12 Steps to Conquering Sins

Ammar Alshukry


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The chef discusses the importance of protecting oneself from enemy deeds and staying committed to a goal. The importance of learning the right way to express one's opinion and using one's time is emphasized. The importance of patience and endurance is also emphasized. The segment also touches on the success of achieving success in life, including the importance of not overestimating one's ability to attain success.

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And the answer is as long as you still want it, you should make up for it. As long as your heart is still in pain and your eyes still flood and your tongue still stutters as long as you still want this thing make dua for it

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having a reliable source salam ala Rasulillah while earlier also Happy Selling seemed to feel that I should do a low level Allahu la sharika who eyeshadow and Muhammad Abdul Rasulullah sallallahu Rubio Sara Marie, I'm about to Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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hamdulillah it's a pleasure to be with you all. Can I just get this lifted up a little bit? I'm sorry.

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It's a pleasure to be with you all, here in Manchester tonight. And I ask Allah subhanaw taala that he accepts from us our actions and these buses 10 days in the Hebei that we be of those who are gifted the ability to do actions that he loves and are those whose sins are forgiven and those who are emancipated on the Day of Arafah from the Hellfire on the day where Allah subhana data emancipates more souls from the Hellfire than any other time. Yes, sir.

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Does the day of autofill before your multicam inshallah Tada, excellent. I love that energy, though. That's not usually what I get here. So I definitely love back and forth and interaction in sha Allah to Allah. So today, I actually wanted to briefly very briefly in what we can I want to go over a really profound question. And it's a question that we can all relate to, we can all relate to. And that question is, what do you do? When you have a sin that you want to conquer? You have a sin that

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you haven't been able to let go of yet you haven't been able to conquer or to repent completely from? And this was a question that was supposed to have no theme. And he wrote an entire book that is probably in your library here. And it's called enjoyable coffee, lemon sila, and it is Shafi or it's famously known as that would go up the illness and the cure, and he wrote an entire book to answer this question. It's called the illness in the cure the illness is my sin. How do I cure myself from a sin that has plagued me? How do I cure myself from a sin that has walked with me that I am afraid will cause me great difficulty on Yom Okayama as well as in this dunya

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but we don't have time for eternal themes entire response, he wrote an entire book. Actually, the response I want to share with you is the response of his shift chef and Islam even Taymiyah may Allah have mercy on them both chef and Islam for the same question or a very similar question. He wrote two paragraphs are very, very short. And so we have time to go over that. But they are so amazing. And they are so more Phuc they're so they're so brilliant that in these two paragraphs I want you to go home today inshallah data figure, find them somewhere, print them, put them on your refrigerator, put them on your wall, share them with other people, share them in your whatsapp

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groups, because it's unbelievable. Okay, so what is the step to conquer a sin that a person has had for a long time? Let's see what she has. When Islamiat Emile Rahim Allah he says, so he says, Though hula is deja vu, Allahu taala. First up, and we're going to mention 12 Steps inshallah. So step number one, is he says it is t jell o Illa. The first step is to turn to Allah. That's step number one, this is a rule for our life, your life and mine. That whenever you and I want to acquire anything, or whenever you and I want to protect ourselves from anything, step number one is always going to be what?

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absolutely turning to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, the province of Allah it was said to them taught in Ibis when him and Ibis was just a little bit older than this young man here. He said, either CELT

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first, Adela will either stand. First time Biller, anytime you seek help from anybody, I got to talk to my boss I got to talk to my professor, I got to talk to my wife, I got to talk to my husband, I got to talk to the mechanic. I got to talk to the judge. I got to talk to I got to talk to I got to talk to I talk to all of us every single day don't we have so many people that we seek help from and the province cellulitis and them is teaching us that when you seek the help of anybody seeks the help of Allah. This is transformative. I'm already spending too much time on it, but I want to rein it into our heads that make it a habit that before you call anybody you call Allah.

