Islamic Manners In The Modern World
Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
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What impact did modernity have on our character and manners as human beings? Was it positive or negative? Why are manners (akhlaq) important in Islam? What type of manners and ethics are we in desperate need of today? This lecture tries to answer some of these questions and start a conversation on how we can re-introduce Islamic manners into our modern lives.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah Wa La quwata illa Villa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam
Ubud Lama Anwar Surya Karim
watin I'm Sierra
wife in Amina Sheree woman Cerulean fusina.
The topic of today's lecture inshallah, it's about Islamic manners, Islamic character in the modern world.
So repeated Islamic manners, the
the adapt of Islam in the modern world.
And of course, the topic of Islam,
or Adam in Islam is very rich.
And we attempt to debut in the law is not to cover that entire sort of array of Islamic because this will take the lectures and this will take weeks and months. So that's that's not the idea of what we want to do today. But as the title suggests, is to try to understand very specific things.
First of all, What effect did the modern world have on our flock?
on our manners on our character? What did it give us? But also, what did it take from us?
Because I'm going to suggest that it does give, but it also takes.
The second thing is, what is the status of the Muslim law? Or the Islamic matters in the world today? Are we as Muslims adhering to them? Or not? Why and why not? What can we do about it? And the last thing is, can the Muslims or can Islamic manners contribute to the modern world today?
Or not? Do they have a place? Or do they not? And if they have a place, what is this place? In other words, are we people with a mission for everybody else? Right, so that we can impart and given contribute or not. So this is yen in sha Allah in nutshell, what do we want to talk about with vanilla tonight. And part of the lecture is going to be conceptual, conceptual deals with ideas. So I don't want to lose you in Sharla. So I'm going to try my best to engage you, especially the first part, the first part might seem you know, soul about ideas. But inshallah isn't another practical side, the more specific side is coming, but I just need you, inshallah, your best try your best to
follow what I'm saying.
Now, I first want to understand what is this modern world that we live in today? Go back.
So what is the modern world that we live in today?
Now, the world that we live in today, it looks a particular way, right? But it looks a particular way, because there are forces that shape it to be this way. Otherwise, if we think of other forces will look very different. And if you think for instance, that is the centers of power today, we're not in the West, but we're in the east,
the world will be different, right? The language that we're speaking right now will be different won't be English, right? So the world looks a particular way today because of specific historical development. Now, when we talk about the modern, really, we're talking about the West that has created this modern. So I want us to take us briefly risk briefly inshallah, to that idea of how is this sort of the idea of the modern created, so in Europe, right, as they were emerging, because Europe was living in the Middle Ages, the Dark Ages, they called them right, heard of the Dark Ages. So as Europe was coming out and experiencing this revival, this Renaissance
there were certain forces that is driving this revival this renaissance in Europe. And that is was the economy money making wealth and science
right, so people through trade, right European posts in Europe, we're making more money.
They were trading with Muslims but also other people so they're making more money. And now you got this money financing an appetite for discovery, gonna make more money, and also for invention, because when you invent you can make more money you can travel further right, you can trade better. So there have this you know, this momentum was being created.
of making money trading, making more money, but also scientific discoveries, scientific research, this clashed with what the authority of who can guess, the authority of
the Catholic Church, right. So the Catholic Church is very powerful, but now you have new centers of power merging, and they're saying, No, we want to do things very differently. And also, politically, economically, socially, we're not very comfortable with the way that things are right? We don't not comfortable with the aristocracy, because now you have people with more power with more money different than the aristocracy, aristocracy inherited their positions, you know, like King, Prince, I own this land I employ people, right? is still with me, right? I didn't lose you. Okay, good. inshallah, if this is dry, is gonna pass inshallah just be patient when. So
as this Drew, they wanted more freedom. The church cannot be the only thing or the only center of power. In fact, they didn't want it to be the center of power. So as you move from the Renaissance into the Enlightenment, what do you get? You get Europe saying to itself, and afterwards the whole world around it. We want to determine for ourselves, we don't want the church, we don't want people off, you know, religious people, we want to determine for ourselves, what is right and what is wrong, how to trade. Right? We don't want anyone to tell us how to trade. What do you do with our money? We don't want the church telling us what to do with our money. What is science and what is
not, we don't want anyone to stop the progress of science because the church was stopping it. By the church was a hurdle, an obstacle, we don't want that to happen. And we want to define for ourselves what is right and what is wrong.
Not the church, not anything outside the human being not God. Not any book that had been passed on from someone else. Nothing divine, we ourselves will determine what is right and what is wrong. for you. So, okay, people before had religion to keep them together. When you say I don't want religion now anymore. What keeps people together? What teaches them what is right? And what is wrong? How do you organize society?
For you? Right?
They came up with the idea of citizenship
that everybody else now here is a citizen of somewhere, right? They came with the idea of citizenship, that where is where the idea of citizenship comes from, because they said, Now we want to be
affiliated with a particular geography. Anyone who's living there with a shared language, or a shared identity, or with a shared a shared future, right, will be a member of that particular identity, the citizen, we have particular responsibilities and duties towards each other.
That's what keeps us together. So you have different countries, each one of them says, I am a different citizen.
Now, that idea to organize humanity or to organize people, is successful, but up to a degree. Why? Because though, it tries to tell you or tell you what's right and what's wrong.
First of all, it's not universal. Right? Because either as a citizen of country x, I don't have to pay attention to what citizens or citizens of country y are telling me, or what they consider to be right and wrong is just concerned about my country. That's the thing that defines me. So citizenship is limited to that particular country.
Right. And if you travel from one country to another, and you're not that citizen, you don't have the same rights, and you don't have the same responsibilities. So it's not a universal. Now, even when you think about something that is more universal, which is the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which tells you this is right, this is wrong.
It's also limited. Why is it limited? First of all, because it's not comprehensive. It specifies specific, by law or adapt,
justice, how to treat prisoners of war, right? certain things, but it's not comprehensive, doesn't tell you how do you live as an individual?
What should I you know, how should I treat my family doesn't tell you these things.
Second of all, you're not really attached to it. How many of you really know anything about the human declaration? I mean, the Declaration of Human Rights universal, how many of us have read it? How many of us know much about it, your citizens, or let's say, the citizens of the world today, you're a sample. How many of us raise your hand. How many of us actually
When they read it feel connected emotionally connected to it, raise your hand. No one, right. So that's what I'm saying, you know, it really doesn't connect.
So there has to be something else, then something greater.
Now, let me go back here to modernity, and then you'll understand, and you'll realize some things actually, that you've seen that we've experienced.
One of the strongest, or the strongest vehicle of the modern world, right, that is today is the economy is making money.
Right? That's really the engine of the modern world, right, make money making money and making money.
And this economic, let's say,
engine had an impact on people's discipline on people's character.
And you want to understand why maybe a lot of the people in the Western Hemisphere are, let's say honest, or punctual or on time, you don't understand why
you don't understand why
the economy is the economy, it had a disciplining effect, and will have always a disciplining effect on people how
anamod wants to sell something to me, when I buy anything from if I if I don't trust him?
know, if I have other options, I won't buy anything from him. So it's to his advantage to make himself trustworthy. If I go to his shop, and he's late one hour, but I wait for him. If there's competition,
what do you Wait, I'll go to the next person, right? If he doesn't advertise his merchandise, right, and capture my attention, like,
So they found naturally that to their advantage, and they are honest,
and they are punctual. And they are just that they will do better.
