Al Adab Al Mufrad – EP04

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Al Adab Al Mufrad – Episode 04

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Kuba Tula Masaki wa sallahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ijma in. Well that's in the previous session we covered the majority of the first Hadith that

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Buhari rhodiola Juan narrates, were on the authority of

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of the lab and mess that he sets out to interview Salalah Selim that I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I'm really humbled Allah which action is most beloved to Allah and his ally Salim said a solid to Allah waka Kota, Suma a call assume role while he then called to Soma, a Cozumel, Jihad roofie Seville de la, all had destiny behind while I was at the hula as identity. So the purpose of life Selim responded, he said that the prayer point is right time. And then

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he said, and then what, then it is to be good to the parents and then what, and then is jihad in the way of Allah. And then of the live and Mr. Rude he finished off saying that, and if I had asked him for more, he would have told me more. And so we when we went into the, the importance of salon, the order ended the discussion about the importance of parents and and so on. And hopefully, that has been covered. But there's also some some more benefits to take from this headache, especially this this last statement. Okay, that if I was to,

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you know, he told me about these in head death and Eb hin, okay, he told me about these things. But if I'd asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more. And other narrations that this, this hadith comes in, for example, in the ration of young Muslim, he said, I didn't ask any more out of regard for him so as to not make him weary. Okay, I didn't want to put a pressure upon him, I didn't want to make him tired. I didn't want to stress him out. I this is this is a an understanding that we can get from this habit in many different IDs, and actually establishes for us a principle. And not only does it establish a principle but establishes for us a benefit that Islam, although it has

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rules and it has added and so on, but it is one social context and culture, which starts to make up the meat that meets of one's actions and how one interacts. Now, the Sahaba here, were able to recognize we're able to recognize the prophets allies.

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And the fact that he himself is more eager than anyone else. He is a Dyer, he is a caller to Allah, He is ahead He is the one who guides it his main role in life to guide us. And so it is his responsibility to tell us more and tell us more. But the companions knew that they you know, that sometimes you have to wait for other for better things. And sometimes you have to be easy upon the one who's teaching you and so, we can take some some benefits, even hedger rajala. And he mentioned from justice this this is the statement, he said that one should be easy and gentle of the scholars, and this is something which is very important. And therefore the teachers, our teachers are

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sometimes in this information age where we're so used to just you know, pressing

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The button and click, we have the answer. It started developer mentality, right? Everything's about speed and availability at the fingertips, right. And so if you can't go find it in the book, then we've now gone from, you know, trying to find a book, you can't find it, then the age of phones came. And so you'd bring someone and then he would tell you out the knowledge. And then you know, we've gone past that now we've come to the internet, where we had 56 kbps, and you'd spend, you know, 510 15 minutes trying to find your, your reference or whatever. And then came broadband. Okay, so then it happened very quickly. And then we got bored of board brand. And so then it went to one

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megabyte and two megabytes, now it's eight megabytes, and it's going to be 100 megabytes, and so on. And then we was, we wanted even quicker, so we weren't interested in waiting until we got home. So then we decided to develop wireless networks. And then from wireless networks, now we have our own phones and PDA, which immediately give us access anywhere. Now we have hotspots. So anywhere we go at any time, we want information, we'll get it straight away. And there's no doubt that this kind of mentality, this kind of social context, or this, this society that's developing around us, molds the mind, okay. And one of the biggest problems is that it starts to decrease our qualities of patience,

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okay, as very important to understand, we are very impatient people. I mean, I look at myself, and I know that I am so impatient, I get angry so quickly. And I honestly blame the society around me for causing such so much of that. And yet at the same time, it has its blame, but then my blame itself is my blame myself is that I have not understood correctly, the way that knowledge was sold. I mean, look at this, look at the labor and misery here he is sitting, he has an opportunity to be given gems Paul's, the, you know, to be told by the purpose of lifestyle, and what are the greatest actions? What are the, you know, what's the best way to please Allah subhanaw taala. And the

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personalized lm is telling him, this, and then this, and then this, but he knows that, you know, the teaching here, he's never going to out of, out of embarrassment, almost, he's not going to say that's enough, because it teaches this don't do that. They don't want to be seen as saying, that's enough. For now, you know, two or three today doesn't know. So it's the scale of the one who's listening and the student to appreciate and stuff and, you know, work out, uses intuition, that, that that's enough for today and be easy

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upon the teacher. And also this this pot also emphasizes the great love and concern that the Sahaba had for the purpose of life and limb. You know, the, the greatest miracle we were in a presentation upon the professor lies and I said we don't need to worry about certain facts in history and and and, you know, miracles, whatever. His greatest proof of his status was just the immense love that his companions had for him. I love which is impossible to find a love which, you know, even when you pay for it, you can't find