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One time I

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was moving from my apartment. I was bachelor living by myself, I had a one bedroom apartment flat, you guys call it. And I did not have anybody organized to come help me. I thought to myself, I don't have a lot of things. I'm a bachelor living. And I'm just going to load up my car, and I'm going to go down the street because my apartment was right next to my new apartment was right next to my old apartment. So I'm just going to make a couple of trips during the day. And that's it.

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You never realize how much you own until you move.

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And you just realize that you have stuff after stuff after stuff. And then by like all sorts of time, I started getting anxious because every time I would take a trip, I would come back and I would find more and more stuff. And I realized I only had one day to move and I was like this isn't gonna finish. And I can't call up my friends. Now imagine you're calling up your friend and you say to them, can you help me move? Sure when right now? It's not nice. It's very awkward. And so I thought to myself, I made it and I said, Oh Allah, I don't want to ask anyone other than you. I don't want the knowledge. I don't want the awkwardness. I don't I want to ask you alone.

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I couldn't ask anybody. I only asked the law. I got a random call

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from a friend of mine. Who Salma? Well, the law in Harvard Law was awesome.

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I had not seen for six months because this guy we used to hang out every single day. But then he got married. never saw him again. He calls me up. And he says what are you doing right now?

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I said moving. He said, Excellent. First of all, who says Excellent. When you say to them, you're moving?

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I believe only Allah made him say that. He said excellent. I was looking for some help or not. I was looking for some good deeds. I'll be right over.

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I didn't invite him. I didn't ask him. He said I'll be right over Allah subhanaw taala is gonna level up Allah is the Turner of hearts, and he can turn my heart and just like he can make you love a sin. You can also Allah can make you hate that very sin.

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Turn to Allah subhanaw taala that's why a beautiful drought to make when a person loves as soon as to say what Allahumma had been elated Iman was the Yin who physically be what carry Lal Khufu COVID sen which I don't even know why she did this. That's Muslim but I mean in

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Minnesota that hurts a lot that you say, Oh Allah beautify ie mine in my heart. Make Eman love it to me. Make Imam beloved to me and beautify it in my heart and make me hate go for and for spoken ser. So step number one is to turn to Allah subhanaw taala what's step number two, he says I needed to doubt will Allah whether amatola Illa Allah subhana the second step is to consistently beseech Allah

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the Rahmatullah Royer, that you know what I made dua for Allah subhanaw taala, the last 10 nights of Ramadan, and then I relapsed after Ramadan continue to make dua

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I made during the 10 days within hija and I still haven't been able to conquer this and continue to make dua to Allah subhanaw taala I continue to make dua, I went to Hajj I went to Ramallah and I asked Allah to allow me to conquer this sin. And I still haven't conquered it. I came back and I relapsed again continue to make dua to Allah subhanaw taala never ever give up. He says to amatola Allah Subhana Allah data that you continue with drop, and then he says, What drop and yet I lemon, thorough.

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Number three is to make dua with the DN thorough what does it thought it means? It means the DUA that have come to us authentically reported in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu set it up. Why why in thorough in particular, can I make dua with any drug that I want to make? Yes or no? Yes. So why does Scheffel Islam here said at the end, thorough why what's the benefit of it at the end, Matt, for the benefit of me making do out with drugs that are in Bukhari and Muslim and authentically reported is that I don't make the mistake of making innovative drugs.

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Do you know how many people come up to me and they say, I read in a book that if you say subhanallah, 317 times you will have a child?

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Or if you say,

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you're lucky if 312 times you will be relieved of distress. Where did you get that from? I got it from a book.

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Okay, but that's not authentically reported from the province of colitis. Yes, but I say it every morning. Well, every morning you're saying something that

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is not beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala it is an innovation in the religion. And if you had stuck to what was authentically reported from the prophets of Allah and cinnamon would have been better for you. If you have the desire to make any draw from your heart at any point in time, that is beautiful well and good. But if you're going to stick to a routine daily, then do that from the tradition of the prophets of Allah to set it up we have a Scotto Saba, they're wonderful. We have Moscato Messiah, they're wonderful. We have the things that the province the light is in them to support us to say many times have many different authentically reported supplications say them as

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much as you want.

