Abdulfattah Adeyemi – Overcoming Trials by Understanding its Nature

Abdulfattah Adeyemi
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of having children as a source of wealth and how it is a natural act. They also touch on the devastation of women looking for a child at a age when they are over 40 and older, and the crisis of men and women, including the desire for a child at a age when they are over 40. The importance of avoiding false assumptions and giving back to children is emphasized, as well as cautioning people about certain activities and avoiding combinations. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a law school program.
AI: Transcript ©
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provide for us to ease our tasks

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as we give funds to all major Allah We also pray for Allah's forgiveness of our sins May Allah forgive our sins May Allah Patna mistakes or Allah please overlook our errors

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according to God also right in all we do.

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My name is Aubrey Fatah, de me tonight I want to talk about

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wanting to speak on the Tallinn session of tonight

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the one would normally call family life issues and experiences Alhamdulillah most of us are familiar with the program and the discussion and want to look at aspects of family life that is very special, so to speak. And that will concern all of us, all of us insha Allah in one way or the order,

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the aspect is the phenomenon of having children or the gift of having children or the responsibility of having children. It is not automatic for for a person to have children is part of alas Rama that will give each child to somebody.

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Some people allow give me some Allah will give female

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our user with whom to grow nowhere in Africa and they will mix it male and female for some people were there and Maya shell akima and some people you meet them not to have any child at all.

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This is special mercy and special grace and blessings from omega Allah

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and to whom a child is given. It means a lot of responsibility follows. Allah will give you a gift because he says your herbal Maya shall he give a gift to whoever wills. But when Allah gives gifts to somebody strings are always attached. It doesn't give you a gift and just leave it for you like that. To attach a string, he wants to see whether you're going to use it well or not. For example, give us the gift of life.

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Allah says Allah, Allah call mortal hayata Leah, I

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have given you the gift of life and death was a trial to test you

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to see what your view is going to be of good behavior, good conduct.

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So when Allah give children it also to test us and see which of you is going to appreciate this and take good care of it. And all metalla sees that every child Allah has given to us, Allah has given the child the fitrah Allah has greeted us based on fitrah Allah Akbar. The prover also confirmed that every child has been born with the fitrah the fitrah means clear slit.

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Or only della sees that out we live in a certain region for a given word haka, Li de hanifa feet wrote Allah, Allah t photo, nessa Ali letaba de la Holly Pilla LLC sets your faith truly towards religion, honey, find somebody who doesn't associate any partner with Allah. Because Allah has fitrah with which he has created mankind is that we should worship Allah with all sincerity and lack of deal and calcula there can be no change in the creation of Almighty Allah minute that Allah has put everything in order. The fitrah is there.

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Professor Lawson said Columbo luden

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every child that is born is born upon the fitrah farberware. Will you help me Danny? Why are you the furor? Why you might just Sonic amatola, behemoth jamaah ultraheat through the fee hum in our province that every child is born upon the fitrah is only his parents who turn into a Jew or a Christian or his Zoroastrian. Just as animals are born having full bodies, and proverbs said, Do you see any of them having a court of loss when they are born,

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they are born complete like that. And every child that is given, has been given that full Phaedra Phaedra is a natural inclination, natural feeling natural thing that makes us to be human. For example, you don't have to be a doctor before you know that you cannot cure headache with hammer.

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You somebody has headache, you know, hammer cannot do it. Many other things can cure headache, ohama cannot do it. It doesn't matter how you use it. You also know that you cannot cure malaria fever with insecticide.

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There's no way you want to use it that you can cure malaria fever. fitrah also tells us that if a person should kick a pregnant goat in the stomach, that person has done something bad. You don't need to know too much about religion to know that that's a bad thing to do. That's a bad thing to do. And fitrah is that sense of right and wrong that Allah has built in us a sense of balance to say which is appropriate which is not appropriate sense of this is

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this is okay. And this is not okay. Some people have it plenty. Some people don't have it much. But according to this hadith and the verse of the Quran, Allah has given elements of these to each and every one. You don't need to be too smart to know that.

