This is Love #17 Love the World Less, and Allah will Love You More
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So I realized that we are studying this hadith at the backdrop of everything that is happening in the world today. And it might seem like a disconnect. For some of us focusing on this while momentous events are taking place elsewhere. But I want to emphasize that if you consider what you're doing a form of jihad really, that brings you closer to Allah azza wa jal, then you would be investing your time wisely, because this learning is jihad.
And in particular, what we are learning today is really very relevant to what is happening in the world today. And I will make that explicit at the end you may be able to see it as we explain it, but I will make it in sha Allah very explicit at the end if Allah azza wa jal allows us to and you will see the connection between these two.
So the Hadith
tells us that a man comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam once and he asks him this really beautiful, important question. He says, Dulaney Allah Ahmed in either an ML two who have been the Allahu wa have been Enos do linea Allah Amelie says guide me to a thing, an action that if I were to do, Allah would love me and people would love me.
So he said Ali is Salatu was Salam, he said is had feed dunya your hip book Allah wasn't had female ad nurse Yakubu Canis.
He said Alayhi Salatu was Salam abstain, have Zote abstain from the world, have zoot in the world and Allah will love you.
And abstain from people's possession what they own and people will love you.
A very simple statement from the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. But yet it is so profound because it unlocks Allah's love and people's love.
And they're both related because they are both about the dunya.
Stay away from this. And you will get love Allah's love and people's love.
Now, as this hadith is telling us that our problem is the dunya
this world is our problem. It is the center of our existence, the center of our life, everything that we think about everything that we seek, this is how we define ourselves. And this is how we define others.
We are worthwhile if we have it, and we are worth nothing if we don't have it. If you look at how the world evaluates countries, cities, people,
what are the best countries in the world, if they're going to rank them, they will be based on what it has to be economics, and how much money you make. They will not rank cities morally and ethically, because it doesn't matter.
Because some of the best best cities will fail if they are ranked like that. And plus there is no moral standard that they could refer to, which tells us a lot by the way, that there is no moral standard that is agreed that the world can look at and they say this is morality and this is not a lot of leading cities and countries they will fail if we really were to apply morality and ethics. So how do they rank them? Economics? How do you rank the success of a person? Economics? Its status, it is physician, it is career it is these things? What are these? All of it is dunya. So all of us, most of us, many of us are obsessed with the dunya and focused on it.
And loving the dunya really then dominates our hearts our thinking our minds our life. This is what we live for. This is what we die for. This is what gives us meaning. So instead of being truly slaves of Allah azza wa jal in reality, I'm talking about things that we claim for ourselves, but in reality, instead of being slaves of Allah azza wa jal, we have become slaves of the dunya. We can't wait to consume we can't wait to eat, we can't wait to travel. These are the things that define success and fun and happiness.
This is what a marriage looks like to a lot of us not about sacrifice, but about having fun.
So everything has, in the sense been dominated and really polluted.
But by the dunya now
as the Hadith will imply, and we will emphasize loving Allah as xojo and loving the world, they're at odds with each other.
And having love in the world and loving the dunya, they are at odds with each other. They don't really cannot be reconciled easily.
So, it's hard for them to coexist. And if they were to coexist, they have to coexist with one on top, and the other supplementary, but they cannot both be supreme. The world as it is, today, the love of the world has to be supreme.
And we're saying in religion, the love of Allah has to be supreme, you can't be have both at the same time. One of them has to be supreme and the other not. So the different types of love. And some of these types of love complement each other, and some types of love. They contradict each other.
The duniya and the earth Hera. They can't coexist as supreme loves. Allah azza wa jal says, In the Quran, he says, to read Luna out of the dunya you want the transient enjoyment and goods of this life, this is what you want? Well, Allah who you read Will earthhero But Allah Who wants the hereafter, that is he faults them and they use Subhanahu wa Taala for that desire to redo tuna out of the dunya things that do not last in the dunya this is what you are seeking. That's what moves you. But Allah Who wants something else for you, and from you, which is that he wants the ephemera. Why is that? It's because when you love the dunya, you're glued to it. Right? Like anything else,
you'd love it. You want to be right next to it. So if that's the case, how would you ever leave it if that's the thing that matters most to you?
So if the math matters most, I want to have fun I want to eat out I want to buy the most expensive brands, I want to travel I want a big house. I want to pretend to be somebody Ruth based on what I have. That's what matters, then Allah tells you to sacrifice
for his sake, meaning leave the dunya for his sake, how could you ever do this? If the dunya is dominant in our hearts?