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But stick to that which is traditionally reported. Does that make sense? Okay, number four

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shuffle Islam he says

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that the person seek a drought FEMA, vanilla Java, that a person's seek out the times in which is more likely to be accepted, like sort of asadmin allele Oh cartella. Dan, well, your karma Officer Judy he will be added by the Salawat. So in the times when DA is more likely to be accepted the last third of the night, or between the event and the karma because the province cellulitis and then says that Tada, that's between the two events meaning the Adana comma is not rejected. And so these are times for you to make dua, or in your sujood sujood is one of the greatest real estate that we have every single day that we don't take advantage of. Even right now we prayed a lot to remove it if we

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look outside, and we start posting and sharing about save chef Jarrah and saves the one and save and messy the laughs and save our brothers sisters in China, but who of us right now Institute may draft for any of these things. And the Prophet salallahu SNM says I just did not see him and he said an assault and that the weakest of people the most enable of people are those who are unable to make dua. And so if you have scheduled and every single for regard prayer, you have eight stations where you have an audience with Allah subhanho data and you are closest to Allah. Allah says, Allah Allah, who was Jude Wachtell, if you are in a state of nearness to Allah subhanaw taala. When you make

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sujood, this is the time for you to make dua, and he says at the bottom Salawat as well, and many others, but the point here is that you start looking out for the times that is more likely to be accepted, because again, I am attacking this sin from every direction, I am making dua to Allah, and I am consistently making dua to Allah. And now I'm using a thorough I'm making the drives that are constantly being that are authentically reported. And now number four, I'm taking and I'm using the time of sujood and advatage salawat and the times in which it is more likely to be accepted. And then what does he say? He says way Illumina era radical is still far

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and then you add to that list of file in the home and he stopped many stuff for Allah for metabo Illa Hema Tahoe Mata and has an ILA JD Musa, he says and then you add to that is the far why, because whoever seeks forgiveness, Allah subhanaw taala will give him a good life till an appointed time by making this difficult. Where is he sourcing this from? Where's he getting the statements from? He's getting the statement from solitude where Allah subhanaw taala says, When he stopped feel or have been through Matobo, la you material cometa and has an ALA ha Musa, Allah Subhana Allah says, and seek forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him, Allah will give you a goodly life, until or

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for an appointed time meaning until your death you will have a goodly life. And undoubtedly, one of the things that makes your life goodly is a life where you're able to conquer your demons. It is a life for you when it is a life where you're able to conquer your sins. And so this is a manifestation of is still fun, seeking forgiveness for Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is still far and has an advisory he says, make us default in your commutes. And in sitting in your places of gathering and after your Salawat because you never know when the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala is going to descend upon you.

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And then he says, he says seeking forgiveness

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and then he says My alma tiny alleged and then he says, Well, it definitely will then mean a scary thought of eight and a half walked in Nome. This is beautiful. He says let them take a weight, a weight it is a daily devotional, a daily devotional every single day you have a daily devotional in the morning time you make your morning I forgot in the evening time you make your evening have caught before you go to sleep you make your earth car that you take your daily devotional why

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number one, these Earth God grant you success for the day. Number two, these earth god they protect you. And so if I'm protected every single day, it's like

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what a cop who goes out every single day.

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Would they ever leave their house without putting on their bulletproof vest?

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To cops where bulletproof vests here?

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They don't

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stab proof vest. Okay? Would a cop ever leave their house without

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wearing their stab proof vest? Doesn't sound the same but their vest? They don't right? Why wouldn't they tell me?

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They risk

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getting stabbed. And so you and I, when we make our F God in the morning, now we're able to walk out and not be stabbed by Shavon

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Shavon Shavon is our enemy Allah Subhana Allah says in the shape on Electrum I do photography, whoo hoo I do. Allah says che plan is for you and enemy. So take him as an enemy. You know that second part, take him as an enemy. That's the part that we forget. We're like, Yeah, Shavon is an enemy. But I'm not going to do anything to protect myself from him. Yeah, shaytaan is an enemy. But I will walk outside and get punched in the mouth by him every single day. And I will never fight back. Allah says for who I do what take him as an enemy. fight back. Prepare, recognize the challenge ahead of you. The province is on the line today. Send them tells us literally that when a person

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steps outside of their door. And he says

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he says Bismillah Tawakkol to Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Quwata illa biLlah you say these three things when you step outside of your door.

