Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
Explanation of the 33 & 34 hadiths of the Heart Therapy Series:
33) A young man came to the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam and said: O Messenger of Allah, allow me to commit zina. The people turned to him and scolded him and said: Stop! The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said:Come closer.So he came closer and sat down. He asked him: Would you like this for your mother?He said: No, by Allah O Messenger of Allah, may Allah make me your ransom. He said: And people dont like it for their mothers. He asked him: Would you like this for your daughter? He said: No, by Allah O Messenger of Allah, may Allah make me your ransom. He said: And people dont like it for their daughters. He asked him: Would you like this for your sister? He said: âNo, by Allah, may Allah make me your ransom. He said: And people dont like it for their sisters. He asked him: Would you like this for your paternal aunt? He said: No, by Allah, may Allah make me your ransom. He said: And people dont like it for their paternal aunts. He asked him: Would you like this for your maternal aunt? He said: No, by Allah, may Allah make me your ransom. He said: And people dont like it for their maternal aunts. Then he put his hand on him and said: O Allah, forgive him his sin, purify his heart, and make him chaste.After that, the young man never paid attention to anything of that nature.)
Reported by Ahmad (22211) and al-Tabarani. Al-Iraqi declared it to be a hadith with a good chain. Al-Haythami, al-Albani (al-Silsilah al-Sahihah 370), and Shuayb al-Arnaut declared it to be sahih.
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smilla hamdulillah salatu salam ala rasulillah
So inshallah tonight we're doing Hadith number 33 and we'll see how it goes in Sharla has had it number 34 is close to this howdy so I have sort of a 50% plan of doing both of them but we'll see how it goes inshallah so we have enough time can do both but if not, we'll do it 3334 of the next week inshallah. So 433
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at an ABS of Allahu Allah, He will send them alejado sudo LA, even Li be Xena. So I'm gonna just read a few sentences you know just a sentence and translated because you know longer than usual. So in a certain Shaban a young man
came to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam
and he said he are a sort of law old messenger of Allah He then leaves Xena Give me the even the permission to commit Zina to practice in
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So the people turn to him like the people around the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when they heard that request, they turned to him physically.
They scolded him. What do you
mean stop? Right? So say stop stop
him, so he told him
and he come close. So probably some call to him and he said Come closer. But then I didn't even qualify jealous. So he came close to the profits of the law while he was alone, and he sat down.
The property owner said I'm nosy and asked him a series of questions and then the young man is gonna answer but to hibou Julio MC, it says would you love this for your mother?
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he says no, by Allah. May Allah ransom me, ransom me for you. Meaning if you are in harm's way like if your capture and this is a common phrase, Jelani now if you're captured, if you're in harm's way, may I be in your place and you'll be safe. So this is what janila houfy
right? You know, may I be sacrificed for you there need
to ask them to make Holla Holla
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Call Allah willingness kabuna Holy vannatta him he says and also people don't like it for their daughters of whatever Who do you think do you like it for your sister? It is no same response now Allahu jalin in delfy so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said the willingness to use a boon Oh yeah, how about him and also people don't like it for their sisters out there. Hey Boolean medic. Would you like it for your aunt from your father's side paternal end call in our law Hey john, you know he does know by Allah and the Messenger of Allah May I be sacrificed for you? However
I'm not a man the people also don't like it for their and for the paper will be fairly thick he says Do you like it? Would you like such a thing for your end? When mother side Hydra terminal and Allah Allahu Jalan in delfy I want to know so you could vote only for that image. And also people don't like it. For there
are a couple of either who are la so the prophets have a lot of sin and put his hand on this young man. And he said, a lot of them
were hustling. So he may do it for him and he said he ALLAH forgive his sin, purify his heart, and make him chaste, protects his private parts while hustling fauja. So you said fermier khumba daddy can fit in 32 ila shape. So afterwards, this young man did not pay any attention to that type of sin anymore, or that had to have that desire anymore after the death of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and this brief conversation that he had with him.
So this is the Hadith
Subhan Allah there are, as you can see, there are a lot of lessons in that study.
First of all, you can see that this young man was struggling.
This young man was struggling, he was struggling with on the one hand, his faith and his religion.
And he was, was he a faithful man?
Yes, definitely he was right. Because he could have easily done it
and forgot about it.
But he had a man in his heart, right? So he could not commit that, knowing that it's a major sin. It's a problem. It's a big problem. If a person has the money say he cannot commit such anything. So you want it to come to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and say, allow me, like, give me an exception. Why do you want that exception? Because that's the other side of that conflict, you have a man, but what do you have also? desire.
Right. And this is a conflict that we can identify with, especially the young men and women, right? They can identify with it. You have a man, you have religiosity, you have your commitment to Islam, you have what Allah loves, which you know what Allah Allah hates, which you know, you have that, but also you have what you desire.
And they are sometimes in conflict with each other.
