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Ali Albarghouthi

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Khutbah (Muslim speech) on the dangers of gossip(Nameemah)

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In Alhamdulillah monastery in

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the villa Himanshu Rory unforseen our CEO Dr. Malina may Mejia Hello fellow moolah, Mama usually further ha de la wash. Allah insha Allah Allahu la sharika Allah, Mohammed Abu what a sudo sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom adieu for in DC kita

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Ohio Alhaji Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shallow marine desert

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desert in VEDA akula Dr. Tim Bala wakulla bola TV now,

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all praise and thanks belongs to Allah the Most High. We thank him and we seek His help and aid and we ask Him that He forgive us and we seek His refuge from the evil of ourselves and the sins that we commit. Indeed who I'm so whomsoever Allah guides, no one can lead us astray.

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And whomsoever Allah leads astray, no one can guide and I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship except Allah alone. And that Mohammed Salah la de un He will send them is his slave and messenger. Indeed, the best of speech is that of the book of Allah. The best of guidance is that of Mohammed Salah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and the worst of religious matters are those that are innovated, and every religious innovation is a bit of an every bit of eyes. misguidance and if we miss guidance, we'll be in Hellfire

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about

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the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once was passing by two graves. law had made him allowed him to hear what was happening to them. So he said I'm in the Bernie. Well, now you are the Bernie pika deer in the Bella in the Huckabee. He said indeed, they are being punished. And they're not being punished for something major. No indeed it is Major huduma for Canada statue ruminal bone, one Mullah Haruka can am she been Amina? He said as for one of them, he used not to conceal himself or separate himself, protect himself from urine when you urinate.

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Why, and for the second one he used to travel or used to spread the Mima gossip.

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And the older men have said, trying to decipher and understand what is the secret behind combining these two punishments in the grave. Because then this hadith is clear evidence that some Muslims will be punished in their graves because of things that they have done, says what is the here the secret of the combination between the two. And some of them have said

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that the grave is the introduction of the accounting of the accountability before the full accountability on the Day of Judgment. And the accountability on the day of judgment

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will proceed on to levels rights that pertain to Allah and rights that pertain to his slaves. As for the rights that pertain to a lot the first that one will be asked about is for law. And as for the rights that pertain to the slaves of Allah the first person will be asked about is shedding blood illegally killing people.

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So said the introduction to these two is bahara

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and speaking ill about people Mima spreading gossip because the hora is the key

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To Sala, and without having taharah without purifying oneself from urine, he does not have to hide if you don't have the heart or you don't have Salah. So that beginning, the key to Salah is taharah and if a person sacrifices that he or she will see the consequences of that in the grave.

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And how do people shed blood and why do they shed blood they see the key to it is spreading rumors and gossip between people and in the community.

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And that's why it's major.

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And when you look at it in the Quran, when Allah subhana wa tada speaks about NEMA and we'll define that shortly. inshallah will the speaks about God's the board and the Mima in the Quran. You find it among the attributes of the kuffaar

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when Allah says when lt akula Lf in mahane amazzing Misha in Binyamin Munna and hi remoted in a theme he's speaking, addressing Mohammed Salah, how are you it was sentiment sort of the column he says do not listen, do not obey he who habitually swears by Allah and he is worthless in himself and himself. Why does he truly swear by Allah subhanaw taala because he lies. You do that when you want to confirm your lies? We cannot because you do not believe them yourself and you do want others to believe them. So you habitually swear by Allah even if you're lying. So he says do not listen to that person who is worthless in himself and that's why he violates the name of Allah subhanaw taala

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repeatedly amazzing Masha in being a meme, he scored his school full of people he really kills people with speech and with gestures and actions have mess.

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And also miss share in Vietnamese spreads gossip and Jemima maniacally hiring Teddy nathi, he holds back his good, but he sins and transgressive that is the picture that Allah subhanaw taala draws of a catheter, and one of the attributes that he highlights is an amoeba.