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It is said to him who did? What to feed? What will kit you have been guided? And you have been sufficed, and you have been protected.

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What then? Uh huh. And who che upon and shaytaan then departs from him turns away from him. What does that mean? That means shaytaan was waiting outside of your door.

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Like imagine you have a militia outside of your door. You got some gangs outside of your door. Every time you walk outside, they're ready to rob you. I mean, that's stressful. But that's the way that we live. The point here is the Escar. He says that you take a weighted why? Because if I make my my weight every single morning, that means every single day when I leave my house, I'm protected. When I come home every afternoon, I'm protected. When I go to sleep every single night, I'm protected. If I'm always protected, and I have a force field around me, I've got my vest, I've got whatever how a shape I'm going to have access to me for me to fall into that synagogue.

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That's the idea that you protect yourself. So he says that you take a word that you have a daily devotional that you read a daily devotional of the gods that you read. And I'm always amazed right now one of the things that's getting very, very popular, is what's called affirmations. Have you guys heard of that? Right? If you're in university, you've heard of that. I'm sure what our morning affirmations morning affirmations are like, I walked up to my mirror every morning and I say you are amazing.

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You say you deserve goodness, or something like that. There's some sort of affirmations that people make there. And all of these like self help books. Now for us, our morning Scott are not about how amazing I am. But my morning as God reminds me every morning about how amazing ALLAH SubhanA data is. It's not about I am strong. It is about Allah subhanaw taala is being strong, I source my strength, I source my Tofik I source my success from Allah subhanaw taala I am not looking at the universe as if it is something that is that I am Central to I am not the center of the universe, but rather it is Allah Subhana Allah who is the owner of the universe, and so every morning I am seeking

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that success for my day from ALLAH SubhanA Dada in any case, he says

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and then he says what else spirit I love my outer Lulu who mean and Marina was so odd if he says and let them endure, let them have supper over their lapses.

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You know what? Tonight in this masjid, you make a promise to ALLAH SubhanA Dawn and you're like, I'm going to stop smoking weed. I'm gonna stop.

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And then two weeks later, three weeks later, something happens.

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A bit. Damien says hold on,

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hold on,

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Sometimes a person will commit to not committing a sin.

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And they will promise that they will never commit it again. And they will make dua and they will fulfill all of these steps. They will make their thought and they will and they will and they will and they will. Don't you know that story of that Toba, the man who killed 99

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He intended

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to repent.

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And then that Abbot told him there's no repentance for you. So what did he do?

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What did he do? He killed him. he relapsed. He killed him again.

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Even after he intended Toba, he committed the sin again. He didn't look and say I mean, this is just who I am. I lost I tried. I'm never gonna stop

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Know how lost this is out it. This is a lapse, and I'm going to continue on my journey of Toba. And so he went to ask someone else and he asked the item, right and he was successful at the end. But the point here is you have to endure it might take a year it might take five years it might take 10 years guess what I have a whole lifetime to try to get this right. And Allah subhanho data is the most merciful but I have to be in the long run. I have to be ready and committed for the long run Hollis, I am repenting to Allah subhanaw taala even if I fall 100 times I am going to get up 101 times. I'm going to commit

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I don't know what number we're on right now. I think we're at number nine or something like that. Number eight does aka look at us. Mashallah.

