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Half Your Religion – The Virtues of Marriage

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Ahsan Hanif

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manner of him from the Rila Hello Bill alameen sallallahu cinema Baraka Allah, so you definitely la Hajj Marin wala Ali he was a woman surah Allah Sabina he was a Jew. He was the Nabi Sonata he was the Hera Yomi Dean was seldom at the Sleeman kathira a mullvad Salam alikoum Rahmatullahi wa barakato.

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When we look at the Sharia of Allah subhanho wa Taala and we look at the Quran and mystery and analyze the Quran, as well as the Sunnah of our Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. We find that this religion that Allah azza wa jal has given us is a comprehensive rewrite of religion, or religion, which from which we can deduce and derive all of the different aspects of our lives that we need in order to live as Muslims who are inshallah following the book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam attempting to follow the guidance that Allah has given us and keep steadfast on the straight path, as well as an extension to that being people who need to live their

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lives. We have families, we have children, we have jobs, we have studies, all of those affairs that we need as humans to exist in this dunya. Allah subhana wa Taala has given us a way to accomplish that balance between the two. And so Allah subhanaw taala when you look in the Quran, when you look in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Rarely is there an issue if ever, except that you will be able to derive its ruling from the Quran or the Sunnah, either directly or indirectly, directly, meaning that a large syllogism explicitly gives you that ruling. This is the ruling of Riba. This is the ruling of buying and selling, this is the ruling of hijab and so on and

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so forth. Or it is indirect, meaning that you can deduce the ruling from the principles that have gone on and the sooner has mentioned, even though he may not specifically mentioned that issue to you. And that's why when we look today, at the world that we live in all of these different issues that come up, whether that be like modes of transport, whether that be financial issues, banking, whether that be for example, medical issues, the scholars of Islam are able to give rulings. Is it halal? or haram? Is it something recommended or disliked? Is this something that conforms to our religion, or the contradicts our religion, and they do this through deriving and reducing those

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rules of Islam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned all of this to us, one of the most amazing aspects of this religion, that I would highly recommend every single one of you to study that if you had to choose a science of Islam study, after studying your basic tauheed what you need to know as a believer of Allah subhanaw taala, after studying your basic faith, how to worship Allah, how to pray, how to make more dough, and so on. After you have that basic stuff down. One of the greatest sciences of Islam that I would recommend for you to study is a science known as McCarthy, the Sharia, the objectives and the goals of the Sharia. And it is one of the most

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beautiful sciences of Islam that you can ever study. And all of the sciences of Islam are beautiful, but it is beautiful, because this science in particular because it gives you an oversight, an overview of Islam, of the Sharia, of what Allah subhanho wa Taala sent down to us of what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was giving to us through His practical life and example, what is the goal behind every single ruling that Allah has given us? What is the objective behind many of the rulings of the Sharia? And so that's why when you look at clothing, for example, what's the objective behind these rulings? So for example, you have the rulings of hijab, the rulings of

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modesty for men and women, the rulings of lowering your gaze for men and women, and so on and so forth. These individually are rulings halal haram do don't do. They are rulings. But what is the overall objective behind those rulings? What is the goal of the Sharia? What is the wisdom if you like, behind those rulings of the Sharia? Why did Allah subhana wa Taala legislators for us and when you study this, and you understand this and you appreciate this, then you will greatly appreciate Islam, and you will appreciate the rulings of Islam and it will allow you to understand in a better way, why Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted you to do something or didn't want you to do something. For

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example, if you have a young child

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And your child at home is at home and they're playing with a boy or girl they're playing in the kitchen. And all of a sudden they pick up a knife, and it's a sharp knife. You as the parent, as the Guardian, older brother, sister, whatever relationship you have, you go and you snatch that knife from the child, maybe even shout at the child, rebuke the child, so that the child doesn't go back and pick up that knife again. What does the child do? The child starts to cry, starts to cry. Why? Because the child believes that it's been oppressed, that you as an elder has have a presto child, you've taken away a toy. So the child begins to cry. Now, if looking from the child's point of view,

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from their prison, the way they see things, they see it as oppression, injustice, you're a volume, or you've just depressed this child. But if you were to go to any adult, anyone that understands the objective behind your action, the wisdom behind it, instead of calling you someone that's oppressive, someone that's unjust, they will do the opposite. They will say that, in fact, you're extremely merciful. You had the care, and the well being of the child in the forefront of your mind that lead you to do this action. And they will see it from their point of view, and even a child when they grow up, and they can better understand the gravity of the issue. If that child now was

