Hadith 38 – Quality not Quantity
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well as you know, Mohammed Abdullah who what are sudo who? Salat wa Taala he was said ama why need to Slimming cathedra a bottle when the halal haram Cunnamulla he Robina Houda Houda Rasulullah sallallahu. And he was setting up with shuttle or more, my defer to her, or coulomb death and be the Temecula begotten Bella Coola Galera trophy. Now, a lot of times when the hookbait is given the TiVo, the man gives the hotbar based upon an issue that may not concern everybody who is sitting there.
But although he may not be addressing you directly, you still have to listen and trying to get benefit of what's being spoken about. I've given the hook but about the way you divorce people correctly, if a man wants to divorce his wife correctly,
the young man who is not married or the young sister who's in the Joomla, they can switch off and say, Well, I'm not marrying the hook but doesn't concern me after listen. And it may be that they'll get benefit.
So today inshallah I have to deal with an issue, I want to deal with an issue that doesn't concern most of you directly.
But although it does not concern you directly,
although it doesn't concern you, generally speaking, overall, the message is for you.
And it's a teaching moment for me, especially as it relates to the two circumstances that I want to address.
Before I address them, very quickly, calmly, take it easy, because golden, the objective is not to punch down on anyone. It's not the bank, anybody is simply to give advice to the people who are connected to this in any shape form of fashion and also for you our community. And it's from the HC mobile lobby. We have so many people here tonight we ask Allah azza wa jal to put in your efforts of attending because no one knew what I was going to talk about. We asked him to put it in your magazine of Hassan that you'll know Kiana Kulu I mean,
first thing that I want to mention to each and every one of you, especially my students who come all the time, may Allah bless you guys and get you married and those who are not married, may he Subhana wa taala.
Those of you who are married me protect you and your families.
Last week, we talked about the importance of an amoeba, maruf and a knee and mukha in joining the good and forbidding the evil. So if you were to see something that you know is wrong, you have to try to rectify it in the best way possible with hikma. So you have to get knowledge of the religion, you have to have sincerity. You have to know the do's and the don'ts. Today I want to talk about something similar to that In sha Allah before we address the two issues. And that is the importance of a Naseeha given advice.
Prophet told us Allah what He was selling them that the religion is giving good advice, the religion is giving good advice, religion is giving good advice. So if you see something in me, that is not correct, whatever it is, you perceive as correct, not correct. A says something, I did something, I'm doing something, you have every right and responsibility to come in to advise me in a way that you hope I'll accept the truth from you. A Dean, the whole religion is giving good advice, giving good advice to the Muslim community. Those people we know. And those people we don't know and the prophets of Allah who said them, he used to take the bath. And when a person wants except this time,
you'll say Okay, give me the BI that you advise every Muslim. And the parents say okay, showing how serious it was. It's a serious issue. But he made the whole Dean Naseeha some Allahu Ani, he will it will send them
the companions of the Prophet salallahu Salam, this device each other, and they were not afraid of upsetting people, and the man getting upset with him.
They would advise each other because it's one of the important aspects of the religion. I don't have time to give a whole dataset about the importance of it, but that's what they were pawns. So if we claim that we're people who are in selling via the Sunnah, we're trying to be, you know, practicing Muslims, that we have to practice this. And I've always tried to maintain the
is with you brothers, my students especially, you'll never know how much knowledge I have until you go to other people I never say to you just sit with me go to other people.
And again, I'm not perfect. I say things and that's why sometimes if someone contacts me and say look, this comment in the YouTube is seeing this in that and if the Hawk is with the person I will personally go on that YouTube and I'll correct that thing. Because perfection is with Allah azza wa jal, why to lash at Calico. And this is what the seller for upon
Al Imam Shafi from those tremendous scholars of Islam, he wrote a book that is considered to be the first book in a solo FIQ. That book is called keytab, a reseller. After he completed that book, he sent his completed book to one of the great scholars of Al Islam, one of the 10 A Miramont, meaning thief. His name was Abdul Rahman and Maddie is up there with the mammal Bukhari Muslim and Malik. He's way up there. And Imam Shafi shown his sincerity say Hey, can you critique my book for me? That's what we do. We ask our brothers give me advice, and Imam Abdul Rahman Maddy read the book cover a cover, and he told them change this change this change that fix that up, get rid of this
that and the Imam Shafi did it. He sent it back to him the revised book he said change this change that change again, he did it again send it back to him. And then Allah Imam Shafi said, Allahu Taala has refused to allow any book to be without blemish except the Quran.
The Quran is the only book that you can give to someone and they can't change it. At the memorable hurry if he gave his book to someone, they could come and change it. And that's why the book it some of the Hadith that he put in his book, and the mama daughter put me spoke about them in a scholastic way because it is not the Quran. So what's the point about an imam Shafi? The point is he opened himself up, give me advice, not like some of the Imams today, these Imams these cultural Imams. People who are the imam for life, you can approach them with any advice is a big problem.