Then we would sacrifice Allah instead of the dunya is all based on love. So Allah azza wa jal here in the Quran
and he's addressing the believers. Yeah, you have levena Ermanno. There's an on page on 81 to 182 Malcolm either Kira la comunidad de Rofi Siberian Rila he called Tom Adel. It says, What is with you when you are told to set forth in the cars of Allah azza wa jal
you cling to Earth is you get stuck to it. If there are ultimately you are so heavy, that you can't be moved. Then he says all the time Bill hayati, dunya, menial, earthier, are you satisfied with the worldly life instead of the Hereafter thermometer or higher to dunya fill our ferati Illa Khalil, the enjoyment of this life in the hereafter is almost nothing is very little. This is what is called meta. And I think we've explained what meta is before. Meta is what you carry in one hand, as you travel just to stain you just one symbol him. So that's the meta. So he's saying, if Allah tells you to do something, and you cling to this earth, and you don't move, meaning in this particular age,
Jihad and you say, No, I'm not going to do it. But it doesn't only have to be this. Allah tells you salah, but you say I'm too busy, tells you Zakah you say I love money too much to give it up. It tells you had show it's too difficult fasting,
fasting, too tiring, too exhausting, too inconvenient. So the more that you love this life, the less that you will listen to Allah zodion. And if you want to listen to Allah, you have to love this lifeless. And that's the equation of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, was talking about in the Hadith, and we will explain it further. So you have to always make a choice. And that choice at times will come with a cost, and he should not be afraid to pay that cost. So in the Hadith, you're on page 182. He said Alayhi Salatu was Salam min Abba dunya who Aldo Robbie authority
A woman who adorably duniya, through Maya, Maya Fina. He says, If you love your dunya, you will hurt your hereafter.
And if you love your Hereafter you will hurt your dunya. So favor what lasts over what perishes.
Me you can run away from this.
And you always have to make a choice. So if you love the dunya, your dunya, you will hurt your Hereafter you will have less of the hereafter. Right.
So, if you don't want to give sadaqa
and you want to keep your money to yourself, you'll have less of that in the hereafter. You don't want to pray on time because you're busy playing games or talking to your friends or whatever. And you miss the Salah, you favorite the dunya. So that's its love, you got less than the hereafter.
You say to yourself, I want to gather as much money as I can, even if it takes me away from Salah and Quran, and vicar and n n, you've got less from the F era because you wanted more from the dunya. So you want that great success in the dunya. You have to lose on the fly.
So if you favor the earth era, will you lose some of the dunya?
Yes or no? Yeah, you will lose some of the dunya you're not going to have as much money, it doesn't mean that you'll be poor.
That's not what he's saying I use Salatu was Salam. But may you may not be as rich.
Because you don't want to be as busy because you know what happens when you have a lot of money?
Imagine that you have a lot of private property, a lot of money. What does that require from you?
Attention. So you have to spend a lot of time taking care of it. And a lot of time worrying about it and a lot of time growing it. And as you open one door of the dunya it opens 10 more doors for you. So that means that you're not going to have time for Allah has one
person may say, Well, does that mean that I have to be poor? Does that mean that I have to be sitting in the masjid all the time. And so no, there's always a balance. You get what you need from the dunya. But once you do, and this is what it what we're going to talk about when I'm talking about Zune, but once you get for what you need from it for either ferrata, what do you do? fansub. When you when you free yourself of the dunya you got what do you need from it, then you stand and you pray to ALLAH has certain meaning you make time for this. But the time that you give to Allah is going to take away from the dunya.
Otherwise, you could spend it making more money, right?
But no, you said I'll give this to Allah azza wa jal. So it means that you're going to have less of the dunya.
And because also, when you favor the HERA instead of the dunya, it means that you're not going to lie.
You're not going to cheat, you're not going to exaggerate, you're going to not going to seek fame for fake fame sake.
Right. So all that is going to decrease the possibilities in the dunya because those who want more of it have to lie, have to exaggerate, have to cheat, have to be crooked. So if you say I'm not going to be crooked for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, you're going to get less of the dunya. But that should be fine for us, because we're doing this for the sake of Allah xojo.
So he that's why he says Alia Salatu was Salam. Yeah, you're gonna love have less of the dunya. But what should comfort you is that you have more of the HERA. So let what is lasting, everlasting, compensate you,
right and satisfy you, because everything else in the dunya will perish. Right? If you have fame, if you have money, if you're up, you have to fall.
Because that's the cycle.
No one is ever always loved and liked, based on the dunya. They like you, and they throw you down, you get money, and then you lose it. You get money and you become anxious and depressed and hated because of it. You're not gonna get everything that you want from the dunya even if you put all of your efforts in it.
