70 Major Sins #20 – Sin 35 Muhallil & Muhallal Lahu, Sin 36 Not Avoiding Urine, 37 Riyaa

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The segment discusses the three types of divorce, including married and divorced couples, and the importance of the length of the waiting period. The speakers emphasize the need for a new denies to be used and the importance of women’s desire to get back together after divorce. The segment also touches on the history of marriage and the importance of cleanliness, avoiding accidents, respecting privacy, and avoiding "has to be it" behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for individual behavior to be learned and taught in young children and the importance of avoiding "has to be it" behavior.

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Okay Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah the Sisters of salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And welcome to another 70 major sins class, where we are studying the or when we're basing our classes on Kitab al Qaeda by Imam vehbi

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just going to share my screen with you.

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So we had reached Believe it or not

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the halfway mark which is major sin number 35. Fillmore Honolulu. Well mahalo.

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Which is about the

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mohanlal And mahalo and basically what those mean, we're going to find out today. Literally mahalo means one who makes her learn. Manuel mahalo law, who is the one who someone is made halaal for right? I mean, somebody is made Hello for. And, you know, basically the translation is, or an explanation is marrying a woman

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to enable her to re marry her former husband. But actually, what is is both the person who marries a woman to enable her to marry her former husband, as well as the person who asks,

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you know, or who sought that, who sought for his wife, to be married

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by somebody, so that she would then become Hillel for him to marry. Both are sinful in this regard.

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So obviously, if you're not very familiar with how

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the lock and divorce works, then you're going to be confused at this point. So I'm going to explain a little bit of the background just so that if you're not familiar, you will understand insha Allah.

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So the way that you know, there are various ways for the dissolution of marriage in Islam, right? When somebody wants to out, get out of a marriage, basically. And there might be reasons for that. So a lot of Canada, Allah has decreed or given us various ways.

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One of those ways is the dissolution of marriage initiated by the man. Right, which is basically the law.

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And the law is divided into

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revocable and irrevocable.

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Divorce, right in vocable, divorce and an irrevocable divorce. So divorce is only revocable by the husband twice and becomes irrevocable on a third pronouncement.

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So as you might know, when if, if a Muslim

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man wants to divorce his wife, he just has to pronounce or say, I divorced you, right.

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And when he says that, once,

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basically there is a period of three months, when that time has gone, and, and he does not take her back. In other words, revoke the divorce, he doesn't take her back as his wife, either by saying I take you back or by having sexual relations with her. Then, once they've right, written out to the period of time, right. Now, they are divorced, okay.

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if, if a man divorces his wife, and then in that period in in the period that now comes,

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which is three months,

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he says, actually, I take you back, or he has sexual relations with her when he's revoked that divorce. Right? But it means that he's used up one of his divorces, one of his pronouncements of divorce. And a man has three

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pronouncements of divorce that he can ever use with his wife, okay, if

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before, it becomes necessary for her to remarry, to marry somebody else, and divorce them for her original husband to then be able to marry her again. I hope I've explained that clearly. I'm sure I haven't. Let's go on and Sharla hopefully, it'll become clearer. So divorce is only

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vocable by the husband twice, he only has two chances to then say, so he said go out, for example, I divorce you. And then he changed his mind and he takes his wife back.

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That's one divorce that he's used. Then say he does it again. And another occasion, he says, I divorced you. And then during the waiting period, he calls, he says, I take you back. Now he only has one more, he can only ever say I divorce you once more.

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Okay, um,

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and the third time he says it.

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Now he can't, he can't take her back. That's it, right?

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So if he pronounces a lot on the first and second occasions, he can revoke the divorce expressly meaning by saying I revoke the divorce, or by having sexual relations before the completion of the waiting periods. And there'll be no need for a new nigga. Right? See, just by saying I take you back we'll just by having sexual relations. The divorce has been revoked. The talaq has been revoked.

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And so

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so so that's the revocable divorce. The other type of divorce or telok, we said is irrevocable. And irrevocable life is divided into two types.

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The minor, irrevocable gala, and the major irrevocable block, the minor irrevocable dollar is if, for example, the husband says to his wife, I divorce you. And then in the three cycles, the menstrual cycles that follow, he

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doesn't take her back. In other words, he doesn't revoke. So he rides out that through those three months, those three cycles

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without having any relations with her and without saying, I take you back. Now. They, their marriage has ended. And if they want to get back together, they have to make a new contract. They have to do nica again, right, have a new nigga basically right to remarry.

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So that's a minor, irrevocable divorce.

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What is a major, irrevocable divorce?

