Alaa Elsayed – Marriage remember when you were young

Alaa Elsayed
AI: Summary © The radio show discusses the benefits of early marriage, including financial stability, social and culturaloppression, and immaturity. They emphasize the importance of finding the right representative and building a family, as well as the pros and cons of "monkey face" and "monkey donkey," and the need for strong character for men. A brief discussion on finding beauty in relationships and a book about "by the way" relates to finding a woman. Speaker 2 responds with a brief statement about a team meeting.
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Mr. Coming on such a beautiful day, I'm standing just had this drip of water upon me that make you feel more like a triathlon. I was still doing a marathon. But, you know, we're getting all into Washington, I was told that it was good. So today I'm gonna actually I didn't ask for the stage, I want to ask why because I wanted to do this more of a workshop, not a lecture will be more interactive. So I'm going to ask maybe, for somebody sitting on their own, maybe sits together with somebody else, because I will be doing a workshop or they actually asked me

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questions and I'm asking you for the feedback. And that's basically how we're gonna run this. So if I just need to find the tables that was already selected.

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My shall be very good. So first of all,

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ladies, I was going to be more of a raising awareness and educating what the pros and cons are, and what are the solutions? What to do what not to do regarding meaning the early marriage isn't good or bad, what do I look for? What are the features or benefits?

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What have you heard from the people who actually did get married early and so on? So we asked him questions and come up and I will ask him for the details. Right, obviously, tell them what to compel him to tell him and tell him what you told him. So this is the end of this you will be rewarded with Kenny you know the drill Yes, yes, sir. Question, do anything in Java? So the first thing I will do is basically start the workshop with a question and I'm going to ask the group to discuss whatever it is and give me one representative from each table to tell me what they think that's it for startups. But before I started this, I'm gonna have a beautiful voice just to say why do we do so?

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So I wanted to ask you then is the target audience the end user whether Why is your WHY you literally have Sunday was the first even notices for any of the systems Why are you here what you're looking for to learn?

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We're not going to use that is fantastic Academy

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fantastic. Allah.

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Tala adjuster, brothers three

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anything that I can learn that I didn't know that is a basketball. Yes. A very humble, knowledgeable, magnanimous and show that you are consistent again, why? Why you're here? What are you striking from this lecture? I still got three or four shots. I'm not gonna let you I'm gonna be discussing things with you.

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Unfortunately sitting down

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so I just need to know what

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radon that's the faster that's basically one of the main reasons we're having this contest. Anybody else? I want the brothers? Why are you here? What are you expecting from this?

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Okay, it's good to

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learn about it. We'll cover general information what we can do that. Anybody else want to ask him? Is this?

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Okay, yes, brother? Because my son is

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30 years old.

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Right. Okay, so we'll give you the solutions in the NHL what to do? And what's the roadmap and the GPS system?

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All right.

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Perfect. So we'll talk about culture versus religion, and what is the conditions and managing expectations also?

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Okay, so I'm going to be asked to

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give you about five minutes or so to discuss it, then simply tell me your feedback. And then we'll we'll talk about it. It's really simple. So first question, I'm going to need you guys to determine which should be a representative. So hopefully come and give me the feedback or whatever it is that we talk about.

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The first question is,

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why do you want to get back? Let's

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just write down the question.

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Tell me why.

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And I understand some of the very people already on

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the poll here. Where are you shooting my list? That's my wife Watson. In the house, I'm traveling already. And I said I don't do politics.

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Okay, so right now so this is the first question just write down the question I need one person to describe as a person dedicated to right now somebody with a good handwriting usually and the whole group would tell me You have five minutes I mean obviously less you don't need this but I just want

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to tell you Okay, that's all why you want to get naked that's all answer a simple question. Why am I doing that?

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I mean so much I'm gonna give you five minutes two minutes

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okay are we still working on

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it I'll give you one more minute until one moment

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okay, so the reason we I asked people why you want to get married, because most of the time when I say use white lady married, here's what

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my mom said this girl's okay.

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She passed the mother, all of us, the brothers are so controlled by their mom is unbelievable, right? That's a moment for you. With all due respect to ultimately, that's what I get. I'm just telling you, the gloves are off. And today I'm pleased to discuss things nothing personal. Nothing more than you know what, let's get back to this find out who we truly are. And let's please allow me to the console afterwards. So the brothers don't even know why can you do that? Like I know number one on the list, why you want to get married. But I really want to get you involved. I want you to start thinking why are we doing it? So maybe we can one representative from each level but he's

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going to ask for whatever you tell me and if you don't duplicate it just keep going with a new list anything that you've heard. Okay, who wants to start Okay, so who's going

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to get married

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so protecting your

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and you need to help them stay

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in this life

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for them

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complaint like it's much more like each other. Allegedly just this was the main purpose. Okay, but you want space is approaching? Anybody else want to add to the list? I've been looking

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for so much.

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over the place number one.

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Okay, the list is getting bigger, which is amazing. After a lot and by young here's something I

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said I'm sorry. How about we say to

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start a family to have

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anybody else what happened?

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Okay, let's add some more on the list school. There we go. How about number one on my list anyway, is to follow the Command of Allah. Number one on my list. Why? Because the wife says Why would I ever want to

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least you can still work like if you just want

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me to work on something. Let me give you one of those

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Joshua is just running on YouTube

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right now I do like that somebody

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So a lot of times I'm the guy that says in the forearm

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What should I

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do? So number one on the list, Allah has power to the resistance married a single amongst you or age any married and single amongst the reason we're doing this regularly so it's a command of Allah number two I've heard of that is the Sunnah rasool Allah Allah says you heard it tonight that was a definite maybe you ever get married the more appropriate I am boasting about your numbers on Monday and also probably Mohamed Salah exists and you guys haven't seen that from another platform that he plays me the exact information that is my way we see you in Mumbai so why why teaching you're not a me so you understand that okay, how many of us brothers sisters who wanted to get married to

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reasonably Select Continue so rhetorical question I'm not asking you I'm just trying to proclaim this

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how many of us when we look at this and you know what I want to raise the next time I want you to make that is how I want you to raise the next person that is going to find a cure for cancer. I have a normal pause not just you know what do whatever it is that I have to and I get the brothers actually tell me why do they make this isn't the right thing to do? Why are useless no no watch this think you know what it's just a thing of life. You eat to sleep you prove you can marry the guy that's basically it right? But we have no we have a we are muslims we have a much noble path for everything. Do you have to have an intention? Yes. Okay. I will just

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I already know the best of what I'm spending it's the best money I'm spending on my family.