So that's why it is very problematic when you live for and you only seek the dunya
there is another reason why loving this world is also a problem. So you said it's opposite of the hereafter. Another reason that it is a problem is that behind all sins is basically love of the dunya if you were to able to
remove that love, many or all of these things will disappear. So
So Malik of dinar accurately said, Boo dunya, or so called lethality. He said loving the world is the root cause of all sin
and is very beneficial. When you encounter these types of statements that cannot condense many ideas into one to remember it, get it helps you later on when you forget. Or when you're talking to someone or you're talking to yourself, or I know where this comes from. We're dunya razza. Khalifa the loving the world is the root cause of all evil. There are parts of the dunya that
you're permitted to love. It's natural to love. So here when we talk about Zod will say so it does not mean you have to hate the dunya. No. So you love your children.
You love some good food, natural, some good drinks, skirt, beautiful scenery, there are things that are Jigna that are natural that Allah had made beautiful and loving them is permissible, recommended even. But that's not what we're talking about. What are we talking about when he said it's the root cause of all evil? It says when you are all sin is as when you go at the background of all the sins that we commit, we commit them because we love the dunya why do we? Why are we proud?
Why are we arrogant?
Because we want people's free praise and admiration. We want them to say that we are better. We want to feel that. And it's all rooted in the dunya. Why do people steal your love the dunya? Why do people gossip and backbite? Over the dunya? Because I want to be better than him, even if it is under the guise of religion. But you're actually backbiting you want to put him down because you want to be better?
Why is it that people kill each other? Why all the sins look at them? Why do people live them? He says because we love the dunya. And we want to have more of it than other people. That's why we do this. If you take the love of the dunya you take out competition, you take it out sin, many of the sins that people commit will disappear.
And so with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam recommended in
the Hadith and the word that he used a Zune and that is in the sooner so it should be used.
He said is hurt is hurt.
And the best definition or one of the best definition of Zewde comes from Abu Soleimani Dharani Rahim Allah and this is on page 183. He says zoo theater keema, Yasha, Raluca and Illa.
Zod is for you to leave off what distracts you and takes you away from Allah azza wa jal that is the most comprehensive and the best definition of Zun. So what do I stay away from? And you will see that zoot has categories. But what do I stay away from? Give me one sentence that helps me understand what zoot is. It says, Okay, here's the definition, this thing that you're thinking about doing?
Does it distract you and take you away from Allah or closer to him?
What's the answer? If you say, brings me closer to Allah do it. If you say it this distracting it takes me away. It says don't do it.
And that is a definition.
And that definition exists at the height and epitopes of what Zoom is, it has levels where it is very beneficial to have that as a scale.
I'm gonna go here or there, do this or that say this or that it this or that whatever it is in life. It says what is is this
for Allah or brings me closer to Allah or not. If you say no, and it's distracting, you leave it.
And that is a definition for zoos also routinely Rahimullah had another definition. It's similar as if it were mature. Water karate female lion Pharaoh Fidel earthhero. It says the legitimate zoo is for you to live off What does not benefit you in the Asherah kind of similar.
So something here in the dunya that only benefits you in the dunya Yeah, you can do it if it's halal. But there is a level of Zod where you wouldn't even do that because you say it is distracting and doesn't take me to Allah as origin. So so it exists at levels
123 Okay, there is zero that is an obligation. This is Oh, that is haram and there's a zoo that is recommended. So I'll share that with you. But there's also another other
three categories that I will share with you that come from Mr. Muhammad Rahimullah what is desired that is an obligation Zuid in the Haram
if something is haram you have to have absorbed in it you have to abstain from it you have not to like it not to one if not to do it you will not be able to go to gender without this. So that is necessary zoned.
That's the first one to regard this. Okay. What is the one that second one this is the that the zoo hood, that is haram. Zilla didn't things that Allah azza wa jal has permitted and has recommended and he loves. Right. So for instance, zoom in marriage, you say I don't want to have I don't want to get married. Because spirituality or desert or asceticism or mysticism or whatever means that I'm not to get married, I'm not going to have kids. I'm not going to have a job I don't want to pollute myself with money is that legitimate Zakat
is that's forbidden. This trade off was sunnah opposite the Sunnah of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam as an A misunderstanding of Zod and you would find that, unfortunately, entrenched in some of the books that talk about Ischia that talk about spirituality, they will tell you don't get married, don't get a job, don't go look for food, don't earn a living, and you would read it and you'd be surprised and then you would think that maybe this is really the thing that I'm supposed to do. But I'm telling you that it isn't because the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu beginning with Abu Bakr and ending you know, with any other Sahabi they used to work for their income, and they did not since
simply sit idle, trusting that Allah azza wa jal somehow somehow is going to provide for them. So, you cannot have zord in religious obligations or in marriage or in earning Halal income, etcetera, etcetera. And there is a third, in the permissible that you do not need, this is a recommended sort,
which tells you that you don't have to have it. But that is a step above, meaning a halal, halal, but it's extra,
and you don't need it. So, for instance, you know, overspending on brands and vacations and food and luxury, extra,
that's a resort and abstaining from a salon. That is recommended for us. Because that extra, in addition to the fact that it's not needed, it's distracting.