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The major irrevocable divorce is when

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it is the third divorce pronouncement by the husband. Right? So he's used up to previous pronouncements of divorce, okay, and opportunities to revoke. But now, this is the third time he is divorcing his wife, or saying, I divorce you to his wife. Okay. And so what happens at that point is that the marriage is fully terminated.

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And the couple cannot remarry, until the woman genuinely marries somebody else, another man.

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So, so the point here is, maybe they don't want to remarry. So that's fine, right? That wouldn't be an issue. But what can happen quite a lot, is that people have used up their three divorces.

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And then later on, they sort of regret it. They wish they could re marry their wife, maybe the wife also wants to re marry her original husband, right.

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But now that the three pronouncements of divorce have taken place, they can't remarry. Unless she

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genuinely marries somebody else.

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And that doesn't work out. And that ends in divorce, then. And, by the way, she didn't just marry it's not just like doing the nigga. She actually consummate the marriage

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with another man and then gets divorced by him. Now she is able to marry originally her first husband

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with a new nica and it's like the three divorces are kind of reset, right?

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I know it's not a very romantic way of looking at marriages. It is quite it's quite a technical way of looking at divorce and marriage. But Jani, we're technical stuff matters, right? When it comes to these things. So

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Is that understood by everybody?

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So this major sin plays out when there's been a major, irrevocable divorce, right? Either a man has divorced his wife three times or in three different occasions, he's divorced his wife. And so it's irrevocable, Major, irrevocable, right?

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It's not a case of Oh, I can, he can just do another, they can just make another nigga, no, because he's used up all three of his opportunities to divorce. And so now

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this major sin plays out when

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this couple now are regretting it, and they're thinking, Oh, we wish we could get married again. And what happens in some countries is that the man, for example, will pay another man

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to marry his wife, his former wife, right? consummate the marriage,

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and then divorce her.

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So that now she is available for him to remarry. And sometimes the man organizes this the first husband, sometimes the woman organizes this because she wants to re marry her husband. So it's like she does a deal with some guy,

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marry me, consummate the marriage, and then divorced me. So right from the beginning, they've they know that they're just doing this is a sham marriage, right? They're doing this just to circumvent the Sharia right to be able to

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or re marry their first spouse.

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And Allah Subhana, Allah talks about this. And he says,

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For in Tanaka, her fellow, the Hindu law, whom in bad had to attend, he has zolgensma. And if he has divorced her the third time, then she's not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. And then Allah says, and if that one divorces her, there will be no blame, if she and the first husband returned to one another, provided they feel that they can keep within the boundaries of Allah, right? These are laws bound boundaries,

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which he makes clear for those who know. Okay, so because of this idea,

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some people try to circumvent this, because it's quite difficult to I guess, to, you know, for a couple to who've had three divorces for that woman now to get married, again, for it to be a genuine marriage,

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for the man to divorce her, you know, that's, that doesn't usually just happen, you know, it can happen. But meaning some people, they would like to speed up the process to be able to re marry. But, you know, you might ask, for example, but why is it that allow only allows a man? three chances, right, so three, three opportunities to divorce and why is it so kind of such a big barrier? It's as if Allah Subhanallah is putting such a big barrier between them remarrying, right, he saying, well, you have to marry again. And that marriage has to not work out at the end in divorce, and then you can remarry your first husband? Well, the reason is, if you think about it,

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the first husband had plenty of chances, right? Like three, that's, that's a lot, right?

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Three times, you didn't, you kept divorcing somebody, right? Or three times you your marriage, your problems escalated to such an extent that you were willing to divorce your wife, Allah doesn't want to give men this. Allah wants men

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to use their words very carefully. You know, saying the word divorce is not a light thing. It's not something you should be just throwing around. Right?

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It should be something that is extremely last resort, something that is very well thought out, planned, etc. It shouldn't be like what some men use it as

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a way of showing your annoyance or your threat towards your wife, right? And then you can just act like nothing happened and go back to normal No. So Allah Subhana Allah gives a man he's, he's he's kind of forcing men to have self control, right? Because if they use all three of those divorces,

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that's it they have to basically live with the consequences, which is that the wife has to go and rebound go and get married somebody else before they can even think of getting back together. Right. So, I hope you get the picture. So this major sin is

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the sin of those who try to circumvent this by creating like a sham arrangement for marriage.

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So the person the man who is basically

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The second husband, his husband, who just comes along just to marry this woman, consummate the marriage. And then just to divorce her, he's just kind of doing a favor for them or he's doing. Sometimes he's paid, right? Some people do that. And

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that person is a major sinner.

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And the person who sought that, so the person who asked the man, right to do that for him,

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or it could be a woman, you know, the woman might have asked a man to do it for her

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to allow her to now marry her first husband.