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you can't you can't find people who are more committed. So you know, if you look at the bodyguards and the personal servants of the of the big people in society today, you'll find that they're only there because it's their job, it's their role they're getting paid for it again looked after by the company or by their their master. But when you look at the purpose in life SLM, he not only didn't didn't offer any material benefit to these people, but in actual fact, following him, and loving him entailed you taking a material decrease a decrease in your material benefits, and being punished and being hurt and being killed even. And so we see that the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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really the love and the connection, there was something which is very difficult in our context today to understand especially when we're so critical of relationships. And inshallah that leads us to the second narration which has been collected by abominable Heidi rhodiola one, where he says, In the the Hadees, which is narrated on the authority of the lab Under Armour, and it's not a hadith per se, actually, this is an author, an author and other means a narration from a companion. Okay. And I'm going live and Mr. Raja Mohan said Raja Raja rub Fie radar, while it was so hot to rob physical world, okay. That's the pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parents. And the anger of

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the LORD lies in the anger of the parent.

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And this narration as an other, okay, it's Senate, its chain of narrators to have the live Under Armour is at the level of hesson. I it's fair, it's acceptable to be used in terms of, you know, it has a labor of authenticity, yet this narration, okay with a different chain. A different Senate is actually authentic as a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. So that's why I say that's why we say it is hesson Mobile, that can it's a hadith

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Murphy's Law, but when we raise it to the Prophet, some light a lamp is actually sat here, the professor Lyceum himself mentioned this hadith. First of all, in this narration, who is Abdullah bin Omar Abdullah bin Ahmed actually is one of the greatest companions of the Prophet sallallaahu. Selim, and for us is very relevant, very relevant. Why? Because his narrations and his experience and his statements show a vast a wealth of of activities and a wealth of things that he was able to bear witness to. Why because when he accepted Islam, not only is it obvious the fact that his father was one of the greatest figures that this world has ever seen. Okay, forget about just amongst

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Islam. I remember going hakab Raja lavon I mean, you know, I want me to tell you about Mr. Edwin hottub. And he's just is a giant, okay. And this is the son of a believer and the purpose of life seldom said that's available in our soil, I have no soil, it is the righteous, the righteous son of the righteous, okay. And he was very young when he accepted Islam, it said that he was only 10 years old. And he made hatred for Mecca, with his father and his sister, who as you know, became the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam afterwards. And he became famous amongst the community at a young age, because even at the age of 13, when it was the time of the Battle of ahead, and he

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wanted to go ahead and fight in that and defend the Muslims. And he was sent back by the purpose of life seldom because he was too young. But when he returned a couple of years later, at the age of 15, he was allowed to participate in the Battle of 100. And, you know, of the lower number Not only is he now able then to share his experience with the Tabby in at bats have been all of his students and his own servants as well. His servants, okay, became some of the greatest narrators in Hadeeth literature, okay, his servants, his family, his his students, it's so it's just the legacy of Obama and Obama. And then of course, you have to link it back to Amr is fascinating. Because such an age

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range so many years, 70 odd years, 80 odd years. 73 years of that in Islam, right? He has that experience to give to us. But not only is it relevant to our time as Muslims anyway, but today when we live in so much fitten Okay, so much strife and problems, especially due to the political type, and especially because it's between Muslims. If you look at our our difficulties today, and our lack of unity, is often because of disagreements and problems between Muslims and ideas and so on. And I'm gonna live Under Armour, he lived through all of that he lived through the most difficult times in our history, he lived through the killing of earthman. And he lived between he lived he lived

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during the the the the caliphate of Ali rajala. Han, and then of more out of the line, and he saw things that, you know, really does deaden the hearts and minds in terms of, of how difficult it was. And that's why we looked at him and as you know, of the lion, abass, regular and Houma, Yanni for their history, for their experience, and for the generations to give us some kind of idea, you know, of what is the right way to approach situations of fitting. And invariably, you'll find that the general principle was that they stayed away from fitna they stayed away from causing and stoking further strife, always trying to maintain unity, always telling the people to try and stick to the

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drama to follow the leader to stick to the command of those who are in control, especially when one realizes that trying to go against them is causing bloodshed and fitna, you could see that their, their their their desire to have no power and political office was very, very clear. And the people such as Omar Abdullah bin Abbas, so many times it was offered to them, you know, this will be sorted. If you take control. If you take the power, we can get you the power, we will fight for you. They said no, no, we don't want the power. We don't want this fit in. And there's a great lesson for us in that. So not only is of the linemen are more famous for the fact that he has so much political