Right. And this just naturally seeps into society, right, you just naturally, you just naturally feel it, you naturally practice it, and everybody else abides by it follows it. So the economy in the Western Hemisphere has a disciplining effect on people, even yourself, even if you just have come from a very corrupt place, right? Where they are no care, right? For time, you say Hamdulillah, you say come at nine o'clock. 1030 is when you expect people to come? Right? We experienced that I have experienced that. Right? You come home, you know, I don't know if it's a wedding. Or I remember the last thing or a lecture, but I come at one o'clock, I come at one o'clock. And I'm the organizer
sitting there. So where are they? Where's everybody else? No, no, we tell you tell them one o'clock means two o'clock, or it means 230 or three o'clock. So I have to wait not only me, everybody else who comes in time you have to wait to two hours before the event starts and then two hours for the event to finish? And then so am you wasting the whole your entire day? Right? That is what that's the effect of what a culture that we've come from, that doesn't respect.
And where time is not money. But if your time was money, right, you're part of that economic right engine, you'll come on time, because this is what you're used to. So the economy in the West has this very disciplining effect on people at the same time. That's what I'm gonna say, modernity or the modern gives you It also takes from you. Right, has this disciplining effect at the same time, because the
The purpose is to make money and more money and more money, it creates also greed.
Right? And you find here that corporations and people when they can lie, and they can get away with it, they will do it.
We can when they can sell inferior products and get away with it, they will do it.
Right, when they can sell to underdeveloped countries, where they will not be found out that what they're selling is inferior, they will sell it. So they will lie and they will cheat if they are not caught. So it had this like opposite effect. Both it can create honesty, but of course it can create extreme dishonesty, and one country. Right? workers rights, right unions in another country. slave labor. Right. So a lot of the stuff that we own a lot of the nice stuff that you have, you go and you trace it back to a poor country and you think you find children as young as yours, working day and night. That's child labor. That slave
labor. So who created that? It's also the modern world. So there's like two contradictions here. And when you look at everything else, you see this contradiction, right? So what are the some of the things that the modern world has created that we benefit from? and this and that we can say that is good. Right? It creates this dude wants to solve problems, right? Science,
curing diseases, famine, right? drought, illnesses by at the same time, at the same time seeing this, this is really ironic at the same time, what do you find? weapons of mass destruction?
Right. One of the most successful A lot of it's the most successful, but one of the most successful, you know, business in the world today is selling arms. And who buys most of these arms? By the way?
Muslims, Muslims we buy, right, they sell it we buy, right, then what do we do it? Okay. So anyway, so you see how, and then to the talk about economic or the environmental degradation by that we are taking the planet, our entire existence to the brink of extinction. So you solve some problems, but then we're heading towards disaster. You see what the modern does? It does this, but it also does the opposite. What else does it do?
It saves you time, doesn't it? You have technology that saves you time, because the tape can take you you know, incredible distances, you can fly and be at the other end of the world within a day, right? At the same time, aren't we all complaining that we don't have time
that it saves us time, but it also consumes time?
It saves time. But it also consumes time, by what? By making you busy.
Either really busy, because you have to make money. Because everything costs more. So you have to work more and more and more. So you don't have time. Or if you're fortunate enough to have time, it will occupy you with the trivial. You open an facebook facebook account or you have a WhatsApp or you have games. And you're playing constantly. Nobody sees you. Where is he in his room? What is he doing? Hello, Adam, what he's doing for 24 hours, right? You the families don't see each other as someone who's just recently said, they'll be living in the same house. And they'll say, Mom, are you cooking today a member of plywood accept this, oh, that's what I'm cooking today. They don't talk
anymore. They brought people closer together. So hey, it's true. But also people further apart. So that's the contradiction.
And, and so on, and so on shall so I won't dwell so much on that. But inshallah, when I moved to it, some of the characters that we want to hold on to, and cultivate and advance or point out some of the,
let's say, shortcomings of the characters in the modern world, and how Muslims can contribute. And I want to say that this is not a blanket condemnation of the modern, we benefit from it, it had brought something good, but at the same time, it also has its own shortcomings and mistakes, and that we can contribute to fix these.
Now, what happened to the Muslims, as you're going up, what was happening to the Muslims? They were struggling, they were going down, right. And the essence of what was happening were what was wrong with it with the Muslims at that time, or, you know, it was taken several decades, or centuries until we reach that point, is that what made us strong and brought us all together was what?
Islam, right? So this is the only thing that brought us brought us together. We are very different people, different cultures, different geographies, spoke different languages, different histories, then Islam came and united all of these people in one strong bond. Now when this bond becomes weak, right, what happens? We become weak, which is very natural. When the religious bond becomes weak, then people start also becoming weaker. How does it become weak? People start understanding their Islam properly. They don't know what their Islam is. They did not learn it. Right. So I don't know, you know, some of the very basics. People did not know about Islam. That's why some of the reformers
the idea of Islam, when they come and they see that they say, look at what, you know, these Muslims are missing. Some of the very basics of al Qaeda some of the very basics of halal and haram are not known. So they did not know about their Islam.
And we still have that till today. And also because they didn't know they didn't practice. So you don't know Islam and you don't practice Islam, what spreads instead,
a lot of superstitions and also Muslim countries suffered from a lot of issues.
and a lot of corruption, bribery, right? I voted.
So there was no movement forward. You can't You can't write with such corruption. Till today till today we're suffering from that. With corruption, you can't move forward with this organization, you can't move forward with ignorance of Islam you cannot move forward.
So, when the reformers, Muslim reformers or some of the Muslim reformers, especially those two of them, who traveled to Europe, 18th century 19th century, and then they came back, they said, look at what the Europeans have consumed in comparison to Muslims.
You will go over there there's organization respect for time respect for the rights of the week. Justice, apparently
progress science, well, you come to the Muslims, there's almost lack of all of that.
So that was the remark.
Right, now we're gonna pause here. Okay.
And we're gonna move on to the next point. And the next point is why is why are important in Islam?
Why are important are they important in Islam
when you see or read the Quran,
you'll find that Allah subhanahu wa tada
especially in the Mexican Sutras, but not only in the Mac consumers, but especially the last panel where data is instructing about both arcade about belief and at the same time,
and he mixes them together and instructing about worship and about about the same time and linking them together and saying that one leads to the other and they cannot be separated.
You say give us an example.
Say one of the sources that you know, or write a letter you can be will be deemed a makansutra very short, sweet alright and you can leave with D. Do you see that this person who denies the hereafter?
What does Allah say about him? You know,
what does he say for that he can really do only a team what I mean miskeen so what he said is that as a consequence of him rejecting the Hereafter, he rebukes as an ant is insolent to the orphan
and does not recommend and urge the feeding of the hungry.
That is he his character is flawed, his added is missing because he does not believe in the last day.