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What is the Nina

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Amina simply is for a person to hear something to go and transfer that and transported to some other people to some other setting with the intent of corruption, suffering relationship, ruining reputation, creating animosity between people that is an amoeba, and at its essence, as some scholars have said, is the divulgence of secrets

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is to divulge a secret that you're supposed to keep, but instead you share with other people.

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And because it is so severe and it is so serious.

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The messengers of Allah Allah you are you send them I said, as you will find in us by Hi, there Yeah, totally Jonathan a man

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then a man shall not enter Paradise.

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And because of this, the scholars counted me man because of the first Howdy. They counted it as a major sin

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as a major sin

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that people overlook and partake in and participate in so easily. Yes, it is so easy for them to avoid. That's why in the first study the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in no manner you are the Bernie oma, you are the Bernie p Kabir. It's not major. Then he says but it is major. What does that mean? That it is not made you to avoid but it's major sin with a loss of Hana with that or that it is not major in their eyes, but it is so major with a loss of Hana with the Allah. As Allah says with esta Borno hyena, you think that it is light, but it is not so with Allah Subhana wa.in another Hadith

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to understand, or to make us understand why it is so?

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Such a grave sin.

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The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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alone a bucum we evidently mean de la gente Salatu was to me was sadaqa is Lockwood that in vain Shall I tell you about a station that is higher than the station of Salah on sadaqa NCM

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it is mending relationship between people. And of course this this does not mean from the messenger sallallahu wasallam that you can do this and do away with those stops around salsa cans and start just fixing and mending relationship between people the profits, a lot of them is saying that it is a station that is even higher.

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What is beneath it is required. But in order to reach it, you need to layer on soda cans. But it lies there on the top.

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And then he continues for in the facade that he will be he'll highly call now.

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Our Dean, he says because

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several relationships or even relationship or the corruption of relationship between people facade with that in vain he had had a call it is the shaving. I do not say it shaves, hair, but it shaves religion.

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It's eliminated completely. And you can see that among people even sometimes among the religious.

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When you hear somebody tells you so and so it says such and such about you, and transfers that evil news to you, what happens to the family, what happens to the friendship, what happens to that relationship, you begin to suspect him or her and vice versa. Then the escalation continues, the animosity grows, and people begin to lie and backbite and they start to steal and cheat and it can reach the level of killing other people just because of that key that opened this entire evil which is the key of Mima.

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So there is no limit to it, there is no stop to the evils that it can create. And it can they actually can eliminate your entire religion if you allow itself.

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And the person who practices such an act, actually is among the lowest of the ranks of people.

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He said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a Sahih Hadith.

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He says kyriba de la la Vina Eero Rukia Allahu taala it says the best of the slaves of Allah Who are the best of the slaves of Allah. He says those who when you see them, you remember Allah.

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These are the best of people. And of course, there's a reason why when you see them, you remember Allah subhanho wa Taala because outwardly, that followed the sin of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam they had followed the book of Allah and how they behaved outwardly and inwardly as well. They command the good day forbid evil, they speak the truth they are both lying. So in their attitude and their life when you look at them, you remember Allah subhanho wa Taala when you see them

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who are the worst of people well shutter or a bad delay? Allah Masha una Bina Mima

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una Vina

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Alba hunedoara Elana Victoria, Tina Alba, hunedoara. Elaine, it says the worst of people of those who travel with NEMA. With gossip,

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they traveled with it, they spread it among people, and they separate between loved ones. And these T for the innocent difficulty and burden or in another Hadith, they seek the faults of the innocent to discover them even if they are not there to create them even if they are not there.

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And Amina is often

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associated with lying as well.

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Because you can transport and you can tell other people what actually had happened. And your intent could be to corrupt

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but often associated with it is an addition to it to spice it up to increase that as this animosity. People also lie as well. When I said what do you get

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into like Dabba the person will continue to do this and will continue to light until he is written with a loss upon our data a liar.

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So imagine, what is your reputation with Allah? subhanho wa Taala? Is it a person who spreads hatred, and falsehood and rumors and gossip among people? Or is there a person who speaks the truth, and indeed, acts as a filter, as a Muslim should always be a filter. Now everything that you hear should be spread, that everything that you hear it should be repeated, but you should look and consider Is there any benefit in it or not. And if there's evil in it, it should start with you as a filter indeed, holds the pollutants back, hold the contaminations back and allows only pure water to pass through. So you should be a Muslim, that if you are evil, it stays with you. And you suppress

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it, and you decrease it

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and not pass it and allow it to pass through to other people.