My brother, Abu Tamia, Boo Tamia, he sent out a thing recently where he was giving advice to people who are YouTubers, and to people giving Tao he called them shares who are on YouTube. He sent it out. And I'm on a WhatsApp group that he sent to do it on the WhatsApp group. It wasn't him trying to beat himself up. He wanted to give us advice, including himself, and on that saying what subgroup there about 10 brothers are saying I respect for them. I see them as being balanced. I asked him about a week and a half ago, he brothers you know, we say black lives matter. I'm asking you guys on this group. Do you think I should say that? Because I don't want to say that causing trouble. I say
it because of this and that and that. Do you guys think I should do that? Or should I stop? Three brothers on the group? They answered my brother. Yeah, seen my brother, Boo Tamia. My brother, I bought bass. The rest of the brothers didn't answer. I don't blame those brothers. They're busy. They're busy. But if something came up down the line with Black Lives Matter. I say, Brother, you didn't advise me. Why are you talking about me like that you didn't advise me. I want them to advise me, the three advise me and I'm just mentioning this not to put anybody down. But this is our religion, especially people giving Dawa to Allah. Now I have to mention his brother's name. Again. I
don't want to keep mentioning his name, but it is a benefit I believe and that's the brother of mine. Farrokh when Northland Faro Jessa. Hello Hira, keen to Lee's a mystery was packed out it was packed. And I saw a faces of the youth up in the north and I've never seen before. That's the mystery. I'm the man. And in the masjid Earth man Farrokh. He mentioned something that I felt wasn't correct. He described a group of Muslims in a way that I didn't think it was correct religiously. I didn't think it was correct. So right then and there. After that, I took the microphone and I said to the people, no, we're not going to allow this in this Masjid. Because we're fishing and giving
Dawa to those young brothers. And like the people in this audience, you are eyeing your, your trick to get in knowledge into purification. There may be someone in the audience who was like me when I became a Muslim. I almost became a Shiite almost almost
on my journey. In my trip. I became a Muslim with African Americans who were just out of the Nation of Islam. That's not correct Islam.
I don't really know. But that's where I was at that time. People have to treat me with with with respect him, hikma. So this brother may be a Sufi, and I bite my tongue for no one Sufi ism as it is, is a problem.
So the brother had mentioned, goofy Sophie. And then I stepped in. And I tried to rectify it in a nice way.
Not to put him down, but to welcome people in to say this is not correct. And I'm not going to allow it in my ministry. Well, I he brothers, man, after he finished, he got up, he kissed me in front of the people he rolled out. I don't like people kissing me other than my daughter's my wife, my baby. That's it. But I know he was doing it out of love and respect. And he left. He didn't have a problem with it. But after that, you will be amazed at what happened. And this is not the point. I'm just sharing this with you. What happened was the people were his enemies. The people were his enemies are stuck for Allah. People don't like him. From the missclicked of Iran. They started writing
things and he made cutting up when I had said they show most of what I said but they didn't show the whole context. And they said, Abu sama pulverizes Earth man Farrokh and in pulverized their brother decimates him. No, I just gave my brother advice.
So that's his enemy. But then someone else contacted me and we had a short discussion. And what I said was an IAT in the Quran is important in 20 SOTL who gerat Allahu Teina say Yeah, are you living in Amman Allah? Yes, her Omen Oh, oh, you who believe do not make Supriya of each other. Don't make fun of each other. He has a big head a big nose thick glasses is This is His Cross is his feet go this way don't make So Korea and laugh at other people's expense. And the same ayat Allah who thought I said when I told me zoo Infocomm don't talk bad about em. Fusa Khun yourselves, you Muslims don't talk bad about each other. Yes, it is a fact that Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
called Abu Jamal Abu Jamal but he's Abu Jahan from us.
He used an offensive nickname to a man who was the enemy of Allah and His messengers. For the wealth Allah was sin moi ne Jemaine he's an enemy to the higher Rasul Allah called him Abu J. In the Quran, I will let up Abuja hill. But where did the Prophet have a call a Muslim by a negative nickname? Where did that happen once where did it happen? And then at the end of the same if Allah says, Well, I to nab a zoo up, don't call each other negative nicknames. If you know the person doesn't like that nickname, person doesn't want to be called the nigger. He doesn't want to be called a Paki. He doesn't want to be called a cheek. He doesn't want to be called to speak. He doesn't want to be
calling you Who do you don't call people that in this religion. Another brother contacted me to give me advice. And he said, You should not have advised that brother like that because he's from the people of the Sunnah. And the Sufi, they laugh from the Sunnah. They're people of innovation, and you could do this to people of innovation. I was shocked. I was shocked that we have brothers who believe that is permissible for us in this kind of setting right here this one right here for me to be offensive and call people nicknames here for no reason at all in this Mejlis because this measure this is like that measures everybody was cooling out like we're cooling now. I say no, I was hoping
I can go on with that brother, but he was trying to give me advice so it's okay, but I categorically reject that. I know that the scholars of Hadith their job was to say this person is a QA that as a narrator, this one is the job because he's a prolific chronic liar. So some of the Imams caught people by offensive nicknames because there was a reason a justified reason in the religion. But me just calling you guys by names because you're not on my mother happened my Muslim,
a wobbly a wobbler. Can I call you a wildly don't call me a wobbler Wahhabi Don't call me that stuff. That's offensive. I don't accept it. Don't call me a mood. Just some a person who gives a lot of body parts. Don't call me that. How shall we don't call me that? I shouldn't call you that. You shouldn't call me that. So the point is,
advice is from the Dean, honey and we have to be men enough to advise each other. I challenge you people to feel loved and to advise me, a great scholar of Islam and Imam Omar, even Abdulaziz who The Scholars say was the fifth Khalifa of Al Islam from the hood of Rashi bein. He said Rahim Allah Who mer
You will be Ceman was a scholar in the religion he said, may Allah have mercy upon the person who gives to me as a gift. My mistakes and my shortcomings. Yeah, if he had is not fitting properly, Yaffe, you have a smell coming from you that is offensive.