Then Allah says, for way too little mousseline alladhina home, Ancelotti himself una de Nomura. So woe to those who pray and are neglectful of their Salah, those who practice Ria, this is all worship, right? Those who practice Ria but it's also this act of worship is also connected to another flaw in character. When I'm not when in my own, they withhold any help from people around them. Even as simple as you know, borrowing utensils and pots, they withhold that as you will read in the deceit so they don't pray and they show off and that's what they also do with people. Their relationship with Allah is flawed, and their relationship with people is flawed. Their relationship
with Allah subhana wa tada when it comes to salah and about the last day is flawed and their relationship with the orphans and the weakened society and their neighbors flood. So Allah subhana wa tada is telling us here and it's telling his profit so the louder you are cinnamon is telling the Sahaba and the non Muslims at that time that these two things are connected and you cannot separate them. And what Allah wants is profits a lot he said them to reform society. This reform is complete in terms of belief in Allah subhana wa tada let's say the Cova da da da data, practice, let's practice of worship. And the third is how you treat other people.
So the way that you treat the way that you are with Allah subhana wa tada and the way that you are with other people are all connected.
And you cannot have one without the other.
You can't have one without the other. Okay,
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Okay, so what it's saying there is that, that the thing that brought us to Hellfire is that we didn't pray. And we didn't feed the hungry among the many defenses that they had, and this is what's being read to the Sahaba and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was reading it, meaning that you want the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You perform your Salah, and you deal well with other people, and that you're a healer, and you're added
to the Salah is connected to how you pray,
how you treat your family, how you are at your workplace, how you are with your friends, how you are outside, in the mall, right? Wherever you go, it's all connected to how you pray. It's all connected to your belief about Allah, it's all connected to how you believe to what you believe about the last day, and there is no separation between them.
And that's why you find some imbalance that we have in our life, this imbalance come from what comes from where thinking sometimes that one of them is enough.
I don't have to worry about the other person. Another part, meaning what you find some of us as long as I pray,
I'm close to Allah subhanho wa Taala that's the thing that I have to care about. But when you come in want to see them with their family and how they are with their friends and how they are with people in the streets and how they are and how they treat them and do the advanced justice to the advanced mercy are they kind do they smile?
Do they withhold their anger, you think that not getting channeled? Ah, a lot of that is missing.
And then people will look and say how how, how can you be or claimed to be religious but the wha at the same time you're missing all of this. That cannot be true. The other extreme is also you will hear people say as long as I'm good to people, as long as I'm good, I don't lie, I don't cheat by I don't steal, I donate, I give money to the needy as long as I do that. It doesn't matter what else I do or don't
and that also is an imbalance. Because Allah subhanaw taala is saying you have to care about this and to care about that. And in fact, you can't have one without the other. Maybe inshallah we'll get to that later.
Why is important in Islam
because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one of the things that he said a number of ways to deal with me Masada helis la Ophelia mcherry Malala
I've only was sent to complete and perfect good character and good manners.
And he we need to understand the study.
The meaning of this hadith is that what
for let's take it even a step back and understanding this hadith. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the last prophet right.
He said in another Hadith, what method you must be I mean public MSL euro Julian Pena, Dara, then my example and the example of Prophet before me is like a person who had built a beautiful house, and people would walk around and inside this house, and it would admire all of its parts. But the construction was unfinished in lamothe Urbina, except that there is a spot that is unfinished, and so people would say, if only this is done, this would be beautiful. If only this is done, imagine you would go maybe in a nice house sometimes, you know, you know, the side here, the side here the side, they're all beautiful, but you come to the kitchen and the kitchen is a mess, they say,
beautiful, but just accept this kitchen, you know, beautiful, but maybe the ceiling needs to be beautiful, my baby, just the carpet.
Otherwise, it all will, you know, come together.
So they go there and they say everything is good, except this part is not done. The prophet SAW your sentences I'm this part I came to complete this part. So the prophets mission is a fulfillment and a completion of all of the prophets of Allah had brought. So I gave them something.
And it was good for their time and for the people, but not till the end of time.
Until the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam comes and Allah completes that religion and it's details and what is asking people to do in the balance, it brings to the close like, it's complete now. And that is what Allah reveals.
Remember, coming to the container, trolley community today I've completed this religion for you.
It hasn't been revealed to anyone else, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So it says, Now this religion is complete.
Right? Wasn't complete before now the religion is complete. So part of what the prophet Allah sent him was sent to complete is Allah Allah. That's what he was saying, to complete the Allah
In what sense, many different senses in one sense is that you have in your heart inclinations towards doing good. Allah has deposited that in your heart. But that on its own is not enough.
until Allah subhana wa Taala comes and instructs you how to take this to the end. Because you may have a sense of mercy and a sense of kindness can sense of justice, and you can be at times merciful, just.
at other times, your cell phone will defeat you, your soul will defeat you, temptations will defeat you. And you need to learn from Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how to defeat yourself and excel in this character how to do it, you won't be able to do it until you are taught. And that's what the prophet sallallaahu Selim teaches. He perfects it's also in the sense of what that all what the prophets of Allah had brought needs also to be perfected. The mercy anger management, right, caring about other people, all that needs to be perfected and that perfection can only come from Allah subhana wa tada and through him.
where is this fuel for good character? What is going to fuel it? Just the desire to be good?
Just people's admiration.
Just protection. That is if I'm good, he's gonna be good back and that's to my advantage. That said,
you know, the idea of the social contract, right? Why do we cooperate what why do we do what we do? Right? You know, because I am brother over there right? We're neighbors. If I scratch his back, he'll scratch my back if I'm good to him, he'll be good to me. Right? Is that the only reason why you need to be good? What if there's a way where I can be good to wherever he can be good to me and I'm not good to him. Just take it by
what's going to fuel really fuel you being sincerely
of good character except email?
That's why the instruction of the prophets of Allah Allah you it was seldom is needed.
Important in Islam?
Well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
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It says there is nothing heavier in the scale. But is when you meet Allah subhana wa tada and you're looking for something that would make your scale heavy. Why did why what is your scale? Why does your scale need to be heavy? Somebody answered me
what happens, but gets wait.
Good deeds and bad deeds. So you need the scale of the good deeds to be heavy. Fine. So it says there is nothing that you're going to find to be heavier in your scale than has no follow them good character.
Wayne Sahiba, Lucan Hansen and the person of good character, and another Ryan says, Who said that means that he's following the truth, avoiding the Hara, but he's not like a sort of
a dedicated worshipper of Allah subhanho wa Taala fasting every day praying every day at night, doing or donating. He's not that, but he is of good character and he does the obligation stay away from the Haram does the basics, and he has good character. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says that he will reach the status of the dedicated worshipper of Allah subhanho wa Taala, who is frequently fasting and praying at night.
So a person who hears this
and says, I want to be close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now maybe at this point,
I'm not fasting enough. I'm not praying enough.
But if I can just hold on to an edible
edible Islam, who local Islam, good character that a lot is proper that taught me
then I'll be fine.
Then I'll be fine. With myself with my family with people around me with everyone, then I'll be fine.
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what's interesting is
fine, it's fine to say that you love them now how do you love them?
How do you love them? And do your ads actually support that claim of love or not?
Because it's easy to say that I love him. So the law early earlier was similar. But you find sometimes people doing some, you know, sort of unusual things and things that he would not approve of. He wouldn't approve of it. And he said, I do that for his for my love, for the love for a book as I love the prophets always in them.
Well, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said something that if you truly love him, should propel you to action.
In Amina have become Ilia are in Armenia, wakaba Kamini Marisa neoma chiamata hasin Hussey, Toluca,
the people that I love the most
and who will be seated closest to me on the Day of Judgment are people with the best character.
