Abu Bakr Zoud – Importance of Preparing The Family For Ramadan

Abu Bakr Zoud
AI: Summary © The importance of preparing one's family for the upcoming month ofLive is recognized as Islam's religion of Islam. The responsibility of the father to teach children about Islam and the importance of understanding actions is emphasized. The importance of being patient during prayer is emphasized, as it is crucial for personal and professional health. The importance of fasting during busy school holidays is emphasized, and parents are encouraged to practice their faith and use the church for political and social support. The responsibility of the mother and children is emphasized, along with the importance of learning the Deen and fasting to encourage parents to eat healthy and stay within their beliefs.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al Hamdulillah hello in either mean, or salatu salam ala Rasulillah while Allah He also be here in all praise and thanks belongs to Allah subhanho wa taala. And may the peace and blessing of Allah be upon His servant and final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam. As to what follows My dear respected Brothers and Sisters in Islam.

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I ask Allah azza wa jal, they accept from a soul this gathering that they forgive our sins and our shortcomings and they admit us into the highest levels on the paradise. And Allah He knew your presence tonight is appreciated. It is first and foremost appreciated by Allah azza wa jal, those who come to the masjid, seeking knowledge, learning how to benefit themselves, how to draw nearer and closer to Allah azza wa jal because that should be the intention of each and every single one of us here. How are you going to better your relationship with Allah and Mendut and get closer to Allah azza wa jal, the one who comes with this intention Allah azza wa jal promises them in surah. To no

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way as either homophobe lay Allah azza wa jal increases them in his blessings and favors and he opens upon them, those of goodnesses my brothers and sisters in Islam. Tonight, my discussion with you is about the importance of preparing your family for the month of Ramadan. And I see this is a very important topic, it is of utmost importance. Why? Because in today's day and age, we're finding that many fathers many mothers, many parents have abandoned their children have abandoned their Islamic responsibility towards their children. Yesterday I was in Melbourne, and a mother came to me with a complaint on law. He she came with a complaint and she had a paper she had to complain

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written on a paper. And one of the things she had written in this paper, she wrote that her husband has informed her and he has told her, I am no longer able to be a father to my children, use whatever you want from my money, take whatever you want, spend it on our children, but I can no longer be a father to my children. I don't have it in me. What is he leaving his Islamic responsibility with his children for what? He's leaving it for? The long nights for the hangout with the boys he's leaving it for the late night fishing trips. This is what he's leaving his family for his declaring his saying to her I can no longer be a father. And this is a situation many, many

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Muslim parents are suffering from. This is a huge crisis in number two Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in today's day and age. The father doesn't want to do his responsibility anymore. He believes that the fact that I feed my children, and I called them and I provide for them home, and I provide for them, someone to serve them a mother that puts in the house and serve them. She drives them to school and back. I've done my responsibility before Allah azza wa jal. This is what many parents many fathers are thinking he's done his responsibility. Little did such people know that the greatest responsibility you have with your children is their Islamic upbringing is bringing them

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upon Islam and upon Eman and nurturing them in terms of their relationship with Allah azza wa jal. This is the first thing you will be questioned on the Day of Judgment, when it comes to your responsibility and those who Allah azza wa jal entrusted you with

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and maybe some Allahu alayhi wa sallam he mentioned school, Nakamura and what could look homeschooling Allah Yachty that each and every single one of you are shepherds, and you are responsible for your flock and you will be questioned. And if you'll be questioned, that means there is questions and there is a question. The question is Allah subhanahu wa taala himself.

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And the questions are too directed to you. What did you do with this responsibility that Allah azza wa jal gave you? This child, this young boy that is inside your home? And this young girl that Allah azza wa jal gave you? What did you teach them over Islam? What did you teach them of the religion of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what did you teach them about Ramadan, and the good acts and the righteous deeds that they are supposed to be doing? What did you teach them about their purpose in life? And that is to worship Allah subhanho wa taala. What did you teach them?

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This is a huge responsibility. Allah azza wa jal tells us in the Quran, about the valley he's Salam. You know, Allah is Salam, a prophet of Allah azza wa jal, when he was dying when he was on his deathbed he's about to die. Allah azza wa jal captures that moment in the Quran, and he tells us what exactly happened. You see this moment was so important that it was recorded in the Quran, and it was revealed 1400 years ago, so it serves guidance for Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and for all of us, Allah azza wa jal you sit on

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Come to Shuhada if How about an Uber note? Allah azza wa jal says will you present were you there? When this presented itself Dr. Koop when he was dying? Were you around? We weren't No we weren't. So listen, Allah azza wa jal is going to tell us exactly what happened. He said, If Bala Libery, he made a taboo do not mean body. He said to his children and the world around him, who's among his children, use of Allah Usila use of is a prophet of Allah selected by Allah.