So, this man had that desire that inclination, but at the same time he had enough you can see the email that he had, first of all, he came to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, as we said, asking for permission. Second of all his responses to the prophets of Allah, he was alone, what would you sense from them? That they are genuine? Now Allahu Jalan in delfy? There are, he didn't say no. But he affirmed that level of law. And also, he said, may I be sacrificed for you, which tells you about the love that he had for the prophets of the law it was in, especially that the Prophet was gentle with him. Right, which is another benefit inshallah we'll talk about. But he had the slot for the
profits of a lot. He said, uh, may I, if there's
either one of us who's going to be harmed me to be me instead of you? Right? So, so Pamela, he had this deep emotion in him. But as you said, that the desire that the desire that also pushed him to come and ask for this thing, which is not easy to do,
right, especially people around, and he probably had predicted the reaction, or anticipated the reaction. But despite all of this, he ventured and continued to ask because there is something inside of him that
he needed, he needed an answer for the profits of the law.
And for that, all the profits a lot he understood
the pressure that this puts on young men and women.
And he said in howdy that is very famous, Mr. Sugar the Minister for the affiliate has a word for in the bowling ball, sorry.
My name is Ollie, he was told me.
She says all young men, who among you can marry, let them get married for inaho. Because it restrains the eyesight, and protects the private parts. Right? So do it when you can get married, married financially, physically, you're able to go ahead and get married, don't delay. So it's from the center of the profits of the law, he was specially on the person desires it. Right. And it's hard for them to stay away from the
house, from the eyes from the IRS, how long the handle the rest of the body is how long for them, if they can get married, the sin of the prophets of Allah to send them is to get married. That's important here because, as we said, you know, early on, right, the path of purification, must follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and not innovate. So some of those who were famous as seekers of purification, right Allah Sulu, they would advise which erroneously, they would advise the secret, don't get married.
Because it distracts you takes you away from Allah subhanho wa Taala puts on burden on you connects you to the dunya so they say don't get married, rather than focus on your Eva. Does that the sooner? No, absolutely not. That's not the son of the Prophet sallallahu send them so he said here, whoever can do that. Let them because it will protect you protect your eyesight and private parts. Woman let me stop there. If you cannot family, he was so
fast, because it will diminish. You know, the sexual desire, it will take it down.
Why would it take it down? Why does fasting take down that type of desire? First of all lalala you have less energy
Throughout the day, right, you have less energy. And what feeds your desire?
Food, right? When you get food, you have time to think about your desires. But if you're like tired, I can hardly stand or there's no, no energy. And you to think about this and to think about that. So fasting, that's the first thing that it does, right drains some energy. The other thing is that it increases the flow,
because it's an activity better. So it increases the flow. So the person who's fasting is aware that a loss plan our data is with him. And as long as that is happening, and watch what he's saying, and watch what he's seeing and watch what he's where he is, and be careful. So fasting does both of these things. So this is
what the prophet sallallahu cinema talked about. And it tells you, right, and we also discussed that some other hudy that that desire in our hearts gets created, is inflamed by our senses, by what we look at, or allow ourselves to look at, allow ourselves to listen to where we are physically, where our feet take us, what we touch with our hands, all these senses, right? create this desire in us, and also, right, increase it. So if you want to stop it, you have to control those senses. Especially if you're young, because your desire typically is greater, especially if you're young. And there's your an incident
where unforgeable abass alone. AlphaGo is the son of a lab bass. bass is the uncle of the profits of the law and he was in them. So AlphaGo was riding behind the profits of a lot he was in a young woman comes and she asks the prophets of Allah and he sent him some questions about touch. You know, my father is, you know, elderly and he cannot do Hajj Can I perform it on his behalf? He said, Yes. And photo is behind. So we noticed that a photo was looking at her fellow. So he turned his head away. And he turned his head away. So as best as you said, you're still alive. Why did you turn right? The head of your cousin away? So he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right to shut up and
worship Me shavon Allah Hema, I saw a young man and a young woman and I was afraid that the shavon will tempt him because he was looking to sell so he moved his eyes away. This is what it's what we're supposed to do.
Especially right if you're young, but it doesn't stop there. Whenever there is Hold on, we're supposed to look away whenever there is temptation the possibility that this thing
right maybe for another person doesn't thing is not gonna they're not going to desire that thing is not going to incite their desire but for you or for me, maybe if it's going to inflame the desire you have to look away
you have to look away
and this is what a lot of panel data says in the Quran pulling woman in a domain of sorry him why a photo Fuji home daddy girls can belong
to or hidden away from the photo. So Allah subhanaw taala This is in sort of a no a 31 to 32 Allah subhana wa tada says to our commands both men and women, yo do mean upside him lower your gaze, I lower your gaze
and also protect your chastity. So both men and women have to do this, right. Whenever that is a source of temptation, you have to look the other way.
So this is sort of the entry point of
The next lesson, inshallah that we get from it is how gentle the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was with him and how patient he was with him.