So when you hear that it can't be that you say I love Mohammed Salah lo Allah, you it was similar, but I just simply don't want to be next to him? Or do I want them not to look like him? Or do I don't want to behave like him? So ask yourself, do you want to be close to him on the day of judgment? You say yes, is it the province always gonna have the best of character.
And it's just natural for him to be or to want people of the same character around him.
Right. And for him to love people who have the best character around him. It's natural.
To me and another Heidi that will come back to this hadith and another Hadith. Just to explain the character of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a man comes to him a bedroom, outside of Medina.
And Bedouins by just by the fact this by the environment that they grow around. It's a harsh, rough environment, right. So they are also harsh and rough. Different than the urbanized. If you are urban, they're a bit more sophisticated and gentle. I bet would know your rough, tough harsh.
So he comes to the profits, a lot of you it was cinnamon, the prophet is walking with some companions, and the Prophet is wearing something that is thick, and rough also.
So he holds him by his clothes, builds the provenance and and buys clothes,
pulls him towards him tightly and doesn't let go. And the Sahabi says I could see the mark that this was leaving on the neck and the shoulder of the prophets will allow us to market
and it hurts when he's pulling him. And he says yeah, Mohammed.
Often even Mandela, give me from the money that I've given you. Right? That's how rough they are.
Now, I want you to hear before I continue on, tell you the response of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, for us to be honest with ourselves and say if somebody came and do that to you, what are you going to go? What do you do?
Push him That's easy. Punch him maybe start a fight with him. And this is we're just average people. You're walking down the street of brother Kevin says, you know, maybe you've seen him in the masjid. Maybe you're not maybe just another Muslim was to you know, passing by holds you by your jacket and says, Give me money. Give me money, give me money.
Same thing, you have money, brother, I don't have money, give me money.
You know, if you don't insult him and his parents and his tribe and his country, you turn because that's the natural response of a lot of people. If you don't, you know, punch him to the ground and keep punching. Okay? Okay. This is an average person.
Now imagine if a person if you're, you know, you own your own business, and you have your you know, your employer employees around you. Somebody comes in does that to you in front of them comes to the office and does that to you in front of people that you're managing, and challenges, you know, your power and prestige and honor. Now imagine on top of that, if you're sort of the leader of a people, and he comes in he shakes you like that, what are you going to do? And you have the power to punish him and no is going on is going to say no to you.
See, a lot of times we don't punish other people. You know why? Because we're afraid. That test is what if you have power and you can punish, will you still punish? Will you still forgive? That's the test. The province doesn't have the power to punish and he can, he can just tell one of those habits, take care of them and they will. But then he turns to him and he smiles holifield Casa de la he forgot
to him in Manila. He turns to him he smiles and he says give him money.
And that is the end of it and just keeps walking. That's the
Conclusion of it.
Now, this is wasn't planned. You can plan on being nice, right? Today I'm going to be nice and I'm going to go in shoreline to this mall, I'm going to be nice to everybody. When I'm going to go in Shaolin to the masjid, smiles, free smiles to everybody that I'm going to meet during the last three years, Salaam Alaikum hamdulillah. This is good, but this is planned. But also, what if you're having a bad day or a bad day, just fought with your wife or wife has just been fought with her husband or they fought with the kids? Right? And you still want to see anybody you don't want to talk to anybody. And somebody comes in, you know, tells you, you know, give me
all of your frustrations are going to be put on that person right? across the across you in the wrong time. Wrong place. So this is unplanned. From the profits of a lot of us and it's just happened to be able to cultivate the ability to be good, naturally good. Always good. doesn't come by just deciding that you want it to be good. No, it comes from Allah subhana wa tada and having a man, because the man is that fuel? Right? That few that's going to tell you no, no, no, don't punish. Forgive.
Right. When we go back to this Howdy, then I will give you an example. Come back to the Hadith where he said, Why in
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una muchacha de una.
He said, and those that I hate the most, and will be furthest away from me and sitting on the Day of Judgment are people with bad character?
They will be very distant from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.
So how can you accept that and how can you tolerate that to say I love him. And he's my example. And I want to be saved on the day of judgment and the same time. You're living a life that puts you so far away from him. So a lot of us and then he mentioned a few characters that are hated and disliked. He said, a thorough una alum watershed, the Conan with a boon. He says the bloggers who talk a lot
and pretend to be eloquent. And I'm proud when they speak.
That's roughly what it means. Meaning that when they talk, they like to talk they don't listen, they like to talk and talk and talk and talk. They dominate every place that they go by their by by their speech, and they pretend to know and pretend to be eloquent. Right? And they move their mouth in a way to prevent or to fabricate eloquence, and they speak with pride and arrogance. It says these people
So this is something that you have to avoid. I knew we have to avoid.
Why is important in Islam?
Because the Prophet sallallaahu Selim said in a hadith
and this is what he said, but inshallah becomes Hassan with the other show.
When he said to her without all the Allahu anhu
and our bureau can be so damn unwise or whatever the Nick is known
for in Nicoletta Kala habemus Lima.
So shall I not tell you about
the best things to do and the easiest
The best and the easiest physically to do Shall I not tell you about these two things? said yes, Prophet of Allah. He said good character, and extended silence.
For indeed, you're not going to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala was something like them.
How easy is it to have good character?
How easy is it to forgive?
How is it? How easy is it? I'm not saying that it's easy, but I'd like physically compare that to saying to someone pray the whole night.
If it's developed,
being silent or quiet and listening more than talking, how easy is that? actually having to do you will spend less energy, right? You're spending less energy when you're quiet.
So this has to do something so that you're listening more than talking. You're learning. Right? Total some extended silence. It doesn't mean for instance, that it never speak.
sigh so we have to understand properly we never speak and say you know brotherhood, what do you want to eat?
Not talking, you know? No, not that that's an extreme.
You know, the prophet SAW he said, I'm always you know, always look how he lived that that's the implementation of what he said. So it doesn't mean that don't talk but it says like, an extended silent for you don't talk about things that you don't need to talk about, like Don't blabber right? You don't engage in idle speech
for extended periods, and also personally,
I said that it is the fuel of a man Why am I saying that it is the fuel of the man.
Let me give you an example that comes from a Hadith, right?
That you can't have good character really, without
a man without believing in the Day of Judgment.
The prophets of Allah Allah, you will send them sidman color Mohave on to a noon feeder.
To multi armed, they had the Euro home in an ad a year to hoonah Sha omaka.
It says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who holds inside keeps inside an anger.
And he's able to let it out. Right?
Right. But he holds it inside keeps it inside.
He says Allah subhanho wa Taala on the Day of Judgment,
will call him in public
and offer him a choice of any of the hood or a woman of Paradise that he can choose from them, whomever he wants.
Now, that is a very interesting Heidi Sawyer.
That's a very interesting study. Let's understand the first part of it. And the connection between this and that. So what is the connection between holding back your anger, and then Allah subhanho wa Taala asking you to choose, you know, as we said,
as the connection. So here is a person, think of yourself here is you and you're angry.
And you're able to let this anger, okay, be externalized.
You can go and you can take this person,
or you can go and shout at them. Or you can go and insult them. Right?
or punish them whatever way, whatever way, right? take money away from them. Whatever way you can punish this person, because you're angry,
no repercussions. You don't you know, you're not afraid of the consequences. You can do it. Like we said about the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you could punish that person, there would be no consequences. You can punish. But then you decide.
That's very difficult.