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Righteous already righteous. But he asks his children a question on his deathbed. He says No Taboo, do them embody my children? What are you going to worship after my death? Look at his concern. His concern is their religious affairs and religious matter. He doesn't care about anything else. He did not ask what are you going to do with my life after I die? What are you going to do with my property after I die? What are you going to do with my friends after I die? Don't worry about always. Your huge and greatest responsibility is the Islam and the dean of your children. He wants to make sure that they are upon a correct and straight path. And among them are prophets. He seemed to the taboo

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do them embody? What are you going to worship after my death? These are righteous children. They said not

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what you learn. Ibrahima is smart, and you know what his help but he learned why he doesn't want to know who Muslim who. We're going to worship our Lord, and we're going to remain submitted to him for the rest of our lives. Allahu Akbar, he dies with peace. He dies with tranquility in his heart, knowing that those he was responsible for he has fulfilled this responsibility. He's ready. He's ready to stand before Allah azza wa jal and to say I have fulfilled my responsibility with my children. I live a small life hearing from them, that they will worship Allah alone and no one else Allahu Akbar. What a huge achievement it is for a father, to hear from his children, that they will

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worship Allah, they will worship Allah azza wa jal for the rest of their life. This is indeed the responsibility that you have been given

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not food and drink and feeding them and closing them and taking them to soccer and so on. These are worldly matters, the moment they die, that's all finished.

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But a deed a deed is what you're going to be questioned about. How can someone write something like this, I'm not too prepared to be a father to my children, take whatever you want from my mouth. And this is a man that represents many in the community, many in the community. While Hola Hola, Quwata illa Allah, my brothers and sisters in Islam

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when one of the fundamental matters, that keeps a marriage together, and keeps a family together, because that's another issue. And I'm sure chef Bilal just said hello, hi, Ron knows about these matters. One of the greatest things that keeps the family together and the marriage together is for the family to encourage one another upon the worship of Allah azza wa jal, I repeat that again, one of the greatest fundamentals that keep a marriage together, keep the husband and wife together, and the children together, and the entire family together is for the father and the mother and the children with each other, to all encourage one another upon the worship of Allah azza wa jal. This

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is a matter highlighted in the Quran more than once, Allah azza wa jal when he told us something about the prophet is married Alayhis Salam, Allah praise him for one thing. He said, What can I do I know who the Salah was zakat. What can I not be him Are we it's marine Allah, he said, he used to instruct and he used to encourage his family to the prayer and to pay zakat. Allah highlighted this. This was a praiseworthy quality in his marriage and he set up you know, just because he was always there for his family, telling them get up and pray, give you as a carrot, get up and pray give you as a cat as a result. What can I not be him or we're Allah azza wa jal was pleased with him. He was

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pleased with him because he was with his family. He was on top of them. He was fulfilling his writing his his responsibility towards his family. Allah azza wa jal instructs him to be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam, at the end of Surabaya. He says, what more or less? You saw that he was stopping Allah. Let us a look at his Zuko cola people to the taqwa Allah azza wa jal He instructs in the beasts Allahu Allah you're suddenly imagine this. He says steam going instruct your family, command them toss salad, or stop Irani and be patient over your commandment to them. Meaning tell them my kids pray. My children pray again. The next day, five times a day. Ramadan is coming. Remind them

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First thing, remind them of their religious obligations during Ramadan and be patient because it is going to be difficult to continue. You might give up you might say I don't we're going to repeat the same thing over and over every single day. Hello so I've told them once pray, they're not praying. I've told them wants to fast they're not interested. I can no longer do this. I've told them get ready and be in the car before me so that we can drive to select the total we then are there I just take off Allah He see what Stobie rally. They need to be extreme patience exercised, will instruct instructing and commanding your family and encouraging them towards the good. I'm telling you this

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is a solution that Allah azza wa jal taught us about people complaining that the marriage is falling apart, the family is falling apart. One of the things that strengthens it is you being there for your family, being there especially for your for their religious matters. Husband and wife must be encouraging each other upon the worship of Allah azza wa jal and doing that in front of their children, so that when the children grow up, they take this good habit. And there be some Allahu Allah alayhi wa salam, listen to this. These are coming down in the Quran, but he's not far away from implementing them. What's his life now watch? Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa salam prays at night.

