Adnan Rajeh – Jummah Prayer London Muslim Survey 2

Adnan Rajeh
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of maintaining healthy society and addressing issues with society. They share personal experiences of identifying and addressing groups within society, as well as the lack of diversity within Islamic institutions. They also touch on the negative impact of media coverage on people's mental health and the importance of investing in marriage and blocking obstacles to empower individuals. They stress the need for professional help to address these issues and address racism.
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About our OMA as a group like they'll seem will be heavily Lehi Jamia and hold on to the rope is the word he used the hyperbola the rope of Allah and scholars for years for centuries have talked about what does he mean by that? Is he mean the Quran? Does he mean the deen? Does he mean the Prophet alayhi salatu salam does he mean each other and it doesn't really matter. You can take all of them you can take one of them it all leads to the same thing at the end. The current the word that really is of interest there were Jamia that happens after it. So however you want to understand hablo Allah subhanho wa Taala Go ahead, but you're still stuck with Jimmy and right after it I've been I've been

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together as an as a group not divided. A few verses later on quantum higher on say the same group of verses quantum higher on matino Khadija to the nurse you were indeed the best nation that was presented to people that more on roofie What's that? Oh 911 carry with me No, Nabila

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tabula Hallo Lika and a higher Allah whom you command that which is good and you and you and you

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and you're discouraged people from doubt which is not and the word and the concept of emerald model for NA. mancha is a social one. I want to take a moment just point that out for you. It's really not religious in its nature. What I mean by that is a model for NA LaMancha is not referring to Dawa there are two different things that always when you call people to the way of Allah subhanho wa Taala you teach them the deen you give them the basic rulings and laws of Islam This is not that amount of in the Animoca is different it's different not saying that this data is not important obviously it's important I don't need to explain that to you we've already agreed on that long time

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ago that's why you're here that's why I'm standing here but I'm gonna read model for now and we'll get a little bit different is talking about maintain the maintenance of society the way you maintain a society is that you evaluate the good and the bad within it in terms of the norms the customs the culture that exists amongst people what is it that they value a lot what is it that they don't care to

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care about too much? And I'm gonna run out of and then I will Mocha is the maintenance of that societal system is pointing out that which is good, encouraging it

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commanding it helping people embrace it and take it up, take it upon themselves. And I look at a sea monkey is that which people look at and say, isn't good. And then continuing that thing, it's not going to be agreed, let's keep, let's continue to keep it that way. And then when the community has something that's wrong, that you don't use a model of an animal, that's what you bring Islam. That's where reform is required. That's where you bring in Islamic law. And you start arguing, that's where you have to stand there and debate this is not right, what the community agrees to be correct, is not correct. And we do that as well as Muslims. We do that as well. But I'm on MANOVA. Animoca is

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just acknowledging what is good, what are the good values that we've got? What are the good stuff? What are the stuff that we see? To be correct? And they are, and the stuff that we see to be wrong? And they are, let's continue to, to enforce that. Let's reinforce that. Let's make sure that's what we do, as most of you come to any society. And we look, what do you got? What are your values? Now let's take a look. All right, these ones here, we have to change, these are a problem, we'll talk about that from an instance, that's a slide that's dalawa. But over here, you have a lot of nays values, we agree with all of this stuff. And that's what I'm going to model when the animal comes

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And we don't do a lot of that we do a lot of the first

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we do a lot of the where's the wrong stuff that we need to change. And that's fine. I'm not saying that's not important. It's really is. And we haven't done a very good job at that either, to be honest, but I want to talk a little bit about the concept of own model, when they hire human cups, they understand what it means when you're living in a society and the value,

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the value their elderly, and they value taking care of the vulnerable. And they value equality and diversity and the value of these things. Even if they don't do it. Well. I'm not talking about the implementation, maybe the implementation is all wrong, that's fine, but the values are there, then as Muslims, we come along, and we strengthen that we make it stronger, not weaker. We come to a society where things are going well, and we make whatever is going well better.