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If this is surgery going on in the theater, did doctors are performing surgery on somebody?

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The Man from the abattoir the butcher is not invited.

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How does this look like if a butcher now comes in and say I walk in there, but why have you been surgery here? Let me assist you. There is no difference there let me assist you you know, they will say No, we are not looking here is a very serious business. In other words, fitrah shows this is appropriate. This is not appropriate. Despite that.

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It is part of Annie Haley of dunia is part of the goodness of being alive. To have children

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is one of the areas of dounia If Allah has given to you and has given you one of the greatest blessings, one of the greatest goodness of being in this world is some people and I give them plenty. Some Allah did not give them so many.

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Allah Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Allah Akbar, I used to have a friend who they use is very elderly now. They used to call him 4040 4040 so once I asked, I said the sheet why why do people call you 4040

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He says, because there was a time when he had 40 children and 40 grandchildren.

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40 4040 children 40 grandchildren. And he told me that you can mention the names of each and every one of them one by one, the chief his children and his own grandchildren because he named them give them those names. That if I can challenge you mentioned a one by one in order of how they were born.

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44th I was just thinking my hair leather. That's a very lucky 40

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Why didn't ask him how many wives that's supposed to be very obvious. How 4040 so you can see that and when is

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4040 some people is just one

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and I give to them. One, one ladies.

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One that Allah give to them.

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So it because it is his choice, some is because that's how Allah wants you to be. Some is not those interested in having many children, some enable marry four wives, or the four wives will see give him one. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. So people have that craving people have that wish to have many children. When a person's child has not come yet. It is very disturbing. For example, for a woman, a woman that's looking for a child

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is usually as desperate if not more desperate than a woman that's looking for husband.

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A woman that is over at age my chart, no husband, had desperation is similar to that woman with married and looking for your child, which of them is higher.

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Which of them is more desperate? Can anybody tell

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you a woman that's looking for a husband, a woman is looking for a child, which will be more desperate

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for a child to be a lot desperate, because one of you for help, I know that okay, somehow along the line one way or the other, your husband can walk in.

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But when looking for a child, when she has reached a certain age, and a child doesn't come, it can be very devastating. We've got a number of ladies out there, who the doctors have told them that look, if you don't get pregnant, this year, this fibroid that you have, will block your womb or you will not be able to have a child again. Now, some of them that they will have done surgery, fibroid surgery over and over. And you know, the womb cannot just remain like that empty. Something has to feel it in is not a child, there's going to be fibrosis. So for such a woman who says,

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need a husband, please get me hope. And then you start looking around, you can't find a husband. Most of the hormones are already taken. The ones that are available, they are afraid of their wives. They don't want to marry another woman.

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So you now wonder, okay, so what are we going to do for her to pray to make dua? Yes, she's making to

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both. How is she going to have a child you can see the desperation of children, the call of nature to have a child. Now having children or not having children, for those that are not giving children to avoid to see how it is. Let's quickly visit the homes of some of the prophets of Allah and see what children look like to them. To the we too, we know that you find has given to us is a great privilege. If Allah has not given to you,

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it doesn't mean you're a bad person. It is just Allah just decide not to give for some people when the call of nature becomes very high in them. By time a man is reaching 40

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they call it a midlife crisis, from 40 and above to like 65 or almost 70. Some people's own are delayed 70 some people's own by 60. They have survived their midlife crisis. midlife crisis for men is equivalent to menopausal experiences of women.

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Equivalent not exactly the same, but similar. Also, midlife crisis of men come because of the nature

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of that crisis that is similar to that of an adolescent. And adolescent is a young person, that's neither a boy nor a man is trapped in between adults as a teenager, teenager 13 1415 1617 1819 he cannot call himself a boy. And he can't call himself a man yet so instruct in between. and so many responses, so many behaviors comes up within that time, a lot of energy that needs to be harnessed.