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1516. And you told them that many years ago, this is what you did, the child would now appreciate why you took away that a knife, they wouldn't crave attention that story to them at the age of 15. They want to like remember that incident and begin to cry because of the pain that they found. No, they understand now, the objective behind it. And that is what Allah subhanho wa Taala has given to us from the blessings that he gives us in the knowledge of Islam, that you can understand the objectives behind what Allah subhanho wa Taala is legislating. Now that's not always the case. There are certain things that the wisdoms behind them, you don't understand that knowledge is with Allah

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alone. But for many things, Alonzo vigil has given us the objectives and goals. And that's why the science of mikaze the Sharia the goals and objectives behind the Sharia. It is an amazing science to study. So for example, when you look throughout the Quran, and the Sunnah, throughout all of the different rulings of Islam, you find that one of the greatest maqasid of the Sharia, one of the greatest goals and objectives of the Sharia is the preservation of life, the preservation of life, when you understand that, that is the golden objective of the Sharia, he makes things so much easier for you, makes things so much easier for you, you cannot understand many, many of the rulings of

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Islam. And that's why, for example, if you were fasting in the month of Ramadan, and you're walking by the banks of a river, and in the river, there's someone that's drowning, they're about to drown, you have an option now, do you preserve your fast? And you just walk by and leave them? Or try to help them in some other way? Or do you jump into the river with the real threat that you may break your fast that you may consume some water, and you're fast and breaks, but you end up saving that life, when you understand what the goal of the shehryar is that one of its most important aspects is the preservation of life, then you understand that in that situation, you would jump into the river,

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even if it meant breaking your fast, and you go on you save that life, because that is a greater goal of the Sharia than just you fasting, even though fasting in the month of Ramadan, is that one of the greatest acts of worship that you can perform. So the point of this slightly technical introduction to this lecture is that inshallah today when we speak about the virtues of marriage, and we speak about this issue of marriage, I don't want to just quote you, many, many ayat and many, many a Hadith, of which there are many, by the way, frowning upon Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that speak about the virtue of marriage. But I also want you or

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I want to go through this topic of the virtues of marriage, by looking through the prism of the objectives and the goals of the Sharia of marriage. What is it that Allah subhanho wa Taala wants from us? What is the goal of you getting married? Because for many of us, we don't understand the objectives of the Sharia. We don't understand the goals of the Sharia in many of the things that we do, we don't understand these goals. And that's why we often find that there are many problems in these relationships. There are problems in the way that we choose a spouse, a husband, or a potential husband or a potential wife. There are problems in the way that we deal with our parents

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and our other family members. When it comes to this process of choosing a husband and wife. Everyone's got their own opinion. Everyone's got their own parameter. Everyone's got their own yardstick that they use to measure things with. Everyone's got their own way. And so this is these things they can be easily

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resolved. And that is when you understand and appreciate the goals of the Sri are behind these different actions. So when it comes to the issue of marriage, we know that Allah subhanho wa Taala and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Sunnah have highly encouraged marriage. And we will go and mention some of these texts found in the Quran and the Sunnah, that speak about the virtues of marriage, speak about the recommendation of marriage. But as we go through them, I also want you to think and inshallah, together, we will deduce some of those objectives of the Sharia behind marriage. One of the greatest objectives of the shutdown, when it comes to marriage, perhaps

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the greatest objective of the Sharia, when it comes to marriage, is that it is someone that will help you to attain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala and helped you to enter into Jannah. That is perhaps one of the greatest if not the greatest, objective, and goal of marriage. Marriage isn't just something for the dunya it's not just a relationship that you have. That is only for this dunya meaning that it's only materialistic in its element. For example, you just need someone that will cook for you. You just need someone that will wash your clothes for you, or your wife needs someone that can drive you a driver around, or someone that will do the shopping for her or any of these

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issues. These are not the goals of the marriage, Allah didn't legislate marriage for you so that you can find a cook, you can find someone to clean your clothes, you can find a maid a lot didn't legislate marriage for the woman so she can find a driver, she can find a buddy God you can find something like that. Marriage has a far greater purpose, a far greater objective and goal. And one of the greatest of those objectives is that you find someone you will find someone that will help you in this dunya to attain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala that will bring you to the gender of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why one of the most famous Hadith that you will find

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about the topic of marriage. If I was to ask you name your Hadith about marriage, quote, Hadith to me about marriage, one of the most common, if not the most common Hadith, that you will find people narrating is the famous Hadith that marriage is equal to