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You know what the he says even your food you have less because he is the best money spent is the money spent for your family. So that's my intention.

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What else My intention is though I know the commandment Allah says will you ever do and I'm sorry. We'll move on. Joe told them on how much for the few believers to lower their views on how am I gonna lower my game that I live in fitna like that no one else you know, I know I'm telling you it's more difficult living out here especially in the summertime. I'm you know I'm doing my intention is to lower my knees this way. I also I have to check myself because the two strongest fitness according to the payment so if your whims and desires and if you can do it, Okay, what else I'm gonna protect myself. My intention is also to protect another system.

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Guess what my intention is also to give more southern province province Mohamed salah, let you know in the US don't even intimate relations when you get married, having intimate relations. This absolutely wouldn't have set up a record. That's huge now. I'm talking about more, more, more or less. Okay, what else was my intention? My intention Yola is to work so I can get married, I get rewarded for before that my intention is to go to school so I can get a job so I can get married. So I can protect my child myself, a competitor, sister, I can raise my children, I can do something my father is on the list. Keep going, keep going, keep going, you'll find out. And when you don't want

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to get married, there's so much more than you think.

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So it wasn't just because of my mom says she trusts or whatever it is, and all of that. So we have to change your intention much more than we've made. So even if you're married this conversation even if you may already, but what you have to do is change your intention or whatever it is that you have from now on, you will get the reward. Okay, I guess I'm hoping now that we can book someone. The next question is similar.

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What do you think about 30 MANISH So tell me about the pros and cons.

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So you have five minutes tell me if I want to manage until the early here the pros and here are the costs five minutes please go inside.

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Morning, Good.

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Mr. Grants emergency

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the audio recording says

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yeah somewhere in here

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so it is strict so

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yeah that's what I was taught

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see some people still writing I'll give you one more manager

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Okay, so this is the most important question of this lecture.

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There are some people online actually the reason we're doing this though they can hear me when I'm there. So they moved in here stuck on the fence. I hope they can hear me now. Please give us your feedback. People speak online, if you can still hear in great. If not, then let us know Justin Jones. Okay. The most important question today really is what is it you think the pros and cons and why? So I want you to be a devil's advocate. Like I want you to be telling me you know what, here's what I believe early marriage is good, and why? And those who don't believe in, I want you to tell me here's the reason I don't believe it's good and why.

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So we're gonna start with a positive.

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First positive is your protected early.

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Second one, when you're young, it's easy to choose. And it's easy to assimilate and adapt to the new person.

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Going to the class, when people are younger, they're not maybe their maturity level is not there yet. And are they ready to support and carry that responsibility beyond their parents. So

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because we're listening to this, okay, I'm thinking the second one.

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Coming around, I know that's a lie.

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We have a bit of a long list, some of the process protections of how you get a direction in life, you become more mature,

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who are pregnant

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and you go together, some of the cons is financial instability, you might also go up close.

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And you might not be sure what you want, you can learn to finance with the parents. And because of that you might also have to live with

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which might cause some issues.

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That's a good list anybody want to add to this list?

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For me, I have only I agree with all the positive points. The other seven I can add to that that

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parents are still there so they can help support or advice in case the young girl

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but the negative minor get the point as a mother that is immaturity in the character of young boys and girls, that is immaturity of right way of communication between him or her and the spouse and benefit

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maturity in calculating your marriage problems, the ease is still not in that. So he doesn't know what is there, after marriage after the party, what is there, and there is immaturity that it can lead the child to drop out of the marriage, or the first problem was you just want to run away. And

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the negative point as a parent that parents will get involved in the burden after the marriage is broken.

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That's a very good thing. This is my show, I have some more to add on it.

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So what I would like to add was when you were when you were really early in the process, the fact that you're younger, so you can have a you can have children at a younger age, and you can be more active in my energetic with them as they grow up. The other thing is that it helps you focus more on life, so you're less distracted.

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Because part is, one of the things is that immaturity, and then there's the financial struggles, and then there's also the social and cultural oppression, everyone just looks at you differently because you're married. So that's

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fantastic. I'm actually learning from you now. You've exceeded my expectations. Anybody want to ask you this? This is just

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building a family is a process that's not easy. You have to look at the big picture. The big picture is to start early. So you will succeed later on. So there is a difficulties in building the family. You have to struggle in the beginning. So later on, you will feel happy and you have

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Okay, fantastic. Anybody else want to add?

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Okay, here's what I get. Here's what

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most of the brothers actually more than the sisters want to get married. You have

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any idea why?

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Why do I give the majority of the brothers want to get married early? Not the sisters. Yes.

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Okay, so I can as I said, today, the gloves are off. I'm not gonna be politically correct. We're all mature here.

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Okay, what is the highest sexual peak for math?

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And science now? Yes. 18 is correct. 18 years old is the highest sexual peak format. But what does he get from the parents that 18 years old? Anyone? Go ahead. I said loves her out.

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You're too young.

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What else?

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In mature?

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You have no money.

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We're talking about at the moment for solution right. That's the reason we're here. What else? Yes, honey.

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Now ready? You're right. Not just good. looking smart to myself. Once in a

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while we'll do you

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eight years old. Are you American? No. Understand we can work on that. No, I got no you're

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not spending it. Oh, my goodness. I get out of here. Yes.

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Right up, you know, you don't have a job yet. You have to finish school. That's the most one have to finish school. I'll talk about all of this. Okay, what else? Yes. Having?