The more you engage in it, the more that you will be drawn into the dunya and away from the era. So you put a barrier between you and the dunya by saying to the extra, I don't need you. And I will reserve my energy and my time and my devotion to Allah azza wa jal. So Britania he said, adding to what he had said before, to legitimate Zewde is for you not to desire or not to want what is not beneficial in the earth era, he says will waffled on MOBA, hayleigh de la used to an OB here and I thought it law.
And it is that extra halal, that does not aid you in the worship of Allah xojo. And so when it is extra, and you can give it up, he says, this is a legitimate recommended Zote.
So I can buy two things. And that thing is very expensive. The other thing is sufficient and it does the job. It is part of recommended Zoho to be sufficient with the less rather than the more
I can go to a very fancy restaurant, he said, What's the problem with going into a fancy restaurant, it opens your appetite to the dunya. We're not telling you that it's haram. So I'm not going to put on your a burden to think tonight. Oh my god, they've closed all doors in my face now, right? Even the little bit of fun that I used to have, even that I can have nobody telling you that as long as it's halal. You have to understand who you are and what you can do. And your limits. Maybe today you can't. What's important is for you to know,
right? Know that that is a goal, maybe one day for you, for me, for our children, to understand that that extra that is not needed, is an extra that is recommended for us not to take because when you enter into a fancy place, it opens your appetite for the dunya. I want more of this food and more of this scenery and more of this music and more of that interaction. So you want more and more and more of it. So your satisfaction with the dunya diminishes meaning in a sense, you want more of it and the less that you had
At home, and that modest fee meal that you're used to, is not satisfying anymore.
So you always as a person, you have to understand the balance centers and stand yourself. How much of the dunya do I need? And it's not the same for everybody. By the way,
how much of the dunya do I need and how much of the dunya is actually corrupting,
even when you look at it,
so there's an area where the prophet Allah azza wa jal tells us the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He says, Let them within nine acre Illuma Montana be here as words Amin Hamza Hara, tell hayati dunya Lina Tina whom fee what is caught up Becca Hi Euro, whatever.
Don't extend your eyes and gaze at what we had favored them with and made them enjoy of the beauty of this life as a test for them as a fitness with them.
What is for a beggar and the provision of Allah your Rob is better and more lasting? So do you understand what he subhanho wa Taala was telling his prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam in this area. Right? This in surah Taha
don't extend them within a unique meaning, to look to stare at to gaze at what what we had made them enjoy of the beauty of this life as a test for them.
Meaning that if they have beautiful things, you know how sometimes you'd be walking in the street and especially if you're someone who likes cars,
or fancy vehicles or modes of transportation, and you see something very expensive, what do you do?
You stare right? You stare and you inspect and all of this are you passing by a beautiful house that a mansion or a very big house? What do you do?
Right? I wish I had it. I wish I had it right? And you stare and you look at it. So the more that you look, the less satisfied you would be with what you have. Right? So Allah is telling His prophets a lot he was salam protects your eyes. The why is it that you should protect your eyes. Because if you look you'll desire and if you desire Your heart will be preoccupied with that even though it is halal. We haven't looked at anything haram yet. But the station of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam is such that he's telling him of the best of the best. A says no, guard your eyes not only from haram, but also the halal that you do not need. Because if you go past by the palaces
of kings, that's the only thing that will satisfy. And if you look at the most luxurious of brands, you will look at the bag and the shoes and the code that you have and say, what is it that I have? I want that that's true living. That's true living, not what I'm having. I'm not living I'm dead, in the clothing of a living person. But that is true living. But I bring you here.
The statement of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam page 186 When he said in them in Hebrew, Pharaoh earthhero. Indeed, goodness is the goodness of the hereafter. True goodness is the goodness of the Hereafter. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said he said this particular statement when they were digging the trench, because what will
and he was brought barley bread to eat with some rancid fat.
Then the any in addition to the exhaustion and the anxiety and fear of an approaching and impending enemy that wants to eliminate you so tired, afraid, what are the eat barley, what the hell a tune Zenica.