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half your religion. Many of you seem to know that one. Marriage is equal to half your religion, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in what is authentically collected in soon and I'll be happy that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said marriage is equal to half your religion. Sophia Allah as to the other half. That is one of the most common ahaadeeth that people know right about marriage. But when did you ever stop to ponder, analyze contemplate the greater meanings of this Hadeeth if marriage is equal to half your religion, this in and of itself shows that Allah subhana wa Taala legislated marriage for this one reason for this one reason that it helps you in

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your religion helps you in your rebounder helps you in your Eman. Your wife and husband or the wife or the husband should be helping the opposite spouse, that the spouse of the opposite number they should be helping them to attain the pleasure of Allah to attain Jenna, they should be bringing them closer to the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why you find in the other Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam perhaps the second most famous Hadith in this issue of marriage is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a woman is married for four reasons. She is married for her money or she's married for her position in society, which is married for her

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beauty or she's married for her religion. For the for me that Dean Terry Bhatia dap. So then choose the one who has religion, and you will be successful. Again, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is stressing religion, religion, religion. In another Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, as is collected in Sahih, Muslim, the role of the dunya all of the world, it is just enjoyment. It is just pleasure. And the greatest pleasure that a person can have or that a man can have, is a righteous wife, not just a woman, not just anyone, not a rich woman, or a beautiful woman, or any other type of woman, or pious, righteous woman. That is the best thing that you can

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attain in this dunya. far better than any call that you can buy any house. That is a mansion that's nice and comfortable, far better than anything else. It is a righteous, pious wife. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in another Hadith, that from the most beloved actions of Allah to Allah subhanho wa Taala is the wife who during the night she wakes up to play the tahajjud prayer piano nail and she finds her husband sleeping, so because she wants Good for her for him. She wakes him up and when

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He refuses to wake up she goes and she takes water and she splashes it on his face. That is something which Allah azza wa jal greatly loves, which Allah subhana wa Taala greatly admires the woman, the wife, who during the night will have that care for her husband, that she will go to that extent Why? Because it's not about him, just having good food or having a nice home and a clean home and so on. It is about him reaching Jana, about him reaching that which Allah azza wa jal, Allah azza wa jal is pleasure about attaining that together. And that's why when you look at the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, from all of the relationships that he had with his wives,

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perhaps the greatest relationship that we have as an example for this is his relationship with God God Allah and how the Prophet salaallah alayhi wa sallam had this relationship of support from her, how she supported the professor solemn throughout his early years as a prophet and messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And she was the one that he went to when he first received revelation. And he came down from the Cave of Hira didn't go to Abu Bakar didn't go to his uncle Abu Talib didn't go to anyone else. He went to his wife Khadija, the Allahu Allah, and she was the one who supported him. She was the one who consoled him. She was the one who took him to a cousin waterpark, even

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nofal she was the one who then after that, after they realized the gravity of the message that the prophets on Allah, Allah He will sell them had received after they realized the responsibility that in our shoulder, she was the one who continue to support him. She was the one who would spend from her wealth. She was the one who would support him and consoled him and continue to do so until her death or the long run her. That relationship was so unique, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam even many years after her death, he continued to remember her. If he sacrificed an animal, he would give some of that meat to the Friends of Khadija robiola and her, not to the Friends of

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Arusha, not to their friends at home. selama, not to the Friends of hafsa and these were all living wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but to the Friends of Khadija on the Allahu Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would mentioned her with God, and he would speak about her with so much good. There are a shout out the Allah who would become jealous of her. Even though she was no longer living. She is no longer there. She's not even living anymore. She passed away many years ago, but it would still stir jealousy in her because of the way that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam remembered her in such a fun way. And that's why in the Battle of

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button, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a number of prisoners of war, from the people that he had amongst the prisoners of war, was one of his son in laws. I will ask him not Robin, what that time was a non Muslim. He was a non Muslim. He fought with the pagan Arabs who was captured, he became a prisoner of war. And so what the what the Macan the Moorish did was that the ransom the people, the people that were prisoners of war, they paid their ransom, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam set them free. And back to Makkah, who paid the ransom for Apple house. There was his daughter, her, his wife, his son in law's wife, the daughter of the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam, Xena, Brody, Allahu Allah. And even though she was a Muslim, she was married to him. And she was still in Makkah. So she paid his ransom. How does she pay his ransom, the only thing of value that she had was the ransom that she could pay with was a golden necklace that belonged to her mother, her the God among her that she received as a gift on her wedding day from her mother. And so that's what she gave and the people sent. They gave the ransoms to some they appointed someone to take the ransoms to the Muslims to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was presented with the different ransoms for the