We have to advise each other. Yeah, actually move over Yasha you're reading the Quran too long for Isha, we're here late already don't read long. So what we'll do is we'll leave the advice, and we're going to talk about the individual. So the point first point, and nnessee
give each other Naseeha.
Because it's critical, and Benissa ale was cursed. And the tongue of the seminal Madame doet Tao, oh, the son of that will then be of a lot, and E sub Lumeria. Curse them, curse them, because they didn't make an American are often named Luca, which is a form of advice to people.
So that's the first point that I want to mention. And this is what we found whiny when I became Salafi and then Medina and I started realizing what the redeem was, this is what I found those scholars that I happened upon, and then banned even buys them and what they mean, they gave each other advice, and you could see their students giving them advice and then giving the students advice. Now, it's not like that now.
And that's why we're living in a tough time. We're gonna come to that. Now the issue that I want to address he shot lies the issue of what happened a few years ago, and it happened January 2007. How many years ago was that?
Dude, a man crunch those numbers. How many years ago?
How many years 15 years ago, some of you were two years old at that time, three years, five, seven years old. Some of you were not even born.
And this Masjid
some people who made a program they took 12 months secretly taping this masjid. And I still remember as it was yesterday, a guy who was an Asian, he was pretending to be a Muslim. I don't know. He came into my office when I was working here living here. And he was asking me how can he go to Medina? And I was answering the questions. I don't know that guy but the questions were very generic. And I answered the questions. Next thing I know there's a program coming out Channel Four called undercover mosque. How many of you heard of undercover mosque? Undercover mas shook the Muslims in this country when it happened
shipped the Muslims at that time because the epitome of Islamophobia but it has some good in it to be honest with you. Anyway, to make the long story short is the first point
when undercover mosque came that guy came into my office and he was asking how to go to Medina I was just answering but the way the pitcher went was like I'm going to cover in the nefarious it looks spooky you know it looked like that but nothing was said or acts that was incriminating if you want get your paperwork it but they just want it footage of him filming me secretly without my knowledge. Because of that guy because of that guy who was secretly filming me. Anytime people came to me after that. And they say can I take you to lunch? I say no. I don't know you.
I will hug people and I will pat them down and like the police will lie. I was hugging you. I'd be patting you down to see if you were recording me. It was like that. And I tell you with the mobile phones, be careful with people yaki. Be careful. So anyway, the program was one hour. For the first 30 minutes I was featured Abu Sama, the African American, the other. The black guy.
He's the other for one half hours meet second half hour, it was seven other brothers from balanced brothers. Some of them said things that were inappropriate. But for me, they had me saying things that if you would have seen it with your own eyes, had you witnessed it, you would have said that wasn't a good move. That wasn't a good look. But if you saw the whole context you would have understood. So one of the things very quickly what happened was I did the book, he traveled Quebec here in this Masjid from the beginning to the Imam, a very classic work in Islam, some big book, and this Kitab al Qaeda and he brings the ayat of the Quran about why this thing is a major sin. Then he
brings the a hadith and then sometimes we'll make a quick commentary. So I in this class about homosexuality, that people will do the actions of the people of law
If you want to know the rumen in this lamb, then I support 110% What that brother Daniel have pizza to what he's doing right now when trying to hold on to the true position of Islam without apologizing. I am an African American and I'm a minority. And I don't want people to be racist towards me as a Muslim or an African American, but I am not going to hold hands with people who are in my religion. My Religion says, This isn't an abomination. And it's clear. So I explained the I did it, then the commentary pay attention, and the commentary Alabama, the heavy rope,
as it relates that people will do the actions of the people of Louisville but Rasul Allah never had to deal with this SallAllahu sallam, so we don't know how the HUD is. The HUD is, how are they punished? It's go back and look at the book is our religion. Rasul Allah spoke about this. So you go back and you look.
And remember that he said, but the Companions like it, even IB Taalib said, and I said this in a class reading the book, take him and throw him off of a high
cliff. That's what I even told him sent not continue. But on the program, they cut out. I said, and remember the heavy said, I'd even I'd be taller, they'd cut that out and say, hi, me saying, throw him off of my high cliff.
And they cut what came after. And they did that with all of my excerpts with everything against me.
The West Midlands Police got involved because this was a serious accusation that we're extremists and we're going against British values. And it was a big thing. But the British police in West Midlands, they got involved. And when they got involved, they looked at the whole context. After that, they said, channel four, we're bringing you up on charges as it relates to Abu sama. Because you took his words, all of them out of context, all of them will Hamdulillah I did say something on the as a joke. That was
not correct. It was inappropriate. And I learned from that program. Take it easy and don't make those kinds of jokes. You could talk like that a long time ago, 1520 25 years ago in this country, you can't talk like that. That joke is inappropriate plusses juvenile and the prophets of southern wouldn't have done it Rasul Allah would never say goofy Sufi and given Dawa. I don't care what you say, but Salah would never call another Muslim. Such a nickname. Little kids talk like that. And I know the brother didn't mean him in that way. So as he I said, I said taco che che and we'll we'll hold on Nico, it may be that you hate something, but it's good for you. I benefited from that
program. Now, what's the point? The people said I didn't say anything. So nothing happened to me. Some other people said some things that were improved, inappropriate. Some things were saying inappropriate that we're not correction talk like that. And what they said wasn't right.
