Faaik Gamieldien – 125 – Amazing independence of the female companions

Faaik Gamieldien
AI: Summary © The conversation covers the history of the legal system and the importance of women in their boundaries and achieving peace. The speakers discuss the use of words like love and love for men, the importance of women in establishing boundaries, and the need for women to be present in public. They also touch on the visa system in modern Eastern European countries, including the ban of women from going outside the wedding, and the importance of taking their emotions and thoughts into their actions.
AI: Transcript ©
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hamdulillah Hungary Lana from Idaho and a star in the movie LA, when I will be learning into the unforeseen.

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Melina Maya de la ilaha illa Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah Allah Allah. Allah, Allah. Allah shadow. Mohammed Abu Bara sudo for our therapy was Allahu alayhi wa early he was heavy woman da da da what he Elijah within a bad blood brothers and sisters in Islam. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Last minute Allah talks and speaks to us in the Holy Quran, Allah says, Allah Han Mitra, la de la hin build models. Very short first.

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Those of you in Wednesday night would know what my topic is for today. And I'm doing what my friends were abandoned me on Wednesday night, like I abandoned you the previous Wednesday night

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that I repeated for the sake.

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Today inshallah, we're going to speak about my favorite subject, which is women, of course.

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And we are going to look at the subject of women, not we were going to talk about the rights and obligations, but we are going to talk about

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the way that women behaved in the time of an IV. So a lot of the social behavior and the social interaction that women had in the time of the Nabi sallallahu Sallam because we have an impression of what happened that time. My impression was that they wore black cloaks, and they never came out of their homes. And they never participated in social life and so forth and so on. They were, they were they were cloistered and this was what Sharia says and what we should be doing. So we will be looking in Sharla, at a little bit of that. I'm sure this topic is, is a topical for all of us, because most of us have wives and children.

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And it's important to know and also I do this because it's a woman's month, I think it's over now is it that I'm always a bit late, you know, you get older you get a bit delayed. So I apologize for that. But the verse is a significant while I wouldn't miss Lula da Allah in a bill mouth. Allah describes the balance of power between men and women. And Allah says, while our hoonah and they the women Mithra lady, Allah hinda

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the rights and obligations that women have are not equals is ultimate. Allah says Mr. Dunleavy missile, Allah, you sued missile, like similar to the rights that women have a similar to the rights of men.

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And then Allah adds another word to that Allah qualifies that Allah says, so you and women have similar rights. But Bill Maher has, but in equity, what does that mean? Meaning the rights and obligations are not equal, the equitable Subhan Allah, Allah subhanaw taala. In his divine wisdom, obviously created as in he knows our requirements, if it was equal, if the rights and obligations were equal, then we then women would also have the right or they have the obligation to support us, then we could sit it down, like many of us do in any case, and we send our wives out to God workforce. But of course, that is a debt against us. So there are many rights and obligations, for

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example, if it was that we were the same obligations that we also had to breastfeed our children, which is ridiculous. So that's the kind of ridiculousness that the West leads us to write makes men out of women and women are the men up to now where they've actually made men and women and women out of men saying that that's the kind of equality that the West demands from us.

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Based on that, of course,

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the feminists and those of you have been listening up to now for the last three minutes. Will May I ask the question and say that, yes, it's all very well for you to say that men and women have equitable rights and rights are similar, but they are they are, they are quite obvious things that are not equal.

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Not even equitable. For example, in inheritance in inheritance, it is accepted by Muslims, that men get a double share and a woman get a single share. But let me remind you that that is not the rule. That is the exception.

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There is not the rule that is except I'll give you two examples.

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If somebody dies and leaves parents, mother and father,

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the mother gets one six, and the father gets exactly the same one six, despite the fact that one is a male, the other one's a female. Similarly, if there is a woman who was married to a man

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and I chose

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From that men, girls and boys.

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And later on, either by the death of her husband, or that she she was divorced from her husband, she marries another husband.

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And she has children by that husband.

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So now she has she has she's the mother of two sets of children is that she's the mother of two sets of children. So one of the children dies,

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either from the first husband, or from the siletz, assume that one of the children of the second husband dies,

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then the children of the first husband,

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even if they both boys and girls will get equal shares.

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So the rule in Islam is that men and women, even in inheritance are the examples as well. For that you have to take classes. The exception is if somebody dies, and leaves for example, if I die, and I leave girls and boys, then because the boys have a responsibility

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to maintain and look after their brothers and sisters, therefore the boys get a double share. So yes, the logic. And the rationale is that if you have an added responsibility, then you get added value.

