam, you're not introducing that to them. But just a book of good deeds and a book of bad deeds. So speaking to people according to their, to their, to their age, and according to their understanding, I don't have to, I have to, I don't have to introduce the concept of the noob and Marcion sins to a five year old or a six year old, but coming up with creative concepts in sha Allah.

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Sorry, there was actually a whole. Here's a couple more questions. So another person who's asking Can I talk about a wrong that has been done to me by a person to another person, even though the person I am telling this to cannot change my situation? But talking about this issue with another person makes me feel better? Yeah, it's the same thing as we were the first one we talked about, if it's just a matter of venting the No. Okay.

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And then another person who was asked, How about not connecting due to having a huge family and spread all parts of world when there is no hard feelings or disconnects within the family? So when we talk about silica rain, right, when we talk about silica Rahim, it's defined to be a number of things. And since you guys are

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in the Ramadan 360 group, I would encourage you to to take the course that's in the faith essentials portal, which is by Shahab, warisan, and mattala. And it's maybe 10 Quick sessions, and it's called family life. And in it he defines what Sebata Rahim is, because that's also important. And so you have the most restricted group of what civitella Amis name is that you need to maintain and that most restricted group is your Hatem, the people who you're not allowed to marry. So it's my parents, my grandparents, my children, my grandchildren, my siblings, right. My aunts and uncles, my aunts and uncles right. And who else is included in

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that no that's pretty much it. It's my parents, grandparents, children, grandchildren, siblings, aunts and uncles. That's the most restrictive position by the scholars right and so but then when it comes to first cousins and nieces and nephews parents very good right your nieces and nephews but as it comes to your first cousins and second cousins and third cousins, a lot of times that's considered to be cultural and so the reason why I maintain kinship with my my second and third cousin is not necessarily because Islamically I need to but it's because that makes my mom happy. Right who I need to definitely make sure that I'm maintaining relationships with my father and all

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of that and so to that end if there is no hard feelings with an extended family then that's fine

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no not even not on my yeah I'm gonna buy mine has protect this house if you want the like full long course about you know, shuffle basic going into all of the details, definitely go on to automotive dot online. And if for example, you've already purchased a number of classes through the lunch good campaign, then feel free to protect this house is a wonderful option for that. But if you're just a member of the faith essentials portal or you're not a member with such as portal and you just want to pay 15 bucks and get access to it, then join the faith essentials dot online challenge you'll get that and a lot of other courses as well.

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Because I don't think surely it is a Oh Sheikh Khalid isn't

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a chef.

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So now evil evil is going to disappear and goodness is going to stay

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because I call her and Chico Mar for hosting this session. And just like my friend for everyone tuning in and Joe Please do stay alive because cheerfully as she Ramadhan just mentioned, he will be talking about the effects of gun whacking effect of good deeds and that's a beautiful topic with a lot of people. Even the effects of sins isn't really discussed that much but what are the effects of good deeds? Very excited to hear that inshallah. Exactly. So with that I'll hand it off to Mr. Howe so inshallah oh I see I see when it house only does big timers now that's what happens I see Mashallah.

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I purposely handed over all the sessions that you

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Yes, Jose, I was like, you know, I'm gonna let them do it. All right, all right. No, but that was a beautiful session and Giselle care honestly to Adnan without getting on your legend Magnotta mashallah, mashallah, without even doing a practice session, mashallah, he jumped right into it, he embraced it, and he did a better job than I could have with that enthusiasm and that smell so just like a locker that was awesome. It's been a pleasure to have you host on their own on 360 platform for the first time. Hopefully we get a chance to see you again, but inshallah fair, we will see you through new rain Mashallah. Thanks for repping and it's an ironic one