Hadith #6 Service and Prayer, The Balanced Life of a True Man

companions will always ask about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and particularly how he was as a husband, which is an aspect of masculinity that one

is a good partner to their wife and how they are as a father etc. And as a result, we know the Sunnah of the messenger of allah sallallahu wasallam and how to embody masculinity from a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. So this is a Hadith or it's narrated on us what dibny is Eid? Allah said ultra Aisha Tala. makan and the BU sallallahu alayhi wa sallam yesterday roofie Beatty

a man by the name of us what asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or as a shareholder Lavon What did the process Salam used to do at home? Now listen to this she said that all the Allahu Akbar let's can a Hakuna fie men that the men that's the early Yanni had Matteoli for either have a lot of Salah to her Raja Illa salah. She said he used to keep himself busy by serving his family. And when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for prayer. This is on Behati three points I want to mention Firstly, our masculinity is an understanding of masculinity and exemplification. How you act out this understanding of masculinity is in the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

whatever he did is how Allah wanted you to act according to your fitrah and your fitrah is your natural state and your natural state is that which is of X Y chromosome testosterone, a man a male particularly for the males speaking to you initially not ultimately been initially to all of you. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sunnah in regards to him as a husband was what? How was he in the house? She said, he used to keep himself busy serving his family.

And when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for the prayer. Why is this important? Because some of some of us have been raised by thinking that the man should not do anything in the house. I've never watched a disk nap dish in the house. I've never taken my clothes to the cleaners. I've never ironed my shirt. I've never swept the kitchen floor, things of this nature as though that's a sign of being masculine, and a strong husband and a man of authority that we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam again, debunking a common misunderstanding, cultural nuance, sociological, ill, if you will, to where if a man that doesn't do any of these household chores, if

you will.

It's more of a sign. It's more of a sign of his masculinity is more alpha, the more he doesn't do it. He's more alpha. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to keep himself busy serving his family. Kathy men, that's the alley he in his house. He was serving his family and another narration what kind of cathedral cathedral but Salman he always used to smile. So this might mean mugging mad dogging, you know, talking to your wife in an authoritative manner, talking down to her that is not from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. But this is important as well, for young men to understand that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this was a sign of his masculinity

and understanding firstly, that embodiment of the Sunnah is embodiment of fulfilling your masculine essence, hence being masculine excellence. Secondly, he would help around the house, young men, take it upon yourself to help your mother's help your sisters every now and then, if mom is coming home late from work, or she's tired, or if your sister is tired, and you know, she usually sweeps the kitchen or usually has a certain shore washes your clothes are similar that we shouldn't be doing. If you're 1617 1819, even if you're younger than that, to take it upon yourself to help them when they see that you do something that's out of the norm because they usually do it. You know, the

majority of the month you do it once or twice a month you help you say, Mom, don't worry, I'll wash the dishes for you today. Mom, don't worry, I'll make breakfast for us today. That is a practice that's good for you as a young male, because when you become a man, being a husband, this is going to be a habit that your wife will see Subhanallah you are doing something that is commendable. It is outside of what you usually do and you're practicing the Sunnah of the prophets are some especially and hopefully, if your reason for doing that is following the Sunnah. This is when it becomes a bad this is when it becomes worship and worship. This is when it becomes reward you will receive reward

from Allah subhanho wa taala. And then the third point is where she said well the Allahu anha will either How about the Salah, 200 ala Salah for either habla de Sala to other culture in a Salah. This goes back to the ultimate purpose for you as a man for you as a man. We know that the purpose is transcendent as we as Muslims our purpose is different than all these other isms and movements that we have in pills and whatever it is that we worship Allah, that what we do is to ultimately worship Allah subhana wa Tada. The goal is the motivating factor by

on anything that you do should be to show gratitude to Allah through the framework that he is giving you giving you being the Cydia from this framework is the first pillar of Islam, the five pillars of Islam. The prayer is that which makes you a better person to sound a little more simplistic, you get a little more deeper, a little more descriptive. The prayer is that which is one of the strongest means of connecting with Allah subhanho wa Taala by pondering over his beautiful names and attributes that is manifest in your life, and that takes a level of discipline, doing that five times a day. Prioritizing that five times a day, young men, prioritizing Salah over everything, even

your wife in this particular situation, even helping her out. I should have mentioned that notice how she mentioned when the salah King, everything stopped, he went out for the prayer, video games, in the gym, talking on the phone with friends, talking on Twitch with friends, whatever the case may be even work. Prayer comes first. That is a strong sign of a man with morals. A man with principle, a man with integrity, a man with honor, a man that is a servant of Allah before a servant of his wife before a servant over everything else. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us servants just as a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the ultimate servant, the Abdullah Batticaloa he was sent by

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