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Same in your job, you see you Oh, and the sweeper, they don't earn the same money, although the sweeper may work harder physically, but because of the level of responsibility in equity, allows handler has given the madman more in doses. So remember, if somebody says yes, your religion, you know, don't recognize women give no you say that is not the rule. There are quite a few cases, number of cases where equality is in fact, the rule.

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So allow us honor that says that the obligations of men and women are similar in equity.

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I want to give an example also a very simple example but an example that illustrates how the Sahaba saw this verse.

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Because there's a harbor the lives are based on the Koran. And the allies are based on the son of the Navy, Salah Lawson. Abdullah Abbas was a cousin of the Navy's asylum you name well. He was also the son and he was

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the he was the son of our birth was he the son of arbitrarily Abu Talib and Abdullah, the prophets father was his brother. So they were first cousins. And they there was a lot of love between the prophet and him. And he, he tried to implement the lifestyle of the Prophet. So after the Prophet deck, many people came to him to ask him questions. People came from far and wide from Damascus, from Iraq, from Yama. And people came from all over the Muslim world, particularly to come to Medina to ask him questions about things that they wanted to ask. So this man came from Yemen,

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from Santa and he came particularly to ask

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us some questions. So when he came to Medina, he, he made inquiries as to where he could find Abdullah, you know, he also the address basically.

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So they gave me this

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event. And when it came to Abdullah Abdullah Nablus, his house, he was the saw that Abdullah nabob was sitting there on his two boys yard wave, he was outside in the sun in front of the mirror, and sitting there and relaxed and beautifying himself.

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Maybe I think, was putting some oil on his hair, maybe trim his beard or whatever he was doing to make himself look pretty. And this man was absolutely shocked. This man was shocked. He said, hon, I traveled for 1000s of kilometres from Santa, I come to here to the Sahaba And is he spending his time doing what make himself look pretty tame or sharp? nonetheless, of course. So he was shocked. He said, he said, Yeah, Abdullah Well, what is what is this I mean, you know, you should be you should be involved with liquor you should be involved in in doubt you should be involved in teaching you know, you're sitting in front of the mirror and making yourself credit for what why am I doing

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But he also knew this man knew that this habit would not do anything unless it was either done by the prophets of Salaam wa Saldana commanded in Nevada, so we also have the lightsaber.

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Why Why are you doing this? Abdullah smiled. And he says, Allah Subhana Allah says no the Koran, wala Hoon Mifflin la de la hinda Bill Maher.

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I've already explained to you what the verse means. It means that Allah says and when men and women have similar obligations.

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So the mention what is that got to do with your pretty face and your nice beard? What is it was got to do with

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What you doing? He says, You see, when Allah, Allah says that men and women have similar obligations. The obligation on your wife is that when you look at this, you must look for it, isn't it? Someone says that a woman job is when the husband looks at him as

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she was looking at him. When he comes near to her, she must smell nice.

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And he says,

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Therefore, similarly, the man has the same obligation, similar obligation, when his wife looks at The Mamas and look like somebody who just come from like a mechanic, you know, many women, America mechanics, the how many women are married to people who work on the building? And they look like that seven days a week. And that's not fair. No, is it equitable?

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So he says, so the manufacturing sector, with entities, whatever, whatever is upon the one is, it's a simple example. But nevertheless,

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it's a practical example, an example of something that actually transpired and happen.

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So this is how the Sahaba understood.

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Not only the sense of salah and Zakah and Hajj, they understood the obligations also in terms of mundane things. Like looking good

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for your for your wife, the wife looking good for husband, this, they understood it. And that's why they were very happy people. Despite the fact you have to fight for Alzheimer's Deena very happy people. They always talk about love problems always talk about love these two being each other and say you know I love you

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and, and children and so on today. We don't use the word love enough as I said on Wednesday night, you know if you ask a man Mashallah, you know, you look very happy, you know, he says, ya know, Chicago with a very good wife, I got a very good wife much Allah gave me a very good husband. So the wife would come and say, you know, Mashallah, you look at in your since you say Yahshua, you know, Allah subhanaw taala given me a very good aspirin or hamdulillah are good, a very good aspirin.

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Very seldom a year, the wife say, I love my husband,

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or the husband say, I love my wife. We are afraid because, you see, the word love has been hijacked over centuries. You know, the West has I jacked this word, the gaze of objectivity. The the straight people have hijacked teeth and so many people so So, but the property is that Southern kinds of property to this harbor and our handbook. He said to me, why the mini Java he said, he took his hand now imagine somebody comes in take your answer.