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And as he's ending his prayer, I'm sure will be Allah who I know she's sleeping in front of him. So he taps on her feet, and he says, Oh, Mia, Isha 503 Get up or Isha, and pray your solid water. This is a husband, encouraging his wife upon the worship

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any part of the night, even if it's a sunnah, get up and pre sunnah. Get up and pray select the

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husband encouraging his wife. This is an example. These are manners that that are real, that you're supposed to be implementing in your family.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is waking up to solid Bluetooth. Where were you at that time? And I tell you something, it only gets worse in Ramadan. Subhan Allah I don't know how implement. The father is absent the entire night.

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before Ramadan at least he came and slept a few hours. But the Ramadan, the month in which you're supposed to take advantage and encourage your family because a che BOD is locked up. You have more control over your family you can get to them easier. The heart is soften. The doors of mercy are open. A Shavon is locked up.

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The hearts are ready to listen to the advice. See Ramadan. The massage is always full. You know, we make videos we upload videos in Ramadan. That's where the most views are. People naturally are listening in Ramadan. And the father in Ramadan decides to disappear altogether. How is this real?

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How is this a Muslim? fulfilling his responsibility in the sight of Allah azza wa jal

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let me sallallahu alayhi wa salam awakening it shall be Allah who I know for Salah to

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listen to this other incident in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam one night he leaves his house. And this is what these are sunnah voluntary matters. Imagine how much more he is active in instructing his family upon the follow up upon the obligations. These are just sunnah. He walks across to the house of his daughter, his daughter from his family. I told the encouraging the family, children, wife, encouraging Husband, husband, encouraging wife and so on. He walks across and he gets to the house of his daughter Fatima, and he looks at the door and he enters and she's with her husband Ali, you know the Allahu Anhu and he says to them, oh man for So Leah. Get up off of you and pray, get

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up. Then in the vehcile Allahu Allah, your Salah, went back to his apartment and pray the long night.

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And the narration in a hurry. It says fella Miss Milena. He said he did not he any noise that suggests they've got an up Dupree he just went back to sleep. After a long night of solid and maybe sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went back and he opened the door. And he said to them Allah to focus on Leah.

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Why didn't both of you get up and pray?

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Allah it's a voluntary salah. But to get the concern look at the summer.

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He didn't give up. I've already told him don't worry about it. And he's he's a son. Nah, not a fault. He went back in.

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And then how do you know the Allahu Allahu Anhu got up and he says he was rubbing his eyes because he had slipped and he got up and he says the Rasul Allah, man will suddenly Lemma quotevalet

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In it, we only pray what Allah azza wa jal has decreed for us. forceware only souls you know, when we sleep Allah has taken our souls away and he's making excuses and then in the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa sallam hit on his thigh. And he said man was only lemma could give Elena Myrtles only lemma could give Elena what can insert right from a sheet in jendela and he walked off. He said, What is this excuse you're using? We're only pray what is written for us we only play with pre what is written for us. The human being argues too much and he walked off. I can look at the ID. You can see his words when Allah Allahu Anhu heard this from the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you

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laughed. But did he laugh and

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I don't know if you laugh, he must have thought maybe this is serious.

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Like in this is the type of attitude that is required when it comes to fasting. Look at this, when it comes specifically to fasting when it was the day of our show Allah and the believers had to fast the day of Ashura, and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent a message to the unsalted to those that were in the outskirts of Medina, he sent a message and he said to the messenger, go and inform them. This is about fasting, go and inform them, that if they if they haven't eaten anything yet from the morning, continue the day fasting, and whoever has eaten something after fissured that let him continue whatever remains of the day fasting, don't eat any more.

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So the Narita or labia been to MA with all the Allahu anha. She says, she says, so we would instruct and command our children to fast, we would encourage our children to fast and we would go to the masjid look always for the children. And we would go to the masjid. And we would make toys from Aladdin from home, or make all they'll put it together like a toy. And then if one of the children began to cry from hunger, we would give him the toy. And that would distract him until unfilter time until ahead of time, and then we will break our fast. All of this preparation that this mother was going through was just how am I going to keep this child steadfast upon the worship of fasting

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needs to be some serious encouragement and involvement of yourself and of the mother in the life of their children concerning their deen and their relationship with Allah azza wa jal, my brothers and sisters in Islam, this is the huge and greatest responsibility you will be asked about. What did you do about the deen this was a responsibility. Look at

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know how Allah you Salah when his son died as a disbeliever you still worried he's asking Allah soja Lindop demeanor LEE MY LORD my son is from my family. Why no other guy he's like begging Allah please show my son What am I gonna do about it?