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What will the auntie say a Chachi Chachi will teach you I owe that? Yes.

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And mature? Indeed it is. What else? Brothers and sisters? Anybody who else will not on this list. So let's take it one at a time and see best Josh? Yes.

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Indecisive. Okay, you're right. It's called the monkey theory. I'll talk about that. Yes, this is me.

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to get married early and to be protected and all that. So there was no good planning.

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That is fantastic approach. This is a root cause analysis. They're not proactive. Why? Because it's the norm. Now. Nobody thinks about, you know, what, what's what's best? What does Allah subhanaw taala want? And what problems are the ones we the way that we are so much into culture and the norms of the society and the community? And especially with all the respect I love Canada, many of them, what are you almost two years now. So you know what the norm here, you know, you have to do 1234, whatever, ever less stuff. And that's when we become so honest. So we put much pressure on ourselves, and that the expectations are totally different. And we forget our roots. We forget why

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we're here. We forget why we do things. We try to impress people so much even before you ask for somebody's hand in marriage. You have to do 123456 Yeah. And then you have to finish this and you have to finish that you have to bind you have to have out

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So I've got a call out of a job

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oh my god man. So we make it you know what I'm telling you slam made what is Halloween so easy. I will be a slam made what is Hana to be so easy who will be difficult Muslims

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Muslims many difficult but Allah minute easy, minute easy we No no, we choose the difficult the hard way. And when it comes to the holidays, we'll make it difficult. Guess what if we make holiday people what happens to haram

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becomes easy. And that's exactly what I'm dealing with in my office right now.

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I get pregnant sisters. Listen, the reason that this has happened actually, is because the brother came to me and he mentioned something he seen and done whatever. And other people came into me the sisters already you know, unfortunately, these type of people is the symbolism heikkila Sister, this is a good brother with good families from our own. Yes, we're not doing what used to be lasted. Why? Because the expectations of the parents would have to finish this first. You have to finish this first. But guess what? I'm Oklahoma. I mean, I'm not personally I'm talking about the young guys. I'm an old guy. Okay. 18 years old, they left the cocoon and is now high on Islamic nests in the

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community. And guess what? They're going to university that university is gauged by Jews that they walk in and laundries now if you go in the summer,

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what I have no idea how to resolve them and that's why I got Habibi, I begged him, Please give me anything.

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Okay, because the sisters over there, they're not gonna leave you alone. You think? When I was young, a long, long time ago, it was difficult for me when

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I'm supposed to be the Hunter here. I'm being hunted.

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What the heck is going on? I'm supposed to be going after the sisters. This is just to humanity. This will never subsistence a long time ago that we didn't have the same infrastructure. You guys are lucky. Hunger. They have alternatives. You have something over a long time ago. Dude, we only have county maps. And that's it. You have to travel far to go to the grave. Now.

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It's not in schools, everywhere conferences, you have the infrastructure, but we need to walk the talk. So here you go. Your son is telling you there's reason a black

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Hello, remember when you're young. And that's that's the fight over today. Right? Marriage. Remember when you were young. And that's the reason I really wanted to talk to the parents today. But you understand, and that's why I want to thank you all for being here. Because it is it's the they won't even listen, they won't listen, if the parents are going to you try to tell them you know, and I want to get your children back early. We won't even bother, they won't. They won't even bother with the time they won't even come. That's fine. I understand. But if we if I say one person, I'm happy. That's what he says. If Allah got me to do that one person is better than him automatically but

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beautiful, great candles and so the highest level of transportation, like the best cars, that's morally position, that's what it really means. So now you have a person that is not 18 years old, the highest sexual peak and we get bombarded with the social media with a hyper sexual community or society that they live in. And guess what? No matter where you go, no matter what you do, you will find a naked with all due respect to a naked system humanity trying to sell you a car or a car. Yeah, anything right now they're using women as a sexual objects, whether you like it or not, they're gonna come into you bikini has nothing to do with the German theory. But they will be going

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like this. Have you ever given what?

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So you can you can miss it. And as I mentioned, the shift came from a frog to gums.

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It's a true story when it comes to

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how you

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go, I know you've been doing it again. But now you know, in some of the supermarkets when you're on the floor, they have advertising now. Now you look down and you look up.

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What has it got me on here? Okay, so this is the reason I'm telling you. So what do you do? What do you do? Then we talk about one and lessons or solutions. I listen to you. I have one already. And I'm doing the same thing with my children. I'm just hoping to pass the

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spirit and hopefully some of us can do something about it. Okay, so how do you handle this now? I'm going to give you another five minutes. This is a case study. A case study. The case study goes like this. You son hope

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you come up to us.

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says, Hey Daddy, how you doing? Man? You got something laying I've got some money I used to get married. Okay. I like the sister

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Susan molesters. I know that needs to do something.

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to 250, meaning anything you call her whatever you want to call her. So your son Moe comes knocking on your door. He's telling you that I know I'm 18 years old, but I want to get married. Mom helped me out hooked me up with a system from another mister because the birth mother he really wants to get hooked. Okay, you have five minutes that's a case study. How will you handle your son coming up here says Dad, I want to get married. I love this girl here. I know I'm 18 years old but I want to marry this girl and how would you handle it?

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Loves her off dude.

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It's time

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I not gonna get complaints?

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Do things

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remember the question is very simple Your son is coming to you is 18 years old is wants you to find a way for him at 18 years old? How will you handle it?

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You have a question? What

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are you pick a table, this

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is what I like to do more. But if you want to only or if you're on your own, by all means, feel free to come in. Okay.

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All right. So, either or he had somebody who wants to marry this girl.

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Or who wants to get married period? Either or how would you handle this question? I didn't change it.

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I'm getting old.

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You know what? Let me let me go back first. I want to be specific. He wants to get married. 18 year old son wants to get married? How will you handle it?

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Let's just go general first, because I don't want to restrict that. I don't want change. I know. I'll repeat it again. Your son is 18 years old. He's telling you that Mom, I want to get married. How will you handle it?