A few days after that, our brother, our brother, I'm just gonna call them a que
our brother May Allah guide us and guide him and forgive us and forgive him. He came from the masjid who doesn't love this mischief, mischief. They don't like us that mischief. They say all kinds of crazy things and hum de la they went quiet now. A que after two three days of that program. He jumped on the bandwagon. And in public, he said, You see IBO sama. You see he's a whiny, he sees extremists. You see how they say certain things in private and then in public, they say something else and now they got caught. And he jumped on the bandwagon of the people were trying to shut all of us down
and support it the non Muslims over me support it the non Muslims over us. And this is what's happening with this his BIA that we have between ourselves. People are claiming that they're all on set fear, but will lie here Why do you this is not Islam to be like that to support the non Muslims. And then the police came later and said, Oh Sammy didn't say anything this but you my Muslim Brother, you come out in public so you see Abu Simon you see the people Greenlee
I will never forget that. Because as the Arab said, when you get hit by the sword of your enemy, it hurts but when you get hit by the sword of your relative it hurts more you don't expect that. You don't expect that was amazing. And then the same individual and I'm speaking to the brothers who are still on that madness. Listen, this is not to put anything down but some people actually believe, too.
Do this to people who don't agree with you is permissible is from religion, they do it religiously. Allah mentioned in the Quran Everman Zuni Ana lehle su are many he for Euro who has?
Have you not seen the one who his evil deeds have been made beautified to him, he actually thinks what he's doing is right. So there's a word I want to teach you tonight, and it's called Shemitah Shemitah I'm gonna say it I want you to say it. Shemitah
That's right, what a title Not a thought. Shemitah
Shemitah means when something happens bad to someone, you become happy.
You glorify Me. And we had this in our culture.
A lady is like that towards her nephew towards her niece, towards the neighbor. If cars the relatives this accident, their relatives were happy that the son of the daughter failed got kicked out of the school that the baby died. That's Shemitah there's a hadith that says like tooth Hiroshima tummy ache for your hammer hula Yep, to leak, do not show Shemitah towards your brother. And then Allah has mercy upon him and then tries you with the same thing. That hadith is weak. For Salah didn't say it. But it's the famous hadith of Shemitah that you'll see in the books, go back read any book about Shemitah they'll bring a hadith.
This hadith is not authentic from Rasul Allah but it's true. Don't be a person who tries to get a man divorce from his wife because Allah you happy that he got the voice alarm you have to make that happen to you the thing that you became happy about Shemitah
and you have to have friends around you who when something befalls you that you don't like they feel the same way. There are some people when something befalls you will lie he their friends that we have that rejoice in that. I was at a when NEMA a few months ago. And in the walima was sitting and a person came to the minima and he sat in the last seat. And he just started speaking about a big fit and I hadn't even heard about and a person that he was talking about was a young brother that I liked. And I said my wife, we you seem happy man. What are you saying? I was shocked at what he was saying? Turned out to be true. But why are you opening that up here at this table? Shemitah he was
happy couldn't wait to tell everybody. Don't be like that yaki although this hadith is not authentic, is true in the meaning. And we have Hadith that support Allah your
heart that you humbly or he may be enough. See, none of you truly believes you love for your brother, what you love for yourself. Would you like someone doing that to you?
He fell off his motorcycle, broke his arm in his leg last time a whole lot. And you're happy that he can't go to the university anymore? He can't pay his bills anymore. Are you happy for that? You have your own misfortune. You don't want anybody rejoicing in that come and give a Hapa about that. They talked about it. And he also wrote all over the internet. Now look what happened last week. This same brother AK from the other Masjid was a governor of a private school Islamic school. May Allah put Haven the school may Allah protect the Chabad and the kids of the Muslims in that school. Islamic education is imperative today, our children are being forced with all kinds of stuff. I got
a little shorty. So my little man, shea butter, ham and Romain took him to the nursery. We told the people in the nursery, what kind of celebrations Do you have, we don't want any celebrations because the nursery is just so that he'll learn how to socialize with other kids. They're not teaching anything, just how to socialize. So they play all day. If you want to take them, you take them if you don't want to take them off. So we did our due diligence. We don't want this, we don't want that. We're not going to bring him the scope. And we definitely don't want him you know, playing around with these pronouns. My wife happened to look at the social media and saw that they
celebrated a few days without our knowledge,
Pride month or something like that. And we went and I started talking to the lady, why don't you do that and we had the discussion and the lady was aggressive. She said these are my values and long story and she let things out. She said I let him put a dress on his well.
My son, my coffee almost saved
my coffee almost popped out of my head. But I said to myself, I
Don't be a raging bull right now. You're beyond that stage. That was 30 years ago, Abu Sama, you're 5857. Now, don't be a raging bull.
Take it easy. You have the upper hand. But if you submit your emotions, you're gonna have a problem. So what happened? The law we solve the problem. The lady called us after that apologize and everything like that. And I mentioned that to say we mean Muslim school. So we're going to ask Allah azza wa jal to give tofield to that school, and we're going to encourage you put your kids in Muslim schools is a dangerous time right now. And even in the Muslim schools, the girls and boys have to be mixed, even in the Muslim schools.
And if you don't mix in your schools, you can get trouble from the government. So right now we are dealing with serious drama, how am I going to be against you and you're going to be against me in issues like this? Anyway, the highest people involved in education got involved in total 8k, you can no longer be the governor of the school because of some of the things that you've said about women.