Rancid, changed that you know this fat that you eating is old. So the taste and the smell has changed. So is eating this and a Salatu was Salam and is saying what in normal Hebrew think Rolla era.
And this is a this is fine, because the true goodness is the goodness of the hereafter. Whatever you eat is fine. But that is also a statement that all of us should remember when we see something beautiful, and our heart wants to jump at it after it. And you say in normal Halo Halo era, the true goodness is the goodness of the actual meaning. Good living is the living of the akhira True life is the life of the Akela this doesn't last this doesn't satisfy. This does not is not as good as it looks. Because when you do this, you dismiss your mind and read a verdict from the dunya to the mirror and reminded that this is nothing don't want it. Don't get attached to it.
You don't need it, there's something far more important waiting for you focus on the fly. So if you're able to pull your heart away from that and back to the airfield, then you've won. But the dunya is always going to try to snatch you back. So look at this beautiful dress, look at this beautiful cordless. Look at this beautiful house, this beautiful this, this, this, this, but hold your heart back by saying in Nemelka euro, the euro, euro.
this also good in thoughts also, I've added in the book, which is as you restrain your eyes you also restrain your thoughts you're thinking about the duniya cache yourself and you say, let's think about the meaning about palace in the dunya. You saw it What a beautiful home I wish I could have someone tell yourself, what is my house in the next life look like?
Okay, is it a shabby little mud house? Or is it a palace? What what what kind of thing did I create? And can I make it better? start imagining that house? Then start upgrading? How do you upgrade your house in Jannah
with good deeds,
light with thicker.
It is said in one of the authorities said that people will be building your house people meaning the angels will be constructing your house in Jannah as long as you're remembering Allah when you stop the stuff
that people were like you have imagined now because this is helpful to have that as an image kind of construction. Angels, right? And they are building your house as long as you're giving them. You're paying them what is the payment
Subhan Allah Al Hamdulillah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah when you keep doing that, and the house is being built and expanded, and enlarge, if you stop the stop, so PA, then they will ask them, Why did you stop he say because he stopped. So the idea here is not to be trapped in the dunya thinking that the only thing I see here is the ultimate thing that matters. redirect yourself to the accurate or true living is the living of the era. And then work for that.
Now, the second part of the hadith is where the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam was asked, Well, how could people love me and he said,
at least Salatu was Salam
is had females here at NUS. He says, don't want abstain from what they have. But they own they will love you.
See, it turns out that the dunya is the thing that brings less of love. When it comes to Allah and when it comes to people, you put the dunya in and you love it more, Allah loves you less. But also people love you less. Why do people love you less?
Because everybody loves the dunya.
And if you love what they have, they'll hate you. They find one what you have one want you hate me,
I want your house, I want your job, I want your car I want this. Why? What is this come from from my greed. So if we were competing over the same thing,
and I want to be dominant, and I want to have and there is no no room for us to have the same thing. Because resources in this dunya are limited, positions are limited. Fame is limited. We can all be famous. That doesn't make sense. So either I or you. So I want to be famous, we can all be rich, that's not possible. So I owe you. So it means that if I want to be better, I have to take it from you. So if I love the dunya and I want to take it from you will hate me for it. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, it's an easy thing, not an easy thing at the same time, don't love what they have, don't go after their possession, they will truly love you, everybody will truly love you.
And here and page 187
is in an authority, a Bedouin as the people of bussola. He said, Who is your dignitary, the best your master?
Best person among you? They say it has an adversary.
He says, Well, how what how did he attain that status that he is the best? That dignitary, right, the most respected? He said they said Subhanallah he they said it Urgenda so either me he was talking to Hua Antonio.
He says they needed his knowledge. And he did not need their duniya
See, they need him, but he doesn't need them. He became the top person.
Because whenever they wanted something, what would they do? And that is at a time Subhanallah still where people were great. That is they needed people with knowledge. And so those people right rose to the top anyway, so when they needed Him, they would go to to him, so they always need him. Does he need them?
He's not asking for their duniya
And he doesn't need it. Even if they offered, he would turn it down. So because of that he grew in their eyes until he became their best. And that is the formula for a person to be the best to refrain from needing and asking people. That is long as you don't need things from people, they will love you.
But your stature, your status with someone diminishes immediately, as soon as you say, Can you help me?
It just You're drunk. Can you help me? For most people? I'm not saying everybody. But for most people, can you help me I need this you draw.
When you say I don't need you without arrogance, but satisfaction in what Allah had given to you say, I don't need you, I'm not going to ask you always great in their eyes. So as much as you can, because this is the advice of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, as much as you can. Don't ask people.