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Allah azza wa jal had decreed that he dies a disbeliever concern, the concern the worry for the children and their religious matters. Have mercy in your heart. Have mercy these children they have no ID. They depending first and foremost upon Allah and then you the father and the mother. What is he going to learn their Deen from where? Where today people are concerned. LGBT is all over the place rainbows all over the place. What do we do? Well, what do you do? Teach your children a theme and then let your snowflake they will not reach you. They will not get to as the angels when they visited the house of law. Paula insula, this is how they comforted him. They said to Him, relax,

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don't worry, lay your slow Lake. What do you have to worry about? You've held on to your deed, you're committed onto your religion. You have value and wealth in the sight of Allah. Allah azza wa jal held back his punishment, until not only one layer of bathe in bathe in middle Muslim in one house of the Muslims. He got him out safely and then the punishment came down on 1000s of homes. The believer is a value out of life in the sight of Allah azza wa jal, what are you worried about? What do I do with my children and so on and so on. Teach them the deed and Allah azza wa jal will look after. And there needs to be Yanni there needs to be great sacrifice. And you're gonna have to leave

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out a lot of Hangouts. A lot of Hangouts, you're going to have to leave out especially in Ramadan. How Subhan Allah MaHA has the shape on fooled and tricked the Muslim father

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that when Ramadan comes, he disappears from the house altogether. What are hola Quwata illa Allah, understand you play a huge responsibility that begins from Salah television, at school, you sit on the table, don't eat until your children are down there with you.

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And yes, a mother or father might feel in their heart. Leave him leave him sleeping his tired.

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Don't have these feelings from the show bomb. Allah azza wa jal has more mercy over your children. They

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You have over them, cut them up. If you had a school excursion, and the school had told you the bus will pick him up at four in the morning. Well, like you'd wake him up. He'd be awake, he'd beat something outside the mother's on top of his head.

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That's the first thing

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down on the table, eating this meal, and teaching simple virtues have to teach the virtues. Because if a Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would teach his companions, the virtues, and that would motivate the companions to do a deed, then the human being needs to hear the virtues. Right? You look them up, I have videos online, there's a lot of articles online that speak about these matters. Afterwards, solid Fisher again, if you get your children bring them with you bring them with you, to Samantha and Fisher.

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And then you fast they ask if the child is maybe seven years old is a good year to start fasting, just like it's a good year to start the solid. Of course, if they cannot fast the day, maybe until solid about maybe, you know, all go from solid and also until March. And teach them this is what you're doing now is called fasting. There's a partial fasting, when we're going to refrain from eating and drinking. Right? And then some of us are like this, some fathers are like, how is torture? How am I going to make the child past a few hours torture, but the same, same very same parents, they go to a doctor, we need to do a blood test for your son. He needs to fast 10 hours no

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worries. It becomes alright. It's not starving anymore.

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Because the doctor said so.

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Allah azza wa jal created this body, and it is absolutely perfect and fine, and it is able to fast. It is how it was created. It can manage fasting it can you know, and then another thing to make them fast. If they're seven and eight or 930 days in a row. Maybe that's going to be difficult, but they should be encouragement. They should every single day of Ramadan. What are you going to fast my son today? How many hours from which solid to which solid you're going too fast? And give some intense incentive some rewards you can there's no problem in this and the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam you'd say, Hmong Katana Katina and fella who syllable Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to put prices

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for worships that if a kills a disbeliever, while in a proper jihad, whoever kills a disbeliever then his prize is that he can take his belongings. They'll also have a little bit Allah who are motivated and excited. And so you can set prices up Whoever fasts from you, My children, such and such hours for every hour, we're going to give him $10 For example, no problems. You know, but make sure first and foremost, he encouraged them upon the worship, by mentioning to them the reward that comes from Allah azza wa jal tying them to that matter, not to worldly matters. Get them used to that first and foremost. So you can see, by the end of Ramadan, I'll give you a gift without you

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telling him what it is. And then tell him your reward is upon Allah and no one can reward you more than Allah azza wa jal can reward you for your worship. Now, this is the message I wanted to share with you. And especially when it comes to selected thoroughly bring your children with you. If they at the age of seven, eight, you're responsible to keep him right next to you. And that he prays. l massages are made for Salette and the Corolla has social safety. It's a three year old kid, don't bring him to the masjid. Because what's the three year old going to do? He's going to disturb more than he's going to add and bring who show up to the believers. A three year old doesn't come to the

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rescue. A five maybe maybe a six year old seven year old can come to the masjid aid by close by then he should be right next year. Right next do not know Allah. He was stuck in the toilet and I have to leave. You wait for him. You bring him in the car and you drive him with you. Baskin Mars decision to accept from us all we ask Allah azza wa jal that he instill love in Islam in our hearts in the hearts of our children, and ask him subhanaw taala to accept from us Oh ALLAH who animals Allah Allah wa salam Gattaca Elena Vienna, Muhammad Ali. He was a big man.

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