They said in the newspaper that he said the non Muslim women are worse than beast or something like that. I don't know if that brother said that. I don't know what he said. But you know what I think he said I've posted a version I think he was using is that we believe in a hadith that we believe in. Like Allah Tala mentioned about the non Muslims from the jinn in the mankind know whom Kaluga life gonna be love whom I you know, Allah, you see Luna beha, la whom are then en la Yes, Marina be LA, it could kill alarm bell home adult, the non Muslims who don't worship God who created them, and they don't make sense. And they don't look for the truth. Allah said in the Quran, they have hearts
that they can't understand. They don't use their intellect. They have eyes that they can see. They have ears that don't allow them to hear those people are like cattle. Instead they are less more straight and cattle. That's what I'm gonna send in the Quran. That's not Allah talking nasty about people don't they say?
When a want and especially in hip hop culture that permeates and African American culture. We're the only group of people who have a genre of music, where we can call our women B's, you know what I'm talking about the B's right? Not the B's z's. You know what I'm talking about a B, you know, I'm talking about right? So I will say that word because it's a technical word, it means a female doll. So when non Muslims say you be, why don't they stop hip hop from using that for black women? Especially? Why can you make a lot of money by putting our women down? Why? Why isn't that considered to be disrespectful against women and against American and British values? Why is it when
Allah in our religion, we don't say and talk nasty about people, but Allah is saying, look, the cattle can go around, eat, drink, have babies, and that's all they worried about. That's the meaning of the eye. So I would think that the brother aka love for Allah will Lenna when I would think that's what he said. I don't know what he said. But that's what I would think. Why would I come now? And clap for what happened to that brother?
Why would I do that?
So before moving on to the second point is Shala. I want to say to you brothers, don't have Shemitah for people and number two, number two, I want to say to people still on that stuff. Yeah, he when are you guys going to work wake up, thinking you realize that when they came for us here at Green Lane and other people that they're coming for you thing you realize that
you didn't realize that they're coming for you.
So I mentioned in this just as an Abra. Don't be a person who looks at other Muslims and you're happy at the misfortune that happens to them because they are not understanding or practice Islam like you are. Now if the person has a way of religion where they're cursing the companions. And what they're saying is crazy. That's a different story. We make dua that Allahu Taala deals with those people as he deserved to be dealt with, but our regular brothers and sisters, um, Sanofi was Sanofi Quran and Sunnah the way that the Companions understood that was bro we that was deal Bundy that was Sophie that when they whiny I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that. But why would I hope
for misfortune for them as opposed to those of my Muslim brothers? Churchill Islam booboo Tamia said as it relates to the people of this ummah.
And that's what the I said, What I told me is when Fuso comb, don't talk bad about one another, and Muslims, so say the truth, but say it in a nice way, say in a gentle way, don't be mean spirited and evil, when it's not even necessary. And here's what we found. A lot of those brothers being cultivated on, and now the cannibalism has started, and they're fighting against each other. And thus they've gotten quiet. hamdulillah hamdulillah they went quiet in the Arab world, and they went quiet here. hamdulillah Arahant Allah minuman SHA, Allah Hamdulillah. But don't be on that stuff. I'm not saying this to dog aka out. I'm saying take a fee Allah and learn from this lesson and let
us all learn from this lesson. If it wasn't for the Rama of Allah, it could happen to you. And I did a class here about the Hadith that doesn't is not authentic come out to do to Dan, as you do, it'll be done unto you. If you do that to people, it may come back to you Sofia Eliza gel. Second thing that I want to meet you the 20. And this is kind of like a real tough one. But after mentioning Sharla, something that happened in America recently. And a lot of people caught me today. And yesterday last night, and it happened on the East Coast in America where I come from East Orange, New Jersey. And it happened with a community that I used to be a part of and when it said a fear for
starting in America and it blew up amongst African Americans may Allah azza wa jal protect our community, bring our brothers back to the erosion and save us from the outside influences because they always, always integrate us the way they did the people before us and jam our programmer with the Intel they jammed us up took us off course but we're still on this side of the Earth. Let's make it too dark. Let's wake up man and get ourselves together. My African American brothers and other than them in America. So this brother, I want to advise I'm gonna call him a m a m, that one a k this one a m, realize we don't have mercy upon us and him forgive us to forgive the brother a m.
Anyway, something happened where there was a graduation.
And there was an Islamic school. May Allah die that helped Islamic schools say I mean, may Allah give us the money put our kids in Islamic schools. I mean, may Allah cause some of our professional, qualified competent teachers to make a sacrificing teaching Islamic schools I mean, may Allah called the admin of those Islamic schools to reduce the fee say I mean,
we meet these institutions a quality
people care about the future. They educate their own children, the great late Malcolm X said, Only a fool Only a fool an ignorant person would give his children over to his enemy so that his enemy can educate him.
Only a fool would do that.
Put our children on TV and supervised
let our children listen to music whatever they want unsupervised, let our daughters meet those guys meet our daughters unsupervised and we're gonna give them the freedom to do that. We're destroying our homes with our very hands you're gonna go you don't be a DMS Allah say they destroyed their homes with their own hands. Now I'm looking at the audience and there's not a single person here there's not a single family here except you got drama in your house like I got drama and problems everybody here on different levels. o'clock Saluki at all kinds of issues. So anyway,
these people are going to have the last day they're going to do the ceremony a few kids are going to graduate and that's it. It's over. It's over. Now I call this brother am when people caught me and said I believe you should call the brother and give him advice because it wasn't a good look. Whatever happened. And I did I call it the brother because I'm going to talk about this tonight and I call him I don't want to hear let him hear me speaking about him before I call him. Now I know the brothers doesn't want to hear everybody say something. Listen, when I lost my son on the last day of Ramadan law he broke I didn't want to give the hospital or eat up and leave. It wasn't him. I didn't
have the knifes I didn't have the knifes but I didn't tell anybody in the community about it because I didn't want people to feel sorry and not just got up their game. But after the hook but I just wanted to go home and lay down.