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Whatever it is that they believe in that is that is good, we will make the belief in that goodness stronger. We come to society that is looking at a problem and saying this is a problem. We agree it's a problem, we will stand with them even we will we will strengthen their stance against that problem. Not the opposite. You don't change, you know, most of them don't come to society and change everything in it. No, they evaluate most of the time to evaluate what is good. And what is the what's working well, what is not in the society. They may not believe agree that that drugs are haram, but they don't look at them in a positive manner. societally speaking, they still look at it

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in a negative way. It's not a good thing, stay away from it. They have campaigns, that's where we agree with them. Yes, we agree there's not a good thing. So we, we engage in amount of Animoca. Regarding that, because they already agree with it. It's when they when we don't agree with them. When when there's a specific behavior that we say no, we don't like that one. That's where we bring us law that's really being reformed. That's where we have to have our ducks in a row, we have to have our proper arguments, we have to have our make sure that we have as a platform for our voices so that we can actually challenge their status quo challenge their norm challenge what it is that

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they're looking at, by bringing Allah subhanaw taala his narrative into the into the arena. But when things are agreed upon, that are good that we have to strengthen them. And that's why

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I'm sharing with you the whatever's left of the serving zone, we're looking at the brothers and sisters from the outcome who decided to put this this survey together, there's information here, this information is helpful for us, it allows us to continue this this legacy of of mouth open data and mocha by by identifying that which is doing well. So we can so we can strengthen it. And that which is not so that we can we can change it. But we have to be able to know what's happening. First, how do you change or how you help a community? How do you actually identify where your model exists and where your slot and data exist, if you have no idea what's happening, if there's no

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clarity in terms of what the what the values and the norms and the customs are within a community.

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I want to share with you before I go through some of this data, a personal observation that I've put together over the last 10 years. And I couldn't have done it any earlier because of the fact that life changes as we get older.

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But we have a lack of

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certain age groups presence within our Islamic institutions. There's a lack of certain age groups that don't exist within our Islamic institutions in terms of volunteering in terms of actually doing work. And this is the problem. When you look at the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam building his his core group, he had this beautiful spirit, this wide spectrum of people from different age groups. He had young people, early teens, and 20s. You have people in the 30s and 40s. He had people were elder in the 60s. I just thought it was time invested in all of them. And it's through that investment that actually he was able to make the impact he made out of us thought to us and because he didn't

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stick to only one one group of people. He didn't just look at one demographic. Okay, I'll only talk to this guy.

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age group if you're not at that age group remove, or only spark feature this gender, for example, the other one do not involve he spoke to everyone. And because he did that, and you saw to his impact was so profound and it spreads so quickly through his life. And after he passed away, and he got salatu salam.

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But I thought it was normal growing up in a masjid where it's either children or people who are retired. Because I read a message like that. There was this old message in the in the village that no one wanted to go to any more.

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You may see wood on the actual Sajad without your own pair of match, you would go into an asthma attack, this message is very old, the walls were all rock. It was built by any

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medical cardiologist how much they could become about a unique, these are people. These are great scholars who came and built the first message in the small village. And they stayed in it for years. And then they built the next big one, and everyone moved to that one. So they needed someone to run this message. They defined this ignorant 17 year old to do it. So I did it. I ran the message. And my message was with a bunch of kids children that I taught from school, my brothers and their friends, grade sixes and sevens and fives and threes and ages. And all of the elderly all of the grandfather figures and I thought that was normal. And I just got accustomed to massage it being

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only people who are retired, or children who their parents don't want to spend too much time teaching. So just send it to the masjid and the shift will fix them for them. But then there's a demographic and I was young I was I was 20 and 21 and 22. So I in my teens, so I thought that was normal. But now as I'm getting a little bit older, I'm not that old. But as they get older, I look around, I'm noticing that what I haven't massage it are people in their early 20s children and elderly. I don't have the 30s 40s and 50 year olds, they don't come here. They're too busy. They're mashallah accomplish, and they have too much on their plate. So they have no time to actually come

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and volunteer and do anything. They may come and sit on a board, make some decisions, sign some papers or leave, but nothing else aside from that. And I've noticed this to be an actual issue. Like I'm watching it, I'm saying, Yeah, this is missing. I don't know how I'm going to be able to teach younger people how to volunteer what up and mannerism they're going to have in volunteering, how they're going to act like for younger boys, they're not going to get the girls even though it's parallel. But I'm talking about it from the boys perspective, because this is what I see on a daily basis. I don't know how these boys are going to learn to be men, if I have no men around. If it's