And he probably had recognized that this man right, had this conflict in him and he came seeking a solution. So he wanted to give him that solution. Right? The reaction of the Sahaba is understandable, because how can you asked for such a thing? Right publicly? How can you ask for such a cent to be permissible, such a vile sin? So they wanted him you know to stop but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he's the best teacher. He got some close. And if you follow exactly what he did, so the law he was telling from beginning to end, you will see how to be an instructor how to be a teacher, how to be a guide to someone who needs guidance. So gently he says, Come
closer. So there's intimacy now, in the way that the prophets of the law do send them there's respect also that like his his words are intimate and kind and respectful. Come Come closer. So he came closer and he sat down
and he began to
too slowly asking questions gradually asking questions Do you like it for your mother? So we began right with a person that you would feel most offended if anybody says anything about your mother. So yeah, that's how we started. So that this would be firm in his mind.
And he didn't say for instance, well, you know, what, if people the prophets always said did not make it abstract, he didn't say, Well, if you want it for yourself, other people who also want it for yourself, so they would want it with your relatives. He didn't do that. He didn't present an overly intellectual argument for him. No, no, it's an argument, both intellectual and emotional at the same time, that touched his heart, went directly to his heart. So the Prophet salallahu audio was sitting down. And that's a feature of what he does. He speaks to both mind and heart.
So when he's saying, Do you love it for your mother? What is he telling him? It says, your emotions prevent you from approving something like that for your mother, and then for your sister, and then for your daughter, and then to your end?
To your emotion, stop you right? Now emotionally, you're supposed to love for other Muslims, what do you love for yourself?
So how, if you love for them, what you love for yourself? How can you do this to them?
Because if you suppose that they have done that to you,
there is great pain. And Xena brings great pain and misery and shame to a family.
So they do that with your mother or your brother or sister or your daughter? How much pain would you go through? How much shame would you go through? How much misery and sorrow would you and the entire family go through? And if you think about this a lot, so you're going to take all of that pain and visited upon another family?
Would you actually be would that be fair? Would it be just would it express any type of love?
Obviously not. So he's telling him It does not fit well with your Islam and with your Eman that you should love for them what you love for yourself. But here you're not, you're being another sense if you ask for you're being very selfish and involved in your own desire, not thinking about the others.
On an intellectual level, right? It's the same thing.
On an intellectual level, you understand that society cannot be built except on reciprocal responsibilities and rights. I cannot go on stealing and expect people not to steal from me. I can't go on a spree of killing and expect that my life is going to be safe. I can't violate law and expect expect people to violate the law only when I respect the rights of others, that naturally will they respect my rights. So you cannot have a society like this built on exceptions.
So the profits are sent in both intellectually and emotionally was speaking to this man, and it's really resonated with him. Do you like it for this relative of yours relative of yours relative of yours? No, no, no, no prophet of Allah. And he was taking it gradually with him. Not just one sentence and leave. Why? Because he needs to understand the truth. This is the meaning of risk being gentle. See, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said in the Hadees McKenna with Kofi Shea in in the Santa Ana Museum in Cheyenne, Indiana, you're not going to put gentleness and anything except that it will make this thing beautiful. And you're not going to take it out of anything, except that it will make
this thing ugly. Even if you're speaking the truth.
Even if you're speaking the truth, even if you're gonna give someone advice, and this advice is going to save their life, but you do it in a harsh manner. They're not going to take it from you and the advice will appear ugly.
And we'll be rejected. We're asked to panela even if you give bad advice, but you give it in a kind way they may accept it, because you've been kind. Why do people convert? Right, from one phase to the other? Sometimes it's based on convictions, but other times it based really on kindness that they see in the other person. That's why they change so they can leave some people can leave Islam, right and they go to another faith based on kindness that they see. Not conviction, but based on kindness. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam here is saying that
you want to give advice even you know Caroline and Heidi that says that shall the law which connected to this hadith about gentleness, of the Prophet sallallaahu, Selim gave her a camel to ride that camel was stubborn.
So she started hitting the camel to for it to respond and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, same Hadees mcenery coefficient, gentleness when you put it in a place, it will beautify it take it away will be ugly meaning Take it easy with that camera, beating that candle hitting that camel is not going to help
But you take it easy and you'll be gentle and you'll be kind, you'll reach your objective, faster and better, and you will be more fulfilled when you do it this way.
Right? So, so panela if this is true with an animal, how about humans?
So, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam understood, now, he as a prophet of Allah, the companions around him understand the danger of this master this sin.
But this man, not yet.
So you need to take it like, okay, you're here and he's here. You need to take time, you need to take some time until he climbs up to where you are, you can't beat him into believing what you believe.
You can't force him to believe what you believe he has to climb. So you have to take your time with him. Until your certainty becomes his certainty, your conviction becomes this conviction, your evidence becomes his evidence. And that takes time.
So that's, you know, one of the benefits
of the Hadeeth also, and we talked about
Now, we'll talk a bit insha Allah about the danger of Xena
since this is a major part of the Hadith.
Allah subhana wa tada says in the Quran with Rosina in again, officiator was Sabina Allah Subhana. Allah says and do not approach or come close to Xena fornication, adultery, right fornication, adultery, so we'll just use Xena but Xena means fornication and adultery, both of them so do not approach or come close to Xena For indeed it is a great sin and an evil and evil way. So Allah subhana wa tada describes it says about Xena do not come close to it.