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experience, but he had experienced on the battlefield. He was young, he had Abbott's his, his his level of worship is very, not only is very high, but very difficult to match from the other Sahaba due to his positions and the family legacy that he has, for example, how many people that you can you can find amongst us a habit that were that were known to freed over 1000 slaves 1000 slaves he had by himself freed his own and other people's paying them off and continuously acts of sadaqa. And and and and a Buddha really can't count. You can't count you can't give up the labor number justice in one hour, forgets about a few minutes. Mr. Malik said that he gave fatwa, Yanni he guided the

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people giving photo for over 60 years 60 years telling the pupil what was the

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The you know the the the principles and the essentials of the religion and he died Roger Lohan in the year 7300. Now, this Hadith,

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or narration and it's permissible to correlate to how do you say only when we say it's the hadith of Ivanova, and we understand that is not a Hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu Selim. That's why when you and terminology woman can call it the number or the author of a number more accurately. The great benefit of this statement is that we realize that Allah subhanaw taala has shown us a very easy way, a very simple way of how to please Him, and likewise, made it very clear how to displease him. It's quite simple. Keep your father happy. And then Allah subhanaw taala will be happy, but upset your father, then Allah subhanaw taala will be displeased as well. And it's really you think

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about it. It's that simple. And we have other narrations, authentic narrations, that the the word while it which in Arabic refers to father can mean parent why because a wily Dane has been used in another narration. Okay, so the pleasure of your Lord is in the pleasure of Allah, Allah Dane of your children, so therefore, it's not just meaning just the Father. But the parent. For example, if the mother is alone, you have no father, or, for example, if you have both parents alive, then the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala is to be found by keeping your parents happy. So that's, first of all, the most important thing not only is that a great way for us to understand how to improve in

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our Islam and our agenda in an era in our a vida. But also, if you see, now the status of the parents are lost parents, Allah compares His pleasure to the pleasure of the parents. So you need to give that kind of peschiera that kind of recommendation to the parents is a great thing, it shows that the parents themselves must be of a certain level. Now, obviously, what are the limits of, of keeping your parents happy, and so on, because we know that the parents and we'll come, there's so many ideas that will come later on that will start to specify and restrict the actions that we do to keep our parents happy. But we know for example, that that there are 11, I would say that to keep

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them happy means that in the to do and to leave those things which are permissible, and those things which are recommended. And even the communal obligations such as the fruit califia, okay, to do or leave what is to do or leave mean, it means that, for example, if someone is telling you to move from one place to another, okay, so you say you're sitting in one in one spot, and you're and there's another spots available in the room, okay, to move from one place to the other, right is not a recommended action, okay? When you divide the actions into the five obligation, or recommended or permissible or hated or haram, okay, this is the five categories of actions in a basic sense. So to

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move from one position to another position, is it comes into the category of something permissible, the actions, okay, so here, they would say that when the mother wants you to get up and go to another place, you just do that, okay? And she, if she wants you to do that, and she's happy with you doing that, then this means that in the mobile health, you obey her also in the mandovi actions, okay, those acts which are recommended for you to do right, then likewise, you will, you will obey her anyway. But the real effect comes in it that what's about leaving a man of action to obey her such as, for example, praying the Doha prayer, right? At home, it's about eight, nine o'clock in the

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morning, and you got a moment to pray that to at least have the helper and the mother says, No, no, I want you to come with me. That's a manual action. But the mother's pleasure or the father's pleasure overrides that. Okay. even to the extent that of the 45. And the 45 is a communal obligation, such as an offensive jihad, when the state is secure, and they want to go out and fight jihad, you still have to go and take permission from your, from your parents. And hence, taking permission means that if the parents aren't happy with it, then you have to step back. But if they are happy with something, then you go with that. So there's a great benefit in us in this in this

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narration, not only showing us how important the parents are, but how easy it is to understand how to please Allah subhanaw taala And likewise, how to anchor him and there's also a very important point of aqidah in his Hadees, because Allah subhanaw taala has described himself and you know, parts of the Akita of as soon as you will jamaa is that we do not attribute to Allah subhanaw taala anything from ourselves, we only describe him as the origin with what he himself describes himself and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam describes him and this is the position of Arizona and it is a very important because the last part of delivering armor and as we know the purpose of life,

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Salem has said that the pleasure of Allah is in the obeying and the pleasure of the parents, but the anger the sahabat

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Which is like Radha, which is the anger of Allah is likewise in angering the parents. So Allah, Allah has been described with a lot of anger and pleasure, okay? Any his his his happiness almost Okay, his satisfaction, his pleasure with something. Now these characteristics in the early times of Islamic history, when the sects started to develop in Islam and Islam started to split up into groups and so on, many of these groups did so based upon the understanding of these attributes and the names and these actually the issues. All right. And this is very important for those who try to safeguard the athlete of Arizona today, because these sets have continued until today, understanding