And that's bitter. Because you need to swallow that bitterness. I really want to tell him something, want to really just let him know his place. A really want to like, insult his parents as he insulted my parents insult his country insult his tribe and salt as he as he did. Because bitter. McCann take it. And you find some people sometimes, especially if you're beginning just to try to control the anger boiling.
I can't, I can't do it.
So there you have a choice. And you chose the bitter choice, the bitter thing, the difficult one.
And sometimes even people may not know about it, right? You're so angry, but it's just to keep it inside.
The man asked you why are you doing this?
If you think of secular ethics, secular ethics, right? No Day of Judgment, no Allah, nothing. Why are you doing this? And you can scream at that person, right? And sometimes they tell you that you have to express your emotions because they are best for you. Right? And if you keep it bottled inside, it will eat you up inside and it's not good, right? So you just have to let it out screen.
So why are you making that choice?
Because maybe you've heard that Hadith.
And you said to yourself, I either can insult him and be done.
Or I can preserve by the by reward till the time that I meet Allah subhanho wa Taala
and that reward will be more lasting and better and sweeter.
Either I can punish this person.
Which panela you miski
you have to think like that miskeen. Maybe he's angry because something is wrong with his life and his life. Maybe today wasn't a good day for him. Maybe if I go and reciprocate and insult back right? That's going to add to the misery in his life.
So you look at him now not with the eye of anger but with the eye of mercy and forgiveness.
This is a slave of the slaves of Allah subhana wa abdomen
Hey guys, so today How do I want to actually deal with this person? And Allah is his Lord.
Right? And the Lord wants him to be guided.
Do I push him into Hellfire or closer to it or I bring him closer to heaven?
Soon he thinks like that.
And you swallow your anger.
Allah subhanho wa Taala now gives you a choice, like the choice that you had in the dunya right now gives you a choice on the Day of Judgment, because you chose something bitter and difficult. And it was what internalized insight, right? There are lots of panels on the Day of Judgment, what makes it public. So and So son of so and so come, right? That's the honor come,
choose? What is it that you want, and you will choose a choice for a choice.
So the next time that you're angry, and you have the chance to punch someone by or do something bad to them, you ask yourself?
Am I just satisfied with this, you know, trivial thing in this dunya? Or you want something great in the hereafter? Do I want to honor them? And that choice then?
And first domino paradise? No, you're crazy. It lives that for just, you know, punching someone.
So Subhana Allah.
And, you know, it's the same thing for the sisters. It's the same thing for the sisters, you know, because of course, the sisters will ask, you know, not that the sisters are going to choose part of the woman of paradise. I'm not saying that. I'm saying that, that Allah subhana wa, tada will offer them a compensation that Allah knows about. offer them a compensation, you just think about it, something that would be very sweet, incredibly sweet. That is worth your while. worth your patience.
Right? But likelihood is that the prophets Allah sent him was mentioning men, is because typically men have the power in society. Right? And they could launch war or they can have peace.
That's what typically happens. And as the leaders, right historically, as the leaders, they have to pay special attention to their anger, but woman as well. So we were talking about this unit for our brothers, it's the same very same thing for our sisters as well, to hold back your anger when you are with your husband, when What do you offer your kid you can discipline but we're talking about unjustified anger, anger that can lead to the opposite effect of what you want.
Why, or let's discuss in sha Allah, the
some of the characteristics of a flop in Islam. And then after that, I will talk about specific law that I think are important in the modern age.
What are some of the characteristics of the law in Islam?
One of them is that they are
They're not superficial.
As we've explained, the penetrates and they enter your heart, and they enter your mind and they transform your entire being.
So as I said, it is easy for us to casually Be polite. Right?
casually say Salaam Alaikum alaikum. Salaam to smile. How are you doing? Brother hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah as part of good character, people that you see the non Muslims they smile on your face sometimes, right? How are you doing polite politeness, that type of politeness that's casual. It's also easy. And a lot of it is also motivated by again the disciplining effect of the economy. But it's also easy.
But what we want and the lack of Islam penetrates your entire being your entire life, wherever you are, and whatever you are doing.
We can take that from
something that happened with Omaha probably alone
when he was a halifa.
So someone came to testify for Shahada justify.
So Omar said to him,
color it needless to say, 30 women Yeah.
He said, I don't know you.
And he said, What can he do? He says, I don't know you and it really doesn't harm you. That I don't know you as the Kayla has an even more meaning it doesn't harm me that I don't know you. But bring me someone who knows you, too, for me to accept your testimony fall.
So someone who was around a model the law and who said follow me around means I know.
metaphors. So he said, What do you know him as? What is his character or something like that?
He says, I know him to be upright. He could not
Now, this is a teaching of Roma. This is what Omar is teaching
ojochal Edna. Daddy hula hula Holla Holla Holla Holla Maharajah, he says is your closest neighbor. Right?
And you know, his days and nights,
and ins and outs.
Is your closest neighbor. Meaning that if he is your closest neighbor by beside you,
then you know anything about everything about him, especially those times, maybe today, we're not very close to our neighbors. But at that time, you'll know him very well.
What he does at night, what he does in the morning when he comes in when he comes out, does he harm you?
Or not? Does he help you or not? Is he an affable kind person? Or mean spirited? What kind of person is he? Because as a neighbor, really, you can't pretend all the time. Maybe I can pretend once or twice in the mistake I can pretend you know, in my home camp. This is beyond human ability to pretend.
So and that's why, if you want to know if you are a good person, don't ask yourself. Because a for each person likes to believe that he and she are good. As your neighbor
laid out the entirety find
a job? Ask your neighbor, you go to ask him you say Am I a good person? They will tell you if you're good or not.
Not you vouching for yourself somebody else vouching for you. Or maybe asking your friend if your friend is honest.
Am I a good person? Right? And they are able to pass that judgment, then they will tell you.
So. So he says, Are you his neighbor? He said no.
Hello, America dinner You did?
And then you suddenly became Ah, he says, Did he deal with you? in dollars and cents? Did not under harm, by which it indicates his piety?
Did he sell to you? Did you buy from him?
He said no.
So that's the other thing. Right? Money, right? will show what your true metal is.
A lot of relationships are ruined over money, friendships broken, families fight by they stop talking to each other over money.
Because money will show your character. Is he generous now when he was dealing with you when he was selling and buying or not? Was he honest or not? Did he lie and cheat? Or did he not? Was he stingy or not? That will uncover your character.
Right? You can't hide it then.
Because we have a lot of money.
So he said No, he's not.
then he told them I'm just trying to remember the last thing he asked him so I'll take this opportunity to drink.
So the first thing he asked him was about him being what is the first thing that he asked him Come on help me.
neighbor was the next day was the second thing.
Money. How is he with money?
Paul, the third one
led us to the lwv Allah Karim Allah Allah, Allah Allah, Allah was he your companion during travel? by which it indicates his character?
He says no.
He says go away. You don't know him. Then he turns to him. And he says bring me someone who knows you.
Because travel also write it will uncover your true character. Because it puts pressure on you. Right? There's a pressure of leaving family, the pressure, just the burden that the physical burden of travel so it's tight, it's really hard then to pretend and fake it. So your true metal your true nature will show itself. So he's saying that if you did not experience him during these three stages or three things, different things that you don't really know the true character of that person. So there are a lot of Islam are not superficial characters, but they supposed to sink deep inside as far as your Eman sinks
as far as your Eman sinks. So no matter who you're around when you're dealing with Muslim or non Muslim
families or not
Are people that you know, are not people that you like or not, you're always by observing these good, because it's not for the sake of that person primarily, but it is for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala first and foremost,
are self generating.