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I'm going to leave the floor for discussion. The question is simple. Your son 18 years old is coming to you says I want to get there and how are

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you guys ready?

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Okay, who wants to take it up? Who wants it was the first thing what I was thinking. Give it some time.

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This is a serious table. Yeah.

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You're ready.

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Oh, I know why you want to get there because it's first of all.

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Okay, you can help think about it.

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But let me

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tell my son, let's go check him out. You can

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see, that's that's a very smart looking very smart man. Did you hear that? He says that you tell him you tell your son. Let's go and meet you. I hope you're good for you.

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You're right. That's one of the solutions. Anybody else want to take it if someone's coming up to you at 18 years old? And says Mom, dad?

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Okay, thank you

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my dog

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So I'm gonna give you the answer that, I would say,

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may not be the right answer, but I would ask him questions, right? So I said, you know, what? Have you prepared for that? And how do you know she's awake?

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And where are you planning to the

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final direction?

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We need to be great.

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There are so many things I can take. Take all these leads. Very good. So we'll take each one and look for pros and cons. Okay, so remember, the purpose of this workshop is to look for solutions. At least there is awareness, at least you know how to handle it. What are the use of actually doing that we're sticking our head in the sand. And thinking that this was a you're gonna join? Okay, fantastic was anybody else want to ask you this was

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so he can make him do some tests of responsibilities, for example, asking him to come up with a budget of how he's going to manage his finances for one month,

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May can be the system 52 to three days to see how he handled can make a good test that will get him to see if he himself was responsible enough to be made.

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So the system is actually suggesting a drive one of the drivers have put him in that room. And he also says when that is when you see what just didn't see him, that's a fantastic idea, because now you're doing this turning the table. Because if you're gonna say, no, he's gonna resent you. But if you give him an opportunity, and he will now recognize whether it was ready or not, that's a very smart idea. Yesterday.

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So one thing that I mentioned was that when the sun comes at that age, and as parents for tells you must get married, the first thing is to not dismiss his

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the one he's asking for, and that really throws them off, and they really, and then that distracts them, they want to go the wrong way. So you take it into you take it in, absorb it and say, okay, yeah, one more time to work together towards a job. And then you slowly

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you show them the responsibilities of the householder, you know, what you have to do in marriage, so they can better understand what they have done what they would have to do

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for marriage, and then they can realize, okay, if they're really ready for it or not, instead of just telling them, okay, you're not ready, or you know, it's not your time, and then they, it makes it easier for them to go the wrong way, which turns on his calling. It's just your time, that's the that's your child from TSA, in a way saved me was on my brother on the way. So you should you should take that and you know, it's like a warning, and you just go from there, do what you have to do.

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That's very good. Actually, I have dealt with this personally. The mother would raise a flag to the parents and there's when dismissing and dismiss it, or actually deliver it, or usually the person which has a negative connotation has actually backfires. Because it's what I came to you to ask him how that evolves the door is what he's gonna rationalize and justify, justify that the Haram now is the only answer. And he's got to do something. And our youth are very fragile. That's very smart. So I look for alternatives, and they'll come to you and show you remember, number one reason number one reason, according to the 89% of men for marriage was what? Anybody knows answer. I mentioned this in

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our workshop.

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Number one reason for men to get married, according to 89% of men that were surveyed, the only reason they want to get married is what

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physical needs *. Number one, nothing else.

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To protect their privacy at that point, and even if it's like, you know, your husband or your partner, you want to get their permission and get not only one person to make them feel like, you know, they're important, and they're respected at that point in time, otherwise, they would share. Now, that's a very smart answer. Remember, these are human beings, their feelings, they're rebels, they're teenagers, it's good enough that they're coming to divorce their secrets with you, and they're trusting you that you don't want that I'm coming clean. I'm asking. But if you make him feel

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bad or negative in a way, and you insult their intelligence, and you don't you don't disrespect that or you don't even respect the privacy, you're going to lose him. He's not going to come to you anymore. She's not going to come to you anymore. You're gonna get their advice from web,

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social media. And guess what? You think social media is the best time to get events advice, according to the Muslim

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This is social media open. I'm not saying even Muslim social media, they may not be the experts. They're just anybody, anytime they can hear you call them a hammer or whatever, they will just tell you, whatever it is, according to what they need. What do you think? So they come to you, Mom and Dad, they're confining you to look for solutions, and you turn them away, guess what? You're gonna have to be the price and the scholars will tell you Shabbat in Lebanon.

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The difficulties of the children is going to be the difficulties of the parents period. That's fantastic. Was anybody want also an after this? Yes, decision.

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So my name is Yasmine. I don't know where you got into some discussion. But here we have a family that have four children for success story, more than four that got married. And I think it's very interesting to know. So they started to find that idea of early marriage, even before the 80 years old. The dad told them at any age, you come and tell me you would like to get married. I have a space for you inside the house. This is a space for you. You can get married. Yeah. So I financially supported them. In terms of things that I put burden when people get married, wedding. So that family had a simple wedding. It's like a dinner to actually ended up because marriage is to announce

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that for two people got medical issues. And infuser Guma they went to the Hadith that

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occurred upon Baraka. If the murderer is small, then there is baraka. And that comes with mutual agreement between both parties. So the girl has to know that this person, this is what he has, this is what he can offer the GOP. So they have more than four children that got married with that. And yeah,

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that is awesome. Okay, listen, let me I'll share something that I'll ask you the second question.

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So he's actually if you're giving you solutions is giving you solutions. What he mentioned is what I usually suggest, my, my daughter, first daughter got married at 18 years old.

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And that's when we should so legally again, here,

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you are ultimately legally married before that, but you have to have the consent, written consent, and both your parents. My second data is right here. So I'm going to show that he is about to get your data at my son is the only one in the photos.

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My son is a kid,

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you know that? You know, the you know, the coefficient can catch you know, this guy? Yeah, he's very picky.

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And he thinks about the game. So I'm trying to look him up, and then we're working on it. And that's what I told my children, you can ask them I said, Listen, I have some little halal and haram.