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There was once a story

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to highlight the effects of an amoeba.

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Someone wanted to hire a servant, and the person who was giving him giving that higher he said you can hire this servant, and there is really no fault with him except that he practices in an email.

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He says I'm fine with that. So

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He brings him to his home. And after a few days, this servant goes to the wife. And he says, Your husband's started to dislike you. And if you want him to like you again, I have a recipe for you. She says, What is the recipe, he says, you have to bring me, you know, some hairs from his beard, wait till he's asleep, go to him cut few, very few hairs from his beard and bring those to me. He said, I will do that. Then he goes to the husband, and he says, Your wife has found somebody else. She doesn't want to stay with you anymore. So she will wait till till you're asleep. And she will come and she will kill you.

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So he says tonight when you sleep, fake your sleep, and wait and see what she will do. So what night he faked that he was asleep. And the wife came upon the destruction of the servant to take few years from his beard. And he found the husband found his wife on top of him with scissors, and already think that she's there to kill him. So he took the scissors from her and he slaughtered her and killed her. And then when the family of the wife knew about what happened, they came to the house and they killed him too.

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Now, you mean may or may not encounter a situation as drastic as this one.

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But it does highlight that one point practices NEMA.

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One indeed has opened the doors of evil.

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And marriages break because of it.

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Brothers and sisters stop talking to each other because of it.

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mothers and daughters mothers and sons, fathers and sons stop talking to each other because of it.

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And when that happens, the entire religion and its practice is demolished. Because one evil leads to another evil and so on and so on. So heed the warning of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he says he will not enter Paradise and seek Allah's refuge from the practice of an amoeba of listening to an amoeba and of spreading the Mima. Hola. Hola, hada what a structural lie Do you want to come for stuff you

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Hamden, Catherine Pavan Mubarak and Fie. Well, Sunday was le manasu li Mohammed in Salalah. Ali you early or send them about?

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The question is, why is it that we practice such a thing?

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It is of the sins of the tongue.

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And the messengers, the lohani, when he was sent him out, said that this part of the body is one responsible for throwing most or a lot of us in hellfire.

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It is a sin that is easily avoided. Unfortunately, it's part of culture. You see that, for instance, in Western culture,

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where industries, print media, visual media is built on the spread of an amoeba on the Discovery, of focusing on the rich, and the famous, discovering what is happening with them, and spreading that to everybody, in order to ruin lives in order to create controversy. And in order to create sales to increase sales and attract attention.

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And this is not only Western, but it has spread globally.

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But that's not only true with with regards to the Western world, actually, part of a lot of Muslim countries, that culture within that country, is to actually engage in the media. And let us examine actually, truthfully, our conversations when we sit together and meet

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men or women.

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A bulk a good bulk of that conversation is, what is this family doing?

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What did what happened to this job? Did he graduate or not? Was he fired or not? Did he fail or not? What happened to her? What is your relationship with her husband? are they fighting or not? And then when you know all of this and you go and spread it to other people, you're actually betraying the trust of that family and that individual when you transfer the news like this haphazardly, without taking care of the damage that you're trying to make. So we engage in entertainment, when we're sitting together, backbiting people and spreading them email and thinking that this is a light conversation, a light setting, that when we meet Allah, he's not going to ask us about it.

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What happens if when you meet Allah subhanho wa Taala and you have this long record, all of the times that you spent all the nights that you spent with your friends and family thinking that it is a light conversation, and a lot comes and says none of these words

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innocent, you have damaged relationship you have damaged reputations. None of these were innocent. Now we will be held responsible held responsible for them. What would you say?

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It is so easy to avoid. But you have to extract yourself from it. And you have to warn your family about it. If your family is sitting and eating poison, they asked you if they're eating poison, if they're sitting and eating, how long would you not actually stand and tell them this is wrong? Start with you're killing yourself. So if they are engaged in a NEMA, if they are engaged in a labor in backbiting, people, should you not stand and say this is how long? Stop it before Allah subhanho wa Taala condemns you for it.