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just me and two other people who show up and the rest are all under a certain age group. They don't learn very well from themselves. I don't know, I don't know if you've noticed. But if you put people from the same age or same demographic with each other with no external forces at all, that doesn't, that's not a very good recipe. Not a lot of good comes from that. You need that that external effect. When I look around, it's not there. People don't have time. They don't have time. And I ask them show up. Yeah, show me when I have time. And I say yes, but in my mind, like honestly, no time at all. You don't have one hour a week, you can't carve out an hour and a half an hour a week to

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come and do something that is that is maybe not exactly what your expertise demands. That's not just focusing on whatever skill set you picked up from university and through your job, but just actually coming in existing amongst people and talking to them and helping them and figure out what they're gonna do next. We have a lot of that. I've been talking about mentorship for seven years straight. I am bored of using the word actually, I don't even like listening to the word anymore. I hate the word because it keeps getting misused everywhere now, but people aren't, don't seem to understand me. Yeah, and if we don't have that networking aspect of things, if people from different age groups

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aren't willing to show up and give some of their time, not just their wealth, or wealth, wealth is a whole other problem that we'll talk about, but from their time and their expertise and their experience that we're not going to get very far. And if you need me to give you examples from the Sunnah from the Prophet Allah you saw to Sam's life and from the Sahaba regime, I can do that CZ. See, they all made sure they did that. And he made sure that they all did that. Or you saw there was a major that they did things that may

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have been 40 years before ninja Healey and something they wouldn't do, because it was beneath them at the time. If you hit a certain age and you had a certain amount of wealth and you were respected in a certain manner, then you didn't have to do certain things anymore. You didn't have to sit at the wall and and listen to a couple of Gremlins read Quran, you don't have to sit and talk to about a couple of snotty branch running around. You didn't have to do that because that wasn't your piece. But I don't see that being the case. During the Prophet It is thought to us that I'm a slave. During his life, he gave an example of someone who engaged with all demographics of community on every

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level, you would find him on a slot to a set. I'm speaking to elderly women, for hours upon hours trying to help them filled fix their problems. He would go to the alleys and spend time with children and talk to them and ask them questions about their pets and their birds. And if they needed help with something and listen to them. I know he slept with him and engage with all of us. But he would spend time with his sofa. Those who were the most vulnerable of the Muslims, those who couldn't, didn't have places to live. Those who are so poor that they didn't have a place to live. They lived in the masjid he was spent time with them and see and figure out ways to help them.

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And you look at the Sahaba did the same. They did exactly the same. No one was exempted from hygiene. Well I'm sorry, by the way, no one was exempted or you don't have to go up your house. No everyone had to give up their

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Hope everyone had to open their home. Even those who can afford to buy homes for people, you still had to open yours. You still had to divide your own home. Yeah, buy one for someone else straight, just like a login. But someone's coming into your house. If you're not willing to do go that far, then you don't, it was a way for them to differentiate who was really committed and who wasn't, who was actually a part of this community and who wasn't. And he didn't have to go around saying who wasn't gonna happen, who wasn't people undress themselves, people expose themselves to their own the fact by the choices they made, and what they did in their lives, because he would demand out of his

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thought there was there a certain standard, and those who couldn't, who wouldn't meet that standard would expose themselves. So even though they knew them by heart, a lot of Muslims already knew they don't full on, they would say you'd read the books before that new column would have been on the fuck, you find that wording, he wasn't gonna pick who was clear his knee, fuck, they didn't need to tell us it was obvious, this person had no interest in engaging in anything, he was not a part of our community at all.

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This piece has to be brought back in again, I'm sorry, I know you're busy. And I know you have a lot of meetings and I know you have to exist, you have to be here, you're a part of your sadaqa is not just your money, but it's your time. And honestly, we're not doing very good when it comes to money. So I don't really feel that you're exempted anyways, time is needed. You need to exist, you have to be there, you have to actually show up, and you have to help with things. Let me give you an example. I love this story. I'm the first piece of the hotbar with this story. And then we'll go through some of the slides say normal. Uncle Bob was always impressed by Abu Bakr. At the beginning

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he competed with him in a good way he wanted to be as good as obika he figured out later on during the Prophet Allah He sought to sounds like he couldn't do it. Oh, Buckler was just always one step ahead. So we accepted that in a good way, in a brotherly way, in a loving way.