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Anytime you think you want to get married, I got to help. And that's exactly what we said, there is a place for you here, we will, we will support you financially. And that's basically what I'm asking the parents to do.

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What I'm asking the parents to do, it is your son that you're financially supporting, and if you want to support you, but your doctor by all means just because it's the it's the it's the brother who's getting married, who's responsible financially, so asking the parents to to especially support your son financially. So find a place for them to support him financially, totally get on their feet. And the daughter has to be looking for the person who will doing so, but you're looking for compatibility, right. So I'm gonna ask that shallow I'm gonna plug it in our computer. This part of the solution is part of the most important things is you look for a person who is also willing to

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invest in that also thinks in the same way that you do things that early baggage is good. And I'll talk about the management software and try to come back to that because I want to finish with the positive with the benefits and so on.

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So I have a whole long list so if I look for a person the family that's thinks the same way I do, that's compatibility. They're not very demanding though. You see someone has to have 1234 So we'll talk about

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what does it really mean Minister you have actually shut up so before I give the mic to her I'm gonna just add a few things here and then we'll move on. First of all Prophet Mohammed Salah says yeah, Masha, Shiva, Minnesota and even with basil yet as always. So I'm going to repeat the one that the translation the meaning of it, brother, Mohammed Salim was talking to men, women, he says youth.

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He says, Yeah, Marcia Shut up all young men or young women. He's not talking to a man and a woman. He says Shabaab

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So he's addressing what is expected. That's the norm when you do start having sufficient here when your voice changes

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you did not have to

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Furthermore, you know when things change with gravity or whatever and all that stuff I gotta keep my eye on you man is my job my job is to protect you. So Prophet Muhammad says all young people young men and women young young young as soon as you're ready as soon as you have what it takes to get married and now to be an adult what is about and we're talking about Allah he says that he hid so much the words funny at the zoo which starts with a letter fat fat meaning really school donkey we rush don't procrastinate and the NAM is the Lamb Busan prepare the plot on the letter F goes into present tense to be the tolerable it's an indication of their demand and request that means probably

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Mohammed telling all young people as soon as you find something appropriate you have an index right away go proceed and I'm commanding you and requesting your email. Isn't that amazing? No, no no, but I here's what I get. I get that people older people you know what? How you doing man? The American No, no, no, no no sugar.

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Why I'm still gonna choose when you wake up on your own you can't even carry your kids do you get if you wait too long you have at the command center imagine the demands in the system inside is too much. So please keep that in mind.

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I didn't Yeah, I will appreciate you this my son, my name

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and Abdullah and even I offer a biller is 34 but the mentality they grow up here and they want to settle down. So yeah.

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Okay, let me address the settling down issue. I call this the monkey monkey

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dock theory. So I will leave the last one.

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So here are some of the pros and cons.

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The young men usually

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when they're young, they get cold feet summer they don't get to vote yet. They want to play the field right?

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I don't want to sell again. I got too many girls here too little time.

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Okay, so what is the what goes into monkey face? But I'll tell you the cons of this one. The monkey face what the monkey with is the one the jump from one tree to another take a bite of this fruit because another one another apples other orange another mango snippets like that bite this thickness that's called the monkey face the monkey faces you jumping all over the place sorry about that

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so the monkey face if you stay in too long, what happens to you?

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You get picky

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if you stay in the monkey face, which is fine I mean I expect that for the brothers. You know what they're strongly young they're visible their portrayal they deal with the yeah again you're trying to get the right job that's good to him and all that stuff. Yes. So what do you do to keep jumping to keep looking to get back in and what happens is this the light the eyes of this sister

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but the nose of sister

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and the mouth of sister Lulu and the body of sister cuckoo.

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And the personality of sister booboo and the parents and sister knew

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you got this like everything they like something about every sister engaged what what are the brothers one

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of them and one girl? That's what I get from Allah. I heard it in my own ears. My brother came up to me to shake I want her fully loaded.

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What surprised? What do you put in an order?

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Well, Allah He came up to me says, I want her fully loaded. And with all due respect to my brother, I love them all. The creation of Allah is good. And it's beautiful. Don't get me wrong. But the compatibility factor was not there. I assure you. Yeah. If a brother wants to grow fully loaded FDC me holding on to, but he wasn't even close to me. I just told him that folio. and wallah he and the brother wants you to question everything and he has nothing not much to offer. Not much to offer whatsoever. But let's have an analogy of the brothers. Right because supply and demand. There's more sisters now. Guess what, dude? There's more supply. I guess I got the demand. I get the pig. Yeah.

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Right. So please understand the first phase is the monkey please sit down there for a long time. You're gonna pay the price. After a while you're gonna have to okay well, proper industry doesn't have to be this. She doesn't have to be there. But guess what? You're missing the boat. Number two, the monkey donkey.

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The donkey base is when you get married, okay? You work like a

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donkey. You do

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this, and that's why I'm telling you when you get married. You don't have to worry about this early because you get

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You can actually enjoy your children. You're not too old to pick them up, you become friends with them and all of that stuff. I get married late.

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That's a that's that's not I was waiting to get married and 15 years old 15 years old, I was talking to a girl about marriage when I was 15. I said, You know what? I asked the girl, our neighbor, you know, neighbors back home yeah, the neighbors, your family and your ideas.

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As soon as they open the thing either with a

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verb say say me and all of a sudden you have the dreams and want to kids and the cat and the fish and all of that. Okay, and it's true story and my wife knows about us and again black men. I told her I was

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and she already knows that I was gonna marry Pakistani sister too but because of biryani

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I got invited into running. Okay, so anyway, so I was ready to get married in 2015 I was ready to rock and roll it just didn't happen and so on. We're allowed to Panama it was wasn't meant to so that's the idea but the damn one is ultra mission is a job and it's only Gibson joking something so please keep that in mind. You got to also raise the last few children for the sake but some of part of our jobs is to actually facilitate facilities.