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And if you are unable to stop it, the least of what you can do is to extract yourself from that setting is remove yourself from that setting up the live normal Barack Obama era. The people they used to tell him, why don't you sit with us? He says in New Jersey, so sahabah tab and he says I am keeping the company of us higher than the tabbing through their narratives through the books. He says I'm keeping their company. Then he says oma how do we move on Assa t come in a bonus What should I do? Sitting with you you backbiting people?

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That is the attitude What should I do with sitting with you? If you backed by people and you are spreading the meme about people? Why do we do it? Why do we engage in it? Whatever it is that we don't know that it is serious? So we do it. Another is that we are so envious of another person of their success, that we want to destroy them.

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We want to ruin their reputation. We want to bring them down. So we investigate what is wrong with them. And we tell other people about it. We only feel good about ourselves if others are failing.

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And then if that is our attitude, if this is our heart, then do we are among the worst of people, as quoted illustrate, then we are indeed among the worst of people, because we're breaking relationships, and we're happy doing it.

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Why do we engage in it?

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We engage in it.

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Because our hearts sometimes are not pure.

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We want to lift ourselves up.

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But indeed know that the only thing that lifts us up is the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if people know you as an amount, they will start to hate you.

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And they will not going to share their secrets with you. And you know that if you know what person divulges and spreads secrets, you're not going to share their secrets, your secrets with him. And he's going to be known as a pariah. People will know you as a pariah and they will avoid you and they will hate you. That is a fact. Allah will not put the love of people or the love in the hearts of people.

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And what should you do when you receive an email? Finally, what should you do when you receive this, email yourself?

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First of all, know that it's that it is sinful. And remind the person who is transferring this news to you that it is a sin.

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That I do not need to hear any of this, if what you saying is true, May Allah forgive the other person, but you do not need to transfer this news to me or to transfer my news to that other person. Because it always involves or it's often involves a type of hypocrisy.

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When you are with the other person, you're with one face and one attitude and with the other person, you're with another face and with another another attitude, a two faced person, do a chain. And then the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that he is of the worst people who attain Allah deity How old are you and you know how old are you when it comes to on people with one attitude one face goes to another people with another attitude and another face. And he says he will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Judgment low Listen, and even now.

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So do not trust a person who comes to you with this type of news, and rejected and remind them over the fear of a loss of data and what will happen to them in the grave and on the day of judgment and make dua for the person

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who is supposedly have said this and that about you and as a loss of Hannah with Allah to forgive them, because you should not believe whatever you have heard me do out for them. And that is the way actually for us to mend relationship rather than allow the shaitaan and then a man who works like a magician to allow the man to work, ruin relationships and infect us with this type of disease. So I remind myself only remind you and I advise myself and I advise you do not practice it. And if you see it, run away from it and advise people not to practices. It is serious. Even if people think that it is not

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Let's have the vices of the tongue that we should avoid. I asked a lot of panel data the most tie to protects us from the vices of the tongue, or allow us to that you that you protect us from the sins of the tongue. While we asked you that you protect us from the sins of our tongues, while we asked you that you protect us from the sins of our tongues, while we asked you that you protect us from all sin, the one that we know about and the ones that we do not know about? Well, we asked you that to to protect us from all ships, the one that we know about and the ones that we do not know about, while long we asked you for heaven, and everything that brings us near to it, and we seek your

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refuge from Hellfire and everything that brings us near to it. And we asked you for all the good in this life and in the Hereafter, and we seek refuge from all evil in this life and in the Hereafter, while we asked you that you grant Muslims victory against their enemies, and that united Muslims upon the truth, or lie united Muslims upon your book and this one of your messengers will allow you to sell them and give them clear victory against their enemy, a law made known as a local hire akula, who became an usher equally when I saw local gin Natoma corroboree him in cold environment when becoming a Natty or Makarova in a cold environment, when I saw you come in hiree masala kapruka

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