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Please don't you know don't let people see that you hold my hand, took his hand looked at him and said

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you know, I love you know like today we always have an airhead book a filler. Why? Why you have to say I love you for the sake of Allah you love him finishing End of story. You don't tell your wife I love you for the sake of Allah.

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Your data you don't tell your daughter you I love you for the sake of Allah. So, why do you have to add these little things you love the person finish you love him as a brother as a Muslim as a friend.

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That was you see what kind of relationship the Sahaba had with each other and the kind of example will not be so Sallam said for us and we will get to some more examples inshallah.

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So, the role of women

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has been established in the Quran as a row which is equitable, and a row which is seven.

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And so when we go to the Quran, and we read the Quran, and we read that allows 400 it says,

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in the jar alone, fill out the halifa. Allah says, I will put on the air they say to the angels, I will put on the earth my representative, my halifa.

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No one will carry out my laws and the regulations The one who will establish justice on the earth, the one that will revolt against injustice.

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He can only mean

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when is a caliphate in effect, what alpha is feminine.

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Those even a little Arabic Halle Fatone as a term are both at the end every word or term or both or is feminine. But that's merely grab grammar. But halifa allows all this halifa so halifa includes both both Howard and Adam.

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have thrown we will not be here today. If it wasn't for However,

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even if Adam lived a million years and he didn't ever how the world would have come to an end when he died. So also the Quran mentions a number of women.

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Maryam is mentioned in the Quran.

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If he wasn't allowed to Allah, why would Allah mention the frog, the wife of the route as he has mentioned in the Quran

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and many

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Other women as wives will wrestle the wives of the Prophet or not mentioned my name but they refer to in the Quran only as logic Allah says Omaha might say to your wives.

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women have this position, social position.

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And in the time of the Navy system they used to exercise the right which the head

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even if they were married to the greatest Sahaba, and we come to the wife of Walmart with

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some examples I want to give you even imagine, even imagine, as you know, as one of the people who compiled one of the six authentic compilations like Bukhari and Muslim have their Hadith of the Navy. So Salah imager narrates the following. He says, A girl came Acharya Giardia means a girl, maybe 16, maybe 15, that age jharia. She came to the Navy, Solomon, she said,

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Yasser Allah, my father married me to his nephew.

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And without asking my permission, and I'm not really happy with

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the match that he made.

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What do you think?

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The Navy said?

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Did he say why? No.

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They say, What's your reason? No.

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What did he say?

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He said,

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What do you want?

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Do you want to allow the marriage? What do you want?

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I knew and every one of us would have said, McConnell Commission on to freedom.

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Don't you know about the blessings of your mother and father?

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And then shake something. Now this was a jharia this was a young girl 1516.

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So what did she say to the Navy? salsola? She said Yes, hello.

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I'm going to endorse with my father date.

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Probably and say to your father's a good man trolleybus happiness, a hobby, leveraging the time the process of Salah for property, you know, if your father's as hobby, you know, etc, etc. and good men know, she said, Yasser Allah, I'm going to endorse what my father did.

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And I'm going to do it.

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In order to teach women who's going to come after me that they have the choice

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to choose their marriage partner

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One can almost sense

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the kind of status that women had,

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and the kind of concern that they had for the establishment of their rights within society.

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We know there are many other examples.

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And justice women had the right and exercise the right to say no, if partners were proposed to them.

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Similarly, that the right is similar, right? Like men have to also

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in simple language get out of a marriage.

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And there's a very famous Hadith,

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a very famous incident of a woman by the name of faulty web interface.

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She wasn't the case, this would have

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been the place not to have been the case, from the case. So she came to the Navy Solomon said Dr. Salalah.

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I want to listen carefully as I sit down and listen to I've read this hadith hundreds of times before.

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But when I made the preparation for this lecture, something struck me about this Hadith, which is not a normal case, normal. And it's because I deal with like everybody, Mr. machete deals with problems between husband and wife and so forth and so on. So we have a certain methodology that we've learned that I've learned at university, I've learned it in practice, and that is that one always goes for what what is called sola or reconciliation,

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isn't it?

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So far, it may have been the case came to the Navy such as Yasser Allah, I want to divorce my husband.

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Now, if anybody came to you and say to you, I want to divorce my husband. What is the first question you would ask?