Which is more eloquent and more severe in warring than saying don't commit Zina.
Because Don't come close to something means that anything that introduces you to Xena is something to be avoided.
So if you imagine he was in it as a dot, just one dots
and around it are circles, expanding circles.
And all these circles contain things right that introduced the Zener.
Your job is just to avoid that dot.
Yeah, know all the circles, right that bring you closer to it. So why did a loss of kind of what the other says Well, at the closing, I don't come close to it. And not just don't commit Zina.
Because of what
our attraction to it, that Allah subhana wa tada knows, you can close to something and you are strongly inclined towards the other white sex, you are strongly inclined towards the other sex attracted to the other sex. So you are introduced to that outer circle, that outer circle takes you to the inner circle
and to the next circle and to the dot eventually. So stay far away as possible. far away as possible. And anything small that leads to it, whether it's through the eyes, the ears Subhanallah, the touch a locality, whatever it is, since it leads to it.
If you approach it, you're approaching Zener is to stay away from it, you're staying away from Xena.
So you can approach Xena several ways you can approach it mentally and physically.
How do you approach Xena mentally
Think about it.
coming closer to it by thinking about it by wishing it by hoping that it's there by hoping that it will be made available by planning for it all that is physical mentally approaching center. And typically right typically, you need the mental part for the physical part to be filtered.
So the first step is this mental proximity to Xena. So if you want to stay away from Xena, you close the first step and that first step is thinking about it. If you keep your thoughts pure
and occupied with something else and better, you'll be far away from Xena you think about it you fantasize you wish you're closer and the only thing that stops you know stops you or that stands between you and it is the physical possibility because the mental possibility is there.
Like plant like a person planning for a heist stealing a bank. Right? So you have the plans, you draw the plans you decide when you're going to do it that everything is ready. The only thing that is left is the physical fulfillment of that plan. Once it's physically possible
Then it's inevitable that a person is going to see. Same thing. So you plan it if you plan for it, think about it, the next step, the physical step is to follow. So the first thing is to physically or to mentally try to approach it. This physical approaching of Xena as we said, looking at things right listening to things, touching things, walking towards things that's physically approaching Xena, the object of your attraction, right? Or you can become also the object of attraction that calls people to Xena.
So you can either approach the object of attraction
or you become the objects of attraction that calls people to Xena and that's also approaching Xena bringing people closer to it. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam just to illustrate here the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said
gonna call me nearly duty haha he has any open line in Zen. So this is quoted by autonomy the enemy headband, he says whatever woman right puts perfume on and passes by people so that they could smell her perfume. Prophet sallallahu Sallam said for he is Enya. She's a She is an adulterous I wakulla in in Zambia and every i is an adulterer. Every i that is looking is also an adulterer. So he sits a lot easier Why do you say this between the ears a woman put some perfume leaves the house? Why people smell what she has put on the profits of the law you send them cold her what when she does something like that?
zania The Why did he call her a zania she did not physically commit to dinner.
She did not physically commit Zina. But what did she cause?
traction. The attraction she caused the attraction, she put the thoughts in people's mind by that here, I should do this. I should be attracted to this, I should be thinking about it. And when you cause something,
you're responsible for it. So the prophets a lot, isn't it because she had caused or she became one of the causes that led to Xena. When she puts perfume on? He called her responsible for that sin. This is a panel you think about it, that if she causes her appearance or what she does causes a person to commit to her.
She responsible for it.
Yeah, she may not know. She may not know that. Then now you understand the sin of all the women who appear on TV and they're getting really beautified and they put on the breast clothes and millions of people watch them. So you count how many people are drawn or closer to Xena or to fascia or to sin because of them. That's their scale.
It could be millions of you.
And then you know, prophets are all incidences.
In every eye that looks at her is also as an AI that is
an AI that has committed adultery, and we discussed it another Headey when an AI looks at what Allah has prohibited it has committed adultery so the adultery of the AI is worth looking into. So he says that AI is is had committed Xena meaning that Yeah, she's there. Yeah, she had put on the best that she has. But that's still not an excuse for you to look.
So still, it's your sin. It's not like okay, what can I do? She's there might as well right? No, it's Haram. So you stop looking right and if you do it, sir, at some Austria, but for Macias account, Allah is great. If she does that,
in the hereafter the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, in the Hadith he mentions
two punishments that we can discuss about those who commit that, that offense, the offense of Xena fornication and adultery. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had a dream. And in the dream, two angels of Allah subhanho wa Taala come and they carry him right and they transport him and they show him the punishment of several people, the past by this people have this this punishment, those people this punishment. So in one study, he says to be fair, either becoming a shed the A in an Tifa, how Anthony rehak and nury hamara. He
was the one it says and then they the two angels took me and I encountered the most bloated of people. I was bloated of people. And they had the fallacy of smells, their smell is like toilets. And I said Who are those? And he said those are the adult crews and the adult trusses. Right. So this is one of the realities, right? One of the realities that will you'll discover on the day of judgment of Allah subhana wa tada allows us to see this And may Allah you know, protect us from this
Then, if he allows us to see this, that is their reality, in fact, even in this life, right, so what did he say about them? This is how it will be there on in the hereafter. But also this reflects the reality here. What did he say about them? He said, first of all, they're very bloated.
