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Honoring the Elderly

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Mohammed Mana

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Khutbah by Sh. Mohammed Mana on Aug. 5, 2016 at IIOC.
A talk about honoring and respecting the elderly as a duty of Muslims.

Episode Transcript

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In a hamdulillah

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national minister you know who want to still futile who want us to end when I will be learning initially and fusina woman say Dr. Molina May Allah Allah Farah mobila

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or manual for the era

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of Masha Masha Allah, wa shadow Anna Mohammed Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira

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Yeah, you're living in LA have got your coffee

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while at 11 to muslimin

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Yeah, you harness the power of the cooler haha coming up soon. wahida hola amin haza amin humare Jalan cafe Romani sir Isa, what the law what the law Hillary does I don't have anyone or him in the law Hakuna la Cooperativa. Yeah, you hallerin la waku pollensa de de ustelecom Amira como de la Koo gakuen. Woman nuclear Allahu Allah suta hufa faza fosun Avi Ma. We begin by thanking and praising Allah subhanahu wa Tada, as he is the most deserving The only one deserving of all of our praise and thinks

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and we beseech him to send his peace and blessings upon the last and final messenger sent as a mercy to all mankind Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon his family and his companions, and all of those who follow his tradition, his son until the end of time.

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It is important that we remind ourselves and one another.

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We remind ourselves and one another that Allahu subhana wa tada is aware of what we do, and aware of what we say, at all times, and in all places. We are the creation of Allah subhana wa tada and he is a seven year old bossier, the most hearing the old hearing, the old seeing Nothing escapes his vision or his awareness. And it is important and vital for our success that we are aware of his awareness of us. And that is what we mean by taqwa. we renew our taqwa of Allah subhanahu wa Tada. And we make sure that the Angel of Death does not find us except that we are in a state of submitting to His will, that we are in a position of either obeying His commandments, or protecting

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ourselves from his anger by falling into something that he prohibited

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in Makkah, in the year of the conquest of Mecca,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in the holy mosque

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and the famous companion, the best of all of the companions, the best person after the profits in the MDF, the halifa, after the prophets of Allah it was sent and passed away

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was Abu Bakr Siddiq or the Allahu to Allah and who he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and he brought to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam someone very special.

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He brought Abu hanifa

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and if we know the name of Abu Bakar, then we know that this man is his father, Abu Bakar what his father to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And what's interesting is his father at this time was very old in age. His hair was completely white.

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He probably had a curvature in his posture from his old age.

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And Abubakar brought him in this condition Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to meet the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam to greet him to spend time with him.

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And upon doing this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told aboubaker

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Abu Bakr, why didn't you just leave this shape in his home, in the comfort of his house, so that I could have the honor of coming to him.

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Now, of course, there's a sort of law he said a lot more it was seldom is the best of all creation, the most honorable, the most deserving of anybody to leave the comfort of their home to go and greet and salute and meet. And of course, abubaker

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having the strength of his even his love for the sort of law use of aloha to sell them was more than anyone else. And so of course, he was going to take his father to meet abubaker. But having said that, we learned a very important lesson from the response that the messenger of a loss of aloha

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Send them gifts Abubakar In this scenario, which was to honor this man. Why? Because he referred to him as a shake. and linguistically this word refers to someone that is elderly and age, someone that whose hair has become white, someone who has had a long lifetime

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and out of honoring these individuals, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us gave us this lesson by way of this question to abubaker that we should be the ones to go to them

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to show respect, and humility and honor, because of their old age, and because of their status due to that fact. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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also, in another narration, likened honoring the elderly, to glorifying Allahu subhana wa Tada. He says, salaam in Aegina Lila, that from exalting alongside panel data and glorifying from part of showing respect to Allahu soprano who

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is, in fact, a column with the Shiva to Muslim to have a column to honor to show respect to serve.

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The Muslim the believer, who is shava, who there has become great, they have reached an older age. So this is actually part and parcel of our duty towards Allah subhanho wa Taala. Part of showing respect to Allah subhanho wa Taala is in fact being respectful and honoring the elderly amongst us.

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And there are many other narrations where it'll still allow us to live longer, it was seldom highlights this important attribute we have dedicated several discussions of Juma holds about in the past. And hopefully, we will continue to do so in the future regarding manners regarding dub etiquettes, how to deal with people

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how to behave with people. And we know that people are on different levels, people on different levels, there are different ages. They have different backgrounds, they have different levels of education, different socio economic status, different positions with regards to leadership and whatnot. People are on different levels. And although we speak about equality in a praiseworthy sense, we have to understand that there is no one brush that you can paint everyone with.

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along some parents told us in the Quran that people are on different levels and people have been preferred.