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All of that is all of those people are major centers. You know, if they colluded to do that.

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But mohanlal is the one who marries a woman and divorces her so that she can go back to her first husband. And then mohalla who is the first husband? If if he's the one who asked this man to marry his former wife in order to make her Hello for him, right. But as I said, it could also be the wife like maybe the first husband doesn't know. Maybe it's the wife, who was divorced, who basically asks a man to marry her to make her available for her former husband, when she would become them. Helen law, technically right?

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If a man divorces his wife for the third time, third pronouncement of the law and she's not permissible for him to marry until she has married another man, we already said that this marriage which will make it permissible for her first husband should be a valid genuine marriage.

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Okay, but here, what these people are doing, it's a sham marriage. Some considered this marriage invalid. If stipulated or intended, that he will divorce her to let her re marry her previous husband. So if it's actually if it actually says in the contract, or if they agreed verbally, that,

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you know, well, even if they intended, right from the beginning, that he's only marrying her to divorce her to allow her to re marry her previous husband. Some of the scholars actually considered this to be an invalid marriage, and therefore, Xena, equivalent to Xena.

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But other scholars said, although it's a sin, okay, a major sin. The marriage itself is valid, you know, the actual marriage contract

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is valid. But the stipulation that has been put in that marriage contract is invalid. Right? The stipulation that he's going to divorce her, you can't marry somebody already agreeing that you're going to divorce them. Right?

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And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in various generations, cursed them Hello, and the halal law.

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Here in this narration a man said to me when Omar even Omar Abdullah bin Omar right the sun open where Bill hubub is a great scholar.

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A man said to him, I married a woman and made her permissible for her first husband.

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And he did not tell me to do that. And he did not know.

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So you see, like,

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you know, I hate to put it like this where he was basically trying to be a do gooder, right? He was trying to, he saw this family. In a predicament. He thought I said that he that basically his husband has divorced her three times over the years. And now she probably he could probably tell that she wanted to marry him. re marry her first husband, but she can't. So he thought he do them a favor and marry the woman. But in his mind, he was only doing it to divorce her so that she would be available for her first husband. But he's saying the first husband he didn't know about it.

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And he so he said no. Even Omar said no marriage should be based on genuine intentions. If you like her, then keep her and if you do not like her, then leave her. He said at the time of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we would regard that as Xena. And he said they will still be adulterous even if they remained for 20 years.

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Okay, so if he basically

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so basically this kind of spoils not only the relationship, this current marriage, okay.

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You know, this man is trying to marry her just to make her available for his husband. But it also spoils the marriage after that. Her re marrying her first husband. Because this Jen this marriage in between was not a genuine marriage. So some of the scholars have been very harsh or hard

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I should say against this to the extent where they regarded it as equivalent to Xena.

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Even my generated from Aqua bourbon armor that the Prophet sallallahu even send them said, shall I not tell you of a borrowed billy goat? They said yes messenger of Allah he said, he is ultimo Hello May Allah curse Alma halal And mahalo. Right. So, you know, he says if you're using human beings as commodities, right, this guy, he's just, he's just kind of

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being he's just doing a job.

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You know, making marriage into a type of trade, right? Okay, you just, you know, I'll pay you some money or I'll,

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you know, whatever, do me a favor, married my wife, my former wife, divorced her.

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And you know, then she'll be able to marry me. So it's not genuine. He's just being used that man is just being used. And so marriage is being made a mockery of right.

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So that was the major sin of Alma halal on a high level.

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I haven't really heard of it happening in in, like Britain, maybe I just don't know. But I know that some in some countries actually a type of business, you know, people made a business out of where

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I mean, it's disgusting, really, if you think about it, right? Like, the man a man makes himself available. He's like, I'll marry your former wife, you know, I'll marry your former wife just pay me

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and you know, called consummate the marriage as well. And then you will divorce her. do you a favor

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Subhanallah you can see right from the outset that that's problematic. And

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unfortunately, there is a trend of trying to circumvent Allah's laws by using healers, you know, like tricks like using some kind of trick. And this happens in Islamic transactions as well, financial transactions, right? Where people

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because they know a certain type of transaction is wrong.

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They try to find ways of circumventing the Sharia

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by technically making it okay. Even though the intention

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is just the same, right? The intention is just the same, the intention is not honest.

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So, let's move on to medicine number 36. Before I do that, can you just make clear to me in the chat, whether you understood that,

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and Mahalia long Hallo

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because you know, obviously you like to explain the entire way that all the different types of divorce work would be quite take some time. So I'm I summarized it by explaining that there's a revocable divorce, irrevocable, divorce, irrevocable, there is minor, irrevocable, and then there's major error, this major sin

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connects to the major irrevocable divorce right?