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It is the adult equivalence of adolescence that we refer to as midlife crisis. This man is neither a young man nor an old man is trapped in between, you can see the young man, and because he's an old man, to within that time between 40 and 60 is going through that crisis. Now the young man, not old man.

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I don't want to use myself. If not all of you be looking at me somehow.

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You can call me an old man old for information. And you can send me your man, I'm not as mobile either. So I'm trapped in between. So anybody who is between that 40 and 60, we say you are most likely to go through that crisis.

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Amongst the

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among the manifestations of that crisis, is I see time when a man is beginning to think that if I don't do this, it may be too late for me to do it.

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Some people now they're very high emotion. They get very high energy. If you had one wife before, by the time he crosses 14, is thinking

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of adding another wife, even when he knows it might be impossible for him.

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It will be it will be so strong.

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Very attractive to the opposite *,

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it will begin to Allah hochma for those of them who don't have Emad, that is when you see they say they become sugar daddy.

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For those who don't have a man, that's when they say they are looking forward to other women. For those of them who cannot control themselves, you see them going into certain activities, that you wonder why is this man even like this, some will join clubs.

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Some will join cult,

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and some will join politics, even when he knows he may not when

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you see a lot of crisis going on in the head of people going through that period in life, a lot of escapades a lot of experimentations, because something's making him to feel that time is going from 40 most people will not double their age again.

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You know what I mean? Anybody that is cross 40 may not double the age, he may not be committed to you that

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if you have reached 45, you may not become 90, if you have reached 50, this very big lack of likelihood that you cannot double the age and become 100.

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So something inside the head of men makes them to be very, very aggressive when it comes to matters of things generally, except those who are suppressing it, except those who have some other things to divert the attention to. Now, this is a humanistic thing, is something that happens to human beings, it doesn't matter, your religion, it doesn't matter where you are from, so long as a human being you are most likely I'm not saying 100% you will surely have seen you are most likely going to go through some of these experiences. So I was trying to mention the example of prophets of Allah. And he kind of tries the heart about children. I will mention them as summarily as I can because there

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are many verses of the Quran. I will just tell you some of the verses, maybe I mean all inside all of them. Let's start from the first man

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on metalla give him 40 set of twins, making 80 children for two sets of twins and along the line and I gave him the trial among the children.

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One of them killed the other one.

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Kabila killed Abdullah.

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When Camila Kira havilah, it was one reduced one shot. So I like given sheet as a replacement. Don't call another sheet of paper call himself or another sheet to sheet.

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The trail there is Adam being a prophet of Allah.

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One of his children still killed another one, the first murder ever committed by humanity, first committed by one of his children.

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If you're not careful, you think Adam was a careless father. But he was not. Okay, out of 80 children, one of them decide to misbehave, you cannot use them to judge him.

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In other words, whatever thing you do, even if you'd like to be a prophet, if you have many children, there may be one

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of them, that may do certain things that you never wished or you never expected is going to happen.

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That doesn't mean he was not a good and successful father. But the thing is that things just happen. Things happen, and there's nothing you can do about it.

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is a trial. Yes. form of trial for him. As a father, Look, don't think we're too much like both of you, fathers who your children are doing well. You may start boosting massive, you will start boosting, I guess I mean, disciplining a father.

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You can be anything you want to be but somehow along the line, I think it's much more than what we see. It's much more than what we think. Some things just happen. And as a father, there's nothing you can do about it. Let me give you an example for another father. I know we know. Alia salat wa salam. It was such a great father to a prophet of Allah.

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And you see,

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his child did not enter into the act with him.

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He's chatty don't enter into the booth with with him. Do you understand what kind of thing is that? Somebody was a prophet for how many years?