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So this is your next piece I want you to write down

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what should your children look for and stops go ahead tell me that criteria is now what do you look for in a spouse both you're going to tell me here's what I look for for my daughter for my son and here's what I'm looking for for a son in law for my God give me the criteria we look for the characteristics for spouse for your child

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Okay are you ready to do some more time

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give you a one woman show how one woman

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also should know that it began to open some people up today if you're available you know the drill the single need to stick around

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wanted to get married you need to go what you need to give me the proof of your first wife. Next you and I will talk

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about my wife is not here to speak for you

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All right here we go.

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Can now as somebody starts Yes Sister Maria speed yes means says mean will start us out what to look for my spouse reach up.

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So I come

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So you're looking for, for your daughter, you go for characteristics, he has to have kind of nd a competitive religion and character. And coeem. I mean, he has power, but he has to be trusted. Because if he has power and he can not be interested, that's not a good case. And we are in a country, maybe we don't know much about that person. We don't know about us raised or his family. So we we have to get Teskey from people who know, especially people in the community and religious people like

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and when it comes for picking, or you're like

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a wife, then we go with the Prophet

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Muhammad, you might want to marry him Serbia, where do you wedding? What percent of the Caribbean that so you go for that? Religion, because things can perish. If you can perish? Money can go away, like hula Crusader, no savior, and it can harm us more with that.

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That's, that's a pretty much your answer there. Anybody want to add to this? Yes, okay.

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So when you want to ask, you have to make sure you ask your neighbors, you want to make sure you ask other people to travel with them. You want to make sure you ask people who did business with the recording.

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Like this is somebody who so one thing.

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So I, there are muscles on Saturday by search engine. And there was a heavy that one day and my wife came to a message. And he said Who knows that person. So on day, one man put his hand up. So

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he said, did you deal with money on them? Because people's quality is can you can know? He says no. He asked him Did you travel with him? He said no. So it was certainly not and then traveling and then something else.

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Or your his neighbor because neighbors know each other's business is or no. He said perhaps with some administrator going up and down. He said, Yeah. You don't really know.

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Martial law. I just want to address one thing before I go into specifics on this one.

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Most of the time, or what I get the parents say no, they're my son or my daughter is not ready yet because they want to finish school. That's number one on the list. And I tell him I talked to the youth, especially in diversity.

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They actually told me and I have I have met some of the people when they get married when they were students. They told me she will love you my GPA improved when I got back.

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This again, this this is I personally talked to the youth. This a chick before I got married as a youth. My GPA average, the average was so after I got married, my GPA improved. Why? Why do you think the GPA improved?

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Right I'm gonna get somebody that's motivating you very good.

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They're gonna focus

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Yes, yes. Did

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you get somebody to motivate him you're now focused on come back on that point.

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As a guy, your needs are satisfied and your focus so you can even have any distractions. Okay, that's number one. The brother saw me said you don't want to guess what if you're not Magneto University what they usually do here are teenagers. You spend time in front of the mirror

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instead of see the drives in Masha Allah

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it's a joke. It's true. It's the high students I actually was trying to talk about the hustlin Muslim rallies. When you look in the mirror as anybody knows what you say when you look in the mirror it's mostly a lot of other stuff as

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well Allah as you predicted my creation perfect my character. So but the brother says when I look in the mirror and go Masha Allah

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so you know what, instead of you wasting your time looking 3d fixing the hair that don't want to wear the same thing twice every day. I love the content by this chicken out the Cat Scratch and sniff system being LIFO whatever it is because want to impress the opposite gender goes both ways. You know what? You're covered. You're off the market. I got that part. looked after myself. I am focused now on my education because I have an a motivated person to do well.

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My family unresponsible I'm not deteriorate, discharge, or distracted by anything other than the biggest sickness that I have. The number one thing that mother Brothers is what are this? According to

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women, and you heard it from a woman so because I guess

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I'll tell you why I

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don't think we have a picnic. Of course I know. You have feelings too. I'm not I'm not denying that fact. Wherever it goes. The mat is a physically based and are physically based woman or emotionally based, which means the man will learn to be the man will learn to love the woman they're attracted to. But a woman will learn to love the woman so to be attracted to the man that they love, major difference, I repeat, a man says a man is physically based first, you get physically attracted first. Yet man will learn to love the woman they're attracted to. And a woman will learn to be attracted to them and the love. So they're more emotional member is you cannot be this in everybody.

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There are exceptions, obviously. But a woman also has the right to be attracted and so on to the brother. No, don't get me wrong. But the idea behind it is the man has to be attracted physically before they even think of anything else. So when we do so then you have to act under feelings and emotions that the man has really looked after is what I'm looking after. I don't have to worry about anything else. That's why the United States

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Zubia national Bucha Minami.

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Allah Our Creator told us it was the lumens

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that the show us wins and desires. Number One On The List it says this app limited Subhanallah Allah Allah Krishna He is

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the deputy.

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And men accordingly we fall into that category according the Prophet Mohammed Salim says

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that the thing that I fear for you most is fitness in

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the fitness.

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So we're not speaking my horse here. Roberto Homosassa says, guarantee we do things that guarantee agenda what are they?

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Yes, you got what is between your jobs and what's between your legs?

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He's he said, Just guarantee TV two things. Two things. I'll guarantee you, gentlemen, what's between your jobs? What is that? You tell him? What if the rest of it is your, obviously your your chest.

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And that's why the seller says when you get married, you protect how much of you need.

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Half of you did

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you live when you get married, you protect half of your deed. So it says For tequila. Just be conscious of love with the other half.

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Get married, having children is very upset when you get mad. So all you have to remember is what protects the 50% that's left when you get to go away. Is that amazing? Fantastic. Let me go to the Format board. That's what I call the board by board. Okay.

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So usually, let's start with the sisters. First. Let's go to the list of the sisters first. So when you look for a husband

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usually when nurses come to the play my office, my husband beats me up. He does drugs. He does alcohol is a womanizer. He commits adultery, all of that stuff. What is the first question I told the system?

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Exactly. Based on what did you say yesterday? This guy?

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Usually should have you seen this?