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the attributes in a way that they understood it to be, and this flows and you and we can see, for example, the jamea, okay, a movement that was started by jamming stuff, one. Now, this is a movement that we're that we're concerned, all right. And often these groups and these movements, they start off with people who are sincere in general about trying to preserve the aqidah, okay, or trying to protect there is of Allah subhanaw taala. So this group, led by this by led by this person, to have it been stuff one,

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they, they almost try to propagate the idea. And when I say tried to propagate the idea, I mean, there was a time of stability in the Islamic thoughts when the seller, and the seller referred refers to the Sahaba, and those who followed them, the Tabby, and then those who followed them, the advance have been the first two 300 years effect only says 200 years was pretty solid and safe and stable word at the time of the Imams and the development of the key principles of Islamic fecund al Qaeda. But then, when Islam starts to spread out, and the board has started to increase, and the different indigenous people started to be introduced, and so on, and come in, we find that the

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introduction of such things such as Greek philosophy, and ideas of rationale and logic, once that started to take place and take shape in the minds of the Muslims, we found that they not only in their attempt to try and refute that and protect the aqeedah. But at the same time, they took on some of these ideas, it you know, obviously colored their mind, just like today, just like Islam today, it is very much colored by our exposure to the society and the people and the academics and the scientific mind. And that's why sometimes when we look at the Quran and turn into our Eman is weak, that we start to have these doubts about when we look at something, it seems to be

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scientifically non true. And that's because we've been brought up in that kind of environment. So it obviously affects and so one of the the effects that happened to the people like Jim in step one and the Jeremy a group is that they said that hold on, if you're going to say that Allah, Allah has anger, then you're trying to say that Allah subhanaw taala is like some someone or something that has attributes that he has, that he is more accurate, that he is composed of a self, self and, and a body. And therefore if you're going to say that, then you're going to attribute that to him. And you can't do that, because that's making you are being an anthropomorphic you are trying to give a body

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to Allah, you're trying to humanize him. This was their, their kind of rationale. And it was a very deviant way of thinking, a great intention, maybe, but it was something which only the the, the people of Russia and deviance actually started to propagate, because there was no need for that to happen. What's the basis for this? By the way? Allah Subhana Allah says, Lisa community he shaped well who was semiotica See, there is nothing unto unto like him, you there can be nothing that can be compared to Allah. But he is a Samir Albacete, he is the old herring. He is the old seeing, okay, and so people trying to protect this, this principle, trying to maintain a lost pounds Island is

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purity. You would you know, be worried if someone is saying that Allah gets angry. Hold on, are you trying to say this, Allah is trying to get angry, like we get angry? Are you trying to say that Daniel was pathetic is happy, like, we got happy, you're humanizing him. You're making the mistake that the Christians that you're doing this, you see this kind of thought. And so with this, what did they do? They said, You can't do that. And so they denied the attributes, they denied the attributes totally. And so they said Allah, you cannot say that about anger. And you can't say that about happiness. So therefore, they would deny the narration. And this is the sooner Of course, this is

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the sooner Of course authenticated from the professor last element. So they would say this hadith is unacceptable. It goes against the principles of of al Qaeda. Okay. And then other groups did something similar such as the more I tried to say that the rationalists Okay, they will do something very similar. They would look and compare the ideas that are being propagated or even only told to them in Hades and they would think about it. They would Jani your condiment up Carla knuckle. The uncle would come before the knuckle they would use their intellect before the text

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They look at the text and they say I was positive get angry, how can that be? Anger is something which is so

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imperfect, so limited, you know, and and so therefore they would say that that can't be the case. And so they, some of them would deny. And some of them would make that wheel that we used to reinterpret it and say, actually, his anger is not like this, actually, it's his intention to become angry, and not the actual real anger itself. And it starts to get really mixed up with playing around with the ciphers, the attributes of Allah subhanaw taala. And this was also then propagated by the, the the ash era, who then also such as to make that we'll have certain attributes, and then some of them start to make tough, really tough, which is to say that actually, this has no meaning

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to who it means to relegate something. So they would relegate the mean to Allah, they say that the purpose of life for them that he says that he has anger, he has a heart, then only God knows what that means. Literally, we have no idea what that means. We cannot understand what soft means because how are you able to interpret anger? How do you understand anger? In relation to God, this journey, let's not deny it, okay? it you know, there were a lot there were a lot closer to it sooner, they'd say no, we can't deny it. Because it's there in the heady through authenticated the headies. This definitely a statement of the purpose of life and limb. But we don't understand that, you know, and

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let's leave the meaning to Allah. So therefore, what's the problem with that they're making the anger, like the same as mercy like the same as love, like the same as his punishment, they're not giving it a meaning. That is saying, it has no meaning we cannot possibly think of anything. So then as soon as I said, so as opposed the point of Allah subhanaw taala, then describing himself in this way, why then did the purpose of life then compare the anger and say that the anger of your Lord is in the angle of the premise there has to be a meaning to it. And so the now you can come closer to an as soon as position and as soon as I say to the rest of these sets, and they said from the