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I hope you understood that. So major sin number 36. This major sin is one that people might think well, what's the big deal? And

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basically, remember that hubby

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in his book it says,

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Adam within so shoe handle bowl any not avoiding urine, okay, urine.

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And then in the book, it says, basically, almost like a bracket, something with which the Christians are prone to. So I didn't put that there is that was in the book.

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And the reason and you actually noticed this about Islamic history that a lot of the, like, Muslims had this

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basically Christians meaning

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Westerners, right, Europeans,

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they had this reputation amongst Muslims. Like even when Napoleon right came to Egypt, and he tried to, or he did conquer Egypt.

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And the French soldiers were there in Egypt. One of the things that they described the French soldiers, the Muslims described the French soldiers as is people who they don't know how to urinate.

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With other, they don't know how to urinate with properly, like good manners, and they're willing to urinate anywhere. And you know, basically they wash themselves after urinating, right. So it's something that historically Muslims have associated with

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Europeans, you know,

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because I think even in India, for example, even non Muslims in India,

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washing oneself is kind of normal, right? Washing oneself and from urine even,

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is, it's kind of a normal thing to do.

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So it's very much associated with the east. And of course, in particular,

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as a Muslim practice.

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And so a lot of have Allah says in the Quran with, yeah, Becca fapa here and your clothing purify. So for a Muslim,

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not only is our do we want to keep our bodies as clean as possible,

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from things that are considered NASA, or major impurities, but also our clothing, right? Everything about a Muslim is supposed to be clean, pure the place you pray, and has to be pure, right and clean.

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And Subhanallah You know, when you read the Hadith that really talks about Nigeria, and what makes things impure and what makes things pure. And the details and the kind of the effort that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam put into clarifying this for people, right?

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You can't underestimate how revolutionary it was for that time, you know, it's a panela, like 1400 years ago, today, look what happens we go into, I mean, even now, you know, governments put so much effort telling people to wash their hands, wash your hands off to go to the toilet, right? Literally, people go to the toilet and just walk out, literally men in the urinals will urinate and walk out, you know, basically. So,

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don't think this is like a basic thing, how come you know? So panela, you know, one of the,

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one of the non Muslims at the time of Sofia and authority, he said to him,

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the sabi he said to him,

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you know, is it true that you're hammered, he teaches you how to go to the toilet, you know, he mocked, he mocked the fact that the profits on the low way were so low, gave us guidance on how to go to the toilet, and how to clean ourselves, etc. And he's, he was very proud. He said, Sorry, knots softly on authority is sentimental fallacy, I believe so man fallacy. And so many fairy said yes. And he told us to wash ourselves like this. So he told us to use this many rocks, and clean ourselves in this way. And he was proud, you know, and he just listed all of the guidance that the prophet SAW Selim gave regarding

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going to the toilet,

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because it's something we should be proud of, not something that we should be embarrassed about. In fact, just think about it like this, that it took our Creator, Allah Subhana Allah to give us revelation and guidance about the most basic thing, which is something that human beings do every day, right? is

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going to the toilet, and click keeping themselves clean. It took a lot to tell us how to do that. And even some of the most advanced countries on this earth have not been able to figure this out, you know, think about it, still haven't figured it out.

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To the point that now, you know, now there are new things happening, you know, when you go to the, you go to the supermarket, you see that they're selling wipes now, right?

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And there's like,

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certain types of washes that you can get.

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it's not the norm. It's not the norm in the West at all right? to basically use water to clean

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apart one's private parts when, after going to the toilet, you know.

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And it takes so much effort for governments even to encourage people to wash their hands.

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So panela

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So, you know, it's one of the blessings of Islam that Allah Subhana Allah through his prophet gave us this hikma gave us this wisdom, right?

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And the reason why it's a major sin is because of mainly because of this Hadith, in which

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The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by two grades and he said

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he said about the people in the graves that they're being punished

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punishment in the grave, but they're not being punished for something that was difficult to avoid it's not something that seems major like something that's so hard

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one of them used to walk around spreading the Mima Amina is basically spreading gossip from one person to another you know he said this about you she said this about you causing causing harm through spreading gossip

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and the other use to not take care to avoid getting urine on himself. panelist shows you how seriously the Sharia takes

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cleanliness especially from urine and avoiding urine on one's body and one's clothing. You mama know what he said about this, the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam use not to protect himself from his urine in the Hadith.

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He says three versions have been rated. One of them says us not to protect himself.