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How you say no to this big rock? Yeah, that guy. The dude came in with a Mercedes Benz. He's wearing Gianni Versace Giorgio Armani. He's got a big rock thing like rhythm and bass. Why don't we say no to that? Okay. Yes, you're supposed to say no to that. But you don't have to say no to that he has the four criterias that are mentioned two in the Quran and the Sunnah. So let's go back to what 60s means. First of all, Allah subhanaw taala good as the same one I mentioned earlier on. The reason I want to get married is to please Allah because he says and you want to go back to them, let me go to Commander, we are allowed to marry the single Muslim. That's what is after that was solid He Allah

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said we're gonna have a much more solid game. So Allah says, in the Grand Marais, the single amongst you and the righteous, that means if you don't make the right choices once against the command to the law, and then what he said, he says, you're ever in the higher and he says young

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So Prophet Musa alayhis salam was helping the daughters. They went to the Father the full upon him said Oh, my father hiring him. Is that

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That's the person you hire is elite strong, and I mean trustworthy. Now, I tell us this all the time, please don't look over the coals. I mean,

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I found I mean, that's not what I mean. You know, I mean,

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Kuwait strong. I mean, first of all, why are they together?

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If you've been to the marriage workshop, you'll know the answer, but it's okay. Okay, the answer is that he has public, if he has strength, but he doesn't have the meaning trustworthy, he will misuse and abuse his power over you. That's what the caller said. That's why they're together. And number one, ALLAH SubhanA wa says, in the highest alert, we need strong, trustworthy, because it is not trustworthy. He will misuse and abuse the power over you. Number two,

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doing the sadhana in Jasmine.

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Thank you.

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If a person does not have your own any marriage as we love marriage,

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you have to look for two reasons. This is the Guardians now with the uniform switched on the right, yes.

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No, you're right. He says dienen full religious background and character. So why are we together?

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Okay, because the B has proof that you're good Muslim. The proof that you're good Muslim, is you're,

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you're careful.

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And that's why they're together. They're together for the simple reason is that if you character is out of whack, that means your religion is out of whack. Let me give you the proof in the Salah.

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You saw

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the fruits of your imbalance in the

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movement of money and

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take your charity because it purifies the notice a green becomes more generous as you see. I'm going to learn that while yes, we can see the training, self lessons. Yeah, patience, compassion, all of that none of us are gonna look at it to everything that

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you have loved as a character. That's why the Josiane I'm gonna do it is as men some of us have been South Africa with the one that is better for you and your flock is better for you than to do. So I here's what we want. I want them both.

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But have you seen the brother that versus like Masha Allah

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a scholar

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he does a ladder perfectly, but terrible and yet bla bla bla

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and if you see the other side, the other one whereas GQ, he's got the hill and I put the need to keep it

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sweet. Oh my God, he's gonna be and people will see as the pumper bottle pinky up.

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He's got everything dude, he's got it. I used to look serious

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every day and cover high deposition to pitch but no idea no idea of as well. And you see that?

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What we're looking for is I want to amalgamate them. I want the 20s among both. Best of both. That's what we're supposed to do as muslims. Okay, so the reason that I say again, we'll have a knee together for that reason, but we remain together for that reason. Okay. Yes.

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Okay, so this is the ask What do you mean by string? Let me explain. According to slavery, it says

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according to authority,

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he says strengthen the man by according to the later scholar says delete everything. Meaning not just physically, intellectually, financially, academically, and so on. We believe that's a strong opinion. But according to what he says believing that now, I mean, even explain. Okay, I usually wasn't gonna stick here, but it's good. It's good point. It's important.

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Can we explain? I mean, what does it mean? You know, the brother that has put his hand in the Father's hand he has to be at the beach. I mean, what if I see the window of my my? My wife is sleeping and the schools and the windows open? Why not? At least close the window?

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Yes, it's a man.

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I have to make sure why would I open the gates and hellfire

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and not close the gates? I have to close against no fire and open the gates agendas. I have to be a meeting with the system. I have to make sure that she's learning I have to make sure that she does what the right thing is to the kitchen.

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I mean with her feelings I mean with her children. I mean with her secrets I mean with everything that his life or life about Yes. Now the whole of the United flame. But this is what only enemies alive. Now let me go on the other side.

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When I talk to the brothers usually when I go to universities, even high school now.

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I asked them for this dude, you

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Why don't you just get on

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with shift?

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Now every time I see a shift, my heart is aching. My knees are shaking, destroying him shaking. She doesn't keep making.

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I go I'm so happy for you and they can help Marsha. That's it this moment.

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Cinco de Mayo secretary. Oh, she goes she's 36 From birth in situ. When she walks around she won't get over my head she's because my feet are tired she's gotten older my mind

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this is a waste you Haley's. You must be tired because she's this fall of the of the heavens that what you use as an angel walk around here and they give me all these lovely lions. Yeah, I'm gonna have you

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wake up

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you're not gonna impress me with this. So I'm just I said I said let's say

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so now I understand. There are also probably Mohamed Salah has given you four criterias so I know that

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he tested me Are you talking to me? I was talking to me. I knew that there was no movement

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I know that had eaten before was important.

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Okay, tell me there are four things in the Florida world. What is it?

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You Germania

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Did you Madea yami

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Yugi that's all the things that the remember the brothers remember? It? Wasn't that I mentioned the Germania. Allah He mentioned anything else up there? I can't remember.

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Okay, let's talk about the for this man. He has a man he had. That's the guy that's well, he didn't have to do that. So let me explain it since the wealth is there. Let me show you the Honda phenom by the world. Yes, she can help you if you want to compatible.

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Now, the beauty rubber men as I mentioned, let's be honest, because

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it hasn't as Kalani is such a body. He said look for beauty first, even though he says the most important of all is what the

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so harsh Astrid is saying it's the fear of this hadith. He says number 14 first. I'm gonna I don't want to confuse you. So I actually mentioned this first before I give you the secret. But he told me the most important part is to

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win. Let me explain. You see, if you look for the inverse.