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Okay, so he says

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and then he says, for inner hula yell Beth, are you able to hula hoop euro and Minho. Way activo l Imana. Phil Kobe. He says let him not lapse because it may very well soon come that Allah subhanaw taala gives him a spirit from him. Allah gives him success. And that Allah subhanho wa Taala prescribes and writes Eman in your heart don't give up. No matter how many times endure the mistakes endure the shortcoming so we're at number eight. So number nine. He says Well, yeah, well yeah, he's either a committed follower admin or salata. Hubbs be wealthy. And he while he did he fit in to Dean. So he says and let him be very, very, very committed to perfecting the five obligatory prayers

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with their inner meanings and their outer meanings because it is the pillar of the deen. It is the pillar of the deen. So let me try as part of my Toba that I perfect and I recognize that if I pray Fajr perfectly that will anchor my morning.

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You know, I had a friend of mine, when I was like around 17 or 18 years old. He was the coolest kid amongst us, because he got a car. So he automatically became the coolest. And because he got a car. He was the first one amongst us to be able to go to the masjid to pray Fudger he never used to be able to go because he lived far away and he'd have to take a bus thing. He's not going to do that at 5am. But now that he had a car for the first time, he was able to actually go to the message professor. And so he was he prayed for budget in the masjid. And that inspired him so much. I remember the first day he ever prayed for budget in the masjid. He's 18 years old. And he was

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telling us that night because we had hung up on the Masjid. That night, he was telling us and he was like, you know, subhanAllah I prayed for him in the midst of today. And later on that day, I turned on music in my car and then I turned it off. I was like I pray fidget in the midst, I can be listening to music, and then use that I was talking to another guy, and you know another kid, and I started cursing. And then I stopped cursing because I was like I pray for you in the midst of that can be cursing.

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Like this fidget Salah that he prayed, he was so thankful to Allah subhanaw taala that it affected his behavior for the rest of the day. And then if I do the same for load, and then if I do the same for Oslo, and then I do the same for motive I do the same for insha Allah Subhana Allah says in masala tinha and in fascia it will Mancha. Allah says this Salam protects from lewdness and indecency. It protects you, but it only protects you if a person prays it perfecting its innermost meanings, your understanding your comprehending the meanings as well as its outer elements. And that's why one of the NSMB Maliki says that one of the kids from the unsought or one of the young

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men from the onslaught he used to pray to Me live

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and he would pray to Yama live, and then in the morning, he would go and he would steal. So they came total Salah la sala de Salam, and they complained, they said this man, he prays to Malaya and then in the morning time he goes any seals in the province that Elijah said and I've said this, he will be protected. He will be protected from what you are saying because of his salah. He will be protected from his by his Salah from what you are saying.

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And eventually this man repented. So the province cellulitis and untold NSMB mnemonic he said Didn't I tell you that he would be protected because of what he was doing? And so perfecting the prayers, no matter what a person does, my prayers are going to be prayed on time. Okay. And then he says, they've been told me he says number nine. He says, Well, yeah, Quinn who Jayla? Well yeah, can who je la la hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah let their constant refuge let their constant refuge be La hawla wala Quwata illa Billahi for inner who will be hard to model as Carlu what to capital our to Kaaba doula Hua Liu Wei Anello Prophet Allah hawan so he says let them constantly

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De La hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah because it is with this phrase that burdens are lifted and terrors are met la hola what is La hawla wala Quwata illa Billahi Min. La Howell there's no source of transformation

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or VEDA by the way, let me know if we need to wrap up La hawla wala Quwata and there is no source of power except for Allah subhanaw taala he says, let you constantly say this constantly make this thicker, because you are saying I can't transform. I can't become better. I can't do anything. I can't conquer anything. I can't change anything. Hola, Hone wala Quwata illa Villa I have no powers of Allah. I'm not depending on my power. I'm not depending on my books. I'm not depending on my intelligence. I'm not depending on these YouTube videos. I'm not depending on anything except for Allah subhanaw taala

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That's why even in the Quran, what do you say when the evidence says hey Allah salah, say hola, hola. Hola. Que la la. I can't come to the prayer.

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I didn't come here because of my power. You didn't come here because of your power. You say Hola Hola. Hola, como se LaBella hire other fella Come to success law how load up with a label I can't come to success.