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different people, he saw the for Ebola house, there was a golden necklace. And when he looked at that necklace, he was moved to tears. And he began to cry, because he remembered that that necklace belonged to his wife, Khadija robiola one that he gave to his daughter, Xena that she gave to her daughter, Zainab. rhodiola. One hand the day of her wedding. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whilst he was crying, he said to the companions, the companion who this ransom would have gone to that if you prefer to set him free, and give back this necklace to my daughter, that would be more beloved to me. So when they saw how emotional the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam worth,

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how much he remembered his wife for the joy of the Allah what they agreed to start him free, and to return the necklace. Look at how the prophets of Allah

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And he will seldom remembered an A piece of jewelry many years after the death of his wife, rhodiola Juana, that is how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had that type of relationship with Khadija rhodiola and her. But what was the crux of that relationship? What was the essence of that relationship? It was that together, they worship Allah subhana wa harleigh, she supported the Prophet sallallahu are they he will sell them so that he could achieve that goal. And all of us that are married or want to get married, we have goals in life, we want to get married, we want to have a family, we have a goal that we're going to get such and such a job we love such and such a house

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will have this many children, so on and so forth. Everyone pans and has goals. But how many of us from that marriage, our primary goal is the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when you understand this objective, then everything else that you do, in terms of the spouse that you choose, and the reasons why you choose that spouse, and the way that you deal with them. And the way that the whole family just looks at this relationship will be completely different. Not about money, not about relationships, how they're related to you not about things about how educated they are. All of those things have their place and I'm not saying them are important, they have their place, but

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overriding them. What is even more important is the pleasure of Allah subhana wa Tada. If you're going to marry someone, a man or a woman that's extremely wealthy, extremely successful, extremely educated, but they don't know the rights of Allah. They don't worship Allah. They don't want to attain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala then what will benefit will you get from that marriage? And what benefit will your children have from that marriage? And that's why when we look in the Quran, and we look at how Allah subhanho wa Taala describes marriage, he mentions this, he mentions it in this way, referring to it as an act of worship. If you were to marry someone for the

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sake of Allah, with that intention, hoping to attain the pleasure of Allah subhana wa Taala. And your intention is that together you will support and help one another to achieve Jana, then every single moment of that marriage is an act of worship. It is rabada that is why the prophets on Allah Who are they He will send them said that it is equal to half the religion. Another example or another reason why it's half of the religion is because the two main reasons why a person will enter into the fire of hell, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, will either be because of their tongues, or because of their private parts. They will sin and disobey Allah using either one

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of these two limbs. So when you marry, you protect that limb that's half and then the other half is the tongue that you fear Allah concerning. Allah subhana wa Taala says concerning the prophets of Allah, Allah or Sunnah, Rasul Allah min public was your anala whom as Virgin Mobile Maria, we sent before you are Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we sent before you many messengers, and we gave to the wives and we gave to them children. Why did Allah subhana wa Taala give to the minds? Why did they give to them children, the vast majority of them, because those wives and those spouses and those children would help them to attain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Look at the story

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of Ibrahim alayhis salam, many of his greatest sacrifices, many of his greatest acts of worship revolve around his family. His merrell alayhi salatu was Salam. He left him and his mother in the barren desert of Makkah. That's where the story of the Kaaba begins. That's where Zamzam begins. Then he comes back and he helps is married and he his Salaam to construct the karma. Then he comes back to sacrifice his marine early his sternum, all of these different acts of worship that today we perform come back from that and that's why one of the donors that Allah subhanaw taala teaches us in the Quran is Rob burner habla Ana minars vergina will react in a Rotarian with john Malin Matatini

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Mama, Oh our Lord, make from our spouses and I will children, those who will give us coolness to our eyes, and make us a imams for the righteous. That is that the prophets of Allah that Allah azza wa jal is teaching us in the Quran to me, we want them to be a coolness for our eyes. And one of the ways that they will be a coolness for our eyes in this dunya is when they do deeds, and after our deaths as well, that they do righteous deeds, that they continue to worship Allah, they continue to obey Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we receive the benefit of that Allah so which will says concerning the Prophet Zachary or his salam, what will happen? Allahu yahia was lashana Allahu xojo. In surah,

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Colombia, that we gave to Zakaria, he said, I'm a son by the name of Uriah and we made righteous for him.