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beginning, and they say it now, let's stick to the way the Sahaba don't put your head between a rock and a hard place for nothing why quizzing yourself such such problems for but look, the professor Lyceum said this, and let's just accept it. You know what that means? I know what that means. You know what socket means? I know what socket means. Let's not go into it and try to understand the kefir and the exact nature of that we understand what anger is, but we are not able to appreciate the exact nature of Allah's anger, but we know that he has anger and we know that he is pleased, and we know and then and this continues, this is just the two characteristics from this Hadees we know

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that he is astonished as the professor Lysa Lim explained some studies and we know that sometimes he acts out on shyness. Now we can't understand this shyness compared to our understanding of shyness, Lacey committee, he she was Samuel L Garcia, there is nothing untrue like him. And he is a semi as bossier. So you have to remember this, this principle overriding the understanding rather sooner, we don't want to apply our understanding our imperfection of the ideas of anger and attributes upon Allah subhanho wa Taala. You can see that the ashara they were saying, they were saying, for example, hold on, how can you attribute the principles of anger and what is anger, anger is rage and

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your blood starts to boil and so on, so on, how can you say that Allah is Allah, his blood boils and so on and so on. And as soon as said, Why are you attributing our

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understanding of the consequences of anger to Allah, this is a logical and has no basis and there's no need for you to do that. Because we are

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the shadow told they are effectively putting their understanding of the consequences of human anger upon Allah subhanaw taala. So you can see I you can alternatively this, the area of Akita is very delicate, very sensitive. And that's why I asuna followed a very, very beautiful way, a very safe way. They said that the way of al Qaeda should be the way of the setup, ie the way of the Sahaba and that have been at bats have been who didn't delve into the kaypea. We didn't delve into the exact workings of these are smells different these names of Allah and His attributes, but rather they affirm them, we affirm them, if the purpose of life and limb says that Allah, Allah is like this,

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then we say Alhamdulillah we accept it like that. And the last pastor describes himself like so in the Quran and then that is the way of the world Juma Gemma

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and which leads us then on inshallah, on to the third Hadith. And the it's a new chapter, the second chapter, Babu bedroom, Chapter Two being good to one's mother.

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And this hadith is narrated on the authority of the grandfather of bears even hekima and by has been Hakeem and Avi Andrea de radi. Allahu anhu country rasulillah men abajo

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Call a

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call to man our call omak. Consumer, our

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consumer our call back, someone a crab, fell a crab

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and this Hadeeth that has been narrated also by me, Timothy, Roger lavon is something which is his integration which is, has been

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unacceptable. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam off the bat has been hacking, his grandfather approached him and said to him, I asked the Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be beautiful? And he said, your mother? And he replied, he replied, I asked them, then whom you said your mother.

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I asked, then whom? Your mother he replied. I asked them to whom should I be beautiful? He said, your father, and then the next closest relative, and then the next.

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The first thing we see about this hadith is that we only have the name of bas even Hakeem, but as his full name, but we're not even told the name of the grandfather, because it is on the authority of the grandfather of Bauhaus. But we know that Bauhaus was at a tablet, Tabby, and we know that Hakeem was the famous Tabriz circa and that his, his grandfather, the Companion of the Prophet, sallAllahu, wasallam, were Aria, even Haider.

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if you look at this Hadith, and there's a narration that will come up later that will repeat this. And there's actually many other narrations similar to this Hadith, we find that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, wasallam, has emphasized the rights of the mother, more so than the Father, and more so than anyone else. Because we know that the family comes first in our relations with with with with with society. And here, the mother has been emphasized, and then the Father, and then the family people. And then we know that the rest of the people will follow after that, as we'll come to later on in the book. And it's actually amongst the scholars of Islam, that the mother takes

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priority of being of one being

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respected and her rights being fulfilled, ie to be good to her and to be kind to her takes priority upon the father, there's an interim outcome that despite the fact that the scholars in the books have also say that the Father has more right to be obeyed, his right individually is greater, his decision is greater his any command to you

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is greater, you have a greater obligation to obey Him, other than your mother, yet the mother has a greater right to be shown son and bear and cut you IE to be beautiful to her to help her to have kindness to her. And actually this is very clear from notice that a Hadith, especially here three times the prophets lie Selim mentioning again and again and in other narrations more than three times that the mother was more deserving of the bear of the of the son or the child. But this is clear in the Quran, when the last Pousada says was saying that insanity Why are they here? How much who own more one, Allah one. And so to look, man, when the last patch Allah says, and we have