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I can't come to success with phala does not give me the power and the ability. Allah is the One who transforms my condition. And so even to me SSB had to con It is with this phrase that you are now sourcing your power not from yourself. But from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. You are now sourcing your transformation from ALLAH SubhanA data. Even Damien mentions in another place, that how many turned out that the angels that carried the throne, were commanded to carry the Throne of Allah subhanaw taala and they weren't able to do it. So they were inspired to c'est la hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah and when they made that ticket, they carried the Throne of Allah subhanaw taala. So if you're

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ever carrying something heavy, you're trying to do your your

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deadlifts, your squats, you're trying to maximize your your lifts. Right? Try law how low La Quwata illa biLlah. And that's serious. We have one. That's a different tangent, but

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have you guys heard of bar stars? Did you were you talking to me about bar stars?

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The guys who have videos in the park where they're doing these crazy pull ups and stuff like that. So one of them he's a Muslim. He's the founder. His name is giant. His name is Hassan, but they call him giant and he looks like a giant Mashallah. So he came to the message one time and he went to the park and he took the kids with us. And he was showing them all of these crazy pull ups that he does and stuff like that. And he told them he's like, You know what my secret is?

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And he said, My secret is that I make a thicket of Allah subhanaw taala while I'm doing it, and so I'm saying Subhan Allah and Allahu Akbar, Allah, Allah, Allah, and it gives me strength. And the Allah mentioned that they mentioned under the Corolla, Yoko will burden that the this the vicar of Allah strengthens your body, where do they get that from?

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One tangent after tangent, but when a faulty model, the aligner asked also Lasala lightest and them for a servant and he refused. And he came into the house with it and Fathima and he told them he said, Shall I not tell you about what is better for you than a servant that every night before you go to sleep that you say subhanallah 33 times and 133 times and Allahu Akbar 33 or 34 times the narrations differ, he said that is better for you than a servant. And so they understood that the prophets Allah Elijah cinemas saying if you make these a thought, you're not going to need to serve it. You'll have the energy and you'll have the strength in any case.

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He then says

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Well, you had a slide that you might have for like we said that number 10. We're gonna hook Jayla who said that and then number 11. He says what is a minute dua it will pull up for in the lab. Use the jab Hula, hula, Madam, your agile for your call cut the out, fella, use the Jubilee. So he says and let them never give up.

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This is number 10. I think so he says let them never give up. Because one of a person's eyes will be answered as long as they do not become hasty and say I made to Allah and it was not responded to.

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You know, a lot of times people will ask me the question and they'll say, I've been asking to get married for so long. Or you'll have a couple that are married. And they will say I've been we've been asking Allah for a child for so long. When should I stop?

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When should I stop?

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And the answer is

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as long as you still want it, you should make doc for it.

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As long as your heart is still in pain and your eyes still flood and your tongue still stutters as long as you still want this thing make dua for it.

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Zachary Allah Instagram says about the new and upcoming nishtar Law ROTC Shaban when I'm a computer echo Bishop Korea. So Korea saying My hair is

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My wife and my wife is barren and my bones are frail ie every reason why I shouldn't be able to have a child is now present and accounted for. For her bulimia. Don't go anywhere, give me a child.

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As long as you still want it, a person it will be responded to them as long as they do not say thou to Allah fella yesterday, Billy, he did not respond to me.

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And then he says

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Well, yeah, I'm a non Muslim sub. One will follow Jamal Karp who anomalous your Salah while I'm here yet an AHA don't say admin jessieville Higher. Nebby Yun Femen Duna iLab is Sabri. What? hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen. The last thing that Scheffel Islam mentions

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is more patients, more patients.

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He says and recognize that no one has ever acquired anything of any goodness,

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a profit or anyone less than them except with sub.

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Sub is generally translated as patients, but suburb is more than patients. A suburb is perseverance. suburb, is endurance. suburb is resilience. The reason why patience is too small for suburbs is because patience is is reactive. But resilience is active. Perseverance is active, endurance is active. And surely Sam says something amazing. He says nobody has ever acquired anything good. Nobody, except through software, except through software. You know, there's a

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there's a in the US, we have this

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author who focuses on children.