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And I share the wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. She says we have been commanded Amina and newzealand nurseryman as 11 to treat people according to their level and according to their status, put people in their appropriate place. Different people are deserving of different types of behavior.

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And that is based on their status and based on their situation. And that applies to those that are different in age as well. Let's move on sallallahu alayhi wa sallam affirmed when he said lay semina,

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when it is not from amongst us who lay some in MLM your hands or Your Honor,

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he's not really from amongst us in terms of the community meaning he is behaving in a manner which is not appropriate for our community. That person who is not merciful to the young and does not show proper respect and honor to the elderly, along some kind of way to Allah in the Quran. in more than one place, explained to us the journey of the lifetime, the journey of life that people go through, Allahu Allah, the Holika common birth or another recitation metamorph.

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So much I remember the biofin Allah created you in a state of weakness. And when you see that newborn baby, a couple of days ago, a beautiful couple visiting the area. They brought their newborn baby to the office, and it was a wonderful experience so tiny, so small, delicate

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Lola Kanaka coonan birth this baby this infant, and it's not only in those first few days of birth, but for many weeks and months and years. This child is fully dependent on others to be fed, to be cleaned to be taken care of everything completely dependent. That's the state of need.

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Some majority members you barfing Booyah after this state of weakness after the after the state of need of others that alongside

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panatela allowed the human being to develop until they have strength.

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They have the ability to stand up on their two feet and take care of some of their own affairs. And then Allah continues to Machado embed the Overton waterfront or shaver after that phase of strength and ability, then it is part of sadhana to Luffy helping it's part of the design of Allah Subhana Allah and His creation, that the next phase after that is that the human being returns to a state of sensitivity and when they are also having some weaknesses and some needs. Yes, Asha, Allah subhanaw taala creates what He wills in a manner that he knows is best and is most fit. So panda horchata in his infinite wisdom, and so the prophets Allah Hi there tells us that just how we are merciful to

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the young, it's sort of mercy just as you are merciful to the young also, to be part and parcel of the Muslim community necessitates that you also have Toki that you have respect and honor for those that are elderly, as well.

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The profits of alumni to sell them said man, sure, by shea butter and Islam, Canada who neuron Yama Yama, aka mokara Salatu, Salam you ever spent this lifetime in Islam

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in believing in obeying Allahu subhana wa tada until their hair becomes great, and they're still holding to this Deen and still obeying and working to please Allah subhana wa, tada, those gray hairs, those white hairs will be noon on the Day of Judgment for this person. So many different narrations where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us the importance and the value of these people, because everyone in our community has a different value. It's up to us to recognize that and to honor people for the value that they have. I remember being in a gathering once in a city called

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a beautiful city that's known for its farming and agriculture and whatnot. And I was visiting a family over there. They're a family of aroma of scholars, Maliki scholars, and they have majelis, they have gatherings. And we were invited myself and a friend of mine, we were invited to be guests in one of these gatherings that they had. And so they told us Come sit here was a big room, and there were couches and seats all across the room. And people were continuing to come in maybe 40 5060 people were coming into this magician to this gathering. And there was something interesting about everybody had a particular seat where they were going to sit, not necessarily assigned, but it

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was organized. Then afterwards, one of the hosts explained to us, they said in our family, in our tribe, whenever we have any gathering, we always sit based on age, those that are most elderly, and then those that are younger than them and younger than them until you reach to the flanks of the room until the edges of the room. That's where you will find the youngest people in the gathering. And the eldest, you will find them in the front in the corner, a beautiful small little habits or tradition that they had, as part of honoring these people as part of honoring them for living this life, of piety and of obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So from the rights of the elderly, they

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have many rights upon us. And it's important that we spend some time to highlight that and spend a few minutes from the rights number one, which applies to all people in general, right, that they have upon old people is respect, respect, and to be honored. And this not only applies to those that are Muslims, but even those that are non Muslim, a non Muslim elderly person deserves our utmost respect. Absolutely. And that is something established in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So giving respect, honoring them, giving them a special place, in society and in the community, then there is a specific right. And that applies to those that have family relations with

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the elderly, the prophets that along it was seldom said and we know from verses in the Quran

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that those that are closest to you, in relation are most deserving of your kindness and your dutifulness and your goodness towards them. And so if somebody has relatives that are elderly, then of course, generally everyone in that community should show respect to them, but specifically those that are related to them should give special attention and care to them. Remember how we began with the story of Abu Bakar and his elderly father that abubaker was helping to walk the Camino salicylate Salaam. It comes in another narration also the Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam toodaloo

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burger that take care of his hair, put some henna in his hair,

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to basically groom him and take care of him. And he did not give this as a general recommendation to the Father Himself. He told Abubakar, you do it, because this man is very elderly. And he's instructing me to take care of your father in this men groom him in this manner, because he is in need of your support and attention in this regard. And so those that are related to the elderly, they have a special right, that they have to fulfill towards them, to take care of them and make sure that their needs are taken care of, also, from the general data and rules for the elderly is that they be given preference, they be given preference, they are allowed to go first. And this

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could be something as simple as walking through the door. Or it could be something more honorable. Like for example, in a gathering, there were three companions, that took a journey.