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And what to go through your mind as you're asked that question. I must start to bring this I'm a sensei. This marriage isn't it

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progresses Alan said to her

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Why prophet allowed it to go on to say Monty Sandhya? surah Allah? He's a very good man.

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What would you have asked him? So what's your problem? What's your problem lady?

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He's as a hobby. He plays in the magic $5 a day. Excuse me? Do you know what's out there waiting for you? So behind the life you got children who's gonna look after your children?

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These are normal questions that any normal human being would ask profitable awesome.

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One of the things that the strange

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wasn't necessarily interested in reconciling people who came to him with divorce, he just went for it.

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She said they are allowed to divorce my husband is a very good man. But I want to divorce

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so now I would expect the reconsideration to kicking prophecy to what did he give us a dowry? She said he gave me a beautiful garden as adult. Now gardens at that time in Medina, Muslim in quite expensive stuff was the mean like gold because I mean, it's in the middle of the desert and 70.

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So the prophecy that I'm willing to give the garden back, she said, Yes. buffet called her husband said yes, your wife, she wants to divorce you. She's prepared to give you the garden back divorce or give her a talam.

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You know, I used to read, isn't it? It's an example of what he called hula.

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The lecturer would say this is an example of hula hula means that the wife gives back a dowry and then she

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husband gives her a divorce and let's face it.

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But if you really look at this example, what do you see? You see the visa salon just agreeing with this woman?

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That's it.

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And it probably happened in half an hour.

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Came Please give the garden back. husband came, came with a lock.

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Why? Because that's a question. Why did the Navy so seldom do this? Why is the Navy so awesome? Why don't we just try for one for one second of a two seconds to try and intervene as a prophet as a husband as a as the leader of the community as a chef as a mole and as the mummy fulfill all those roles?

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Because he knew the person

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and what is the basis of marriage in the

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the basis of marriage in the Quran is Allah subhana wa says

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wa Jalla been oma

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you know, yet every time you attend Anika rajala, Noma, our data

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Allah placed the first thing that is required in a marriage between a husband between a man and a woman is no wonder

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what is

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my what is not just love.

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Because I love my daughter, I love my grandchildren. I love my brothers. I love you.

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That is hope, General love. But Nevada is a special kind of passionate love.

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comes from the wouldwould It's a passionate love which you only find between husband and wife.

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So when she said to the Navy, so Allah Allah, he was alum.

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He's a good man.

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What was she saying? She was saying, there's nothing wrong with him. The only thing missing is I love loving.

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Because even though it's a good man is a good man. One assumes that good men and women when they get married, they automatically love each other.

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So the Navy recognized that the very essence of the relationship is absent, there's no marriage.

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So no matter what he was going to say

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wasn't going to help.

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Also she has the right as Allah says, Allah would not miss Lu la de la hiner

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belmount Allah says, men and women have similar rights.

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The same right to the husband has, if there is no more love in the marriage, to end the marriage, the same woman as if there's no love in the marriage, every other problem can be resolved. But that problem cannot be resolved.

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So the women

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of Medina knew the law they knew their rights

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and even after

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likenesses of a lot a lot. A lot of you know Abdullah was a bit was

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he was the seventh person who accepted Islam at the age of 15. So he was great. He participated in many of the of the Battle of mother Battle of offered Battle of hunt. He participated in all the battles even after the death of the Navy salatu salam and then it'd be excited about tala ignore Vega la always mentioned the two of them together towel hands of a towel Hinesville. What about our hands of a third hands Vietnamese, as Adam said,

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will be in Jana with me.

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If somebody if a man like that came to you to ask for your daughter's any medical to say even he was pitch black like TAF.

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And assured as a pygmy,

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you'd force your daughter, isn't it? So Pamela, and men, the only 10 people that's the Navy so solemn, referred to as people of gender while they were alive on the dunya.

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And of the team, one of them was were in Abdullah, are they allowed Allah Subhana? Allah, great men of the gentleman.

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His wife divorced.

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Here's why I'm divorced.

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Why, saying the only divorce if one thing is missing? There is no love in the marriage. Maybe it wasn't Yeah, too much.

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I know you ask people to counsel people in marriage. One of the things that breaker marriages admin say

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Is he

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is a good man. But he's never had hope. He works and works seven days a week, 24 hours a day, in the evening, even a breakfast in the morning. One of the one of the so maybe that will but can you see how women exercise their rights and the promises of decency to you, you devotion to Bane.

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You're not a good woman.