They swell up a bit.
And also their smell. He says, that's the most foul smell, I encounter. The smell is like the smell of toilets.
Meaning that what this is, this is no, this is the depository of excrement and urine, this is what it is. And this is the dirtiest thing.
That's the dirtiest app, because the person who's engaging in it is upsetting a lot of panel data to such an extent and he's sleeping around, as if he's visiting bathrooms. So Panama, as if he's visiting bathrooms, and receiving that excrement in himself.
So he says this, this is their smell.
And also he says they are very bloated.
What typically gets loaded a body when it dies, it gets bloated.
It gets loaded when the body dies. When a person dies. Why does it get bloated because it decomposes on the inside?
starts breaking apart bacteria eats the body then gases released so it gets bloated.
So there's death on the inside.
So you look at these people so Pamela in this role, this woman this man, they could be very beautiful, handsome, right? Everybody's I wish that I can. I wish that I can. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam tells you about the reality in the hereafter. And in fact, the reality in this life, if you were to open on the inside and find out what the rotting on the inside, they're dying on the inside.
If a lot of work to actually allow you to smell to smell them,
this is what you would smell from them. Okay, now with the media present, this is what you would smell. And so panela you know, that happened with hypocrites, but at the turn of the prophets, a lot of them you know, once you know a wind
blew by, and it was smelled very bad. And they asked him a prophet of Allah, what is this and he says, this, the smell of one of the hypocrites who passed away.
So this actually physically it's true. And Allah subhanho wa Taala may allow you to see it if you have these eyes of EMA, and you may allow me to see
everybody's saying that they're beautiful, everybody wants to be them and act like them and whatever. But Allah Subhana Allah can grant you the insight, to see that this is one of the most powerful the powerless people are living on this earth who are calling to the sun.
a punishment that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam talked about, he says, also the angels were talking to took him and that vision and he said,
he said, we moved and we came upon something like an oven. And there was noise and voices coming from it. So we looked inside, and we found naked men, and naked woman, and there was a flame underneath them. And whenever the fire fire reached them, they would cry out loudly. So kind of one of their punishment in the Hereafter is at a loss of power to Allah will put them in an oven naked.
And then there's a fire underneath that is cooking them. And they're screaming, because of that fire. And that's the punishment.
So to penalize a person, you think about it, you should just think about it. And how disgusting really, the image of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam encountered the Buddhism's that are under punishment, it say to yourself, that's not something I want to be part of.
Any person with a fifth law with a fifth of it says, Why this? And why in this way? If Allah subhanaw taala hates it so much, why should I be part of it? Why should I feel so lousy about myself? You know, there's time we'll discuss the other hudy Why should I feel so bad about myself every time I commit that sin, whereas the path of hell that is available, or at least patients that are available until I meet a lot of hands on with that. So Savannah line is something to contemplate and think about.
Now, and Hamdulillah, you know, towards the end of the Hadith, that young man agreed fully with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet now added something extra, you know, he made you out for him.
hossenfelder he ALLAH forgive his sense, purify his heart, and make him chaste, protect his private parts. So this dog on the profits of a lot of you cinnamon By the way, this is a device that you can adopt for yourself, especially if a person is going through these things right?
Hi, I'm having problems and Subhanallah, who doesn't, but having problems with these temptations, or you want to make it for your family and for your children, I see okay if you only want to protect them from Xena right and anything that introduces people to it, you can adopt this and keep repeating this to her. So the prophets of aloha to you send them wanted protection from this man internally and externally, internally in terms of the heart to Allah purify yourself externally in terms of their private parts. So in the future, you'll be protected and as far as the past, he ALLAH forgive his sins. So whatever, how was your law forgive all of that as far as what is going to come?
Y'all keep him protected on the inside and the outside, outside, he doesn't come and approach anything that is haram and on the inside. He Allah purified his her purify his heart,
meaning that he does not have a desire for that sin anymore.
what Allah hates, is a disease as part of a disease of the heart. Why is that because I love that sin if you allow, if I adopt that sin inside, if I take it inside my
heart, my body, and I do it, I'll start to love it.
And it will be as we said, there will be this dark spot in my heart where that sin exists.
Now that dark spots, if I don't treat, it keeps growing. And it keeps demanding more of that sin
keeps demanding more, because that's the thing that satisfies it. It's like an addiction, I want more of that sin.
And the more that you give it of that sin, the more that it grows, and you will notice that I'm starting to love what Allah hates. And then starting to hate what Allah loves.
And that's the disease in the heart. Um, start you know, I am starting to have this disease of shareware in me, whenever I find an opportunity I go after it.
Even if it's an innocent word, or a remark or gesture I interpreted as Hmm, yeah, even if it's innocent in my mind, I've been programmed because I've been exposed to the harm had been programmed to interpret everything as crooked.