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And upon reaching their destination, one of them had a particular situation with one of his relatives, he wanted to hasten back to the solar solar system and seek His counsel in his guidance, and it was a pressing matter. And so they rushed back to Rasulullah, he salario salaam, and this man came forward to the Messenger of Allah and he quickly began to explain his story, to seek counsel and so on. So I sent him said, Hold on, hold on a bit. Bit. He said, You're

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partners in the journey, they're older than you let them speak first. Let them go first. Kabir cabeza puffs I sell him saw in one of his dreams, that he was given a co UK, and he gave it to the one that was younger before the one that was older, and it came in his dream, and the NBA, they receive Washington, their dreams bid,

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give to the older one first. And so oftentimes, we like to honor the person that is on the right hand side, for example, and that is also from the add up, but it's something kind of praiseworthy. But even in this case, if there's an elderly person allows them to go first. When we have food, for example, it was very

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bothersome or disappointing. For example, in Ramadan, when you have the people are lining up to pick up food if bought or sold, or something. And all these young people are getting in the line before the elderly, that's not appropriate. Part of honoring and part of showing respect is you allow them to go first before you because they've been around longer than you. And they've done more than you imagine somebody who has been a Muslim for 60 7080 years. How many other Muslims did they foster versus you? How many different slots have they prayed? How many more experiences of charity have they had? So honoring those that are older than us. And we did say that this also applies to non

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Muslims as well. Even when you are in a situation where you're interacting with someone that is a non Muslim, and they are elderly, give them preference and allow them to go first. And without saying any words or saying what your identity or your religion is, you have already been a excellent ambassador and representative of your faith by a simple kind gesture like that.

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Also, one of the most important things that we can give to the elderly is time, and attention. time and attention. I was watching a documentary not too long ago, where they were interviewing people in elderly care homes. And they were asking them what is one of your main concerns, they said, one of our biggest concerns is having people to interact with,

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to socialize with just speak to, it's very unfortunate that some elderly people become neglected. And that's unacceptable. They should still be spoken to and addressed and given time, and attention.

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Now, sometimes the elderly, they want to be taken care of or they need to be taken care of. And other times, they actually want to have some independence. So oftentimes, as younger people, we lose patience, and we want to kind of behave in a patronizing manner. And especially for those that are younger, sometimes we get caught up a little bit too much in our energy. But we should remind ourselves to be more respectful and to slow down to calm down, and to be supportive. Whether that means to take care of this elderly person and fulfill their needs for them, or whether it means to support them and help them do what they are trying to accomplish on their own. be supportive. That's

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one of the greatest and most respectful ways that we can honor an elderly person by giving them our time, our attention and our support. Now what about the elderly people themselves right now I would like to have been addressing those that are of the younger age, how we should deal with

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Those that are elderly, what should the elderly people themselves do? Well, sort of lying civil law

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gave us a beautiful Hadith when he said he was asked, Who are some of the best people and he said that some of the best people are that are mortal who will have sooner Emmylou. The some of the best people are those who Allah subhanaw taala has blessed and granted a long life. And they have used that time and that life to continue to do righteous and good deeds. And so just like when a person is young, just like when they are old, they should always hasten based on their abilities, to do good deeds, and to do actions which are pleasing to Allah who Subhana who was added so long, so long it was said I'm taught us how to develop How to Feed a cabiria come, we have no idea how much

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blessings we have in our community, in our own mind, maybe perhaps just from the small and simple do out of some of the elderly that we have in our community. They are a source of baleka for our community. Our teachers always taught us that yes, the young have energy and they want to take active roles and lead and that is something good and that should be supported, but it should be supported within the parameters of the wisdoms of the elderly. May Allah subhanho data make us of those who are most respectful and honor the elderly, which is a part of honoring alongside Hannah who would rather work along with you with a computer or on an album. Whenever anyone can be Matthew

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Himalaya to advocate in Hakeem Apollo matches maranoa self utility with reciting Muslim minimalism in first of Euro inna who will

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repent to Allah for he is the most forgiving, Most Merciful. And please come forward and fill up all of the gaps that you see in front of you.

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hamdu Lillah

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wa salatu salam, ala Ana de vida Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad in Abdi cola swiatek and Naveen omy. While early he was locked up, he was seldom at the Sleeman kathira, please come forward.