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So the women knew their rights, and they knew they could exercise their rights, no matter who the person was. So whether you were a shift survivor mode, and as was gone so well, you know, imagine the shift, you can't divorce it.

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So the women knew their rights, exercised their rights

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and established the rights.

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Now, you know, we always have this

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push and pull

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amongst men and women today in our society, what is the push and pull? When it comes to problems? The nozman with cha cha cha.

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When is fine, no Sharia?

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Or the problem the wife or child Sharia? Suddenly they would take another cup of dusted off and present it and say, you know, but doesn't the Sharia say this? Doesn't the Sharia say that chef.

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So we always torn between

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particularly the male

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men have this desire to control isn't it?

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Men have the desire to control

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and the person they always love to control is the wife.

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the Sahaba also had the desires.

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They also wanted the wife to do some things.

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But they always respected the Sharia.

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And I'll give you an example.

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A very nice example. A good example

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because you know men are like this.

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You can't leave the house.

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You can't when you until I tell you what asked me if you want to go

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you're not going to jump out. No, no, you can't go to jamaa don't make the food.

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After a crusade you can go to Juma cetera, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

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They strange men in energy, they're gonna look at you

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So let's see. Even Yama was the son of who

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was the son of

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was on a Walmart

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atop at the time of this generation was the highly fertile meaning.

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He was the president of the Muslims at the time.

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Since the big men

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head wife enemas article

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in a few wives

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famous article even your armor was from another wife not from article

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had a good habit of making salado Jama Ayesha and feathered in the masjid. And every, every evening when she goes to go during the day or so, but every child should go to the masjid makes a little selection in the time has gone on.

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And in fact it in the morning choose to go Of course I'm ready to go and choose to go to the magic for Pfizer in the morning. But Obama didn't like this. Ahmad disliked his wife to go to the masjid particular time.

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He didn't like it as a man. Maybe emotionally talking. I don't want my wife to be outside you know, and maybe the men will look at maybe maybe maybe maybe you know lots of things go through men's minds you know.

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But our ability has never stopped.

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She used to go to Serato Jana you attend this a Genesis, you go to the masjid and pray janaza behind the men

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is to go for Hajj.

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It's an honor didn't go but you would go with a Muharram

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so I'd be like nama astir

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Why do you do this? You know, your husband doesn't like it. After all. This

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is a meal.

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You're doing something which he dislikes.

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And we know that women have rights. Yes.

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Women have the right to attend the masjid. Yes, for every Salah. Yes.

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But if the husband has a problem

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with the wife going to the masjid

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then one may say

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but the Prophet said that the best place to pray

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for a woman is at home.

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Omar could have invoked at hand he could have said to his wife but Prophet said in his beta feed for Adam.

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So even the armor asks, he says to so why do you do this?

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She's because

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she said Do you know why your father doesn't prevent me from going because of the Hadith of the enemy Salah.

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Because then evisa Sallam said last time no nissa comb and massage.

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What do you say?

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She says because the NaVi sasaram said do not prevent your women from going to the masjid.

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But the hugs are better for them.

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She said this is a choice. This choice Mohammed Salim gave to the women. You can either pray at home or you can go to the masjid

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upon Allah.

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So she went to the masjid though her husband disliked it, and Ahmed disliked it but amanu the Hadith and this Rama never softer.

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even harder I'll ask Kalani the great Hadith scholar writing about this

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hadith he says that the morning that Omar was stabbed in the masjid article was there

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in trying to make a point to saying that right up to the time that Omar

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was dying or rather like after the last tragedy that he attended he had attended with him in domestic

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karate a lot a lot

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so this was the social circumstances

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that pertain in the time with enemy salah

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and how it was understood.

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Today we read Buhari isn't it all of us read

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but I'm sure they may have had either you come across this doesn't really you know, I'm a lot more I have to go further Salama, this cup this I'm not going to tell you this.

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I'm not gonna tell my children this.

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No, tell my kids that you know.

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Like everybody says, You don't have the blessing of your parents, your marriage will collapse. There's no sense from which Hadith is that which are under their control. The right of a woman to choose to be happy with the man she marries isn't right. Unless of course it's a Hindu or, or a Christian man or even somebody who was out of the fold of Islam.

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But it doesn't mean that if she chooses her husband

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which you may be some some of the satisfied that she's will not get the bar can bless you.

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She does what is what is required to have her as a Muslim woman, meaning that you entered into a halau marriage

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then yes, you may dislike it, like Omar disliked his wife going to the magic for Pfizer and vice versa.