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One of them says he did not avoid the urine. And one says he did not take care to avoid urine. All of the masks are here. And they all mean that he did not take precautions to avoid getting urine on himself.

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And even hedger said it appears as us not to protect himself from his urine. In most of the reports. In a report narrated by even a sock, it says he did not take care to avoid his urine.

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So either it is that

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when the person is urinating, they don't clean themselves properly afterwards, right?

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Or that when they're urinating, the urine splashes back onto them, or comes back on to them or their clothing. And they don't care about that. Right?

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So it's, but as Muslims should be careful from both of those things, right? Careful from both of those things, to clean ourselves properly.

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Okay, after urinating and to avoid urine getting on oneself. And once clothes, and of course, if it does, you

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wash it, you don't just leave it.

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And of course, islamically, it doesn't have to be that you wash with water, you know, I mean, after urinating, it's not necessary to wash with water, even though water is the best, as long as the inner jassa is removed. So using tissues even, you know, as is done in modern times, that is allowed three times, right painting three times. In those times it used to be rocks or other things that they would use

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dry things, you know,

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the point is to cleanse the urine away. Okay. And if it's on clothing, then of course, it has to be water.

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But one should avoid getting on the clothes in the first place. Right? So urinating in such a way that it's not there doesn't get in the on the clothes in the first place.

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So I think, you know, just thinking about that, it makes you think, doesn't it that Subhanallah some of these major sins

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are things that we should really

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teach our kids from a young age, you know, they they're the kind of habits aren't they? So things like urinating, not allowing you to get on to oneself, that's something we should be really instilling in our kids, right?

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And that happens from a young age, you have to teach them, you have to show them how to cleanse themselves, clean the bathroom after themselves.

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What happens if there's an accident, how they should fix that, right? sitting down and urinating all of these kind of adab help a person to be able to,

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you know, just be habituated to being clean, and avoiding urine for example.

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And one thing that I would like you to do sisters is

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when you're thinking about these major sins,

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always think what is the underlying

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cause crime in a way is the underlying thing that

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Allah hates or dislikes that he is trying to get us to avoid.

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You know,

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in each of the senses there's the technical kind of be the actual manifestation of the sin but there's also something deeper inside you know, you'll notice that okay so for example this the not avoiding urine, there's just the idea of cleanliness right?

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And not not taking dirt and no just lightly

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with the mohanlal and hula hoop is this idea of

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circumventing the Sharia trying to find ways of tricking, almost like tricking Allah right, trying to trick Allah or tricking the Sharia. Right? So there's that kind of underlying

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intention, or that crime, you know, that Allah is trying is rooting out from us for and from our societies.

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Here, this is the 37th major sin. And we've already talked about this, haven't we, at the beginning when we covered the first major senator's ship.

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it is one of the major sins that comes as sin number 37.

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So what we said at the beginning was that the shark,

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major shark,

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is something that Allah, Allah doesn't forgive unless a person

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repents from it, and doesn't return to it right?

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repents from it, and dies, having repented on it, from it, if a person dies in a state of having committed sherek and being a mushrik, then Allah, Allah does not forgive that.

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But this

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area is known as hidden shrimp, right or minus shark. And it is basically a major sin.

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If Allah wants to forgive a person, he will forgive them. If he doesn't, he won't. But again, just like all of the major sins, we are expected if we ever fall into them, to seek a loss forgiveness, right? And to make amends and to go through the steps of repentance as we mentioned them previously. So Allah Subhana, Allah says,

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the hypocrites will report

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they try to deceive Allah.

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But it is he who causes them to be deceived. When they stand up to prayer they do so sluggishly showing off in front of people, right? You are our own. That's what you're right one means right Ria. They just do it to show other people. And they remember Allah.

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Only a little,

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huh? So in reality, they don't think about Allah. They don't care about Allah. They just because they have to, like save face. They have to show that they're Muslims. They stand in prayer, pretending to be people of prayer, but they're not really. We and they, in reality, they're standing in a sluggish, lazy state.

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Okay, so here las panatela condemns.

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Ria, just to show people, you're just doing it to show people not for Allah.

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And Allah says, until it's my own, for way too little more saline and levena home Ancelotti, Hamza horn levena Homura. When

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he says,

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So woe to those who pray. And then it goes on those who, those who pray who basically are heedless of their prayers, they neglect their prayers from their times, for example, or not praying all of their prayers or you know, not paying on time.