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And you don't like the way I said all the creation of philosophy that I had. I was teaching this course in Australia. Dude, I got a nasty email from a sister that was very angry that she didn't understand what it was. So I haven't explained it.

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You said what? You see 1234 According to the scholars he has an opinion says now and I mentioned I said Every sister is beautiful. Not me. Allah says they're going to movies do

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you tell us we create you in the best way so Allah you don't have to impress anybody Allah told you you know you're you're pretty limits work for me. So but it's not the beauty API is not huge. I let's put it this way because I'm just making sure I don't get this lovely complaints. Every sisters beautiful happy now. Could I feel like continuing Are you okay? Okay, it doesn't get the nice back.

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But the brother doesn't like the way she looks. Maybe you listen my brother. He likes the exact opposite of what I like. Is my brother Wallahi I'd like to turn to all worlds me all.

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I don't like to just give me a chance. You understand? I'm in trouble if

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you don't you don't know when you stop in here. Hey, Ken is in the boys in the back. Do you mind to stop?

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If you're in a hole, stop thinking. My brother's references the exact opposite of mine. And we're brothers. That's fine.

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Now the brother is looking for a certain type. But when they come and ask me so what do you look for when you say

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give me a man. This girl half

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measure memorizing obviously, human she knows the six books of seven.

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Yes. And then that is

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Yes, yes.

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Yeah, honey. So what happened to

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me again is over. Yeah.

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I mean,

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so that's the scholars going to tell you first look at that. Whether you like the girl or not physically. Because if you say no to this girl that I just showed you what to get to say no to the D. You just said no to the D

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but if I show you a sister, you know what it's not like she's beautiful. Bella says but she's not my type. What did you say no to beauty. You guys. Let me explain the rest. So we're gonna

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we're going to come to that

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the ponytail Delana when we get the beauty because listen, as I told you before the brothers, you know, to walk downtown Toronto, for example, right? You see things suit, whether you like it or not, you see things. Now, if you're going to see things outside, and you go to your wife, and you up to your

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Ying Yang,

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you still W with outside. But if you have a life that is your type that attracts you, you don't care how you see outside, because you have a life that attracts you that you're attracted to content, otherwise, you've been looking outside. So that's why YouTube is in the hadith is there, but the beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it doesn't necessarily mean that everybody loves everything.

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Number three, is his lineage. Why? What do you like it's not going to marry the family, actually, longtime boys and girls when I was wrong, I learned the hard way. If you've married a family, whether you're lucky to not, because that's going to be your uncle. It's going to be your auntie because of our grandparents. That's the family. That's the environment that she was raised in. And that's what she's going to do. And they will tell you, you want to know the future of this world woman her mom

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the mother in law?

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I know, I know. But the environment is there. That's how she was raised. That's what she was. That's how she saw her mother treated by her father this way. That's what you heard. That's what you thought that was good and back. That's what was wrong. So the environment, is there, the lineage that she was raised in is there and have you for that reason. But number four is what DVM, her D, the religious background, he didn't stop there exist, but be that has been

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the true winning and the true success of out of the four criterias is the owner and the possessor of the religious background. So he says that, you know what that means?

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Are you going to pull up anybody that means your hand will be touching does that mean?

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Yeah, you will be absolutely slapped. Nothing, you will lose everything.

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Meaning you lose everything.

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If the system doesn't have the background, the religious background, if you listen to your wife is she going to give you know

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that this is egregious do this all the stuff that she doesn't do the commander that created this, you're gonna do that when the creation? No, she's not. So probably 100 Thumbs up. If she doesn't have the wrist slap.

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Your hand will be touched and dust or glued to dust. That means you will lose everything. Wallahi I receive a phone call from a brother to shake. She cleaned me out.

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She cleaned me out. What does he do with it? You get Mr. Pena? But no, no. He went to work. He came back to the houses. And he cleaned out not only the house, he says the check the bank account.

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Gone, everything's gone. I said if you want What do you want me to tell you

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that you have the need?

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There is no way a system hasn't been impossible. It was just a few short months, you will never lose.

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And that's the reason. Now the other the positive meaning of this,

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meaning your heart hadn't touched us. I mean, if she has the religious background, we will know if she doesn't have the background.

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That's what happens to you. But if she does have the image background and hospital, the cultivation of what you're you're planting, you will reap what you've sown. That means a cultivation and the plantation of positive will come to fruition. That's what this means. At least now you have an idea. Okay, let me see what the time it is.

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And then we'll take a moment.

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Wow. Okay, let's take a break. Take a break here and come back. We'll seal the deal. Okay, I'll give you one minute break. Okay.

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Whatever state sake let me finish. Okay, please go ahead of yourself. Take a break. 10 minute break.

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Then maybe. Alright. Alright, go ahead, take a break. We'll come back we'll continue and give you the GPS of how to take this whole thing safety home, Masha, Allah Subhanallah Langham Muhammad, this has to do with.

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The love

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was really pretty as Pamela

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was nice to see you hola hola

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a lot of conservative

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what we mean

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by the interlocutor

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like to get

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the solutions coming up

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I have some lupus but that is so sweet sweet sweet

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thank you so much

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okay it's very nice thank you thank you

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so that's very nice to me I love this

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was over there

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I'm going to tell you the point I used to forget about that I'll plug in

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some of the understandable

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possibilities when I talk about Congress

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there's a whole chapter about the

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a portion of it obviously means

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I have this book explained in episode

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two a team

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so if you're a leader you're not put on for Monday

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to Sunday adopting

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But I'll tell you what

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everyone is gonna want

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very good point

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hopefully we'll

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have a solution in place

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gizmo Can you just give me some

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thumbs up

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so as

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long as possible

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brother was just ahead of you forgive me

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just one second

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I'll give you my contact

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much as

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I can

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this document

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a question

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he asked me a question was asked

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out there any happier verbs

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to balance I

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want you to also be able to help me

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unnecessarily live with

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stuff be more

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So, I will talk to

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are you man dude oh your wife beat you up in the house

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let me get his

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shirt What's up

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