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But you may not prevent it

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because the nervous system would not prevent it.

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And I know all the emotion that goes around that I see you looking at me.

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But our feelings and emotions and likes and dislikes must be tempered by our understanding of the Quran and Sunnah.

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And if we do that, the Baraka will come in our lives and in the lives of our children. So if you if your daughter comes to you and says to to marry this man,

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and you ever shot a reason for saying no.

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Then the Baraka will come, but if it just because you know, he's not a doctor,

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he's not a lawyer.

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He just passed matric, my child how is he gonna support you?

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When you have no case, unfortunately, or he's Indian numarray or your claim is Indian, or Somalia and new capetonian.

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We come from a different village in India or Pakistan or Indonesia or Malawi, the villages people come from

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or is it Silvia noona Salafi that can take care

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so again,

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the question the point that we make is that our likes and dislikes is be tempered by our understanding of the Quran and we must have a correct understanding of that and was understand how it happened the time of the enemies awesome. And I dealt with women who needs time.

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So this is how we we need to understand our Deen and then the standard of how we fit into society as has been in women.

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I shall read the letter and says that the Navy seldom used to perform an article in the masjid spend the last 10 days in the masjid

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from the time that it was revealed until the time that he died

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and after he died with the rise of the Navy so Allah Allah made Attica in the masjid

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I should since

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after the Prophet last away who my dad took off in the masjid with his wives all these words.

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Can you imagine your wife coming to the magic last invisible down with a sleeping bag

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because they want to the prophet SAW a lot but yet they might still be able women. They'd never never had husband at the time. Because the the logistics was was advantageous for them. Because if you draw a line around the General

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urato genda because that was that was the magic. The original magic of the nebuzaradan was just a Rhoda.

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And he's home was when he's married. But on the other three sides 1234 sides. But there are other three sides not the people outside. All his wives lives right around the masjid. Sophia was the

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oma Salma Xia Ayesha was the, against the walls of the masjid small little houses, lights on the mosquitoes easy for them to go to the masjid and make it compensating them he didn't do what they had to do. But the point to make is that I show

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that Attica as an AI bada is also for women and for men we can't have the logistics here. We don't have that kind of facility. But if we had to have a facility like that we would have had to not allow them not for us to allow anything is the Sharia that gives them the right to practice that I bought of the Navy SEAL allows otherwise it to be discriminated they'd be allowed to do everything why not Attica Why not? budget in the magic why not I shine the magic why not do

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any other work for that matter? Why why why call the Notre Dame salado janazah

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find out

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when the Navy's asylum died was the janaza Salah restricted to women in emerging Navy No. It's clear you read any history book on the

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Death of the Navy sauce allow me to tell you that waves of women and waves of men and children everybody Medina came to pray Serato janazah of the Nabi sallallahu. Alayhi Salat in the masjid. And, of course it was segregation. There was separation. The women who was paraded back from the main pregnant front, but that was the status of women in the title of the Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wasallam.

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There is a narration

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of course, we know that women attained a lot of social functions, we know that they, you know, that they were, maybe Salam said for any age or a title fit. The Salah was made outside of Medina, not outside of Atlanta, but outside of that, just outside the city limits. And he particularly stressed that all the people must come to eight Salah

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the children, women, the men, even if the women were menstruating, they could also attend the, what we call to the the guy who didn't make Salah, but they were all there, they were present. Everybody came.

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So attending a Social Fund, such as the insula is part of the Dean of our laws.

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But on one occasion, on a thing, well, that's, you know, an exception to the rule. But one day there was a wedding in Medina, where they were weddings in Medina, by the way. And they were well he was as we know it, they will leave us people, property, slaughter sheep and invite people in service. So this was part of so women used to go with their children, of course, separately, but nobody was sitting outside his house. And there was a party of women that came from a walima from a wedding.

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Women with their children, little girls running with addresses and running around and the mothers with them. And so they came and then Abby was sitting and watching them come up the road.

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and of course women are saying, you know, these memories are upsetting and the children will excited this and Avi, you know, so

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there was a radical visa visa didn't pick him up and put him on his lap.

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He got up he stood up.

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What did he say? He looked at the women and the children he said

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he said I love you.

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These are strange women

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who said I love you women have the answer.

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So hon Allah, he said, he looked at them with a probably a big smile and says, I love you.

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Because if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't be sitting here.

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If it wasn't for your Islam, Islam would have died in Makkah.