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enjoined upon man to be good to his parents, he mentions parents are wily, they hear Santa. And then what does he say after mentioning the parents, he said, Hamlet, who Omo, his mother bore him in weakness and hardship. So after the parents, it is the mother who has been singled out as the one who has been, who has taken the hardship and gone through all the stress and the hassle that we know that gives her this, this macom. And actually, we shouldn't be surprised by that. Because the link between the mother and the child, you know, everyone knows about that no one needs to be taught about the the link of Rama and love that is specifically unique between the child and the mother, a

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link of mercy, I think of Rama and that itself is beautiful because a lost power to Allah, we know has taught us to to ask him to ask him as overjoyed to have mercy upon the parents. And that's why the mother's womb, that place which we gain our which we get our shelter and protection at the time when we're most desperate and the need for it is called the RAM. It is called the ram it's from the same root word as Rama. So we can see the link that the ram itself is where the child develops during pregnancy. And then when it comes out it is the continual link of the profits of the law the the link of the mother to the child who Rama an intense form of Rama and that's why I was pouncer

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Allah chooses in this ayah. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but him and let you be dutiful to your parents. And if one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, no shouts at them, but address them in terms of honor, and lower onto them the winner of submission and humility, through mercy, and say, My Lord, bestow on them your mercy, as they did bring me up when I was young. And this journey is almost a return of the, of the Rama that you have taken from her, that you have been cultured in her great role of giving you tarbiyah Yeah, that's that that has almost natural to her. It's almost like the mother is a walking

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form of Rama base and centralized around the womb itself. Your home, what produced you what looked off to you what protected you what, what's fed you. So when we understand this link, and then we understand that how important it is for us to appreciate veero in its correct way, and how to give the parents the the right that they deserve. And we can also see that this, this order in the Hadees By the way, where the promises I said I mentioned the the the mothers right? Three times and then compares it to the to the Father. On the fourth occasion. It's a three to one ratio. And we see that in the Quran. Allah subhanaw taala says, what will say that insanity right today he Santa's Hamlet

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who omo Cora hand over the art who korhan Warhammer Warhammer who have his son who's that as soon as Shara I and we have enjoined on man to be beautiful and kind to his parents, his mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship. And the bearing of him and the winning is in 13 months. And so we can see that the purpose of life and limb in this Hadees by showing that Jani the mother, and her right is given a three to one ratio to the Father is almost as if he is specifying these three stages, which the mother specifically

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is particular almost is particular to her only this quality, this ability to do that naturally as the mother, she will get a reward. And she gets a right equal to that the Father cannot do anything in these three stages, he has no role in that. And so the mother cleans up in these areas. If you look at these, these actions, the first action of of pregnancy. And you know, I mean I if you're not married, and you've not been able to observe this, and it's very difficult, but if you see the sickness, and the tightness and the difficulty that a woman goes through when she's pregnant with her child, and not just the difficulty, but the things that she has to give up so many things that

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she enjoys, that she has to give up. And her free time has to be now sacrificed. And she can't go to places that she'd like to and she has to go through much difficulty. And then the actual, the giving of birth. I mean Subhanallah I mean, let me tell you something no woman can ever understand and appreciate the pain of birth unless she gives birth herself and then she understands automatically and no man, okay, can describe that unless he sees it. Okay, if you haven't seen your wife give birth, then you know, you just don't have to. And let me tell you something. It's something which is absolutely incredible. And something totally edgy. I still have, I still have a jacket. Okay. When

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my wife gave birth to a son, my eldest son, she grabbed my jacket so hard. And she is it her fingernails dug into the material and she's ripped my my jacket. And Swan is still there. I mean, it's a

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good jacket wasted. And, you know, honestly, it's an hour. And I remember because, you know, she was on the gas, and she was screaming her head off. And, you know, she's got me like, she's got why by that? I don't know. But she had me with the hands. And she was like this, and I was being pulled in like this, and what am I doing here? And she's, you know, she was not with me at all. She was on another planet altogether.

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You cannot imagine that moment and that pain, you can't. And Allah subhanaw taala recognizes it, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam recognizes it. And then you move on to the next stage, the stage of the weaning, and the culturing and the bringing up of the child, the breastfeeding and the difficulties in that, again, the restriction of lifestyle that the the, you know, the difficulties that one has to go, you know, the Yeah, I don't know if you can, you can understand people will tell you have you seen it, the tightness of the mother, the sleepless nights, how early she wakes up and so on. And what, suppose what makes it even worse is that often the husband is going to be sleeping

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right next to her and in a different logo together, doesn't know what is going on. Absolutely innocent. It just doesn't care. What hasn't got a foot in the world for what's happening next. Right next door.