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His wife, that is what Allah azza wa jal refers to many, many a time, this concept of righteousness and piety within the marriage. And if you have this, if you can attain this, if that is the goal that you're working for, if that is the objective that you have through this relationship, either before you look for a spouse, or even if you're already married, you have a spouse, but that is one of the goals that you now make as part of your relationship. That is something which Allah azza wa jal once, that is one of the goals and objectives of the Sharia. And that's why often when the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would come to the profits or sell them and ask

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him for advice, in terms of a spouse, who they should have as a husband or a wife, you find that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would choose for them. People of righteousness, people of piety wasn't about who's the most, who's the most wealthy, who's the most prosperous, who's the most educated, who has the highest position in society, who's the most brave, who's the most handsome or beautiful? There was about righteousness and piety. And that's why there's a famous story of a smart bit abubaker rhodiola, who and whom are smart, the daughter of Abu Bakar, of your loved one, she was married to azubi yBnL one rhodiola one. And Zubair is one of the 10 companions that the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he promised to them paradise, he gave them a guarantee that they will enter into Jenna, but zubayr not the Allah who was a harsh man in his personality, and sort of smart rhodiola who and her found that she would have to do a lot of heavy lifting a lot of manual labor. They were poor, they didn't have any servants, and he made anyone to help them. So she would have to go and tend to the sheep. And she would have to go and do a lot of manual chores. And she found it difficult. So she went and she complained to her father, Abubakar robiola one. This is my situation at home justice Today, many of us do feel married, the husband will go back to his parents, the wife

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will go back to her parents when there's issues and they'll say, this is the problem that I'm having at home. This is the difficulty I'm facing in my mountain life. This is the problems that we have within our house, and they go back. And so what did Abubakar Allah, say to his daughter, asthma, and his This is his daughter, not just anyone that's coming to seek advice from him. The closest person one of the closest, dearest, most beloved people, to him to a person is their children to Abubakar on the long run, it is his daughter asthma. What advice did he give her? Did he say yes, leave him we'll find someone who's wealthier. I can give you slaves. He can give you servants give you maids

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give you Butler's or leave him or find someone else that's not so demanding or this ABCD he said to her No, stay with him. For indeed I heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say that in every single every single prophet has a disciple. And the disciple of my oma for me is a Zubair. So stay with him. This is what he mentioned in return the profits on Allah, what are they he will sell them gave him a unique position in this oma, every single prophet has a disciple. And if I were to have a disciple if I have a disciple, it is available in r1 or rhodiola. One, and he was one of the 10 guaranteed gentlemen, stay with him. It is better for you. And a smile, and azubi are the Allahumma

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they had a child by the name of Abdullah Edna Zubair who became one of the greatest companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. After the death of many of the Senior Companions, he became one of the most illustrious companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But look at the way the companions understood marriage, the way that they would give advice, the way that they would speak about these issues. And that's why when Fatima, the Allah who are unhappy, during her marriage, whether earlier or the long run, they will also poor also found it very difficult. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would receive from time to have a war booty or something that

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would give him some mouth and he would distribute it amongst the Muslims. So they are the Allah who answered to Fatima one day, why don't you go to your father and ask him to help us? Ask him to give us a slave or a servant that we can use our home or ask him to give us some money so that things can become easier for us. This is the difficulty that they had. So far tomorrow, the Allahu Sangha went to her father. What did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam say? Did he say yes, tell Ali to get a better job, tell him to go into business, tell him to get some more money. That's his duty. That's his job. He is the husband. He is the man of the house. What did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam say? He said, shall I not tell both of you something which would be better than that what you're asking for, say Subhan Allah 33 times Alhamdulillah 33 times Allahu Akbar 33 times. What an amazing Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu earlier, he was

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Another time the professor Solomon to the house of early and faulty model the Allahumma. And he went and he saw the situation that they were living in. So he said to them, shall I not tell you of something that you should do that would be greatly beneficial to you? So they said yes, he said stand up during the night and pray to Allah. Prayer priamo ln, stand up during the night and pray the 100 Look at the way the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is giving advice to his daughter and his son in law. You know, find the Hadith I haven't come across a hadith where the prophets of Salaam is giving them financial advice, or is giving them advice about how to get a bigger house, or

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buy a better camel or something like this. And that doesn't mean that you can't give that advice or that advice isn't something which someone should give. But look at the priorities of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, look at the issues that he emphasized and stressed for the most beloved person in his life, one of the most beloved people, his own daughter, fathima rhodiola aranha. So this is one of the greatest objectives of the Sharia. When it comes to marriage, everything that you do within marriage should be coming towards this goal. That goal of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why Allah azza wa jal when he describes the people of Jannah he describes them with their

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spouses, whom was word to him fieldly land in Aurora aka Mata Ki one them and their wives will be in the shades of Jenna upon thrones are on which they will recline. Look at how beautifully Allah subhanaw taala speaks about the people of Jana. Why? Because the goal isn't that just I go into Jana, not my wife or my children, or just my wife goes into gender with me and our children. No, the goal is that me and my wife and I, our children, all of us insha Allah into into Jana, that is our goal. And that brings us on to the second objective of what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Allah azza wa jal stressed concerning marriage, and that is

