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AI: Summary © The fourth century's legal book, Surah Al Nisa, is the final page of the 4th volumes of the century's tackle on marriage issues. The discussion touches on the rights of marriage and the importance of giving back things when it's advisable. The speaker emphasizes the need for marriage and gives examples of restrictions on relationships and marriage due to past mistakes and restrictions on certain sex relations. The importance of marriage is discussed, along with the importance of learning the rules of Islam and avoiding sinful behavior.
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Welcome to another episode of our Tafsir page

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by page, Insha'Allah today we are on page

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81

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which is the final page of the 4th

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juz of the Quran,

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Surah Al Nisa.

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In the previous episode, we mentioned those verses

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in which Allah Subhanu wa Ta'ala spoke about

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some of the laws concerning Zina,

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adultery and fornication

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and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala also mentioned some

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of the rights that women have and how

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they should be treated.

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Allah also spoke about the important concept and

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issue of Tawbah and how Allah

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loves to repent and accept the repentance of

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people so long as there is a sincere

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repentance where people have genuinely

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because of their weakness

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and because of their ignorance they they

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they commit sins and disobey Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Jal and then they turn to Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Jal and then they turn to Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Jal and repenting

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to him asking Allah for his forgiveness

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as opposed to those people who sin and

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they don't repent

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or they sin and they are disbelievers in

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala or they sin and

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then at the very last moment of their

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life they will turn to Allah hoping to

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to repent to him. Those types of repentances

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are not accepted by Allah Azza wa Jal.

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In today's

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passage or in today's page that we are

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going to take the verses that we are

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going to study today, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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will now go on to the issues of

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marriage issues of marriage

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and we begin with verse number 20 and

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that is the statement of Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala.

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If you wish to replace 1 wife with

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another, do not take any of her bridal

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gift back

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even if you have given her a great

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amount of gold.

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Allah Subhanu Wa Ta'ala in the previous episode,

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the final passage

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was concerning the rights of women. Allah Azzawajal

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said don't take from their inheritance

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without due

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cause unjustly, don't devour their wealth without due

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cause

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nor

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nor pressure them to give you back the

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dowry that you gave to them or to

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let you off for some of that dowry

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or to forgive you for that dowry. You

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made an agreement with them, fulfill that agreement.

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Allah ajaw concluded that verse by saying perhaps

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sometimes if you dislike certain issues about them,

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Allah will place a great deal of good

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for you in them. And that is because

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certain characteristics, certain attributes you may not like

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about your spouse and they may not like

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similar attributes or other attributes concerning

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you. But if overall they are good for

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you in terms of their religion, in terms

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of their character, in terms of their dealings,

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then Allah ajazal will place blessings within that

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and that's because it is human nature that

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there will be certain things that we don't

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like about each other Even the people that

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are closest to you that you love the

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most, people like your parents, your children, you

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will see within them certain traits and characteristics

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that you think are not so good or

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maybe they could be better or improvements that

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they can make. That is just human nature.

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The difference is that you can't divorce your

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parents or your children but you can divorce

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your spouse. So Allah is saying that sometimes

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you should just be patient and look at

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the overall greater picture. However, in this verse

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in number 20, Allah says that sometimes that

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marriage cannot continue and that is why Allah

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has allowed for people to find a way

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out of that marriage

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contract and that is Abtalak,

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divorce.

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But Allah

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says that if the man is going to

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issue the divorce,

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then he doesn't get the right to take

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back the bridle gift, doesn't get the right

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to take back the dowry.

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So he can't use that as a way

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of also taking his wealth back. As we

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said in the previous verse, verse number 19

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from the previous episode, Allah said don't harm

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your wives in order to take back some

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of that dowry. This would be another way

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of harm, that the person says I'm going

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to divorce you now, so that I can

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get back your money. Allah says that when

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you divorce your wife you have no right

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to the dowry that you gave to her

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even if you gave to one of them

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a kintar

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which is a great amount of gold. And

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this verse therefore shows that there is no

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upper limit for the Dari, that it is

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permissible for someone to give

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as much as they want in dowry.