So I've lost my innocence. And I'm looking at everything right with this, you know, those dark passes. So that's the disease in the heart, that desire of the shower, that control of the shower over the heart, loving the shower more than Allah subhana wa Tada, that's a disease. Whereas the heart that is free from all of this and has a man still has desire, of course, but does not desire the HA
does not desire the HA
sees the Hillel as the path but does not desire the harem at all he can or she can be attracted to this person but never attracted to the heroine as a possibility. That's the difference between between the two.
very naturally, we'll see it in the other hand, eventually, I think lifetime for naturally I can be attracted to a person when I see them. That's not the issue. That's not necessarily a disease. It's just natural, natural inclinations. That allows panatela put in us but loving the hell
is the problem is the disease
and loving the hell is the solution and the alternative and the cure.
So that's the panela that that's the struggle that we have with our shower. You let it go You let it control you it will make the heart disease and the disease as we said of shanwa eventually Can
you only have sometimes we have problems with
Subhan Allah Why do some people start arguing? Why cannot? Why can't I marry? If she's a Muslim woman? Why can't I marry non Muslims?
Why can't I marry non Muslims? But Subhanallah the way that this didn't think starts if you trace it, trace it, trace it trace it It goes back all too shallow.
And the argument is not intellectual. The argument is based on desire and inclination Why can't I marry a non Muslim comes from what comes from I want I like this man, I love this man. I want to marry this man. He happens to be an uncertain Why can I marry non Muslim that's how it develops chawanmushi
any doubts about the religion can be generated from our own desires.
So So panela is very very connected. So to keep the heart pure, you have to keep it pure from the heart on and desiring the heart. And you can use this for it.
And a lot of model helps us internally do it for yourself or do it in love for people that you care about, especially in Trump's panel of the young.
We have done show for 3034 and they don't want to say it because it's
in this howdy
it says kind of a sort of like a lease and I'm Jonathan fields taught me the profits of a lot he was sitting down was sitting with his companions Jonathan fields hobby for the
Sukhothai inside and inside where is home
for the holiday went inside his home from Maharaj he came out
and he had been they could see that right that he had babies still wet. So he went inside this hole came outside and he had bait.
So who knows you're a pseudo law you can shake he said oh prophets of Allah that something happened. And he says a general model of the phenomena. So article
32 Baba as well. He follows up to psychedelic phenomena mesothelioma come at me.
It says yes. So and so you didn't name her so and so woman passed by. Okay. And then the shadow the desire for woman fell into my heart.
So I went and I was intimate with my one of my wives. And so you should do because of your best deeds is to commit the header.
I guess you've heard this head is probably for the first time.
Yes, it's close. Yes, it's close now.
So this is by the way is reported by Ronnie and it's the he hasn't been in so um, you know, it's not a dubious hollyfield
so let me answer something that I may make very quickly come to to our minds, you know,
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam saw a woman he had this shower for her. Is that possible? Because I read guy was I was looking around for this hadith. And there was one question online. If someone was asking about this Hadith, and he was saying, Oh my god, I'm gonna about to lose my faith. How could this happen? How did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam could see a woman desire her? And could this happen? I'm about to lose my faith, right? Lose My aim. And so it's a panel I think that sometimes we don't we forget that the prophets of Allah who sent him his word, human.
So he was married, did he not desire his wife? Obviously desired them. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did not intentionally look at that woman. I could it could happen. And I probably probably you know, I have encountered that. He did not intentionally, you know, gaze at this woman focus on her No, Murphy. Right. I glance just a glance. Right, just the first look. And then he turned away. But still sometimes, right? That first look is enough for you to feel what? Okay, I have now I have that feeling. Now I have no inclination. Now. The profits of the low audio system is now teaching you and me what to do with it. Which is really, really important. Right? So it's a panel, you know,
the Christians and that's that's how people deviate. Right? And when you deviate, you lose the guidance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He's supposed to be God.
Right? So he cannot really be fully a model for how to live your life as a human being with desires. He can What do I do with this desire? Because he was supposed to be fully human But did he desire when they shy away from this? No, they don't talk about it. Because he also supposed to be God. So Allah Subhana Allah senses prophets are human beings who will teach you what to do with your wife what to do when you are a father What to do when somebody dies, what to do when you're afraid what to do when you're happy as a human being. So he's showing you here so the low audio system what to do. Why when there's a shower in your heart, Now, obviously subpanel Lionel
for men, okay. Women of course have also desire for men but for men.
If you ask what is the strongest for most of them, what is the strongest shadow or desire that they have? It will be the desire What
because the last panel Dallas Zoo unit in St. Lucia let him in and he said he will not be so desire has been made beautiful for people right.
Okay from among, and when you start soliciting that soprano, which is from a woman and children and kind of Pantera you know, much gold and silver and horses and cattle and harvest plants or whatever. So in our last panel, what to add to lists all of the desires he begins with a desire for
For a woman, she has a very strong desire than men.
another Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He says metadata about the
region, even an ISA I have not looked
after me that is more harmful for men other than women.