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over 100 years. And when eventually build the ark with Allah's command. He called his son to come I enter the act with him

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and his son refused.

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Had we explained this kind of thing? When you finished doing the arc and I said to him, let me Could you share this verse with you?

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Allah says, what color come woofie Bismillah himadri huamu Russa ha Bismillah imagery Roja Moosa in robiola whoo Roshi what he uttered Jerry? De Mogi. khaleeji Bonnie? Lou Nibbana worker NaVi mozzie

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what one know who Nibbana Walker nafi ma Lily yabuuchi Marina will

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vary in color.

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Isla jabali Mooney minalima

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cola. I

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mean, I'm really learning in murrah him wahala you know, Malmo fucka and Amina Rafi.

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Allah says to know her, say to the people, and I say what color coffee? All of you intend to the arc Bismillah Maduro, how moussaka In the name of Allah led the rise and move and let it set

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in Nairobi laga fool Rahim indeed my lord is all forgiveness was massive for those who are already in the arc where you're touching me him v Mountain College. And the act began to move with them. Like one big mountain the way it was moving. One other no Whoa, no, no, no who Nibbana who worked on a few miles in the new high court out in song when was amongst this clamor among this this crisis of people drawn in?

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It said to give him a last chance. He said Oh, my son

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Oh, my son is gonna come and climb with us. Oh, my son common climb is also enter into the act with us.

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And we'll let the communal carefully Don't be among the unbelievers. Do you know what the sunset says? I

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am going to climb onto this mountain. You're assuming a minimum Alma is going to save me from this water. And in Florida Scylla or Somalia mean amarilla nobody can be saved today from ls command. And in the midst of that, you water Kim and engulf his song.

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Give you a father who was a prophet was preached for Neverland something years. And you had to like be begging your son to come and enter the ark. That you keep other people's children for other people's songs. But your own refuse to enter. I wonder how that would feel. And Hochberg Allahu Akbar Kabira accupoint know how to call on Allahu Allah, oh, Allah, oh, my son, my son, my son is is one from me is going to be drawn with those people. You know what Allah said to him? koala? No, no, no less. I mean, that one is no one of you is know from you. You only give back to him bow logically,

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is just from you. Biologically, it is no part of you. Allahu Akbar. Kabira Allah is a long verse from this to the extent that Almighty Allah says, For lattice almy mala silica bl Nova Don't ask me why you don't have any knowledge over.

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Forget about him.

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Forget about him. He said Roby Nia will be an as I look at Melissa Libby who and I seek revenue from asking you what I don't have any knowledge over one inlet and fully water how many Akuma if you don't forgive me, I have my so me I will be of the losers. Allah say forget about him is not your song. This one is not your song. He only came from you, boy is no part of you.

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Now if you are not a profit and a child is said to behave the way they deserve to behave, I hope you now understand very well now that some of these things happen. You can kill yourself to only do your best or you live the rest or

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I'm not saying this to justify the person should not give the best Serbia to the children. I'm just saying this for you to see the kind of fit not the kind of trial that it is. So if you have a child or you say sit down that God Islamia Look at his Quran, you you think it is automatic, is Allah Rama is Allah blessing is just Allah that is working. You see these children, they only came through us they are not us.

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I don't know how I can explain this better. They only came through

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They are not of you. They are not from you.

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They came through but they are not from you. They are from Allah. But they came through and that is where your responsibility is. To give the best of all you can. Let me quickly mention another father, enemy Brahim Ali's what was salla Allahu Akbar Kabira. This is a very good example of somebody who Allah made him to be successful.

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We say long verse of the Quran, but you remember, Allah says he gives a lot of goodness to him.

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Allah says in a role he maka, Anna moto.