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And that is sometimes the case in some

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cultures that people give a great deal of

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wealth in terms of the dowry that they

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give to their future wives. However, the general

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practice and what is good and sensible and

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what is generally from the son of the

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Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is to not go

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overboard in increasing their dowry. It has become

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in some communities and in some cultures and

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amongst some families

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a competition

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That if so and so gave 10,000, I

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have to give 11 or 12. And if

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I gave 12, then the next person will

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give 15. And if they give 15, of

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course, and now it's reaching into the tens

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of 1,000 of pounds and that is just

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the dowry. That's not even the wedding feast

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of Waleema. It's not even the gifts that

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are attached to it and the other issues

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that come with the whole marriage,

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with the whole marriage, and and the whole

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wedding thing. And so therefore, the sunnah generally

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is to make that easy for people. And

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clearly, people's abilities are different. So if someone

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is from a wealthy family, what they would

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probably give is more than someone who's from

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a medium income family or from a poor

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family. But each one should be sensible in

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what they give amongst their

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people and amongst their social circles. They shouldn't

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go overboard

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because it lands people, unfortunately in some cases,

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into debt because some people generally don't have

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that type of money. So now they're borrowing

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1,000 of pounds in order to give

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the,

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the the the the daweed to that person.

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I know of people that have their their

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proposals have broken down because of this issue

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of diary. Because the person said, I'll give

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you £5,000 and they're like, no. 15. If

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you give us 5, it's embarrassing.

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All of our cousins, our neighbors, everyone around

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us is getting 15, 20 for their daughters.

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You're going to give us 5? If people

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hear this, it's going to be embarrassing for

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us. And so we've attached

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wealth as a wealth, as a price tag

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for our children now.

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And that is something which is causing problems

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in certain communities and is preventing certain people

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from getting married. The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam

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was easy going in these affairs and easy

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going in these issues to the extent that

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he even said to one of those companions

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who couldn't find anything that even if you

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find a ring made out of iron that

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would be enough as a dowry. Give her

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that as a dowry. She had nothing else

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and so therefore this is something which people

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should be mindful of. However at the same

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time

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Allah's Sharia is his Sharia and Allah didn't

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place an upper limit. So therefore, if someone

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does give that type of dowry, it is

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not haram, there is nothing impermissible about it.

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But is it the best thing to do?

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Is it a good practice? Is it something

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which is sensible that you start your life

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as a husband and wife with the husband

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being in 1,000 of pounds of debt that

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he will now have to pay back over

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probably the course of years that would then

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affect his ability

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to buy a house and to and to

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provide for his family and especially when he

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has children and the expenses increase and so

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on. That is something which people have to

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think about and it is something which they

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have to be sensible about. But whatever the

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case, once that diary has been stipulated and

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it is given, the husband has no right

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to take it back even after divorce.

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In verse number 21, Allah says,

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how could you take it when it is

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unjust and blatant

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sin?

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How

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could

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you

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take

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it

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when you have lain with each other and

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they have taken a solemn pledge from you?

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So this is the right of the wife

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that you gave when you married her. You

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stipulated a dowry. Once that marriage has been

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consummated

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then you must give that dowry over or

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even before. That dowry now belongs to her.

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And once that dowry is given to her,

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you have no right to take it back

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because you gave the dowry and

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you consummated the marriage and you gave that

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pledge that you gave to her So now

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that is the right that Allah has given

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to her over you.

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The next 2 3 verses, verses 22,

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23 and the one that we will take

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in sha'am on the next episode 24 are

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all linked.

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And they now speak about the issue of

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marriage in terms of who it is

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and isn't permissible for us to marry. Who

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are the people that we can and can't

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marry in our religion and that is because

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in certain cultures and even amongst the Arabs,

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they would sometimes marry

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relations that they shouldn't be marrying and in

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certain cultures and in certain civilizations, it has

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been known that people will marry people that

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they shouldn't be marrying because of their close

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blood relation or their close relations in other

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ways. So Allah stipulates this now in these

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coming verses. In verse 22 Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala says

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Do not marry women that your father has

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married with the exception of what is past.