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There's a lot of space on my left here, there's always space in the corner and there is space in the MPR. Please fill the gaps that you see in front of you, and make space for your brothers that are still coming.

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And on that note, I would like to make a

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important announcement with regards to those that enter

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a few minutes before the whole event. As you can see on the clock on the wall, the time for the whole event is about 1259 or so. And it was sort of like it's a little longer it was still taught us that there are three times in the day when it is prohibited to make slots to make prayer, the ritual prayer and of those times is when the sun is in the middle of the sky. Now considering the fact that due to certain scholarly opinions and understandings which are established and which have been adopted by the center, the first shift of the Juma does begin before the time of comes in. But if you happen to be coming in late and you come in within about five minutes prior to the time of

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event, do not pray to like us come in and sit down and listen to the whole demo. Because that time about five minutes give or take before the time of then the sun will be in the middle of the sky and also de la Houston a lot harder to set them forbade us from making Sadat at that time. So if you come in at that time, and we should always make an effort to come early for Juma before the ultimate begins so that the angels will write your name on the scrolls. Once the hotbar begins once the Imam stands up and says Salaam, the angels hold the scrolls and the opportunity to have your name written on those special scrolls of those who hasten to Jumeirah that opportunity has been lost. So make

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sure you put an effort to come early before the whole tie begins. But if you have some circumstances that delayed you for whatever reason, and this is not something that you're making a habit of course, and you walk in five minutes before the time of the event do not pray to like us. Sit down and listen to the ultimate because that is a time when it is prohibited to make slot. Likewise if you come in and the event is taking place, do not wait for the event to finish before praying or to look as if you wish to prayer to lock us pray them right away and sit down and listen to the hotel. Why because listening to the hotel is more virtuous and more important than listening to the other.

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So these are some important points to keep in mind. When we are coming to Joomla internalize it, understand it ask questions if you do not understand and share this message with others who may not have heard.

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We have been speaking about honoring and respecting the elderly and what our rights are towards them. And because they are a very important part of our community at hamdulillah. This Masjid has taken the initiative to establish a special committee

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At which would give a space and an opportunity and a place for the elderly to come together to have certain activities to socialize with one another to share ideas to have certain

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perhaps, discussions of current events or things that they are dealing with to consult with one another. And they are calling this the Pioneer club. It is started just a few weeks ago, it is a beautiful commendable effort from this message will hamdulillah and everyone is encouraged to support such an effort, either by attending if you are within that target age range of 50 and above, or if you have any relatives or acquaintances or neighbors, perhaps that would benefit from such a program, tell them about it, spread the word and encourage others to attend and to participate and there is a table outside. On your way out of the masjid, you will notice a table there for the

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Pioneer club where you can sign up or you can ask questions where you can get more information where you can connect with those that are organizing this effort and get in contact with them. We will have our usual Friday family night program tonight, inshallah we'll be delivering that lecture and it will be on the topic of ayatul kursi on the title of the ever living,

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which is the tip of courtesy. We also have a hedge seminar for those that are either going for hedge or are interested in knowing and learning about how to do so. And that will be in conjunction with Ioh k myself and shift for hands are waiting. And that will take place at the Ioh Kay campus tomorrow which are mozzarella at 2pm. And having mentioned about hedge, I did speak to you all last week about the hedge program that we have from this semester. And there are literally a handful of seats left. And the time is very short I mentioned to you last June when I had that there was only one more week so we are literally in the last few days before the package will be closed and visas

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will begin to be issued I myself already had to give them my passport, the the process of issuing the tickets and the visas and whatnot has already begun. So this is a last opportunity for anyone here who is interested in willing to make hedge or who knows someone that would be that you please mention this to them and you encourage them, you will be supporting them in fulfilling their pillar of Islam and you will be supporting the masjid and the group going from this semester. So please share that news. And finally, the registration for the Saturday school is tomorrow from 10am to 12pm. This is the Saturday school for Arabic and Quran for the children. And that will be from the

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ages from the grades of preschool to sixth grade. So registration is tomorrow beginning at 10am. If anybody is interested, please come here at that time for registration. May Allah Subhana Allah make us of those who listen and follow the best of what they hear what Ben attina Jr. has an awful lot he has an opener there but no, we ask Allah to give us the best of this life and the best of the hereafter and to protect us from the punishment of the Hellfire, about the law in the law a little bit of interest anyway either way in here and in Russia, you will

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come to the Quran. Was Kuru law, the military let korakuen remember Allah subhana wa tada he will remember you are screwing around here I mean he, he is it can be grateful and thankful to Allah subhanaw taala who will increase you in bounties and gifts. What are they called Allahu Akbar? the remembrance of Allah is the Greatest and better than everything else will love your animal Medical Center when Allah is fully aware of what we do. Welcome to slaughter

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