A Ramadan of change #24 – It’s special when your spouse praises you

Ali Hammuda

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Oh Rama

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Rama

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Murthy merci. Welcome Rama,

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Rama.

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Dear brothers and sisters I've been contemplating the sheer amount of praise that our mother Isha heaped on her husband, the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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with respect to his conduct. His man is his worship of Allah subhanaw taala and particularly in the month of Ramadan.

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She would see for example, take note of this. Kana Yeah, take you for an extra hour here I'm in Ramadan, Hatha Hula, hula. As she said, I saw that he would seclude himself in the mosque for worship. In the last 10 nights of Ramadan doing this year in year out till the day he died.

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Think about the second narration and tell me what you read between the lines. She would say about him kinda either darker than our shadow. Here, Leila was a coda who was there was shut down, or whenever the last 10 nights of Ramadan would arrive each year, he would wake up his family to pray. He would exert himself, and he prepared for hard work Subhanallah he and I think, a third narration and tell me what do you read between the lines? She would say about him. Can I use only urban fella. Unfortunately, he never told me he thought more usefully or Bantha lettuce and asked me not only him, he would pray for units of Salah at night. But don't ask about how long and beautiful they

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were. Then he would pray another four units at night. But don't ask about how long and beautiful they were Allahu Akbar.

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See with these narrations that you just heard, I don't want to necessarily focus on the rulings that are contained within them. As much as I want to draw your attention to something altogether different.

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There is something that can be sensed in these words of Aisha Radi Allahu anhu, she is praising the prophets and her husband, there is a clear tone of admiration and all that she has for her husband, because of what she has seen and witnessed in him. The question here therefore is Can your spouse see the same thing about you see, the praise that a person receives by his colleagues at work, or his friends or his students? It's not that special because it's quite easy to put up a front that everyone loves. May Allah forgive us, we all do it.

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It's at home. However, when masks fall off, and you are seeing for the person who you truly are.

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And perhaps this is one of the secrets, why the people of gender,

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they will say, when entering paradise speaking with one another enlisting the qualities that Allah allowed them to enter Janet who better to hear it from the people of gender themselves. They say here is one of the qualities

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in Qunar cabelo fi Lena Mushfiq key they said before in dunya, we used to be people who are afraid of Allah amidst our families. Underline that word. They didn't say we used to fear Allah subhanaw taala amongst our friends, or amongst our community, or amongst our brothers and sisters in the masjid. No, they say our fear of Allah back in this world when we were in dunya was amidst our families. An indication therefore, of just how sincere and genuine these people were. Because a person may be cautious of Allah Almighty in private, in his family amidst his family, a person who was like that will most certainly be the same way in public. But the opposite is not always the case

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as look at how precise therefore their words were amongst our family.

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In the initial phase of marriage, we all try to hide certain negative traits about ourselves be stinginess be a short temper, be laziness, as well as pretending to be things that we're not, we may put it off for a week for a month, maybe even a year if you're a really good actor. But whether you like it or not, the facade has to eventually deteriorate, uncovering the person who you truly are. And if despite this, your spouse is still able to say about you, he she is unbelievably dedicated to Allah or I have never seen a person like him like her who distanced themselves from sin like him like her or the example that he or she is setting is putting me to shame

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or I have become such a better Muslim since marrying her since marrying him. If your spouse is able to say that about you, then you are a truly special person. Just like the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did at home

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To be an example, raise the bar and let your presence always be that reminder of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the home of the Hereafter, both during Ramadan and more importantly beyond Ramadan is wa

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O Rama.

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Rama

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muffin merci welcome Rama

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Rama