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This should save those not hoes should say those

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alladhina whom you're on those who do good in order to be seen. They just do things do good deeds, just to be seen by other people. Right? Not out of sincerity not for Allah only because it's in front of people. And, and Allah says, Yeah, are you Hi Latina, Armando la Toby louzada particle. Bill money will ever kalevi human fetal mela huri a nurse What do you mean we'll be lucky will your Melaka oh you believe do not cancel out your Southern article, your your your charitable deeds, with reminders in hurtful words. You know, by telling people I remember when I did that for you, and saying any kind of harming the person you just gave something to them. And now you're doing

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something hurtful or harmful. Like someone who spends his wealth Oh,

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To be seen by people like that shows a lack of sincerity doesn't it when you give or you do someone a favor and then you keep telling reminding them that you did them a favor, or that then you harm them in some way.

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You do something hurtful towards them.

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Ally sayings don't do that because it's like somebody who, who's spending his wealth only to be seen by people and he doesn't really believe in a lot in the last day.

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Again, this idea of Ria here you can see Allah says, Ken Levine for kumala who Rhea Rhea Rhea a nurse, right? He does it over

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here, Allah Subhana Allah says, So whoever would hope for the meeting with his Lord,

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the day of judgment, let him do righteous deeds and not associate in the worship of his Lord anyone. Don't do share with Allah. And any.

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When a person is doing a good deed, and they're thinking about impressing somebody else,

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then it's a type of ship meaning it's a minor, it's minor ship, right? It's, it's like you're not you don't have a floss, you're not really only singling Allah subhanaw taala out

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in terms of your intention, right? So it's very subtle, sometimes and very dangerous. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said whoever does an action in which he associate someone else, that Allah said, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah said, Whoever does an action, in which he associates someone else with me. It is for the one whom he associates and has nothing to do with me.

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And in this Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to abubaker aboubaker, there is shared among you more hidden than the crawling of an ant. And abubaker said, is their ship other than to make another god alongside Allah?

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, by one in his hand is my soul, there is sure more hidden than the calling of an ant. Shall I not tell you something?

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Shall I not tell you something to say to read you have it both minor and major, say Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You that I associate partners with you? Well, I know and I seek your forgiveness for that, which I do not know.

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And remember we looked at this the same guy that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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he taught because staying away from react can be very difficult because

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it's so subtle, you know a person starts off doing something with good intentions or thinks I'm going to do this for good intentions, but then notices that other people are watching so he does it a bit better. We, you know, does a bit more gives a bit more or does it so that people will say good things about him or her right?

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So the DA is Allahumma, India all the beaker and oshri kabaka what an alum was stellar firaga, Lima Allah Allah, Allah seek refuge review, lest I should commit shirk with you knowingly, and I seek your forgiveness for what I do, unknowingly. So in other words, you're covering all bases. You're saying to allow the things I know that I'm doing Forgive me for those or, you know, prevent me from doing those. And the things that I don't know. I'm doing it without even realizing, forgive me for those right?

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To protect me from doing * knowingly, and forgive me from shark that I do unknowingly.

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And again, this is the minor ship right?

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And this is a transliteration for those cannot read Arabic. Maybe you can take a screenshot of that.

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And remember, we said we were talking about how to avoid react, so worth revisiting that how to avoid react.

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First of all, make the dog that was recommended by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Don't stop doing good deeds for fear of Rhea

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So, you know, sometimes children come to you and say,

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Oh, you know, that wonderful thing you want to do that good deed, that wonderful project or that wonderful, good deed. You're even like, I've heard sister say, you know, I want to do a job for the right intentions, right? I think I'm only wearing hijab. Because for cultural reasons or for, for the community, right? And I want to do it for the right intention. So I'll take it off. They said, I'll take it off. Because I don't have the right intentions.

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That's not the right response. You know, that's not what we're how we're supposed to respond. That is a trick of shavon. shavon is always trying to make us doubt our intentions. He's always trying to make you doubt your intention, especially when you're somebody who's trying to do good. You know, he's telling you in your ear, you're a fake, you're a failure. You're, you're, you know, an imposter.

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Who are you?

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Look at you, you don't even do this deed. So why are you trying to do that deed? All of these, this talk that you probably have in your head, right?

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Correct me if I'm wrong, you have these voices in your head, right? They tell you these things?

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Who are you to want to do that good deed. You know?

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You think you're so pious, this, that and the other right? shaitaan puts those voices in our heads to to stop us from doing good. So that's a trick of shape on anything that's stopping you from doing good, right?

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You know, unless there's a good reason for it, like in unless it's another good thing that's stopping you from doing good, then

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you need to ask, you know, why? What's happening? Is this a trick of showdown.

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So we don't stop doing good deeds, because we fear VR.

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We continue doing those good deeds, but we keep working on our intentions, and keep trying to fix our intentions, every step.