And he said, as much as you can do things on your own. Now, of course, there are people under you know,
that you're responsible for right? There is a relationship between you there as husband and wife, kids and parents, you can't say I'm not going to ask you for anything. There are things that you need from them, and things that they need from you. But we're talking about beyond that, those types of relationships, right? So any some of the Sahaba of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, he took a covenant from them. What letters do NASA say that you ask people for nothing.
Ask people for nothing. And the understood this, or the Allahu unknown, that some of them would be on his camel. And his whip would fall from him. The things that he would use kind of to redirect the camel would fall from him. And he wouldn't ask anybody to hand it back to him. Or please give him this back. He wouldn't ask. No, he would dismount and go get it and come back. And it's troublesome to do this on a camera. But he took the took that very seriously that as long as I don't have to ask, I will not ask. So that is something beautiful from the prophets of Allah, Allah us alum, that if you really want
the love of people don't fight them over their duniya. Now the first part of the hadith is that FEMA is what we do now your heybrook Allah abstain from the dunya. And Allah will love you. This is only a part that Muslims can understand the other part that I talked about don't want what people have, and they will love you. Even non Muslims can comprehend this. And I've just briefly referred to the book to self help books, self help books operate on a level on earthly level,
what they're missing, no matter how great they are. Their advice is always missing the other part which is Allah, zodion, and Iman, so even if they enhance your life on Earth, even if they teach you to have this skill and not that skill, to get rid of this particular negative thought, replace it with a positive thought, with all of this the best of the best that they could offer you, you're still going to come out with them missing something very big. And that thing is what, there's a gap where Allah is absent.
The love of Allah is absent, the hereafter is absent. So a self help book that does not rely on Allah subhanho wa Taala is always fundamentally flawed and incomplete. You need the other part that says, Allah needs to love you, you need to do things for the sake of Allah, you need to abstain of things for the sake of Allah, no self help book that is earthly based on human experience will be able to help you. Right.
Last few things insha Allah that I want to say before, again, tying what I said in the beginning,
the Hadith, what I said in the beginning,
notice how the Companions question
was so important and so relevant, and he is thinking in a way that a lot of us do not think today like how many of us today think how can I get Allah's love?
Because he that's what he's asking, telling me something that he can do so Allah would love me how many of us are thinking like that today? Now we may be thinking, tell me about something that I could do so people could love me on social media, what how can I post and enhance my posts, so more people will give me likes? How can I have more friends how I can be more popular? How can I have
more admirers How can I
How can I That's it. We just want people to like us. And it's natural that we want love in that way. But for what aim and for what end? Is it for that to validate my own value, my own existence, my own purpose in life, even if they love me, I'm good, if they hate me, I'm not. If they have love, if they love me, I'm great. If not, I'm nothing. If you're basing your worth on the love of people, then you are truly misguided. You have to base it on the love of Allah as origin, not on people's love. So even if a lot of people hate you, so what if Allah loves you?
So what if you anger some people to please Allah xojo. So what? Because Allah has voted is the center of what you seek as in the center and origin of all of your loves. So that's the thing that we want. First to ask the question is, what can I do so Allah would love me, not people that is going to come? What can I do so Allah would love me so that would be a concern. And then to ask, What can I do for so that people would love me but follow that advice, not compromise,
so that they would love you, but rather the advice of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, love less of the dunya and there's a hadith
of the messenger Alayhi Salatu was Salam here we're talking about compromises because you always have to compromise something. So he says, when ordered hola Habiba haughtiness. What are the Allahu Anhu? What are the NASA and among other NASA the sahaja Allah are the Hamidi who mean a nurse Isla who them
the beautiful because that tells you everything you need to know about whom to place. He says, if you please Allah, despite displeasing people, Allah will be pleased with you, and will make people pleased with you.
That's the contradiction.
You make Allah happy.
But you have with dad to make some people unhappy. He says Allah will be happy with you and we'll make people happy with you done. That's everything you want. Right?
Why worry? Just please Allah, he'll get helping people around.
But he says but if you make people happy, by upsetting Allah azza wa jal, those who are happy with you will come to criticize you.
It meaning what the happiness that you earn by displeasing Allah will not last you will turn against you.
Isn't that enough? It says what do you think you're getting their love by upsetting Allah who waits a little bit until they hate you? Because there's no possible for love to exist on Earth, when Allah is angry. So you want them to love you please Allah while you're dealing with them, but they will angry and they will say this and that about me. Allah is the changer of hearts, let them but Please Allah, Allah will take care of their hearts. Right?