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So he was always impressed by this man's character. And he watched him during his during Oh, because Khilafah was now the Khalifa of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, he was ruling at the time all of Arabia, parts of, of Northern Egypt, most of of the southern parts of what today is Jordan, Syria and Iraq and parts of, of today Iran, which was a big empire, way bigger than what he left out your salatu salam way bigger than the Arabs ever thought they were going to have. Like, even in during overgrows time, they're like this is this is quite, this is beyond our wildest dreams. And he was able to establish a strong, a strong need to hold on all these lands through a little bit at the

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end. And after Southeast Asia.

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On a certain day a week, he would disappear. And Ahmad was observant, he would see this, he will see that America would not exist in the story. You find it in the hotel area, you'll find it in the collection of the hobby, he tells the story. And he just disappeared. No one was very observant. So he noticed that every every Tuesday or whatever, have to figure out where did you where do you go? And Albuquerque would just kind of answer him not really give him an answer. I have something and just go on. They had a lot to deal with. But I'm always just so he followed him.

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He watched over could enter a home and spend a couple of hours then leave. So as Amara would say,

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for the run to sue and you know I had a bad assumption or what is he doing? You know how it is? Right?

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Married men going to houses on their own never good. Never good news. Never good news. If someone's disappearing, no one knows where they are. And they're coming up. Never good news. So I'm gonna like oh, what are you doing? This this guy? So he goes in he's, he's expecting the worse. He finds this elderly blind lady. This elderly blind lady. He asks her men kinda indicate who was who was here a while ago

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for him. So he said she said What do you mean let it be you know, what do you mean? He comes to you? There's no but hula hula I don't know who this person is. Yeah, teeny one to one to Sydney in first years now. Yeah. To you, Nicola. Yonka. Every every day of the week on this day he comes in the morning to listen. I have a simile. Where can you sue during your Akira Selby. He comes in he and he cleans the house for me. And he and he sews any clothing that is ripped and he was able to fully parameter he makes some food enough for me for the couple of days. On my own son if all I had it for who? I don't know who he is. Perfect. So I'm gonna get the key. I'm gonna sign this. How do you

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start to cry? Chordoma is not about the kindness yet. Abubaker what do people do after you overcome?

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abdomen that attack? You've made it so difficult for people to follow you? Abubaker how do we follow you? How do we follow you? It's impossible. How do I how do I do this? I want to thank them. So if I'm I'm you know, I don't get ahead of me but I'm keeping up a good standard. And then he sits there and he feels like how do I do this? But overcome understood something that Amara Dillahunty would learn from him. That is not I know you're you're the leader. You're the Supreme Leader of the land, it doesn't take away the fact that you still have a spot here on the ground with the rest of us. You know, here down in the mud. We're working with the people who are struggling those who don't have

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what they need on a daily basis those who have different types of challenges with the children with the people you still have a spot here. That spot is not is vacant just waiting for you. You still have to come and sit here too. You still have to be a part of this. You cannot distance yourself from that. You can't as a Muslim you can't I'm not I'm sorry.

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You can't, I don't care how many PhDs come on how many DRS and other letters that come after your name and how much and how big your, your signature is, and how many people vote, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. You're not bigger than the Rasulullah saw the semi, not more. Now, you know, Buckler was during his life. And they understood the importance of just doing basic work is coming and making sure be there be a part of things.

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That's why I want to help Bob. And the reason I tell you this story, because he's the same one who when he saw the prof out, and his thought was, I'm playing with a couple of six year olds, he said, Yes, it'll let us know. What are you doing? Here's an OMA that needs to be taken care of.

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I'm not saying that I don't You Didn't you hear the news? How do you think Mr. Smith? What is the new 00? Law? Merton? No lawyer, the small bird died today you didn't hear the news, his bird died? What's wrong with you? Mr. What if I

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stood there quietly, even though he didn't make sense to him at the beginning made sense to him later. Like I now have an SCP on Monday, while the Allahu Anhu bla bla is not late when he understood. But we have to understand the same thing.