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the element of family, to have a family, children, righteous children, who will not only be a righteous for you and inshallah give you benefits after your death in your grave and a normal piano, but they will also be the building blocks of a community, of a society that is upright that is righteous, that is pious that feels Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, from the many a hadith concerning marriage, does the word Jew for any MacArthur on become a woman marry, for I want to increase my oma through you. I want to increase my oma through you. But it's not just about marrying anyone or everyone. It is about marrying someone

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who is righteous, so that those children will be righteous by the permission of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that is why that, again, at the end of surah, Furqan of Allah make for us to our wives, and our children, coolness for our eyes. That is what Allah subhana wa Taala is emphasizing as the goals of the Sharia. And that's why one of the greatest sadaqa to God that you can do one of the greatest continuous types of charity that will benefit you after your death is a righteous child. And that righteous child most likely will come because of a righteous family, a righteous husband and wife, who give their children righteous upbringing and tarbiyah. And that's why when the when,

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in the previous generations, when people would come to this lamb after they had got married, and they had said and they had children, they will come to the scholars and they would say oh chef, we had a child, Allah blessed us with a child. How do we give righteous Serbia to the child? The scholar would reply and he would say you're already too late. You already too late. This is a question you should have asked me before you got married. How do I give my child righteous tarbiyah is a question you should have asked me before you even got married man after you got married and had your children. Why? Because the first step in that righteous child is having a righteous family, a

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righteous husband or a righteous wife, who will inshallah give that child righteous therapy. That is what Allah subhanho wa Taala is emphasizing. Allah azza wa jal says in the Quran, your nurse will tap or become lazy holla Kakuma nafcillin wahida wahala permin Herzl jaha woba thermen Hammadi, Jalan kathira, when he saw all mankind, feel your Lord, who created you from a single soul, and he created from that soul, it's made meaning the wife of Adam alayhis salam, and from them, he gave many men and many women. That is what Allah azzawajal is saying, fear your Lord who did this for you. This is from the greatest blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala that he blesses you with a

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righteous wife or a righteous husband, or that he blesses you with righteous children. It is one of the greatest blessings of Allah Subhana

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wattana because you can have all of the money in the world, you can have all of the education in the world, you can be as prosperous as you want to be. But if your children are people who don't worship Allah, they are people who disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala people who are children who on your monitor, Yama will be a means for your despair. Then what good is all of that money? Well, God is all of those cars and houses and so on. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would stress the importance of this. And this is something which he taught his companions on on the Allah who stressed the importance of a righteous family. And the first step is choosing a good spouse or

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spouse, that will come and will also benefit your children as well.

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One of the other goals and objectives of the Sharia. And as we said, Islam is a comprehensive religion and it is also a practical religion. One of the goals and objectives of the Sharia is just as you have this person who gives you support in terms of your main objective of achieving the pleasure of Allah subhana wa Tada. That spouse is also someone who will give you support, moral support, and will give you advice and counsel, even in the affairs of the dunya. There are people that you can confide in people who will allow you that you can live with and have a harmonious relationship. Because in Islam, it is not just about the Rebbe aspect, even though that is the most

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important, but it is about also having a good family life. You need someone that can be good with you in your family life, someone that you can live with some other insha Allah together, you will grow in fact as a family, and you will attain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that's why I learned so much it says in Surah to room woman, a yachtie and Hala pelaku min and fusi come as wotja liters como la jolla being in a coma with the tongue, word of mouth, from the many signs of Allah is that he created from you, your spouse's, so that you may live together with one another, and that Allah may place between you affection and mercy, affection and mercy. This is from one of

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the goals of the Sharia, that there is affection and mercy. And that's why when Allah subhanho wa Taala even speaks about the concept of divorce, that if a relationship does end up ending, that it breaks down, and there is divorce. One of the things that our law speaks about is well our tongue so will formula but don't forget the goodness of the good points that each of you had. Don't forget the virtues of one another. Why? Because the marriage was based upon affection and mercy. And there's no one that's pure evil. Nor is that anyone that's pure good. People have good points and bad points. They have points which are good, and points which are bad. So you have that affection and that

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mercy. And when you look at the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the way he was with his wives, he wouldn't Yes, spend time advising them about the Sharia of Allah, encouraging them to worship Allah subhana wa Taala. He would advise them about all these issues. He will have a specific time during the week for his family where he will teach them about Islam. But he would also have time when he would go and he would help his family. And that's why when I showed the Allah when he was asked to describe the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at home, she said, Can I feel fit Maci Ernie, he would be serving his family. That's the way that he wants a home behind closed doors. He