That's what you don't find anywhere else they are self generating. Why? Because as far as much as you generate email and you generate
when your email is strong, your clock should also rise.
And because you are generating or you try to increase your email and and regenerate your email, by reading Quran and by obeying Allah subhanho wa Taala, that is also should be reflected in your flap as well. secular ethics, secular manners suffer.
They like that point.
What they also like is that in Islam, you have someone who's observing you, who has Allah subhanho wa Taala at all times. And also you are self motivated, you are observing yourself. Why? Because you want to be close to Allah subhanho wa Taala something that is secular. Right? Think think of
ethics in business. We talked about that a little bit.
corporations who sell and buy
are they part of society?
Shouldn't they also be ethical? Why do they lie to us?
Why do they have the information, right? And the things that they market?
Why they win the market, right? They prey on our weaknesses. So we can buy this product, even though it is not good for us. And we don't need it.
Why if there is something that is not good for us in it, they hide it or they minimize it.
Why all of this
if you are a Muslim who fears Allah subhanho wa Taala your business transactions, how way that you sell in the way that you buy, how honest you are, will be reflected in the product that you're selling. So these big corporations that wreak havoc on people's health, and on the economy as a result, and on the environment are doing that because they can
And they have the wealth and they have the means that they have the lawyers to escape punishment, and delay it.
But a Muslim who believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala and fearsome knows, if I escape it here, I won't escape it over there.
And if I cheat people a lot will not bless what I have.
So he internally will monitor himself.
And this is something that any secular system of ethics and morality does not have.
And each one of us is emotionally invested in the flock of Islam, just because of some of the things that I mentioned. Just because someone can come and tell you if you do this, you will go to heaven. And if you don't do it, you can go to hellfire. And you immediately are invested in saying the truth
and avoiding line
and in organizing your life as a whole.
So why do people let's take this example and bring you know for it another Hadith?
Why do people lie and cheat?
Because they think that they can get more of this dunya right.
We can get more of it so I will lie and cheat to get it. The prophets have a lot of you it was Selim he said
our Bala Baraka
Matata Camilla Marie dounia
Nana was a casa de
la wife automaton.
It says for things that they are if they are in you
don't worry about the things of this life that pass you and that you don't get.
You keep the trust of people and things that are around you. Hey boy, Nana, you're trustworthy.
You're honest when you're speak.
You have good character and you eat what you're allowed to eat. You stay away from the hotel.
If you think about all of these things, right.
I will cheat and I will lie and I violate violate Alice commands Why? Because I will lie because I want this thing to sell. So I will lie.
I will lie because I want to eat this thing and it's hot I'm so I will like and break the law of Allah subhanho wa Taala
I will have bad character right
Because I want more. Yeah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says are guaranteed for me through his prophets always sending me saying guarantee for me that you don't lie, and that you don't cheat and that you have good character. You don't need anything Haram. I don't worry about the dunya because nothing of the dunya is going to actually be lost. I will bring it to
you follow me. I'll bring it to you don't think that if you lie, you will lose anything, you'll be honest. And I will preserve this right for you have good character, because people why? Why do people have bad character? Why do they lie and cheat? Some are worse in some societies.
And some Muslim societies as well say everybody's lying.
If you don't lie, you're not going to get what is yours. Everybody likes to get this thing. Everybody pays a bribe to get this thing. Everybody cheats to get this thing. If you don't do it, you'll be left behind.
If you don't do it, you'll be left behind. You will suffer.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying you won't just speak the truth, have good character. Don't steal people's stuff thinking that you know this is the only way to get what is yours. No leave it and allow will bring you all that you deserve and need from this dunya Allah will bring it to you.
You know there's a story
prayer seven, right. Okay, so there's a story from Abu kateri Gianni Rahim Allah is one of the owner of Islam right. I don't want to visit her. So he said when I left the Gilan
my mother gave her gave me 40 dinars.
And he she had taken for me the oath to be honest at all times.
So while he was traveling in the caravan,
thieves game and interrupted them, him and the caravan.
And one by one they fleeced them. That is the one by one they asked her how much money do you have? How much money do you have? How much money you give us what you have? So people like try to hide it.
So when it comes time to a Ducati, she had to hide it
tells him I have 40 dinars, just volunteers. I have 40 dinars. Maybe even before, you know, somebody asked them I have 40 dinars. He thought he was kidding.
Right. So he left him. The next person came I have 40 dinars.
He said, so what's wrong with this was really forthcoming and honest, you know, about what he has, you know, it's like, if somebody intercepts you like this, you know, and he says, gives you a Give me your money. And he said, here's my wallet. And by the time you know, by the way, you know, My watch is really expensive. And I have, you know, these checks over here. And the quote to my credit card is this. This is everything that I have. And if you go with me back home, I have a couple of 1000 stormo, Ian or something like that, really forthcoming. You know, so this is what's wrong with this person. They took him to the leader.
The leader says why you bring him to me, it says he's, he says he has 40 dinars. And he keeps insisting he has 40 dinars. He says, Come here. Why?
He says, I gave my mother a promise, that when I leave, I'll never tell a lie.
And I have 40 dinars, these are 40 dinos.
That person said Pamela, that affected him so much, because of this thing that she kept the other thing that affected him so much. He started crying. He said, You made a promise to your mother, and you still kept it. And we have an oath between us and a loss upon our dad and we can keep it and we break it every day. He started crying.
He says by Allah subhanaw taala I quit this lifestyle. I'm done.
So the people around him right? Either the helpers, he said, You're the leader. If you're quitting, we're quitting.
If you're going to return to repenting with you, instead of just being honest, right? Allah subhanho wa Taala saved him, save the 14 hours and extended that Baraka and saved those people as well. So you think then, right, I'm not asking you to necessarily be as forthcoming and to volunteer. What you have as shakable Clozaril him all I did, but that you think then that if I lie, I will keep it and it will be safe.
No the profits a lot of what he was telling me says, nah, Mayo, Luka, it will not harm you. none of this matters of the deal will will harm you, and you will receive no harm. Just speak the truth.
Just speak the truth. And at the same time also, don't compete with people so much that you still there is because if I don't then I won't have anything. No
If it's theirs, let it be theirs and Allah will give you yours. Right? And eat healthy. I don't think if I don't don't need that I'll be hungry. I'll be homeless. I'll be no eat halala and then Allah Spano tala is telling you then everything will come your way Bismillah as though the Allah wants to see.
Do you trust him or not? And what character do you have? That's what a lot of Allah wants to see.
So I want to move on in sha Allah, this is the last phase of today's talk with Neela on some characters,
that are needed in the modern world, and I think, Muslims, I believe that Muslims should become the champions of these.
And not only not only be satisfied of implementing these blocks in themselves and in their societies, but also advance these blocks outside and preached and outside.
And the first hole of really, and I think the most important topic as far as I can see it, and the laws or lose best, the most important
is that of higher,
And you know what higher is
higher is to be shy, but really you can translate it as just being shy, is to be shy,
and put a distance between you and indecency,
between you and vulgarity in speech and in action. Right, even suggested language, suggestive acts, to put a distance between you and hurting and harming someone else. Right? That's what higher is, you feel shy
to do that.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in nearly Cooley, Dean and DeLuca
why no local, Islamic higher.