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And sometimes, by continuing to do good deeds,

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our intentions get corrected, because, you know, we genuinely become pious people, right? So keep doing the good deeds. In fact, do them even better now that you're aware that you might have some kind of sense of wanting to show off.

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Do that deed even better than you are going to do it and fix your intention? Do it for Allah have a lot in your mind, don't expect anything in return for that thing, except from Allah. You know, sometimes we do favors for our family, we do. And we sometimes think, well, they never do anything for me, that voice comes, you know, that person doesn't really do anything for me or that person, I'm always doing.

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Know that again. You know, if you're doing it for Allah, you don't need anything in return. Allah is going to give you the thing in return. You don't need some that person to give you anything in return.

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Because if you want that, then you're basically doing it.

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For them, to give you something back for them to acknowledge you for them to give you love, whatever it is right? Now do it, whether they give you love or not do it, whether they acknowledge you or not, a lot will acknowledge you.

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And another way to combat urrea is to increase in good deeds in private.

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Increase your good deeds in private.

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You know, because then nobody can see you. You're training yourself to be able to serve Allah without other human beings watching or knowing about it.

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That's a floss right?

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Be mindful of staying constant in public and private, don't be too faced. Where in public You're so good about things but in private you have, you know, you're, you're mean and horrible to your family, for example. In public, you're pious and you pray very beautifully. In private, you're rushing

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and you don't care.

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in public, you are willing to pray in good clothing, and be decent in private. You don't care when you're standing in front of Allah, what you look like.

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Of course, like in private, you're gonna have a certain level of relaxed you know, attire, right? You're not gonna it's not gonna be like when you're outside, but still, are you making sure that it's clean? You know, I've seen some brothers Mashallah even when they're praying at home,

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my husband like this, actually, Allah reward him.

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that they'll apply perfume.

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You know,

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Even when they're praying at home, they'll apply perfume they'll, you know, make themselves decent look and feel good when they're about to stand in front of a lion Salah not just for Juma not just for the masjid.

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That's the type of class right? You're, you're actually aware that you're about to stand in front of Allah, you apply perfume,

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you take care.

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And lastly, trying to hide our good deeds, like we hide our sins. You know, there might be times when our good deeds,

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you know, come out in public, or

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we might use them as a way to encourage us.

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But don't let that be everything. You know, don't have that be all of your deeds. We living in a time when people even when they're giving Southern car to a homeless person, they feel like they have to film it. Right? You have to film it and show everyone how good you are.

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Even when they're doing that work, every moment of doubt what they're doing, they have to film it.

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You know,

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some of the best days and the best people in the world are people we probably never heard of.

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You know, they're just doing the work without, without anyone watching without anyone acknowledging them except Allah.

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So try to hide our good deeds like rehat hide our sins is another way to

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is another way to attain if loss and stay away from reo

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and the 38th major sin we're finishing up now.

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If you have any questions, you can put them in the chat.

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The 13th major sin is

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basically like being a scholar and teaching

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for the sake of this world, for some worldly gain,

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and hiding knowledge, hiding knowledge.

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inshallah, we'll cover that next time. I'm just going to look at the chat if you've got any.

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So we've got people joining from London from Ilford in London.

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Oh, just a second lesson.

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Germany, Mashallah.

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Okay, so sister is asking, does wearing the niqab or black color?

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So, you know, sisters, sisters, they were in a club, or were black, in particular? Because their husband wants them to? Right? I think that's what you're saying. Does that fall into the category of Ria?

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No, it doesn't, because

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as women as wives, obedience to the husband is

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something that Allah Subhana Allah told us to do, right? being your husband pleasing your husband, these are things that allow us to do it's like pleasing your parents, right? being your parents pleasing your parents, if your parents tell you to do something, and you do it, does that mean you're not? Does that mean that's free? Oh, no. No, it means that you're doing something that a lot to please a lot, right? Because Allah told you to obey them. Allah told you to please them. Similarly, with the husband, you know, if your husband like, I'm in that situation myself, you know that my, my husband, you would like me to

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wear niqab

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when I'm on camera, right? I don't necessarily do it on an everyday basis.

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But he, his conditional he, you know, his preference is that when I'm doing things in public like this, that I when we're covering my face, right? So does that mean me obeying him or me respecting his wishes? Is Rhea? No,

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I'm doing it. Because a lot kind of that Allah told us to respect our husbands wishes and to be our husbands, right?

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So that's obedience to Allah ultimately.

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And if I didn't care about what Allah has said about the husband, then I wouldn't do it. Right? So if you didn't care, then you wouldn't do it. But it's because you care about a lot of Canada Ireland is

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holding the husband in high regard and

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Asking the wife to hold her husband's wishes in high regard to that you are that you would do that, right?