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Yes, you have a specific contribution based on your expertise and how and how far you come in life, which is great. And that's you're required to do that, whether you're in law, or medicine, or engineering, or business or whatever you're good at, you have to you have to contribute to that. But then there's the basic contribution, the basic stuff, just showing up for silhouette, just looking for a simple opportunity for volunteerism, with younger people and just sitting around and helping and doing something that you don't normally do. That's, that's a part of the story as well. That's a part of the story as well. And it's that balance that we that we seek and we don't have that right

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now. There is a lack of certain age groups within massage it

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not on the boards, there's a homologue of the fill the boards, but not elsewhere. And that to me is concerning and it's a problem is telling me that that disconnect is only gonna get worse. You can't expect four or five people to mentor a full community. You can expect a couple of sisters and a couple of brothers to take care of, of 10s and 10s and hundreds sometimes of younger people it's impossible it's not doable.

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Colorado was talking hola hola. We're looking for stuff you'll be offered a look on me afterwards and we'll talk to Eunice Doctorow.

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hamdu Lillahi wa wa sallahu wa salam O Allah like ILM and learn about the early you're sabe Humana turbina, Jehovah and the reason I'm talking about this is because if you want to see a change in the future, no of this, because honestly, some of the imaging that the images that are there are coming out of Rafa and coming out of Oz are beyond heartbreaking. There's things that you never thought you would ever see, well, I don't even know how a person can put up with this stuff. Like, whatever I do in a day I do just to distract myself, so I don't sit down and look at something or open an app or respond to an email or see something that is just that is just completely devastating as we live in

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a world that just has decided openly to just draw a blind eye to that which matters to us. And to people who look like us and people who think like us and people who are us. It's not even like anymore, that these are these are us, the people who are dying there, that's me and you, it's just a different version of us that there's no there's no difference really. And the fact that the world is okay with it is extremely disturbing. And it's devastating and telling us that we're not we are not even remotely close to where we need to be as an ummah, to be able to at least voiced concerns about it, or at least push against this tide of hatred, this tide of, of tyranny and, and discrimination

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that is flowing through this globe. And we want that to change. It starts with small steps. By the way, it starts with little things. It's not always, it's sometimes starting something simple. Like you have an hour that you spend helping kids or going to a to a homeless shelter or running a soup kitchen or just chilling dealing with some of the youth who don't know where they're going in their lives. It starts there, start small, that's really where influence occurs. By the way, when you ask people who are extremely successful in life, what exactly moved you they'll tell you about this silly story. They'll tell you something really silly. Well, and although failed to tell you about

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all the time that their parents dispense lecturing them and the time that they went to campus, they'll just tell you this one moment where they ran into someone and someone said something and it clicked because people are on their own or on their own journeys. We never know exactly what they're thinking. Take them on hunico and say that that changed me was once you might miss shabby, I'm going to show you one of the No one saw me so where do you go? What do you do? Now? I told him I work in the suit and he told me he asked me what do you learn? Who teaches you what Island are you? Are you are you seeking? I told them I don't that if anyone took on a million belly after look at Apple look

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at this brain you haven't you're not doing that and that was the end of it. He never spoke to him again. But he just loves something if you remember shabby was too busy sitting inside his house. If he was not interested in speaking to the use of his own OMA then we would have lost out but one of the biggest demons that of our history.

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I want to share with you a few more points from this from the serving.

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I think I went too far.

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people have financial difficulties, especially those who come early. Those when they first get here, they get supported first year two is enough, at least there was before COVID, they got enough social support, and people help them. But then a few years into it, they get forgotten. And between year three and six, they struggle, they don't, they don't do well. They start actually not able to make ends meet. And a part of it in my opinion, a part of that is, is the lack of communal engagement. Because they may get involved at the beginning when they first come here, and then they'll kind of drift away, and there's no safety nets, we're not setting anything up to make sure that we bring

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people back in, and that we offer them the support that they need. And it's sad that our brothers and sisters coming from parts of the world are torn, where they are running away from from oppression and persecution. After being here for a few years, they got forgotten, they got forgotten, and then they struggle. They can't they can't take care of themselves in a family that can't take care of itself financially, the family that's not taking care of itself spiritually, it's a family not taking care of itself socially or ethically or even on a family level basis, they lose that connection. Because if you can't make ends meet, then you're what you're worried about are

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other things you can't worry about these these quality pieces that we look at.