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So hello.

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But the prophet wasn't afraid to say that with a clean heart obviously.

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Imagine how that must have lifted the spirits of the winner of I'm sorry

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that the greatest man who ever left says he loves them.

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And that is why the Navy says Allah when he was asked to describe the relationship between Muslim men and women. What did he say? He said

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women are the Sisters of men.

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That's how we describe our women are the Sisters of men. Because all the other etiquette goes with it, you lower your gaze

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and so forth and so on.

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And I must say also that sometimes I I drive off the Juma path and I sometimes I come out and I see the women standing outside you should not do that.

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The women who come to Juma should not be standing outside the masjid. Even if you wait for your husband, wait inside the masjid. So the very nice thing for you to stand outside the masjid. And all the men come past you and they look at you. That's not allowed in Islam. The etiquette in the masjid number was that an obese or a lot of Salah always gave the women chance first to leave the masjid. And to be on their way. And then he would say to them and it can be

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but because the bane have to leave first they go to work and so many of the women are housewives so

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somehow they that should not be the women should wait

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until the men have left the masjid. That's the etiquette and then they should leave and not stand outside. They should immediately get into a car so their husband's cars and they should they should be

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but it doesn't mean that if is any mom see that women sending us dinner? No you can't come to the masjid because you know you can't be atheists have no I don't have that right. You have the right to come to the masjid. You have the right to patronize the masjid. You have the right to come whenever you want to come. But there's an etiquette when it comes to outside the message. Outside the masjid. They say

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Kind of etiquette a certain kind of adapter that we have to follow, to respect the budget and to respect the show and to respect the rights which allows was given to all of us.

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the context in which we speak is that

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the Sahaba was decent human beings,

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but human beings nevertheless, they were decent human beings, by the human beings. Nevertheless

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my last example I want to give is an example where

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the women of Medina came to the Navy Seal of law Solomon said the other suit alone,

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they are rigid they had easy

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they say they are

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the main take most of your time.

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Thanks trying to say is this is the relationship with the head with the Navy so they could go to you and say, you know, you spend all your time with a man, what's your problem?

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This is not fair.

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Then they make demands, then they said, We want you to designate a time and a place where only we want, you must teach us only we don't my husband's there, we don't know men must come near the we want time with you, like the men have time with you. We want time with you.

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So it is as if he was expecting this. And he said certain times as it's such a pleasure to come.

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Because melodrama was there to this.

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to say that the women loved him was not a misnomer, was a great man.

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Lovely, not

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except that he was the Navy for last Hamilton.

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And he designated a time and he designated the place. And every once a week he used to teach the women what they wanted to know.

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And you'd be surprised to know that one day

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are they allowed to

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walk past the place where the Navy was teaching the ladies.

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And unfortunately, at that particular time, the walls of a Sunday,

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not like

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he had the women were laughing inside the place where he was teaching the women. So you know about

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this was what is the screen.

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And of course he entered.

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And when he ended, the laughing stopped immediately.

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And women was wanting to bury themselves, you know, wherever they were.

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And they said yeah, Rasul Allah, he said, to the human beings, if they, if they want to laugh, it's all of them together. They're all women.

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You're You're not supposed to be here. This is only for women. This lecture is only for women, you have no say here.

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This is the teaching time. This is the time when Muhammad salam, the Beloved of Allah for the teachers.

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So that was the kind of social interaction that pertained within the visa salams time. It wasn't like today we tell them.

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If you go over the doorstep, the first clock is gone.

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Or you're only allowed to visit your mother or your father otherwise you can go anyway.

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For minutes properly test, she observes the adult, she can come to the masjid, she can go to school, go to a class, or the halau thing she can do, you can't stop. You can't say if I say you can't go You can't go from where he is. If he wants to go to somewhere where it's, you know, like a spa or whatever. You can't go to Cancun, but a lot of us are going to the message about say what you couldn't do the state of

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she has a right to leave you even without your content, like the wife have left the house for pray without his husband's consent, because that is a right to do. So now last want to give inshallah you see.

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This may sound different.

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But you see we have

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baggage. We have baggage.

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Have you been put on us by the West

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live example of the kind of baggage that has maybe been transferred to us.

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The Romans, the Roman Catholic Church,

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was the long before Islam.

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The bishops and whatever the Pope's the order the regular meeting to decide what five parts of the Bible they're going to put in, take out, replace, etc. And one day they added a religious council to discuss women

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and the position of women in Christianity.