He says in the authentic hadith, it says every religion has a dominant characteristic to it.
and the dominant characteristic of Islam is what? Higher
the people of every faith, right equal people, every religion have a distinguishing character to them. Maybe let's say for instance, a distinguishing character in some people is forgiveness, or in some people for instances mercy or in some people for instances bravery. lohana. But he says, among the old characters, and although Islam has all these characters in totality, but the distinguishing the main, the most prominent character is that of higher
because higher is the key to every good character, and manner that will follow. If you have higher, you have all religion, if you don't have higher, then you've lost religion.
And what did they cease to say about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam can shed the higher admin on
his higher imagine he was more shy
than than the virgin
in her secluded chamber. So talking to unmarried woman, right? Usually she doesn't hasn't seen any man.
Right? And she's in her inner chamber. Right? So there's a distance between her and society as a whole.
As they say, they said handed over ledger Harada ledger doesn't come in, Come out, come in and out. When you do that, right. When you mix with people a lot, right? You become very familiar right with what they say and how to act and you become brave, emboldened to act and speak. Right? You follow me? Right? The more that you interact with people, the more emboldened you are, but if you start interacting with people, right, and you're more secluded, okay, you're more reserved.
So he said his higher was greater than the higher of that lady in her secluded chamber. If something someone would say something to the prophets, a lot of them that he wouldn't like, his face would change. That's it, his face would change. They would know it by his face, how he changes. If somebody says something
bad or does something bad,
he wouldn't confront him.
That's his hire. He wouldn't confront him. He doesn't want to upset him. He doesn't want to embarrass him because you can as the leader you can. You
can you didn't do anything wrong. You remember when you did this stand up or something like that. You can embarrass but he wasn't like this a lot. He was he would give he would stand and we said my value for money if I don't get Okay. Why are some people doing this and that people wouldn't know who he's talking
About the person would know, that is higher.
So this higher is the key to every good character. The reason that I'm saying that it is one of the most important characters is because that is the dominant character in Islam. And because when you look at the modern world, it's vanishing, even among Muslims is vanishing.
Because the modern, especially through technology, right,
you will see every indecency everywhere and you become very accustomed to it. And your heart, it's hard, very hard to stay away from it, see, become accustomed to indecent speech.
Right. It's widespread. And in fact, especially if you grew up in the area,
in a non Muslim country, but even some had a lot. These days, sometimes there's no difference. Even sometimes in some Muslim countries, you want to look cool and hip and nice. You have to be edgy.
And to be edgy, you have to use foul language. You have to fight. You have to use foul language. That's how you get respect. Get initiated into the group.
There is no hierarchy.
Right? You watch TV, you listen to music. It's all about what you know, by sex, it's all about that. And very indecent, and there is no higher and you begin, if you're not careful enough, you begin to absorb that type of speech, and crack the same type of jokes, without paying attention to it, and share the same type of pictures without paying attention to it.
And there's no decency anymore. There is no higher anymore.
And part of the higher of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that he was used euphemism when he has to speak about these things. And he gentler words, allegory, you understand euphemisms, rites and allegory? Right. You know, you know, if I don't want to say that this is a bottle, I will say the thing that has water
the thing that has water, if saying, let's say bottle is vulgar, right? I would use other words, right for it. So if he had to speak about some of the views, the best speech, why? Because he doesn't spread indecency. And there is this hierarchy. And that hierarchy is missing. And it's shrinking even among us Muslims as well.
Because of the dominant culture, because of the modern culture, and we have to fight that. Because if we lose our higher then we lose our Islam. And I want to emphasize that especially when it comes to the young,
especially when it comes to the young, you really have to learn that higher.
Okay, you really have to learn that higher part of the higher of the prophets. All he said was that he wasn't allowed.
Don't be loud.
Right? You see a lot of people and they're very loud. Don't be loud.
Right when you talk, okay.
McKenna sahab and Phil as well, as they described him sort of low are you anyway. So there is higher there is soft speech, there is gentle speech, there is proper speech, right? And there's that if you find that there is something that is indecent and vulgar, right? You stay away from it. Right, you stay away from it. If there's something that is gonna upset someone, right, without a need upset someone embarrass someone, you stay away from it.
And you develop that higher and the more that you have business, now imagine it Allah subhana wa Tada, and you observe him, and you feel that he's watching you, the more that you will have that higher.
And I want to also emphasize that for our sisters as well,
right, our sisters as well, because wearing the hijab,
wearing the hijab is not just a cloth that you put on your head,
right? It's not just a piece of cloth that you have on your head, a hijab is a barrier, a distance that you put between you and indecency, in general,
and part of that is also keeping a proper decorum. The way that you talk the way that you walk the way that you mingle with people, it's all has higher in it, right? has higher,
right? I won't say more, but I hope that you understand that should hire, don't be very loud. Okay? To be very loud. Right? Use the best language, right? And also, if there is no need, for instance, right? With mixing when it comes to mixing with men and women, right? Don't take it to an excessive end. Right? You're outside cracking jokes with this person exchanging this with that person, you lose the higher you lose that distance between you and indecent indecency.
So this higher is something that is of the hurdle of annual Islam, you have to keep it.
The next thing inshallah, that I want to discuss is that of patience,
that of patience.
Something that is in short supply in the modern world, right?
is patience. We're not patient anymore. Technology maybe had made us impatient, but we're not patient anymore. Because we're so used to things being
instant and instantaneous. We want them right here right now.
And you see, you can see how upset we are.
You know, when we lose access to our phone,
right, you lose access to the phone,
and you don't know what to do. And you're lost.
You don't know what to do, how can I live without knowing if somebody emailed me or not? Somebody texted me or not. Somebody called me or not. And then if somebody had a low if somebody would text someone and say, I texted him, he saw that I saw that I said that I say, you know, he's he saw my message.
Where's the reply?
What is he doing an hour passes? Not that that is way too much now should have replied by now. Two hours, five hours.
I've never never replied, you know, talk to this person. I will show him. I will show him that. There is no patience. There's no like no patience. Right?
Good. You're driving people are impatient. Right? Kids with their parents are very impatient. Oh, by the way, yes. Yes. This very important. I want to go back to the higher part of the higher I'm sorry, part of the higher elders. Right, respecting elders, part of the higher as well. How do you talk to your elders? You know, do you see how?
Well do you see, I don't want to say I don't want to like pinpoint. But do you see how some talk to their parents? Right?
It's like an equal,
like an equal. Right. And they sometimes they call them by their names, and they scream at them, and no one knew and right. So where is this higher of the respect of the elders. In fact, one of the problems that you have in the modern is the disrespect of the elderly.
Really, the disrespect the disdain, and I'm going to get this right, the disdain and contempt that you have for the elders. Because once you pass a certain age, you're irrelevant. your opinions are irrelevant. You are a burden. Your children are going to roll their eyes whenever you do what they die when you talk to them. This old guy this old, they don't make any sense. Right? What are you talking about? Now, maybe I'm not gonna tell you the elders always make sense. But also there's respect. Right? There are manners. What do you imagine that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would be standing right next to you when you're making this comment.