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I want to share with you, I think this is the marriage one. Yeah,

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we have an issue I've been talking about marriage for the last year or so I talked about it so much that I had to stop talking about it. So so people start getting the wrong idea, I have no interest in it myself and having to live I've already went down that road, and I'm good where I am. But for others, we have to start having this discussion a little bit more intimately. And we have to start talking about a little bit more on a larger scale. Because we are looking at an actual problem, I believe, number wise, we actually do have a problem. We have younger men and younger women who are not married. And the numbers of them who are beyond 2025 30. And 35 is way more than what we're used

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to seeing in any community, whether it's here or back home or overseas, or what was maybe become a 1015 years ago, or 20 years ago, it's actually very different. There is an issue, there's a struggle that younger men and women are finding in terms of getting married and then sustaining marriage actually keeping it running so that they're not losing it later on and kids are suffering. So this is an aspect of our lives that we have to start investing a little bit more. And honestly, there's a problem with the way we're looking at it from the parents perspective. Now I can we can work with the with the single brothers and sisters in terms of what choices they need to make and how they

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need to see it. But not much will change if parents if parents continue to carry the same mentality regarding marriage, if it continues to be extremely expensive, expensive. And if you continue to put up block it blockades and obstacles in front of marriage based on cultural necessities or cultural whims, then this will get worse, it will get it will only get worse. And when it gets worse. I mean, it's not it's not that it just affects the person. It affects the community as a whole. In a couple in a generation or so we'll have less youth. And we'll have more blockish because people will sit without marriage for a long time. What do you think they're going to do? I shared a hadith the other

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night with people that the Sahaba started thinking of neutering themselves. They were so poor, they could not bring anything for marriage that they started thinking, do we just do that and get rid of this whole problem? Well, people aren't going to do that I can tell you that much. Because huddling was way too easy. They weren't, they don't have to. And once you start playing with that problem, once that becomes when that spreads amongst a nation or community, once haram becomes normalized, then then there's really no use of living in that area anymore, or being a part of that community to begin with. This is much my opinion, this issue is way more serious than people give the credit to

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for that people don't give enough credit to this problem. This is this has to be talked about, where they they don't know where to look, you don't know how to find people, they don't have enough support, there are financial problems. Some of them are talking about racism. Imagine that in the home of Muhammad Ali, who salatu salam, we have people who can't get married because of racial problems. And that's just, that's just not great.

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We look at parents and what they what they struggle with, and what they're looking for, in terms of their own troubles and trying to teach their kids their Islamic identity or trying to make sure that they are I find this very concerning that people are trying to parent their children and teach them to have to be muslims and to feel proud about who they are and where they come from. And they struggle with that, that tells you that this community itself is not functional. It's not it's not functioning appropriately, because a Muslim community that is, will make sure that the youth within that can feel that they belong to that they're proud to belong to this group of people. And they

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have so many reasons to have so many reasons to feel proud that they belong. But when they don't just make a question, what is what is missing?

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I do realize that I come off very negative. But that's just me. I'm just very pessimistic. This just it sounds nothing to do with you. It doesn't do with the with these numbers. My concern is not to look at things that are working because what's working is working will continue to work and my problem is with that which isn't a problem at all with topics that are not working issues and struggles and challenges and gaps that are not being fulfilled and that we are seeing the impact of not us not fulfilling them. We're seeing how

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was affecting people how people are struggling more because of it when I know especially when I know that we have the capacity to fix these problems like I know we do, like I don't, there aren't there is actually no real barrier between us in between fixing these problems, aside from our own personal commitments.

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So I'm acknowledge continues to be the number one thing that parents want for their children, which is why we have this place. This is why we started this whole place. I did this same survey different six, seven years ago, and the number one box that was checked, even though the data is not very good in terms of being able to break it down. But the number one box that was checked was Islamic knowledge. They wanted their kids to learn their team. So we decided all right, fine, this is an echo of what you want. This is what you need, we'll start a place and the focus will be teaching Islam. This is how we're supposed to grow. We're supposed to go out, ask people questions, gather

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information, get more info, INFO from them, take that information, and then use it to plan ahead or plan forward into the future to make sure that our community is meeting we're meeting the community needs and in the community requirements and what and closing the gaps that the people who are living on the gonna feel exist in their lives, that that means that everyone has to feel responsible for this not just in filling the survey, but also in meeting some of these needs. Also bringing them bringing themselves and making sure that they are available.