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was just helping his family. He would be the one to go and milk, the goals. He would be the one to mend the sandals and the shoes and the clothes, he would be the one taking care of the affairs of his family. He wasn't the one who went home, if the wife asks her husband to go and wash the dishes or dry them and like cause of mountain breakdown and there's like world war three, not the kind of person if he has taken the washing it's like the end of the marriage. And that's not the purpose of solemn despite all of his duties and responsibilities outside the house, leading and oma being a general, being a leader, being a politician being all of those things and all of the worship that we

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knew that he did as well. When he came home, Kevin, if you hit Matteoli, he would be serving his family. He would be the one taking care of his family sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had time to play with his family as well. He would race with our inshallah the Allahu anhand. As we know sometimes she would win, sometimes he would win and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the day of or even he would spend time with abishola the Allah who are watching the companions wrestle in the masjid, spend time with his family, with his wife, he will do so with his kids as well. And he would greet them and he would honor them and he

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would welcome them. When in fact the model the Allahu Allah would come home, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would stand and he will go on Twitter by the door, and he will take her by the hand and he would kiss her on her forehead, and he would make her sit in the place that he was sitting. And then he would say hi eurocom eurocom literally

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For you to accompany me, the best of you are those who are best to their families. And I am the best of you towards my family. That is one of the greatest goals and objectives of the Sharia. And this is also part of worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because when you do this, and you act in this way, your intention isn't that the other person will do the same for you, that they will give you a present or they'll give you some money in return or praise you. Your intention is the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala you're doing it for the sake of Allah. So even when you're home and you're playing with your children, or you're sitting down and talking to your wife, or whatever you're

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doing at home, you're doing it with that intention. And so Allah is rewarding you and so all of that is still coming back down to the most essential point attaining the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala the prophets Allah, Allah Allah He will send them would often go to his wives and his family members for advice. That is something which she would often do like in the Treaty of her day BIA when the companions were told that they would have to go back to to Medina wouldn't be able to perform Umrah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to them, after the signing of the Treaty, shave off your heads come out of Iran, and we will go back to Medina. The Companions didn't

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do so. They stayed in a home. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went into his tent to one of his wives and I think it was on Salah model the Allahu Allah. And he said to her, that I gave an order to the companions, and they did not follow my order. Look at the situation, doesn't go to Abubakar doesn't go to Mr. doesn't go to Earth man, where are the rhodiola where I'm home and they were all present. He went to his wife asking her advice. She said, O Messenger of Allah, they're waiting for your example. If you go out in front of them, shave off your head, take off your head arm, they will hasten to do so as well. But if you don't do it first, they will always think in the

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back of their minds, that perhaps there is a chance that we can still go and perform them wrong. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went out, and he shaved off his head and took off his or her arm. And then all of the other companions followed suit by Luca how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is seeking advice from his his wife, asking her for her counsel. And then he takes her advice as well. And he implemented sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So that is also from the goals and the objectives of the Sharia. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would rebuke those companions, who would refuse to get married, but didn't want to get married. They didn't want

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to get married, because they thought that it was better, more pleasing to Allah, there is a greater act of worship, not to be married, because marriage would would divert them away from the worship of Allah. It wasn't that they wanted, didn't want to get married, because they didn't like women or they had some other issue. It was because they thought that it would take them away from the worship of Allah. And so you have those three companions, as is in the famous Hadith that you've all heard the word that they came, and one of them said, I will stand all night in prayer, and I will never sleep. And the other one said that I will fast every day and never break my fast. And the third one

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said, I won't get married. Why? Because they want to come closer to Allah. By getting married. You have so many chores and responsibilities. We have children to look after, when you have children, so much time is consumed by your family. That's time taken out from worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But those companions didn't understand at that time, the objective of marriage, because marriage is worship of Allah, if you have that right intention, it will give you those benefits, if not more, by worshiping by having that righteous family. And so the prophets of Allah alayhi wa sallam said to them, that I sleep and I pray, I fast and I break my fast and I have married Femina Ravi bernsen

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Nettie Felisa Mini, so whosoever leaves of my sooner that he is not from me, Whosoever leaves of my Sunder, he is not from me. Why because to be married is from the son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, because there is a great act of worship. With it, you will have so many benefits that you can't have otherwise, I saw the portrait journey of a child making the awful your righteous child making the IRA for you after your death. You can't get unless you're married, so many acts of worship that you will. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that on Yom Okayama, a person will come and they will be presented with their good deeds, and they will see them

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and they will recognize them. They will recognize these deeds as being that and then Allah will give them other good deeds. So that person will say, Oh Allah, these don't belong to me. They're not mine. I didn't perform these actions. They don't belong to me. So Allah will say, this is the reward that you get from your righteous child who perform these good deeds. That is the reward that you get. Imagine having that righteous child who grows up and reads the Quran.