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This is indeed a shameful thing to do,

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loathsome and leading to evil.

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When it comes to those people that we

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cannot marry, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks about

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it from the perspective of men and the

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female that they cannot marry, the women folk

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in their families that they cannot marry and

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vice versa the opposite would be true, the

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women will not be able to marry those

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equivalent

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male relatives.

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Those people that are we are not allowed

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to marry, some of them are permanent in

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terms of

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in the sense that they are always haram

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for you to marry such as for example

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your mother, your daughter, your sister and others

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have a temporary restriction upon them, a temporary

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prohibition upon them because of there being a

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circumstance that doesn't allow you to combine between

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those two people.

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Otherwise, it would be permissible and we will

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give examples of this as we go Insha'Allah.

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And now when it comes to those people

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that you cannot marry, there are people that

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are related to you

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in one of three ways.

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Number 1 is that they are related to

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you by blood, so there are blood relatives,

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there is a blood relationship

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there. Number 2, they are related to you

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by what we call in Arabic

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which is milk fostering,

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So it is common in certain cultures, common

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in certain countries that a young child, a

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baby,

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would be given to another woman to suckle.

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And once that woman has suckled that child

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a number of times, that child essentially becomes

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like her son or her daughter.

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So therefore, that mother that woman that suckled

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her becomes like a mother to that child.

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Her husband becomes like a father. Her own

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children become like siblings and so on. Those

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relationships that are done through milk fostering

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also can be,

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a reason as to why marriage is not

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permissible

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because those people are like your mother, your

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father, your brother, your sister and so on

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and so forth. And the third way that

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we have these restrictions is through marriage, marriage.

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So certain marriages or through marriage, certain things

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also become haram. So from those examples

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of that which becomes haram due to marriage

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is what Allah mentions

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in this verse, verse number 22

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and that is the wives of your father,

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essentially your stepmothers. So obviously your own mother

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is related to you by blood.

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But in terms of your father having other

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wives that he married, those

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wives of his are essentially your stepmothers, it

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is haram for you to go and marry

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them. It is impermissible for you to go

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and marry them. Allah says

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with the exception of what is past, meaning

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what people did before Islam because obviously as

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we know there were people who accepted Islam

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in the time of the Prophet salallahu alaihi

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wa sallam and even today maybe in some

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cultures they may accept Islam and this is

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something which they did in the past.

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And so what they did before Islam, Allah

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forgives them for once they accept Islam. But

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the ruling of Islam is this and they

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will then be separated between

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them in that particular marriage. So Allah is

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saying that that which happened before Islam came,

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that's different but these are not the rules

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of Islam.

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So

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the wife

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and this is something which was common by

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the way amongst the Arabs in the time

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of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam because

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the

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stepmother, if the father died, the son would

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be like I have more right to her

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than anyone else. And he may choose to

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marry her for her money, inheritance or for

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one other reason or another or he would

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simply

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stop her from marrying others and so he

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would there would be an element of oppression

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within this as well. Allah says that indeed

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this is something shameful,

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lonesome and leading to evil.

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In verse number 23 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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then says and he continues

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mentioning other relations that are not allowed in

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terms of marriage and he says,

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Allah says that you are forbidden to take

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as wives your mothers, daughters,

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sisters,

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paternal and maternal aunts, the daughters of brothers

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and daughters of sisters, your milk mothers and

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milk sisters, your wives, mothers, the stepdaughters in

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your care, those born

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of women with whom you have consummated marriage.

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If you have not consummated the marriage, then

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you will not be blamed and the wives

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of your begotten sons and 2 sisters

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simultaneously with the exception of that which has

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passed. Allah

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is Most Forgiving

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and Merciful.

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So therefore we see in this long verse

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that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has mentioned all

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of these different categories of relations that a

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person isn't allowed to marry, Some of them

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through blood, some of them as we said

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through Radha which is not fostering and some

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of them through marriage.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala begins with the

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family members that are through blood relations

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and that is essentially

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your mothers

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and anyone that is above them in terms

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of ascendency. So grandmothers

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and great grandmothers, anyone above them as well.