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The mother is going through so much stress and hassle and pain. And so here, these are three things which are specific to the mother. And that's why the progressive lies Allah has mentioned her three times, and then we start to reach parity now, or do we? Because then the father now starts to take his position of tarbiyah. But it's not like as if suddenly he takes over army pauses. Do you know what that was that you didn't see that as Allah says, 30 months Allah mentions in the Quran 30 months is equal to two years of winning and a minimum pregnancy of six months. Okay, that's very important, because obviously, nine months is the normal pregnancy time. But the Quran is a miracle

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itself, by the way in the Quran, that it shows that it's possible. The Quranic worldview understands that a six month pregnancy is a viable pregnancy, and a viable child is produced. And this this ayah has very important ramifications in the rulings of Xena, okay, and the rulings have given Cova of judging against cases where people come, you know, give you a very brief example, if a couple gets married, and six months after the date of marriage, there's a child. So automatically, you're thinking stuff will always happen here. Right, six months? I mean, it should you be nine months, right? And Ollie raphaela on, if I remember correctly, was gave a da. And he ruled in favor. I'm

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obviously this happened and the father said you've done Xena. All right. And then you married me, you know, how can I have had a child within six months, at least nine months or 10 months or something else straightaway. But the idea behind gave coda at that time, don't don't think about our scientific advancements now where we can work out dates and blah, blah, no, that was at that time.

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Earlier, the lion said Allah, Allah says that weaning is 60 is 30 months, that as soon as Shahada, which means we know that from the other fish oil, who I mean, and the other is that we mentioned last session that the weaning is in two years, but this one's which is 24 months, but here it's 30 months, which means that six months must be the pregnancy itself. And so therefore, if Allah says that a pregnancy of a child can be six months there, and then and then two years afterwards 24 months offers therefore it means that the sixth child is viable, and this child actually is yours. And so he ruled against the husband and they were they were, they were happy with that. So that, you

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know, this shows that some of the data can be used in such very deep sense by the scholars of Philip when they were making Kava, and, and, and judgment.

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But as I said, these three things, these three qualities and characteristics, they are specific to the mother, but then the Father, the father doesn't suddenly come and take over and do everything, the mother herself then plays an equal role in spending upon the child and feeding the child enclosing the child, you know, throughout the rest of the years. In fact, more so than not, the mother does much more than the Father, the mother does much more than the father, even at this stage. And as we said before, the role of tarbiyah the key role of parents, okay to make this child cultured, and bring them up in a way to get the golden objective achieved, which is that the Ruby of

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Allah subhanaw taala is understood and achieved and affirmed by the child, the mother is the one who is responsible for that the mother is not they say just that [???] behind every great man is a great woman, they're behind every great nation is a woman because the woman is, is absolutely key, the mother is key in developing these characteristics. And these emotions and the behavior of a child that has he or herself will not only recognize Allah subhanaw taala in the in the greatest of purity, but then be able to interact with the rest of society to make it a real community, a real nation. And that's the macom of the mother.

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There Elena also mentioned and again, even hedger, rhodiola and he proceeds everyone in that in mentioning some of the the other reasons why the mother is more emphasized almost or why the prophets lie Selim exaggerated more in the hug or in the right of the mother over the the Father. One of these reasons is that you know, you know the mother, right, your relationship with her, your closest to her is always behind, you know, behind behind closed doors is in the house is also the way of the people people do not see your day to day interaction with your mother, but with your father is very, very different. Your father by by nature and by his by his going to the mystery than

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going to work and so on is very much outside the house, but the mother is always inside the house. And this itself, you need as you as you well know, means that you can get away with a lot more against your mother then you can you can have your father and so often because of that her rights, okay, demand, the children almost get a greater audacity almost to, to, you know, try and pull off accident against the mother of disobedience and being rude and so on and so on. That they will not be able to do against their father, not just because the father is stronger, but just basically because he's in front of the people.

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You know, you, you know, that is a very silly thing to try and do something with your father and then go and meet with a friend who will do your best he publicly, he will really embarrass you in front of someone. I mean, forget about the whole idea of being a sin, but he can come and he meets an uncle and you're there. And then your uncle will say, you know, he's his he's a good lad, your son, Antonia. Oh, yeah, really, he does this. And he says that he does this says that I didn't tell him and then you tell the shopkeeper and then you're telling and you think, Oh, my God, why did I come out with you in the first place, just to be just stated, insulated, insulated. And that's the

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nature isn't it? It's the nature of the of the of our to be add to do that. And also, we know that the the mother herself, by her nature, she's a lot more softer, a lot more weaker as well. And that makes him more vulnerable. And unfortunately, it makes her almost more vulnerable to contempt on our, on our behalf on our side. And when someone has that contempt, they find it easier to establish authority, and to be more forceful with someone like that. And that's a another problem. And again, so therefore the prophets lie Selim, who is almost trying to recognize that, that that inequality in the relationship, and then trying to defend that principle, trying to defend the principle that the

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mother is already disadvantaged compared to the Father. And so we need to now make it up to make it emphasize her right even more.