So that's what it is. And by the way, that
concludes our section about loving Allah azza wa jal. So when we go into it next week in sha Allah will start talking about loving the Prophet alayhi salatu was no right as the other second section of the book. The last thing I want to say, remember in the beginning, I said that this
hadith ties directly to what is happening, right. So if you may ask, How is it in the famous Hadith where the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam says Tada ecoman omocha Mehta, I cannot do Allah Casati here is the nation's will gather and invite each other kinda to attack you, as people gather around the plate to eat.
Meaning it is that easy for them to come and attack you. And not only one but many multitudes all of them will come and attack you from every direction every site. So the asked the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, they said are with you at that time or prophet of Allah, when that happens to us, is it that's why we're weak. He says no, you're there's there's a lot of you, but you are like the bubbles of the sea. Author Carlota is sailed the hooter is what the waves carry of bubbles and sediments and dirt, whatever, just worthless, just worthless things on top. So he says, You are like bubbles and tea of no value. Then he adds la Salatu was Salam. And Allah azza wa jal will take the
fear that your enemies have from for you. They used to be afraid of you will take away the fear that they had and will put weakness in your hearts.
They said this is a one he will put one in your hearts weakness. They said O Messenger of Allah.
What is this weakness? He says, Love of the dunya and hating death.
You see how it ties to what we're talking about here? What is this weakness? That is making us all like bubbles that don't matter? He says you're weak here, not weak physically in body but weak here. What is that weakness? It says you love the dunya and you hate death. So you will love the dunya so much that you hate death and you hate death so much that your enemies don't feel you anymore. So they will come and occupy you and kill you and take your children and expel you and and and and all of this.
That how do you treat this? You have to love the dunya lesson love Allah azote anymore. Because if you do this on the inside, you'd be strong and you are willing to sacrifice and you're willing to die if Allah wants you to die, then you matter.
And if you're pleasing to Allah azza wa jal, then Allah has victory descends because you are worthy of it. If not, then Allah will leave you to your own devices to your own plots to your own effort. You want to succeed, do what everybody else is succeeding, to doing to succeed, and maybe you will win and maybe you will want but if you say I want Allah's help,
that is very different. If you want to say I want just human help, go ahead, do whatever humans are doing. Maybe you will, maybe you won't, but he will say no, no, I want to Allah's help. I want to be among the elect few who received that divine help from Allah azza wa jal then that divine helped means that you would be on the inside divinely connected. So you must love Allah more than the dunya so that's why how that hadith ties to it and that is something that all of us can work on. So love the dunya less work for the near less do for Allah more work for the older if hereafter more teacher to yourself to people around you to your children. And then when we change things change
so I'll stop here in sha Allah horrible enemy. And let me know if you have questions. I'll be happy to answer them
let me check if you have online Okay, so we do have online questions
so the first question is, it's hard for a pro working person to pray five solid with Gemma in the masjid out of the five so that which one has more weight to pray in the masjid? And how often? I mean, how often is how often you can? How often depends on how often you can do so do have that as much as you can in praying in the masjid. But if you tell him which one carries more weight, it also depends on your schedule. But if you can, Isha and Virgil,
if you can, Aisha and Virgil and typically, or the schedule of someone working Aisha and Fajr are the easiest. So if you manage a Shah, and ledger insha, Allah
How about a wife needing to ask husband as the husband provides for the family and the husband is not for active giving the rights of the wife and children? Should this be avoided by the wife to know, if you're asking for your rights as a wife or asking for your rights as a husband? You're permitted to do this? It's not part of the disliked question. So what we're talking about not these types of relationship, so it's not like as a parent, I shouldn't ask my kids for things. No, you need to do because you need to discipline and you need to train and you need to guide she asked them to do things, right, and they need things from you. And if you employ people, you need to ask them
for things. You can't say I'm shy or I'm not going to ask them so we could be doing everything yourself, though. That's not right. But beyond these types of relationships, right? When you don't need then none but your question your rights, you ask for them, give me this, the kids need that please take care of this you ask and show.
So can you give us practical steps that we can start doing so we can earn Allah's love?
The thing is that everything that we have said, right, and by the way, we're not done in when I said we concluded that section, it does not mean that we stopped talking about how to earn unless love is going to continue. But the Hadith were grouped in that ways.
Focus. So here's this focus here is that focus, but we haven't really stopped talking about how to earn Allah's love. So we're going to keep inshallah talking about it. So maybe towards the end, yeah, we can come up in sha Allah with a summary of everything that we talked about Islam Allah here for that. So in that way,
it's easier to remember and refer back to so inshallah I could work on that in sha Allah, but that should be towards the end inshallah. Because now it's going to be redundant. Things that we just said, and things we will say again, shall is let me just make sure that there's no one here physically present. Okay, I see you, and I'll come to you, shall I see your hand? Okay.