Now, of course, this is not Hadid bashing woman, or like, my explanation is that it is not one that is bashing women. No, no, actually, it's just telling us really the reality of the influence that women have upon men.
So he's telling he's saying, you know, so Pamela, that woman can be on they're not always the case, but they can be a fitness for men. And when they are a fitness for men, they have so much strength, right, that fitness is so strong, that it can remove mislead a man
really mislead a man. So in order to impress her in order to marry her in order to keep her listening to her demands, whatever it is, if she especially if she's not pious, and then can do all types of
just for sake, because he loves her so much. He's attracted to her so much. So So Pamela, as they said, and Allah subhana wa tada has created women physically weaker than men, right? But have given them power. And another way to compensate work for it. Allah gave him power over men than women at home. A lot of men listen to their woman, right or listen to their loved one on the ones that they desire more than anyone else.
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wanted us here to learn something that is very important. Shower fell into your heart. And you haven't,
it came through Hillel means right, because it's not a sin, right to accidentally notice someone and then turn away but still that shower is there. What do you do with it?
If you leave it, but if you leave it,
what will happen is that the shaytaan will take advantage of the presence of that shower, and it's going unmet, and will start whispering to you whispering to you,
this woman, this woman, look at her, take a second book, ask your shanwa is there and the desire is there, and it's not being metal fulfilled.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not want his heart to be distracted
for seconds, even for even seconds. And Savannah, Lionel, he was with his companions, he stood up and went to say, Hi, because there is that desire is going to be taken care of. So that it will be done, it will be over. So he's telling you, and he's teaching you and me, if you have such a thing, don't let it develop. Don't think about it, because the more that you you know, let it happen. And you let it think about it and time passes and time passes, the shaytan is attacking you. Your desire and inclination is attacking you your weaknesses attacking you. And all of them are telling you
go there, go don't go to the Hillel go there.
And there's another Hadith
he says a lot he said them, which could be referring to the same incident.
It says that profits are a synonym This is afforded by Muslim assawoman. And he, you know, like throw in my intro. So he came to his wife, Xena on the low end saying that, you know, was busy with housework she was standing you know, leather and hides and whatever. So she's like, in the middle of something for all the habitat right? But he was intimate with her.
And he said in America,
ta ta ta, ta ta ta, ta ta, ta,
ta ta ta.
NFC. He said after he was intimate with her. He said, indeed a woman or for instance, comes in the shape of a fun and retreat or go back in the shape of a shape. I'll explain what that means. So if one of you sees one on one, what he likes and admires. Let him go to his family, meaning be intimate with them, because this will repress or suppress this will take away what is in his soul, what is in his heart.
So what does it mean when he says in Surah t shavon. Guru in the shape of a shapefile she comes in the shape of a shapefile and leaves in the shape of a shapefile does that mean that the woman is a shapefile? No, definitely. It means that the shaytan uses her beautifies her in the eye of the beholder when she is not his head and not his wife. He beautifies her in the eye of the beholder.
So that he thinks that she is more attractive than she really is. So that he would desire her more than the head on the cheek he has. So when she comes, the shaitaan is doing his work. Not only should you look that he's not only asking you to look, he's making her more beautiful, and when she goes back is making her more beautiful. So that's what he says, and she keeps in the shape of a shape and the shape is with her when she comes. And then she found his mother when she leaves
to trap you.
That's why one of the reasons if you ask, why would she look more attractive to the person looking than his wife? One of the reasons is this, the shape bar, it's like he's putting makeup on or whatever, right? Now she's more beautiful, right? So in addition to the makeup that she may have put on and whatever rights he's also putting his own makeup. So he wants that connection and that link between the two.
So what is the Prophet sallallahu wasallam say, if you find that
he came to his wife, and she's in the middle of doing something, right. But in the middle, like that's her job, or whatever right is housework. That didn't stop for that didn't stop him. He says this has to be taken care of now, that delay. And once you take care of it, it's done.
You don't think about it anymore. You don't stress over it anymore. She thought it has no space right to keep whispering about that woman or about this head on anymore. It's done the math enough say that say whatever I want it happened, that desire got met and fulfilled and attempted. It was done.
for that, you will understand
the importance upon a lot of treating this as fast as one can. And there's this hadith from the prophets of the law. He said,
you know, by understanding the first one, you'll understand this one, and he says that he that
he fell into it for better for better or worse than the other 10 nonattainment.
So reported by the Saudi on Muslim, he says if a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come and he spends the night angry with her, they insist of Allah will cursor until the morning.
Right? So what happens, right? If she says no?
So if she says no, right? What alternative does he have?
The Haram is the alternative. Right? And it's not committing the Haram at least worth thinking about it about. And once you develop these parts of the Quran, right? Maybe right? The wife is not enough anymore.
Why is not enough anymore? Because my thoughts are with that other person or with the committee. So you left the space for the hat on.