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First, they couldn't decide whether her soul was closer to the soul of a fox or a dog.

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Because certainly it wasn't close to them.

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When they couldn't decide whether her soul was closer to a dog, or to a fox.

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The fact why they gave was that women have no soul.

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So there is no accurate for them.

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We're not going to be answerable to Parliament.

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Can you imagine?

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Now this is the

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point which I want to make.

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How is it possible for them to have made that kind of decision?

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If they're the best example within their own sake of a woman, Miriam.

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How could they have missed the glory? The honor, the respect which allows for the given to Maryam, the mother of Jesus, Allahu Masato, sir.

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So the decision was given,

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not with regard to that, that lost the heritage that lost the history, they lost the example. So they made their own rules. And this is what their own rules laid to them. And those of you who are lawyers know what Roman Dutch law says that a woman is like a child when she gets married. A woman always remains a child is normal. In classical Roman law, when she's young at home, she's

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under the guardianship of a father, when she marriage marries, she's under the guardianship of her husband until she dies. We know that there were times in this country and think until 1979, or even the law of change, when Obama couldn't enter into any agreement with nobody except whether he was maddening committed to property, except for the signature of asthma.

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We, as Muslims should not go down that road, we should always reflect upon the example of Mohammed Salah See, we should always reflect upon the example of eyeshadow.

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We should always reflect on on Selma, we should always think about all those women if it wasn't for the women of answer, we will not be here today, we should think about those women who fought in the wars or the Navy salatu salam, we should think about na theva who if she didn't defend the Prophet, or heard when the battle turned against them, and she stood with a sword and fought of the operation Subhana Allah,

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maybe the Prophet wouldn't have been there today.

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Other words, this is our iron chain

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of example, that can never be broken from the time of Mohammed up to now.

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And that is why no matter how backward we got in our councils and in our behavior, particularly Arab countries, there are things that we just could not change, because we had to reflect back to the time of Mohammed Salah.

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So we also have to always give that we always

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when we think about what we do

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we take our feelings and emotions, our likes and our dislikes and say, is this in accordance

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with a practice of amateur? Or is this in accordance with? Or is this in accordance with my tradition?

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Or my likes and dislikes and we allow for that always guidance inshallah. And

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I wasn't here last weekend, Wednesday, I was here this weekend, Wayne State. I believe last weekend, Wednesday, we had a lot of people who came to the US so you know, you like my you like me when I was the University of the lecture didn't come last week I woke up this week. So this week, of course, very few people came to the lecture people they reverse illogically. We all came you know, now, I'm not going to come too soon. Let's look at naughty child like a naughty child. But let me say to you, those of you who came the night when I wasn't here, Mashallah, you have fulfilled your obligation, you will be granted reward for coming to the masjid and having the intention to learn a lot favelas

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de mantella Katara Can y'all Tell me Sufi Allah sallallahu loterie final agenda.

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You've heard this already. But let's listen to it again. What does Allah say? Allah says, He will take the road Allah doesn't say he who learns. Allah doesn't say you take the road and find that the end of the road is a teacher and teachers you know Allah says, Man sericata card whoever takes a road

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turns to fame and water to gain knowledge. Allah will make easy for him that onto the agenda.

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So you have done when you came Of course this week you missed it.

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Fortunately, I'm a human being a dancer and I also come like you also come come I also come come but remember if you've made the effort, and you've been here don't think what am I said my

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name is Ursula said I Giovanni amaryl. Minh in Morocco lawhead visa Salaam says I am amazed

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at the deeds of a Muslim whatever he does is good.

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So Panama amazed when a Muslim does anything which is good for his enemies, because everything that he does is is rewarded by our laws. However, there is never something let's say I wasted my time No, there's no waste of time in Islam. So inshallah Allah is my house I'll be your main tonight and even if I'm not saying you can remember what I said

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you should walk out with a swag the water is used on you and human you know sometimes I get sick I get tired something happens and I come back to it most of the time to be so challah on Wednesday night and also people say to weird people when there is particularly for Nancy so I have to announce Mashallah every week that is data collection and then you then I have not do an interview this point is I this last week I didn't announce I thought maybe something happens again and I'm not going to be here but thing what I say to you about the Hadith mellows founder award to inshallah Allah guidance mela movement as always loved each other. love our wives and our children. love everybody

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that we meet a male also unseen say that we love our ladies Dean and we always make an effort to learn a lesson for large illallah wa salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

125 Amazing independence of the female companions Sept 11, 2015

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