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And praise and worship Allah and give sada and then that child has another child that has the same, and a third child that does the same. And generation after generation, that link continues by the permission of Allah subhanho wa Taala. All of the reward is eventually accumulating and coming back to you. What a great act of worship. What an amazing act of worship. And it's very, very cheap. It's not like you have to build a Masjid, which again, is a sauna kajaria but it is difficult. If you don't have money, or spreading knowledge. If you don't have the knowledge, it's difficult for you to spread the knowledge, but to marry, and to have that intention of righteous children and a righteous

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family, and to continue having the accumulated reward or an amazing, amazing way of coming closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Even after you die, generations after you die in sha Allah, that reward will keep coming to you. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wouldn't allow those companions to say that this was something which by which they will come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the youth, that if you're able to marry than marry, and if you're not able to marry than fast food, indeed that is a barrier for you, meaning between you and your desires. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will not only rebuke those

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people who didn't want to get married, he would openly encourage his companions to get married. Why? Because not only does it increase the oma Not only is there a relationship of affection and mercy, not only inshallah, do you have a righteous family that you continue to benefit from, but this is one of the greatest ways by which you come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that Allah is our job through it will reward you with the highest levels of Jannah. And that's why and I will conclude with this final point from the great mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And from the greatest rewards and blessings that he will give to the people of Jana, is that if the fam if one family enters into

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Jenna, for example, and our wife, or the parents and the children, they enter into gender, all of them, but because of their different deeds and actions, they are on different levels, from the greatest Mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala, from the greatest blessings that Allah will give to the people of Jana is that he will unite them in rank. So those who will lower in rank in Jannah, will be exalted to the higher levels of gender where their parents are or where their spouse may be, and so on and so forth. And that's why Larissa what it says in the Quran, Allah, Xena, Manu, whatever act on the reactome Be a man, and how can I be him though we yet woman, Allah, Tina homina, homina

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himanshi. Those who believe, and their offspring follows them in guidance, we will make them united. And we will not take away or decrease any of the actions. That is from the greatest Mercy of Allah. And that's why, as humans, it is our natural disposition or is from our nature, that we don't like other people to be better than us, your friends, your brothers and sisters, your siblings, your colleagues, our work, you want to be better than them, there's someone doing better than you is from your nature that you don't like that other people are excelling faster than you, you always want to be better than them. That's just part of our nature as humans, except for our children. It is a

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source of honor and pride when your child is better than you. If your child if you never memorize the Quran, you have an opportunity of your child memorizing the Quran. And imagine your child memorizes the Quran. And as we know, in general, for every single verse recited they have a level in general, you can't reach those levels because you didn't memorize the Quran, but your child memorize the Quran. So if they have a higher level than you in Jannah, from the mercy of Allah from having that righteous family is that you will have that same level in Jannah, through their righteous deeds, because ultimately it comes back to you imagine that child goes on, and they give sadaqa. And

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they do so many good deeds, maybe perhaps for some of us, or many of us, we started practicing Islam at a later age. So we missed many years of our lives will be done fast and play for whatever reason. But with our children, we have the opportunity of correcting those mistakes, of not falling into those same errors. So they have much more action than we do. And on normal piano they have a higher level. So from the mercy of Allah is that he gives you that same higher grade, that it gives you that same level, because otherwise, the the blessings of gender would be incomplete for you wouldn't be complete if you were in Jannah. But your children weren't on the same level for you, your husband

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or your wife aren't on the same level as you. That's not a complete blessing. And that's why from the descriptions of gender from the attributes of gender, is that it is complete and blessing that you won't feel that someone is better than you. You won't feel that there's something missing. You won't feel that there's a sense of

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Let down that as long as God as it was promised to you to be, you will know that it is complete. And so that is from the perfection of Jenna and the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala on the day for the believers and the people of Jana, as Allah subhanaw taala that he makes us from amongst those people, that He grants us righteous spouses and righteous children and righteous families, who will be a means for us and then entering into gentlemen that Allah azza wa jal unites us with our parents and our families, our spouses and our children in the highest levels of Jen novel for those of her that was on a loss of living my mother and early he was rbh mine.

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