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Not only do we see this weakness, not only do we see this weakness and recognize it, but also, its effect upon us, makes us worse, how we know that the mothers we all do, because our biggest problem, if you ever want to see a major source of the lack of blessings, and problems, you know, amongst our community amongst the Muslims, it is because we mistreat our mothers, okay, and we do it so easily. And, and, you know, they don't help us, they really don't help us in this in this in this action, because their nature is because of their weak nature, because they're so soft, they get angry very, very quickly, because their love for the children is more than, you know, the normal love that can

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be seen, it's very intense. And they get very, very upset, very upsetting little things that you do. They're very, very close to you. And sometimes, you know, we cannot appreciate that. And what happens often is that they cry a lot. And we know that mothers cry a lot, does by in her nature. And we know that they get very angry, and we know and how many times have we heard the daughters against us, day and night making the odds against us. And I never mean to, but they go away and saying this and saying that whatever, because of her nature, and then that cause the child to become angry, you know, and often without any good reason, you do something and suddenly, she would just go off and

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you think some handler was halfway done what's happening. So then that causes a greater sense of contempt almost and a greater sense of anger in the child, and they try to then push that off. And then you know, it almost becomes a vicious circle gets worse and worse. And we're all guilty of that everyone. And so here the professor myself has recognized this anomaly, recognize the nature of the woman, and therefore emphasized if it wasn't already enough, in the Quran, by by Allah subhanaw taala saying, after worship Him be good to the parents, not only making it from the absolute individual obligations, not only as we come to see making disobedience to them from the Cabal or

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from the deadly and the major sense, okay. But then, in our own understand the purpose of life, in a more subtle way, is saying she has more right to be treated good, she has more right that you'd be beautiful to her, she has more right for you to have more patience with her. And it's important that we understand these weaknesses and these these problems, because if we do, then we now know not to fall into the trap, we now know that, okay, this is how she is but she can't help some of these things, we should recognize that. And you know, the prophets realize and recognize that, so why can't we recognize that. So then once you understand these kind of characteristics, and you

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appreciate that more, then we can hopefully be able to make that he can achieve our goal of giving her more

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more more better, more love and more concern and more kindness and so on. And then, of course, the you know, you might say, you know, really is her macom her status really deserving of such a such a such a high pressure upon us to maintain. And of course, there's no doubt about that, Daniel one little bit, right. We have very famous narration from Eben remember the narrator of the previous narration when he was sitting in the harem, and a man came making love, okay with his mother on his back, okay, and he came to me about and he said, you know, have I fulfilled my rights, my mother, and I said, blah, blah. You have not even done as a friend, you know, as a friend is, as a friend is

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in this generation. It's the sound. It's like a mon it's the intake of breath, okay, during labor. Okay, so you're making suave hasn't even reached the level

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One of them sounds that your mother went through while she was giving birth to you. I mean, you as you think about that, this is a, you know, a beautiful graphic illustration of the rights of the mother upon us so that we can appreciate how much we need to give her a bit and how much that we are deficient in giving her I mean today upon look at our society, look at our people, we take a shopping, we think that we've saved the world, we take her to the corner shop or we think we've done the whole world a favor. And you know, there's, we're talking about hedge and tawaf, right? Yeah. People think, right, I'm gonna take my parents to hedge, I've done some huge journey, big action.

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And then, you know, my mother's old so I'm going to take her in a wheelchair. And you know, people, they the people, they say that right, and they probably say because they don't realize what they're doing what they're saying, I I took my mother around the I did Hajj or Umrah with my mother in a wheelchair, right. And they probably paid someone else to do the reading as well. Right? And then make it a like to be a big thing. They should read this narration, I mean, did listen, try carrying her on on your bike, make the toe off, and then realize that you haven't even repaid back end. That's one little sound that your mother actually experience and she she made when she was going

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through the pains of giving birth to you. So somehow her mom is something which really is very difficult for us to understand. And that's why the purpose of licensing and authentic narration said that you need to be at her feet. For thermal agenda for Paradise is at her feet, you'll find paradise there. It's there. If you want to get to Jenna, you will find it at the feet of your mother. You will find it in it in her service, you'll find Paradise by obeying her and keeping her happy. Why? Because only the one who is able to make absolute perfect hip, okay, absolutely perfectly achieve keeping her mother happy. That kind of person will be a person of Paradise, that

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kind of person, that kind of quality will be a person of Paradise and that's all you know that we have time for inshallah, in this session, and hopefully we'll complete the headings in the next what is that Kamala Harris who panic alohomora hamitic eyeshadow La ilaha illa Anta Mostafa federal llama what a to LA