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g Hanif wollam yaku minalima Shruti Shakira Liang Amitabha

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Isla Pharaoh,

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Turkey, were they you know, dunia has an ad in

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pierotti lemina 40 from our hyena ilica and he beat me let me roll Hema hanifa

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Amina nominal maturity in Allah said in a Roma can Martin corny indeed you Brian was an oma of people were obedient Almighty Allah. One man oma that's how Allah describes him. He was one man but Allah his time as an oma community on his own.

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Look at that honey fun summer would never worship idol.

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Allah Wa La mia coonan Misha Kinney was not an idol worship shakhriyar homie, he was always grateful to Allah for others blessings on him. He just

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chose him when we last wrote Mr. King, and Allah guided him to the straight path watain of dunya Hassan and Allah gave me a lot of goodness in this world was enough it was enough. Let me know Sony hid in the deal. Goodman is good to be among the righteous.

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Did you see that kind of person? would be Hassan Allah give to him by those ratios, children.

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Oh no those Hassan are those ratios, children. And you know this person Allah described like this. You think he never had any problem? Do you know how old he was before you had his first child?

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This man had to beg and beg and beg Allah. Allah, Allah. Allah give me even if it's one leg this Oh Allah did the one that many who have plenty, plenty and the thing is all automatic. Somebody who has so much emotion that they truly need to fire he didn't burn

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because of Allah. Now, as he was approaching old age, he never had a child.

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And he wondered, Oh Allah, He says how I'm just going to go without a child. His mission will be incomplete if Allah didn't give him a child. And so he Allah meeting to pray for a designer child, his special serial child.

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Ibrahim would never have been able to build the Kaaba successful. It was when his son was given to him that he was able to do that. So many people's like mission will not be complete. Until unless I love being such a child to them.

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You remember the grandson's fella when he bribed him?

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establish the Kawaii domhnaill bait waste my robina Taco Bell Minda When was your for Ebro human kawaii damn well bait waste money when Ibrahim raised the pillars of the bait and is my mini that himself and his marine. It is when they did a thorough pinata koala accepted from us. He needed that child

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to accompany him in establishing and fulfilling his mission in life.

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And so having a child was very important and we're very special to him. And at the point is Al Hamdulillah. Al Hamdulillah Isla de verbally en el peaberry is Marie Isla is

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in Nairobi lesson Me too.

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So Allah, Allah has given me in my old age is my yield.

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And after I smile, you also give me his heart. Indeed, my lord is the hero of all prayers is less than me. You see, I will call him for a long time.

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Now that He has given me a smile on his heart, I now believe like the hero of all call, and that's why he named his son is my

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Is my What is my is my means he he is. He is the way they are people, those they they refer to God, God or god my prayer real is Allah. The Professor solanco Allah, Allah Allah, what they used to call him eat that time.

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So it's my email means God heard me

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is my he he is he God God He is my prayer. That's why I gave him is my email. The same thing with some other names gibreel Jabu means power, Bill of Allah gibreel power of Allah gibreel power of Allah. So it's my zeal means God heard my prayer.

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For some people, and I even heard their prayer before they asked for it.

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You may think it is automatic, was a very special thing for Allah to give a child to somebody. Now I'm not giving the child as a child of happiness, luck but as as a child of happiness, or the child of goodness as a model of all children.

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It China has so much a Moodle to the extent that Almighty Allah says malama Bella Roma Wu Surya cola una de niro cola buena nee our ofili mana Manami knee

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from Luma Otto all a

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man who

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said to you dooney

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mo who may know for Billie Jean,

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Allah says when is my reach certain age? Is Brahim call it some you say yagoona Oh my son in our film and I mean, I saw in my dream and as the actual slaughter you found Zuma that Oh, what is your opinion about this?

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cola and the boy replies Yeah, but oh my father. If Alma tomorrow go ahead and Korea go to have been instructed. So thank you, Johnny insha Allah Mina Sabri inshallah I will cooperate with you, I will be patient

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that is a child

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that is a child. Well, one point I want to bring out of this is that it is from what you love most. The other brings trial.