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hope that makes sense. And I think last time we were talking about

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the youth, the man who doesn't care about the way his wife appears in public, or some people translated as man who doesn't care if his women folk are promiscuous.

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We said that,

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you know,

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if there's a requirement that her husband is asking his wife to have,

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like, you're saying, like the color black, right? Um,

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and the wife doesn't want that.

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She can negotiate with her husband, she can try to negotiate with the husband, you know?

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Because I know that some people think that Black has some kind of significance. But personally, I don't think there's any evidence for that.

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You know, I don't think that the women at the time of the profits or loss alone, have the luxury of being able to decide what color

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they would wear, you know,

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it's not like black cloth was

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was available,

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was highly available compared to other types of cloth. Right. And in many ways, the black color thing is

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basically, Saudi culture, you know, this basically Saudi culture or Gulf, Gulf culture.

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That's not to say, I'm not, I'm not trying to encourage you to, like rebel against what your husband wants. I'm just trying to give you the any my view in terms of

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where, why I don't believe black is significant, right? Or that it's been,

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in some people's mind, it's been made to be more significant than it really is. Right?

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Because when you look historically, like I said, the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they didn't have the luxury to choose the color of their cloth.

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You know, they would have one they would have covered with cloth, whatever cloth was available.

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And there's no evidence to say that it was black, except for some inferences that some scholars make.

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And probably because it's the,

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the culture of the Gulf, right?

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Anyway, I'm gonna end the session there.

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Yet, so my last comment on that is, you know, if you do something for to please your husband, you know, he might like you to wear a particular type of dress, particular particular color of dress, even at home, for example. You do that, to please your husband, you get rewarded for that, because you're doing it. Allah told us to care about the views of our husband to please the husband, etc. Right.

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Okay, one more question. What about patent or bias? Does this fall into the beverage?

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I would say that, look, I think these things are cultural, you know. So, there's certain, you could say, repetitive patterns. Like check, you know, when you have material that's check checked, is it checked or check

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That's not really considered

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ostentatious, is it? Right? It's not like an ostentatious pattern. It's just, you know,

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something designed in the cloth, right?

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There's a difference between that and having flowers and embroidery. Right? Having

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jewels, even that, that we have nowadays, right on our buyers.

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All of that could be considered a type of Zina or beautification.

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And that's what would make it problematic, you know, you're turning the jilbab itself, the outer garment itself into a beautification, when actually it's supposed to cover the beauty vacations, right, supposed to cover your beautiful clips. So

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yeah, I think, you know, you have to use your judgment on that.

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When something is patterned to such an extent that it's ostentatious, it's considered a beautification. It's, like I said, flowers and patterns and like,

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more than patterns jewels, then we can see that it becomes problematic, right? So the best thing is to have

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Something that is not seen as shown showing off something that is considered

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dimeo you could say, right? And,

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again, you know, different cultures are different. Some people, they prefer pastel colors. Some people prefer darker colors, right?

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I don't think the Sharia dictates to people the color.

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But I think it's for us to judge that certain things become very highly dazzling and attractive and draw attention. Right. And the whole point is not to draw attention.

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I hope that kind of answers that question. Okay. So again, it's quite subjective in some regard.

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But good to err on the side of caution, right. If you're, if you feel doubt about something,

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avoid it. Choose the thing that doesn't give you doubt.

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And especially avoid things that have jewels and you know, very blatant beautification and, you know, trying to make the jilbab into a

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beautiful garment in and of itself,

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avoid those things in Sharla just from LA Ferran.

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Just one more question. And I'll end with that.

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jeans. Okay, so

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I think when girls are young, you know, let them wear jeans, let them wear loose jeans, for example, as well when they get slightly older, but when obviously when they reach the age of puberty, or even before that you want to start getting them used to the idea of

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covering their, you know, that the normal clothing,

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right? So, just let them wear jeans in house, create situations and opportunities where they have women only bills only cetera, or only with my hands where they can just relax and wear jeans. But just show them that there's that line, you know, between there is a difference between being with women only and

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being outside.

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Just make that clear and inshallah with love with firm kind of

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guidance and explaining things nicely to them. In sha Allah, you can hopefully

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show them that

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Islam doesn't stop you from doing from wearing these types of clothing, you know, it's just that

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there's a time and a place for different things right?

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Does that mean all fair?

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I'm gonna end it there. subhanak Allah home I'll be handig

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eyeshadow Illa Illa illa Anta interest of Furukawa to be like,

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desert como la Ferran salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.