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Daughters

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and likewise, their descendants. Any granddaughters, whether it

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is from your sons or from your your

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your daughters.

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Sisters,

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whether they are full sisters or half sisters,

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paternal sisters, maternal sisters,

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Aunts.

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In terms of paternal aunts and

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maternal aunts. So your,

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brothers, your your father's sisters, and your mother's

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sisters are your paternal and your maternal aunts,

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your nieces whether from your brothers or from

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your sisters. All of these people it is

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haram for you to marry.

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What it means therefore if it is haram

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for you to marry that you're also a

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for them. Meaning that you can see them,

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you can speak to them, you can travel

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them. These people are your.

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So therefore, for the sisters or for women,

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the male equivalents would be the same. So

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fathers and grandfathers,

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sons and grandsons,

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brothers,

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paternal and maternal uncles and nephews from brothers

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and sisters.

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This is all that which Allah made Haram

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from blood relations.

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Anyone that isn't included in this, it is

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permissible for you to marry. So you can't

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marry your maternal

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or paternal aunt but Allah Azzawajal didn't mention

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their children. So therefore it is permissible to

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marry what essentially would be your first cousins.

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Likewise,

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and likewise from

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these relationships that which is done through milk

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and Allah only mentions 2 by way of

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example and that is your milk mothers and

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your milk sisters.

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But essentially all of them or those relationships

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that we just mentioned that are haram due

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to lineage and blood relation, they would also

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be haram through milk fostering.

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So grandmothers through milk fostering,

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granddaughters through milk fostering, sisters through milk fostering,

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maternal and paternal aunts

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and nieces through milk fostering. All of these

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would be haram and that is because of

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the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam which he said

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That which is haram through blood lineage and

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blood relation

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also is haram through milk phosphine, meaning those

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same relationships

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are the equivalent and this is as we

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said something which is common

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in certain,

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in certain places, in certain cultures, in certain

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countries even till today it is something which

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is common and it was common obviously in

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the time of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

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We know that when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam was a child he was given to

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Halima.

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Halima took him and she milk fostered him

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and she had a number of other children

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that she was milk fostering as well. Those

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people essentially therefore become like those other children

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become like siblings to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam. So therefore he's not allowed to marry

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them

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or their children and so on and so

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forth. And so therefore this is something which

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is still common in a number of cultures.

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That is the second thing or the second

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way or the second type of relationship that

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prevents a person

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from having marriage with them. The third one

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is through marriage itself.

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Certain relationships as a result of marriage make

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it haram for you as Allah Azzawajal mentioned

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here when he says your wives, mothers meaning

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your mother in

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law's and your step daughter's. Your wife's daughters

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from the other marriages so long as you

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have consummated that marriage. If you haven't consummated

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that marriage and you divorced that wife before

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the consummation,

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then that step daughter is no longer haram

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upon you. But once you have consummated that

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marriage, those relationships,

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even after divorce, you are not allowed to

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go and marry them.

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So these people, mother in laws,

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stepdaughters,

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the wives of your father and so on,

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other than your mother, obviously your stepmothers and

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so on. These

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are relationships that are through marriage and this

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is essentially what the prophet salallahu alayhi

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wa'ala is telling us that we must stay

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away from.

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The women those born of women with whom

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you have consummated the marriage, if you have

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not consummated the marriage, then you will not

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be blamed. Meaning, you will not be blamed

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in terms of

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marrying those girls, those step daughters because you

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didn't consummate the marriage with their mothers. And

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likewise, your daughter in law's the wives of

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your begotten sons. And then as we said,

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there are temporary restrictions. So these are the

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permanent ones that you can never marry. Then

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there are certain prohibitions that are done of

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a temporary nature.

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It is because of a circumstance that it

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prevents you from marrying those,

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that woman. From them is what Allah mentions

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here at the end of the verse and

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that

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is that you combine between 2 sisters, meaning

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you marry 2 sisters simultaneously.