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It is what you love most that Allah brings trial. He Brian was someone who will be for Allah give me a smile was someone who was always welcoming visitors. If people visit him, he can stop by a wall ramp for one person. You remember when even the Indians came to him? He presented 5g I mean, he came with the roosted calf for call Allah kulu and said why don't we eat was talking to those two people that came knowing that they were angels, only when he saw that this will not eat. And they give him the good news that a child will be given to him.

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This is what he was always doing. But when Allah style came, the trial came through the child and through the fact that he always slaughtered animals to take care of his guests. Allah says this time around, I'm going to be your guest as your song you are going to use.

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It is quite symbolic. While you get to understand that sometimes it is what you love most. The Allah brings trial from if you love women, your child will come from women. He will love to have a good family. Your child will come from family. He will love to have good friends, your tribe will come from friends, he will love to have companions around you. Your trials will come from companions Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was known to have companions.

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I'm not talking about the hub themselves. But amongst those who pretended to be his companions were hypocrites. So Allah gave him a trial of hypocrites to the extreme that is Surah Surah.

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In the Quran, I mean, a surah. That's talking about manasi who

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people who compete with one face body mean another thing, they will say one thing they mean another thing people will listen to him, they go to other people change what you said. And then they mock him behind his back. He had a lot of trial of that. And I like giving victory over such people. Now the thing I'm driving out with the motto of Ibrahim, was that Allah gave him all these trials. He will do Allah give him the heart.

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penis in those children. I want everybody who has a child, whether male or female, to always be prayerful to Allah, that these children should not become so so fitna to you, but this will come sources of blessings for you. Every child that Allah has given to you maybe a child to fulfill your dreams, maybe a child to assist you to worship Almighty Allah a child that will support you to attend to goodness in this world and the hereafter. So look at children as opportunities to goodness and righteousness. If you can train them will you already blessed if you can sacrifice your time and energy in giving them the Tobia in giving them the training and the knowledge they require to live

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life and to worship Allah? You are indeed a successful person.

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Before the more than comes let's look at one or two of his father's more in the Quran.

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Do you remember an obeah

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Alice rod was an OB yaku is happened to be the father of

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of what have you. So thank you. Use of use of me the father of youth is another trial on his own is a long story. I don't want to take much more of your time. I know Bianco had Yousuf that he had booney amin, and there were 10 orders that were not mentioned. Both along the line with a hug but Allah made us to to be a prophet, and also tell you soon to him. He said oh my father by social song suiting my dream 11 stars at the sun or the moon. I saw them prostrating for me and he said oh my soul Natok Supra Yeah, Carla aquatic. Don't mention your dreams to your, to your father, to your brothers. So for your kid who like Aveda, if you do that you plot against you in the shade. Donna

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Lily in San Diego in de shaytaan is an avowed enemy to humanity.

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There's something that we need to understand from that. You see his hack happened to be a child of Ibrahim, you fall in it. Now, this animal brain we just mentioned that there was a smile. Then there was this Huck, it's from the lineage of his mind that you have Muhammad much later, you restart, that Muhammad is the one that grew up in Makkah. And he had to sanctify the house that was built by his smile, and he brought him does the Kaabah. Muhammad came later and completed the walk.

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You follow the trend now? Then here was his hack on the other side. He was the great grandfather of profits and profits and profits. To the extent that is hard to give back to you they back to jacoba.

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And Jaco gave back to use

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use and wound me and the others. But did you hear anything about the children of Yousuf?

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Did you ever read the use of her children?

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You never read it? According to the Quran, no mention was made. Whether you had or not, Allah didn't tell us anything in that regard. But there's something I want you to take note of. Did you see that? That that

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you also had a dream, and he sought out his father to interpret that dream for him. He asked his father jacoba to interact with him. How did he know that Yaqoob was a dream interpreter because his use of got it from Yahoo. And Yaqoob got it from his heart and his heart body from Ibrahim. When Allah told Abram to slaughter his soul, it was true that same kind of dream.