I wanted to mourn. I wanted to be depressed on my own
But the people came to me saying, read Mubarak Al Mubarak. I felt my lips in Kabul, Allah Mina women come. And then on the Friday Juma I was supposed to give the Juma but they let the other brother Abu Rayyan, just oh, hey, the game Hopper, and he told the committee I will send my son die.
So beware, it may happen to you, you may not. And then everybody saw. And he made a long line to say to me the condolences. I didn't want that. I wanted to go home. But I know that the community we're doing that out of love, but I didn't want that. I don't want it. I don't want to be here.
So I'm a human being. So I'm sure this brother was feeling like that I am i Man, I know what happened. I don't want to talk to people.
So he just left me a message and said, I'm busy. I'll call you after four or five days. So I said, Okay, I became busy. So now I'm dealing with it. But I tried to reach out to the brother. So anyway, what happened was, am
has some kids in the school. And this is the story that I got. I wanted to get his side of the story of why he came across as being unhinged. Why did he come across? You know, the way he came across? Because if you wouldn't see it, it's not a good look. Which brings me to this point, it's very important teaching point. Be careful. And beware of making a decision and a judgement about something you don't have all of the facts, no matter how it looks, no matter what you hear. Because in the dispatches program, they had me saying, draw the homosexual off of the cliff. I didn't say that. But I was quoting someone else. So if a non Muslim were to see that, or someone who's my
enemy, or someone who's not going to do the due diligence to see the context, they'll say you said it. Yes, I said it. But those were not my words. Don't condemn me for that.
And if you will look at that thing. You would condemn, not condemned, but you say it's a bad look. And it's not justified. So I want to hear from the brother what happened. But I heard from people who are close to the situation now listen,
what happened from what I gathered for many people is listen to this because it's a teaching moment for all of us to learn.
The children are in Islamic school and the reality we are making dua for Islamic school. Don't think for one minute that it misses me that in Islamic school because fitna fitna with girls and boys, fitna going on in the Islamic schools, we got issues in Islamic school, sometimes Islamic school have just as much fitna and evil as the regular school. That's a fact. So on this day, one of the students, some of the students, they kind of went against the attire that came with braids in their hair away that am didn't want them to represent themselves, but they came that way.
So when the brother was given the am was given the Qalam to the community, mothers, fathers, visitors, relatives, non Muslims, Muslims, the day of graduation, they're all there. So he's given the talk, and he doesn't like what the boy is doing or the boys. And that happened to me before while I'm giving a talk or hookah, and someone's sitting in the audience moving around,
And what you have to do is disconnect because they will unhinge you.
It happened to me many times if I see someone like that, that happens, and q3. I arrived to give the talk way back in the day. They said, Summer, there's a guy in your case with the Companions, it's a shame because the Companions he wasn't talking to people, so don't worry. I started giving my talk about whatever and he was moving around, frowning, getting my attention getting my attention. My wife was pregnant at that time. And he got my attention. I said, You know what I'm gonna do I have a baby on the way Inshallah, if Allah delivers that baby, I'm gonna name that baby more IWEA.
After more Alia ibn Abi Soufiane, who the raffia don't like, but we love him. We love our we and all of the companions. The point is, he got my attention, and I was distracted with that it happens, just like the children in Hawaii. We have any teachers here if you're a teacher, and he teachers, if you are a teacher, especially to Islamic school, other than Islamic school, kids are a trial to teach. It's not easy.
I never taught children as an imam. And I did that intentionally because I don't want to teach kids although I love kids and I believe I can teach kids I love them, getting to them.
means, but in Leeds, I have to teach because part of my responsibility will lay out good times with my kids. But when I took that booster shot, and I took that booster shot, and I had that constant headache, and I wasn't, well, those kids will try me. And I kept them. You guys want to kill me?
Don't care about me. I was going off. I was getting unhinged. Because of COVID was crazy. The dunya was crazy. I was living in Leeds by myself. I'm talking to you as a brother opening up, stop thinking that Imams and sheriffs and this will these people flying around with them and that everybody got challenges. Same thing that happened to you people don't COVID happened to everybody else. People suffering from mental illnesses and challenges and things like everybody was going through that. So those kids who I love and they love me and respect me. I couldn't talk loud. And he wouldn't listen some of them bouncing off the wall, some of them and I just burst out and say you're
trying to kill me. You're not gonna kill me up in here. And I was going off next day I came back I'd apologize. Two days in a row apologize Hills kids. And I told him I was wrong. Prophet Muhammad wasn't like that. So I know how kids can get under your skin. Plus we have our own children. But what about other people's kids? Because my kids listen to me how to do that for the most part. They listen to me, they respect me, but I'm not gonna let somebody else kid talk to me like that. So anyway, the kid do whatever. And the middle of the presentation that brother left the microphone, went over there and says some words to the to that kid. That's all I heard. And that's all I saw.
That's the only optic that I saw and heard. And he said something that was not justified. After I heard what caused it. I still say that was not okay. Prophet Muhammad would never do that. SallAllahu it was send them a sudo Allah Subhan Allah what He was sending them. told our mother Isha, when she says some rough rules against the Jews, as you said to them, may you be poisoned May Allah poising you to destroy you to that's after they said that to us Allah poison into Muhammad, when you die. I Aisha herder understood saying to you poison and the curse of Allah, you descend as a pigs and dogs.