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So your sister-in-law,

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you cannot marry your wife and your sister-in-law

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at the same time. Her sister and her,

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both of them at the same time, it

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is not permissible. That is a temporary restriction.

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Why? Because if you were to divorce

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the wife

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or

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she was to pass away, then her sister

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would now become permissible for you. You simply

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cannot combine. So there is a temporary restriction

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and from it also similar to it is

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a statement of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

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in which he forbid a person from joining

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between

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a woman and her maternal aunt or her

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paternal aunt. So this is her side now

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not your side, her side, her aunts. You

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cannot marry her and her aunt at the

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same time and so on and so forth.

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So these are temporary restrictions.

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Once that restriction is lifted because there is

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no longer the element of, for example, combination

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of doing it simultaneously,

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then that restriction is also lifted. Allah says

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that indeed he is most forgiving most merciful.

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In verse number 24 which we will take

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Insha'Allah Ta'ala

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in the next episode and it's the continuation

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or if you like the conclusion

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of these relationships

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that a person isn't allowed to marry but

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we will take just the first part because

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it is connected

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and that is the statement of Allah in

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verse 24,

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and likewise women that are already married.

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So women that are already married, it is

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not permissible for you to marry, obviously men

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are allowed to take 4 wives, so therefore

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that doesn't necessarily equate in the same way.

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However, a woman, once she is married to

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a man, she is not allowed to have

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more than one husband and so therefore, that

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is also another restriction and it is also

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a restriction that is temporary in the sense

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that if she was to divorce or be

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divorced by the husband or her husband was

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to pass away then she would be allowed

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to marry another man but she cannot marry

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a man once she is already married. Allah

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says everything else is permissible for you other

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than those restrictions

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that I have been mentioning in these verses

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in the Quran or in the Sunnah of

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the Prophet SAW Allahu Alaihi Wasallam.

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So therefore Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala as we

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can see because it was common as we

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amongst the Arabs

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that they would essentially marry into some of

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these relationships and we know from our study

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of history and certain civilization

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that it would be common amongst some of

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them that the brother would marry his sister

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or amongst the Arabs for example that he

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would marry his stepmother

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or that he would marry his daughter-in-law or

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whatever it may be. These types of issues

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took place amongst the Arabs and they took

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place in other cultures and civilizations as well.

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One of the things that Islam does is

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it tells us to keep the ties of

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kinship

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and often

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in these types of marriages,

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there would be problems in issues of divorce

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and issues of rank and so on and

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so this nucleus of what is the family,

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the type family, they are made Haram and

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not only for that but obviously there are

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medical reasons and health issues

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and other factors that come into play in

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this as we know now as well So

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has told us that

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these people are our Muharim,

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they are essentially people that are Mahram for

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us, Mahram means that it is haram for

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you to marry them. And because it is

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haram for you to marry them, certain other

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things are halal such as you can see

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them meaning without their full hijab and so

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on. You can travel with them. You are

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essentially like a male guardian

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towards them. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentions all

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of this so that people will know the

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rulings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and they

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will know what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says at the end

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of that verse, verse number 23.

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Except that which took place before Islam because

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as we said, there were people who used

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to do this before Islam

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and some of them when they become Muslims,

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it is the case as was the case

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in the time of the prophet salallahu alayhi

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wa sallam like the man who accepted Islam

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and he had more than 4 wives. The

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prophet said to him choose 4 and you

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must divorce the rest. So what happens before

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Islam is forgiven once they become Muslim but

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once they become Muslim then the laws of

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Islam

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apply to them as well. So if someone

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was to get married, to become Muslim and

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he was married to 2 sisters,

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his wives or 2 sisters, then we would

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say to him, you must choose 1 and

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divorce 1 because that is the law of

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Islam. You're not sinful for what happened before

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Islam, but now you're a Muslim and these

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that InshaAllah Ta'ala we will conclude today's episode.

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that InshaAllah Ta'ala we will conclude today's episode.