So why was it so severe that the angels will cursor until the morning that this is great harm that will be introduced to society, to this man to this family to her she doesn't realize, but to her? Right? When she refuses, some sort of you make yourself available to him, right? That her arm just goes away. And the path of the shutdown is blocked, and your marriage is safe and more secure. So every woman said Pamela right. You know, he has to think about this, right? If you block the path of the huddle, huddle, how long is the alternative. And by the way, this is also what we should consider if we are blocking the path of the headliner, by whatever way, right sometimes it's deli,
right, you know, I want I don't know how many 1000s and for some, in some communities, it's the female that pays the dowry, which is totally Subhanallah strange and and Islamic. But dowry, right 5000 10,000 men can find enough and the woman don't find husbands and you're blocking that Allah, or as the harem is. So easy, so easy, right? It doesn't cost much. But we're making the headlines so expensive and so difficult and so complicated. So that's also a blocking of the hell out and offering the harem as the alternative. So you have to be thinking about what we're doing to our daughters and all of this of Panama
and and sons and in our society in our communities. So
why did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say that of your best deeds is to commit the healer? So as the brother said, right, when you commit it, hello, I last panel data rewards.
This has an inner panel. You're spending you're feeding your children, you're feeding your wife
explicitly in the Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, he says, Well, people had to consider when you're sleeping with your wife, there's sort of
sarafa meaning what Allah reward you for it.
So they asked the Prophet of Allah, you know, a person fulfills his desire the things that he likes, and he gets rewarded for it. He says, Yes, don't you see that if he had put it in, he'd be punished for it, or he would earn a sin because of it. And so he puts it in hand, and he will earn rewards for it. So first of all, the best of your things, the best of your deeds is to do the halaal because Allah rewards for it.
And it's blocked the Haha, it stops the heart on
every person. So pauwela will just do the header and convince themselves that it was enough in it. And if there's you know, it's your satisfaction will be there, no one will be committed. None of the harm no harm, no foul on smoke, no hold on site, no harm to nothing, nothing of the heroin will be Subhanallah you know, approached because the Hello Can we convinced ourselves first of all, the heroin is enough. And we also told ourselves that a lot of losses the header rewards data. And the same thing happens with women and with men. The shaitaan will do it will may will try to make the harm as attractive as possible.
Right and especially with public relations, right and an advertisement and all of this is of how the law it's it's a struggle to look they can take the most wicked of things and make it most beautiful, right? Just Just drink this just go there. Just watch this. If you believe Allah subhana wa Tada, this is all deception coming from the shavon and his helpers were as high that is the thing that is wholesome and will satisfy you.
Hello, Allah subhanho wa Taala will plant when you commit to hell will plant satisfaction, happiness, joy in your heart.
You know, whereas the opposite is true. Those who commit sin.
There's always this gloominess, okay, or gloom or darkness that surrounds them.
You do it, but you feel guilty.
You do it. But you feel that there's something wrong, you do it, but there's regret. You do it. But there's something incomplete. And then eventually, those who have united upon sin become enemies of each other, because the chiffon is in the middle.
Whereas those who unite for holla upon Hannah and for the sake of Allah subhanho, wa Taala. As long as they have that connection between them, they will never turn enemies against each other.
But the harm always ends up in animosity and conflict in the hereafter. Definitely. And in this dunya as well. So there is this panel on the Hot arm when it's taken inside the heart, corrupted,
and ruined ruins it. But the halaal on the other hand, does the complete opposite fills the heart with joy and happiness. First of all, there's this natural, you know, desire that we have and it gets fulfilled with a person that you love, in a way that Allah loves to Allah is pleased with you his blessing all of it. And at the same time, right? Allah blesses your act itself so there's no regret no guilt, there's just happiness and joy with it being in that so this is what the prophets of the law it was in his teaching in that Hadith and there's as we said, you know, there's really nothing wrong with it right? Get this could happen and it does happen. You can have some kind of
have a desire of so and so how you just dropped in your heart you don't know why you hear a word you hear you see a sight, but then what to do with it afterwards. That's the challenge it can take you to a closer to Allah, your desire for woman your desire home, and could you take you closer to Allah, okay, take you far away from him, depending on what you do with it.
So this is a ninja. So we learned a lot from these two heads.
The importance of
you know, the effect or the effect that sin has on the heart. And then if you want to stay away from sin, if you want to overcome it, you don't want to be enslaved by it. If you're addicted to it, purify your heart, increase your email, you'll be able to leave it
if you allow it into your heart It will enslave it
right and will corrupt it slowly until eventually all of it will be corrupted. So we ask Allah subhana wa tada you know, as he said in that Hadith Lama Helena Urbana, Mata Helena fluvanna Hassan Anna Hello Jana banana me We asked the last panel data to forgive our sins and purify our hearts and keep us old chased us and our children and the entire Muslim community and to spread this knowledge
That even non Muslims start realizing the truth in Islam that Hillel is the true alternative and the Haram corrupt society corrupts the individual and it's upon Allah meets Allah subhana wa tada anger will have the die of anatomy. So, if there are any questions in sha Allah, I can answer them in Sharla. Otherwise we will stop.