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His name is

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SubhanAllah. I know his name very well. But you know, sometimes when the lights are in your face, and you have beautiful faces in front of you, you don't?

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What's his name?

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Leonard Sachs, s a XXK. He's got a lot of books on child development. And we had him do a lecture for our community.

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He's not Muslim, but he talks about child development. And he says, based on his research and the research that he has the number one factor that defines whether a child will be successful in this life when you follow them 25 and 35 and 45. All of these decades of research that they put in the number one factor is their willpower that they defined at the age of 12 or 13 years old is their willpower. Do they have the ability to delay the desire for instant gratification so that they could succeed at a particular task, the ability to not choose a doughnut and to choose that which is healthy, that ability to not immediately go and play a video game so that you can actually do your

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lessons that ability to go and exercise whatever it is, right the ability to pull off what is immediately desirable for something that is of greater benefit later on. That ability, he says is the number one factor. And there is a psychologist named Angela Duckworth and this lady.

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And I'm wrapping up here because this is the 12th point. This lady she

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studied, not just children, but she studied adults. And she is from the University of Pennsylvania, which is one of our best colleges in the United States. And she's a professor of psychology and she studied military academies. And she studied entrepreneurs and business owners and companies and she studied high school students. And she was trying to see what is the number one factor that makes people successful? And she wrote an entire book on this subject. And she titled The book what she found. And that answer is grit. What is grit? Grit is another word for sub grid is when you grit your teeth. I don't know if you guys say grit here. Do you guys say grit got a lot of grit? Meaning

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that you have the ability to endure something that is currently unpleasant. I don't feel like studying, but you study anyway. I don't feel like doing health but you do have anyway. I don't feel like exercising but you exercise anyway. I don't feel like and we see everybody doing this right? Everybody who's successful you watch their interviews and stuff like that and they'll talk about I didn't feel like doing it but I did it every day, right discipline these types of things. She said this is the number one, the number one factor that determined people's success. So

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sheltered Islam even Taymiyah says 1000 years ago that no prophet has ever acquired or anybody less than a prophet has ever acquired anything good except through Sabah, you're like man, that's incredible. And there's a beautiful Hadith that I end with.

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There's a beautiful Hadith that I end with which is reported by Muslim and I love this hadith very much, because the Prophet sallallaahu Salam summarizes this guy's

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everything that surely Islam just said, we said 12 steps, right? When you look through it, it's 12 Every single one of them can go back to two things.

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Every single one of them can go back to two things. Are you guys with me? What are those two things, those two things are turning to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. And number two is sobre. That's the entire thing. turning to Allah, when he says a DA that's turning to Allah, when he says a Salah that's turning to Allah, when he says, having a wit that's turning to Allah, when he says sobre that Southern when he says,

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avoiding I just that sub everything, all 12 Of those, they go back to these two things. And that's why you find it paired so much in the Quran. Allah says what's the you know?

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Allah, isn't it amazing when it all comes together? Allah says was to you know, be somebody or Salah and Allah says, Yeah, you will lead the anomalous there will be somebody was salah, and Allah says yeah, you had lady and Spiro was Saburo rabito what tackle Allah those two come together sub n turning to Allah slobber and turning to Allah sub and turning to Allah these two things together are the keys to success. And the province of the light is no combines them in that hadith and Muslim that I love very much that I'm about to share with you the hadith of Ebola. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam gives us three keys to success. He says how decide, am I in Pharaoh?

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What's the end biller?

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Well adages he says number one, focus on what benefits you what is your goal, whatever your goal is, focus on what benefits you and then number two, seek the help of Allah that's turning to Allah right. And then he says and don't give up. What is that?

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That's supper. It's endurance. Okay. And with that in sha Allah Tala, we ask Allah Subhana Allah Allah to protect us, and to make us of those who conquer our sins and overcome our challenges and are those inshallah to Allah were felicitous on the day of judgmental cellulitis and I'm hamadryas Libeskind.