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You remember, he said he saw in his dream, that issue slaughter you, my son, and that gift of dream, and Prophethood passed on from Ibrahim, it passed on to his my email and his heart, from his smile and his heart. I spell from his act, the dream gift passed on to Yahuwah. From jacoba, to use of the some of these things that are not put in place, possibly what to have now. And what are now has been handed down to you for about six or 10 generations.

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This thing's passed from father to child, child to grandchild, from grandchild to grandchild. There are certain traits in life.

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The sciences called genetics, apart from genetics, that is physical and biological, that are genetics that are also spiritual in nature.

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So many things you got from your father and your grandfather go from his own father, and along that line like that is so happened and I want to put it

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Want this out? Because I'm not sure of the time. I want to quickly point out that, have you thought what exactly? Are you passing to your own children? Have you thought? What is it that your children will take from you? What are they taking? What are they taking from you?

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Or what

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is whatever they are taking? Or they have taken from you? Of what use will it be to their own generation?

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If you have never thought about it, you have to start thinking about it. Now, what exactly did I inherit from my own father that I'm passing to these children. That is one point. Another point is along the line of genealogy along the line of generations, what blowed up, you mix together,

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good lord, or bad Lord.

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And that's why you see those elderly people, those people, they're very conscious of who they marry. They are conscious of where they saw their seats, they are cautious of the woman that give birth to children for them. They are conscious of the things that happened to the line of their generations and their existence, they are very cautious of who they marry. And they are very cautious of who their children marry.

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if Allah wills give the best of therapy at your children, and if Allah will be very conscious of who your children marry,

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I'm not saying a parent will force the child to marry this or marry that both let your children understand very well. That is seed that you saw, before we can see the implication of the woman who are impregnated, it may be another three generations to come before we see some messed up generations that you are created for yourself.

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Some people have Mixed Blood of rascals with their generation.

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To this, no matter how religious you think you are, as a father,

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the kind of places where you go these children from will certainly affect whatever thing they are coming with.

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Because you have to be careful, because things happen. And some things that are happening to you, now, good or bad, may have been a result, or what six generations before you, and you are just carrying the thing that they put in the line of that generation. For some, they put seeds of goodness of righteousness, of bravery, of honesty.

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For some along the line, some rascal grandfathers have put some seeds of evil, that is so and the repercussions will be following the generations and generations and generations. That's what they have inherited from evil inheritance.

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So that line of dreaming and seeing things as they would be some people have them even now as we speak. Some people have spiritual gifts, some people have some spiritual talents. They can't even explain it, but they know they have it. Be careful what you pass on to your children. Be careful the combinations you make between you and women. So men they will shoot here you should they should everywhere, indiscriminately.

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Be careful, be very careful. Allah give this one to his mind, I mean to to yaku Allah the use of to him.

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Well, let me quickly mention this to

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you see use of ammonia mean they are from one water.

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The other 10 children from another mother

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Yaqoob happens to be the father of all of them. A combination of Yaqoob and the mother of usul produce useful and good yummy. People call her Rachel in Australia, to call her Richard

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the other woman I think they call Alia

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does wonder diba to the other 10. You know very well, what those 10 these two, these two,

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widow their father is constant.

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The woman you combine with

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to produce a child can affect can influence who that child is going to be.

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If you like be a prophet,

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to surely influence them. And this is exactly similar to that happened. In the case of Anna we know her

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when he married a particular woman that gave birth to that particular child. You remember what Allah says dorabella philomela? vena cava Murata? No in one more otterloo Allah say a given sample bad woman. The work of no hand worth of loot can attack them in a minute bagginess only Hey, Allah said put them under my to reconcile

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Once for son at algoma boy Dimitri their husband's

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and their husband will not benefit me anything to do gentlemen wakulla Kula naramata

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the Hellfire will also enter hellfire.