A salsa Isha Aisha. Hey, I Isha What are you doing? I'm talk like that.
In Allah ha. You hit brief. Phil amor ko Li. Allah loves that you are gentle. When you deal with people.
That's the Hadith.
The other Hadith said, man, your ref, your homo or higher CoLo? Anyone who can't be gentle in his dealings and his calamitous Dawa. If he can't do gentleness, he has been prevented from all of the good.
But Sula said I've been sent with the L honey fear and it's somehow the religion that forgives people in Musa Maha I forgive you. I forgive you. Allah forgives you. The religion forgives you makes it easy.
The DUA of ladle to Qatar Allahumma Nica full moon to Hebrew AF Farfan me, you pardon me you love pot and pot me. That's our religion. Don't get it wrong. Sometimes you got to deal with people. That's why we have jihad. That's why we have the Hadoop sometimes, but dealing with each other, especially as husbands and wives.
So I say after I heard what I said, what I heard, like everybody else heard it, is not justified. And what I want to say is this, listen to me very closely. I've sent in this question many times, and I'll say it again, as it relates to that issue for the people listening back in America. And for you. Let's see, Timmy. You heard that hadith that I mentioned many times that he says some of the law while he was selling them that we're living in the years at a call center wide had died, the years of deceit.
These are the years of deceit. You can see something on the internet and fingers one way and it's not that way. So don't believe it. Because you have to investigate and get to the bottom of the thing.
Investigate. Second thing is we're living in the worst time known to man. I mentioned this hadith all the time.
He said that there was never a year except that the year that comes after it is worse than the one that present preceded it. 20 21,400 this year right now is the worst year known to Benny Adam. So our children, my children and your children are being raised and growing up in an environment. That's very difficult. It's not easy for them. They're not confronted by the things I was confronted by when I was
as they age, and the kid wants to put braids in his hair, I will Sam, I have a son who wants to put braids in his head a while ago.
Mo salah. You know these people, I told my boy, man, man, you can have those braising ahead. I'm close to this boy. 16 years old.
You can propose in your head. He said, But what about my little brother? What about his hair? Yeah. I say he's not cutting it. First of all, he doesn't have to do anything. That's the first thing. And the second thing is, you can have braids in your hair. If you could just tell me because I know as an African American, we have our culture. We have a lot of issues that took place within us about our hair, keeping it a whole history about our hair. That's why you find African Americans spending so much money on hair products. You know, this place over here and Coventry row is Dr. Richard place with fake care in Birmingham.
You know, the place I'm talking about? Right around the corner. So I have embraced who I am as an African American, so my son, I said, Listen, boy, if you can explain to me and articulate to me why you want them braids, I'll let you do it. So if you would have said, well, Abby, I read some Hadith where the prophet had braids in his hair, Salah, what do you send them and he was traveling, and he had three brings.
I say, Okay, good job, son. And then I explained to him what the lemma said, if he could say that, if he were to say to me what I be, you know, as an African, you know, where we come from, and we're passionate, you know, braided hair, where we'd come from just about what tribe you from and beauty and this, how do you said that? I gave him some rhythm. But my boy had nothing to say he closed up like a claim.
And because he wants to do the brace, he stopped communicating with me. Over brace man.
Now the way I am as a person is if you say method, man said this, and red man, I'm sorry. They said, if you say Forgive me, I'm gonna say forget you. That's kind of presiding. If you want to be like that with me, I'll cut you off. That's my boy who's living in 2022. How I'm going to do that to my son. How law he to law he be like, I got a call from a brother today who used to be with me in Brixton.
Nice brother. His daughter has married a non Muslim.
His daughter left Nana and he calls me they asked me, What do you think I should do? Should I cut you off? I said if you cut off you have deleted Abdullah bin Omar cut his son off Bilbao. Because he said Rasul Allah said don't stop your women from going to the masjid. That's what the Hadith said. His son said, well, Allah He I'm still stopped my wife. He said, I told you for Salah says something you said well, like he said, I'll never talk to you again. And he cut them off because he went against the Hadith. When I do live in Allah may Allah be pleased was about to die. His son came to ask them forgive me. Abdullah Lama was laying on his side to see people when they came in. When his
son came, he turned his back towards the wall face the wall me die, never spoke to his son again, because his son rejected the Hadith. So you have a precedent.
But the time of Abdullah bin Omar and 2022 in the UK, and Newark, New Jersey, Estancia is two different times. So when the Prophet didn't pray over the one who committed suicide, Rasul Allah didn't pray over the one who stole from the war booty Rasul, Allah didn't pray over the one who owed money. He said, You pray over him and left and the community pray. If I as the Imam didn't pray over people who had debt, I wouldn't pray over it. Anybody here including myself.
Everybody has some kind of debt. So as the Imam, I'm gonna practice that soon then every time someone has a debt, I don't pray over him. Nah, you gotta know how to understand and practice these a hadith. You have to think about this stuff. So I want to say they say listen, the daughter married in law Muslim, the son the son in America is with a game. Right here in the UK, our sons are getting killed. Our sons are killing people right here on Coventry roll, you know the stories.
We have some serious problems going on. So as a parent, I can be a tough person, my personality, you're not going to push me around. I don't care who you are. You're not going to push. That's how I grew up. But now I'm at an age where I said nah, I can't be like that. These are my babies. If I push hard and they push hard, I'm gonna lose my babies.
You're gonna lose your babies. Now granted, some of them you got to cut them off because they're like a cancer.