How to Ask a father to pay more attention to family versus friends? How to ask.
I mean, I guess there's no other way except being very direct and say, your family needs you more than your friends do. And I know for some, just because it's I don't know, habitual or it's easier right? To be outside rather than inside. Right? For some men.
And some women to maybe right, easier to be with friends rather than with family because you don't want it like the noise and the you don't want the responsibility. But
if you're just outside, running away from all of it, be assured that you're going to be pay a price for this later on. If you're neglecting your kids, and you're not right next to them, teaching them who else will be doing this except to you. So who's the model who's the role model who's the educator who is the friend. So if you're absent, and there is a gap, and you just give them the tablet or the phone? Good luck, you know, once once they're teenagers, good luck on what they are going to become. And then beyond. So know, your station is at home. As a father, as a father, you're supposed to be home, you're supposed to be teaching. And yes, give some time to yourself. So you are
with your friends, because you need that release
is necessary, but not to the extent where you're neglecting your family. So this is if this is what the sister men, this is a call for all fathers, it's your eighth. Once you've decided to have a son or a daughter, you're bound to this. And you have to take care of them as the mother is taking care of them. It's not just her job, you need to be present, and need to be physically there. And you need to ask questions and see how they're doing their homework and how what they're doing at school and what they're going through. You have to be 100% involved, because your absence is going to be dangerous. So how to how to ask him you tell them all of this. So all you have them listen to this
lecture, right and and maybe, maybe that's a way, but it's absolutely essential, right? Absolutely essential.
I'm having a hard time balancing memorizing and learning Tafseer Any advice for a mother with small children who's having a hard time with Quran memorization? Now you can decide to do one
and not the other. So you could do Tafseer so just focus, I'm sorry, focus on memorization. If it's hard for you to do both, you can just
enroll in a plan because you need somebody always kind of an instructor or a guide. So if you have that, and if not try to find someone or at least someone more experienced if not a an instructor. But if you can find someone then that's perfect and focus on memorization if two of them are difficult, and finish your memorization and then go to your Tafseer right, so if the balance is hard choose one right so do memorization if memorization is easier, right? If not, if it's the other one you could do tafsir
just seek the instructor I think that will make it much much easier because you have
schedule and follow up and someone will organize these things for you in Shell
if a person knows that something takes them away from Allah, for example, business proposal, can they let it go for the time being and work on their Eman and then come back to it when their attachment is gone? There's always a judgment call that you're going to be making. Right? There are things in life there always will demand your attention always. They will always your
your input here your judgment your consultation will decide whether this is something that I should leave or something that I can and you can basically you can praise taharah about the issue should I do this or favor? Allah azza wa jal or favor more attention to Islam or Quran or tafseer which one so sometimes it that would be the right move and sometimes it's not the right move from
We're far from outside, it's hard to judge. Good. We don't know. We don't know what entails your responsibilities. What comes after this? How much time are you taking away from a and given to be it's really hard to judge but praise the hara and ask people around you who know you very well and can have access to more detail, and then they will be able to tell you, yeah, you don't need so much of this focus on your iman. Right, more of that, or no, you know what, this is a necessity as well. And what do you think is your focus on Iman is maybe a heightened hypersensitivity to something that is not necessary at this moment. So you need a more in depth, advice and analysis, right. So seek
that inshallah and also pray is the HA as well.
So I think I've got covered everything online. Okay.
Okay, so before we adjourn, anybody here has a question. You had a question? Right? Yeah. What's your question? You could ask from there if you want you could scream your Yeah, you could ask from them.
I couldn't hear
that come Come closer. Come closer. Okay, come closer. Then. Then I could hear you.
Wait, wait, wait till 12 to wait till your clothes come
if you don't want it, can you speak louder?
Yeah, you can come here if you want.
Oh, okay. So if he's working as a policeman and he doesn't have to pray, is that okay? Okay. So okay. Insha Allah so you get to be a policeman insha Allah and then we'll find the best answer for you. Okay.
So if you're working hard to build the big house, then what?
Okay, so if he's working really hard to build a big house and it doesn't work out, does he does he have to give up or continue? I'd say I'd say ask as the architect and the construction company, but if you can continue, continue until you finish it.
Continue. Okay, good. Play. Fair inshallah. So we're stopping in sha Allah Zakouma life here. Subhanallah we have a shadow ADA in line and the stuff will go to where they could hamdulillah Bill Alameen