And he's the one who said everything he said about respecting the parents and respecting the elders in general. And he would be happy with the way that you're acting. Right? You can assert your identity, you can assert what you believe, but also with respect and this happened with this higher.
So elders respecting parents and respecting elders, right. Right. That's sort of higher and as well. So we go back to patience. Patience is something that we need to learn. relearn, and and hamdulillah we have enough in the area of Islam to teachers, patients, you have fasting to teach you patience. You have to teach you patience, right? You want to learn patience, you really want to learn patience.
For your prayers on time.
But not only your prayers on time, what before the time of the solid comes right? Go make your do and make it right.
Then walk to the masjid or come to the masjid if it's far and you're praying at home, that's fine. Pray at home stand, right stand and take time when you're praying. Say hello according to time when you reciting and 30
till you finish your Salah. And when you're done with your Salah, you see a lot of kids doing that. As soon as they finish the Salah what happens. What happens when they finish the Salah?
the run. It's like you know you open the gates, you're done. No. Sit and do the TSP sit down and do the display. Right.
So panela not Spanish Spanish Spanish one as far as I'm done with Father God, right? That doesn't do anything. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. Okay, that doesn't do a lot. So Panama City Subhana Allah Subhana Allah Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Subhana Allah, why am I doing this sapan a lot because I want you to do it's upon Allah subhanaw taala
sapan ally, this calms you down, right? This calms you down, you know all of them, talking about meditation, right, and breathing and all of that, okay, this calms you down. This teaches you patience. And you will feel the effects of that. Right? on how you interact with other people, how you don't lose your temper, how you're able to absorb more of their insults or injuries, right? You were able to absorb all of that. Why? Because you're peaceful, you're peaceful, you're at peace, and that piece has come because you decided to slow down. Right? So the panel, ah, I mean, there are some non Muslims who are doing this, they realize the effect that is this is having on their lives,
and they're doing that they go for meditation, right. And they sit very quietly, they turn off their cell phone, right? They don't want to be bothered, they want to concentrate. And they feel peaceful afterwards.
So if you're agitated, if you're anxious, and all of that you already have something that a lot put in your life, which is the center, among other things. So we have to learn patience, not only learn patience, teaches then to others afterwards.
So you have to teach it to your children. So never be satisfied with them that as soon as they are finished in there so that they run outside of the mystery. I know you sit right next to me, right next to me, why is he in the masjid bring him sit next to me and learn something from me, which is what they say that this be
with with understanding, see the idea with understanding sila, Ada in the law with understanding learn this from me, because you have to pass it on to them.
So we talked about hierarchy. Very briefly, inshallah, we talked about how he talks about patience. And you said, you may say, Well, I'm not a patient person, how am I? How can I do it? You know, what's the path to it?
He said that the prophets of Allah ru ru Salaam says that it's a gradual process.
So you have to take steps, right? take steps, and you will be able to be patient a little bit today. And you build on that. And you'll be patient a little bit more tomorrow, at home with the Hello, forbearance being patient comes with practice, right? And you will be able to do this don't say this is my nature. We talked about this before, but maybe a long time ago. Don't say that. This is my nature. I can't change. If you cannot change and I cannot change and he cannot change and she cannot change. Whom did our last panel data reveal this religion to?
If none of us can change, you go to a Muslim you tell them accept Islam, tell them hear you I can't change.
All of us can change. All of us have the ability to change. So if you want it, you go for it. And you ask Allah subhana wa Taala for assistance and one of the days of the prophets of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah He was in them when he stands in the Salah into artistic. What he says were just what he had in love, he forgot so now what you will also hanifa Muslim woman eminent mushrikeen in the sodality Juana Suki oma Haryana Mattila de la sharika comida de comida to one hour muslimeen a la maggini la sunny la la de la la la
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scene in the saga right before he reads the Fatiha part of what he says Salalah while he was with me, Allah guide me to the best of actions and manners, you're the only one who can guide to them and your love protect me from the worst of acts and manners, you're the only one who can protect from them. So you ask Allah subhana wa Taala to protect from the evil manners and character to give you good character, and you practice it and you practice it and you practice it and by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala you will change and I will change it all of us will change. And the very last thing in Sharla that I will say is forgiveness. We also have to learn forgiveness, because a lot of
or many of us don't have that capacity for forgiveness. And Allah subhana wa tada through His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had informed us that if we want a lot to forgive us, we have to be willing to forgive other people. Right? And that when we forgive other people,
Allah subhanho wa Taala will compensate us better than what we left in the hereafter and we will feel better. We really will feel better.
So do you have an option when you've won if you ever there is
Something that irks you or bothers you about someone, you can stay angry and it will hurt you, first and foremost, it will hurt you, you will agitate it will bother you second.
Oh inshallah, now I forgot about that. inshallah, it will, you will add, you will be agitated because of it. Or you can decide to have a clean heart. And you say, I will forgive for Allah sake,
and you will feel better. inshallah, we can say more about that in a minute, but I just wanted to actually to introduce the two Holocaust, that we're going to be having been in that region. So before we go for Asia.
within Africa, Booker explained, we'll be I'll be introducing and the minister will be introducing two new or one halaqaat, one course with Neela. So the first halaqa will be Fridays, after Isha prayer. So every Friday after Isha prayer, and it's about the purification of the heart and the reformation of the soul, to skia, to see what it's like to do, what basically will be good and doing there in sha Allah is that I've collected 40, Heidi's authentic by the word by the will of Allah Subhana, wa Taala, all about this manner. And each week, we'll be dealing with one heavy, we'll take it, we'll understand it, we'll understand how to apply it, I will try to take the rest of the week
by the end of our last panel data to practice it. So that course is supposed to be it's a halaqa. But I also think of it as a course meaning that I would ask you to actively participate in it, not just listen,
to come, right. And these 40 headings in shallow should be available at the bookstore, to come to take notes to write down the benefits, then if you have or if you can memorize the headings. If not in Arabic, then at least in English, no one is going to test you but for your own self. Then you take the rest of the week and you practice it, you practice it and you practice it by the will of Allah azza wa jal and you teach it to others as well, because that's what we want to do. And this is open for everybody. It's free of charge. So inshallah I hope that you can come and participate. The next week, inshallah is going to start on the eighth. And there will be an introduction that is
going to tell us what we are going to do, how we are going to do it, and very importantly, why this topic is important. Right? What are you going to take from it? So that's what we're gonna be doing in sha Allah next week. On Saturday Bismillah zoldan. if Allah wills it,
there's going to be a
course for the youth. Right? And youth loosely defined and inshallah if you are
young experience, no matter what you are, how old you are, or if you can attend it doesn't really matter. There are no restrictions there is going to be about foundations of belief in Islam according to understand the foundational beliefs in Islam, according to our Gemma we're going to be using and utilizing the book, which will also define our Gemma by shape.dr muscle. So that's the book that are going to be our reference, but inshallah we'll expand beyond it. So if you want to understand the basics of belief, the basics of Islam the basics of a man according to understand our Gemma that is a course that is for you, and more information about that inshallah, but registration
should be available at the bookstore and with the administration. But I also really I want to urge you that if you want to take advantage of it, please rush and register because we will not be able to offer this course if nobody registers right. So please Zakouma here, register as soon as you can. And inshallah I think that's what we have for today. I think maybe we're cutting it very close to Asia. So just low Halo and if somebody by you know any chance they have you have a question and I can answer it in sha Allah I'll be available after Isha