If you keep them in the house, the cancer is going to spread to all of the other kids, that's some of the situation, then going to jail is a nightmare. If that happened, maybe you'll get yourself together. But for the most part, I advise you take care and take it easy with your children.
Take it easy with your children, especially us African American people, where we have children who were not married to their mothers anymore. So they grew up in single parent households. And it's a tough job for that woman to take care of your child by herself. Now the boy grew up without any supervision, and you're going to be roughing tough, over some hair.
Now, don't get me wrong. And it's diplomatic told the people during his time, he's a companion till the tabby you people are looking at things like it's just a strand of hair. During the time of Rasulullah. We used to see it as being something that will destroy you like plucking your eyebrows.
Like that. shaving your beard. So you people think that that's something small, don't prophesied, we looked at that as something that's from the moon because they will destroy you. So I'm not minimizing the hair, the hair in the scale, you're more Kiama will make you have your life.
And I'm not talking down on anyone who doesn't have a beard, you should have your beard. But the point I'm trying to make is stay balanced. My son who wants to wear his hair like mosula don't want that. But I'm not going to allow my relationship with my son to go down the drain because of a hairstyle like that.
That's a battle that's a battle that I'm willing to lose. Because that's just you know, a little battle I'm fighting a war now with my boy.
So I want to say to the brothers and the sisters back there. When the Prophet used to deal with issues he didn't make it become a bigger issue a bigger fitna, like the bedwin that urinated in the mess Jay took his clothes off revealed his Outre bent down, stooped down and urinating and putting the jacks in the masjid. When the companions went to deal with them Rasul Allah said, let them go, let him finish the man finish. He said, go ahead and clean it up. And then he addressed the issue. He didn't let the Companions go and grab them and then the Quran MAN START urinated on everyone, and then the Justice spreads to a father area. Like the second video that I saw, where I heard people
saying, this is an Islamic school. This is so ghetto, non Muslims are seeing us behave in that place. Nah, man, that wasn't a good look for us. Not for no hair. The hair to me is serious, but not to that degree. Let it be a teaching moment that we learn from it may be that you hate something that is good for you. Next time in the graduation next time in the graduation, tell the kids to come to the school two hours early before the graduation to say you don't meet the code. You can't come you can't do so we learned from this negativity.
But what's the bigger picture? The bigger picture is not the brother am for Hola Hola. Hola for Hola, hola. Hola. No, this net that was a bigger picture. Take it easy with our ship app. That kid is about to graduate. And this is the last day that he's going to be in the school, let's say I know the institution, the dress code, the suit and all of that man. But which one is easier? Let the kid get his degree and keep it moving. And we live to fight another battle. As for addressing issues where we blow up the spot? No. So I'm giving this advice, hoping and praying to Allah azza wa jal that you guys get the point. This is not about a k or a m as individuals. May Allah forgive
everybody guide us all. This is a bigger picture. And the bigger picture is we give advice to one another, like men and kill all of his sensitivity.
Don't you be a judge? Until you get all of the facts to the best of your ability? Be sincere to each other and say the truth as you see it. Say the truth as you see it. When that happened with that boy. And what was said was sad. People from the floor came and it was folder. And it wasn't a good look. And nobody can tell me that that's justified. And that's the best thing that could happen on that day. That was a masiva Well, ma Saba comin musi button Illa be back as a bit ad. We often get here. There is no catastrophe that hit you guys, you people except it's from what your hands put forth. So this is what we wanted to mention a whiny again.
In a way of trying to dog anybody out, but if that's the page you're stuck on for Obi Wan Nam, I can't do anything about it. If you're giving Dawa and I say this to myself, you're giving Dawa. You're teaching all you people, raise your hands. Take it easy with our kids, not only with the kids, but take it easy with your brothers, your brothers from the same household, your sister, your mother, your father, your relatives are not practicing when they had been MCI and the walima. I've been to some mad limos where you go to the with NEMA that come down here comes the bride all dressed in white Muslims. They was doing racist stuff. I've seen that.
And they asked me to come to talk. Now I can leave that place like some of the companions left that place when it came to the Dawa to the one EMA and they saw something on the wall they didn't like they left.
No, I'm gonna stay there myself. I'm estadia to try to give Dawa to this situation. Try to give Dawa to this. That's what we should do. And this principle that some of the hardcore brothers have the son of did not sit with people of innovation. That's true, but not the way you are understanding it. And the proof that he you understand him wrong as some of the chef's like Chef Ruby himself, set renovations, like the one was to be me 13 years. If he can do that for 13 years, then surely I can sit with Muhammad hijab for one hour. For one hour, I still Muhammad hijab, you're telling me how many jobs a Kalani? I don't know that maybe is. I don't agree with everything he says. Especially
this last thing that I saw. We were talking about the aikido the set of big problem, big problem, but I have to talk to you, John. My point is, I only sat with him for one hour. I only sat with us slam 21 for one hour. The shakes after 13 years, why is okay for him? 13 years and there's only one I'm this and that it's not nice? It's not fair. You can sit with people, they don't put they don't put conditions on you and so forth and so on. Alright, at 20 for two minutes. Anybody have any questions? Two minutes Shala you can ask your question, and we'll be done with this. And we ask Allahu Taala to give us a tofield and what we're trying to do here today well Allah He the golden
the objective was not to dog anybody out for advice. So if I hit the bull's eye, that's from Allah waktu last shirt he color right in here with the bull's eye that's for myself in shape on the line his messages free from that. Anybody have any question about what we mentioned today? Anybody?
Okay, then the turf up has a cutter Oneness of Allah is virtually within our Yeah, can we call me my boy?