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If not for that bad woman that the Quran mentioned, as the wife of no ha, maybe know how long I've heard that song that he feels to enter into the act with him.

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Beware of the women who marry

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and let women also beware of the men they marry.

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Some combinations can disrupt the life of a child.

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Some combinations can corrupt the system of a child that is innocent.

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some combination of evil, of own righteousness of sinfulness can affect some spiritual composition of a child that may come from that marriage.

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So in other words, it is one thing to make effort towards Serbia is another thing to make effort to be sure how you make those children from where do children come? Didn't you see the combination of hon Ibrahim and your wife

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the wife Sarah two and which are on Hydra is a combination of someone like Brian and Hydra that can give birth to his mind is a combination of some like Ibrahim and and Sarah to the candy bar to

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this one ratio of servants of Allah, you Hazara and Sarah to bad women, his mind and his and his heart could not have been chosen as prophets.

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So as a father, this is your responsibility. And finally,

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there's a father who gathered his children at a point and was asking them what was the best thing I did for all of you? One of those five are you give us good education? Say yes, it was good, but that's not the best. I will say you give us good tarbiyah we have good morals. Yes, it's good. But that's not the best. No one said we never lacked any advice whenever we need anything you always advance a yes. That was what that was not the best. At the point they were tired is Okay, tell us further. What was the best thing you ever did for us? You said it best I did for you was that I chose a good model for you even before you were born.

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I chose a good mother for you even before you were born. In other words, the choice of a good mother will surely affect the quality of the children.

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So as a father you foster BIA started when you were toasting their mother.

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The can a woman do or when and some people they were accidental husbands he didn't really intend to marry a impregnated household he became his own by force. Some people do they even threaten the new cousin. He doesn't marry her.

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Don't do accidental wife now. For those who are just upcoming and for those who have already gotten there, it is not too late midway and see what you can do to obtain certain things. I'm not talking about only songs I'm also talking about daughters.

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The quality of what we put in place will surely I feel good It will be in life and in future. I applaud metal I'll make it easy for us amela forgive us wherever we are wrong. May Allah Padnos wherever we have made mistakes. There are so many of swords I want to encourage us to study in the law school and you see examples of ratios men and ratios women and the kind of children that Allah give to them all Maryam, Allah give him Isa, Elisa Tuusula as you raise your child and you get to see a whole lot of other ones. That would Allah give a researcher a man

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and worse will a man saw that these things may not continue Solomon pray that Allah should stop it. He doesn't want to have any child again. And that was why you never read that. What was the name of Solomon?

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The wife of a man you won't be married from Shiva

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milkis Yes, you never read the book you had any child for filament, filament even predate, he doesn't want to be heavily Mulliken, Lamborghini Academy body, Oh Allah, this power you are given to me. Don't let anybody we want to have it after me.

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You know why? Because he knew that all that power to walk in the A to command the genes, if Allah should give it to any child who never knew how you walk, how he first tried out how he got it from his own father, if any child should come and get those kind of power, the child will destroy himself, destroy the wall and destroy himself say I don't want any child after this law no more

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because they knew what it was for a person to have a child to loan child

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Are your children? What are you going to give to them? That's not going to destroy them and destroy this world, but that's going to benefit them and they will be sources of benefit for the world world. May Allah make our children to be a source of blessing or not. So no source of curse for the dunya and May Allah accept for most of the literature for to have made a mailer. Forgive us for whatever we are wrong or whatever we have made mistake mailer is our task and guru Sarah robina Allah katakana y la buena y la calle Murphy robina have Ilana mean as word was re yardian APU rotor Are you knew what you're what you're dealing with. tokina EMA robina Gina dounia Hassan Warfield

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karate has another work in other urban Suba

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will be handed

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in and Furukawa to be delayed superhigh anaerobic or biliary

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foon was Muna al al mousseline wall hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen

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