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Well, I the only way I understand life to work. Is that in the law shuttle I mean, I mean and foster home, mom, Wallah home. Have you have you have you listened to? Are you okay with that? Yeah, what are the you know, I'm going to look at gelatin from G. Komen to mineral Nebula, he was truly here to cheer him on if he said he didn't know, he'd be unwelcome. And he's asking for your time, your your life and your wealth. And for that you will give you Jana sold, done, done deal or not. It's as simple as that it's a done deal. Are you willing to offer your life, your life, your time? Everything, everything of who you are for the sake of Allah so that he gives you Jana? If yes, then

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this will make sense to you, and you understand where I'm going with it? And if not, then we have to wait. We have to wait until you do. Because it's simple, except this time is very simple is as simple as that. He's offering a transaction. Here's Janna, give me you give me yourself. Give me everything that makes who you are. Your time and your wealth and your efforts and your energy. And you do that. And then you see a change. You see a change? I don't know what that is. Yes, the mental health problem.

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We have this is an increasing these numbers in our in our

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are concerning. We have more I think I think this is an under representation of what actually is happening. I think there's way more than this, I think that people will fill this out or people are coming to massage and in our area. So they're here and msgid already. A lot of the people who struggle with this don't come to massage it so they're not reflected here appropriately. Anyway, we're gonna look into this even more. But this is a problem. People are struggling with mental health problems and they don't have access to proper mental health professionals. Because there's a there's a barrier within our community. People aren't reaching out on time.

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And this whole look okay is beautiful. Don't get me wrong. I do it okay for my family on a daily basis every single day, every night. We do it. That's the sooner you do it okay upon yourself and the people you love every day. But this replacing mental healthcare with therapy from some foreign person which is it could not be farther away from our deen. It could mean not it could not be farther away from an assignments, even the concept of taking you somewhere saying I need someone to do work for them. That is foreign Islamically that's for him. You don't do that. You just you are asked the Prophet Allah, you saw somebody who spent all day and all night just to his handout before

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he went out on everyone. But he didn't. Because everyone just tell you do it. Okay for those who you love, but it's not a substitution just like look, it's not a substitution to a broken leg. It's not a substitution to a broken heart, or a broken psyche. It's not just like, if that breaks, or that doesn't work, you take it to someone who can fix it, then you do the same. But you do it with rakia obviously, if you understand it's done, then when someone breaks their leg, you perform rakia you take them to Dr. Lowe, MD to fix them. But it shouldn't be any difference when someone is struggling with depression or anxiety or any other form of mental illness. You do it okay, you take them to

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someone who can help them. Or else we continue to have real struggles with this problem.

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I feel bad about this one. We haven't set these places up so that someone who feels discriminated against can come and find support and find answers. We can do better. We can make sure people at school and university and at workplaces will feel that they were treated in a way that makes them uncomfortable about who they are. And if you'll let them know that they were targeted because of their demeanor, their the way they look or the way they practice or how they dress. They should they should know where to go. And they should have a place that they go to and that you will find proper support. And that's just Jonnie something I think we should all agree we all agree to leave this

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last piece up. These are open ended questions is what people talked about. It talked about social isolation. Talks about that they feel isolated.

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They don't feel that they know who to go to especially converts. They don't know who to turn to.

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And I'll leave you with this last live in Charlottetown. And next week in Charlotte, Allah will

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We'll kind of

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summarize all of this and then we'll start talking about Ramadan the week after I hope that was a benefit to you while I'm going to LA How am I gonna be hammering a woman for call in hola hola Mila you gotta who you're so Luna Allah Nabhi yeah you are Latina. Manuel Salah he was a limitless Lima Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed the Messiah later Allah Ibrahim Ali Ibrahim Abadi, Mohamed Anwar Ali Mohamed Kamal Dr. Allah Ibrahim Ali Ibrahim Philomena Anika Hamidah Majeed what are the Allahu Akbar Al Khalifa as that will who never be back or Rama or semana y li what are the Allahumma? is Raja he'll Mahajan what meaning one early hippo up and hitting one on Sahaba to

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hear now be helpful when we're just had dinner with my mother Alec Alec Allahumma via Azizullah hola hola. Quwata illa Allah, Allah, you know about Allah in Allah Hujjat moral bill I believe certainly what you eat,

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we enhance fascia, you will move three will go for your Illumina looking to the Quran. Inshallah, on Sunday at 530. We have our town hall. It's our two year anniversary of opening this place. You're welcome to please come and attend and give us your feedback and listen to us in terms of where we're going forward and have a conversation with Mexican Bula masala Oh,

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